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Episode Date: September 18, 2023

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I always say these are the stories behind the storytellers. I'm very excited to have this guest on here, y'all. First time on The Honeydew. Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Jared Freed. Welcome to The Honeydew, Jared. Thank you for having me. Such a pleasure to be here. I love watching a chef cook. I love watching that intro. you know what i was thinking when you were doing that because i do i'm a big intro guy like i like an intro it's it's necessary it's necessary sets up the show introduces what we got going on you give your dates we are comedians are the only people or podcasters i guess i would say who thank you the first thing we do thank you like that's how much we appreciate like i do the same because i just tape podcast for myself i just did an alone episode of my show

and i start with i can't thank you enough like and it's like you know you could be doing you could be doing anything you fucking want right you opted in opted in to this show. You're here for it. And we say thank you. I think it's important to acknowledge. Like, you know, you think Friends is starting with thank you for watching Friends tonight. They're fucking assholes. Yeah. Right?

Seinfeld doesn't come out at the beginning of Seinfeld. Hey, I just want to thank you guys for tuning in to my bullshit. No, they're like like you should take what we put out there I don't know the whole dynamic of entertainment has changed and that's not saying anything new but like the idea we really do appreciate

cause look at I walked in here you have a business there's a real business that is happening here. Making me feel good about myself you should this is a beautiful thing this is amazing here. It's making me feel good about myself, Jeffrey. You should. This is a beautiful thing. This is amazing. People are employed. People have work.

We're a modern day family business today. That's what this is. This is, and you're supporting a family business. This is, and you're putting joy. We allow people as podcasters to take their brain and put it on the shelf for an hour, whatever it might be, and get away from their thoughts. And it's the most intimate art form. We are inside of people's bodies.

Isn't that weird? People put AirPods in. It's the only thing. We're in them. Yeah. It's intimate. Inside them. And also, they're getting to know an hour each week of Jared and not Don, the bookkeeper

that you play on a sitcom. They're getting to know you. They don't like you because they love this character over here. They know you. Well, that's made. Then they root you on harder when you go be Don the bookkeeper or whatever. Absolutely. Or it's made stand-up.

You have to be more committed to your stand-up and what you do on stage. It's a different thing than what's going on here with you and I. This is to get to know the person. And yeah, then you say on here with you and i like this is to get to know the person and like yeah then you say oh you gotta go i just met this guy he seemed like a nice someone i'd be cool yeah we've never met before i've been a big fan i can tell you're a good person both ways thank you really tell um but before and i appreciate everything you're saying but i'm here to support you now so So before we get into this, plug, promote, everything and anything, social media, specials, all of it. The special 37 and single is out on Netflix.

It is, I want everyone to go watch it. That's it. It's on Netflix, 37 single. You can type in J-A-R, and I come up right next to the movie Jarhead. Hell yeah. I just already looked it up. So when does this come out i don't even know

a couple weeks okay so it's out yeah it's called 37 and single if you've been in your 30s if you've been single if you've had friends give you advice on being single if you've been to a gender reveal party if you have body issues if you have parents if you're jewish you're gonna love it that's it it's fun i'm not in the business of i come to your town and upset you and change your mind i am there to make you laugh and if you're i my audience is generally women um i think when men watch my show with their girlfriend or significant other they are seen in a in the light who they truly are which is a fucking disgusting idiot who's a little bit more vulnerable than people know and it likes to have fun a lot more you know because when we go on stage you know i because i get my audience is mainly women i get

a lot of women that come because i give dating advice i've been talking about dating for well you also i don't mean to interrupt you but you also do this favorite ick thing that i love and i laughed the other day because i saw one where the girl said the towel on the shoulder that's totally my move right you put the towel on the shoulder my move and i was like oh she hates that i'm unfuckable now that's like that's the thing that's the thing and you know the ick there's so there's an ick bit on the special yeah yeah and the whole reason i do that you know everyone's putting out crowd work clips to go ahead have at it but i had this bit where i talk about the ick and not understanding it

because it's not a very guy thing straight guy thing and then i went to the crowd i go does anyone have a fun ick and women were yelling out the most hilariously specific things. Just like a guy looking. And the ick being something that just drives them can't stand. Will not fuck that guy ever. That's ruined. I saw this one thing. And he's done.

And I'm out. That's the ick. And it's wonderful. Confident men can laugh at it. Yeah. The least confident men get angry. They go, oh, you're just a towel on your shoulder. And you go, oh, you tell me that.

You're fucking throwing up two towels on my shoulder. You know what I'm saying? Right. One woman's itch is another woman's husband. That's the whole fun part. Everyone knows that. What do you think? You're going to be fuckable to everyone?

Yeah, yeah. Fuck off. You're a little too confident. One woman's itch is another woman's husband. Right. It's the truth. I say that on the show because I had to tell, because then women would yell.

You know, again, everyone's angry. Everyone's not confident. So like there's male versions of not confidence and there's female version of not confidence. You know, you'd have some woman that would yell like, bad breath. And I'm like, well, that's not an ick. That's a turnoff.

You know, that's, no one in the room i always say i i have to set it up because now people have seen the videos and they want to yell their ex and i'm like i have to set up like some things are just turnoffs also it needs to be women i think because guys will sleep with anything you know what i mean go watch the bit go watch the bit i explain yeah listen it's not the most fucking genius bit in the world, but it's- It's so fun. I explained basically how little I understand that because there's no ick. Right.

You know, we- It doesn't matter. Whatever. And that's the thing. You know, when they say women dress for other women, guys dress for other women. You know, we want to be fuckable. So the idea of a guy getting knocked off his fucking stoop a little bit is funny.

Yeah, for sure. And so I love doing the, cause so it started as that. So I was like, I do the bit, I open it and then I go, does anyone have a neck?

And then I get all the crowd work bits, the clips I want. And it's a fun part of the show. And then I do the end of the bit. And that's what it was over the course of a year. So, but that's a special, this is a, part of the show. And then I do the end of the bit. And that's what it was over the course of a year. So, but that's a special. So go watch the special. And if you like The Bachelor, you can.

