The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Baby Name Announcement, Griffin's First Birthday & My Parents Are Moving In

Episode Date: July 19, 2023

As you know next month we are having another baby boy and on the show this week we decided to share his name, some stories from Griffin's first birthday and talked about life with a full house now that Abby's parents have moved in. Make sure to rate our podcast and leave a review if you can, it really helps us out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The whole year just flashed before my eyes. I was like, wow. They said it would go by fast. And then I was sudden it was here. And I was like, crap, that was so fast. We talked about baby names in high school when we were dating. And what's funny is with Griffin, randomly thought of the name, wasn't on the list.

And with this new name, same exact thing. A lot of people were warning us that having your parents move in was a bad idea. Obviously we're only two and a half weeks in. But I think it was a very good idea. The name that we have picked out for baby number two is three, two, one. What's up dudes? And welcome back to the unplanned podcast.

Matt just tried to cut that bit from our podcast, by the way. No way. Are we still going to do what's up dudes? And I was like, um, I I kinda need that to get geared up to talk for an hour straight. I don't know, I go back and forth because I feel like, I mean, we really do it as a joke at this point.

We just need to embrace the cheesy. Yeah, embrace the cheesy. Let us know in the comments, we embrace the cheesy or should what's up dudes die. Anyway, Abby's parents just moved in with us and no, it's been like three weeks, almost three weeks. Isn't that weird? It's gone dudes, die. Anyway, Abby's parents just moved in with us and... No, it's been like... Three weeks, almost three weeks. Isn't that weird?

It's gone by really fast. It hasn't gone by fast for you. I feel like it felt like a vacation, definitely because I mean, they would come and visit all the time. Yeah. Now it's gotten to the point where I started to think this morning I was like, if they were to just like, up and leave tomorrow, it would feel

awfully weird in the house now. It'd be off the weird and be hard too because like we've adjusted well. Your mom's been a huge help with Griffin. Um, and it, it's nice to have extra hands because like at this point in the pregnancy, I cannot, we went to the doctor with Griffin, which by the way, we're going to give a whole life update, but we went to the doctor and Griffin's weighing almost 25 pounds and carrying him. He's also dead weight in our arms. Have you realized that he doesn't help us out?

He doesn't like hold on or cling on. Yeah. He's dead weight and I feel like it's gonna rupture the freaking mesh in my hernia repairs. If I keep carrying him so much and like, fitting up and off the ground, like, it's gotten nice. Like, I'm around him all the time, but just with my mom there to chase him, if he needs something, or to like pick him up, put him in his high chair, carry him up the stairs.

Like I still do that, but to not have to do it every single time. It's been a life saver. Yeah, that's nice. For my back too, my back is shot. That is nice. And I feel like we've been way more productive. I feel like, I don't know,

it's just been fun to get to have like this full-on family around Griffin. Like he is so spoiled and I love it. I love it for him. I'm so happy for him. I think developmentally, all these people talking to him constantly. Yes. And like teaching him things and like, here's the thing, it's like you cannot be, unless

you're a superhero, you cannot be 100% all day every day for your child. No. But everyone can give their 100% for, you know, the time that they spend with him now. Yeah. And so he is just, he's so loved on and he's. Very, very loved. I mean, we've got your dad, we've got your mom,

we've got your grandma who's staying with us. She's been with us for almost two weeks. Yes. We've got, mean you, I'm like, I told your grandma, like she can, yeah, my brother and his wife. Like, your grandma can stay longer with us if she wants, but she's just, I think she feels like she's overseeing her welcome, but I've told her multiple times. Like, you're free to keep saying with us. Heck, our door's open. It's honestly for the right people. This is an amazing setup.

And I think we're the right people for it because also here's the other big thing. I'm not so lonely anymore. Yes, well I think you're someone that needs to be around people pretty much all the time. I know every once in a while you do need your alone time. Yeah, but it's rare. But I feel like I wasn't able to fill that need for you. Like me as one singular person, I feel like I couldn't fill that need.

And so now that your family's here, I think it's been, you've been way happier. You've been, oh my gosh, you've been so much happier with your family here. Yeah, because I just like having people around to talk to and just, I don't know, I do get lonely really fast. And like, here's the, I have friends too,

but getting together once or twice a week is just simply not enough for me. Like, I need to wake up and come downstairs and have coffee with someone. And I need, but like, you can't be there all the time to do that. You have other things you need to do. Totally.

And I have other things I should be doing, but I just love being around. But I think working from home, it's not like we're going to an office every day, seeing a bunch of co-workers. So I think that's been, it's been better for my mental health too. Because sometimes I don't leave our house for like a week.

You and my dad have been bonding so much. I know, I feel like really close to your dad. You've worked. You and my dad have been bonding so much. I know, I feel like really close to your dad. I feel like you and my dad have been cuddled on the couch like every night watching a different movie. You watch all the creed. Every single creed movie we just watched, Groundhog Day, which was a very good movie. I really liked that one a lot.

Can't believe you hadn't seen that one yet. Haven't seen it. Do you want to know something I shouldn't admit? What? There's some movies that's like, how have you not seen that? The movie I have not seen that I really should have seen is Forrest Goam.

That's ridiculous. We gotta watch Forrest Goam. But it's gone to the point where I don't want to watch it because someone told me it was sad. It is sad, but it's happy though. I'd be like, you need this sad to know the happy, if that makes sense. Like, because you said that Groundhog Day is really sad,

but it's not like it has a happy ending. Right now I'm trying to keep it as even keel as possible because my emotional state is so Crazy with these pregnancy hormones like yesterday. We went to see a movie and the freaking preview Had me oh my god. That was so sad. We went to go see elemental and theaters and they had a little Skit beforehand. It was like a little oh my Should I eat crime? Like a playoff of the movie up with the grandpa

and the dog. Which he been trying to get me watching and I'm like absolutely not. I'm so bad. And. I can't, I love that movie. They play the music, they played the up music and that's just where I like, I teared up.

