The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Comedian Trey Kennedy Roasts Gender Reveals, Baby Names & Southern Baptist Grandmas

Episode Date: November 8, 2023

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I don't think I've ever even saw a baby in public and then I had a baby I like there's so many babies. I just have like a baby radar like a gay Dart I can tell that person's a baby when the humans are small like that. It's a baby I think you've roasted gender reveals. It's just too much. We're doing too much Yeah, do you guys have a gender reveal for your baby? We did is the sick part My grandma was like the funniest Southern Baptist woman just type like you get a tattoo You're dead to me like that honestly. They should be the most feared demographic We have to be careful.

I'm terrified of her. She called him a narcissist once. We probably are actually. Yeah. What's up, dudes? And welcome back to the on-plan block. Where are the only people that ever do that to open up their content?

We just, it's just like so cool. So we like to say it, you know, just to have a look. No, for sure, I was never right there. I thought like how they're gonna start this thing and that blue line. Yeah, well, so we like to say it, you know, just to have like a movie. No, for sure, I was never right there, thought like how they're gonna start this thing in that blue line, so. Yeah, well, today we are joined by Tray. Kennedy, Tray is a comedian as well as a social media

content creator. He's known for influencer. He's known for making clean comedy and he's currently on tour and he's actually performing in Phoenix tonight, so we're going to a show and we're having him on the podcast. Good, you're all gonna make it. You can make it.

We're gonna come. Let's go. Let's go. Let's give it them on the podcast. Good, you're all going to make it. You can make it come. We did it before we did this. Good, that's going to be fun. That's going to be fun. Thank you for having me. I'm honored to be here. You said first comedian on this podcast. You're the first comedian. On a pressure.

Yeah. Thanks for having me. Beautiful home. Glad to be here. You're so excited. I just say content creator, not influencer. Do y'all not like the influencer word? Or do you care?

That's a good question. I think I like content creator more because it like shows that you're adding value to the platforms. You're you're more of a storyteller and I feel like influencer can have more of the idea of oh, they just got there without even having to work for it. Yeah, I think influencer makes me think of like the car or the Kardashians. Right. It's not a lot in common with me and the Kardashians. There's not no not even one especially the booty There you're a lot more white than they are they're good people. I don't know the influencer. It's funny I don't I just try to embrace it, you know, whatever you want to call me love that at this point I don't there's no shame when you've been doing it long enough. Yeah, you guys get it. When did you start? I made my first viral video, like 10 and a half years ago

on Valle. Wow. That's got a great, yeah. Wow. Wow. You've been around for a minute now. OG, but influencers was not a word when I made that for a video.

Right. Wow. So I was just like, Viner, Vine Famous, internet guy, Instagrammer, and then influencers started coming around, because influencers got weird too. And still this day, if you say it, people roll their eyes and then they see you. Because influencers are there picturing 9,000 followers. You're just kind of the scum of the earth.

You want free things. Yeah. Versus life. Yeah. It's a career now. Yeah, maybe the word influencer for me, it just makes it sounds like it has a stereotype of being so entitled or, I don't know, something like that. It's the too many people went into like hotels in New York City and they're like I'm an influencer I'll I'll tag you when you let me say it.

I'm like, I'm like, I don't know but I'm watching. Yeah, it's about you guys do have to tag me in your story tonight and return. We will definitely tag you tonight. Of course, of course. Um, Trey, I'm so curious is it's 2023. You're a comedian. How do you not get canceled in a climate where I feel like people are so easily offended? I've never pushed the boundaries too much.

You said clean comedian. I like to, I'm not trying to rub anyone the wrong way, but it's still out there. I think the crazy cancel culture a couple of years feels like we've come out of that and people are exhausted by it and they don't care as much. I kind of feel very free to say whatever I want now. Oh, really? Yeah. I think I'm lucky to be, we were just talking about,

you guys do more of you like the content creation, vloggy that I think you're an easy target, unfortunately. But I can't. What do you, do they even love each other with their moms raising their kids? Or the, you know, the first time Katie, my wife was on my podcast, they're like, yeah, I can tell he abuses her.

I was like, what did I do? I only hit her once on the podcast. And I, no, it's like, people, they just make stuff up. But then I think they see comedian, it's just jokes. I think people just kind of like, we either think it's funny or it's not. And we move on versus like, what did he, they know what they're coming for. Right, I think people just kind of like we either think it's funnier. It's not and we move on versus like what it is They know what they're coming for

Yeah, so I think I'm lucky cuz yeah, I see people like y'all or a lot of people killing it getting tons of followers and views And just everyone has an opinion and like man, I'm over here chilling. I don't think people they don't bother me Well a big thing about your content is it is clean content has it always been clean always been clean I was raised very sheltered, like good Oklahoma kids. So when I was first making it, I was like 19. I couldn't have fathom put someone on the internet like my mom would see that, you know, she went to Paul and then, you know, that leads to like opportunities

because brands want to hire people with a clean image and then I had more fans appreciate that. And it is ingrained in me too. So now, yeah, I'm clean for life. I like the challenge of trying to be funny and clean. That's impressive. Because I feel like it's easier to make comedy when you're talking about more raunchy things.

And so to be creative enough to actually be funny and not have to go to that is impressive. Thanks, yeah. I think a lot of people agree with that. I mean, there's more R-rated comedians or edgy people. They have a certain audience for that that they people love and appreciate and they get, it has its own difficulties. But I think I invite a very, very different audience that they go see Bill Burr, who's

like everyone agrees the best comedian alive. And my mother would be appalled if she saw Bill Burr. Those people exist where they need the clean convenience. I'm happy to do that. So it's fun. That's awesome. Do you think like other comedians in your space view you differently or interact with you differently because of that or not really? No, not really. I think there is a, I think most comedians would agree. Like being clean is, is the thing. So many comedians be like, I, that's not

something I've tried to do. Like I don't even know how to do that. So, I think people respect it. And yeah, when you're raised in it, and it's like to my core, it's like I'm sitting there riding just crazy stuff. Like, I can't say this. It's horrible. Like, what comes out of me is mainly clean. Yeah.

So, it's just how I was raised. I feel like. Yeah, we were, so we were on a cruise ship like six months ago, and we were at the, or I think I was there, you were actually sick I'm not sure. I feel like. So we were on a cruise ship like six months ago and we were at the, all right, I think I was there. You were actually sick on the cruise ship. Right, right.

And I was just by myself at this comedy show with our friends and the comedian was doing like, they don't comedy show. But he's also the comedian that does all the other comedy shows on the cruise ship. So the other ones were family friendly. But this one was the adult comedy show. That's a lie.

So he was trying to like, you know, make more adult jokes. But then even for him, I was trying to like, you know, make more adult jokes. But then even for him, I was like, man, you're just like, you're the family comedian and he was like, dropping some F-bombs and I'm like, that just didn't feel right. That's just confusing, yeah. I'm just confused now.

