The Daily Stoic - You Really Can’t Hear This Enough | Practice Silence

Episode Date: October 2, 2023

One of the most highlighted passages in the digital version of The Daily Stoic is the December 9th quote from Seneca:“Were all the geniuses of history to focus on this single theme, they could never fully express their bafflement at the darkness of the human mind. No person would give up even an inch of their estate, and the slightest dispute with a neighbor can mean hell to pay; yet we easily let others encroach on our lives—worse, we often pave the way for those who will take it over. No person hands out their money to passersby, but to how many do each of us hand out our lives! We’re tight-fisted with property and money, yet think too little of wasting time, the one thing about which we should all be the toughest misers.”--- And with today's meditation on the day's Daily Journal excerpt, Ryan reminds us that it takes courage saying less and to be bold in your silence. That’s why we created our own additions to the rich history of memento mori, including: The memento mori medallion , memento mori signet ring And the memento mori pendant, All these were created to remind us that we must live NOW, while there is still time.⏳ You can view our entire Memento Mori Collection at dailystoic.com/mm✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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And at the beginning of the week, we try to do a deeper dive, setting a kind of Stoic intention for the week, something to meditate on, something to think on, something to leave you with, to journal about whatever it is you're happy to be doing. So let's get into it. You really can't hear this enough. One of the most highlighted passages in the e-book version of the Daily Stoic is the December 9th quote from Seneca.

Where all the geniuses of history to focus on a single theme, they could never fully express their bafflement at the darkness of this human mind. Seneca says, no person would give up even an inch of their estate, and the slightest dispute with a neighbor can mean hell to pay. Yet we easily let others encroach on our lives. Worse, we often paved the way by those who will take it over. No person hands out their money to pass or buys. But to how many do each of us hand over our lives?

We're tight-fisted with property and money yet think too little of wasting time, the one thing about which we should all be the toughest meisers. This makes sense, you know, property and money and possessions, these things are tangible. We can see them clearly when they are taken from us. Time on the other hand is more abstract, when our time is eaten up by other people are frittered away on trivial matters we don't even notice. In the Daily Stoke the whole month of December is themed around Momentumori because the year is ending, but with Halloween around the corner here in the Daily Stoke email and the podcast, I thought I'd do a deep dive into that theme for

this month because you really can't hear enough of it. We can't live as if we have forever as if we have a limited time. And this of course is an easy concept to nudge your head along too or to double tap when you see on Instagram. But how long does that idea stay with you? How quickly do other thoughts fill the space? Will you be able to call on that reminder in life's stressful moments? Different generations have attempted to keep this idea at hand in different ways. The result can be seen across generations of writing and art and music and jewelry and ritual. Roman generals employed AIDS to remind them of this fact their moments of greatest triumph. Philosophers have kept schools on their desk for millennia.

Beneath the Church of Santa Maria in Rome, there's a crypt built in 1630 decorated with the remains of 4,000 friars. In the middle, there is a plaque inscribed with three different languages that state what you are now, what we once were, what we are now, you shall be. They were all trying to remember we can go at any moment. While the times change and it can no longer be practical to keep an aid to whisper death in your ear to remind you that time is short. The benefits of Memento Mori remain. That's why I spent all this time designing these cool Memento Mori things for Daily Stoic. I'm holding this here. This is the Memento Mori Medallion. I carry in my pocket usually.

It's based on that famous still life with a school painting, which shows the three essentials of life of existence. The tulip, which is life, the school, which is death, the hourglass with this time. And then this is my Momentum Ori ring, which I'm wearing. I've got it here. It says, you could leave life right now. And I'll leave it to you to repeat the second half of that quote, let that determine what you do and say and think.

The idea is to remind you that we must live now. We must protect the time that we have because once it's gone, we can't get it back. It's a reminder that generations have been attempting to keep at hand, to keep front of mind for very good reason. If you want to check out the Momentum Warrior Collection just go to dailystook.com slash mm and I hope you find something you like. Social media teaches us to have an opinion about everything. Silence beckons us to speak. We live in a loud culture and we try to keep up by being louder in return.

