THE ED MYLETT SHOW - 5 Habits To Become a Millionaire: How Everyone Can Build Wealth in 2025!
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I'm fired up about today because we're going to talk about money and you having more, accumulating
more, making more and why it matters.
It's not a topic that's discussed enough in polite society and it should be.
And my guest today is immensely qualified to discuss this topic.
I love her work.
As an influencer, you know her as your rich BFF, but I know her as Vivian too.
And Vivian is a multifaceted financial expert.
She's an entrepreneur and she used to be a Wall Street trader.
So she's got a background in doing this, but she takes complicated stuff,
financial and breaks it down simply so that people like you and I can
understand it.
She's got a crazy good book out called Rich AF,
the winning money mindset that will change your life.
And I cannot wait to jump into all this stuff with her.
So Vivian, welcome to the show.
Thank you so much for having me.
Someone's listening to this. They go, I want to be the first
millionaire in my family. Let's just start there. I want to be
the first millionaire in my family. What would you say to
that person who says I want that badly?
You need to strip. And then they're like, Oh, I didn't
realize this was that kind of guest. No, so strip is an
acronym that I've put together that I find to be really helpful
in remembering the steps you need to take.
So first and foremost, S stands for savings.
You gotta have that emergency fund.
And I say that as someone who needed mine.
I was 25 and I was making a sandwich,
cutting a piece of baguette.
The bread knife slipped, hit my finger,
and I saw a piece of myuette, the bread knife slipped, hit my finger and I saw a piece of my hand
fall onto the counter, had to go to the ER
and the bill was $16,000.
And even after insurance and I had really good insurance,
I still owed $1,300, which was a lot of money
for a young person.
And so I always say, make sure you have three to six months
of living expenses set aside in a high-yield savings account,
because that is going to let your emergency fund essentially roughly keep up with inflation so that it's not being eaten away at.
But you have your little nest egg in case something happens.
Then we move on to T, which stands for total debt.
I am an Aries, so I'm very, very impatient and I like to do things
fast and I like to do things very efficiently. So when it comes to total debt, I rank all
of my debt from highest to lowest interest rate. You make the minimum payment across
everything, but then any additional money you have for debt pay down, you're going to
put towards the debt with the highest interest rate and then you'll pay it down in that order.
This essentially just lets you pay the least amount in interest and get your debt slashed in the fastest time frame
possible. Next up, our retirement. I am a little bit further from retirement than I'm sure Ed
might be, but listen, I think we should all be thinking about it because I want to one day be
able to kick back my feet and just chill and And I think many of us want that. And some of the easiest things we
can do to take advantage of tax benefits is to contribute to our employer sponsored retirement
accounts, as well as our individual retirement accounts. So at work, that's going to be something
like a 401k, a 403b, 457, TSP. It's typically got some weirdo name
that doesn't make any sense, but leverage that.
Oftentimes employers will match your contribution
so you do get some free money.
And then with an IRA or a Roth IRA,
that is your individual retirement account,
but contribute to both of these
because it is going to give you tax benefits
and help you save and invest for the future.
And we move into I investing.
The mistake that a lot of people make at step are is that they open these accounts, they
put cash in and they're like, all right, I'm set.
I'm good.
I'm invested.
No, you are not.
When it comes to investing, I always compare it to the grocery store.
Would you ever have $50 in your pocket,
go to the grocery store, do a whole lap around,
and then leave, and then go home and open the fridge
and be like, why don't I have any food?
It's like, well, you didn't buy anything.
That is how investing is too.
You can't just open the account,
you can't just put the cash in, you have to buy stuff.
And when it comes to buying stuff,
I recommend target date retirement funds,
potentially if you're younger,
just ETFs that track broader indices.
And if you are getting a headache
with me saying some of these words,
just consider finding a robo advisor.
You take a quick quiz about your money goals,
what you have, what you earn, how old you are,
what type of family environment you wanna have, where you wanna live, everything about your personality and your money goals, what you have, what you earn, how old you are, what type of family environment you want to have, where you want to live,
everything about your personality and your money habits.
And then they'll spit out a diversified portfolio that you can use.
So it takes all the guesswork out of that investing.
And then we move into P, which is plan, because you do not get to have a happily
ever after or right off into the sunset without having a plan and backing into how to get there. And what I encourage people to do is actually calculate
their FU number. This is a plan where you envision your perfect year. Where do you live?
What does your family look like? Are you working? You know, what kind of clothes do you wear?
How many times do you go on vacation? Do you have pets? What have you?
And then you think about what that would cost
for one calendar year.
And then you take that number and divide it by 0.04
because that 0.04 represents a very conservative
4% investment return.
So once you have this bigger number that you'll get
after you do that calculation invested earning you 4%
you will be able to essentially throw off enough in gains that you can fund your entire lifestyle while you just chill.
I love strip. By the way everybody, we're gonna dive into some of the things she just said there.
I want to say to some of you, some of this stuff already is a little bit more technical than you're used to.
We are gonna get above at about 30,000 feet in a minute as well
And some of you are very young listening to this. I just want you to know how cogent that advice was
I started planning for retirement. This is no joke when I was 21 years old. I started thinking about it
I built an emergency fund first thing I did three to six months set aside
I started to educate myself about money, which we're going to talk about a little bit later, just knowing basic things.
So we'll get above this stuff here in a minute, but before we go, I want to,
I want to challenge you on one of the things in strip.
And I just want to hear your response.
I'm not going to tell you that I have an opinion one way or the other,
but the notion of retirement plans, 401k IRA,
that's a very commonly recommended piece of advice.
Yet more and more, I know you know this, but more and more there's a contrarian viewpoint about that,
which says that you're deferring those taxes probably into a higher tax bracket.
That the theory is that, you know, what you're doing by putting money in forget the matching piece for a second but if there was no matching but you know i'm putting money into a 401k i'm deferring
the taxes now while i'm earning them because theoretically when i retire i'll be in a lower
tax bracket but the truth of the matter is a lot of people believe taxes are probably going up not
down so am i deferring some of that money to more taxes and then the idea that I'll need less money in retirement than I do when I'm employed for most people that's
probably not true. So I'm just wondering that one piece of all of it, I've not
seen you been asked this on any shows and I wanted to ask you, do you debate
that in your own mind as well about the deferral issue where you may be
sticking those those those eggs aside for a smaller harvest someday
because taxes could be higher.
Yeah, definitely.
And I think that's why a lot of folks are now,
and I say folks, a lot of corporations
are also offering things like a Roth 401k
and more and more employees are taking advantage
because essentially, you know, Ed knows this,
but I hope everybody listening can learn this,
traditional investment accounts typically
that are for retirement,
allow you to have a tax benefit today
and you pay taxes in the future.
And to Ed's point, you know,
taxes could potentially be much, much higher
and we don't know that.
However, the Roth variety is you typically do not
get a tax benefit today.
You pay taxes, you contribute post-tax dollars today,
but that money is free and clear yours in the future.
It is why I am such a huge fan of the backdoor Roth IRA
for folks who earn more than the typical income limit for contributions.
I think the Roth variety makes a lot of sense if that is your viewpoint. Ultimately for me,
I am encouraging people to just get started. I don't want them to debate traditional versus Roth.
I don't want them to like belabor the decision. Just pick one. At the end of the day, sure, will one option
certainly be better for you than the other? Yes. But not contributing at all or waiting too long
is going to be way worse than picking the wrong variety. You're right. And it's a big thing,
everybody that's listening to this, like, and even you really young people listening,
you got to get started. And I mean, even if it's $20 a month, you're like, I'm not going to get Starbucks four days a week. I'm just going
to start to have habits. I'm a wealthy man because I started the habits young of what
a wealthy person did. I mean, probably when I was 21 that year, I may have actually only
saved like 200 bucks, but all my friends saved nothing. And all of a
sudden I had a little mutual fund with a little bit of money in it and I had an emergency
fund set aside. And I kind of got addicted to paying myself first and buying things to
impress other people like never or last. And so there's some real fundamental things here
that you talk about and we'll get into the FU number in a minute too. I want to talk
about that. I think that's cool. But before we do that, real rich people, you say, they're
really not interested in impressing you with their money. And I want you to discuss that,
just the mindset of rich people as opposed to the mindset of middle class or someone
who ends up staying poor. A lot of it is habits and mindset. Do you save
money? Do you pay yourself first? Do you at least read a little bit or follow an influencer like you
that has the topic of money? So it's just in the front of your mind, right? But what about that
notion of impressing people versus accumulation of assets? Yeah, I mean, I can use myself as a perfect example.
When I first moved to New York, I was in my early 20s, graduated college,
and I had this fancy job on Wall Street.
So in theory, some people thought I was a rich person.
I was not. I guarantee you, I was not.
That New York City rent was very expensive,
and I was certainly going out on weekends.
I was getting drinks with friends.
I was going out to dinner and the amount of money I spent on designer goods as a
22 year old was unbelievable.
Like I look back and I'm, I like choke on the number and I bought things like a
little winter beanie just because it had a little logo on it,
or red-bottom shoes that, by the way, are so painful.
I've worn them once.
They hurt so bad.
And a big part of that was wanting to belong,
wanting to look the part,
wanting to look rich and feel rich
and prove to my friends that I had made it.
When in reality, that was actually putting me in a worse financial position than had I just been,
to your point, setting that money aside, investing it, building up some of those rich habits.
And now, at 30, you know, I've made quite a lot more money. I have a business that I own. I'm doing very, very well for myself.
And it's so funny that now I find myself
spending less and less annually as a full,
just a dollar figure than I did back in the day
on designer goods.
And in fact, not only do I not oftentimes buy designer,
sometimes I'll just buy the dupe off of Amazon.
And I had a friend ask me, like, why did you do that?
And I said, well, you and everybody knows exactly
how much money I made last year, Forbes reported it.
You know I can afford those.
Why should I pay extra when these look exactly the same
and you couldn't tell anyway
and you thought I had the real thing.
It's so true, by the way, you're a thousand percent right.
The wealthier I got,
the less inclined I was to spend money to impress people.
And it's actually one of the ways I got wealthy.
And I don't mean this critically, by the way,
cause this is not completely true what I'm about to say.