You're like, after all week. Yeah, I'm like, I feel like the cruise ship hired you because you're a queen comedian. There had to have been a number of like sweet moms the audience were like, you've got it. We saw him last night. He's fantastic. You gotta see him. And he's just like, oh like oh my this is not what he's to say yeah they start crying so I can totally see where you're like that's just not me like you know

just just being yourself in the comedy that you create yeah yeah they're all do you guys know Whitney Cummings is she's big comedians yeah very funny very successful but very r-rated. I went to a concert with my mom. It was like a John Legend, and there was a surprise opening set from Whitney Cummins. Oh.

And it was funny, but I'm with my mom who like won't watch an r-rated movie, and she gets hearts go out of psych of my, oh my gosh. Like. Did you just get headphones for her? Yeah, exactly. Like mom, I'm sorry, I don't know. This is not funny. Trent, what get headphones for her? Yeah, exactly. Like, mom, I'm sorry.

This is not funny. Trayette, what age were you as laughing? Watch our rated movies. Never. I mean, that was never to this day. My parents would be like, we can't. I'm the classic guy who like, did you see this movie? So that movie I always say no.

But what? You didn't see? That man, like, my mom was so picky on movies that we just basically wrote off movies She's like yeah, it can't it has to be PG or G. It can't be sad. Yeah, it can't incite crying It can't have any kind of like Love scene it we just it was like finding Nemo and we watched the the rookie like 12 time. Okay. Dennis Quaid. I will say it is awkward if you're watching. Cool.

Did I ever see that one actually? Now that we're adults, it is pretty awkward if you're like with your parents and you're watching like an actual rated on a movie. Oh my gosh, what were we watching the dead? And then a scene comes on and you're like, oh my god, I don't even know what they're doing. And you just kind of turn away.

You're just like, this is so weird. Like my parents are here. It's not weird with your spouse. So you're just like, yeah is so weird like my parents are here it's not weird with your spouse so you're just like yeah like we you know watching an R.A. to movie you know we watch with my dad the other day I was like we got a yeah there was definitely a sex scene it was like what that it was uncomfortable do your parents go to your shows often they're they're actually to be here tonight what do we know wait yeah probably wait that's so they just so happened you know they're empty nesters, living their best life, my dad's retiring.

So they were doing a weakened Sedona. And then we announced the show in Phoenix, it's like, wow, well, that's awesome. Same yesterday, so they don't come to home. They don't fly around, you go into my shoes. They just two are with you. You know, no. Yeah, they're very supportive.

They grab a handful of shows, especially the ones near where they live. But yeah, they're here tonight. And it's funny because I talk about them. And I'll, after the show, and again, it's clean, but still, I'm talking about true things. My experience is so I'm always like, I was like, Mom, trying to be respectful. The thing I say, like, I've finned you, I don't want to be respectful. And she starts to critique, critiquing like my entire set. She's like, well, there part, I thought it was a little over like, I was like, I'm just talking about what I'm talking about you.

I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval.

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I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. I'm not getting approval. and the both, right? Yeah. A boy, congratulations. Thank you. That's super exciting that you're a father now. How is that being on tour? Cause you're going to how many different locations do these comedy shows? Yeah, it's, we're, we tried to schedule it where, so on average I go out like every other weekend.

Okay. Maybe like three or four cities at a time. So I'm home mainly, is the goal. But yeah, I mean, it was definitely a thing where early on, he was a few months old, like getting out was kind of awesome. You know, you miss them, you're like, I'm sleeping at night,

oh my, it's exhausting. And then they get, you know, every day is more fun. He's interacting, he's smiling, he's, and yeah, it really stinks to leave them. So I don't know what it looks like, because I'm loving doing this and it's great. I can't believe I get to do this and I mean, thought I'd do this, but I don't know.

We're just trying to get through the balancing it and she gets out with the baby sometimes. That is the worst part by far, I mean. Mm-hmm. Yeah, because you're doing what you love, but then also as a family man, you're like, I wanna be there with my wife and kids to that. Yeah, man.

That has to be like pulling your heart in like two directions at once. Always. And it's, I mean, we want more kids. You know, we just have the one. And so we're up to this, we announced more dates in 2024. And by, you know, I think we're just going to keep assessing. And we're dreaming of a day when we have like several five, six, you know, I think we're just gonna keep assessing. And we're dreaming of a day when we have like several five, six, you know, three year olds,

and it's easier to take them like on a tour bus. And you're like, how fun is this, you know? But, you know, you guys get the baby life. It's like, it's not worth it, carting around beds and milk and, and she's nursing on a plane. And yeah, we've done it a lot, but it's tough. He's already been to like some 15 states.

And so that's the reason. That's the reason. Yeah. Do you guys have a certain strategy for when you go in a plane with your kid? Oh, we got it down, especially Katie Moai, she's a pro. She's, she like has a whole system. She's got the, we got the Duna.

You guys have that? Yes. I mean, people, it's so fun to wheel that around. You have so much attention. Fellow D doona owners are like I see you No, but then You have happened the older people are like they didn't make those and we were having a Such a dad flex you walk in a restaurant with the doona as a stroller like we like sit down like we have no strollers You're like bam into the car seat. Yeah, and this fifth-year woman's like what we got what they didn't have this one

We when I was a mom, you know, back in the day. So we have that, collapse it down, get them out, put it through security. We, we gate check it, get them on there. She's got her cover. She's, you know, but, and I don't know how few fill this way, Abby too. Like the public nursing early on, she's very modest.

She's like, we would find a corner of the airport and dark and she would cover and I'd block her. And now she's just, we're like trying to, I got a truff truck stock, she'll just whip it out. It works with consecutive babies, I will tell you. I was really at the farm yesterday and I was like, I don't, it was so hot. He was like sweating already. I was like, I'm not getting any freaking cover out. And I was just like, oh, everyone can be respectful enough

just like away. Please, don't look. Yeah, she used to, every time she noticed some of our living room, it'd be like, draw the blinds. I'm not just like in the front yard. I'm like, okay, look so. You see, I was the one drawing the blinds,

because Abby, she just forgets that people can see through a window. I found my own house, that's on, like, I don't expect to have, I'm not catering towards peeping Tom's. We had this problem in Hawaii because in Hawaii we had all these big windows and Abby would just like change, and like Abby, like, are neighbors?

Are you my house? All the houses in Hawaii are like a foot apart. And like, literally the whole neighborhood can see you changing, like, we should probably put the blinds down, you know? It's my house. It's my house. I'm not. You're house, what a double look. You guys have the inflatable like bed.

I know there's like a little like inflatable bass and that you can put on the seat. In the plane? Yeah, in the plane. I did, we did look into that. We didn't pull the trigger on that. He's still little. He's little enough.

He's not fully doing that. We did too, like, you know, I get on how many hundreds of flights a year. So I, we were, I always try to like, we don't need to buy, we would do that. You need a separate seat then. Yeah, we'd finally start it being less. Okay, I have status, I have the points. We're getting his own seat.

He gets his own seat. A lot of the time. So it's like, you get the car seat in there. I mean, you talk about an absolute game changer. That's beautiful. So there's, yeah. Wow, we haven't, we've, Griffin's never had his own seat.