What is it, 37 and? 37 and single. And single, all right. It's on Netflix. It's been the greatest time of my life, just the last couple of weeks, like getting to like put it out there. Yeah, good for you.

So it's exciting. Now let's get to know a little bit about you you and i were talking before the show so you're from massachusetts massachusetts yeah you're a jewish family jewish yeah need them a brother you said you have a one younger brother four years younger all right um and then i got two parents still together they live in boca now they're like they made made the Jewish migration. That's really, it's Boca specifically. I hear that a lot.

I mean, they are literally like, it's hard to tell people because it's a punchline. Yeah. Yeah. But is there a large community of Jewish people in Boca? Are you alive? I didn't know. You didn't know? I knew it was old, but I didn't know it was specific.

You're very not Jewish. I'm Italian. Yeah, no, no, no. This is, I mean, it's old, but I didn't know it was specific. You're very not Jewish. I'm Italian. Yeah, no, no, no. This is, I mean, it's Boca Jews. Yeah. And it's Northeast Jews, all retired, all in communities. The communities are like little tiny summer camps. Okay.

They all have reputations of their own. My parents are like, I mean, at the end of my special, I put hidden cameras in the green room to tape my parents yelling at me. So if you go to the credits of my special, it's my parents. Why are they yelling at you? Just because that's what they do. They were like, I was like, my original idea was, I want my parents like giving me shit in the way they do. And then I want to smash, I want to open with my parents like giving me shit in the way they do. And then I want to smash.

I want to open with my parents being like, you did this. You wore that. What are you wearing? What's going on? And then cut to me on stage. I'm 37 and single. It got too confusing. I think for people who knew me, it was funny.

But like as a standup special, like you would just want to get, let's get into it. So we put it in the credits. They still don't know. It hasn't come in the credits. They still don't know. It hasn't come out yet. So they still don't know that there was hidden cameras in the green room. So we taped them. And it's like, and it was funny because before when we were leading into it,

you know, laughing, you know, homeless pimp who made the special, he was like, he goes, he's the best. And he goes,

how are we going to get them to like say shit? I go, he goes, do you want them to like read lines? I was like, yeah, how you're going to have so much fucking shit. We're going to have B say shit? I go, he goes, do you want them to like read lines? I was like, yeah, how? You're gonna have so much fucking shit,

we're gonna have B roll. And he goes, you don't wanna like make sure they have like a line to say to you? I go, if you give them a line, they won't be good at it. I was like, and we got done taping and Lavin looked at me, he's like, this is fucking crazy. Cause it's my mom being like, take a picture of us. No, you take the worst pictures.

And then it's my dad, the makeup woman walks in, no you take the worst pictures and then it's my dad the makeup woman walks in he goes i told her make you look tan like it's shit it's just parent shit yeah so we have all that so like yeah my parents like all we do is scream and yell and it's like it's just a whole thing like it's um and right now like i'm on the road i'm doing a different hour than the special and it's all about my family. And it's like this idea that like, you know, I'm 38. And it's weird that like I'm in this like business relationship with them. Like I do feel like I like hanging out with them. We are together a lot.

It's just they give me shit in ways that if a stranger did, I wouldn't speak to that person again. You know, like everything's a battle. Everything's an explanation. Why would you do it this way? Even this week, I flew here on Thursday. And then I went back to New York on Saturday. Yeah. And then came back here on Sunday.

That's nuts. Nuts. I don't, I, and my dad goes, where are you? And I go, I go, I didn't explain it to you because you wouldn't understand. And then he goes, what do you mean? I go, I flew here Thursday. Then I flew back on Saturday. Then I flew back on Sunday to LA.

And he goes, yeah, you're right. I wouldn't understand. Yeah. So end of conversation. Just don't ask any questions. so tell me about your dad you said uh well you brought up business small business family business here what did your dad do for a living he wholesale liquor beer and wine okay so like but is that for himself or he worked for a company like what did he it was a family but it was like my grandparents my family um and it was like you

know a long time my you know my dad has three siblings they everyone was involved in everything and then they also did nursing home stuff and just ran nursing homes and assisted care living facilities so and then those just slowly kind of like got sold and that was it but my dad was always like encouraged you know you got to go help the family type of thing. And I think when I started doing comedy, he, to my brother and I, he was always like, go away. He was good with that. There was no, it wasn't going to happen that way.

Just, that wasn't even an option. He did not want you to do this. It didn't seem, it just never came up. You know, one got sold when I was in like high school, whatever. And the other, he like went and worked at and helped with. And it just wasn't like we're going to go third generation on this. Right. That wasn't even a thought.

And to us, he was very much a supporter of like, I went to Penn State. And then he's like, go to New York. New York is where it happens. Well, I don't know what but that's where successful people go yeah you know go do something yeah and he would always say you can't do nothing and I'm like that's helpful thanks you know okay well how about get some ideas right right yeah car dealerships's new to you. Can't do nothing.

I was like, well, how about a little direction here? So yeah, I was just like, I went to a state school. You're living in unreality. Penn State is like the thickest bubble. You just go there and party and have fun. And there's no person in that town who could hire you one day. Yeah. You know, so you're kind of the top of the pecking order and you don't give a fucking shit.

So, you know, I walked around in an Elvis wig and overalls at football games. Did you? Yeah. So I was like a fucking idiot. And I, you know, had fun, made the friends of my life, you know, like all that stuff. And then, yeah, so my family, like growing up,

like it was like just a lot of ball busting, like just a lot and then yeah so my family like growing up like it was like just a lot of ball busting like just a lot of like my dad has a big family you know so that's where we come from like it's like hey asshole right like you say that to a regular person they're like what do you call me right like and it derails i'm like no that's just that's hello like that's just getting your attention you know i'll never yeah they don't even my grandmother my grandmother my grandmother i brought her to a show in boston i opened for steve sweeney i was like steve sweeney is the biggest fucking boston comic ever i go open for i bring her to nick's comedy stop they had it in like a ballroom at that point like it was just a

different type of club than it was in the past and I remember my grandmother was sneaking nips, the airplane vodkas, and she kept pouring her own drink, which she always did. That wasn't new to me. Right, yeah. And I got off stage and the owner, or the booker, Ryan, he's like, "'We just saw your grandmother pouring her own drinks.