So I'm couching this under, generally speaking,
what I'm about to say everybody, and no criticism.
I have owned Ferraris, I have owned Lamborghinis,
I've owned Rolls Royces, I've owned stuff, okay?
By and large now, I just want you all to know this,
because I am a rich person.
By and large, when I see somebody driving a Lambo,
do you know what I actually think when I see them?
They are not wealthy. Because if they were were they more than likely wouldn't be. When I see someone
with that beanie and I have two of them that has an LV on it because I thought
it looked really cool with my beanie and I remember when I wore the one the first
time in the winter I was playing golf and a really rich dude, a friend of mine
like a really rich dude goes, will you take that crap off your head please?
It's ridiculous. And so in general when I see someone sort of decked out and stuff, I actually think they're
probably broke in debt. What I think is I bet they make a lot of money and keep none. That's what I
think. That's a general statement. It's not always true, but if you all want to know what a very
wealthy person typically thinks like, now I have spent a lot of money on my homes because I live in them
and I like to have a nice place.
I like to feel comfortable and safe and secure and look at beautiful things.
So if you consider a home, a material thing, I have certainly spent money on it,
but I actually believe a home, unlike most influencers,
I think a home can still also be an investment long term.
And an appreciating asset especially depending on
the neighborhood. Okay say that, go ahead, you comment on that. Yeah so I think like
there are things that we see as flashy but there are different levels to this. So when you think
about big toys, cars, motorcycles, boats, those are all depreciating assets.
A car and a motorcycle or a boat, whatever,
it loses 10% of a new car's value.
As soon as you pull it off the lot,
just throw it out the window, okay?
Within five years, most of these have halved in value.
And I'm not talking about the ultra luxury super car,
there's only 10 made a year.
Those are truly collectors items.
I can see those potentially appreciating, but just like your standard run of the
mill Ferrari or your standard, I know that's like so crazy to say your standard
run of the mill Lambo, but like the base model will depreciate.
It'll have in value.
Whereas typically with real estate investments,
sure, some are a little bit flashy.
Maybe you have an indoor Zen garden, you've got a pool,
you've got the basketball court, whatever.
But like oftentimes real estate continues
to appreciate in value.
And on top of that, you know,
once you get to your phase of life,
there are opportunities to make investments
when it comes to real
estate, whether that be commercial, whether that be residential. But real estate truly
is an asset that oftentimes appreciates there are going to be better investments than others,
but it's not the same as buying a luxury car. And I will say back to your point about that,
you know, Louis Vuitton hat, like, I will, I'll also recommend us consider what we
are specifically buying from those luxury brands, you'll notice that the very, very wealthy still do
like designer goods. Sure, but you'll find them wearing the ready to wear that is not logo heavy,
that is found in the very back of the store that you need to make an appointment to try on.
Whereas the folks who want to show that they have money
are buying the items at the front of the store,
heavy monogram logos, heavy, heavy branding.
You are basically a walking billboard.
And especially now in our line of work, I think about it,
I'm like, no free press.
I get paid to promote brands.
Why would I wear something with a brand's name on it if they weren't paying me?
And if I truly didn't like it.
And so I think there's, there's levels to this thought process.
You're allowed to want nice things, but like, there's different types
of things people are buying.
You're right.
You can still like nice things.
And I have very wealthy friends who have Lamborghinis, but I'm just telling you in general when I see that.
And at this stage of my life, it just gets when you get silly wealthy, you almost want to conceal it to some extent. It's interesting. I was younger. I wanted to sort of prove I was wealthy even when I wasn't. And this is like accumulated more stuff. I didn't feel the need almost embarrassed to do, it's just a mindset thing, everybody. It's not a judgment of anybody one way or the other.
Today, we're going to talk about money. So many of you have been emailing and DMing the show saying,
would you please, Ed, discuss budgeting and finances a little bit more, saving, retirement,
and debt. So, that's what we're going to cover today. We're going to talk about savings, retirement,
and debt. And it's something I'm very concerned about,
it's very much on my heart.
Before I get into some of the things I'm gonna cover,
let me just say, I'm not coming to you on some soapbox,
as some guru or expert on a high horse,
thinking I have everything figured out
or that I'm perfect.
I'm actually today coming to you,
you're listening to somebody who understands.
I've had cars repossessed, unfortunately.
I know what it's like to be behind on your credit cards and have them taken from you.
I know what it's like to have a house foreclosed on. I know what it's like to really consider bankruptcy.
I've had my power turned off. I've had my mobile phone turned off before. This is not stuff
I'm proud of. I've had the water turned off.
Man, you don't want that to happen. And most of that stuff was self-inflicted
for mistakes that I made. And so I don't want you to happen. And most of that stuff was self-inflicted for mistakes that I made.
And so I don't want you to make those mistakes.
And I see so much terrible advice on podcasts
from these gurus, social media,
the different examples that are held out there
about what wealth looks like and what being rich looks like
and what the right things are to do financially.
And so we're gonna talk about some of those mistakes
I've made and that I see being made in the world today
And it pains me. Let me give you some statistics first if you make $80,000 a year
Do you know about how much money you have to have saved in order to retire just at the same standard of living?
And when I say same standard of living I'm not talking about now you're retired you get to take extravagant vacations or anything like that
I mean just to live the same as you live right now with your job
If you make $80,000 a year,
how much money do you think you have to have saved?
Well, the data tells us you need about $2 million saved
after taxes.
So what that means is, a lot of you say,
well, I've got money on my 401k.
You do understand, you haven't paid your taxes yet
when that money comes out of that 401k or that IRA.
So after taxes, you need about $2 million saved
if you make $80,000 a year
to provide the same standard of living.
How do we know that?
Well, at a $2 million amount of money,
4% interest on that would spit off about $80,000 a year.
You could live at about the same standard of living
that you currently live at now.
Are you on pace to do that?
Because let me tell you what the average American,
the median American has saved in the median.
$5,000.
$5,000 bucks is the median. There's a difference between the median and the average. The median is the person in the middle.
The average is when you take all of the affluent people, wealthy people, and all the people that have nothing.
The average savings is about $100,000 currently.
The median's five grand.
That's a problem because when you look at debt,
the average American has $114,000 of consumer debt.
114,000, that doesn't count their home loan.
That's college loans, car loans, credit card debt.
Average person carries about $10,000 on a credit card,
average interest rate about 15%.
Can you see there's a problem?
We are in a consumer culture.
We're in a culture that tells us to spend, spend, spend
to keep up with people.
We've also got a lot of influencers out there telling you
to get rid of all of your money,
that you should just, every dollar you get,
you should get rid of it, spend it somehow,
or invest it, and stay broke so you stay hungry.
Let me say something to you about that first of all.
That's terrible advice.
This idea that the only way you can stay driven and hungry
is to remain broke or to get rid of all of your money
is insane.
If your motivation level is so low
that you need to deplete all of your cash
in order to stay hungry and motivated,
you don't need to check your bank account.
You need to check your actual inspiration level.
That's insane.
And so the other thing that's in our culture today, and I'm gonna give you some of the keys,
is that we're trying to keep up with the Joneses.
We're trying to impress people by buying really expensive things.
Let me say something to you. I've been very fortunate.
I've had, you know, like I said, I've been, you're listening to somebody who's had their car repossessed,
home foreclosed on, power turned off, water turned off.
None of those are things that I'm very proud of, okay?
But I've also been blessed to become very wealthy.
I've been blessed to, you know, I've driven every car
you could possibly ever have, I've owned them all,
basically most all of them.
I've had six different jets, including a Global Express
that I bought from Oracle.
I own my own island, right?
I've owned multiple oceanfront homes.
My studio right now is in one of them.
I've owned some of the homes in the nicest neighborhoods in the world.
I've had all the material things you could possibly want.
And let me tell you something, they're really nice to have,
but you can't enjoy them if you're broke.
Living in a really nice house that you can't afford
and that you're sweating the payment on all the time
is no way to live.
And trying to keep up with people,
to impress people who don't care
by buying stuff you don't need is insane.
And I see it happening.
And so, striving to impress people with material things, let me just say this to you upfront, doesn't work.
It doesn't impress them. And for the few that it does impress, those are the wrong types of people.
You want people to be impressed with the content of your character, with the way you live your life,
the way you treat your family and other people.
And if to get them to be impressed by you,
you need a particular purse, or a particular jacket,
or pair of shoes, those are people
whose approval you don't want anyway.
Yet we seek it, don't we, to keep up with people.
We're in a consumer culture, which is why consumer debt
is so high, relative to savings.
And so, and by the way, if you're a young person,
and this is, you go, well, I don't care about retirement, that's 30, 40 years away. First off, it's gonna happen, if you're a young person, listen to this, you go, well, I don't care about retirement,
that's 30, 40 years away.
First off, it's gonna happen faster than you think.
But let me ask you this,
do you wanna be in control of your life?
Do you wanna be able to call the shots
and not have the world dictate shots to you?
Do you wanna be able to help your parents
or your siblings or your friends at any time you want to?
Do you wanna be able to take advantage of opportunities
when they come along and be able to write a check
at any time you want to buy something on discount That's an asset as opposed to a liability
So at any age you should be saving money
I figured this out by the time I was about 23 I had made some money and like I said
I had a house for clothes a car repoed and I started to change the way I viewed things
I found out most of these people I was impressing with these cars that I had they weren't around once I didn't have them
They weren't impressed with me. they weren't impressed with the car.
And you know the other thing about nice stuff?
It's out of style in like two or three years anyway.
Right, like the truth is even a nice house you have,
stylistically in 10 or 12 years it's dated.
It just is.
What I started to get addicted to
was watching my savings account grow,
watching my investments grow, watching my assets grow.
I got more fired up every month saving money, stacking paper than I did with what I was
buying to impress people.
And then I'm going to give you the keys in a minute.
I'm 52 years old, I'm worth hundreds of millions of dollars, I've made hundreds of millions
of dollars, and I've only bought two new cars in my entire life.
Because buying a new car is one of the dumbest things you could do.
You should be either leasing your cars or buying them used.
Let someone else pay all that depreciation.
You let that thing drive off the car lot,
let them drive it for a year or two,
and then you buy that thing at a discount.
It's still gonna drop after you buy it,
but not at the same rate as the dummy who buys the new car.