So your kid just sleeps the whole flight? I mean, yes and no, we, trust me, we did 30 flights before we started buying his own seat. And then he gets big enough and he's, he's, he's long and you're, you're like, try not to bump this person. Yeah. Yeah. As a Katie, get your flying out,

what by yourself to come to these just get it to see. Yeah, that's nice. Make it live easier. We had this situation where this we were seated in different seats on the plane and we were separated. We were separated and we were trying to sit by each other, but this lady was not wanting to switch. And it was like a really easy. With the baby. Yeah, yeah. Oh, no, our baby didn't have a seat. We just wanted to sit next to each other. Yeah, she's like, let us.'t have a seat. We just wanted to sit next to each other. But you're like, yeah, she's like, let us,

my happy breastfeed and we could be next to each other. Well, okay, we got to set the seat a little bit more. It was moving from one middle seat to the middle seat and the row back and she was traveling alone and she hadn't sat down yet. But she was just like, I'd rather not. And we were just like, hey, I know that I'm sitting in her middle seat right now,

but would you mind switching with me in the middle seat directly in front of me and she didn't want to? And then all, like everybody on the plane. Everyone on the plane moved around. They all moved around to accommodate us because this one lady wouldn't accommodate. She just stood around.

Some new parents. And, you know what I mean? She has the right to do that, I guess. But it was cool that like everyone on the plane like came together for us. It was really sweet. You learn that when you travel with a baby of like, you either it's a love hate, people look at you like,

why'd you leave that house with that thing? Yes. Shut it up or people get it and they're like, how can we help? Yes. Like when she flies solo, she says she'll always, she'll get bad looks and then she'll also get people being like, let me help you carry that, you know.

We're all here. Yeah, that is sweet. Cause there is judgment too when you take a baby outside the house, you carry that, you know, we're all here. Yeah, that is sweet. Cause there is judgment too, when you take a baby outside the house, you're like, you need to keep that thing home. Today's sponsor is one of our favorite baby brands, Dreamland Baby. We use their DreamWaid at SleepSack literally every single night

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Matt goes, aww. Right. You don't do that until you ever did. Never done that, ever. Never. And I was like, we are, you started like, notice other little people now. I just have like a baby radar now. I see a baby at my sister. It's very true.

We look at that. Oh my gosh, yeah. Oh, look at that little family. But before I just never even did that. They didn't exist. It's like becoming a dad makes you a softie in a way, you know? Yeah, you have a new radar. As I hear like a gay dart, but gay people, they can pick it out easy.

It's like you become, like I can tell a person's a baby. I have one I can tell a person's a baby. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Exactly. I still have one, because I see the baby. That is, when the humans are small like that,

it's a baby. Yeah. That's what I have. When you see guys, you're like that person's a dad. You can tell. Yeah, right. Yeah. I. You see guys, you're like that person's a dad. You can tell. Yeah, right. Yeah. I feel like maybe women in general, it's like a little bit harder

because maybe they're nurturing already, I don't know. They are, but yeah, women always love the babies and stuff, but yeah, us guys, don't even pay attention at all. A little bit. What's been the best thing about being a dad and the most challenging thing about being a dad? The best is, man, it's, when we were prepping to have a kid,

my friends who were parents, because they just talking up, and I would annoy me, they'd be like, it's just, it's the greatest gift. You just don't know, tell you no, and it's the only way to describe it, which is annoying, but it's hard to articulate it. Like I was sitting in our living room two days ago,

and he's just repeatedly just looking at me like, you know, cheese in for no reason. And it's just what it does to your inside. You're like, oh my, yeah, that's the whole, I'll never forget when he was probably six ish weeks, you know, and if you don't know this, baby's can't smile for like two months. I didn't know that. And you're just doing it, you're going through it, and it's good, it's good,

and the sleep deprivation sets in, it's exhaustive. And there was one night, and I was like, I'm done, I mean. I think I wanna, I'm done with this guy, you know. You have this horrible thoughts, like I can't, and that was like, I think he's gotta go back. Yeah, could you put them back? How does that work? They're in three in the morning,

and the first time he looks up and just smiles. Oh, and you're just like, don't care anymore. Like this is the best thing. That's why the best way I can describe it. But the best thing. Have you made him laugh yet? Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's not nuts, he's a laugh him.

He is, you do this too, you're like, my baby's the best, right? It's somehow. Of course. They're measuring him. He's the tallest and biggest baby, right? Like why does that matter? And what he seems to be an unusually smiley, happy, giggling, laughing, so he's a lot of fun. But yeah, it's been the best thing

and sometimes the worst thing. And like all, it's just the most rewarding, makes life so much richer. All my, see my friends hold my son and my parents hold my, you know, other a lot of babies in the family. Um, not yet. Where I have one sister who has a baby just a few months older. So two on my side, my wife has four brothers and they just have one older with like another on the way.

So we're about to have three nieces and nephews, but all my friends are praying. It's very much. I mean in the next five years I'm gonna have 30 babies in my life. Wow. Friends and family. I mean, it's happening. I've noticed. I've noticed in your comedy too, you do a lot of like baby skits where you have like, it's like you're pretending to be the baby with like the monitor on you and Um, I just I think it's hilarious because it's so relatable as a dad

I just can totally relate to like the second that you try to get something done Then that's when the kid wakes up or I don't know my my favorite is like as a parent if we ever try to have any sort of alone time together At all. It's like the second we put our kid down, like they just start screaming, like they know. They literally just know. It's kind of scary. Has that been a fun journey as a comedian getting to make all these now like, dad comedy skits?

You should. I mean, there is an element of like, not that I was ever running out of ideas, but you're like, it'd be nice to have some new inspiration. You know? This whole new life experience. And I think some of my fans and people that come to the shows were parents. So just to to flip a switch. Now we can relate and just

the levels to it. Now I have fans come up and they're like, I have three kids in their teens. Like, you don't know what you're talking, you know, or it's just like, I've joined the parent group, but I'm a rookie and we have one. It's just all these new life experiences. I do jokes now about like, our friends who don't have kids yet, you have friends and they're like, we're tired and you're not. You're not. You don't know. It's just a fun new way to relate to my audience.

When I made the first, my content, like all of us is just trying new ideas and I think I put on a big adult onesine actually like a baby and it went viral. It's like, okay, cool, people, they're on board. There's a lot of people going through the same thing. It's like a universal experience. Like, of course, every baby's different, every couple going through is different,

but that's funny. The one that really got me is like, when couples are arguing over who's the most tired. I'm not gonna be going tired. Yeah. Yeah, that's a big adjustment. We, us getting married wasn't an adjustment for, I don't know, you hear like first years of the time.

I feel that same. We're just like, like in love, best friends, moved in, we just had a blast, but how many kids was, was our, like, I think first big. Nothing crazy, but real big adjustment, we learned real quick, some things in each of us were like, okay, we got to communicate here, we got on the same page, because you get so tired,

and I would get home from tour without a kid, and she'd be rested up ready to go, and so she'd be like, what do you, you've worked hard lay down, and now it's like, you know, you come home. I worked harder than you. I took care of this kid all week. Yeah. I go, okay, okay. So at least you got time off. Yeah.

