The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Joining the Mile High Club, Breaking the Law & Marital Advice

Episode Date: March 22, 2023

We went through the newlywed game questions together and it was hilarious! We haven't been through those questions since we were on our honeymoon on a cruise in front of thousands of people... Yeah that was awkward... We talk about that too in this episode as well as our mile high club moment. Make sure to rate our podcast and leave a review if you can, it really helps us out!

Are you a part of the mile high call? Oh my gosh are we here? We're an honorable mention. Are we? That is the ultimate walk of shame. Abby was like, you need to go first. I peeked out of the door. I could see that the flight attendants were like waiting for us to walk out.

Apparently it might be a leak. I looked it up it is a leak. How would you describe your first time between the sheets? I think that was shocking to me how quick it happens. I'm a guy who likes to take it slow and steady. If you're a fast and furious woman, oh. Hey, before we get started, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts,

Spotify or whichever platform you're listening on. It'd mean the world to us and to our YouTube listeners, make sure you hit the subscribe button. Thanks guys. What's up dudes? And welcome back to the unplanned podcast. We both have diarrhea today. Oh my gosh, Abby.

Why are you bringing that up? I just want to get that out there because my tummy really feels weird. Oh my gosh. And if I that up? I just want to get that out there because my tummy really feels weird and if I act off it's just because I- We had some funky stuff for dinner last night. Sorry guys that's probably TMI. We're gonna get TMI though in today's episode. We're doing the newlywed game show. Yes! We haven't done this since our honeymoon right? Is that really good? No we have to give some backstory to this. Oh you guys, we have talked about this probably many times, but if you don't know, we waited till marriage. And so the honeymoon was a very exciting time.

And we were on cruise and the western Caribbean. And on the second night of the cruise, so we board the ship, had dinner that night and went to bed basically because you get there in the early evening. And then the next the next evening we see on the like little itinerary and we are people that just like love to do everything. Yeah, and we're not we're not scared of being from a crowd. So we're like, let's play this game show. It's kind of a crowd of people. This would be fun. Well, no, we're sitting at dinner and it said they're doing the newlywed games. We're like, we're newlywed, let's do it. And so they picked the couple that had been married

the oldest in the crowd. There's like 500 people. They picked the couple that had been married the shortest amount of time, which surprisingly wasn't us because I think some people literally just got married and got on the list waiting like a week. Yeah, we were married a week, I guess. And so then, they're like, for the third couple,

you have to do an audition. And so we like did this ridiculous audition where we pretended to be Tarzan and Jane. I don't know why they had to do that. and so we like did this ridiculous audition where we pretend to be Tarzan and Jane I don't know why they have to do that anyway I was saying I sang in front of the whole entire cruise ship I think you'll be in my heart which is now Griffin song wait that's actually really sweet I never even thought about that sweet okay so anyway we're in front of this crowd we got chosen because that really committed to that. We won, they liked my performance. And so, This is before we even did social media,

by the way, we've always been just like goofy people. And we did all the dance parties and just like always, Matt did karaoke like every single day on the cruise ship, which stressed me out because karaoke's my biggest fear. We'll have to share a video from our cruise, our honeymoon cruise on the Oshley podcast Instagram. But we get in this game and you guys,

we had no idea how Ranchee these questions were gonna be. They were pretty crazy and um they were some can we just say one of the questions go for it. It was like what was love making like on the first night of the crews and then we're like literally what are they gonna do? What are they gonna ask us? I how are we gonna phrase this and so they're like to do. What are they gonna ask us? How are we gonna phrase this? And so they're like related to a holiday, either 4th of July, like fireworks and excitement, Halloween, freaky, Thanksgiving, sleeping with the turkey. I'll never forget this is burning my brain. Oh my gosh, that show, it just took us by surprise. Well, we are just so embarrassed answering these questions. And then then a couple days later,

people on the cruise ship, no, like the very next morning, everyone starts recognizing us on the cruise ship. Like everyone's like, oh my gosh, you're like, oh, from the Lua game show. I said, how many people went to this show? I mean, there's like thousands of people on this cruise. Like, how does everyone know that we're on the show? And we come to find out that they recorded the whole entire thing and we're playing the show in everyone's state room. Every single cabin on the cruise was watching that basically on repeat because there's no shows on those cabin TVs. And so we'd be out like off on the island on an excursion. They'd be like, Hey, I see you on my cabin TV.