I just made me so emotional. The part that killed me is when, so basically the one man had lost his wife and then he's about to go on a date. It seemed like for the first time since he'd lost her like with another woman. He looks at the picture frame. Yeah. You're wetting day and he said you'll always be my girl. Yeah. That made me so sad. And then you would know where to be and said, you'll always be my girl. Yeah. Don't tell me this right now because I did my makeup so good and then it was all messed

up for the rest of the day. Anyway, you and my dad bought it. Are you tearing up right now? You're crying because it was sad, okay? It was so touching. Can we just do this claim, or like everybody knows you're pregnant, right? Like I think we've established that. No, people actually think I have like depression.

It's like that's the reason that we cry every podcast episode is because she's pregnant. Like this usually, you're not this emotional typically. Typically. You are an emotional person. That's the thing. I'm already emotional, but then way more emotional, pregnant. Yeah.

But then also I just always wear all my emotions on my sleeve. You really do. It's just how I roll. I wasn't concerned. I think a lot of people were warning us that having your parents move in was a bad idea, but I think obviously we're only two and a half weeks in, but I think it was a very good idea. It's been really good for you.

It's been really good for Griffin. It's been good for me too, because I think as a singular person, I can't fill all your needs. So I think now that your family's here, it's like, I'm able to, I don't know. I just think we have more balance. And I think it's good to have people in the house. I love having all these people in our home because it just makes it feel alive.

Makes it feel so full. Yeah, I like your parents move in now. I know, I was just like, yeah, who else wants to move into our house? Yeah. Because we have four bedrooms. So it's like, we have our room and then, Griffin's room, so we have two open rooms.

I mean, I asked your parents to cook one. So we have room for someone else to move in if they want to and like we said from the very beginning like this is the exact reason why We got like I'm not saying we have a mansion, but we have a big house I feel so thankful and like we actually moved to a less expensive part of town So we could have a bigger house that's true Yeah, and this is the exact reason why is because we've wanted to fill it and with babies and with family and with friends and with anyone that was visiting just like. And so it's nice to, you know, have it for that purpose.

I mean, it seemed ridiculous because our house is lit. Our house is almost 10 times as big as the house that we had in Hawaii. And I love that place in Hawaii. It was perfect. Well, that was the only temporary. Exactly. But yeah, it was temporary. And I liked it because we didn't have a lot of stuff. We didn't feel the need to fill it with things

that we didn't care about or had no need for. But now that we have a larger home, you're right. Like we can have family over. We have family living with us now. We can have people stay with us. Like we've been having so many people come and go. My cousins just visited. One of my friends from college just visited, your grandma's visiting. So we constantly have people

visiting and staying with us, which I really love. Have you ever felt like overwhelmed at this point? You're like, oh, okay, I just need a minute. Or if you do, you just go to your room. No. I don't feel overwhelmed. I think for a little bit when your dad was using my office, I was like, I would like my office back. But your dad is now using our podcast studio as his office. So that's been good. Yeah, we did kick him out today. Yeah, we had to kick him out to fill more podcast.

Yes. How do you like that we're furnishing our home finally? Yeah, it feels like, I mean, I don't know. I feel like I would have done this even if I wasn't pregnant, but you know what they say? Nesting. Yeah. You birds actually do that, right?

They decorate their nest. They put things in. Would they decorate their nest? Yes, they put stuff inside their nest that serves no other purpose other than just to make it pretty. Whoa. Before they lay their eggs. That's so cool.

I had no idea. I thought we were not just making that up, but I'm almost positive that's why they call it nesting. If you made that up, that's the funniest thing ever. I think that's why they call it nesting. I want to Google that right now. You want me to? Oh my gosh, you can send it.

No, please. Yeah, you definitely be in the nesting phase. I think it's funny though, because like our new baby doesn't even have a nursery right now. Like there's really nothing there. Well, we're getting a special corner of our room for him with a rocking chair and night light and changing table and dresser and his bass amp, but he's gonna stay with us for at least three months.

Yeah, but after that, like how soon can we transition him to staying in the same room as Griffin? Cause I envision the boys sharing a room that way we have a guest bedroom open to guests. Yeah, I don't know how we're gonna get that cause I don't want them to wake each other up and running. Yeah, did you find anything?

Did you just completely make that up? The nesting thing? Someone fact check me on that cause I don't have time to check it up right now. Okay. So I don't know how to search it. I totally feel you just made that nesting thing. Someone fact check me on that, because I don't have time to check it up right now. Okay. So I don't know how to search it. I totally feel you just made that nesting thing up. No, I read that somewhere.

Oh my gosh. Whatever it did. Anyway, so getting our house decorated has been, well, okay, not even just decorated, like actually furnished because we have had empty rooms. Well, yeah, I mean, we've had, we've had the necessities. So we've had, we've had a couch, a TV, we've had been to the dens. We've had been to the dens. So we've had a couch, a TV, a table.

A bed. Yeah, kitchen table. We had the basics, but we've had all white walls essentially. Just no decor. We haven't had any white and put like, we literally had one, I guess we had one rug. We had one rug in our living room. Yeah, so we're getting things like lamps and wall art.

And it's shocking how expensive it all is. But at the same time, our house feels like a home now. Like it's really coming together. And it's just making the space so much more functional for us because now we have a place to put Griffin's toys and we have a place to, you know, put new baby stuff because kind of it's just kind of been piling up in odd places because we don't have the furniture to put it in. And our loft, we had a whole loft area that was completely empty. Now we're transforming that into like a play area for Griffin. And you're gonna have a toy room.

It'll be so nice. Oh my gosh, my mom and I have found the cutest little wood like Montessori kitchen set. And it has a little oven and microwave coffee maker. Yeah, that's cute. You're so excited for that. I'm so excited because he at the gym, they have a kitchen set and he's obsessed with opening closing oven. Yeah.