That's how we make money. Like, what's going on?' And he was like, "'Can you talk to your grandmother?' I was like, we just saw your grandmother pouring her own drinks. That's how we make money. What's going on? And he's like, can you talk to your grandma? I was like, not going to talk to my grandmother about her drinking habits. And I go, Nana. But also, fucking let the lady have a couple of drinks, bro. What's it really setting you back? $4?

I'll pay it. Thank you. Thank you. Right. Come on. and i don't know why i did i went and talked to her i go nana they saw you pouring your drinks you gotta stop like and i'm also like the young comic i'm trying to figure shit out i'm trying to get booked again of course and she goes i don't know what you're talking about like full criminal yeah just total criminal activity fucking balls i was like man i know what you know what i'm talking about and she was like he can he can go shit in his hat that's it that's her yeah that's a good one right that's such an old person thing to say i don't even know what it means totally yeah so yeah that's like but that's

an example like that's how she was like it was. Yeah. So, yeah, that's like, but that's the example. Like, that's how she was. Like, it was just everyone was like that. Fired up. Yeah. But that's Boston, too. Like, everyone's just ready to, like, fuck with you. Listen, that whole. Right.

It's, Gaffigan and I talked about this. From the mid-Atlantic up. Yes. It's just an angry, aggressive, shit-talking, fucking thick-skinned location. I totally agree. And you better be fucking ready for it right you just better it's not even personal sometimes right it's just some shit talking right i it's funny like we talk about those crowd work clips you see a lot of comics posting them and it's like sometimes i see

people you know it's just like you weren't built for this you see people post them you go this isn't in your nature you know like and you know you're cut you got a cousin that's 20 times funnier over there at the house dropping them left and right right and i could if i came back to my cousin with that the whole room go what the fuck yeah what are you talking about yeah yeah all right so there's two stories i really want to hear about we talked earlier you had an accident when you were younger i want to talk about this do you remember what you said so yeah i got my license and were you 16 when you got it 16 and a half okay is what you get your license it's funny because all these revolve around football we love football your next story does too i know so i love but i i'm a football fan okay who you grow up like are you patriots you know and the patriots now gets this like reputation that you're like all of a

sudden, cause they were good. You're a bandwagon. Like, I think like my dad and his best friend were always just like big Patriots. They like loved it. I think they were also the types like Foxborough, like the people who,

I guess that's generally football fans. Like it's a, you know, blue collar, we're going to scream and yell the whole game type, you know, baseball's a little more's a you know blue collar we're gonna scream and yell the whole game type you know baseball's a little more reserved you know a little more again you can you see your people there but it's like you know there's people that go to a game after work right you know football sunday yeah people nobody's in their time from work and painting their face and shit yeah

they're just fucking yeah gone hammered hammer like we used to go to the patriots game and we went my whole life my family we always had season tickets to everything like because my dad liquor business you give them out oh hell you know so he we always had tickets we always had the game and we were even at the snowball game i'll never forget are you really the one with the snowplow guy came through? No, no, no. That's an older one. That's the old snowball game. Okay. The Brady-Tuck rule game.

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. We called the snowball. It was my brother, dad, and I. We're in the stands. We see Brady go back. Ball pops out. My dad goes, let's fucking go. He collects us all.

I'm in high school. My brother's in middle school. We start running out of the stadium. We start going, you know, if the stadium is like this, we're on this side. So we're running across the stadium to get to my dad's car.

And then we're on, we're literally at the goal line of you go past this point. You're not allowed back in. We hear the crowd go fucking nuts. And we're like, we got to go back. We turn're like we gotta go back we turn around we go to seats that weren't even ours and they overturn the call now it's not a fumble Patriots ball they kick a field goal I'll never forget it we're in the stands and it's the last

game of Foxborough Stadium this guy next to us is just peeing in the stand. Yeah. And he's pissing. Pissing. And I remember, I'm in high school. He looks at me and goes, I can't miss this game. And this wasn't late. That's like what was going on. And that's the type of animals who go to games.

Like, I remember we used to sit in front of this one family. My dad and my dad's best friend, I think, growing up, used to go to Patriots games. And the Patriots were always the fourth team. Yeah. They weren't the Patriots that now people hate. They weren't the evil empire. You had the 85 team, and then that was pretty much it. That's it.

And the Celtics, the Red Sox first, the Celtics, and then the Bruins is a different crew, but always popular. Always. Patriots. And my dad and his best friend, we used to watch every Sunday. That was when we ate. That was when we brought in special food to our house. That was a big deal to me.

That's a warming feeling for me. Yeah. And I remember they used to talk about a guy that sat behind them and we get fucking tanked and the whole game go, hit him, hit him, annihilate him, hit him, hit him. So my uncle, who's my dad's best friend, we used to call him Uncle Steve. He'd go the whole game, hit him, hit him. So then we do that. Like we have these like things.

It's like, you know, football was always just a part of like everything. And I remember I got my license 16 and a half. I was born in February, so I'm getting my license in the summer. Right? That would make sense math-wise. And we had preseason Patriots tickets. And my dad's like, go with your brother. Go to the game.

What freedom? You know? Like, your first time driving. And you got your 12-year-old brother. He's four years younger. Four years first time driving. And you got your 12-year-old brother. He's four years younger. Four years younger. Yeah, so you got a 12-year-old. And we get to be on our own and do whatever the fuck we want.

By the way, I haven't asked. You or your brother, do either of you, I know you say you're single, but do either of you have kids? No, he's engaged. Okay. Yeah, he's engaged and she's great. But also, like, he got engaged older. You know, he's engaged and she's great. And, but also like he got engaged older, you know, he's 33, 34, you know, like we, it's really been like the four of us.

Like, it's like, and we do all, I'm very lucky. I understand when families kind of go their own ways. Yeah. We're all very much alike. Like the things we relate on, food, sports, ball busting, you know, we're in a way that I know it's a lucky thing. You don't, that just doesn't happen. Yes. I know family dynamics are hard. Some people can't let you go, you know, and then other people come into your family. My dad used to always say, my dad gives the, my dad says things that I don't think he realizes are good,

but he also, it always sounds a little fucked up. So he's like, it's not the, he'd like be next to my mom. He's like, he'd go, it's not the family that argues. It's the people that marry in and rip you apart. He's right, bro. He's right, bro. And he is right. I don't know if you say that next to my mom.