And or like, oh my gosh. Nobody needs to know that. We literally just got married. We had literally like, we waited till marriage. We had only been married for a week and everybody knew about our sex life. Everyone on this cruise ship knew about our sex life. It was so embarrassing.

And to this day, you guys, we will see comments on TikTok and other social media platforms for people are like, oh my gosh, you guys are on a cruise. I saw you guys on a cruise. So this is our second time playing the newly wed game shows. We're doing a little different. We're just gonna go over these questions. But I felt like we needed something a little lighter

because if you didn't see episode seven, it was pretty heavy. And we just need to get the energy back up. And we're not always gonna be like that and just be fun. So we try to have a happy balance, right? Because we wanna keep things positive. We don't wanna be like so overly positive that you start to think like, oh, Matt and Abby are fake.

And it's like, no, we want to show the real crap that we go through, but then also not be too negative. So we're trying to keep the balance here, right? Yeah, just like real life. Yeah, that's real life for you. So this will be fun. You want to just get ridin' the questions? Let's go for it.

We had someone else come up with these questions, so we are reading them for the first time with you, but I read the first one. Oh my gosh, what is it, Abby? Read it out loud. How would you for the first time with you, but I read the first one. Oh my gosh, what is it, Abby? Read it out loud. How would you describe your first time between the sheets? Oh my god.

Fast and furious, broken down, or slow and steady wins the race. Fast and furious. What is broken down me? I have no idea. Oh, like it didn't work. Oh, that must be it, yeah. Like it didn't work.

That happens, I've heard. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Well, if it's new. That happens, I've heard of that. Oh my gosh. I'm not people, if it's new. I mean, I think I was shocking to me how quick it happens. Like you wait your whole entire life for this moment, and then it's like five minutes is up. Well, no, no, no, it was really, really sweet. We're still pretty fast and furious, honestly.

Wait, we've never... We've never told... You're a fast and furious woman. I'm a guy who likes to take it slow and steady, but... I'm tired. who likes to take it slow and steady, but We've learned now that we've been married for nearly four years. We've learned that like you can't wait till nighttime Because you're just too freaking tired, especially with the kid like everyone's exhausted at night So yeah, I'll all two of us. I don't know. I actually wanted to I want to say a funny story What is your last night? Oh my god. We have never ever shared. Oh gosh

But we talk about it between us sometimes so Matt I know what you're about to say before and so Matt I don't know if I should share this and Know you're gonna say it's's hilarious. You can share it. Okay, the top comes off. Oh my god.

And Matt is distracted. I'm very distracted. A lot going on. Can you scoot over a pit? It's a step of a bit. I'm like, I'm staring at her and I know what I'm seeing. And I don't know how the words got fumbled up and I wanted to say, move over a bit

and somehow Tit came out as that. I mean, bit, I mean bit. And then I told her, I mean, but I think you were kind of nervous, and you didn't really think it was that funny at the time, but like the next day, we were like, that was hilarious. That was hilarious. Great memory, honestly.

Well, that about our wedding night. Yeah. So yeah, I guess I would agree with that one. Okay, how many times do we do it on our wedding night? Wow, was it just one time or wedding night? Did we do it twice in the wedding night? We might have done it twice. We did it twice.

We did it once. We got to talk about. What? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what?

We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what?

We got to talk about what? We got to talk about what? We and then we did it again. We had plenty of time because we got back from our wedding at nine p.m. Honestly, can we run that back? That was a great night. That was so sweet. We went talk about. The wedding day was like one of my favorite days ever. Oh my gosh.

It was the best. It was magical. Couldn't have been better. Who would you say, or who would your spouse say, is the better catch? Tough question is that. What is that? That's not the question, is that? What is that? That's so...

Who got lucky? That's, no. It's me, 1,000%. No, no, no, no. Like you are the better catch. No, that's, well, first of all, that's such a subjective question. I'm thinking about this way, too, largely, first of all.

