The Daily Stoic - What If You Weren’t Such a Know It All? | Practice Letting Go

Episode Date: November 22, 2021

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Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoke podcast early and add free on Amazon music. Download the app today. Welcome to the Daily Stoke podcast. Each day we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stokes illustrated with stories from history, current events and literature to help you be better at what you do. And at the beginning of the week, we try to do a deeper dive, setting a kind of stoke, intention for the week, something to meditate on, something to think on, something to leave you with, to journal about, whatever it is you happen to be doing.

So let's get into it. Hi, I'm David Brown, the host of Wunderree's podcast business wars. And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target, the new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts. What if you weren't such and know it all? You're smart, you went to college, you've read lots of books, you've seen a thing or two, so you know it all. You're smart. You went to college. You've read lots of books.

You've seen a thing or two, so you know a lot. When people have questions, you have answers. When stuff happens, you've got opinions. When there are problems, you have solutions. And this is great, right? Maybe. Epic Titus reminds us that it's impossible to learn that what you think you already know. To the Stoics, particularly Xeno, conceit was the primary impediment to wisdom.

Because when you've always got answers, opinions, and ready-made solutions, what you're not doing is learning. What you're not doing is looking at things objectively, clearly with fresh eyes. You're just relying on instinct and preconceived notions. Ego is the enemy for a reason. It blinds us. It distracts us. It puffs us up and prevents us from learning. The less of a know what all we are, the more we can actually get out and discover. The more open we'll be, the wiser will become. Remember the key to Socrates' philosophy was his admission of ignorance. It was his desire to ask questions, his willingness to be proven wrong, his interest in having conversations with anyone about anything. He was smart because he was humble, not conceded because he was smart.

And this is a skill we have to practice. We have to prevent ego from cutting us off from wisdom. Again, ego is the enemy. It's something I believe in enough that I have a tattooed here on my right arm. I was looking at it just as I was reading this. I've got signed copies of ego is the enemy in the daily stoke store. And of course, the ego is the enemy challenge coin,

which I have sitting on my desk here and there's even a pendant version. Ego is the enemy. It gets in the way of whatever it is that you want to do, whether you're super successful or struggling to get started. Ego is the enemy. Check it out store.dailysteo.com. Practice letting go.

We suffer when we lose things we love, and we suffer most when we lose people we love. But it is a natural, unavoidable part of life. And the stoics say that this suffering is increased by our belief that we possess the objects of our love. They are, as we like to say, a part of us. This belief doesn't increase our love or care for them, but rather is a form of cleaning that ignores the simple fact that we don't control what will happen not to our own bodies, let alone to the ones we love.

Epic Titus taught a powerful exercise that every time you wish a dear child or family member or friend goodnight, you remember that these things are like a precious, breakable glass. Remember how dramatically things can change while you sleep. Marcus too struggled to practice this with his own family as he tucked them in at night. The point wasn't to be morbid, but to create a sense of appreciation and a kind of humility. You cannot take anyone, especially someone you love for granted. And this is from this week's entry in the Daily Steuert Journal,

366 days of writing and reflection on the art of living by yours truly and my co-writer and translator, Steve Enhancelman. I actually do this journal every single day. There's a question in the morning, a question in the afternoon, and then there's these sort of weekly meditations. As Epictetus says, every day and night, we keep thoughts like this at hand, write them, read them aloud, and talk to yourself and others about them. You can check out the Daily Stoic Journal, anywhere books are sold, you can also get a signed

personalized copy from me in the Daily Stoic store. It's store.dailystoic.com. And then the quotes are from Epic Titus and Seneca. Epic Titus says, whenever you experience the pangs of losing something, don't treat it like a part of yourself, but as a breakable glass. So that when it falls, you will remember that and won't be troubled. So too, whenever you kiss your child, sibling or friend, don't layer on top of the experience, all the things you might wish,

but hold them back and stop them, just as those who ride behind triumph, it generals remind them that they are mortal. The same way, remind yourself that your precious one isn't one of your possessions. It's something given for now, not forever. That's epicotitis. His discourse is 324. But the wise person can lose nothing. Such a person has everything stored up for themselves, leaving nothing to fortune. Their own goods are held firm, bound and virtue, which requires nothing from chance,

and therefore can't be either increased or diminished, Seneca, on the firmness of the wise. We did a daily stoke email recently that I wanted to read you or chunk of it. Let me pull it up here. It's actually a poem. You wouldn't think of Margaret Atwood, the author of Handmaiden's Tale, and many other things as a poet, which has this beautiful poem called The Moment.