Opening closing the microwave, it's perfect for him. It is perfect for him. Also, by the way, something I saw that we need to get that's on TikTok. Are these really cool cabinet? I think I told you about it. Like the magnets. Oh, the magnet, For the cabinet doors, yeah, because you do those.

Well, because he shattered one of our Tupperware containers. Yeah, it happened so fast. That was scary. I didn't like that. I mean, he wasn't gonna get hurt. We picked him up immediately, but yeah, he could get hurt. He's constantly supervised,

but heck, if you turn away for a little bit, they just get into everything, you know. And it's funny how I love, it's funny when he goes up to an outlet He looks at us like he knows that he's not supposed to touch the outlet and we go no He'll kind of smile and he smiles at us and he waves He tries to sweet and yeah, he waves at us like trying to be like it's okay And it's like no and then eventually he'll like try to touch it. I know yeah, he's sweet though. Yeah

Then yeah, so like you said we saw a movie yesterday like try to touch it and not forget him. Yeah. He's sweet though. Yeah. Then yeah, so like you said, we saw a movie yesterday. Yeah. What did you think about that movie, by the way? I mean, I'm not a movie critic. I also feel sleep for. I'll be honest. A portion of it.

I, you know, it's hard because I do think the movie was good. We love Pixar movies. I love you. You especially. Yes, I really do. Because I think they're so, I mean, the ones that are I think they're so I mean the ones that are good Yeah, the ones that like like for instance inside out that movie is

Making a sequel next year so excited so for me excited I'm they're making a lot of new Disney movies next year really yes, but I'm very I love Inside out. They're making a mofasa movie. Oh come on. That's awesome But I love inside out because it's so deep and it's good for adults. Like not only is it a kids movie, but it goes to this like really deep level of how emotions work and psychology and all of that. And it's entertaining for adults that the jokes are funny.

I love when they can make jokes that are kid friendly. It's the most clever kids move us. Yes, when they're clever. Like the jokes are funny to kids or maybe they go over the heads of the kids but they make the adults die laughing. Yes. It's slightly inappropriate, but said in a way

that's not inappropriate for kids to watch. That's like me with the Grinch. Like I watched it so much as a kid, but now that I watched a Grinch as an adult, there's jokes that stay out, like the one where the baby arrives at the doorstep, and he's like, hey, honey, our baby cheers. Yeah.

He looks just like your boss. Exactly. And I would always laugh because the way he said that was funny, but baby cheers. Yeah. He looks just like your boss. Exactly. And I would always laugh because the way he said that was funny, but now I get it. Yeah, exactly. But that's the stuff that I love. But I didn't feel like Elemental had that as much. I felt like Elemental while I was-

It was kind of like it's bit, we've heard this story before. You know, fire and water didn't mix, but then they could be together. Yeah, and it was too predictable for me. Like I could predict the whole ending like within the first 20 minutes of the film, I want to say. And that just wasn't fun to watch. I don't know. I do have high expectations, though, because I've seen some really, really good

movies by Disney and Pixar. I guess they're like the same company. They set the bar high. They've set the bar really high. They corporate earth and wind. Yeah, the bar high. They set the bar really high. They gave me corporate Earth and wind and stuff. Yeah, they did not. I would agree. They needed to incorporate. And pretty much a water city. Yep, you're right.

It was a little corner for fire. Exactly. And I think they were trying, I don't want to say they were getting political with the movie, but I think they were trying to incorporate some like broader deep topics. Yeah, that's the thing. And I appreciate that.

I like that. I think it's's important that like, oh no, fires like an outcast, but then everyone realizes like no, like fire fits into the city perfectly. Like I love that idea. Yeah, like they immigrated there. Yeah, but I just didn't,

what I didn't like is the story wasn't complex enough for me. Like my brain, it was too predictable for my brain as an adult. I think as a kid I would have loved it, but as an adult I like movies like Inside Out because it's very complex and I don't know what's going on and I have to really pay attention to figure out the plot.

Yeah. I really like deep movies, like movies that really make you think like Christopher Phenomen movies, I love all the Batman films, I love Inception, such a good movie. I like those and I'm in the right mood for it. I think I've just been too tired to think at night when you want to watch a deep movie, I'm like, oh.

I still, I'm trying to get you. I'm still trying to get you to watch Interstellar with me. Oh, Golly, you think I can't stay away from movies. Imagine me watching that. We need to. A, A, A. So we, Yeah, oh, sorry.

I wasn't asking you how you enjoyed our anniversary. Yeah, that's what I'm gonna talk about. Four years, we've been married four years, Abby, in a day, four years in a day, as of today, because today is July 7th when we're filming this. Yeah, I was just seeing about that. I'm like, that's, wow. And those four years, you truly have seen

the absolute worst of me. Yeah. And probably the absolute best of me. Same, same, we've seen the good and the bad and the ugly of each other and. I think you're gonna stay for a fifth year. Of course, are you? I'm attached to you more than you're attached to me, okay?

I think this past year has been one of the most challenging years. For sure. But I really do, I mean, going back to your parents moving in, I really do feel like it's been a huge help. And now I'm like, wow, I don't know how we did this before without having family here to help us with the kids. Well, also, I would say people with the typical nine to five

job, they do have child care during the day. And so that provides its own set of challenges. But it is nice to be able to separate. Okay, I'm getting this done. Like I don't have to think about like being in mom mode or dad mode right now, where we have tried to multitask and juggle all day long and it wears us so thin. And so it's like I still do that, but then the fact that that burden isn't not burden

because we love him so much and enjoy time with him. But it becomes a burden when it's like We have to also do work. So I guess the burden being the work, but well, I think I think the problem with little kids like Griffin He's only one you know kid kids that young they cannot do anything unsupervised There's there's absolutely nothing that they can do by themselves and that is a You need 24-7 supervision. That's a huge job. That's more than a full-time job in itself.