So let's go through a few things here that can help you.
Number one, by the way, that stat I gave you earlier,
if you make $80,000 a year, you need $2 million.
That's if you're retiring today.
If you make $80,000 a year
and you're retiring 30 years from now,
if you factor in inflation, you'll need $5 million.
So you have to start to ask yourself, are you on pace?
Are you doing the things that will get you wealthy?
And that's where I wanna begin.
The first thing you have to do when it comes to money is get some goals and some outcomes. And this is for everybody who makes minimum
wage all the way up to those of you that are making six or seven and even eight figures.
You need to have financial outcomes, a financial focus. If you don't invest or save money when
you're making very little, you will not invest or save money when you're making a lot.
That's one of the great fallacies and lies about money
is that people think,
well, I'm on this limited amount of income,
so once I make more, I'll save more.
That's not what I see happen.
I see someone making $40,000 a year,
living paycheck to paycheck,
and then when they're making 70,000,
now instead of driving a Honda, maybe they got a Lexus,
instead of having a so-so apartment,
they got a nice apartment.
And then when they go from 70,000 to 100,000,
then they upgrade from the Lexus to the Mercedes,
and they buy a house,
and they deplete their savings buying a house.
And then when they go from 100, if they do, to 150,000,
they get rid of that house,
they get a more expensive house,
and then they got a second car and a second house,
and they never get around to really
accumulating any savings.
In other words, they upgrade their lifestyle
as they make more money.
Smart people don't change their lifestyle
for a long, long time when they begin to make more money,
and they begin to build the habits and disciplines
of a wealthy person when they're a broke person.
I was saving money, see here's how old I am.
I was making minimum wage work in McKinley Home for Boys,
working at an orphanage that I worked at.
And I was making minimum wage,
which back then was $8 an hour,
and I was still finding a way to save $50 a month
in a savings, in a forced savings.
Because I wasn't going to Starbucks,
I didn't have cable TV, I eliminated basic things
because I wanted to build a,
and I started to get excited, wow, I got $300 saved.
I've got $1,500 saved, I've got $6,000 saved.
As my friends were buying expensive cars,
in fact, there's a great story I tell often
that even when I started to make money,
I wanted to buy a Mercedes, I bought a fake one.
I bought a kit car.
I bought a Chrysler LeBaron with a Mercedes body on it
because I wanted to look like I was driving a Mercedes
but I wanna spend the money.
That's a true story by the way, I had a kit car.
It was a LeBaron with a Mercedes body on it
because I was so addicted to saving and accumulating money.
So first things first, let me give you some keys.
Number one is you need to decide what your outcomes are
and what your goals are financially.
Do you wanna have financial freedom and independence?
Right, that's one level of wealth.
Or do you wanna be like stone ass wealthy?
Those are two totally different things.
And for a lot of people, the answer is,
I just like some financial peace and independence.
I don't have to have Lamborghinis and jets and islands
and all these other things,
but I sure would like to live financially peacefully.
I'd like to someday not have to work.
I'd like to pay off my house.
I'd like to have a bunch of money saved.
Whatever that is for you.
I want some element.
I don't want debt.
Scriptures tell us, oh no man, nothing.
I'd like some financial peace in my life.
And the truth is I think most people see the wealthy thing
on Instagram all the time and think that's what they want,
but maybe it's not what you want.
Maybe the truth is you just like more time.
If you could just save enough money to pay all your bills
and have your house taken care of and some basic stuff,
maybe you'd like to take more time off.
And if you're one of those people who say,
money's not that big of a deal to me, I get that.
And the truth of the matter is that's how I started out. It was not that big of a deal to me, I get that. And the truth of the matter is that's how I started out.
It was not that big of a deal to me.
But I knew the lack of money, man I knew that was a real big deal.
I didn't want to be broke.
I didn't want to be stressed.
I did not want to be in a position in my life where I couldn't help my family if I needed
to.
And so my first goals were not to be super wealthy.
They were to get financially independent.
And the first step in doing that is you need to know your financial independence number, your FIN number.
Your FIN number is the amount of money you need saved
so that living off the interest on that money,
you no longer need to work anymore.
The next thing is this, you gotta stop going into debt.
You gotta stop spending money to impress people.
You gotta stop it.
You gotta stop buying meals on credit.
Stay out of malls, frankly.
I've been to a mall maybe five times in 15 years.
You know what?
Monitor and really be smart about your Amazon account.
Don't have people shipping you stuff
you don't need to your house.
Take a look at all your subscriptions.
Do you need all of them?
Do you need every single one of those subscriptions
or could you eliminate some of those things
if you're on a budget and start to put
that money into savings?
The next thing is to understand the distinction
between three separate things.
You need an emergency fund set up.
An emergency fund is three to six months
of your current expenses accessible at any given time.
You need that money set aside.
That's in case of a job loss, car breaks down,
somebody needs some help, emergency.
Quite frankly, life's just going to happen.
So the first things first is you need three to six months
of money set aside in an emergency fund.
You should start to make that your goal and your ambition
and start chipping away at doing that.
If you're someone making a lot of money,
right now, carve that amount out and put it to the side.
The second thing that you need to do
is you need to have savings.
Savings is just money that you're accumulating, that in case you need it, it's there for a rainy day.
You should have some savings. Anybody who tells you you shouldn't is wrong.
In case you have some measure of savings.
And then the third thing is investing.
That's money you're gonna take that has some risk to it that you're gonna try to get rates of return on.
And I'm not gonna tell you where to put that money today,
but I can tell you that you need an
emergency fund, savings and then investments. The only advice I'll give
you on saving money because I'm licensed, I can't recommend particular
investments, what I will say to you is this, if you can't explain it to me you
shouldn't be putting your money in it. If you can't understand it and explain it
back to me, it's not the place for you to be putting your money yet
And if you don't have a financial professional in your life
You can explain things to you in a basic way so that you can understand them
You have to ask yourself why they're confusing you you have to ask yourself that right?
Sometimes people like to make things seem very sophisticated and complex so that you think you need them and that maybe potentially you make
A bad decision you ought to be able to explain to me why
Your money's in there and how it works and what it's doing and anybody can do it
Even somebody who doesn't want to know a lot about financial education doesn't matter. You should be able to do that
Okay, so that's number one
The next thing is as soon as you can afford it make sure you have a competent tax person and CPA in your life
If you're someone making a lot of money
You really need a good tax person in your life. If you're someone making a lot of money, you really need a good tax person in your life. A
professional competent tax or CPA and you probably ought to be working with somebody who can help you with your money as well.
Make sure you have a financial gain plan and direct it and make sure you're running a budget.
Now in my budget recommendations, here's what I'm gonna ask you to do.
I'm gonna ask you to take the first 30% of your money, if you can afford it,
30% of your money and give it to your tithing and to pay the first 30% of your money, if you can afford it, 30% of your money
and give it to your tithing and to pay yourself first.
If you can't do 30%, if it's down to even 10%,
carve something out that you're gonna give away
and carve something out because of the law of reciprocity
and carve something out that you pay yourself first
every month, take it off the top.
Don't pay yourself last
because you're never gonna get paid. If you make $3,000 a month, take $ off the top. Don't pay yourself last, because you're never gonna get paid.
If you make $3,000 a month,
take $50 and pay yourself first,
and now you make $29.50 a month.
You say, Ed, that sounds good, you're a rich guy.
Listen, I spend every single dollar I do every month.
I understand it, I've lived on minimum wage,
and I'm telling you that even when I lived on minimum wage,
I found a way to pay myself first.
You need to get in control of your life.
And the way you get in control of your life
is you first control your spending,
you control your budgeting,
you control your financial discipline.
You begin to make this a massive priority in your life
that you're gonna become somebody
who is financially in control.
Because if you start the habits
of being financially in control,
eventually you will be in control
and you will call the shots in your life.
So please budget and begin to save your money
and don't invest in something you can't.
Get clear on what you want
and if you're younger, start saving money now.
You'll build the habits of a,
trust me, I'm 52 years old.
I started doing this in my early 20s
and I really believe that's why I'm wealthy.
Stay with me on this.
There's a bunch of people you see on social media that won't be rich someday that look rich right now. I have more
friends in my life, listen to me, those of you that are making a little bit of
money that used to be rich than that currently are. I've watched them go
seasons of five or eight or ten years where they were balling. They were making
real money, they were driving the nice car, the nice vacation,
they bought this or that, and then bam, things changed.
They got caught with their pants down financially.
They had no money saved, no cash,
dead up to their eyeballs.
You're not.
And so I have more friends that used to be rich
than currently are because they weren't
in control of themselves.
They didn't have delayed gratification.
They had no financial discipline, no budget, no game plan, no goals, no outcome.
Now, when it comes to your investments, let me just say this to you.
There's lots of places to save money.
I can't recommend it.
I know kind of the cool thing right now and I've made a lot of money in real estate.
That's a great place.
You know, start flipping houses.
That's one of the real vogue things.
That's great and maybe that is what you should be doing.
But you're one bad flip away from being broke too,
which is why you still need cash saved.
How about having a plan in your life
where if it goes bad, you're still okay?
And I'm not talking about, I know maybe you listen to that,
you go, well, Ed, that's just a luxury I don't have.
Of course you do, you can save some money.
There are ways to do it.
And if you're not making enough money,
then you need to get a second job.
Work a second job.
I've had multiple jobs at any given time, many times.
When I was an entrepreneur, many times I had to go back
and get a night job to support my entrepreneurial hustle.
Being an entrepreneur is not easy.
Being an entrepreneur is difficult.
You entrepreneurs listen to this,
and maybe you're going behind for your,
maybe you need to get a job two days a week
or stocking shelves at night.
I stocked shelves at a grocery store for two years
while I was building my business
because my business wasn't keeping my family afloat
and I still had to save money.
So some of you that are entrepreneurs,
maybe it's a second job.
Some of you that have a full-time job,
maybe it's starting a second business.
Maybe you need a second income stream.
The truth is that in this day and age,
with how crazy things cost and how out of control taxes are, you may need secondary income. So if
you have a job, maybe it's starting a side hustle on the side or a second job. If you're an
entrepreneur, maybe it's having a second job on the side that's part-time to support your business.
