The Daily Stoic - What American Legacy Company US Steel Can Learn From Stoicism
Episode Date: September 3, 2023When Ryan was asked to give a talk to the leaders of one of the most foundational companies in American history, the United States Steel Corporation, he drew inspiration from Marcus Aurelius�...�� examinations of fire - how it melts whatever material is thrown into it in order to create fuel and heat - to put together a speech that illustrates how the Stoic virtue of Courage can be converted into success at the highest levels of industry.✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Welcome to the weekend edition of the Daily Stoic podcast.
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Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to another weekend episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. Back in April, I did a talk. I didn't get to go out in person, but I gave a talk to U.S. Steel. It's a great
American company in the sense that it goes way, way back in American history,
an American industry.
Actually my father and my work at California Steel for many, many years, but it's always
interesting to talk to leaders in different fields, right?
When I'm writing about stoicism, I'm not thinking, hey, this is going to work for executives
in the steel business, just as I'm not thinking, hey, it'll resonate with special forces operators
or professional athletes or librarians. But actually, what I'm trying to do with stoicism
is talk about how it pertains to you what you do, real people do, and real stuff, as the
stoics were. And obviously, the stoics were familiar with steel,
a slightly less tech-driven process for making it back in Marcus Aurelius's day. But
his images and metaphors of fire, for instance, how strong enough fire melts whatever you throw
into it, and turns it into fuel and brightness and heat heat and in this case, forges and toughens up the steel that we used to gird our buildings and
build our cars and airplanes and all sorts of fancy stuff. So this is me talking to
a hundred or so senior executives talking about courage at U.S. steel and I'm excited to share
the audio of that with all of you right now.
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Ryan Holliday is one of the world's best selling philosophers.
Ryan Holliday is absolutely my new favorite author of the moment.
Why don't you say hi to the Bayer Nation and for the couple of them that don't know who you are?
I dropped out of college when I was 19. I was the research assistant to Robert Green.
I became the director of marketing in American Apparel shortly after that.
To paraphrase Stephen Pressfield, today's guest is one of the greatest thinkers of our generation.
Life is very, very brief. We do not know how long we're going to be here.
I feel like I'm off the riot holiday.
Ryan, good to have you here. Please explain to folks what we're talking about here. A celebrated writer, blogger, marketing specialist,
life advisor, cattle rancher, and personality,
all his own Mr. Ryan Holiday.
Sometime around the year 160 AD,
markets are really soon trained his whole life
to be the emperor of Rome.
It's a bit of terrible news.
Soldiers from the far eastern ends of the empire
have brought back a plague, a virus.
And this pandemic ripples through Rome
and it overwhelms Rome in every capacity you can imagine.
It's public health, hospitals, civil unrest,
people are scared.
It's a devastating global pandemic that
goes on not just for a year or two,
but for more than a decade. And if this was the only crisis that Marcus really experiences, he
probably would have counted himself lucky. And the course of his rainy experience is not only the plague,
but a coup, historic flooding spends nearly a decade at war Rome's borders are constantly invaded. It's basically one thing after another for this guy.
An ancient historian writes that Marcus does not meet with the good fortune that he deserves.
He says almost his entire reign was involved in a series of troubles,
which Marcus probably would have thought was an enormous understatement.
It was one damn thing after another for this guy,
which might sound familiar.
That's how you might describe the last couple years
for America, for the world, for each of us as individuals.
Not only have there been these enormous global events,
had there been these local events,
but then all of us are just trying to make it
through the world where we have sick relatives,
we have kids who are struggling in the world where we have sick relatives, we have
kids who are struggling in school, maybe we have financial problems, we're all going through
something, right?
It's one thing after another.
But to the Stoics, who we're going to talk about today, the fact that we don't control
so much of what happens in life is actually not a bad thing.
The Stoics would say it's an opportunity.
For the Stoics, the idea was that each and every situation we face in life is an opportunity
to practice virtue, to practice excellence.
In his famous meditations, Marcus really said that the impediment to action advances action
what stands in the way it becomes the way.
And he says that, yeah, things are going to block our path, things are going to cause problems for us. But he said, we always have the ability to accommodate and adapt,
to convert what life has dealt with us to our own advantage that we can turn obstacles
into fuel. He says, in the way that a fire digests whatever you throw on top of it and
turns it into flame and heat and brightness. And so for the Stokes, this idea that everything is an opportunity.
It's not necessarily the situation as you would like it to be, but it is an opportunity
to practice virtue.
And so that begs the question, what is virtue?