Well, yeah, and then we actually do have to do other things, which is unfortunate. I wish we could devote 100% of our time to him, but yeah, that's been really good. But yeah. How do you feel that he's one? He just turned one. I just, I I just I am

I'm so blown away that I have so many mixed emotions. Yeah, I got like so sad the night before when he put him to bed like and I don't really know why sad I guess I guess it's just like oh well That's already done and like we'll never get that back. Yeah Are you gonna tear it's okay? It's okay? No, I'm not. Hey, your emotions, your emotions are welcome here. I think it was literally just like the whole year, just like flash before my eyes, like I was like, wow. They said it would go by fast and it didn't feel like it was going by fast. I'll be honest with you. It didn't like throughout different parts. And then all of a sudden, it was here. And I was like, wait, crap, that was so fast. All the dumb sayings that people say all the time

are so true. I know. They're so true. And it's annoying because you don't want to hear them and then they're like, oh wait, they were like onto something with that. But I also feel like excited for this new stage. Like so excited, he's so fun right now.

And there's so many good things to come. And here's the other thing is that we're about to enter the baby stage all over again. Yeah. So I feel like that also kind of like helps transition me knowing that like it's about to happen all over again. What's this thing? Isn't it like the days are long,

but the years are short. Something like that. Is that the exact quote? Did I say that right? I don't even feel like the days are long because sometimes when you put them to bed and I'm like, oh my gosh, another day. Yeah, every time I carry him up the stairs to go to bed, I'm like, whoa, that day went by so fast, so so fast.

It just, I can't believe it. He's the best. I will say I do enjoy him being older. I think it's more fun to interact with him. He's emotionally intelligent now. Like I feel like he's aware of like what he wants and he has desires as a kid. Like he's so curious and funny and goofy

and he laughs all the time. And it's just fun to interact with him and play with him. And well, TZ, I love playing the game. He, this is my favorite thing to do with Griffin. When I take his binky out, put it in my mouth. He thinks it's the funniest thing. He thinks it's so funny that I'm a grown man with a binky in my mouth and you just start dying laughing.

And I'll be like, where's your binky? And then I give it back to him. And then, or actually, no, he'll take it and grab it on my mouth. And I'll be like, he took my binky and I'll grab it out of his mouth. Then again, we do that over and over again. He loves it.

He loves it so much. This is a little laugh, yeah. It's really precious. But as far as our marriage goes, like, I've been talking a lot about parenting, but do you feel like, I don't know, four years into marriage, what do you, I don't know. What's your question?

What do you just say? I feel like you're holding back a question that you want to ask. Do you feel like you thought you would feel four years into marriage? No. Really? I don't.

I feel like our life is so complex. Everyone's life is so complex to try to predict what the future is going to be like is just impossible. And I'm realizing more and more how little control I have over what happens. Like there's so many variables at play with how things play out in our life. And I would have never thought that we'd be living in Phoenix, Arizona. I would have never thought that we'd be having two kids at 24 and 25.

I would have never thought that your parents would be living with us. But like the feeling, like in our marriage. The feeling in our marriage. Because like for me, I feel like I thought by four years, I'd be like super comfortable, and I feel even more comfortable than I, or thought I would feel. What do you mean, what do you mean by that?

You've literally seen me, you know, sob, give birth, go to the bath, or like all the gross thing. Like I would say early on our marriage, we were pretty comfortable with each other, but I feel like now we are like, so comfortable with each other. Yeah.

Kind of to the point where you're the only person I actually feel comfortable with for most things. Yeah, I mean, I will say, I think what shocked me is I thought we'd be, I thought we'd be the one percent. I thought we'd be like this rare couple that just had this crazy infatuation always. Because we were so physical and romantic and just so crazy for each other.

In the early days, we could not keep our hands off of each other. And now I feel like the romance is definitely- We're still pretty PDA. I mean, yeah, yes. But I think what's beautiful is just like how deep our friendship is, I guess. But I think it's funny because, you know, you think that you're not gonna end up like your parents

or you think you're not gonna, not like my parents have a great marriage but your parents are not- What are you trying to say? You just think that you're gonna be the exception. Like to all or you think you're not gonna, like my parents have a great marriage when parents are talking. What are you trying to say? You just think that you're gonna be the exception. To all this stuff that you see other people going through, you're like, oh, I'm not gonna, that will happen. Oh yeah, every relationship goes through a lot.

Like, oh, not every relationship, but most relationships go through. Like I would have thought that last year, like, oh, it's the first year of having kids really challenging. It's not gonna be that way for us. It's like, psych, it is, it's challenging. You can't avoid that. It's hard, psych, it is, it's challenging. You can't avoid that.

It's hard. I think you just have to recognize that we are all more like than we are different. And that's just a reality. But sorry, back to your question. I think I kind of like, walk through it. I think I answered it honestly. Did I answer it?

I don't know. I don't think it was a good question. I was just like, how do you feel? Yeah, I really don't know honestly. I really don't. That's the difference between you and me. Yeah, you're very aware of your emotions and I obviously am not as deep into that.

Well, we never really talked about Griffin's first birthday, which... Yeah, we should. We did a lot, well actually, I guess we didn't do a ton of planning. Luckily, we had someone who helped plan the party. It was a very fun party. We're gonna, the YouTube video will either be out right now or it'll be coming out soon, but we did like a whole YouTube video.

It's coming out of 16. Yeah, a whole YouTube video about planning the party, putting it on. It was really cool. We did the theme Griffin's Turning One. Can you dig it? And... It was kind of like a dump truck digger type of construction party. Yes. Because it's funny. His Griffin's favorite favorite toys his little dumb truck toy that your mom gave him Yeah, his grandma and he puts like the little ball in and then the trash He just like loves putting the trash in it taking it out putting it back in yep And so we thought it was cute and fitting for his first birthday

Obviously one year olds don't have a lot of, like, specific interests. Oh, yeah. Typically, I was like, either doing that or like maybe a book party, but that's in kind of lame, but he loves books. He really does like books, and he'll sit there by himself and read books to himself. I love that.