It's okay to work a lot. It's okay to have your business. It's okay to work a lot.
It's okay to have financial discipline.
It's okay to go through a season of your life
where you sacrifice lots of things,
including time in order to get wealthy.
But the hardest thing that I see,
the most heartbreaking thing are those people
doing the grind, making the sacrifice,
doing all the things to make money,
and then they have no game plan, no financial discipline,
and they watch all these idiots on Instagram
or social media go, man, I gotta have the car,
I gotta have the house, I gotta have the nightclub,
I gotta have the steak.
Man, sometimes even me, when I show the things I have,
I've got, you know, I'm lucky now.
In this video, I got a stupid expensive watch on, right?
I didn't start buying expensive watches or cars
until I could write checks for them
and not just write checks for them,
not sweat the check where it didn't make a dent
in my savings.
Can you imagine saving up $200,000
and dropping 130,000 on a stupid watch?
Now you got 70 grand?
I didn't start writing checks for watches like that
until I had millions of dollars saved.
And sometimes I think that's a bad example.
Because the truth of the matter is, this watch is great.
And you know what?
I barely ever look at it.
I got a couple other ones, they're stupid.
I've had a lot of nice cars.
And you know what?
The minute you drive by somebody,
they're not impressed anymore.
And if I am impressing them,
it's probably the wrong person.
That's not to say
part of getting wealthy isn't to have nice stuff. I get that. I like nice stuff. I've
become accustomed to it, but I didn't start partaking in it until I had earned it and
I had earned it with the work I did and all of the savings and investing I had done. And
then if it's 1% of my money, okay, who cares? That's play money. But if it's 20, 30, 40% of your cash
and you're spending it on stupid stuff like cars and clothes
and steaks and wine, that's dumb, right?
And trust me, I've had every car
you could possibly almost think of.
Lambos, Ferraris, Mercedes, Rolls Royce, whatever.
I've had six jets.
Like I said, the last jet I bought from Oracle,
a global express jet, I've had all those things.
They're amazing. They're not amazing if've had all those things. They're amazing.
They're not amazing if you have debt on them.
They're not.
They're not amazing if you have to worry about paying for them.
They're not amazing if they're a major chunk of your cash.
They're not.
Remember that, the average American has $100,000
in consumer debt and $5,000 of savings.
The average American needs $2 million to retire
and they got five grand.
Is that sad or what?
And so we need to budget, we need to save money.
Why is saving money matter, Ed?
It gives you control.
And whether we like it or not in this lifetime,
we need to be able to protect our families
and protect ourselves and make decisions.
As an entrepreneur, one of the reasons you need
to have financial discipline is that lack
of financial discipline will cause you
to make bad decisions as a business person.
You'll make decisions based on money or pressure
because you haven't saved money.
As a friend, let me say this to you,
you just remember this, your lack of financial discipline
as an entrepreneur will eventually affect your business.
It'll eventually affect your business.
What's the number one mistake I see entrepreneurs do?
They don't pay their taxes.
They get behind on taxes.
They say, wow, I made $30,000 last month.
No, you didn't.
You made $30,000 if you're a 1099, you're self-employed,
you're 1099, real estate agent, insurance agent,
business owner.
You made $30, dollars last month before taxes
You probably made more like eighteen thousand, but you're living like you made thirty those you that are employees that have a job
It's your lack of discipline saving money. It's your lack of having a game plan
It's running up debt that you don't need and again
I'm not trying to be insensitive to anybody who doesn't have a lot of income coming in.
I've lived that way.
I lived in a single parent,
I lived in a family where my mother stayed home
and raised our family, the most important job on the planet.
And we had one income, which was my dad's.
And I know what that can look like.
I know when my, I remember one time when my dad lost his job
and how absolutely destroyed our family was
and worried about what was gonna come
when my dad was unemployed for a while.
And thank God my dad had an emergency fund
and we had money to live off for those months
where he was finding work.
And so this stuff matters, it has ramifications.
Begin to educate yourself.
Evaluate what you drive if you're on a budget.
Do you need to drive that car
or could you get something less expensive,
reduce the payment or actually cash something Do you need to drive that car? Or could you get something less expensive, reduce the payment, or actually cash something out
and do something with that savings?
Evaluate what you subscribe to, your subscriptions.
Get serious and get focused.
And stop caring what people think about what your stuff is.
I promise you, nobody cares that matters.
Nobody does.
And I wanna say this to you about real estate.
A lot of you ask me about real estate. I think that's a great place. I do not believe it's the only place though
And so begin to educate yourself about the different places you could put money
But the most important thing is to begin to build the habits
So that you become long-term financially independent and maybe stone-ass wealthy and for those of you that are making money
Please don't be one of these people that was rich just for a little while or successful just for a little while,
that you had this tremendous blessing of making some money,
maybe more than you've ever made
for a little window of time, and you blew it on stuff,
and you didn't save and accumulate and invest.
Don't go into debt that you don't need to.
Some debt is good debt, we all know this.
Debt on liabilities is terrible. Debt on cars, debt on clothes, debt on food, debt on stuff you don't need. That's terrible.
Debt on assets, everyone says, well, that's great. Well, maybe. I mean, sometimes it's great.
You still got to buy the right property at the right price. It's still got to be something you
can afford and handle, right? Just because it's debt on an asset doesn't make it good debt, it just means it's
definitely not stupid, right?
I've had so many friends that were doing pretty well
for a while, and now they're not.
And they're not because their lack of savings created
pressure in the bad times.
And when the bad times came because they were under pressure,
unnecessarily they should have had money saved and invested. pressure in the bad times and when the bad times came because they were under pressure
unnecessarily, they should have had money saved and invested but because they didn't they made bad decisions under pressure and
Ultimately those decisions were made because of financial pressure and that financial pressure ruined their businesses had they just saved money in the good times They could have wrote out the bad times. And so this is the same whether you have a business or a family, you've got to plan for winter.
Listen to me, winter comes in everyone's life.
There's four seasons for a reason.
There's summer, spring, winter and fall.
And that metaphorically is true in our lives.
You're gonna have a spring in your life probably
at some point where you've got some financial opportunities
and it's gonna be sunny out in the summer.
And then there's gonna be a time where you've got some financial opportunities and it's gonna be sunny out in the summer.
And then there's gonna be a time
where you start to have anxiety and things begin to change,
the leaves of your life begin to change
and you can feel it maybe not the way you want it to,
which is fall.
And ultimately, there's gonna be a winter.
And all of our lives, there's a financial winter,
there's a winter where we lose our job
or our car breaks down or there's a disaster
or a family need or our income and our business drops
or we just have massive expenses
in a short window of time that we have to make.
So that winter is going to come.
Please prepare for winter,
whether you don't make a lot of money
or you do make a lot of money.
I can tell you this,
if you begin to develop the habits of budgeting
and have an emergency fund and saving money
and staying out of stupid debt, right?
And investing after your savings,
wherever you believe that that's appropriate.
When you have those habits and you make good choices
and you begin to live in some financial harmony
and peace consistent with your values,
that when winter comes, you can ride it out.
I've had probably four or five winters since my mid-20s
and I've been able to ride them winters since my mid 20s,
and I've been able to ride them out. And if I can be really candid with you,
because I had saved a lot of cash,
I was able to make a lot of money
during other people's winters
when they had to sell their house
or their business or their asset.
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notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. This week we're going to talk a little
bit about money and financial peace. Now I'm licensed so I can't give you any
real specific investment advice or anything like that but I can talk to you a little bit today
about just some basic principles that will give you more financial peace in
your life and some insights into some of the things I see that are very commonly
spread on social media by many influencers that I just don't
necessarily agree with and so one of the things that I've been very fortunate to
do is to build a pretty significant net worth.
And I believe part of that net worth was built because of some basic principles that I've
adhered to that I want to share with you.
And so let's start from the very beginning.
Number one, you have to decide that you want to save and accumulate money.
It has to become a priority for you.
And I'm going to say some things that sound a little bit contrary to what you hear on social media all the time about. I hear people say you should get
rid of all your money right? You should use debt like crazy. You know debt on
appreciating assets you should always use and there's no reason to save cash
you should be investing all of your money. That's just insane. Like some of
that's true but this notion that I keep hearing on social media from people,
that's like get rid of all your money and so that you stay hungry.
Yeah, you might end up being starving if you do that.
And so let's go all the way back for a few minutes about some basic things that I
believe about financial security. I think this is something, by the way,
you could share with your children all the way up to somebody who's, you know,
80, 90 years old listening today.
There's a few things.
There's two types of people in life.
There are savers and spenders.
They're just are and you need to know right now which one are you and how do you know
that?
You know that based on the amount of percentage of the money you make that you save and I
want to say something to you.
If you can't save money when you're broke
when you're making very little you will not save money when you're making more that's a fallacy
people say well once I make more money then I'll save if you can find a way to save any amount of
money right now build the habit the pattern of being a saver and I'm talking about when I was making minimum wage as a bus boy at the whole enchilada restaurant. Yep, that was my job. I was a bus boy at
the whole enchilada. The very next job I had basically after that, I worked in an
orphanage for five dollars and sixty cents an hour. That gives you an idea of
how old I am because that was a minimum wage then. And in both of those careers
as a young person at 17 and 18 years old and then I got the job at the orphanage when
I was 21 years old after college I saved money now I saved $18 a month into a
forced savings program when I worked at the whole enchilada and I saved $20 a month when I was working
at McKinley Home for Boys but what happened was that was money that I never
missed and it was forced savings and it created a behavioral pattern in me when
I was poor and broke that I'm a saver and so what I went without I went without
the Starbucks's of the world I made my coffee. I brought my own lunch to work.
These things like very insignificant things,
but what I was doing was ingraining in myself
the ability and pattern of saving.
So which are you right now?
Are you a saver or are you a spender?
Cause you're one or the other.
I've never been addicted to what kind of shoes I had,
what kind of jeans I was wearing, the shirt I had.
I was much more addicted to accumulating wealth.
I got off, if you will, on showing somebody my mutual fund or my bank account statement
much more than I did on what kind of car I drove.
And I've always been that way.
And I wasn't that way naturally.
And I knew early on, I learned that I needed to establish this pattern of which
one was I.