No, but like, you're, no, I definitely, no, I got lucky. No, you know that I have the better catch. You're a very, very fun person of your own, and you have an amazing personality, and you're very smart. You're very hot, smart, kind, and fun. You got everything. So are you. Wow, we're just gonna keep complimenting each other

for the rest of the episode. Abby got dressed up for date night the other night, and she looked so hot. We almost got into an argument, and I was like, I don't even care if you would, I'm like, you win. You are so beautiful was like, I don't even care if you would, I'm like, you win, you are so beautiful, like, I don't even care right now. And it was funny how the argument just stopped right there

because I was like, you were smoking hot. I was like, you are, yes, you are correct, I am wrong. I was like, I am wrong, you are right. Let's go on this date, you're beautiful. So I'm easier to fight with when I'm ugly. Yes, honestly. Oh no, no, no, no, no, but we're like, we need to cancel. Let me get. Oh no, no, no, no, no, no. But when you get canceled,

I'm like, no, no, no, no. But like when you like get dressed up for a date, and I'm just like, I'm just like, damn, you know what I'm saying? Like that just, I don't know, I just love that. I love taking you out on dates. Matt, you're the better. And we made this new rule you guys on dates now. We don't talk about kids or work,

and it's like so good. Because I think when you talk about kids and work on a date, it's just kind of, it's not freaking fun, you know? It's and work on a date, it's just kind of, it's not freaking fun, you know, it's not. Well, no, it's just not the time or place. Not the time or place. I don't know why we ever did that. Like, why did we think it was okay

to talk about kids or work on date nights? It's not okay. Yeah, and we- We did talk about baby names the last week's date night. Yeah. I think we actually came up with our boy name and our girl name. Dude, yeah, we did.

We came up with two really good names. I'm very excited. I almost teared up when Abby said this name that I've never even thought of for a girl. Every time I've said this name, he started to share it, but it's starting to make me think that we're having a girl. It's so precious.

Anyway, okay, we're done. I've never seen you do that. Okay, your spouse takes your hand and pulls you to the dance floor. They say that the DJ is playing your song. What song is it? I think the first one that's popped in my brain is forever like that with my band actor.

That was our first dance song and that was like our special song. That's our song. That's our song. What's your song? What's my song? What is my song? I don't know what's it. Oh, I know. Any of your like DJ songs. I mean, I love a good EDM song, but I don't know if they like hit the same as like forever like that. Like they're just like those songs. I have like a new favorite EDM song like every month. Like there's a new song that hits

really hard. Like today there's a song I think it's called Heaven by Nile Horan that's red playing and I was like that is a good song. That's a freaking good song. But um those come and go real fast. Yeah that's sweet. Forever like that by Ben Rector would definitely be the one. Yeah that's probably that might be mine too. Because I'll be honest the other songs could we could just dance by ourselves on the dance floor. Yeah I that's probably that might be mine too. Because I'll be honest, the other songs could we could just dance by ourselves on the dance floor. Yeah, I'll start about the song and dance to with my mom at the wedding. I feel like a woman by Shenai Twain. I was a big Shenai Twain fan as a kid. And so just made sense to dance to Shenai Twain with my mom when I was getting married. But yeah, that's what a clip of you and your mom dancing to Shenai Twain on the unplanned podcast

Instagram. Oh my God. So totally at the unplanned podcast. That was honestly you guys brought the house down. Yeah, do we have a video of that? I hope we do. We do. And then we also have a video that you should post on the Instagram of us playing the newlywed game show. Oh my gosh.

After we've been married for like three days. I have a hard drive with that whole entire video recorded. They wouldn't give us the video for some reason. So I had a record on our camera, the state room TV, and it's on a hard drive. Good thing it was airing 24-7. I know, so it's on a hard drive somewhere. I need to find that video.

Okay. What is one thing that your spouse has that you'd love to get rid of? Oh no. The pregnancy pillow. Why did the first word that popped in my brain was attitude? Excuse me? I don't know. I don't, it was like, I'm just like teasing you.

I'm just like, I'm so sassy. I'll say it, you're a savage sometimes. You're a straight savage. You are. But I love you. I have an expectation. And if it's not met, I'm going to voice it honestly. You are a woman with class

I will say that class. Yeah, you were yeah, and you know you really do know your worth you really do But sometimes sometimes it's a bit much. I'm like okay Abby like I'm like bowing down to you right now like in me Okay, that's not entirely fair. Okay. Sorry That's supposed to be a light hearted new bed Okay, sorry That was too far. I'm sorry. That was too far. I'm sorry. Now we're gonna have to go fight off camera So okay, okay, I'm sorry. What is it? What is it next? What do you want me to get rid of? Isn't it like a trait? Is it like I have something your make tops? Is it me? I don't wear tank tops anymore, dude I have one I just folded and put in the closet Okay, I thought you were gonna say, like.