So you did, and we have a constant, are you know, it's like, now listen, I know it's annoying when I go to Florida for shows and I'm like on a boat all day, but it's like my, you can't, I'm so lucky. My job's fun. You can't like hold that against me. It's like, I know I know, like what like wouldn't but so she gets to a bad point She's like you're the one you're galloping around on boats and yachts up. I mean I don't I'm sorry That's my job. I'm killing time and he was What do you want me to do? It's funny because like now is a dad

I went to Nashville to record some music this past week Let's go being on being on a plane by I went to Nashville to record some music this past week. Let's go. Being on a plane by myself, like not having to keep a child alive and do all the stuff that we do as parents on a plane. I'm like, I can just listen to my music and just like taking that and we'll look out the window. It's just crazy. It's so nice.

Leave me your family. Yeah, I'm well, I gotta be honest. The first like, maybe 24 hours is like, this is pretty awesome. Like I, I'm changing diapers. I'm just, I get to do whatever I want. And then you know, she sends me a photo of him like, on the porch smiling, you're like,

I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I think I couldn't get there. Like I would literally be anxious the entire time. For 24 hours. If I were to leave, I would be like, free to out. Mom vibes, Katie is not left. We have a weekend plan next month,

and it'll be the first time she's like, left him for more than, you know, a handful of hours or something. We're gonna go to two nights and on the beach, it's like a friend's wedding, like, one of the grandparent, you know, my parents are gonna watch him, and so we'll see how that goes.

That's their first time. How was your first time leaving? Well, it was too eye-hop for like an hour and I cried the whole time. Oh wow, no, no. But you know, she's a little bit further along. She might be. And plus, like I will say,

it does make the alone time so much more special because it's so few and far between. So maybe the initial goodbye will be hard, but I bet that pretty soon she'll just be really excited. I'm happy to have a party. We did our first baby sitter, that's not grandma grandpa recently, and the first like 45 minutes of dinner,

she's like, just like it's okay, okay. It all went great, but yeah, it's tough for them all. Did you cry the first time that you left your son? No, I didn't, no. I did the second time. The first time we had this set up where I wasn't gonna tour, I tour dates like when he was like three months old. So I was like there being mom and dad locked in,

but I got a work thing that we kind of couldn't say no to when he was like four weeks old. Oh gosh. I was young and her mom came and like stayed with her and helped get through those just few nights, but I'm not gonna lie that four week because you you're awake every two hours for the first. I went to this nice like brand deal trip and slept in a nice hotel. I was like, I didn't share too much with her. I was like, wow, I needed this.

Wow. So until I was like, I didn't share too much with her, I was like, wow, I needed this. Yeah. But, and then the second time I left, like, these three months old, onto her, you know, it's just like, you're so in love with them and it's so fun. That one was like, oh, I don't know if I can do it. You know, you do all the things. Like, is he gonna remember who I am? Right, right, right.

Does he know what it's, is he sitting there, like where's my dad's never coming back? You do, you're concerned with these thoughts. I just wish I could tell them that we're coming back. That's really nice. I don't know what they're thinking. I don't know if they've even compute if they're just like, they blink and I'm like back

and they're just like, oh, that guy's back. I like that guy. I don't know. I don't know. When you think about it, I don't know about you, but my first memory is from when I was like three years old. Exactly.

So it doesn't matter how you pair them. Yeah, we've got two more years of this kit. Two more years with our oldest. They won't remember it. Yeah, and he won't remember any of it, which is kind of weird. I think he'll remember how he felt. I tell him that all the time.

I'm like, he'll remember how he felt. This is all that science right of like, you know, if you like abandoned the kid at the early age for it's gonna have long-term effects. Yeah. But yeah, that is freaky where she's like, let's, I think let's go out to like the park and do a picnic. He'd like that.

And there's that one of like, I don't really care what he likes because he doesn't know what's happened. He doesn't, he'll never remember this. But of course, you, you do everything to see them laugh and stuff, but it is freaky to raise a human that like years on end, they won't recall any of us. And how is range? My earliest memory is like second grade.

Oh my god, I don't remember anything before that. And even that one's foggy. Mine is foggy memories of being like 14. Right. My parents like, we took it Hawaii when you're 14. You remember that? I was like, barely, to be honest. Like we spent a lot of blood on that.

I remember like maybe one thing we did. How was the experience of witnessing the birth of your son? Was it what you expected? Was it different? How's it about that? I got the most valuable piece of advice from one buddy who's had four kids. He just says, there's some things you'll see you'll never unsee. Be careful what you look at.

It's all he said. Wow. And it was, I was one of those guys too. I was, you know, right there with her, she was pushing. I never looked down south. I never looked. Really? I was just, I'm kind of like that room, like,

I queasy easily, gross stuff. I don't, oh, so, I was there with her, looking to write in the eyes, cheer her on. At one point, they're like, he sees, you know, he's crowning, he's gonna do you wanna look down? I'm like, I don't know, I'm good. So I just kept my head up. They came out, they sent him on her chest.

And I, like if I had to walk around her while they were like, you know, repairing her, I just kinda put the head down. I didn't cut the cord. Oh my God. I didn't even cut, oh wow. Okay, I know back in the day, they wouldn't even allow dads in the delivery room, I didn't cut the cord. Oh my god. Oh wow. Oh wow. I know back in the day, they wouldn't even allow dads

in the delivery room, which is bonkers to me. You see that old viral video, I was going to float around somewhere of interviewing husbands in the 40s or something, men and women, should a man be present in the delivery room. And both men and women were like, absolutely not. That's between a woman and her child. That's how it used to be. Or even our dads, I don't know about you're,

all the like us right now, millennial dads or Gen Z dads, like they're like so many of our dads didn't change a single diaper. Like it was just like, you go to work, you provide, mom's got it. And this is trend, which is a good thing, I think, of much more involved, we're expected to be more involved.

But it's, it's well, how is y'all, y'all, I know y'all share a bunch of your birth stories. Were you, you were in it, you saw everything. Saw everything. It's not like, I don't get that way. I just felt horrible for Abby. You just, you just see how painful it looks. And I'm like, you were literally like,

in the most pain of your life right now. And this is like a beautiful thing, but I'm just like, I feel horrible for you. You're going through this. I like talking to dads afterwards. He was like, so how, what, like, you were just like, trauma bonding.

No, no, no, no, no. Well, I think part of it, her epidural wore off. So I think that made it a lot more pain for her. No, I think it's just, afterwards you were like talking to other dads, you were like, I think it's like, you had a little trauma from it We yeah, we fake she got an epidural, but I think we waited too late

So I think she fully dilated without it Yeah, then got it and then I think it was too late where they never a full note She kind of like did it all natural so but you kind of don't know too because you don't know no I've always heard this like people like my epidural wore off or like things like it wasn't working right and then they actually do. Yeah, it's like, no, it's just first that, that's good. And they're like, no, like, that was totally different. But it is sad when you're like, yeah.