Like he says shit like that. And I go, I know what you're saying. Like, I've always played the part of empathy person my whole life. Like, there's no, like I've always had the,

I see what you're saying, even though it's not in a way I, I can see the. You can make that a little more palatable. It's my. Yeah. It's probably, if I'm going to give myself credit, it's my best quality. And it's my quality that wastes my time the most. Because I'm sitting there thinking of how did you come from that angle?

And, but I, when he said that, I was like, he is right. Because when you're in a family dynamic, you go, that's a place I'm going to say something. That's a place I'm not. And the place you don't is where your wife or girlfriend or whoever comes in and goes,

you better say something about it. You better. What are you? Fucking pussy. Right. Now they get the ick. I don't get fucked because I didn't tell my dad to shut the fuck up and stop asking me questions.

100%. You know what I mean? 100%. And this probably all has a reason I'm 38. This is probably why I live in fear of commitment. I'm like, we got a good here. You know? Yeah.

You don't want to break this up. Right. Oh, shit. So this is all. It's that Yoko that you don't want coming in. up. Right. Oh, shit. So this is all. It's that Yoko that you don't want coming in. Right. You're not breaking up the four of you Beatles. I live in fear of it.

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Mindbloom.com slash honeydew and use promo code honeydew. Now, let's get back to the dude so so you and your brother are headed to get in the car to a pre-season game if you've ever been to foxborough stadium it's not a very easy place to get to it's one road it's out there right it's out there it's you know 45 minutes from boston but like for my house it wasn't 45 you know it's it's an okay drive so we go out there and i've done it a million times even at that age what are you driving jeep liberty okay okay a little mini uh medium suv a medium it was my car i was given a car right away wow so that tells you everything you need to know about my family background yeah which i'm okay with some you know some have one have a Jeep.

Some people get the old Corolla. That's what I... Out of 82. There's some... Yeah, yeah, yeah. Listen, every comedian will try and outpour me. Not hard to do. No, I'm not trying. I'm just laughing.

That's the exact fucking car. Is it really? Yeah, it really is. Okay, so you guys are into Jeep Liberty. Jeep Liberty, brand new. Maybe blue. What color is it really yeah it really is okay so you guys are in a jeep liberty jeep brand new navy blue what color is it black okay so and this relates to the other story that my grandfather like was like i got you my grandfather was always spoiling me like my mom's dad my mom's from michigan he spoiled me to death i was the first grandson he is like uh he's an amazing person he was he was an amazing person like uh but to me i could do not it was always i was the number one out

so i think that's a big grandparent thing your first one you know i i think i don't know i would assume i mean i'm a dad i can imagine my daughter's first child's going to be a big deal. Yeah. Right. You're going to go. The one. And you'll get everything. And you get to be grandpa.

Yeah. That's what I'm saying. You made him a grandfather. Right. Yeah. So I think he was just like, car, you know, whatever you want. So we're driving to Foxborough, which is like a little, not a drive, you know, a want so we're driving to foxborough which is like a little not a drive you know a little bit of a drive and it's a one it's like kind of a one lane highway

to get into the stadium and it's not really a great drive it's actually known for that so what they did is they took they had a median in the road and they took the other side of the street and they made it go a different way than it normally goes so i in the car drift out to that lane that normally goes east and is now going west okay yeah there's a cop on a motorcycle i'm a month into a license there's a cop on a motorcycle who i know for a fact didn't remember that they made the show the road that goes east go west so he's looking so wait you're actually going the right way i'm going the right way you're going the correct way right he's not he's looking the other way and I know I'm right because if I was, the way the crash happened, he crashed. So then I'm coming in and he turns into the side of my car.

And I'm like, oh my fucking God. And how fast is like, how fast are you guys going? Not fast, I'm like in traffic. But he's also on a motorcycle. That's deadly even as you go down. Right. deadly even as you go down right but if he again to crash into the the side of my car from that position you have to be looking the other way yeah it's not my it i've looked thought about this a million times it couldn't have been my fault but i'm 16 and a half and and a month he's

a cop and he's a cop and it's a bike i'm like oh my god my life is over we pull over the car i'm like looking at my brother i'm like fuck fuck fuck i'm screaming i'm like i'm done it's over i hit a cop it's bad on a bike and i'm like fuck and they come over i'm like i'm sorry immediately it's my fault i did everything oh no right like I'm not sitting there being like, fuck you. Fucking guys. What the fuck? He's looking the wrong way. My brand new Liberty got there.

Right? It's a brand new car. Come on. My grandpa bought this for me. Like, I'm not, you know, getting cocky. Yeah. I'm a fucking junior in high school. Oh, shit.

So we went i remember i had to like go to court and like show up in court and they're like and you was he banged up or was he no they let me off the hook but made it sound like they were doing me a favor which isn't the case if If I look back now, I'm like, no, you're all just going to cover for one another. Oh, yeah. You don't want this cop going to get known. From a 16-year-old kid. Right. And you fucked up.

And I think the idea, I remember them being like, oh, he's been getting shit about it. Yeah, he was getting shit about that he turned the wrong way. He forgot which way the street was going. You know they all fuck up. I know that. And they're like, we're going to let you off. You know, this is a good learning lesson. And I'm like, it wasn't the lowest point in my life,

but it definitely was like, it just. It's a hell of a way to start your driving fucking record. Yeah, bro. And now I got my mom. You drive too slow. It's like, well, you didn't hit a cop. Day one. Day one. Right right i'm a little fucking ruined yeah that's terrible terrible um i want to hear this other story involves football this is one that you said uh we were going to talk about and this is interesting

so then the patriots get good again i'm at'm at that Tom Brady game. It's not just football. It's Patriots again, too. It's the Patriots. Patriots go to the Super Bowl. Which one is this of your, what, nine? Nine or whatever it is. The helmet catch game. Oh, the David Tyree. David Tyree.