Oh, another thing, empty bottles in the shower. I'm not a very good listener. I thought you were gonna say something about my listening. Like if you could get rid of my- Thing, one thing. Oh, okay. Why did I read that as like something, like a, not like a physical item, but more of like a-

You're thinking too deep. I got way too deep with that, I'm sorry. Another thing I'm gonna get rid of is when there's an empty bottle in the shower, I want you to just throw it away. So I've just like collecting empty shampoo bottles and... Yeah, I let things filled up. I have two like basically empty toothpaste tubes

on my sink. So it's nice that we have both of them. Oh yeah, empty toothpaste tubes. We have our own sinks now. That's crazy. I feel like we leveled up in marriage by having our own sinks, but used to share one. So. It was kind of sweetening brush our teeth together. having our own sinks, but used to share one. So.

It was kind of sweet, we brushed our teeth together. It was, really sweet. It used to share the same toothbrush, it was so cute. Okay, so the only thing Matt wants me to do is my attitude. No, no, no, no. Next question, your spouse asks you to grab them a treat from the store on your way home.

What do you buy? Oh, for you, it's gonna be, it's most likely gonna be a coffee. I pick you up coffee more often than not. But if you want a special job. More often than not. Like if you're like get me something, it's usually going to be a coffee. Oh, I know you, a slurpee from 7-Eleven. I love a good 7-Eleven Slurpee. Those are so good and they're only a dollar. And I'd get you sun chips. Yes. The original. If you're going to go for a candy bar, you're going to go for a take-five bar. Those are always the move.

And if you're gonna get something at Cold Stone, you're gonna want something with like rice. Crustown. Yeah, if you get like brownie with chocolate and raspberry. We rarely go to Cold Stone. That's true. But then. It's too pressy.

I'm trying to think of other things. I think I nailed yours honestly. I think you got mine good. Yeah, I mean coffee. It's just coffee. Yeah. Like there's really not another. Yeah.

Oh, dude. And crumble cookies. So you see crumble cookies like every week. Yeah, we haven't been on our crumble good. Yeah, I mean, it's just coffee on the time. Like there's really not another. Yeah. Oh, dude, and crumble cookies. We use to eat crumble cookies like every week. Yeah, we haven't been on our crumble game. Yeah, for like weeks and weeks we got crumble every single week. There's a flavor this week you'd really like. It's butter scotch. Yes, okay, we gotta try it this week. Okay, what one word would I use to describe our first time?

Dang, lots of first time questions. Sweet, what's newlywed? Uh, yeah, it's newlywed. Yeah, it's just really sweet. It was really sweet. Ah, I thought it was great, honestly. Some people that wait sometimes have a lot of experience. Yeah, it was pretty great. I think it was great.

What adjective best describes your spouse on your wedding day? Sorry, I'm just like still my feels right now. We've made this video. It's actually on our YouTube channel. It was super vulnerable. Vulnerable of us to share this. I'm shocked we actually did this back like three years ago, but we like reacted to that wedding night message to ourselves because we were like so in love

and so hyped on life and just our marriage that we like made a video to our future self. Wait, I do wanna give that piece of advice to anyone that is engaged. Oh yeah. Think about making a video when you get back to your hotel room after your wedding.

When your emotions are just so high and you're so in love and you have just dedicated and committed your life to this person, make a video and that you can watch if you guys are agitated or hitting a low point your marriage because it really like lifts you up and reminds you of your love for each other. Totally, and then when you hit those rough parts

and marriage, which you will, everybody does, there's nobody that's above it. And when you hit rough points where it's just like, really hard to keep going on. And you think about, well, my life looked like if I wasn't with this person, like would I be happier? And I mean, like literally everybody has those same thoughts. And when you first have those thoughts,

you think like, oh my gosh, what's going on? This is crazy. Like, I'm, something's wrong. Something's wrong with me, or maybe my marriage. Maybe I married the wrong person. Everyone has those thoughts, dude. And I'm sure there might be like a, like, 0.1% people that don't, but like everybody has those thoughts.

And when you have those thoughts, that's when you can go back and watch that video. And it like reminds you of like why you want to work for your marriage. So. Yeah, it's really sweet. Yeah, that was a cool video. So I have an adjective that I would best describe you on your R wedding day and it was giddy. I feel like you were very giddy.

One last thing, when you date your spouse, when you go on dates, then you remember to what it felt like to be yelling and loving again Because like going on dates and not talking about work and not talking about kids, you just like feel that like strong connection. And it's just so much fun and you feel like you're with your best friend. And yeah, so make that video. And if you're if you are have been married for a, hey, even 20 years, make a video right now, like if you're in a good spot of your marriage, make a video to remind to remind yourself like hey this is worth fighting for even when times are hard. That was very sweet.