And so ask yourself this.
And by the way, you could be making a lot of money right now when you're not saving
or you could be making very little.
It's an idea that you just begin this pattern of some sort of forced savings.
Have it taken right out of your account, have it drafted out of your account.
I don't care if it goes into a, I'm not going to tell you where it can go because I'm licensed
or where it should go. And for the purposes of today today's message there are qualified people you can see in your life that can tell you what to do with that
Money, but are you a saver or a spender a really scary thing is when two spenders are married to one another
I hope in your if you're married that one of you at least is a saver and
That if one of you is a spender the saver has influence
one of you at least is a saver and that if one of you is a spender, the saver has influence. But when two spenders are married,
that is a formula for a lot of toxicity and a lot of stress.
This idea that I keep hearing from so many people have get rid of all your cash,
get rid of all your cash is insane, right? Oh, it'll keep you hungry.
It'll put pressure on you. Really? No, what it'll do is put stress on you.
If you can't be hungry when you're saving cash at what point does that end or to all your life? Do you just keep spent think logically about that?
So you're supposed to get rid of all your money to stay hungry
Are you that unmotivated that uninspired that you have to have no money or very little money to be hungry?
There's not other higher purposes and callings
that can keep you hungry in your business life.
That's so stupid, but I keep hearing it.
So stop that nonsense.
Of course you should save money.
Now there's a difference between saving and investing.
There's a percentage of, now once you start to make money,
you should have savings, which is just cash,
and then you should have investments.
And I'm not gonna tell you where to invest your money.
You'll make those decisions
Those are two totally different things
But I can tell you right now like to this day and I'm not exaggerating this I add up like what am I spending on?
My streaming services. What am I spending on Starbucks? What am I spending on door dash? What am I spending on Amazon?
You should audit all of these things.
Like do you really, and by the way, if you're an addicted spender, shut out your Amazon
account.
Just shut it down.
Right?
But the amount of money people spend on frivolous things, silly things like, like their door
dashes or their Uber deliveries or these things that you could just go to the grocery store
and save money or all your streaming services.
Plus you still have direct TV
Plus you got cable service
These are this may not seem like a good eight dollars twelve dollars twenty dollars. This adds up to places you could save money and
And again, it's that habit. It's that feeling that I love saving as opposed to I love spending
This is so counterculture what I'm saying right now. It's crazy to me that
it is counterculture, but I've always felt like I have this huge advantage financially
in my life because like I'm into that, not the other stuff. And then once I had enough
cash, then I became an investor and you can decide where you put that money for you. It
could be real estate. It could be the market. It could be CDs. It could be treasuries. I'd
have no idea. And I'm not suggesting any of those things. it could be treasuries, I have no idea, I'm not suggesting
any of those things, let me be very clear.
What I'm saying is that you should have savings and then investments and they're two different
things but I cannot begin to tell you how many times in my life that because I had some
cash saved I took advantage of different situations.
What if you don't have cash you can't or you don't have investments you can't.
Now secondly audit where you spend your money, Do you have a budget every single month?
You should have a budget and the first thing in that budget for me is my tithing
If you're a person of faith, it's what you give to God's kingdom
It's the seed you plant and again if you're broke that may be five dollars in the hat at church when it's passed
I don't know but it's some seed you're planting. If you have a hundred pennies in a
dollar the first pennies go there. The second pennies even if it's a small
amount go to savings. You pay yourself first. Let me say it again. You pay
yourself first. That's after you pay God if you believe in that okay next Now you have your money that you live on and then I would audit that where am I being wasteful and silly and
I got to tell you it blows my mind people say we're in a recession right now. I don't see that
I mean, maybe we are but I got to tell you I go to airports. They're full. They're packed with people, right?
I see people using their credit cards at airport food
and spending, do you know how much it bothers me
to buy a bottle of water to this day?
I'm worth hundreds of millions of dollars.
I still cringe when I buy a $5.60 bottle of water
at an airport, yet I watch people who have no money
frivolously spend it there.
Still, it's like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I'm doing that. I still scrutinize things like
that. I still don't feel great when I overspend on Amazon. I don't. I just cut out three streaming
services. I'm not exaggerating this. Last week, I'm like, I'm not using this is $8 a
month. I've watched it three times in a year. Right. That's it's a hundred bucks a year. That's silly. I could put that hundred dollars somewhere else. I could give it away
So begin to really
Micromanage and audit where you waste money where you spend money. What type of gas do you put in your car?
I'm not kidding. What kind of car do you have? What's your car payment?
What could you do with that if the car payment was half and it was a not as nice a car, what could you do with that
extra three or four or $500? And when you look up the rule of 72 and how money compounds,
what could that do for you? So look at that. The next thing is your debt. Why are you spending
money to buy things that impress people who don't care that you can't afford? Who gives
a crap what they think
why would you do that why would you put it at 15 interest or 20 interest on stuff that no one gives a crap that you have to impress people who don't care who are hating on you behind the scenes
anyway when that could be money you're saving or investing in your life. So stop using debt on depreciating assets and then even debt on
appreciating assets. There's a threshold to which you should be doing that with but you should be scrutinizing when you do it.
And so I've always tried to get myself to be someone who
listen, I'm gonna say it to you the way that I think it. If you're gonna if you're gonna invest money and it's an appreciating
asset and you want to use debt to get access to other people's money and rates are still relatively low by the way that I think it. If you're gonna invest money and it's an appreciating asset and you wanna use debt to get access to other people's money
and rates are still relatively low by the way.
People say, oh interest rates are so much higher.
I've been alive when interest rates were 18%.
So interest rates are still relatively low, money's cheap.
If you can end up leveraging debt
in order to buy an appreciating asset,
you should consider it.
But what a lot of people do is they go,
well I can get the money cheap. they don't really scrutinize you make your money in most things on
the buy on the buy so you still have to get the right price and if you're saving
in the stock market you can dollar cost average in if you don't know what dollar
cost averaging is you can look at that you can look into that too but the point
that I'm making to you is why not get focused on getting wealthy you do not
become wealthy by mistake.
You become wealthy by your habits and your disciplines and your routines and your rituals.
And so many people that are in the personal development space, you've really gotten good
at your personal habits, your workout, your morning routine, your meditation, your gratitude,
your cold plunge, your, your, the food intake that you have. You have these great routines.
What's your financial routine?
What's your financial routine?
Well, I'm gonna get around to that.
You know, I'm only 21, I'll get around to that.
Really?
Well, I was getting around to it when I was 17.
And just for the record, you will never get around to it.
And typically someone who's a spender
will attract another spender
because they like shiny things.
And they can both go out and impress a bunch of people
with shiny things that nobody gives
a crap about
Not any really good people
I'll be really honest with you
Some people do this, but I don't I don't know what kind of watch you're wearing
I have a I actually have a Rolex on right now
and
I didn't buy a Rolex until I was worth
100 million.
I bought my first new car, brand new car, this year.
And I'm worth hundreds of millions of dollars. Every single car I have ever bought was used. Every car.
This year I bought a brand new Range Rover. First time in my life. Why
would I buy something that depreciates the minute I roll it off the parking
lot? How stupid. And then some of you finance this asset that's depreciating
off the parking lot. What are you doing? What are you doing? So what's your
financial habits, your financial routines, your financial disciplines? Consumer debt is horrible. Try to stay away from it. Even
business debt be careful with or even debt on real estate doesn't mean it's
right just because you've got debt on it. And then there's just a certain
threshold of debt that I don't want. I love cash and so this notion that you
should get rid of cash and cash is dropping in value because of inflation
and all that stuff
There's some validity to that and then it's also just wrong
Because when the economy changes cash is king and people that have cash and by the way
If you're gonna get really wealthy
It's a bunch of cash but it could even be that you are able to get different services or products on discounts
When you have cash at your disposal, there's a security and a confidence that comes with cash
when you have cash at your disposal. There's a security and a confidence that comes with cash.
I'm convinced that the reverse is true.
This lie that if you get rid of all of your cash,
you'll be hungry, just creates more stress.
I can tell you that my accumulation of cash
gave me strength, gave me confidence, gave me comfort,
gave me the ability to walk away from a deal or a table
because I didn't have to have it every single time. Cash is still king.
And I'm telling you, I still leverage debt as well.
But this notion that you should have all this debt
and no cash breaks my heart.
Because that advice works great when the economy's going up.
All these people who tell you they get rid of all their cash
and they're leveraged to the hilt
and they're really rich right now,
wait till those values come down and the equity isn't there.
Or when their loan renews
or their adjustable rate mortgage changes,
or they just don't have any cash in life.
And so I'm a big believer in cash.
I'm a big believer in savings.
I don't believe you need to make millions of dollars
to become financially independent.
You know, there's different levels of wealth. The first one is dollars to become financially independent You know, there's different levels of wealth
The first one is just to become financially independent and financial independence just basically means that you saved enough money where that you don't have the
Necessity for your job, but ask yourself this right now
No matter how old you are. What if you went six months with no income? Can you live? Can you pay all your bills?
Can you if you had no income coming in, right?
Do you have enough cash saved? Because by the way,
some of those investments that you've leveraged, they can't be liquidated.
So these people who have told you get rid of all your cash,
use debt to buy a bunch of assets, really? Well what happens if that cash flow is not
there?
So ask yourself this right now.
Can you go six months of paying all your bills right now if you lost your job?
How about six years? How about 60 years?
So at one point, at some point in your life, you won't have a job at some age.
And by the way,
I just did an interview where life expectancies may be getting to 120, 130, 140, 150 potentially.
How much cash do you need?
How much revenue do you need to live long term so you don't have to work anymore?
That's called getting financially independent.
Wealth, that's a totally different thing.
But some of you at least need to get to financial independence before you can get wealthy or
then stone ass wealthy, right?
And I could tell you that, you know, people say, well,
certain cars go up in value. Yeah. You're probably not buying those cars.
Well, watches, ed, you Rolex is, you know, they got, yeah,
they got up the last five years.
I don't know what they'll be worth in 15 or 20 years. Maybe they will be,
but I would,
I'm not going to have a bunch of watches and call myself a rich person.
Rich people don't just have watches. They have cash. They have assets.