So I don't know what year this was. Whatever it was, I was selling life insurance, and I'm making cold calls every day. I'm fucking miserable. This is the life. Again, go to New York City, do something, you can't do nothing. Right. And I'm there.

And honestly, I was just like there kind of parking my car. Like, I'm just like, let me figure out what I want and which direction I want to go to. But also, you know, they're going to do this job. And at first I was giving it a gung-ho, like maybe this will be my career. And then when you learn something isn't, you start going, okay, let me figure out

what's the next move. And my idea, my thing was I wanted, you know, I didn't want to do the next thing unless I was going to sprint at it. I hear you on that. You know what I mean? Yeah. So like, and even at a young age i was

like disillusioned with like i could feel that i was like part of this like someone else's grift you know life insurance like i was on a team but it wasn't really a team this guy just needed numbers to get you know you could feel that and then some people succeed and i'm sure they do well and i actually was jealous of people who love their job. Like I was like, like you'd see like these people, they come and they convince themselves that they were like, I'm Gordon Gekko. Right.

You could, there are people and you go, it's laughable. But if anyone who's ever sold life insurance, there's someone there who's crushing it. Oh, no doubt. Yes.

There's the Tom Brady of life insurance. No doubt no doubt yeah there's someone that makes it out but they go through a lot of people to not real estate same thing you know selling sunset you know like there's people that they got the slick back hair they got the good look and they got the cool car and you go this must be an easy job and you go no you have to be you know good at this and delusional yeah you know like to be able to sing dance and dust and that but i i was jealous of the idea like i don't like when someone's like oh you got out of that to be a comedian good for you wow you're out of the rat right i'm like no there's everyone there's someone in every industry who's and i think what happens is you get i remember remember when I left selling life insurance, I was like, they kind of like, when you're in an office space, you're like, this is the only way to make 100 grand.

And then when you get out of that, do you know what I mean? Yeah. And you get out of that and you go. I was there for sure. What did you do? I wrote and produced promos and upfront presentations and sizzle reels and produced and directed for networks for a long, long time, daytime. And at nighttime, I would still do. And weekends, I would tour and do comedy.

Wow. I mean, and you probably looked at someone in that production world and was like, that's the guy. Yeah. Or the person, whatever it was. That's the one I, if I really did it a certain way i'd end up there i'd be that guy right and then you then i'm like i don't want to be that guy right you slowly realize you don't have the energy for it no like i literally physically comedy i've always

had the energy you know it's easy when you love it right it's easy to you know it's not easy but you know what i mean it's it's way better than dragging yourself to a place that you hate, you know, whether it's whatever. I'm going to Jiffy Lube today and I'm changing oil and I fucking hate it. Then do something about it. Well, I used to always think of like I played football my whole life. I played Pop Warner, then I played high school. And I was always like, I wasn't built for it like as a human but I was always like good at it like I played d-line as a smaller I wasn't like a six foot five three you know like but I remember

in high school they'd be like scout team and I would run out there and the the best feeling in the world and I'm telling high school football stories yes i know how much of a fucking loser this makes me but i remember the best feeling in the world was being a sophomore on the scout team who embarrassed the fuck out of the senior yeah you know i they'd be doing the drills the first team and i'd somehow figure out a way and because i was pretty good you know whatever and I'd I'd ruin their practice

and then they'd do the thing they'd grab you and be like who is this? this guy? this fucking loser? that's what they'd do yeah you let this guy

shit all over you right and it was really an insult to you yeah you know what I'm talking about? this piece of shit right here they eat your looks

you let this fucking loser what's your name? and you'd be like Jared Jared You know what I'm talking about? This piece of shit right here. You let this fucking loser. What's your name? And you're like, Jared, Jared. You didn't even have your name on your helmet. Just a fucking loser. You let this loser.

Trash at you. You know, and the guy who you're. It's like, wait a minute, I did well. Not good job at all to you. No, no, no, no, never good job. This piece of trash just owned you. Football is the most instructive thing, right? Yeah.

And there's like, it is so. Oh, shit. And I, that was the best feeling in the world to me. I just love that. And I was like, this happened my whole life. I remember my, I'll tell you another story. This is, and I'm going to get, believe me, I'll get to it. Then we'll hear what happened to you.

It all leads to this, but football is very important to me. I was a junior and I started at D-line as a junior, which not a lot of people in my class did. I'll never forget it. I mean, I was, we were playing against Framingham. It was under the lights and Framingham's driving out of their own 20. Quarterback rolls to the left. I go to meet him if he's going to run.

I start sprinting that way. Throws it. I catch it. Intercepted. I ran it for a touchdown. Hell yeah. So I ran it under the lights. I like turned.

I had it on video. It was like. They didn't even play that well. That's how shitty we are. This is Boston high school sports. It's bullshit. You know, I do like a fist pump. I look like a fucking idiot.

And I'll never forget, we go in the locker room and it was like before halftime. And I remember like these two guys who I played football with growing up. They were a year older. They're going, Jared Freed scored a touchdown? That loser? Like, they were talking about it as if,

like, a Make-A-Wish kid did it. Like, they go, what? Can you believe of all the people? And I'm going, I'm right here. I played with you. I've been good.

What am I, delusional? Like, was I delusional my whole life? I have been pretty good my what am i delusional like was i delusional my whole life i have been pretty good my whole life yeah like hey got those good soft hands man that's right bro what are they talking i was but that is one of those moments you hear someone say exactly what they think of you and you're like oh i remember um i i was wrestling one year right after my father had died just like three months before this. And I'm in this tournament. It's like a holiday wrestling tournament.

So it's December or it's like February. And it's, you know, 12 different schools from the surrounding area come and meet. And you're doing an all day tournament and shit. And they asked me to wrestle a class up. And, you know, if the guy's fat i got it but if he's solid with muscle it's it's a long ass day you knew your type yeah it's a long day and um they put me up against this kid that's just a monster and i'm i'm giving up at least 15 pounds i'm on the scale with a pudding cup eating it with my singlet and everything on and it's not even budging right and i go in and um i am definitely supposed to lose this coach like listen just don't

get pinned we you know just try to stay don't get pinned we don't need that just just fight them off for the team i'm like okay i go in this dude's a big motherfucker and he just did you wrestle as well he i just gave him you know a little check his head and i just chuck him by me a little bit and his neck just sticks out far enough and i was like fuck it and i threw a headlock on him and flipped him and dropped on him and then i took that arm and i shoved it over his fucking mouth and nose and i rocked and i didn't just rock i prayed that i would hear the because i knew if i didn't, this kid's going to get up and he's going to fuck me. I knew he made a mistake and I caught him.