Good advice. Thank you. Okay, sorry. Your question I totally got distracted. I was like so focused on that question. You know that was all good stuff. You're spitting facts. Yeah, okay so you just asked me what?

What adjective would you use to describe me on our wedding day? I said you were giddy. Oh my gosh. Um. Ah. I have a word for myself. I can't really think, why can't I think of anything? I was gonna say you were like a party,

but that's not an adjective. Like you were, I'm not counting. You, I'll keep thinking. What were you gonna say? As you say, I was, I just remember feeling so at peace on our wedding day, the whole day, which wasn't true for the days leading up to the wedding.

Yes. I was anxious, I had a breakdown, I was freaking out. And then on our wedding day, I just literally felt so calm and at peace. I just remember a lot of the sweet women in my life were so well-meaning, like, make sure you eat. I know you're not gonna want, I was like, I've eaten good today.

You ate good. I had like five sandwiches. Joyful. Aw. Joyful. Ah. Joyful. Yeah, you were not a bridesilla. In fact, you were the opposite of a bridesilla. And I'm so thankful for that.

Like I'm so thankful. Like you're pretty go with the flow to have a person. You're pretty chill. And so, yeah, I would say you were joyful because it was just, you were just so happy and you didn't really like Worried too much about like every single thing falling into place. It was just hey, we're here to celebrate a marriage We're here to know what was supposed to fall in the place. Oh true. I didn't plan my own wedding

So I just showed up and it was just I was the best. I was just so Yeah, happy like yeah, that's that was a good word. I did my own makeup and my mom's makeup And you're hung out with my girls. Why has your makeup? I'm not trying to you know be offensive here. Why was your makeup like it's not been good when other people do it But like you are good at makeup. When Devon just did my makeup it was so good. Actually, right So maybe you've just had I don't want to offend people about the people that have done your makeup in the past other than Devon I think I have a very unique face. Yeah, and you know how to do your face well I mean you're good at makeup. You're really good.

I'm familiar with my face. I can tell when other people do your makeup, it doesn't look as good, but Devon actually did a very good job on your makeup. I think what they do is they. You and Devon are great at makeup, actually. Yeah, you and Devon should collab on makeup. I would be so into that. What is the worst thing that happened on your wedding day?

I really, I can't even answer that. Can't think of a single bad thing. Yeah, honestly, I can't even think of anything, actually, at all. What? I forgot my wedding dress. Oh, you did. But I mean, we just went and picked it up then. Yeah, there you go.

There's easy fix. There you go. That's awesome. It was a really great day. I really can't think of anything honestly. I don't want to make any memory at all. Yeah. I'm saying I don't want to try to force any. I mean, I'm sure there were things that happened that were not ideal, but it doesn't have

any space in my memory. I must have forgotten. It was the best day ever. Yeah. What song would best describe your spouse in the bedroom? Um, the fast and furious. What the heck? You make it sound crazy!

Yeah, I don't want that. You're just like a really fast song, like a two-minute song, you know? That's just like from start to finish, just like really quick. Doesn't take much time. Wow, Matt. I don't think I have, I don't know if I can come up with this song title for you. Like we're talking about like a name of like an actual song. I guess. Yeah.

Um, why did I just think of Pony from Magic Mike? We played Pony from Magic Mike on our on our honeymoon on our honeymoon dude That was hilarious. I just thought of hilarious and yeah, it was fun to never mind. I don't want to get too into it But we yeah, we just you know dance dance around play the song. It was a good time. Great time I'm sorry. I don't really have a good answer, but I don't know a lot of song titles um I also don't really have a good answer for that song. I don't know a lot of song titles. I also don't want to get graphic. Can you just say one? You can't think of a single song for me? Well, Poe- he doesn't describe-

What about- what about the song- like our- our song, you know, the song that we listen to? When we- when we uh- Yeah, we're gonna expose that song. Are we gonna say, you wanna say her song? She can say it! Why am I like, it's by, it's by, uh, Leon Bridges. Mrs. is this the song? Yeah, Mrs. by Leon Bridges, that's her song.

I'm feeling bad, is- Is that my song? Well, that's not your song. Is that how you describe me? I think... Well, the word Mrs. doesn't describe me. I feel how you describe me? I think. Well, the word misses doesn't describe me. I feel like you're not understanding the question. Like if I were to use this song title to describe.