And how much trouble does this cause us? How much might we learn if we spent more time listening to others than trying to sandwich our opinions in at every turn? How much of what we say do we come to regret? So really, the truly loud thing to say is nothing. So spend some time writing your thoughts down this weekend, see how many of them you can keep yourself. Be bold in your silence and how much you hold your tongue this week. One of the hardest parts about putting out a book is all the interviews I have to do. I feel like I talk more than I've ever talked in my life.

And it's such a violation of how I try to comport myself, how I wanna live, what's healthy to live. People should not be asking for your opinion as much as they have been asking me in the last couple of weeks. People should not be as interested in me as they've been in the last couple of weeks. I shouldn't be seeking out attention or platforms

the way that I have been in the last couple of weeks. It's like a deliberately unhealthy period. It's almost like gaining weight for an acting role or something. It's part of the job, I have been in the last couple of weeks. It's like a deliberately unhealthy period. It's almost like gaining weight for an acting role or something. It's part of the job, I have to do it. It's like pulling all nighters for some project where there's no alternative. It's not good for you.

You shouldn't be doing it. And then your diet, sufferers, and all this other stuff. That's just part of the job. I have to come to understand that. But I also work really hard not to let it go to my head because I don't want to be a babbling, self-absorbed, self-obsessed person who thinks that people should care as much as they've cared the last couple weeks.

That's just the reality of putting out a book. It's been weird. It's been weird. And like I say, one of the benefits of philosophy is that it centers you, you come back to it. And so I'll give you three quotes today from Xeno, or four quotes today, two from Xeno actually that should help you and certainly helping me to think about Xeno

says, better to trip with the feet than with the tongue. It's inevitable, right? An actor goes on a press tour and they say something dumb because they're just forced to talk. They're forced to answer all these questions. You get in trouble the more you talk. That's just something I found. As Robert Green says, always say less than necessary. Another quote from Xeno, to a youngster talking nonsense, Xeno said, the reason why we have two ears and only one mouth, so we might listen more and talk less. It's beautiful.

I love that. And then Plato talking about Cato the Younger says, Cato practice the kind of public speech capable of moving the masses, believing proper political philosophy takes care like any great city to maintain the war like element. But he was never seen practicing in front of others and no one ever heard him rehearse the speech. When he was told that people blamed him for his silence, he replied, better they not blame my life. I begin to speak only when I'm certain that what I'll say isn't best left unsaid.

Beautiful. That's something I do try to carry forward when I do talks and stuff. People go, what do you think about this? What do you think about that? And I try to, on a pretty regular basis, maybe even one to protocol, I don't know. I don't know about that.

Because you don't want to get the habit of forcing an answer about things, I don't know. I don't know about that. Because you don't want to get the habit of forcing an answer about things when you don't know. If you don't know, it takes courage to be like, I don't know or I don't care. I have not studied that. I don't have enough information to be okay being thought dumb or foolish, as Epictetus says. Silence does that.

Practicing silence is a discipline, it takes discipline, it is not easy, and you will sometimes look silly and you will sometimes hurt people's feelings, but I think you'll hurt people's feelings less by not talking, then you will by talking. And that gets us to the final quote, this is from Seneca's play The Estes. He says, silence is a lesson learned from the many sufferings of life. Another great quote I love from Sena, he says, when I think of all the things I said, I envy the mute, meaning he wishes he couldn't talk because he said so much dumb stuff that when he thinks back

on it, he's almost overwhelmed with shame or awkwardness when the hard parts about being right or having a social media presence is you know what's out there and you cringe, you think about it. There's always a tweet, there's always a dumb article, There's always a time you jumped out to take a hot take. You should have just left it there because you didn't know. You didn't know enough. You didn't put the work in. You didn't actually care. You forced it. You let your ego get a hold of you and that never makes good work. So let's practice a little silence this week. If you have something to say, write it down in your journal.

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