The Daily Stoic - Where Are You Trying To Get Better? | Do Not Be Deceived By Fortune

Episode Date: September 8, 2023

Tom Brady has always been relentless about trying to get better. Trying to get his passes out quicker. Trying to get his spirals a little tighter. Trying to optimize his diet. Trying to recover from games faster.While almost none of us are like Tom Brady on the practice field, we’re all like him in the sense that we spend a lot of time and energy focusing on improving ourselves at work, at our chosen craft or profession. But when it comes to personal improvement?---And in today's reading and meditation from The Daily Stoic, Ryan examines why Seneca stated that "no one is crushed by fortune unless they are first deceived by her," and the folly of trusting in fortune. You can read more of Seneca's views in On the Shortness of Life: Life Is Long If You Know How to Use It.📙 Check out The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids for inspiration, motivation, and tools to help you become a better parent.✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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from the Stoics with some analysis from me, and then we'll send you out into the world to turn these words into works. Where are you trying to get better? Tom Brady has always been relentless about trying to get better, trying to get his passes out quicker, trying to get his spirals a little tighter, trying to optimize his diet, trying to recover from games faster. And while none of us are like Tom Brady on the practice field, we're all like him in the sense that we spend a lot of time and energy focusing on improving ourselves at work,

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Do not be deceived by fortune. This is the September 8th entry in the Daily Stoic. by fortune. This is the September 8th entry in the Daily Stoic. And our quote today comes to us from Seneca in his letter on consolation to Hellvia. That's his mother. It's a beautiful, as said, you can read it in on the shortness of life, one of my favorite little collections of Seneca's writings, but we'll get to the quote now. He says, no one is crushed by fortune unless they are first deceived by her. Those who aren't pompous in good times don't have their bubbles burst with change. Against either circumstance, the stable person keeps their rational soul invincible for its precisely in the good times that they proved their strength against adversity.

In 41 AD, Seneca was exiled from Rome to Corsica. For what exactly were not sure, but the rumors were that he had an affair with the sister of the Emperor. Shortly thereafter, he sent a letter to his mother seeking to reassure her and comfort her in her grief, her grief being that she missed her son. But in many ways, he must have been speaking to himself as well, scolding himself a little for this unexpected twist he was taking pretty hard. He had managed to achieve some measure of political and social success. Maybe he chased some pleasures of the flesh, but now he and his family were dealing with

the consequences as we all must bear for our behavior and the risks we take. How would he respond? How would he deal with it? What the very least his instincts were to comfort his mother instead of simply bemoaning his suffering. Though some other letters show that Seneca begged and lobbied for his return to Rome and to power, a request that was eventually granted, he does seem to have borne the pain and disgrace of exile fairly well. The philosophy that he'd long

studied prepared him for this kind of adversity and gave him the determination and patience he needed to wait it out. When he found his fortune restored as he returned to power, philosophy prevented him from taking it for granted or becoming dependent on it. This was good because fortune had another turn in store for him when the new emperor turned his wrath on Seneca philosophy found him ready and prepared once again. It's attention, right? Seneca says we suffer more in imagination than in reality. You don't want to just be thinking of all the terrible things that could happen. You don't want to be biting your nails and anticipation of this or that. And yet, if you are naive, if you trust in fortune,

you are setting yourself up for pain. He says, never forget, a fortune's habits of behaving exactly as she pleases. Yes, you know, as we become successful, as we get things, we start to go, this is how it should be. I earned this. I made this. It's mine. And maybe a lot of that is true. If you're not the ultimate decider. Something can take that from you. Unfairness can take it from you. And justice can take it from you. Tragedy can take it from you. The emperor can take it from you. So if you are deceived by fortune that this is yours now, that this is the new normal, that this is stable, you have bought into an illusion, and that you can be disabused of that illusion at any moment.

How painful will that disillusion be? My favorite line's an invisible man. It says, how does it feel to be free of illusion? This is painful and empty. When we build our lives around these illusions, around the sense that this is how it should be, all is right in the world. You are begging. You are begging for the life to visit some humility upon you.

So, you have to be careful. You have to be aware. We have to practice. We have to prepare. We have to train. We can't take any of it for granted. None of it is nearly as stable as it appears. That's what Sennaqa realized. Not just at this exile, but early on in his life,

when tuberculosis sent him to Egypt to convalescent, Nero turned to be out to be insane. That's what life does. It reminds us. It doesn't go the way we want it. And I think it's problematic how often we say things like this is unprecedented. This is not normal, this is never happened, this is always happened, this is always how it's going to be. Normal is crazy, normal is chaos, normal is sudden reversal. I was just reading Morgan Howell's The Psychology of Money and he has this line and there, unexpected things happen all the time or things that have never happened before happen all the time.

That's the wisdom of what Senaika is trying to say there. That's what we prepare for, train in this philosophy for, it's to be ready for precisely those kind of events. So when things go wrong, we can be the person, imagine, again, and if you haven't read on the shortness of life pickup, a copy there and the pain of porch, if you could, I'll link to it in today's episode. Right, there's something sweet about the fact that

Seneca is the one exiled, but he's writing the consolation to his mother. So, his mother's saying, you got this kiddo, it'll be all right, he's saying, mom, I'm okay. It's gonna be all right. He's comforting the people who are grieving and missing him. That's what this discipline of philosophy can be.

That's what Senaqa practice for. And that's what we're working towards. Self-control, that's what Senaqa was embodying there in his stoic, lower case stoic handling of the terrible injustice dealt to him. And I hope to give you some of that strength too. Enjoy, Tuxen. Hey, Prime Members. You can listen to the Daily Stoic early and

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