Oh, yeah. No, I understand the question completely. I'm just like, I'm searching for you, dude, because I can't, yeah, you're fast and furious for sure. But that's not a name of the song. That's a name of a movie. I'm such an idiot. Why did I say a name of a movie in that song?

I'm so confused also. Dude, we need to go to the next question. It's your spouse more like their mom or idiot. Why did I say a name of a movie? I'm so confused also. Dude, we need to go to the next question. It's your spouse more like their mom or dad. Why? I don't want to piss you off. So much. I don't want to. I love both my parents.

Okay, sorry. You're more like your mom. It's not gonna make me mad at all. No, no, that's a good thing. Sometimes, okay, sometimes you get mad if I like your late, something that you do to your parents. Well, I don't think anyone loves that. That's true, because usually it's like a negative thing when you're spout your late

three-legged parents. So that's why it is. I would say you are exactly like both your parents but probably more so like your dad as you've gotten older, I've noticed a lot of like your dad's traits in you. Like what? I think your humor for sure. Like humor is that a good thing or a bad thing. It can be both.

It can be both. Oh my gosh, it freaks me out when I'm like my parents, man. I love my parents so much. But like when people are like, you're just like your parents and I'm like, gosh, dang it. Like it's like, seriously? You know? No, I think it's a good thing you're great at.

I think it's because like when you're around people so much you can see, obviously, I mean, I love my parents. My parents are amazing. Because when you're around people so much, you can see, obviously, I mean, I love my parents, my parents are amazing, but when you're around people so much, you can see their flaws. And then like, sometimes you fixate on the flaws and then people will be like, if you're like that person, I'm like, what? You know?

No, I have amazing parents. I'm truly blessed to have the baby. I do too, I love that. Your parents are amazing. Yeah, we're both very blessed to have parents and they're both still together. Neither one of our parents are divorced, which is insane.

Both of my parents, parents got divorced. My is insane. Both of my parents got divorced. My parents, my mom's parents separated, my dad's parents separated. But then both of your grandparents never separated, both sets and your parents never separated. That's crazy. That's very rare. That's a huge blessing. You never hear of that. Where, yeah, the whole entire family is still together. No one's ever divorced. Wild. Crazy. Congratulations, honestly, to you and your family. Well, I feel like it's a really big, big blessing because they have set such a great example for me. Yeah, for me.

The divorce rate in America is like 50%, right? Is it even higher than that? Might be higher. Gosh, I don't know. It's really bad. And that's even in religious communities too, and usually you'd think it'd be higher, but I want to say in religious communities

it's still like 50%. Crazy. But it depends on the religion too. Which I mean sometimes divorce is very necessary. Oh yeah, there's definitely a time and a place for a divorce, but anyway. What is our code word for sex? Our code word?

Do we have one? We don't really have a code word at all. I think we just kind of say it. Yeah. Sometimes you use... What do I use? What do I say? You say weird things sometimes. I don't know. I literally, I'm right before you film this podcast. What did I say right before I'm filming this podcast? Pound town. I wanted to go to Pound Town and you said that. You literally just said it before I did. I know, but you said it before.

So then I had the reason to bring it up. Here's the weirdest part about this podcast. I just wanna get this out here. We talk like this with our friends, and we're pretty open people, pretty vulnerable. The weirdest part about this podcast though, is sometimes I forget that like literally anybody can watch this, and I don't care about complete strangers, because there's people that watch this stuff,

and like we'll never see them, we'll never even know who they are. It doesn't bother me. But then knowing that there's people in my personal life that could watch this. Well, you know, we kinda make jokes like that even with people in the personal life. True, that's true.

But just like people that I would be, I don't know, it's weird, but this is just who we are as people. So I guess we just have to own it. Hopefully at my grandma and grandpa I have turned this off at this point. That's the fact. Like I feel like your grandparents watch our podcast, which is like, wow, that's-