When people hear this word virtue, they tend to think of it in a very loaded moral context,
which it partly is, but for the Stokes, there's actually four virtues.
I have them tattooed on my wrist here.
The four Stoke virtues are courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom.
And that's what I want to talk about today.
How?
Everything that's going on with US Steel, everything that's happening in your lives,
is an opportunity to step up and be your best self, to practice the virtue of
erotic or excellence as the Greeks would call it. Everything
is an opportunity to rise to the occasion and be what you are capable of being in that moment,
be what you are called to be in that moment. The first of the virtues for the Stokes is this virtue
of courage. And courage typically is rendered in the imagery as a lion, but the idea of courage being
the virtue upon which all the other virtues depend. Because fear is an ever-present part of life. We
can imagine Marcus Aurelis in the depths of that pandemic on the battlefield as he's nursing a sick
child. We can imagine all the things that make him feel afraid.
Someone once pointed out to me that the most repeated phrase in the Bible is
be not afraid. It's also a phrase that appears in all of the ancient historical
works quite a bit. Fear and courage is something that appears in the Odyssey,
dozens of times. The idea is that the world is scary, the world is unpredictable,
and these fears they loom large over us, the world is unpredictable, and these fears
they loom large over us, they intimidate us, they make us feel like we don't have what it takes.
So fear is this ever-present thing, but it's also a thing that almost invariably makes
the hard things of life harder. You think in the early days of the Great Depression, Franklin
Roosevelt is elected, and he gives his famous speech, the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. What is he specifically
referring to there? He's speaking to a banking crisis. Yes, America's economic
situation was not good. Yes, banks were falling apart. But the thing about a bank
run is it's the fear that it's only going to get worse. The fear that society's
fabric is tearing itself apart. The fear that you have to get what you can and hide, right? This is a terrible emotion that makes things
worse. The Canadian astronaut Chris Hagfield, he has this great line, he says, there's
no problem so bad that you cannot make it worse also. When we think of the stokes, we
think of that word stoke, which seems to mean to have no emotions. That's not what it
is at all.
The stokes are good at domesticating their emotions, processing their emotions, so that
in high pressure, high-stakes situations, they don't freak out.
They don't make things worse, right?
And that's what fear does.
Fear often makes things worse, because we overreact, we freeze up, we shut down, and we don't get to work
on what we have to get to work on.
That's what courage is.
Courage is the ability to sublimate that fear, to push it down, to put it aside, and then
tackle what we have to tackle.
No, look, there's no question that the situation before us is always going to be unpredictable
and uncertain, but the next couple of years, they're intimidated.
They pose problems.
They pose almost certain difficulties.
But the economic environment is going
to be what the political environment is going to be.
What our social environment is going to be.
The technological environment is going to be.
All of this is uncertain.
And so it's natural to be a little bit intimidated
or scared by that.
But that's not going to help you deal with those things.
There's a great story I like about Ulysses S. Grant.
This is early on in his career.
He's seven across through Texas when I'm talking to you from now.
It's a long journey across Texas.
And Ulysses S. Grant comes through the Midwest to place where at that point,
there was no woes.
And as they're crossing through Texas,
they begin to hear this howling. And now Grant's travel companion is from Texas,
and he sees that Grant is quite scared of this. And he says, Grant, how many wolves do you think
that is? And Grant said, he thought it was hundreds of wolves. The howling was constant. It was coming
from all over the place. It sounded like an enormous pack of wolves.
And Grant not wanting to seem scared, right, says, I don't know, and tries to guess a
low number, says, I don't know, 20, 25.
And finally, they come upon the place where the wolves were, and they spot them.
Grant later writes, there was two wolves, right.
The wolves, this is a thing that coyotes and wolves can do, they can
throw the sound of their voice. They have a reason to be able to want to sound like there are more
of them than there actually are. And Grant said, from this was a lesson that I took with me all
of my life, particularly in my political career. He said, there's always fewer of them when they are counting. And his point was that sometimes what we're afraid of, what we feel looms in the future,
what we feel is surrounding us and thus making our situation impossible or hopelessly outmatched.
That this is our mind playing tricks on us. This is our ears playing tricks on us.
And that when you get up close with something, when you look at it, instead of looking away
because you are scared about it, but you get up close with it, you study it, you
go, what are companies that have been in situations like this before? Look at the history of our
company, our hundred years in business. Have we faced dire times, of course. And guess
what? We got through them. And what lessons did they learn getting through them? And how
can I apply that to the situation that I am in now?