You did that as a kid too, didn't you? Yeah. You were really big into books, and your grandma would read you books. He'll just look at the same page for such a long time and point to it, and then we'll flip it and he'll point to it and look at it for a long time.

That's so precious. It's really. I loved how he just went at it with a cake. I know. It took him a little bit to get used to the cake. You, Abby made a cake from scratch. We had an adult cake that was made with like real sugar and all the good stuff,

and then we made, or Abby made a cake from scratch. We had an adult cake that was made with like real sugar and all the good stuff and then we made, or Abby made a cake for Griffin that was made from like banana and maple syrup. For how can I put that together? I think it turned out looking pretty good. You did a very good job. It tasted like, like if you made, if you mix cake with banana bread, it kind of felt like banana bread and cake had a baby. I mean, it wasn't like completely healthy, obviously. Yeah, but it was like his first taste of sugar and he loved it.

Oh, he loved it. But he was just like poking at it with his fingers. He kept going in for more. Yes. He was going at it for like 45 minutes. Yes. And he was wired afterwards. Like, he was so hyped.

He loved all the attention of the birthday party. Yes. People singing to him. And did you think that that many people were going to come? We had a big party. Like, I would say a good amount of people showed up. I did not expect everyone to come. That's who I... Yeah.

Like, was there anybody that we invited that wasn't able to make it? I mean, we had some friends out at town. Oh, that's true. Yeah, we had our friends Mike and Ashley weren't Hawaii. I think maybe some other people too, but... Yeah. Yeah, we had a really good turnout. It was so fun. Everyone was so sweet. I thought it was funny. Our friends down in the be. We we joke with them because they'll be like yeah, I'll be there and then

They like just won't show up We knew the safe thing but went down the Bella showed up. I was like, oh you guys are at you guys made it because they had a drive-in from I think like Northern Arizona. They were they were out there. So that was really fun. That was sweet that they made it Yeah, I think it's funny that with kids birthday parties, it's really more about the adults than it is the kids. We only had one other baby there that Griffin got to play with. We still had baby stuff with that soft play area for Griffin. We opened presence with him. Yes. We had his own cake and like totally. But I think it's like fun, you know, for you, I think it was fun to like plan this Griffin is kind of one. He had a blast.

Yeah, he did have a blast. But yeah, it was fun for me. I mean, kind of, but most, we had like the party planners that kind of did, which was really nice. Thank you for catering, chick, full, I mean not chick, full, like Chipotle. That was so fire. Chipotle catering is actually so easy.

Yeah, and then we had it for like days and works. A lot of food, yeah, it was good. I love me some burrito bowls. Mm-hmm. Yeah, and then we had it for like days and works. A lot of food, yeah, it was good. I love me some burrito bowls. Mm-hmm, yeah. And then this week we also had two doctorate appointments, you had girlfriend, this one year, which was great.

I mean, we have a healthy little guy, we're very thankful for. Like we said, he almost weighs 25 pounds now, so that kind of explains a lot. Because he was getting, he's getting heavy. Yes, he's getting very heavy. I was shocked that he weighed that much though. Like for whatever reason I just had in my brain because he was getting he's getting heavy. Yes. He's getting very heavy I was shocked that he weighed that much though like for whatever reason I just had in my brain that he was like 22 that's I'm telling you when you're like carry the donut and I'm like I can he's a heavy kid

25 plus how much is the donut like 10 yeah, and it's awkward. No, the donut is more than 10 pounds. Yeah, it's pretty heavy That's like I'm what yeah, it feels like you're carrying like 50 pounds and you care You're so awkward. Yeah, very very bad. That's something we need to get another Car seed We have a lot of planning to do. Yeah, we have a lot to I mean We're gonna have another bit of work. I mean yeah, but we're gonna have another baby in a month That is that is wild are you Excited nervous so excited both. No, I'm not nervous or scared. Hey, sorry to interrupt. If you could stop what you're doing right now

and share the podcast with a friend, a family member, maybe a coworker. Are you sure your grandma would like this podcast? Honestly, yeah, your grandma would love this podcast or your grandpa? Your neighbor, your hairdresser. Your dentist. Your dog walker.

Yes, maybe. Reista? Yeah, but the breach does a good one too. For sure, breach the list. Just grab a coffee and say, Hey, you gotta listen to the unplanned podcast. It's my favorite. Yeah, just text it to them.

Yeah, back to the podcast. You've been getting contractions recently. Yeah. And it's been kind of scary. Because the thing is, I can't, as I, they've been painful and I thought that if you got, not yesterday. Oh, so yesterday was the first painful contraction you've had.

What did that feel like? Was that just like the ones that you had when you were giving birth to Griffin? No, not the same. Like those are way more intense. And I think the ones that I was giving birth to Griffin, the ones I'm thinking about are the ones when I was like an active labor. Yeah. But like probably when they first put me on Potosan, yes, it felt like the same as that.

Yeah. But it was just one. Okay. Yeah, I never really got that. I never- That's been scary to me. Like, I wonder if you should stop working out. I don't know how that works I don't know I know working out during pregnancy as good as long as you're doing workouts that you were doing before you were pregnant But you send it dude like you you go hard in the gym. I know you Your watch tells you that your heart rates like getting up to what is it 200 during these workouts?