I'd rather do this than you, but this is how it is. Yeah, it's fun because I don't look back at it like that. Like I'm like, I'll sign me up, I'll do it again. I wish your wife was here to tell us a little bit more. Give us more of an inside scoop I know she's I know she's back in back in KC right in city. Where were based? It's cool that you're that you live there because my brother one time He said he was at some coffee shop and like he was like do you know this like median tray Kennedy like he was just at this

I'm like, oh no way like I didn't know he lived in inC. Your brother lives there? Yeah, my brother, oh he did. He lives in Phoenix now. But yeah, so we did have family in KC for a little bit. Oh cool. We've been there a few times. Yeah, so he's actually gonna go to the comedy show too tonight. Let's go. We're all worst jokes.

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Yeah, it's, I've never heard anyone meeting this way, like the way we did on Instagram. It was like purely, I guess it's a God thing if you think like that or just like it didn't make sense how I met but I just saw her on the explore page. It's very creepy. Zero mutual connections or friends. She was in Atlanta.

I'm in Kansas City. I just saw, you know, I'm in my single guy era. I was just shooting shots and I saw a cute girl that looked like we had stuff in common. I just followed her and I picked a ton of it. So she followed me back, you know, you play the game. Let's go. Did you have a big following at this time? I did.

I'd like this we met. This would have all been happening 2017, 18. So I'm approaching a million followers on Instagram and I'm doing it full time. I'm getting going and I'd later learned, she had no clue who I was or why I had so many followers or Nordic did she really care, but she followed me back and long story short, months go by like each other's foes, DM, we kind of get to messaging,

kind of hit it off a little that way. And I was in Atlanta traveling around like I do and just asked her out. We went to dinner and it was one of those like, met at 5 p.m. We talked until four in the morning. Wow. Just new, pretty immediately. Like I flew back to Atlanta two weeks later to see her again. You know, so didn't get weird. Like I guess see you in a few months or you. And spent a whole week just, I mean, just it always made sense. So we did long distance Atlanta, Kansas City for a little over a year.

Wow. Which was, you know, I guess a good challenge, but it sucked. And then she, she was nice enough to move to Kansas City and got married a year later. Wow. Wow. Yeah. So a year of long distance and then a year of dating in Kansas City and then you were married. Yeah. Okay. Were you engaged for that year in Kansas City? We were half of that.

So you probably lived in Kansas City six or seven months and then we got engaged. Okay. And then married in 2020. Our big wedding was May of 2020. I was gonna ask yeah You talk about Bridezilla on another level man. I mean it was not her fault. She was of course she's devastated She as a spike she's planning the wedding doing the whole classic thing like I don't just can't figure out This the the seating chart is like I don't care at all. So just you do your thing. I'm happy with whatever you do. You do it.

And this is the, you know, COVID might last a few weeks or is this gonna affect our wedding? I don't know. And then it, it's funny. It was May, like, should we postpone it to August? And I was like, Katie, I thought it was being so smart. I was like, I think we should postpone it in delayed September to be safe.

Like, okay. Of course, two years later, we finally, did you postpone it in delayed September to be safe. Like, okay. And of course, two years later, we finally- Did you postpone it? We got married in May of 2020. Okay. That was back in the day when it was like you were only loud, at least in Kansas City, to have 10 people in a room. What?

Like the weird, so we had what was actually really beautiful, like intimate, just our immediate family. And then we broke the rules and had you know 15 people and it's just weird times and it was a really nice night. We honey we did a little honeymoon in Arkansas because like everything's closed. Yeah, it's we just drove to like this lake in our cell. It was just turned out to be hey We've been Arkansas for a couple of days. North Fork, did you go to Lake North Fork? It was Beaver Lake. Okay, I haven't heard of that one.

It's up in Northwest Arkansas. It's really beautiful. I mean, we found the cool condos. Yeah, it was great. And then it was May of 2021 when we did like the whole planned wedding that we'd postponed three times. I loved it, because the weight of that day

was not on the party day. We just showed up, we'd been married for a year already. We did the whole ceremony, so she could have the experience of walk down the aisle for her friends, but she kind of reset the vows and it just had a party, so. That's really cool. That was fun.

That is fun. Gotta go out after, you know? Because we were good, you know, we're good Christian shelter people. The wedding night's very special, very fancy, but I'm a big party. I'm like, trust me, I was like, we have a whole lot to do this. I want to have the time of life with her friend. She's like, are you kidding me?

She didn't like that. So our actual wedding night, of course, was really special and intimate and intimate. So that was fun, too, to just like go out with like the wedding. So we just went out close the bars down and we got married in Austin, Texas is just the most fun night of my life. Oh, wow. That's really fun. No, yeah, at our wedding, we were 20 and 21 and we had waited. So we were at nine o'clock, we're we're out. Yeah, nine times sharp. We were studying at nine o'clock. We were, we were out of the room.

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I don't know, I did feel it. Because I think you get creeped up to, I feel like when I was 28, there was still this sense of like, I would still go places where like college kids were. Like you can kind of like certain people might say, I don't know, what are you? You just out of college? You start 30, I feel like you really, at least me.

I don't know, Katie's of course of course, women go through it too. You do start to look at me and you're like, yeah, I'm for sure 30. I don't look like I'm in college. There's definitely some wrinkles happening. The hair is not what it used to be, some gray star pop. It is weird, man, because we were in Tucson doing a show, which is the home of Arizona University. And we were leaving the show a show, which is the home of Arizona University.

And we were leaving the show and see the college kids start rushing the bars and it's just like, those look like children do. Like that's crazy. And so it's good. Like I'm excited for my 30s, new whole phase, but it was a little bit of a crisis of people. Tell me all the time that I, they thought I was in my mid 30s.

So I don't even, by the time I'm 30, I want to people want to think I'm like retired. Well, I think it's I Think it's more cuz we have to Children I think because we have two children like people are like you're 24 and have two children like what what? Yeah, I think that's more of what it is. I don't think you're right. You definitely do not look 30 I was actually embarrassed. We got we were young when we were like engaged and married So I was like embarrassed I thought people would like make fun of us for being like crazy young and like stupid for getting married

So young even though we knew So yeah, that was that was actually my fear four years ago I was like I don't want people to make fun of me for being a 21 year old, that's married. Because people thought that was weird. At least- We were in college, literally just like going to our public university like my husband. I'd just be quiet, be like, my husband. That's interesting.

So yeah, y'all were in college at the same university going to classes like with your husband. Yeah. So yeah, you guys, how long from meeting to marriage? How long? Three years. Yeah, three years. Okay. Oh, from meeting to marriage? How long? Three years. Yeah, three years. Two years.

Yeah, from getting to marriage. Getting to marriage, yeah. From meeting it was longer, right? So I guess, yeah, you guys, you know, you're obviously doing it, you're still together, you have kids, like, there's an element of, sure, like, do we wait two, three more years to we graduate?

Let's just go ahead. That's what everybody told us to do. Yeah. Yeah. Like, no, we're gonna get married in college. That's why. That's why. Yeah, well, I'm. And we're like, no. Why? We're going to get married in college. That's why. Yeah.