So part of getting through fear of overcoming fear of having courage is about familiarity.
We talked about Chris Hadfield earlier.
One of the things Chris Hadfield said is that astronauts are not actually braver than other people.
He said they're just meticulously prepared.
They've trained for this.
John Glenn, when he orbits the earth, is...
His heart may never go above 100 because he'd been trained in high-stressed situations over prepared. They've trained for this. John Glenn, when he orbits the earth, is, his heart
may never goes above 100 because he'd been trained in high-stress situations over and over
and over again. And this is true for special forces operators. This is true for police officers.
This is true for firefighters and EMTs. They've practiced being in high-stressed situations before
and they know they can handle it. Well, the good news about the last couple of years is that it's
put us in a number of high-stress situations,
we've been through tough things.
We know we can survive.
We know what we have, what it takes.
We learned lessons from when we freaked out in the past
and how that didn't suit us well.
So instead of turning away from what intimidates you,
instead of pretending it doesn't exist,
you have to do what the Stokes say,
which is hold it up and put it to the test.
Look at it.
The stoic's talking about how a counter-fitter could bang a coin
against the table and know whether it's fake or not,
they've developed an ear for the metal.
Just as we have developed the ability
to discern things over the years through our experiences,
through what we've seen and gone through,
we should have the ability to take what intimidates us,
what unnerves us, what we're scared about and put it to the test. Think about what we should have the ability to take what intimidates us, what
adnerves us, what we're scared about and put it to the test.
Think about what parts of it we need to take seriously.
Think about what parts of it are overblown.
Think about what parts of it are messing with our head and then know what we need to do.
Because we all have something that we are put here to do.
I'm fascinated with the story of Florence Nightingale, one of the most heroic figures
of the 19th century.
She saves hundreds, thousands of lives in battlefield and hospitals.
But this calling, this destiny that she reaches, it takes her a long time to get there.
By one count, it takes 18 years from her first inkling that she wanted to be a nurse, that
she could revolutionize medicine and sanitary conditions,
takes her 18 years. And what holds her back? It's not financial means. She comes from a wealthy
family. It's not Ackerman. She learns and studies in a number of hospitals. She's afraid of what other
people will think. She's afraid at that point of what a woman's role was supposed to be. And so her parents holds her back,
and her sister holds her back,
and other people's opinions about her holds her back.
But one of her biographers writes,
it's not until she cuts through these bonds
that she realized that she had been tied down
with straw all along.
Other people's opinions hold this back, right?
Marcus really says that it's fascinating. We all love ourselves more than other people, but we care about other people's opinions hold this back, right? Marcus really says that it's fascinating.
We all love ourselves more than other people,
but we care about other people's opinions more than our own.
That's why we don't speak up.
That's why we don't say something.
That's why we're afraid to go for a promotion.
That's why we're afraid to propose a new idea.
That's why we're afraid to die our hair,
a color we'd like to die our hair.
We don't want to get a reputation for being difficult. But really, historically, it's the people who are difficult, the people
who are innovators, the people who are unique, the people who were themselves that make
all the difference. They think of John Lewis, a civil rights activist, talks about causing
good trouble. Right? Good trouble is the person who doesn't do things the way they've always been done,
but questions, but doesn't mind turning things over. It doesn't mind trying things in a new way.
There's a story about Margaret Thatcher, the Prime Minister of England. She's applying for a job after college.
She's trained to be a chemist, and she can see as she's interviewing that the interviewer is writing something at the top of the paper. And she can actually see the paper. And she sees that the man is writing
this woman is much too difficult to work here. She can read that upside down. Imagine how
devastating and frustrating and how wrong it is to hear something like that. And yet,
in a sense, the man was right. She was too difficult for that job. She had bigger things
in store for her. She had bigger impact that she'd be
able to have. So as we think about fear, we want to think about it as something that holds us back
from being what we're capable of being, doing what we are capable of doing, and seizing the
opportunities that are there for us to seize. And what makes Marcus great is his willingness to
push past that fear, to not be ruled by that fear.
And so it will go for us and for your company.
This fear is going to be something that holds you back.
This fear is going to be something that allows you to see the path that you need to go to move forward.
The next virtue is the virtue of discipline or temperance or moderation.
This is typically rendered as a man sprinkling water into wine, diluting the wine.
The other image I like is the image of the charioteer. They've got this powerful beast in front of them,
and they have to be able to control it. They have to be able to direct it. And this is an art and a science.