Which kind of scares me? It all maps out there, yeah. Yeah, so I don't know, you push yourself really hard in the gym, which is awesome. Like, good for you, you're a freaking boss, a boss woman, but I also wanna make sure you're not like overdoing it, you know? I can ask my doctor the next appointment, but she hasn't said anything,

because before she's always like, whatever you were doing before. Yeah, your doctor just said, if you have more than five contractions in an hour, then you need a call is what she said. So that maybe feel better. I want to be still feel baby move all the time. So there's that we did have another checkup

was like the 34 week appointment. Yeah. So starting next appointment were every week, which it's like crazy that we really are at the very end. We are. But yeah, I mean those appointments are quick. Baby's hurry, it's like crazy that we really are at the very end. We are. But yeah, I mean those appointments are quick, baby's hurry, it's good, my blood pressure is good, they weighed me and measured my belly.

Yeah. And so we're just going to see, we have an ultrasound not next week, but the week after that. Yeah. And then we'll make a birth plan based off of that growth older. Totally. I mean, I know it's not official official, but it's like pretty much like a 95% chance that you're gonna see a section right? Yeah. I feel since you you are measuring very large the babies a big baby. I feel like they

tell everybody that but I don't know dude like you you're yeah I mean he feels like a very large baby, but I feel like everyone kind of feels like that At this point, but yeah, I just I mean it's up to us what we want to do and obviously I've seen people like be like Oh, well, it's because you were in this position during labor because of this that and the other it's like You know what you make your own birth decisions, I'll make mine. And I'm just honestly trusting my doctor and following her recommendations. How big do we think this baby is going to be? If we have the baby at 39 weeks,

I don't think he's gonna be bigger than 9 pounds. Really? Because I'm think it might be a 9 pound baby. 9 pounds? Yeah. I would say eight and a half to nine. Yeah. Who knows? I just cannot wait to hold this little guy. Yeah. I've just been getting so excited recently.

There's really no like nerves. I'm sure it'll be nervous the day of, or the night before, you know? I just feel bad for you though, because like at this point, you definitely are like, you're over it. You're so over it. You're so over it. I'm just getting the pool.

It's much more comfortable this time. I feel like the first time I didn't have a lot of sympathy for pregnant women that were like, oh, I'm complaining. Now I have the most sympathy, because I'm like, okay, this, I don't even have it as bad as you could have it for sure, but I'm already tapping out,

even just walking yesterday between cheesecake factory for who went to dinner because we had a gift card. Yeah. Thank you to Theresa and John. Yeah, thank you, Theresa and John, my parents for the cheesecake factory gift card. We used to find it for the tree dinner. That was very nice.

We used that. And my grandma, I think we used my grandma's gift card too for the cheesecake factory. Thank you, grandma. Oh yeah, we had two gift cards. We had two gift cards Anyway, just walking from there to a store I literally was like this baby feel like he's gonna fall out because he's so low Sorry to interrupt you. We just want to say thank you so much to everyone who leaves reviews on our podcast It is the most encouraging thing. I'm gonna read one. This is from sorry

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I don't really count them. I don't need there. We have three nephews. That does not count. That are furry. They're dogs, okay? That does not count at all. Yeah, I'm seeing dogs aren't people.

I'm seeing dogs aren't people. I, I'm seeing dogs aren't people. I feel like people always say that. I'm like, it's not a nephew. Get it, I love, I love our friends dogs. I love our friends dogs. But. Dogs aren't people, don't. There's a difference there.

Yeah. Some people are really not. You know what I'm thinking, don't you people? You know what I'm thinking about me, which I understand. Think about the food chain. Don't you think about the food chain. I'm just thinking about the food chain. Okay, this is something that I always think about.

Have you ever seen a commercial for saving animals and stuff? Which I'm like, yes, I want to save animals, but then I'm also like, if there's still humans in our world, that die of starvation, I'm like, why don't you- Okay, this guy always tell you that.

Okay, what do you tell me? There's everyone needs to be passionate about a different cause You're right so everything could be taken care of all the dogs been taken care of all the People that you know can be taken care of I don't know I just have this in my mind though I'm like things in my mind are very black and white. I'm like yeah, it's all or nothing black and white It's all or nothing though like in my brain. I'm like I'm very worried over here Why don't we use those funds to save humans?

Well, no, because I'm pretty sure on the in-gram, I don't know, you don't really care about the in-gram as much. Yeah. But I feel like you have to be a maximizer. Really? I really am a maximizer, actually. No, that's definitely to find you. I think that's one of them.

What the heck is the in-gram? Don't ask me, I don't know much about it, but I feel like whatever the maximizer one is you. We should take the test. I think I took the test like 10 years ago and I forgot what my number was I think you're seven what the heck is that and also maybe a three You can be more than one number on the any gram you can wing you can wing it What how does that look like a number wing something? I'm not expert on this do not ask me we need to have an extra do it

What's your number then if I'm a seven slash if I'm a seven slash three What are you I have no idea what do I want to be something? I think I skewed my results because I wanted to be a seven That's the thing with those tests like I yeah I feel like my answers might be in an accurate because like I always want to be things that I'm not you know I don't know, but um you're not a people pleaser. That's one of them. I think really You are not a people please. You don't think I not a people pleaser. No, you're a controversy starter I am Yes, why here's the thing I think you're very friendly

You're extremely friendly. I like I'm super nice But you're not gonna change who you are or what you believe to just like make a situation be Smooth true like if something goes against my values. Which I think is what a people pleaser would do. They would just say whatever anyone need to say to keep people. Why do I think that's different though? Because it goes against your morals and your values and what you believe is right about the world.

You're not gonna just be okay changing all that just to make someone happy. Like, I definitely wanna make people happy, but if something's going on that's wrong, I'm not okay with that. I'm just saying, I think people pleas, please, there's do what they need to do just to keep the peace. Oh, that makes sense.

That makes sense. And you don't care about peace as much. I do care about the peace. You don't care about peace. But I don't care about the peace. I'm not saying you're like causing issues, but I'm just saying like, that's something I love about you is that you, you don't just like sway based off of your company. Yeah. Like who you are. That's something I love about you is that you don't just sway based off of your company.