Well, I'm curious too. So being someone on social media is cool because I think a lot of comedians can make a living now without having to travel. I know back in the day. I feel like all these comedians must have had to travel and be away from their families all the time just to make ends meet. And so now social media has changed that. So I'm curious with the touring aspect,

obviously you're not always on tour, but why the tour, is it a cool way to connect with your fans? Is it because you really enjoy it? Is it a big part of how you make money as an entertainer? I'm just curious the why the tours. Good question, yeah. The touring started Again, right right when we were kind of getting engaged all that so I was geared up to two or big wow my first

I've been doing shows in 2019 Write in my show trying to figure out how to do this live comedy thing and then in My very first show of the big tour we announced was March 11th 2020 which if you that was like the night or like the NBA, I got off stage is like trending like NBA season canceled MLB kids like shutting down. And so we got two of those shows done before, you know, literally everything we had canceled and postponed. That was your first tour. Yeah, yeah. Wow. And in a ways, I'm really grateful for that because I, when, you know when most comedians, they spend years and years trying to get to the point where they can sell tickets.

And I'd spent years building this presence where I could immediately sell tickets. And so in a way, I'm grateful for, it's like everything got postponed a year. I just feel like I got, obviously, more experience better. I got thrown into these weird situations I had to learn to deal with like a show where they're only allowed to be 25% full

and everyone wears masks. Like that's not a fun thing to perform too. How do you deal with that? How do you make sure everyone has a good time? So there's a lot of good experiences with that and I just couldn't believe I was able to to sell tickets and do that. It was a fun challenge.

I felt like I had an act for it and it was really addicted to getting better at it. And we were young. We were married. It was this crazy adventure. We toured the country. She came to every show. She had an amazing job. The first month of the tour, she would fly out Friday after work and fly home Sunday to

meet me for some of it and very quickly, like, met this. It was like, just quit your job and let's do this. So she quit, came to 60 cities with me. It was just like a really, really fun experience. And it's been a lot of conversation like we don't have kids. How do we do this? So we set this to her schedule is a lot less rigorous where I'm back and forth than I, I'm home more than I'm not.

And you know, that one of those weird phases were, rigorous where I'm back and forth and I'm home more than I'm not. And you know, one of those weird phase where I think social media influencers, contributors are getting more, more legitimized or respected, and especially comedians. But there's still nothing like live. There's nothing, I think, from everyone's point of view, like, okay, making videos is one thing. Can you do this in this room with all these people here?

And it's great business, it's great fun. So, but I never, I think a lot of people, too, in my position are like, I just want to use the point where I can stop making the videos. I'm just doing the shows, but I'll never stop the videos, because I can very much foresee a day where I say, you know what, I got a wife and three kids. I'm done with this, like being gone thing. I'm just gonna wake up, make videos, and never leave.

Yeah. That would be a pretty cool life too. So, it's cool, very blessed to have options. Cause you guys know that you've done the podcast, you're diversifying, like it's nerve-wracking being a content creator where you're like, for years, my 100% of my money was brand deals. I'm just like praying, I'd get an email that McDonald's was to pay me, you know.

I saw your McDonald's ad for the whole of the coffee. Shout out, it's funny. So the tickets too is just like a big reassurance of algorithms change, apps get deleted, things, but now I know like I can go into city and sell tickets. So I have some control over my career a little bit, which is a great feeling. I feel like the energy of live performance also too has to be like exhilarating. It's so fun, yeah. But also that literally sounds like my worst fear is like having to go up on a stage by myself

and make people laugh. Yeah, it's both. Has there been times where literally no one's laughing? Oh yeah, no, it's never happened to me. Yeah, it's both. Has there been times where literally no one's laughing? Oh, yeah. No, it's never happened to me. Yeah, yeah, that's. I, I was telling someone recently,

I feel like just now I'm really like coming into my own. I feel like I know what my audience wants and I'm really enjoying trying new jokes and it doesn't bother me if jokes don't work. But when you're figuring it out, it's horrifying. I would literally run away. How do you recover?

It was, I mean, nearly didn't several times, but I don't know how. It's kind of, I mean, it's similar. It hurts a lot more in person, but it's somewhere when you make a bad video, or like you get roasted for a video, and you're like, I'm deleting all this. And then you somehow keep going. I mean, I remember the first time I ever truly had like a nightmare. I was, I'd done a dozen sets, you know,

it was going fine, but I finally had a horrible night. It was an all black audience. And I'd just done an all black audience and done really well. They were high energy, they're fun, they loved me. And so I'm, and I've done, stand up for a months now, and it's always gone okay, so I'm getting too Confed I'm like I'm not preparing as much. I was like, you know, I was going there, and this is all black audience So I was kind of like I see him like well, these are my people, you know, I make these people out

Oh, you're comedian, yeah, I mean, and I go up there in my opening joke I make a joke about queer eye, which was like huge at that moment. Yeah. And, nothing, I mean, I quickly realized, black people apparently don't watch this show, because they looked at me like, Queer, what is he talking about? And that was my first experience of saying like a set up

and a joke and just getting radio silence, and I just fell apart. I mean, the next 10 minutes, I was just like, and I could tell they started to laugh like at me. They're like, dude, like this guy's falling apart up here. And I was like, oh, and the next comedian after me like opened by making fun of me. And I just left out the back door.

I was like, I'm never sure of this. I'm really making fun of you. That's what comedians do. Yeah, she's like, oh, that's so mean. Yeah, that's what they do. Which I respect and it needed to happen to help his performance, but yeah. Oh my gosh, that's what my,

and Katie was there at all these supporting me and I should have been going home. She's like, it's okay, it's okay. I was like, oh my God. What? I'm never going back there again. Where was this? Is it a comedy club in Kansas City?

Okay. I went up there every like, there I would get on these shows to do like a 10 minute spot every week and asked her, I mean, willed myself to do it. I don't know why, but it was like, I don't know if I was having fun. I was like, I just feel like,

I gotta keep trying this and I don't know. So do you actually enjoy it then? No, I'm miserable. No. I do. It's like the simultaneous like conquering this challenge and I do really enjoy it. There's a lot of doubts still and a lot of, he's just like with any job, but it's just

more visceral when you get off stage and you just get in your head like I can get a staining ovation and get off stage and be like, is that what they, did they really think that was that funny or vice versa too? There's times like I'm, I'm hardly going to prepare. I'm hilarious and it just, and I, and the more you'm like, I'm hardly gonna prepare, I'm hilarious. And the more you do it, like with videos, like with live, you just, you find your, if like you find your even keelness to like, I don't want to go to that, I'm gonna do my thing, I'm not gonna get it too high, too low,

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Do you find things funny? Or are you so surrounded by comedy all the time that you can't even laugh as you're so used to it? You know, I think a lot about, I was like, stand up comedians, what propelled me to keep doing that when I was like terrified of it and miserable. Like, is it good things in me? Is it bad things?

Like am I a psychopath? Why am I? And there's a lot of things these comedians, especially these stand-ups or rumblings, is people that devote their lives to comedy and performing like they're often troubled and why do you want to do this in that bad? And so I tried to examine that,

but I just, I feel very lucky. That's people are shocked, I, you'll probably get this a little bit. You live in LA or New York City. I was like, I don't, I have no plans to live by those places. I live in Kansas City and I can why do you live there. It's like I just, my people live there. It's close to home.