Discipline and Courage are of course related. And in fact, Aristotle would illustrate the virtue of courage
through the virtue of discipline. He would say that the opposite of cowardice is recklessness.
Right? He would say that there's a spectrum. So you have recklessness on one end and you have cowardice
on the other. But in the middle there is courage. Obviously, this pertains to your line of work quite clear. Someone who is afraid
is not going to do very well, but also someone who doesn't care about safety, who doesn't
think about safety precautions, who takes unnecessary risks, right? They may be faster
in the short term, but in the long term, they endanger not only themselves and other people,
but the business itself. So discipline is about order.
It's about strength.
It's about systems.
It's about doing the right things in the right time, the right way.
There was a line actually inscribed in the mantle piece of Sir Henry Royce, founder of
Roller's Royce.
He said, whatever is done rightly, however humbly is noble.
Another way I've heard this said is how you do anything
is how you do everything, right?
Carrying about the small details,
being on top of everything, following the systems,
running through the checklist,
treating the little things as just as important
as the big things, this is of course everything.
I've been lucky enough to speak to
a number of professional football teams, including the New England Patriots. And one of the things that
I heard that stuck with me for a long time is that Tom Brady was not actually obsessed with winning.
Tom Brady was obsessed with getting better. And it's this distinction that makes him the greatest
of all time that makes him able to endure for all of these seasons to win in so many different ways with so many different athletes.
Obviously being competitive is important. But the problem the Stokes would say with competition is that you're often measuring yourselves against other people.
You're often looking at things that you don't control. The obsession with getting better on the other hand is something that's up to you.
So you're running a race not against other people.
You're running a race always with yourselves.
I think about this with my books.
Obviously, I want to sell a lot of copies.
Obviously, I want them to appear high on the best cellar list.
I like to win awards.
I like people to tell me that I did a great job.
But ultimately, these are things that are not up to me.
Right? These are things that I don't control. So instead, as an author, I think about what I do control.
I try to get myself to a place where the book is successful when I turn it in, not when it comes out.
Right? That I put everything I could into it, that I held myself to the highest standards,
that I didn't hold anything back, that I didn't leave anything on the table, that I didn't
cut any corners.
And while I'm quite hard on myself, actually though, on a day-to-day level, I just think
about making a positive contribution.
There's a great writing, well, it says, just a couple crappy pages a day.
Now I would never publish crappy pages,
but the point is if you are obsessed with perfection,
that is another way to say that you are paralyzed
because you can't be perfect,
but you can be always getting better.
So what I think about is did I sit at my computer today
and make a positive contribution?
Did I put words on the page?
Did I get closer to where I am trying to go?
If I got closer than I did my job, if I made a positive contribution than I did my job,
some days I'm gonna make huge contributions, some days I'm gonna make little contributions,
but if I make a contribution every single day, eventually I will get where I am trying to go.
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coming together. I know it feels like days where I'm not doing enough, but I know that if I don't
quit, if I keep showing up, if I keep trying to fine tune here and get a little better here,
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And there was a moment on this book on discipline, it's destiny where I really did doubt the process, but I found I
write these note cards to myself. And I found a note card,
where I'd said to myself, you are going to doubt yourself, you must
trust the process, show up every day, and a published work will
come out of the other side. That the work is a byproduct of the
process, right? Do I show up? Do I care about the details? Do I do
what I need to do? Then I will get where I need to go?
And it just happens that this is also the approach
that is produced, the sellers that have produced books
that have sold millions of copies.
It's that I show up every day, I do the work.
I don't think about the results per se.
I think about the parts of the results
that are in my control,
which is
whether I made a positive contribution.
Because ultimately, the results of the market or a public opinion or in comparison to your
competition, while these are important, they're not fully in your control.
There's a great story about a Greek leader that I love who was seen as threatening by many
of his
Greek colleagues. So they give him what they thought was a degrading job. They assigned him to be
the head of the sewer system and they thought, oh, this is going to be humiliating. This will be the
end of his career. They've banished him to this backwater. But instead, he does such a good job. He's so focused on it. He takes it so seriously
that it actually becomes one of the most prestigious positions. It becomes the position that other people
in the future later want. And he has this great line and he says, it's not the job that makes the person.
It's the person that makes the job, right? How you do anything is how you do everything.
It doesn't matter ultimately what the external results are,
it matters who you were, what the team was,
what the group was, the intention of thing was done
at the time that makes the thing great.
And so when we think about discipline,
it's the commitment to this.
It's the consistency of this.