And so I say this to you today because I love you and I'm concerned about you. I'm concerned
about our culture. I go to airports. They're packed. I don't think we're in a recession.
I go to a mall. They're jam packed. I was just in a, I was at a very expensive resort
recently, packed with people and next to it, there was a casino packed with people and next to it there was a casino packed with people
people are spending money like it's water so i don't know that we're in a recession or people
are just delusional right now and spending money they don't have and i get all this past the
pandemic we want to have some experiences i get all that you just have to decide what makes you
happy what makes me happy is saving what makes me happy is accumulating abundance and wealth
so that I can give to the churches that I want to
or give to the charities that I want to
and take care of family when they need us.
Listen, what's the likelihood of there not being
a financial crisis in your family in the next five years?
What's the likelihood of someone in your family
not needing you for something?
A medical emergency, a cash emergency,
a tragedy of some sort, just life. What's the
idea? What's the probability the next five years, there's no
chance of that? How about the next 10 years? And so what if
you found yourself with no cash and just a bunch of debt and
assets at that time, you can't help them. So this this stuff is
nuts, what's being taught out there. So the bottom line is this, what I wanted to encourage you today is just to become more
aware financially and this notion that I'm going to get my life together, my self together,
my business together, my body together, my relationships together and then my faith together.
Once all of that's done, the money thing will just take care of itself or I'll eventually
get around to the money thing or I'm so young or whatever. That's just take care of itself. Or I'll eventually get around to the money thing. Or I'm so young or whatever.
That's just not how it works.
You start it now.
You start with a budget now.
You start scrutinizing your money now.
You start trying to become a saver now.
And again, I wanna be clear.
I have leveraged debt on appreciating assets
and made a lot of money doing that.
But I didn't just do that.
I also saved money because opportunities,
and I'll be honest with you,
I've made more money with my cash than I have with debt.
Because when you've got cash in difficult times,
you can get deals and steals and amazing opportunities
because you can pull the trigger immediately
when someone needs it, immediately, rather than waiting for financing waiting this so both are
powerful but man my heart breaks when I see these very influential people
constantly telling you this stuff and by the way I know many of them and they
also have cash they also have cash and so it's both it's not one way or the
other I wish I could give you more specific financial advice, but today's a wake-up call
You want to have more confidence when you walk in a room have some money saved
You want to have more confidence and bliss and peace in your life have a pattern of being frugal
Have a pattern of being smart with your money
Listen to me
Show me a human being who is under control financially.
Financially under control.
They have disciplines, they don't give into the temptations
of immediate gratification.
Show me a human being who shows me emotional control
and discipline financially, and I'll show you a human being
who's probably a pretty happy person.
You show me someone who is out of control financially,
but thinks they're gonna get control over their emotions
and their relationships and these other areas of their life,
I'll show you a person living a delusion.
How you are doing financially at every stage of your life
is a reflection of how you were doing
in almost every area of your life, and don't you dare say to me right now, Hey, that sounds good,
but I'm on minimum wage right now. I know it's very, very difficult,
but if you could begin to, if you're paying,
if you're a person of faith, just a little bit to your tithing,
if you could just do a little bit to some savings, if it's $5 a month,
$5 and you go, Ed and I don't have it you do
You do there's five dollars somewhere if you're employed you do and I've got this many kids as much. I know I'm
telling you
There's five dollars somewhere to say if you go well five dollars isn't gonna amount to anything yes
It is because it's a habit. It's a belief. It's a pattern. It's a routine
It's a part of who you become
And I'm telling you right now when you go from that minimum wage
And now you're making twenty dollars an hour and fifty dollars an hour
And then you make an a hundred grand and two hundred grand if the pattern all the way back in the beginning is to spend
Everything you get you'll find a way to do it. You have a nicer car a better apartment you'll eat nicer restaurants you'll upgrade the way you
drink when you go out and all of a sudden the money's gone and then you go well no now
I'm an entrepreneur and I'm making 250 or do you know how many people that are nodding
right now they go man I I have the same amount of money saved that when I was making 50,000 that when I made 100,000
I just went from having a Honda to a BMW and I went from a two-bedroom apartment to I rent my house and
Then there's people listen as to go man when I went from a hundred grand to 250 grand
I basically have the same life except now I drive a Benz. I
Got a Benz and my partner's got a nicer car too,
and now I got a decent watch and much nicer clothes,
and I'm eating at Mastro's once in a while,
and the truth is, there's no tangible difference
in where I am financially.
How many of you right now know somebody like that
or are nodding?
And by the way, then I got the four or 500 grand a year,
and now I bought a house, I bought a house,
my business debt is up, my credit card bill seems
to get much higher every single month,
because now I am not disciplined on Amazon,
I've got 19 streaming services, I door dash my meals,
you know, I don't pay attention to what I pay
for my airfare, other things I do,
and all of a sudden, man, I just spend, spend, spend,
and the truth is, now I'm at four or five hundred grand a year, and I'm not that much
further ahead financially than I was when I was making fifty thousand dollars a year.
And then what ends up happening is you go, it's not worth it to keep getting more and
more income.
And that's when people stall out.
Most people stall out, even if they're really good, two fifty, three hundred, four or five hundred grand a year. Why do people stall out most people stall out even if they're really good 250 300 for 500 grand a year
Why do they stall out because the truth is their financial life didn't change very much. They got a nicer car
They got a house now, you know, they eat in nicer restaurants. They've got nicer clothes on their body
But the truth of the matter is they're really not that much further ahead financially than when they were making minimum wage or they're making
$50,000 a year because the habits weren't ingrained back then.
I promise you that I'm right right now and I promise you most of your friends that you
think are rich that make a hundred or two or three or four or five hundred grand a year,
they are quietly going, he's a completely right about this right now.
He's a hundred percent right.
The truth is most people can't go six months without their paycheck and almost nobody can go six years and that's sad because it could be different
if their habits, their beliefs and their patterns were different and so today was
just simply a wake-up call to create more financial peace in your life even
on a limited budget and if you don't have a limited budget this is a huge
wake-up call for you to begin to become a saver and have a conversation with
whoever you're in a relationship with
About your spending and saving begin to scrutinize it begin to break it down begin to have a real budget
Begin to have some outcomes and goals for how much you want to save as a percentage of your money and then let the
Professionals you deal with in your life
Or your own research by the way determine where those money should go
That's not the topic of today and I'm licensed so I can't go through any of that with you
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That was a great conversation.
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Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. If you want to get more customers, if you want to learn how
to create the right content and how to get that content to people, I have the
best dude on planet Earth sitting to my right here. So Billy Jean, thank you.
Thank you. Thank you very much for having me. It's long overdue. And so whether
they're 22 years old, 21 years old, 42 years old, African-American, Latino,
Asian, man or woman, gay or straight, Christian or agnostic, there are people watching this
who are like, hey, I'm kind of where he was back in the day.
You know what I'm saying?
I'm where he was.
I got big vision.
And I know it's a big part of your message.
You can even add a little of that if you want.
But like I've got a huge, I got a vision for my life.
I want to be somebody.
I want to win. I'm not completely sure exactly
what that looks like, and I'm just not sure
what I do next, and if they could get a meeting with you,
which is pretty damn hard to get,
it was hard enough even to get you here today,
what would you tell somebody asking you that question?
This one hits me, because I told you
in the beginning of this interview how I lost 27,000 bucks
Just like that. That wasn't really even my money. Mm-hmm
The biggest mistake that anybody watching this can have that I genuinely believe is trying to figure it out by yourself. I
Just
There is so much you do not know there is so much I don't. The more successful I become, the one thing that holds you every time is, wow, I wake
up every single day and damn, I don't know a lot.
There's so much.
Every single entrepreneur, person, human being that you meet, everybody's got their own superpower.
There's stuff that you'll take away from Ed.
There's stuff you'll take away from me.
The more superpowers that you can create an alliance with,
the faster that you will grow.
But do not try and figure that out by yourself.
I cannot stress that enough.
It is the soul, it just, you waste,
you save no money because you end up making new mistakes.
You save no time, please get help.
And that's something especially, shout out to women,
you guys are so much better at it than we are.
We are guys, we tend to be stubborn, know-it-alls, arrogant.
It's so insane and ridiculous.
And it just costs us so much pain that can easily be avoided by just finding people who
have already been there.
And you will be surprised at how many people are willing to help you.
But also too, when you go to help, make sure that you have something in exchange to offer.
And that's the biggest thing.
So like, listen, you want to talk about money in the simplest form, at least the amount
of money majority people want to make, which is just to cover their needs.
I will break down money to you very simply.
The amount of money you make is directly correlated to the amount of problems that you solve and
how big that problem is.
So for example, if your problem that you solve is being able to clean a place, well guess
what, there's seven billion other people on the planet that can also do the same thing,
so therefore that is worth $10 an hour, period.
You have to figure out what can you dive into for years to practice, what craft can you
can give that you can charge more money for because you can solve problems that other
people can't.
Doctors make so much money
because if one of us drops down to the floor right now,
either one of us will pay any amount of money
that we need to survive, especially with children.
Attorneys get so much money because if some goes down
and we're looking at prison time,
then we will pay any amount of money
to avoid them circumstances.
If a business is going to fail,
and that's how they provide for the family,
they will do anything in the world to avoid that
and they will pay for marketers,
or whatever the hell it is, right?
So the bigger the problem that you solve,
the easier it is to make money, very simple.
Fact, I knew, I gotta tell you,
like what you're saying there is scarcity equals value.
And so the more scarce the service you provide is,
the more valuable it is.
And I've had guests, and I've said,
today exceeded my expectations. Today it did not, and I'll tell you why I know how scarce your
skill set is and so I knew before we did this how valuable today was going to be
for everybody and I feel so good knowing I've been a part of something today that
provides such massive value for people and you crushed you flipping crushed
it and if you want to know by the way we're meeting right after this because
I'm getting his help and so if you you need any endorsement, there you go.
I'm getting his help.
And so thank you, Billy, so much today.
Thank you, and honestly too, like,
when Ed Mylette asks you to come to his house,
you can come.
Like, okay.
Young people out there, including their parents
who ask me so many questions about,
are there things I could be doing with my children
to position them for success as they get older?