And I think it captures what the stokes are talking about here, and I'll read it because it's only three verses. The moment went after many years of hard work and a long voyage, you stand in the center of your room, house, half acre, square mile, island, country, knowing at last how you got there, and you say, I own this. In the same moment, the trees unloose, their soft arms from around you, the birds take

back their language, the cliffs, fissure and collapse. The air moves back from you like a wave, and you can't breathe. Know they whisper, you own nothing. You were a visitor time after time, climbing the hill, planting the flag, proclaiming, we never belonged to you. You never found us. It was always the other way around. I just think that's such a beautiful poem. And look, when there's a part of what Senaqah here that stops me, he says, so that when the glass falls, you will remember that and won't be troubled. Now, I don't think that's quite right.

We know that Senaqah lost a child and grieved quite deeply. We know that his mother grieved him quite deeply when he was exiled, and he in turn grieved his mother. We know that he and his wife struggled at their parting when they were forced to commit suicide. The idea that this still can just think these things and then not be attached to people, I think that's a false ideal,

and I don't think that's where you actually want to get, even if you could get there. To me, what epicotitis is exercise, what Marcus is doing, and it's when I practice almost every day during the pandemic, when, especially in those dark early days, when it seemed very, very serious, not that it wasn't serious, but it seemed so much more uncertain the seriousness of it. The idea of holding your children close and saying that you don't know what's going to happen through the night is there to make you breathe that moment in, to not rush through it, to not try to get it over with, right? So you can go check your email or watch Netflix or you know have a with, right? So you can go check your email or watch Netflix or,

you know, have a snack, right? It's to go, no, this is important. I'm not going to rush through this. I'm not going to get past it. I am going to breathe it in because it matters, because it's here now. To me, that this is a breakable glass, doesn't mean put it up on the highest shelf, To me that this is a breakable glass doesn't mean put it up on the highest shelf Rappin and bubble wrap and hope nothing bad ever happens to it. It's it's to appreciate it while you have it To realize that you don't have it forever because none of us do That's what I take from that exercise and you know that was brought home to me even more during a year, almost a year exactly from, you know, March of 2020 when this freak storm hits Texas. And I, you know, everyone

tucked their kid in at night, they lost power. And a few families woke up and found that their children or older family members had had and their sleep had frozen to death and their sleep. I had gotten so cold, so unexpectedly. You just think about how tragic that is and how that could happen to anyone. And you realize how much worse it would feel if you'd had an argument before bed, if you'd been short before bed. If you'd said no, I said only two books, and now you want me to read a third one, right? You would regret that. It would be tragic in any circumstances.

Again, the idea that you would get to a place where you would not care that it happened. I don't think that's right. Marcus Aurelis loses multiple children that's insane, unthinkable, and even in meditations, you get the sense that he's still grieving, still working through it. So you don't get there, but you do hopefully get to a place where you can minimize the regrets. So you're not sitting there kicking yourself saying, I wish I'd been more patient. I wish I'd been there more period. I wish I hadn't rushed through things. While I had them, I really loved them. I really connected with them. I wasn't detached from them. I was attached to them.

And that's why this tragedy is the least bad version of how it could go. So that's not the happiest way to leave you today, but I do think it's a powerful exercise and we're thinking about. And I'll talk to you soon. Thanks so much for listening to the Daily Stoke Podcast. Again, if you don't know this, you can get these delivered to you via email every day. You just go to dailystoke.com slash email. So check it out at dailystoke.com slash email.

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