We've made jokes like this in front of them too. We have them. Yeah, we're pretty open with your grandparents too. They're awesome people. Yeah, they're the best. We should have them on the podcast. Oh my gosh, yes. Comment below if you'd like to see us

have Abby's grandparents on the podcast, or Abby's grandmaws, or my grandmaw. My parents especially, I know my parents have loved- We get the grandmaws together. Ooh, that can be great. The ultimate grandmaw collab. Yeah, honestly, just comment below podcast or Abby's grandmas or my grandma my parents especially I know my parents love the grandma's together Oh, that could be great grandma collab. Yeah, honestly just comment below who you want to see in the podcast in general We love having guests on it's really fun. Yeah, it is fun. Um, so anyway, what would your spouse say are their best personality characteristics? Oh, so like what would you say yours? Okay, I think Matt for his would say that He's very creative

and hardworking. Oh, you're saying that's what I say for myself? Yes. Oh, thank you. But yeah, I guess that I would- It's like flipped around. It's like a weird, because it says, what-

Well, what would I say, or- Yeah, what would your spouse say are their best personality characteristics? Burs best person, but personality though. That's not really personality. That's like work ethic. That's more so like my- I'd say your personality, you're very friendly.

Thank you. You would say that about yourself probably. I think I'm very friendly. I think you're very goofy. Goofy. I like that. I think you're hilarious. And I love how you're not afraid

to be yourself front of other people. Thank you. Which is odd because you were very quiet and shy in front of me initially when we first met. Because I liked you. That's why, because you liked me. were very quiet and shy in front of me initially when we first met. Because I liked you. That's why, because you liked me, you were quiet and shy. But you are the goofy asciiest person. Also, the atmosphere we were in,

it wasn't a place for me to be, I was like, yeah, focus. But you literally do not give a rip about what other people think about you, and I love that. That's very nice. Only time I don't like that, and I've said this before, is if we're having a disagreement, and we're in public, and Abby will be ready to brawl out in public. She'll just be throwing words around and I'm like, Abby, we're in a public setting.

I don't know. Can we just talk this out in the car? We're in front of people sometimes I'm not the best about that. I'm trying to work on that. But other than that, that's my favorite thing about you. You know, if you love that about me, then you gotta take it as it. That's true, I gotta take it off. And all forms.

But like for me, I sometimes get weird and I get insecure. And like even if we get recognized in public, like it doesn't, it's Abby never bats an eye, but for me, like I will get nervous if people like come up to us to say hi. I don't know why it still happens. We've probably been recognized now over a thousand times. I don't, I don't know the number,

but like it happens daily and I still get weird. I don't thousand times. I don't know the number, but it happens daily, and I still get weird. I don't know why, I don't know why. I'm just like, I just get nervous. It doesn't mean that if you see us in person, you shouldn't say hi. No, come up and say hi. We love saying hi to you.

You love it, but he just maybe has a little social anxiety. No, yeah, it's the social anxiety for sure. I think where I get weird with people saying us in public is if they're like staring at us, but we'll say. Yeah, and we'll say say, that makes me uncomfortable. Or take pictures of us. I'm like, I'm just like, just come up and say hi and then let's talk. But like, if people just stare at us, that makes me feel weird because I don't like being stare at.

So. You might least remember the thing is when the phones come out and I'm like, I'm being recorded, but I. Yeah, no, love taking pictures, love meeting people, love having conversations. And but sometimes we're like on the go or busy and stuff like that so yeah Anyway, okay off subject. No, what's something that makes your spouse cry? You guys I've never seen that cry. You know it makes me cry though. What makes me emotional? What makes me curious? Music? I love music. It's kind of weird. I haven't seen you cry though

You have no you have I can't think I can't think of like a specific thing right now never actually cry like maybe one or two tears will fall from your eyes I never like cry. We've had some hard time for like Oh, yeah, okay, maybe like once or twice but like very little but you could like definitely because in general You just don't get serious. Yeah, we've been together for seven years seven years in June and It's probably like two maybe three three times, you've seen me cry. And you don't, like when you get touched by something, it rarely brings tears to your eyes, but recently mentioning our potential name for a baby girl has brought tears to your eyes, which is so unique. Not tears though, it makes me more like...

Each time we've said it though. My eyes get kind of glossy. Yeah. And that's what happens when I listen to a really moving song and music. It makes me more like... Each time you've said it though. My eyes get kind of glossy. Yeah. Yeah. And that's what happens when I listen to a really moving song and music. Yeah. Music just... Oh, I just get chills listening to some... It's just always random songs that most random times will just hit me.

And yesterday, or two days ago on our date, was that yesterday though? No, yeah, yesterday on our date. We went on a date yesterday. Country music. We're listening to a country music song called what was the song? We listened to a lot. But there was one that's like you can buy dirt. What is it? Yeah, buy dirt. Buy dirt. That one got me and then there's another one before buy dirt that got me to. Yeah, what's that one? Time out how fast time goes.