Right. You got him on a bad day. That's it. He stuck it out just a little too far. I noticed it. Everything works in my favor. And then I hear the boom and the kid gets pissed. I win.

He doesn't want to fucking shake my hand. The whole thing. your team must win fucking not coach is going nuts i'm going nuts yeah we get on the bus coach is giving out awards at the end but instead of saying this one goes out to you know uh guy who had also also ended up being the fastest pin in the entire tournament right could have said a lot of positives here this guy goes this award right here goes out to the guy who should have never won there's no way he should have we already had him down for a pin you know what i mean i'm just like man there's a way how about the guy who won us the meat yeah what the fuck is this way to put my tires you know what i'm saying you could have

done this in any way you want it never would shouldn't should have been oh man that's the miracle man i was like it was such an important moment for me because i was like man i was just so angry with everything with my dad dying and confused and everything and i go out there and boom i go in the locker room and i just break down have just a wall of emotion just right and then they get on there and he says that shit and i'm just like this is also you know you're not like the thing is like there's a thing where it's like not every time has to be a comeback down to earth yeah you know you got lucky you know this is a one in a lifetime moment this wasn't you know that's the annoying part yeah it's like i don't need to be reminded i knew it when i was

like god don't get up don't get up oh god god i squeezed everything i had like oh god don't do it you heard it you had your rocky moment you had your fucking like let me have it bro let me have yeah and then they gotta remind you well we still don't think you're shit but here's a paper right right that's so funny yeah so tell me what happened so this is all to say that when i was doing the live children's thing i wasn't really like enjoying my life um and when i do stand-up that was the only thing when i remember when i started doing stand-up that was the only thing when I remember when I started doing stand-up that was the only thing that felt like that scout team

moment you could just go to an open mic and go and do it you could just go to any you get on stage every day just by signing your name on a list same as scout team like I don't know I had such energy for that who we need we need scout team sprint right out we got

open mic sprint right out like i just always had that feeling that was akin to the the scout team feeling i was literally running through mud when i was doing the live insurance thing i just was like i can't wake up in the morning i don't feel great but new york city in the fall when you're fucking in your 20s, I don't think there's a better place in the world to be. Football Sundays, that's when everyone's, you know, it's a transplant town. So it's not like- You're right. So like-

Here too, yeah. Right. So football Sundays at a bar in LA and New York, those are the greatest times to meet people, make new friends, be around this kind of like group that is bigger than just the people you move to the city with everyone's got their people from work or from friends from high school friends from camp whatever it was that was a really good place to meet people so i had this like group that we would go out sundays get hammered watch the games and then that was it so i like loved sundays and

football so the patriots they go on they're the best that ever was that season they're the undefeated season oh this is the right because that was the thing that broke it so undefeated season everyone's talking patriots every week's a party and my grandfather again is like i want to send you guys the super bowl and i'm like i i'm like yeah this is the dream season they're undefeated my grandfather who fucking spoils me on everything. Like, he's like, I'm sending you. If they go, you're going. And I'm like, yeah, fuck it.

Of course. And my cousin and his friends who happened to be going. So it was in Arizona, sends us out there and I go and there's not a lot of hanging out like you know if you're not if have you ever been to a super bowl no here's the thing about going to a super bowl it's not that fun it's very corporate if you're not it seems like it to me like it would be it would be fun or no it would be not fun it'd be very like regimented and like we're doing this corporate event over here for co-Cola and Xerox or whatever the fuck. You have to have a lot of money

to have fun at the Super Bowl. It sounds like it. And if you don't, you're just kind of like one of those people at the NFL experience holding a big Bud Light. If you don't got money, not a lot of places to sit you got the tall boy over the nfl experience right you're just like walking through a big fucking stupid kids thing with a beer so we were like it was like the friday saturday night before and it's like what

are we gonna do so we're like let's go to a strip club like let's go and we go and i'm like you know we walk in and they're like do you guys want to go to the back we're like yeah fuck it they're like how much and it was like 100 bucks each it was like i remember being reasonable and you're like yeah let's go to the fucking back it's reasonable and i don't like telling the story because i i it really is like i'm not a strip club guy you know i'm not just going strip clubs every time you know like i'm not proud of it i'm like i'm also 24 23 but i'm putting this out because i i don't want to like i just anytime a strip club comes up i'm like i i i've been no you know i don't like strip

club guys like have you ever been on the batch party where like there's that guy that needs to go like i'm not a roommate had a roommate that was gone you know on wednesdays yeah no that's not i don't so no i know you know especially i've always been like a single guy like i want to be around women that might want to actually you know like so i'm just not that guy i don't know and there are those guys and that's it's all okay but so we go they bring us in the back and we are getting drunk and i'm like i don't know when this happened but they're like do you want to stay and i just remember taking i had a money clip and i remember taking out my wallet and i'm like it just explodes everywhere and one of the people picks up my

car they're like come on let's go and i'm like yeah and honestly that's the last thing i remember i don't have any and we just wake up there there yeah oh man you got drugged big time so you definitely did there's no question in my mind we We wake up. No question. And it's my cousins and I. The same people you were with are still there. And we're just like, what? So my question, what time did you get there roughly? I don't even remember. It's so long ago.

And also like. What time did you wake up? Like morning? It was like that scene in Varsity Blues. Yeah. They walk out and we're like, what happened to time? Is the club still going? We were like, let's get out of here.

Like it wasn't like, I just remember being like. In here to vacuum. Time to go. And we're like, and it didn't really hit me, the drugging thing. Because I'm like, I have to assume now that's what happened. And it's only because of that movie Hustlers. The Jennifer Lopez movie. I've never seen that one, yeah.