And I have a great wife and I have a great group of friends that I feel like I come home to. And we just joke around as friends do and dilaphing and it just grounds me of like, I don't know, I think that, I think there's a lot of successful, famous people and people in general who, you know, just like people are lonely, they don't have ways to laugh just with friends or or ticket. So very, very lucky to have like super, super great family and friends that, yeah, I think keep me from losing my mind For sure. Yeah, that's good. I think that my favorite one is Oh my god, oh yeah, that was good. Yeah, little one's far by you. I'm just personally called out right now

No, you're the get ready with me queen. Did you who made that up? I actually don't know if I've ever said that, but like I just tell stories while I do my movie. I've always been doing those for a long time. Did you make those up? She was doing them before they got cool. Well, people had done them before you, but you were one of the first people that was like more of a family creator to do them.

And it's just because you're such a great, don't think I deserve that credit. No, you do. Don't be face and do it right now. No, no, you literally, do you would do them and you would even write down a script you would just talk like you're so talented you need not to write out a script you're just so talented I know Abby started doing this like two years ago before they were even they get ready with me ones and then all your mom ones I just like love but I feel like whenever I see them I'm like oh man I can already feel because I

feel like the mom community online can be brutal and so I'm like whenever I see them, I'm like, oh man, I can already feel because I feel like the mom community online can be brutal. And so I'm like, does he hit the mom community riled up or are they like on your side? Yeah, you know, I think it's mostly positive. I feel very lucky that, you know, and you do it long enough, I don't dive into the comments that often,

but I think mostly, of course you see a few crazy comments people getting fired up about this for that, but I think they're most on my side. I'm very fortunate. That's good. One of your top videos is making fun of baby names. And I was dying because that's just, I don't know, I feel like it's a hot topic of the day.

And you were just roasting these baby names. How did you come up with that concept? Cause that was four years ago, and it's still going on. Yeah, that's what's crazy with social media. You can kind of like repost, it's like, I have so many new followers that I'll repost videos from five years ago

and they'll go viral again. It's like people didn't see it. So, I repost to the one you're talking about, the kind of roll call, right, just read through crazy names. It's like a huge video five years ago. I just reposted it one you're talking about the kind of roll call right just read through crazy names is like a huge video Five years ago I just reposted it went viral again because y'all young on viral for some making fun of some baby names respect, right? People got after you. Yeah, that's that's what's weird because I roast people are like, oh, yes funny I don't know why y'all get the bad side of it. I was I'm supporting. I

Look she's like, I don't want to talk about it. No, but we it. I'm supporting. I have no comment. She's like, don't wanna talk about it. No, but we didn't even say a baby name. That's the crazy, we didn't even mention a name. A specific name. It was, you just said like the names are too much. I said the names are getting crazy. And people in our comments were going a little off. And so then some people got offended

by comments in our comment section, which again, like you, we don't read a lot of comments. Like it's damaging. We didn't even know. And then it just kind of built. But I'm traumatized, so I'm not gonna. Yeah, I was like, yeah, was that a whole thing?

You were like, I still get DMs to this day about it. What is that, a 20-second clip? It was a clip from my podcast. Maybe 20 seconds. It was a clip. I didn't even say a name. I just said names were getting crazy, so I,

when I saw that, I was like, oh my gosh, is he getting roasted right now? No, no, not at all. What the heck? Do you want me here to confront me? Screw you. I don't like that. You get away with this? I didn't get away with it.

The video I made where I just wrote home, I went to the Social Security, like US government Social Security website, and they list like the most popular names among the population in the past year, what it was 2017 or whatever, and I just copy that. Even the spellings? Yeah. Oh, that's hilarious.

I didn't even, so I think that's why I went so viral, because that's like literally the popular names. I wasn't making this up. Everyone knows, axly and a clementine and a journey. Like I just copied and we just, I just wrote, clementine and a journey. Like I just cop it and we just, I just wrote, read through it, made jokes. You're any friends who had kids with those names

at that time, felt a lot better? No, my friends are just now having kids. And yeah, I do, I try to tell my friends too, like, listen, I'm just making jokes. Like, you name your kids. Not this serious. Like I don't, wait, what?

Do you... did you know? I did my homework. Oh my gosh. I just wanted to see that reaction. We gotta beat that out. We gotta beat that out. We can't have that. We need to edit that out. Oh my gosh. I thought you just readily did that.

Like how did you know? She starts crying, stops, stops. Oh my god, I thought you just How did you know? Okay, sorry, I have to you name your kid If you name me kiss up and crazy I Love y'all yours. I'm sweating I actually I don't even I like that you name your third kid that just be like it's okay. We support it I If you name your kids something crazy like my best friend. That's you're I'm gonna love your kid That's fine. You probably know how I feel about it, but it's fine. No, no, no, we literally have a friend dude

We have a friend that named their kid kid and and we fully support it because so they have a they're have a back story Yeah, and and I'll tell the story because he's told it on a social media lot, but his brother passed and his brother's nickname was kid. And so we wanted to name his son after his brother, which is always there's always a big reason. And I thought that was really cool. But then people on the internet were like, why are the heck are you naming your kid kid? It's like, no, it doesn't.

Like, we don't care. If it was someone specific, I would never like be like, oh, that name. Stupid. Yeah. Oh, no, I do have friends who they're sort be like, oh, that name. Stupid. Oh my God. No, I do have friends who they're sort, like, we're gonna name them this and they'll be like, train, is that okay with you? Like, yes, I don't, it is funny.

I do a joke in that. You see the show tonight, I do a joke about people, they name the kid weird, but they're make sure they have a really good explanation for it. Then you can't judge it actually. Like, I think I can. I grew up, because my family's hilarious, and they're ruthless.

My grandma was the funniest Southern Baptist woman. She's typed, you get a tattoo, you're dead to me. That's old school. We went to school, it's Springfield, Missouri. You know the time. You know? My sister, she, whenever her best friend's got a tattoo, she went to the same church,

we got a tattoo on her foot, and my grandma was like, what, she got a tattoo? And my sister's like, she got a tattoo. It's because she's commemorating the loss of like this loved one in her life. My grandma's like, that's a lame excuse for a tattoo. She is doubled down. She just went back in.

Yeah, yeah. I don't care. I was like, wow. Wow. Honestly, they should be the most feared demographic is the Southern Baptist group. I know. They're going to, they're a dying breed.

That's your grandma. That's your grandma. We have to be careful. Yeah. Dude, grandma's her own hen. She called him a narcissist once. Oh my god. And then we're like, hey, I don't think you mean that.

I think you mean like maybe what are we saying? We try to give her a nicer word. And she was like, no, no. Well, this was, this was, I think this was the first time she saw a film of YouTube video and she thought it was so weird that we were recording ourselves with a camera.

