The Daily Stoic - You Have To Find The Good In People Pt. II

Episode Date: May 14, 2021

“It’s not telling you anything new to point out that there will be obnoxious, flawed, annoying, awful idiots that you will come across today, and every day. There are selfish drivers and internet trolls. There is the contractor who you will catch trying to rip you off. There is that politician who just cannot seem to understand that this isn’t about them, that they work for us. These people exist, and that’s unfortunate.”Ryan explains how to apply your training to an everyday problem, on today’s Daily Stoic Podcast.***If you enjoyed this week’s podcast, we’d love for you to leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps with our visibility, and the more people listen to the podcast, the more we can invest into it and make it even better.Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: http://DailyStoic.com/signupFollow Daily Stoic:Twitter: https://twitter.com/dailystoicInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dailystoic/Facebook: http://facebook.com/dailystoicYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/dailystoicTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@daily_stoic See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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for more you can visit us at dailystoweth.com. You must find the good in people, part two. It's not telling you anything new to point out that there will be obnoxious, flawed, annoying, awful, stupid idiots that you will come across today. And every day, there are selfish drivers and internet trolls. There is the contractor who you will catch trying to rip you off. There is that politician who just cannot seem to understand that this isn't about them that they work for us.

These people exist, and that's unfortunate. But their existence provokes a question from Epic Titus. Does that mean you have to be miserable, he asks? We feel sorry for ourselves. We say it's unlucky that we have to deal with this negativity and this frustration, and in so doing, we compound the misfortune we think we are experiencing. You are even unlucky, or Epic Titus says,

for being oblivious to the fact that you have the power of patients to deal with your difficulties, you forget the virtues of character you have in reserve, just when problems that they can control present themselves and you can use their help. So instead of being miserable, what should we do? We should apply our philosophical training, we should try to find a better handle to grab onto, to find something good or at least tolerable in the people who drive us nuts.

And Lori Gottlibs, maybe you should talk to someone in a chapter appropriately entitled Idiots. She tells a story of a patient going on and on about all the people in his life who are idiots. He cuts his therapist off anytime she tries to turn his monologue into their dialogue until finally she gets her chance to say. During my training a supervisor once told me there is something likeable in everyone into my great surprise I found that she was right. It's impossible to get to know people deeply and not come to like them. We should take the world's enemies, get them in a room to share their histories,

informative experiences, their fears and struggles, and global adversaries would suddenly get along. I found something likeable in literally everyone I've seen as a therapist, including the guy who attempted murder. Beneath his rage, she said, he turned out to be a real sweetheart. The Stoics said that we all spring from the same source. I have seen the beauty of good Marcus Areleus wrote in the ugliness of evil, and I have recognized that the wrongdoer has a nature related to my own, not the same blood or birth, but the same mind. Gotlib put it similarly,

we are mirrors reflecting mirrors, reflecting mirrors. You get to decide what you see in those mirrors. So today, don't let miserable people make you miserable. Instead, find something likeable in each of them, find all the ways they aren't so different from you, find the good in people you have to. Or, as Epictita said, you are only making unnecessary problems for yourself. Hey, it's Ryan. Thanks so much for listening to the Daily Stoke podcast. Again, if you don't

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