It's the day to dayness of this that makes for great people, that makes for great organizations,
that makes for great movements, and ultimately a great man and women. And then the next virtue
is the virtue of justice, the scales of justice. But it probably says something about where we are
as a culture that when people hear justice, they think the legal system or they think social
justice. Now these things, system or they think social justice.
Now these things, of course, are very important.
But to the ancients, this virtue was even simpler.
It meant doing the right thing,
it meant doing it right now.
In Meditations, Mark Surylis says,
just that you do the right thing, the rest doesn't matter.
It's when we make excuses, we think,
oh, doing the right thing is gonna be expensive
or we say, oh, I'm gonna do it later. We think it's somebody we make excuses. We think oh doing the right things going to be expensive or we say oh, I'm going to do it later
We think it's somebody else's responsibility
We make this distinction that gets businesses and teams into trouble far too often we go
It's not illegal, right?
Doesn't matter if something when you are parsing whether something is strictly legal or not
You're already going down a dark and dangerous road the virtue of justice is about doing the right things for the right reasons, whether or
not the rewards are going to be there.
Marcus really said his meditations, he talks about the common good, something like 40
times.
He says, our job is to be good and do good for other people, right?
People on our team, people in our company, people in our community, people in our country,
people of the world, right?
So think about the commitments that you guys have to safety,
right?
You're doing the right thing because doing the wrong thing
has consequences for other people in their family.
I think about your environmental stewardship, right?
That we, that the decisions we make as a company,
as people, as consumers, that has impact
and implications for generations to come, right?
We can't just think about what we're doing in a vacuum.
We have to think about how our choices affect other people.
We have to ask ourselves,
what would the world look like if everyone was about to do,
what we're going to do.
And so the virtue of justice is tied up in ideas, of course, of honesty, of transparency.
There's a story about a Greek leader who was remodeling his house. And the architect comes to
him and says, hey, for a little bit more money, I can give you complete and total privacy.
And the leader looks at him and he says, I'm going to give you twice as much money,
and I want you to give me no privacy.
He says everyone should be able to see what I'm doing. He was saying that the obligation of leadership, of success, is transparency and clarity.
Right. When we think about our supply lines, when we think about how we treat or pay our employees, when we think about how we respond to mistakes,
how we address problems in our company or in industry,
think about transparency, we think about honesty,
we think about holding ourselves to a high standards.
There's another story about a Greek leader
who runs into a young man in town
who's with someone and sees the leader, he blushes.
And the leader says to him,
you know, you probably shouldn't spend time with people who make
you blush when you are seen with them.
And his point was that we probably shouldn't do things that we wouldn't want our customers
to find out, that we wouldn't want regulators to find out, that we wouldn't want our bosses
to find out, right, that transparency, that little person on your shoulder assuming that
you are being watched, assuming that you are being
watched, assuming that sunshine laws can surface this information to the public, we want to
make our decisions with that in mind.
But ultimately, we want to make our decisions to future in mind.
There's a great expression, I like.
I think it's also a Greek expression, and it says, the world is good when people plant
trees in whose shade they will
never know.
Long-term and the short-term trade-offs of the decisions we make, the environmental choices
that we make, of the standards we hold ourselves to, of the investments that we make.
In the short-term, maybe this affects productivity, maybe this affects quarterly earnings, maybe
this affects quarterly earnings, maybe this affects profitability, right?
But that doesn't mean that there aren't costs
to ignoring those things too,
and they're paid for by your children,
and your grandchildren, they're paid for in rivers,
in streams, and trees,
and all of us look back at decisions
that are our own industry,
that are our own ancestors made,
that were good for them in the
short term and bad for us in the long term. And conversely, when we spend time in national parks,
or we swim in pristine rivers, or when we spend time in parts of restored or pristine wilderness,
or we experience the safety regulations and the car that we're driving, this is the benefit of hard
decisions that people made in previous generations, that we have to have the courage and the car that we're driving. This is the benefit of hard decisions that people made in previous generations that we have to have the courage and the discipline and the ethics and the commitment to make here in the present home. And the final virtue of stoicism, the fourth and final virtue is the virtue of wisdom or knowledge or truth. One of my favorite quotes of all time comes from Pete Carroll,
great basketball coach at Princeton,
whose father worked for 30 years in the furnaces
of the Bethlehem steel company.
And he said that what his father would told him
and his sister every single day before he went off
to do this very difficult work,
he said, look son, this is a world
where the strong take from the weak. But he said, the smart
take from the strong. He said, you got to use your brain. That's what this final virtue is about.