I think it was like, were like yeah it's based on a true story they took advantage of these fucking losers and i'm like yeah i'm the loser you know like i'm going and i think it's cardi b that got in trouble for saying that they used to do that the strip clubs drug the guys and rob them and well something i they took a thumbprint to like make it you know like it's very hard to like just when you have the the signature and the thumbprint they did that wait they took your thumbprint and did the signature for how much on the card how much 10 grand no 10 grand jared free they got 10 grand on a credit card on what did they cash it out it's just done i didn't even ask quite i just had to receive my

pocket and you're like what the fuck and now we're going to the game and i'm like are you do you have enough we just and it was my dad's car so my dad and again i'm like 23 i've got a card attached to him i'm trying to like figure shit and i'm i'm like oh my god like so here's the other thing about this too that i'm now looking at the business side of it if i'm a sex worker most likely that's probably not a local girl she's probably come in from somewhere else because they know that you guys are coming in from around the world for the Super Bowl. Cash heavy. Cash heavy, right? Card heavy, too.

Running up as much as we can, they're probably all in on it. And they get guys like you and probably Slip Maroofy or whatever it is, Xanax, and their alcohol, mix it, black out. They're gone. They don't remember it. Boom, they take it, and then they're gone. It's not like you're going back to that strip club and it's like, come on, Trixie, we know what you did. You know what I And then they're gone. It's not like you're going back to that strip club and it's like, come on,

Trixie. We know what you did. You know what I mean? You're never seeing them again. And I'm more worried about my dad than the money. You know, like I'm like, I don't know what to do.

And I'm like, again, I'm close to my family. Like I, you know, there's a betrayal here. I feel horrible. And I'm also like not remembering anything.

Like I'm sitting here with you trying to like put together. I don't have any details. Like, and we go to the Super Bowl the next day and you're just. You don't go to the police. You don't report this. No. Like, I didn't even know what that you could do that. You don't tell the club anything like, hey.

I just, you know, it's right now as i'm telling you i'm like how did i not do these things but i was just like get out of the hell out of here like i don't know how this like does anyone remember anything no one had an answer how many people total with you like four and they got all of you and you all woke up together and everything everybody's sort of coming to at the same time coming to the same time get out weird isn't that weird that is weird that's almost timed that's weird yeah fuck i felt so bad and then also like the anxiety from drinking and you're like again like i i've blacked out i've gotten too drunk we've all had those nights yeah but we've done that to ourselves you got robbed bro

you know like that that's something i won't even admit today like that you got robbed right why do you feel embarrassed you got took like is it what is an ego thing i don't know i just don't when you don't have the memory i see you go like if i was held at gunpoint you'd go yeah i was right i was at a strip club drunk but not i don't remember being that you're saying the last thing you remember was the they grabbed your car and somebody's like let's do it you're like go ahead and that was it that's the last last thing wow until you wake up wake up and nothing's ever come back nothing's ever come back receipt in my pocket 10 grand yeah and i was like that's fucking crazy and i wish to god it was

my credit card because then i just keep it a secret when does it hit your dad's when is it your dad like so we go to the super bowl the tyree catch happens we're like yeah we need this oh we're like i just need them to win. I need something good. Can you imagine? I would say of all the Super Bowls to see them lose, that's probably the worst. We're like, we did this. In my mind, I did this.

I'm the reason. I'll never forget. We were so mad. I'll never forget. We were at the stadium. I just peeled my jersey. I had a jersey on. I peeled it off and just put it in my pocket,

like my back pocket. I was like, I'm not getting shit. Because it a jersey on. I peeled it off and just put it in my pocket, like my back pocket. I was like, I'm not getting shit. Because it was all New Yorkers, too. Back to the New York East Coast piece of shit. I don't need shit right now. I'm down 10 grand, and the Patriots just fucking lost the game of the century. Yes. An epic, epic game.

17-1. Yeah. 18-1, right? That was what it was. 17 and a 1. Yeah. 18 and a 1, right? That was what it was.

A couple weeks go by, and he gets the bill. And we didn't talk for a month. Wait, hold on. And my dad- Did he not call? Or did he call you and go, hey, this shit hit? What the fuck happened? Didn't he call? No one called the credit card company.

Like, look, my car got stolen. This isn't- I literally wanted away from this so i again there's a lot of things i'm like why didn't i do that like why didn't i the adult i think you know i was a you know i'd say as a child 23 i'm going i just i'm more worried about my dad than anything else. Like, I'm not worried about like, I don't know. And he would ask a bunch of questions. I remember just like, I don't have any answers. And he's like, are you that fucking stupid? Like, are you that? Like, and I felt so hurried.

Like, then my grandfather sent us there. Oh, shit, yeah. What happened? You know, like, and he, my dad references, and anytime it comes up i get embarrassed i can't talk about it like i even now i'm like i'm feeling very like i'm okay talking about here because i but i'm like you know even now i'm like your dad still does bring it up though he'll go yeah it was just a good day until

you know like he fucks with me on it yeah but like it's real money you know that's a lot of money right i felt so bad and i still to this day you know and you know you come back and it's like you know also because it wasn't like i paid for my trip to the game you're like jared you're a fucking loser like someone gifted you the game of a lifetime and you ruined a whole memory i mean listen you did make the strippers night though right someone's some kid went to college some tuition got paid yeah i don't know like right like i did but i think back on that i'm like there's no question in my mind that i was drugged there's no question in my mind that this was like the move it's super bowl weekend of course and i just like but i look

back on that i'm like i really you know you said what's your low point like you know i've lived a very i have a very lucky existence i acknowledge that fully i acknowledge that more now because of doing comedy because there's a lot of comedians that go and try to like out sad each other when they don't have a sad story to tell that frustrates me because I'm there with no sad story to tell not doing that you know so like

this story is not you know when you were like what do you I'm like this is the only thing I can think of you know I'm lucky in like, what do you, I'm like, this is the only thing I can think of. You know, I'm lucky in that sense. Like, I just remember the disappointment and feeling. And again, when I tell you I'm close with my family, like, you know, you almost lose that. You lose trust in them. They don't want to hang with you. They don't want to be around you. They can't even look at you. These are people that you like. Is that the longest time of not speaking a month? Absolutely. What made it, what brought you back together?