Yeah. Like who you are. That's true. Anyway, we're getting off topic. Well, we're getting off topic. I'm like, you know what we should do? You should interview me. Just like I interviewed you in a previous podcast episode, you should interview me.

That would be kind of fun. Oh boy. Do you think you would be, do you feel like you're a good interviewer? I feel everything about you, Matt Howard. That's true. There's no questions I have. That's true. No, but there's definitely, do you feel like you're a good interviewer? I feel everything about you, Matt Howard. That's true. There's no questions I have. That's true. No, but there's definitely, are you kidding me?

I'm a complex individual. There's definitely things you don't know about me. Matt, I could speak for you in every situation. But I feel like I can do the same for you. You definitely have more complex emotions than I do, though. Yes. One actually, one million thousand sentences. Because like we said, you're black and white.

I'm not. That's true. I'm colorful. You're colorful. I'm not. I'm just that's true. I'm colorful. You're colorful. I'm colorful. Yeah. Um, we were talking about having a niece or nephew. That's how do we even get to any grams from the decent? Dogs and then raising money for dogs, which by the way, we need to go to the humane. We're, we live so close to the humane. We do. I know. Or at least you're allergic to most of the dogs. I want to volunteer again. I want to volunteer again. I want to go and walk the dog. I've been volunteer. Actually, we did volunteer this year. I take to know. Or at least you're allergic to most of the dogs. I want to volunteer again. Me too. So you're not going to go and walk the dogs.

I have it volunteer. Actually, we did volunteer this year. I take that back. We volunteered at a food bank this year, but I want to volunteer more. I don't know. It's just like it's good to do that, and it's also just good for you. I feel like it makes you feel good too. The kids that I used to nanny every summer, we would go so often to teammates,

I'd even walk the dogs, and they would always pick out the huge dogs for me. I had to walk them because I was the adult. Before you could play with them like in the play yard you had to do like one big lap around the whole creek and everything so they could you know not be so rambunctious because they've been, it's so sad they're like, created up all day. Yeah. So they literally chose this dog named Billy one time. I was like nearly a hundred pounds. Had me pinned against the whole crate and I'm like, they're like, you can't get them,

it's fine. And they have to be like, not just leash, like with the clamp, you have to like harness them. Oh god. So you're safe and the dog doesn't pull you away. They have more control. I was trying to wrap that harness around him so for so long. I was like, guys, I don't know if we can take Billy out.

I don't know if I'm strong enough. Finally got him out. Dang. Are we getting a dog anytime soon? Griffin loves dogs. He really does Abby. And I think again, we live so close to the the human society. We do live close to the human society So maybe we just tell them when we have one when they have one that's not gonna make you have a sneezing fit

Yeah, and Griffin is at least old enough to be able to understand the basics of taking care of a dog like putting food in his food bowl Yeah, or letting him out to go potty. That's so cute. Then we can do it. So I would say around four or five. Yeah. What about with the travel though? We do travel often. Well, we have lots of family that would. Yeah, that's true. With and with all his loves dogs. We were gonna get a dog at the end of 2021. And that was when we found out we were pregnant with Griffin so that we wind up not doing it. And that was a good thing. I think that- That would have been a bad idea. Having a dog is a very huge decision.

That would have been a bad idea if we were to be on a dog. And we needed to really evaluate that before we had got a dog. Yep. I was all bought in. And here's the thing. If we would have had one then, we would have been good pet owners to it. Yeah. But now it came to a point where, thank goodness goodness we didn't make that decision because

There's just too much going on to really dedicate the time that you need do you think we're gonna commence my parents to move out Arizona? I think it'll take some time. What about my brother? Yes, what about your brother? My brother for sure. Yeah, I think I think we'll get the whole I don't know about your other brother. I really think we'll get everyone out here. My other brother, what do you mean? I have two brothers. Oh my little brother. Because when you said my brother,

I'm like, well, one of my marty-lifters here. Oh yeah. I don't know. I think your little brother may just be living and doing his own thing. That's true. But I think my parents are gonna get very jealous of us being out here,

he'll be nappy being out here. All the grandbabies. We need grandkids. They're gonna get so stirzy and just come out here and just send them. Well plus your mom's back to retire. It's true. I think once your mom retires, she's gonna start itching to move.

Yeah, oh I agree. That's gonna be a fun time. It'd be fun if we get everyone out here. I'm sure you'll like Arizona more. The heat sucks. It was 115 yesterday, which is ridiculous. But I was in the pool all day and it was great. Yeah, if you're in a pool, it's definitely more manageable.

Well, no, okay. But that is a pain. You just can't go outside. It's too hot to be outside. The only time you can be outside is the mornings. And even now, when I wake up to... You can be outside if you're at the pool. When I go with Griffin outside in the mornings,

it's literally like 90 degrees out, which is crazy. Like, in the morning, when it's supposed to be cool, it's 90, so I don't to be cool, it's 90. So I don't know. Yeah, it's really cute. Matt and Griffin go on a bike ride almost every morning. Yeah. I can't believe that we decided on a name.

No, we never talked about having a grin. What? We're being an aunt, uncle. I literally thought we just talked about that. What do you want to say? I was just saying we need to lock down our bets because they don't know if it's a boy or a girl. Oh, okay.

What do you think it is? Let's say our answer on account of we talked about this yesterday. We did but let's just say it anyway What do we think there what do you think my brother and his wife are gonna have as far as a boy or girl three two one girl? Yep knew it. What do we want them to have three two one either boy? I'm so excited Would it be if it's three little boys? That would be so fun, but then also think about how sweet it would be for our family to have the first baby girl. That is true.

So it's like, you can't lose. That's actually a good point. That is a good point. But I also think about them like being on the same sports teams. That would be cute. Like what if all the boys were on the same soccer team? When the little, the boys and girls are on the same team. So they could still be.