And for you young people out there that are constantly messaging me about wanting to be
an entrepreneur, wanting to be successful, or just wanting to be happier in your life,
I want to dispel one thing that I hear other influencers say out there on social media
or on YouTube that could not be more wrong, which is telling young people all the time
to just be patient.
Enjoy your teens, enjoy your 20s. You've got forever. You're going to just be patient. You know, enjoy your teens, enjoy your 20s.
You've got forever, you're gonna live to 130.
There's no reason to get so worried
about being successful now.
And I gotta tell you, that is the most ridiculous advice.
I don't care how many followers the person has
that's telling you this, they could not be more wrong.
It's ridiculous and it's nonsense.
There's no reason simply because of your age
that you should not be after it,
that you can't be hustling that you can't become sicker
Is it is it 18 is it 28 is it 38?
It's ridiculous because there isn't a number if you've got the desire to win if you want to be somebody if you want to
Make your dreams come true. I don't care if you're 12 years old or 82 years old your age is irrelevant
It's a form of ageism to tell a young person just be patient. If you're like me,
my mom and my dad didn't give me a business. I didn't start on second or third base like some of
these people that are telling you somehow to be patient. I had to pick myself up by my bootstraps
and make something of my life and frankly the sooner you get going, the sooner you start working
on yourself, the sooner you make progress, the sooner you're going to get there and enjoy your life.
So don't listen to that crap.
Think about this, when I was in my 20s, I made six figures early in my 20s.
By the time I was 30, I was making seven figures.
By the time I was 40, I was earning an eight figure income.
What if somebody had told me, ah cool it, be patient, don't worry about it.
My entire life would be different.
I wouldn't be looking at the ocean, living ocean front now, or flying on my jet, or taking care of my parents, or having multiple homes,
living on the lake, having multiple boats, multiple cars, whatever the material things
are, donating to the charities that I want. And I listen to that absurd, ridiculous, stupid
advice. So please don't listen to those people who tell you that. They have good intentions.
They're talking about not putting pressure on yourself.
You've got all kinds of time.
The truth is a little pressure is probably pretty good for you.
Think about this.
Steve Jobs was in his 20s and teens when he started.
Bill Gates, Mark Cuban, Kylie Jenner, any entrepreneur that's out there today that you
know pretty well, most of them started young.
Jay-Z started young.
LeBron James started young.
Why is it that you can't start young?
Steve Jobs did, I did, Cuban did, Bill Gates did.
There's thousands of entrepreneurs.
In fact, the list of billionaires in the country gets younger every single year, as do the
millionaires.
You want to know why?
Because of these things right here.
Technology, your phone, your iPad, social media allows people at any age to win, including preteen
and teenagers.
And so please, parents, don't hold your kids back if they want to grow.
Now, now that we can get rid of that myth, what should I be working on?
Well, the first thing is this.
I think you need to start to read books on persuasion and influence.
And when you're watching social media or YouTube or listen to audio, somebody like myself,
study their style, study how they roll their words out, their vocabulary, begin to model them
and then modify to your style. Model and modify. Model people and modify. It's
going to be your ability to persuade people, to influence people, to cast a
vision, to transfer energy at any age of your life that's going to determine how
far you go. So start to study the great communicators.
That's number one.
Begin at any age to have your children or if you're one of those kids listening to this
young people, begin the process of setting goals early.
Right now begin to set goals and achieve them.
Write down your outcomes.
Right?
Third, begin to work on personal development.
Read some books.
Read Max Out Your Life, my book.
Go to maxoutbook.com. Read that book. There are other great books out there by many
people that you can begin to read around your school books or in the summertime
on personal development, on personal growth, on influence, on persuasion, on
leadership. Begin to feed yourself these great books, these great thoughts early
in your life and it'll change things. Begin to think about and work
on what am I gifted at, what am I good at, what am I passionate at, how could I turn
that into a business, how could I turn that into a cause, what are some of my natural
gifts and blessings and how do I leverage those into solving other people's problems.
Great businesses solve people's problems. How can my gifts, my blessings turn into a
business that can solve people's problems?
The next step is being a leader. You have to decide that you want to lead. You have
to step forward. That means not being like everybody else in your school. I don't care
if you're in sixth grade or you're in college right now. It's being a leader. It's not being
one of the guys. It's not being part of the pack. It's being different than other people.
It's thinking different than other people. It's learning early in life that other people's approval, your friends, your buddies liking
everything you do and believing in everything you do is not going to get you where you want
in life.
It's being a leader.
It's being a visionary.
It's being unique.
It's stepping out.
And when you're young, you're going to take criticism for it.
You're going to take flack for being different, for not going with the flow, for not drinking
with everybody or smoking weed with everybody.
Stay away from those things when you're young.
Stay away from them when you're old if you can.
These are not the practices of people that win.
Let everybody else smoke and do drugs and smoke weed and get in trouble and go down
that path and you lead.
You step out.
You be different.
You be extraordinary and you be proud of the fact that you're different.
The next thing is you've got to work on your self-confidence, right?
You've got to become more confident.
You know when you're listening, it's something you don't have enough of.
Self-confidence is the process, listen to me, of keeping the promises that you make
to yourself.
When you begin to make a promise, I'm going to get up at a certain time, or I'm going
to clean my room, I'm going to get a certain grade, I'm going to study, I'm going to do
something, deliver on the promise you make to yourself. Not what you promise
your parents or you promise your friends, what you promise you. When you begin to
stack what you promise yourself and you deliver on it, you begin to build a
reputation with yourself that you can trust you and that will serve you the
rest of your life when you trust and you like you. That's self-confidence. Keep the
promises you make to yourself.
The next part is start to work on your self-worth, your identity, which is different than just your confidence. Self-worth means I deserve this. I'm worth this. And that comes from doing the hard
work. That comes from being unique. It comes from noticing it when you're a leader, noticing it when
you do things other people don't do, noticing it when you turn away from bullying somebody and you're the kind one, or you interrupt
someone who's bullying and you stop it, or you step up in a situation and you lead and
you do the right thing and you begin to realize you're different, you're unique, you're special,
your self-worth begins to change and you believe over the time in your life, I deserve to win,
I deserve to be different.
The next thing is this, you got to take some steps, you got to take some actions, make
some mistakes, fall down, allow yourself to fail.
Failure is only failure if you don't learn something from it.
But the younger you are and the sooner you begin to take action and allow yourself to
learn and get experience, the stronger you become.
And if you stack experience onto self-worth onto self-confidence,
you have a formula that is going to separate you from everybody.
So what is it that you love? Is it sports? Is it music? Is it business?
What are some of your gifts? Is it your ability to speak, listen, your math skills, your kindness,
your humor, your beauty, your intensity, your passion, your ability
to learn, your ability to teach, right?
Your programming skills.
Maybe it's thinking creatively, thinking strategically, maybe it's just hard work, but what are you
gifted with and begin to leverage those gifts and talents towards your goals and dreams
and you'll be much happier.
And the next thing is this, dream.
I want you dreaming, I want you picturing your life.
I live ocean front here and when I was a little boy
I used to walk on this beach and say,
someday we're gonna live there,
someday I'm gonna have that house.
There was nothing in my family that told me
we should live somewhere like this.
My family were big dreamers, they're just good people
doing good things in their life,
but no one thought about owning jets or multiple homes or the beach. But I started dreaming.
I started thinking big. I'm standing on the beach. My home is right up there. And this
entire process started with just a thought in my mind of living here. When I was much
younger I walked on this beach with my then girlfriend and I began to think about living
here one day
and it opened a space in my mind as a young man
about what would it be like to live oceanfront.
I didn't know who these people were that lived here.
I didn't know how they got here.
That wasn't important.
What happened was I thought,
I had the thought about living here someday, the dream,
and it created a space that didn't exist with me
before I had that thought.
And then over time in my life,
I went to work on finding the people, the places, the things, and the resources to make this
thought a reality. Just like the chair you're sitting in started with a thought,
all of the details, the fabric, the seat, the structure became real. This beach
house, me living here, just started with a thought and it created a whole new
space in my life, whole new set of possibilities that over time I filled in
to make a reality,
just like you can if you think those big thoughts.
I started to think about what I wanted my life to look like.
Ultimately, if you don't take control about what you think about, you don't begin to dream
and picture your life for what you want, the rest of the world's going to dictate to you
who you turn out to be.
But if you start to stack, man, I've got self-confidence, right?
I'm a leader. I've got the ability, man, I've got self-confidence, right? I'm a leader.
I've got the ability to persuade. I've got self-worth. I'm taking these actions. And
then you start to really get a clear picture and a clear dream using your blessings and
your gifts. You've got such a chance to do something great. And here's the good news.
You don't have to be any age to do that. You don't have to be 30 or 40. There's not some
magic number. It's you. You're the magic and this time can be yours. Start to get that experience.
Always be positive. Stay away from negative people. Next thing, be careful
who you associate with. Don't allow negative people in your circle. You're
going to become the four or five people you hang around the most. Make sure you're
hanging around positive and growth-oriented people who also want to
make their dreams come true.
Because as you get older in life, your parents will tell you or your parents can tell your
children.
It's what separates us, it's who we associate with.
So I want to challenge you, read, pray about it if you're a praying person, ask God to
join you in your business, and believe me when I tell you anything is possible at any
age at any time if you stack up some of the things we've talked about today.
There's tons more stuff that I'll be covering on this channel, but I want to give you permission
now at this age to win.
Don't listen to the people who tell you you can't do it at this age or you should be patient.
Get your hustle on now.
Start making progress now and where you could go is magic.
The difference in your life, the direction, the places you can go when you start taking
action and dreaming big, it's magic, it's magnificent.
When I was young, I walked this very beach,
and I told myself, someday I'm going to live there.
I didn't know how I was going to do it.
And for right now, that's not the most important thing.
The most important thing is to get that brain of yours
and that heart of yours, that spirit of yours,
dreaming about the big things you want in your life.
And at your age, if you're young,
if you're a parent of a young person, don't hold back.
Think huge.
Think big about what you want in your life.
And the more specific it is, the more likely it is to happen.
So I want to challenge you.
Where do you want to live?
Who do you want to be someday?
What are the specific places?
And dream big and touch your dreams if you can.