The virtue of knowledge and of learning and of using your head. There's a great story about Marcus
Rerely. It's late in his reign. He's been through all of these troubles. He's learned quite a bit
as a leader along the way.
And he's seen leaving his palace in Rome,
and one of his friend stops him,
and he says, Marcus, where are you going?
And he says, I am off to see sexist the philosopher
to learn that, which I do not yet know.
And the man is amazed.
He says, here's the most powerful man in the world,
the smartest man in the world.
He said, taking up his tablets and going to school.
It's a shame we tell our kids that,
there's a difference between school and education.
But for how many of us did our education end
when we left school?
And in fact, that's the unintended message we send our children
that education is something we graduate from.
We don't.
We have to be lifelong learners.
Epictetus, one of the great stills,
says that remember that it's impossible to learn
that which you think you already know. If you think you've learned everything, and since
you're right, it makes it harder for you to keep learning, to keep growing. What physicists
know, they have this great metaphor, they say, as our island of knowledge grows, so does the
shoreline of ignorance. We should be constantly exposed to the things we do not yet know, the things
that we could be better at. Every person we meet Emerson says is better than us, it's something.
And if we focus on that, if we learn from that, we will constantly be getting better. We have to
stay a student always. That's what wisdom is. Socrates is considered the wisest man who ever lived, why? Because he was
aware of his areas of ignorance. Zeno, the founder of Stoicism, goes to see the Oracle of Delphi as a
young man. And the Oracle tells him, you will become wise when you begin to have conversations with the
dead. And he struggles with this for many years. What could that possibly mean? It's only later in
a bookstri that it hits him. Books, books are how we have conversations with the dead.
No matter what you're going through as parents, as professionals, as leaders, as citizens,
as human beings in the world, there are books about this. And we have to avail ourselves
of this knowledge. Why learn from experience, what we can learn from the experiences of
others. And if we stay as student, if we push ego away, if we lock in, what we can learn from the experiences of others.
And if we stay student, if we push ego away, if we lock in on where we can get better on
how much there is left to know, if we seek out mentors and teachers to guide us, right,
to help us get to that next level, that's the positive contribution we can make every day.
Learning something, acquiring something, seeing something in a
new way. We have to remain as always perpetual students of our craft, of human nature, even of being
a parent. That's what my new book is about. The idea of finding something to get better at each day
as a parent. We have to become and remain perpetual students always of all things. So those are the four virtues, courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom.
And I opened this by telling you about the hard time Marcus really has had, that there
were floods, that there was a plague, that there was war, there was unrest.
It was one thing after another.
And I told you that historians lamented the unfairness of all this.
They said that Marcus didn't meet with the good fortune that he deserved,
right? That this was the philosopher King who whose talents would have been better spent in times of
prosperity and peace than he got dealt to bad hand. But it's more complicated than that. That same
historian said, yes, Marcus does not meet with the good fortune that he deserved. Just as it would be wonderful if our times were more stable
and peaceful and easier. But he said, I, for my part, admired Marcus Aurelius all the more. He said,
because amidst unusual and extraordinary circumstances, he remained in command of himself and of the empire.
And so it goes for us. These difficult times that we are in
are also opportunities. They're shaping us. They're giving us the chance to be great.
Marcus are really in a different moment, dealt a different hand. Perhaps isn't the
markets a realist that we come to admire that wasn't as great as he ended up becoming, right?
So yes, this isn't how we want things to be.
This isn't how we would choose for things to be.
And yet it is an opportunity for arithmetic,
for excellence, to be brave, to be disciplined,
to be honest and fair and good.
And most of all, and this is the most important one,
to always be learning and growing.
These last couple years have taught us so much.
They've given us opportunities to try things that we wouldn't have tried under ordinary circumstances.
Right? They showed us how connected we all are to each other and how the decisions that somebody
makes all the way over here trickles down and impacts us all the way over here. And they showed us the necessity of endurance
and strength and commitment.
And most of all of conquering fear
and getting up each day, doing what we need to do,
of never flagging, of never failing,
and of always moving forward
and always trying to get a little bit better.
Thank you so much for having me.
It's an honor to speak to it, such a prestigious and long lasting company,
such as yours.
And maybe that's a place to stop.
Your company has been here for over a century.
Think of what your colleagues and predecessors have been through.
Think of what you have been through in the last couple of years.
And that should give you a wonderful example
of courage, and discipline, and justice, and wisdom. Something to learn from, something to lean on, and something to arm you to me,
whatever tomorrow brings you.
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