The Daily Stoic - You Can’t Make People Feel What You Want

Episode Date: February 23, 2021

“It would be so nice if they could just come around. If they could get with the program. Don’t they see what we need? Don’t they see that we love them? Don’t they see that this approach is not working for them, that it’s hurting everyone, including themselves?”Ryan discusses why you must let go of what other people feel, because it’s entirely out of your control, on today’s Daily Stoic Podcast.***If you enjoyed this week’s podcast, we’d love for you to leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps with our visibility, and the more people listen to the podcast, the more we can invest into it and make it even better.Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: http://DailyStoic.com/signupFollow Daily Stoic:Twitter: https://twitter.com/dailystoicInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dailystoic/Facebook: http://facebook.com/dailystoicYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/dailystoicSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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It would be so nice if they could just come around, if they could just get with the program. Don't they see what we need? Don't they see that we love them? Don't they see that this approach is not working for them, that it's hurting everyone, including themselves? So we try to convince, so we try to persuade, so we yell and maybe even cry. Does it work? No, it rarely does. As Bonnie Rape reminds us, I can't make you love me if you don't, you can't make your heart feel something. It won't. The stoic struggled with this as you did as we all do. It's tough because although other people's feelings and emotions are not in our control,

they do have great effect on us. It hurts deeply for love not to be returned. It's sad to watch someone do something you know they don't believe, or say something you know they don't mean because they're struggling because they're flawed because they don't feel they can. But what can we do? We can't force them. We can only try to persuade them, as Marcus really has said, but we have to be willing at some point to accept our limitations. We have to spend our energy on ourselves on lessening the hurt that we feel and trying to get someone else to give us the love or kindness or support that we think would make us feel better.

We have other people who depend on us as well. We have to make sure we don't, in chasing what is not up to us, neglect what is. You can't make someone love you. You can't make someone think or do the right thing. And even if you could, it would defeat the purpose. It's sad, but it's true. Thanks for listening to the Daily Stood Podcast, and if you didn't know, I also have another podcast and Daily Email. Every day I write something at dailydad.com, which gets delivered to thousands of people all over the world. I record the meditations just like this one on the podcast for free. So if you're a parent, if you know a parent, if you're an expecting parent, I think you'd really like it. It's called Daily Dad, but has

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