Probably the holidays. Yeah. You know, like you got to go home. You know, you don't remember where else am I going to go. And then there was like the moment of like bashfulness, you know, and then, you know, time. But it was always like, you know, the next year Super Bowl. You know, like every year it comes up.

That Tyree catch, every time there was a replay, I'm, you know, looking year it comes up that tyree catch every time there was a replay i'm you know looking at the ground looking at like twiddling my thumbs like a fucking yeah i can't even look him in the eye yeah i feel so bad 10 grand and you know what i'm not you know what it is i'm not confident enough to be like i was fucking robbed i think it's a confidence thing because have you ever told your dad that we've never talked i just don't bring it up i just i just i i don't want to bring it up i don't want to once said dad look i'm embarrassed and i'm sorry but i'm telling you we were robbed you never even said that much i mean i would make a difference as a dad for me i'd be like you still don't get robbed to know that yeah right like i would hope maybe maybe he just thinks

you guys got buck wild since uh you were drunk legit nothing happened like legit had a nap yeah you know yeah and i think i just think the act of not remembering you go you get self-conscious like what did i do maybe i did something wrong and it's like no no you fell asleep and you know if you did something wrong drugged and raw if you didn't get drugged and you were a big piece of shit at the strip club that place has cameras everywhere they would have immediately thrown you out and shown the cameras and and arrested us and they would have done everything that i didn't do and also if you just fell asleep you would have more memory right you just fell asleep and woke would have more memory. Right. If you just fell asleep and woke up.

You'd have more. You'd remember more of that evening. I have no. Yeah, you got drugged. And then what made me. It happened to me once before. Really? But inadvertently, though, like, I took a drink at a bar that was meant for a lady next to me.

For sure. Save the life. I mean, I may have. And it, I mean, gone. Gone i mean gone and you just lights out lights out right threw up standing up remember nothing after that woke up the next day in my home don't even know my friends don't care i mean thank god but no for sure so it's scary you know we're lucky to be alive so you are you really are lucky to be alive think about it um all right so i told you that at the beginning of this um before we recorded

that i'll ask you advice you give to your 16 year old self at the end of the episode and this is what i'm curious about sure we're there what because you say you have you've led a bit of a charmed life sure fortunate what advice would you give to 16 year old jared um it's advice i give to myself today you know we write to edit like i really believe in that like write it down it's not You're going to be able to edit it. Everything you do, you write it down so you can edit it. Like it's a work in progress. Like it's going to be okay. And I don't mean to interrupt, but are you saying that for comedy or for life? I start with comedy and I think it's for life too.

I agree. I really do. I started because my brother and I live together in New York City. And my brother is like more of a moody guy than I am. You know, and I say that sounds so vague. He hits me. No. No, he's just a moodier guy.

If you catch my brother in a bad mood, you're going to know it. You catch me in a bad mood, I'm going to avoid it. Yeah. So I would tell him bits and I could tell when he's in a bad mood, you're going to know it. You catch me in a bad mood, I'm going to avoid it. Yeah. So I would tell him bits. And I could tell when he was in a bad mood, you'd be like, that's stupid. And I'm like, no, no, no, there's nothing stupid. I'd be like, no, we write to edit. I'm telling you this because it's not a finished product.

That's right. I'm telling you this because I want to edit it. I want to see if I'm on the road to better. You see where I'm going? We write to edit. So that's that's again it started with that with me saying that to him and then it became everything we write to edit you know listen that i i feel horrible but i still like even telling the story like it's like it feels like a like it hurts me to tell that story and then i'm like you, you know what? I definitely learned from it. You know, I definitely valued things a little bit differently after that.

I definitely valued, you know, family, my relationships differently from that. Were you a little more careful with drinking in bars and stuff after that? Yeah. I'm a drinker just generally. Like, I don't smoke weed or anything. But, yeah, definitely like. But are you a little more careful about watching someone open a beer in front of you as opposed to just getting a draft on the bar

that sounds stupid i probably now i am as of today well i've never really like wanted to unpack this story like i've never really kind of like told bits and pieces of it but i never really wanted like unpacking a way to go yeah jared you were fucking robbed you were drugged this is okay to like admit like yeah dude hell yeah but you know i guess i always go to what did i do wrong i always go to that like what did i what am i gonna get in trouble for you know like and again like that's like me at 16 and a half in the car. I'm sorry I hit you. No, no, no. He was looking the wrong fucking way.

I'd rather it be my fault and let's move on and I'll be okay. I'll give you the empathy that maybe you won't give me. I think if I'm talking out loud, if I'm giving myself the therapy, that's probably my first instinct. That's great. Yeah, hell yeah. Well, thank you for doing this. This's great. Yeah. Hell yeah. So. Well, thank you for doing this.

This was awesome. Dude, this is a pleasure. Dude. It's great to finally meet you. You as well. Plug and promote everything one more time, please. 37 and Single. That's the special. It's on Netflix right now.

And then everything else I do is on Instagram, at Jared Freed. I yell at The Bachelor. I put out ick videos. I yell at The Bachelor. I put out ick videos. I love the icks. The icks are fun. I'm always doing stupid shit. You know, like, no one ever cast me in anything. So I was always casting myself and

coming up with bullshit that some was fun and people liked and some no one cared about. I would yell at charcuterie, call myself the board lord. Stupid shit. That's good. cared about i would yell at charcuterie call myself the board lord stupid shit you know yeah so like all so everything i do is on instagram and jared freed there but 37 seconds i want people to go watch the special and like have fun with it yeah gender reveal bit there's an ick bit there's uh eating at night i like totally addicted i i mean i have a story I would have told if I didn't tell it there I love eating at night

I like going to bed on a full stomach the way I grew up it just reminds me today at least that I'm not poor and then I got one more day in me one more moment that is not how I think of it I appreciate

that you think of it that way. I'm definitely watching the special. Go watch Jared's special. Go watch my special. Come see me on tour. All tickets are available at RyanSickler.com, and we'll talk to you you next time.