And she was like, that's kind of narcissistic to record yourself. We probably are actually. Honestly, it's gotta be there somewhere. We're like, we're like talking to each other before we record, like don't talk too much. We need to monetize this Record it save the combo. It is kind of psycho my grandma was because she she passed a few years ago She was she would have been like almost 90 so

Social media that phone and I mean just can't even comprehend it So they're trying my parents. I later learned would try to explain to her behind closed doors like traces This is what he's doing. He's doing fine, he can pay his bills. My grant, you know, she's just like, what is he doing with his life? And then I, so that's a perk two of doing shows. They're like, Grammy, he's selling tickets to a comedy show. She was like, that makes, you know, I know that. She can talk about Bible study that.

Yeah, yeah, right. But she would get in these nursing homes or like hospitals and nurses are oftentimes, you know, very similar to us and might be a fan of mine. So it would come up like, your tracheonity's grandma would be like, cool. And then my grandma who used to be like, get a job in her last days,

every nurse that ever walked in a room was like, do you know tracheonity? That's my grist. She would ask like a 70 year old nurse. Do you know Tray Kennedy? It's like she doesn't, she's in the same boat you are. She doesn't have a phone. But she would always say he's a multimedia star.

A multi, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's the same grandma that would get mad if you got tattoos. Yeah, well, do you have any tattoos? She's a pinionator. I don't, I guess she would, I really have any tattoos? She's a pinion. I don't.

I guess she would go. I really have no desire. Maybe it's because they brainwashed me. I shouldn't have. Well, I don't. Do you have tattoos? Any of your siblings? Actually, we do.

Should we show more tattoos? Why do we always do this? This is like a segment now of our podcast where we show our guests are tattooed. We got a matching tattoo. Somebody's it out. We don't have to show it at the same time you show. Three, three, three, two, one. We're both at the same time.

They're matching. Oh, I think y'all have, y'all posted this. Yes.'all posted this yes dude it's old news is that for the podcast or before we got it those are first merch launch and we are like we got just been crazy to promote our merch and so we're like let's get matching lip tattoos a dedicated content creators how about it that hurt not bad that's all about yeah cuz that goes away right apparently my face like I was thinking I was gonna go 10 years, but. Yeah, it's been like three years. It's still here.

They said it would go away after like two or three years and we still have it. Just bold to suffer. I think it's three years in October. I never get about it and I go to the dentist and they're just like doing work and I'm like, I get home or later that day. We got our kid banging on our window.

Yeah, he's locked up. He's no one's washing mouth. He's locked him out. He's so up. He was inside. No one's watching out. They just lock him out. Look at the dog. He just put him in the backyard. Grief, I'll be out there in a little bit, OK? Oh my goodness. That's pretty cute.

Wow. No, no, no one in my family. I guess it works. My siblings, cousins, no one has tattoos. I don't know of. Wow. They're just hiding it. They're saying.

His brother got a big tattoo of David, the statue of David on his shoulder. Like, bicep. And Abby's mom was not happy about that. She still talks about it regularly to him. And he got another one, the class, I get a job with that. That's so bad.

No one cares. No one cares. Not getting a job. I feel like you could have a face tattoo now. And be like, that's cool. That'd be the CEO of like, you know, some crazy. We need some edgy. Yeah, I'm always speaking of content.

You've also, I think you've roasted gender reveals, which I found here. That was also personal. We've also, yeah, we've been personally affected by that because we have had two of them. You got to make your content. But what is it though? Like, did you guys have a January deal for your baby? We did, is the sick part. My wife.

I did. My wife. I guess you're better judgment. Yeah, I don't, I should have posted about that. I should have come in clean. We did, she was like, of course, I'm like, we can't, I've like half my cruise based off of this. We can't do this.

She's like, I just, just a tiny, I just want to cut a cake. Is that that big of a deal? Just, and of course, you know, a lot to call me, I'm like, that's not a big of a deal? You know, logical me. I'm like, that's not a big of a deal, but I'm also like, oh my God. So of course, we were just hanging out with a few friends

like having dinner and then just brought the cake out and revealed it was a boy, but we did. Oh, that's, it was, it's chill as it gets, but I still wasn't happy. You mean you didn't have any poppers? No poppers. It's very messy. I was with, my cousin once we did the poppers

and you have to pick up every one. You probably haven't been invited to a gender reveal party since. No, not any one of the big crazy one. No, really not. I might have really brought a lot of people from doing it. I'm not them. Well, we saw one, these vlogger people on YouTube

literally had drones, like spell out, like it's a bull, and it was like this whole thing. You're gonna have to show me an after. I did find them pressed. No, but the drones were like the light up ones that they use in the Super Bowl that are We had drones like spell out like it's a bullet and it was like this whole thing. It's insane. I'm impressed. No, but the drones were like the light up ones that they use the Super Bowl that are like crazy expensive and it was like a screen like floating in the sky. It was like fire.

It was a 10 minute show. Right. I'm like they must have put in hundreds of thousands of dollars into this gender appeal. I'm like, why? Like I don't get it, but it was hilarious. It was entertaining. Yeah, I mean it's, I guess it'd be a fun part. It's just too much.

We're doing too much. It's the gender of your baby. I'd started making fun like five years ago. I feel like they just became like a thing at all, just like who cares? And yeah, for some reason, I kind of just followed with it and would kind of make fun of it and became this massive trend.

And there's been deaths. People like, you can see this? Like horrible. Like, they'll like do an action to do like, because they do like explosions and tanoride and things have gone wrong. Do you see, remember that whole like massive wildfire around Labor Day of 2020? I remember because we went, we were like in Utah, just kind of like doing a COVID vacation, just sitting in a cabin and smoke started coming in. It was started from a gender reveal. Like, could you imagine? Like, it's a girl and

you just see the flames. You were there at the gender reveal. Well, in your body. It's all the same. Yeah. Yeah. It's like, oh my gosh. Like a ton of the West Coast. So it like, the smoke started pouring into like Salt Lake City. Yeah. Oh my gosh. I didn't realize all that. Yeah, that's. So you're just bringing awareness.

Mm-hmm. I'm saving lives. I'm gonna do it. I think it's your friend. Oh, I think it is. I think your friends are here to record your podcast. Maybe we should have a show. Let's go.

That's right, we're gonna have y'all on our podcast. But yeah, check it out. Trey Kennedy, what's next for you, man? Any big plans other than, obviously you're touring, you're going all over the country. How many shows you have left? Yes, tracin.com slash tour for all the tickets. We just announced some more, so we're gonna tour into May.

We probably have, I don't know, 50 more shows or something, but try to get everywhere, so come and see us. That's super exciting. Yeah. Cool. Well, thank you for coming on here, spilling the tea about baby names and gender reveals. That's super exciting. Yeah. Cool. Wow. Well, thank you for coming on here,

spilling the tea about baby names and gender reveals. This was fun. We should roast us some more. Yeah, roast us on your podcast. Let's do it. Yeah, we'll do it. Thanks for having me, guys. Yeah, of course.

Thanks, Tray. Awesome. And as always, this is where we say peace out dudes. Okay. As always. As always. Three, two, one. Peace out dudes.

As always, three, two, one, peace out. That is.