And the more you get specific about what you want, the more you begin to really think about
it and touch it and feel it at a young age.
It just gives you that advantage on doing it younger. I mean, wouldn't you rather be wealthy young than wait until you're much older to be wealthy?
And so I want to challenge you, go touch your dreams, go see the things you want, start dreaming bigger right now.
And the more you can go see them and touch them and read magazines and social media about them or physically go to those places,
the more likely it is to happen.
There's gonna be moments of your life
that just take your breath away
because you can't believe how far you've come.
And then you're gonna go even further
and further and further.
Wanna challenge you to do that now at any age,
you can do it.
Max out, we'll see you soon.
We're gonna talk entrepreneurship today.
We're gonna talk business.
And the man to my left is impeccably qualified.
He's the CEO of Walmart E-commerce.
He's built and sold multiple different companies.
Sold one of them to Amazon, sold another one to Walmart.
This man knows an awful lot about building businesses,
starting businesses, scaling businesses, selling businesses.
And so we're gonna get a chance to talk about all that today.
So Mark Laurie, thank you for being here, brother.
Thanks, Ed, great to be here.
I get asked a lot, and I don't always know
what the right answer is.
Sounds to me like you've raised a lot of money
in the businesses you've done,
but I have entrepreneurs ask me often,
I don't know whether I should go borrow money,
because money's cheap right now,
or should I be giving equity away in my business?
Do you have a theory about when one is better than the other?
Should they be going to get cheap money
and leveraging their way to success or should
they be giving equity away?
Do you have a theory about that?
I do.
You can make a case for either way.
I like the idea of giving away equity.
One because you just don't have, if you're raising debt, depending on this usually covenants,
usually a timeframe,
and you could have a good business and it could fail
just because you can't meet the debt obligations,
like that kind of thing.
I never want that to be an issue.
I never want a good business to potentially fail
because it wasn't financed correctly.
If you raise equity, you always have the ability
to lay your debt on if you get into trouble.
You can't, if you already have debt,
you can't get in trouble, there's no more debt, right?
And it goes the other way.
When you get in trouble, the covenants kick in
and you have to repay the debt.
So I definitely think equity is the way to go.
Now, a lot of people say,
well, I don't want to give away a percent of my business,
or they're scared to lose control.
One thing I tell entrepreneurs
is a really important thing to know
is that there's a difference between selling a piece of your business and giving away control.
You can control the board of directors, control every decision, make it so that you can't
be fired, and still not on 100% of the company.
And there's lots of in between.
There's nuances. I mean, it's hard to get like, you know, zero,
or 100%, you know, control,
but there is, you can have 95% or 90 or 85,
and feel really good about the control piece,
and still only own 20% of the company,
or 10% of the company.
So, the ownership needs to be thought of
differently than control.
So, people worried about control,
you can solve for control,
and still sell a piece of the
company.
I think that's a really important lesson.
And then in terms of the percentage ownership, some people are like, hey, you know, like
I want to own this whole thing.
I don't want to just own 20% or 10% or 30%.
Yeah.
Well, at the end of the day, it's 10% of a billion dollar business.
That's a hundred million.
That's a lot better than 100% of a 10 million dollar business, right?
And so as you're raising capital, all you have to think
about is that this is a stock, and if you raise capital,
can you with this capital increase the stock share price
by more than you could without the capital?
It's actually just a simple equation.
And so you go to somebody and you say,
okay, your business is worth, it's worth a million bucks.
Okay, great. If you don't do anything and raise any money, what's it gonna be worth next year? Like your business is worth, it's worth a million bucks. Okay, great.
If you don't do anything, raise any money,
what's it gonna be worth next year?
Like, oh, I hope it's worth two million.
Great.
If you raise 10 million, it could be worth 50.
Yeah, well, that seems better.
You know, like it's sort of.
So wait a minute, this is so good,
because I was gonna ask you this,
what you're saying right now, because,
and this is interesting, because you do think that way.
Like, I get the sense that you want a big place
and you've had some big successes.
So this is so fascinating.
What if I do have a million dollar business?
I wanna know how you really feel about this.
I'm an entrepreneur,
because that's the majority of people
probably listening to this, right?
They are an entrepreneur,
they've got a business worth a million bucks,
maybe they're pulling 150, 200 grand a year out of it.
And they're saying to themselves, this is a lot better than when I used to work at a
bank when I was making 90.
They weren't like you or your bank.
I was making 90.
I had to be somewhere every single day.
Now I'm making a couple hundred grand.
I've got a business.
We've got a dream.
I kind of like the way that it is.
Is your advice like, hey, you have to go play big?
Because there's a lot of people in the space that are saying that now.
If you've got a two million dollar
business it could be a 20 million dollar business you should be thinking that way
or is it okay? Yeah I think it's I think it's perfectly okay this is where it
comes back to not everybody's got the appetite yeah to take risk and go for it
if you're happy then today hey we're all trying to just be happy in the end day
right it's like happiness if somebody says to me hey I want your advice Mark
I got this million dollar business.
I'm making 200,000 a year.
I don't know what to do.
And I ask them like, are you happy?
Oh, I love it.
It's great.
I have some time with my kids.
I'm able to do this.
I'm so happy.
There's your answer.
It's like, you know, there's your answer.
I'm so glad you said that.
Because I feel the exact same way.
Like I think everything we do comes back to one thing,
wanting to be happier.
I actually also think some of the best entrepreneurs
in the world understand that,
and their subliminal message they sell
for all their businesses is that somehow being involved
with us will make you happier.
I think that's the subliminal message.
Look at Ray Kroc with McDonald's.
Guy sold hamburgers based on happiness.
His number one meal is a happy meal,
and he's got a clown as a mascot.
They sell meat and burgers. They're unrelated, but they are related, right?
Candy Valentino. Welcome to the show.
Thank you so much for having me. It's truly an honor to be here, Ed.
It's an honor to have you.
I'm not going to have you on and not talk more,
not enough about the money pieces of things. So let's just go right to it.
First of all,
what would you teach children about money? Because I think a lot of us, I think a lot of adults who have an elementary understanding
still of money to no fault of their own. It's not taught in school. I learned to geometry
and algebra. I haven't used it since. Actually, I'm not even really sure I ever learned it.
I'm pretty sure I cheated off Melissa Ramos's paper for three years. But aside from that, even had I learned it, I'd never used it since.
I would have loved some basic budgeting, like how to read a financial statement,
you know, some of that stuff.
So what advice would you give to somebody?
Would you teach your kids about money?
So I want to say one thing before we get into all of this, because like we shared,
there's a lot of things, right?
The alcalades, the lists, the things that overcome.
But I want to make sure everyone knows
that there is nothing about my story.
There is nothing about my journey.
There's nothing that extraordinary.
I wasn't that smart.
I wasn't that connected.
I wasn't.
I just did a lot of ordinary things.
So this isn't going to be some like life-changing innovation
that we're going to charter a rover to Pluto.
Like these are gonna be very basic things
that anyone can do.
And I think that where the schools really miss
are teaching basic fundamentals.
And I mean, it could be as simple as like,
like we were saying, don't take on bad debt.
Don't buy the car because you can make the payment.
Just because you can make the payment
doesn't mean you can afford it. If you can't can make the payment doesn't mean you can afford it.
If you can't actually write a check for something,
you cannot afford it.
But what people wanna do is that they want to look
like they can afford something, so they take the payment
as opposed to writing a check for the car
that they can actually afford.
And so I think that's key.
And our kids are only gonna do what we do.
They're not going to listen to what we say.
Yeah, caught not taught.
Yes, caught not taught, yes.
So if you are telling them, hey, you
don't want to take on bad debt, and you don't want to live
beneath your means, and you want to save, and you want to give,
but you're not actively doing those things, you're a hypocrite.
Right.
So it's like, first, you've got to be able to do these things
and teach them to kids so that you can close the gap
where the schools leave out.
So a lot of it is, I think one of the quickest things
you could do for kids is if you give your kids anything,
an allowance or make sure that instead of just buying them
the next thing, that you give them a way
to budget their own money.
Let's say instead of giving them,
we're just gonna go buy your clothes.
You say to them, you know, we're just gonna go buy your clothes. You say to them you have
$300 for school clothes. I don't care if you buy a five hundred dollar or a hundred fifty dollar pair of shoes and two shirts Or if you buy 14 shirts and pants, but you have three hundred dollars and I'm not giving you a dime more
And you allow them to look at prices and figure out what they want and be able to go shop sales and maybe look on
Amazon or online to find it cheaper, but oftentimes I see parents just look at prices and figure out what they want and be able to go shop sales and maybe look on Amazon
or online to find it cheaper.
But oftentimes I see parents just shopping.
Very good.
So that's one quick lesson.
Shoot, I wish I would have done that.
No, for real, that's great.
Right?
And then it helps them if they ever want to build a business
or just with their own family how to budget money.
Another one is my late friend Anne always
did this with her three kids.
And she actually came from money.
So this is a really hard thing, I I think for people with money to even do.
But she would have her kids, she would give them whatever their allowance was for the
month and they could only spend half.
They had to invest 25%, they had to give 25% and they could spend 50%.
So what are you actually teaching your kids?
We can say, well, make sure that you donate,
but if you're not actually framing it
in a way that they can be successful,
kids, I see it every day at the shelter,
kids love to get involved in causes that they can see.
You know, donating their birthday presents to a charity
instead of just collecting more junk
that's gonna sit in a landmine year down the road
is a great way, getting them involved
and helping and giving back. Like, like you know we didn't have a lot
of course but I remember every Christmas going to Hills do you remember Hills
department store and they had a tree with with little angels on it and you
could pull a kid's name off a tree and I knew that that meant I got one less
gifts because we only had so much. But I remember that.
I remember pulling the angels and giving the gifts
far more than anything I ever got.
And that's so important.
And so I think some of those things are really, really key.
Making sure that...
You're totally wrong about one thing.
Where you said, like, what you're gonna say
isn't revolutionary or life-changing.
That really was.
Like, I've raised two great kids.
I wish I'd have done both those things. Like, I've raised two great kids,
I wish I'd have done both those things. Like, that's really a big deal, teaching them how to,
I mean, I want to go back through it. It's just, it's super good. It's really, really good.
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