Yes. Wait, really? Are you kidding me? I can't remember that part. Can I need to? I was too little to even remember what was going on. So you definitely had girls on your soccer team. So they could still be. Yes. Wait, really? Are you kidding me? I can't remember that part. Tiny tots. I was too little to even remember what was going on. So you definitely had girls on your soccer. Oh, okay, then we'll then it'll be it'll work out anyway. It'll be great. I see it'd be so fun for them to be. It's not until they're like, go through puberty. We picked it out. We picked out a name for our child. We picked out a name for baby number two. And it wasn't actually that difficult of a decision for us to make.

I feel like we just figured it out pretty quickly. No, but the problem is, is that with Griffin, we said the name, and we were like unwavering. We're like, that's the name. And for whatever reason, this name, we've been going, we've like, we've known it was the name, but then we've constantly questioned it. What's funny is,

for months, you've had a list of baby names since you were like, in first grade, or something ridiculous. You've had a name of, I swear. You've had a list of names building. We talked about baby names in high school when we were dating our senior year.

Like that's how we were so set on marriage, even our senior year of high school. Oh yeah. We've been talking about names for so long, and what's funny is with Griffin, randomly thought of the name, wasn't on the list, boom, named her kid Griffin. And with this new name, same exact thing.

We just totally ignored the list of baby names, like who the frick cares about those, ignored it, and just decided on the name that just randomly came up out of nowhere. Isn't that how it goes though, you know? You think you know what you want, and then you get pregnant, and then you just put came up out of nowhere. It's not how it goes though, you know. Yeah. You think you know what you want and then you get pregnant and then you just put it up. I just think that's almost, that's a good example

of what life is like. Because you think you know what you want. You think you've got it all planned out in this perfect way, everything is going to work out and it ends up not being anything remotely close to what you pictured. I mean, that's my life. I love my life.

I'm so happy, I'm so blessed to. Is it better than what you pictured. I mean that's my life. I love my life. I'm so happy. I'm so blessed to- Is it better than what you pictured? I wouldn't say better or- Well actually wait no better. Yes better. Better. Better. Give me nuts. I was gonna say I think it was so much better than when I pictured. Yeah totally. I would say it's better. But- I'm really just talking yesterday out. We have such a good life. No we do have it. We definitely have a good life. I'm very very thankful. The name that we have picked out- Oh okay. Oh are we should we get into it? No it's fine. No, we do it. We definitely have a good life. I'm very very thankful the name

That we have picked out. Oh, okay. Oh, are we should we get into it? No, it's fine The name do we do you want to say it? No, we say it together. Okay, we did you okay? The name that we have picked out for baby number two is three three two one August Jacob Howard I know we were gonna say the full name I was literally just gonna say the first name but that's cool that we said the full name I like that we said the full name August shake it how I wait how beautiful is that I actually just convinced Matt like an hour Before you film this that we should share the name on this episode because you know what I don't care about the order You're supposed to do you know yeah, yeah. But it's sweet. Like, I love the name August, but specifically the nickname,

Oggi. So cute. We've been calling him Oggi this whole entire time. And it goes so well with Griffin. Oggi and Griffin. Oggi and Griff. Griffin and Oggi. Griffey and Oggi. We don't really call, I don't love Griff. We don't really call him Griff. I actually call him Griff a lot.

Do you? I like Griff. Yeah. Okay, I don't hate it, but I't love Griff, we don't really call him Griff. I actually call him Griff a lot. Do you? I like Griff. Yeah. Okay, I don't hate it, but I feel like I never find myself like, where's Griff at? That's true. No, we actually sometimes do that.

Yeah, I do say that. Anyway, Oggy and Griff and an Oggy, and then if he isn't grows up and doesn't like the name Oggy, then he has August, or if he's in a formal setting. Why would he not like the name August, or Auggie? We don't know his personality yet. That is the funny part. Maybe he might be a formal guy.

We have not been referring to our child as August at all. No, but when I hear the name August, or even just, the word August, like it triggers something in me. Yep. Like it, I'm like, oh, that's my son's name. Even though we call him Auggie, amongst ourselves. Born in the month of August. Yeah, he amongst ourselves. Born in the month of August.

Yeah, he's gonna be born in the month of August. That name's definitely on the rise, but I don't even care. Well, I love the name. Well, we looked it up. We were like, is the name August to common these days? And I think it was ranked number 87. But then look at this, we're Matt and Abby.

Probably the most common names of that generation. So common. If you look up 1998, Matt, I was like, baby number name number two or three. Like, it's right up there. And same thing with Abby. It was like in the one, two or three. So I didn't want it to be as common, which I mean, I can't obviously imagine my name being anything else. But it would be nice if there wasn't like so many of. Yeah, there's not a Brazilian August South. No.

And you know what, maybe some of the world we still have. It's definitely unique, but it's a timeless name. That's what I like about it. I like it. But I like the nickname Awhi a lot. And it goes with Griffin while. And we know what we are, those weird people that named our kid one thing with the intention of calling them something else. Because when people named their kid a name, we're gonna use Awhi's though. I don't know. Really? I really just like Awhi. I feel like I'm gonna I'm gonna call Maggie all the time. This was a kid. Yeah, but I like the name Jacob as well because my my great grandpa that was his name And so in memory of my great grandpa were making his middle name Jacob. Yes, and your great grandpa was really more like your grandpa He really was like my grandpa. I really didn't have Grandpa's in my life

They just yeah for whatever reason I didn't really have that. Luckily Abby had like all four for grandparents all growing up, super, super close to all for grandparents. I didn't really have all my grandparents, so having my great grandpa, he was kind of like my grandpa in a way, and he was an amazing guy. He lived a long life. He lived till 95. It's just such a good man and prioritize family.

And I don't know, I just, I really love the values that he instilled in our family and just wanted to include his name in my son's name. So, which is cool because your grandpa's middle name is Griffin's middle name. Both of our boys will then have like a family name too, which is really special. Well, dudes, thank you so very much

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