Oh, next thing you know. Yeah, next, you know. That's like a TikTok trend. That one got me too. Honestly, that's what makes me cry. Well, everything makes me cry. Recognizing the passing of time. Yeah, I think about Gryffindring up, makes me cry. Hi! And I'm such an idiot.

I always get so excited about the future. And then I look back and I'm like, man, I missed the past. Why do I do that? Why do I get so focused on future things rather than just enjoying the moment? That's something that I've wanted to work on for like a year now.

You do a good job of that though. Yeah, it's just hard. I get so excited about like future ideas and big dreams. And then I forget like, not like, Gryffinds now eight months old. Like eight months has passed and I will never be in a father to my firstborn

when they're three months old again or when they're six months old again. Like all that time has passed, it's gone. Yeah. Crazy. And you know what, remember that little stretch you do when you got out of the swaddle? The scrunch, the newborn scrunch.

The newborn scrunch, that's done. Oh my gosh, I saw a video about that. It was like me when I realized that my baby no longer does the newborn scrunch. Yeah. And it's basically like, they have their legs crunched up. Like they're still in the womb for a long time after they're come out. And he doesn't do that anymore.

He's like a big baby. Basically, everything makes me cry. So I don't know if you have anything particular you want to share. Yeah, really everything does make you cry. I just win my emotions on my sleeve. Yeah, but with this pregnancy, you've been way less emotional, which is very shocking. Really? Yeah, last pregnancy, you were very emotional.

I want to see you cry every single day with the last pregnancy. That's weird. I feel like because we're parents now, we haven't had the time to recognize that all this time is passing, like it's gone very fast. You're already 18 weeks pregnant and it just caught us by surprise. That's

true. What's your spouse's favorite time of day for making love? You're speaking for me. For you? Yeah, what's your spouse's? It used to be at night for you. Not anymore though. I would say probably a midday for you. Afternoon. That is great. What about for me? I feel like you would do morning if you could. Maybe the same time. Whenever you can get it, it lets me real. No, it's literally, I'm a very flexible person.

Whenever you're down, I'm down. Okay, yeah, you're pretty easy. Yeah, literally any day. You could literally wake me up in the middle of the night. And I would, yes, I're pretty easy. Yeah, literally any day, you could literally wake me up in the middle of the night and I would, yes, I would be down. How does your partner tell you that you're, that they're in the mood?

I'm sorry. Okay, how do I tell you I'm the mood? I literally just tell you. It's honestly gotten less and less romantic so longer we've been together. But I feel like we've heard like marriage advice about how like you need to schedule out sex and you need to just say, hey, can we do it this time?

Because then it doesn't happen, right? Yeah, honestly, I feel like it's good to be on the same page. You're all over the place. I'm trying to get the microphone to screw up. What am I doing? You keep moving your mouth all over the place. I think it's good to be on the same page because especially with a baby, otherwise it just won't happen.

Yeah. So I better mind as well let it happen and have it a schedule. Look, I understand that intimacy starts in the kitchen and it starts in the, it starts all, like it doesn't start in the bedroom, right? Like you got, Can you explain what you mean by that? So people don't think we're just like,

I would say it's in the kitchen. Yeah, we only do it in the kitchen. It's what we're doing. No, but like, basically what it means is you need to be showing your spoused your love throughout the day and making sure that you're thinking about them. It could be a handwritten note. It could be like flowers.

It could be- We need to be better about that. We got to be better about that. Or it doesn't have to be anything like that. It doesn't have to be anything physical. It could literally just be your time or your attention. Putting on something special. Yeah, exactly.

I love it when you put on something special. Yeah. I freaking, I love that. So anyway, that's what that means. It's not like, okay, you're going crazy, you spend no time together, you don't even talk to each other, and then you get in the bedroom, and it's like, okay, let's do this. Like, that's not good.

That's never good. That's never good. Yeah. Can I say something though? Yeah. What sucks is that if we go on a date night and it's so romantic and it's so amazing and then we come home in it's nighttime,

we're both tired, we're trying to get to bed so that we can wake up, so that I can honestly wake up with Griffin and you can feed him and then go back to bed after you feed him in the morning. Well, I don't always do that. Most of the time I wake up with Griffin. Are you serious? The past couple days I haven't, but.

Wait, I always wake up with Griffin of the time I wake up with Gervin. Are you serious? The past couple of days I haven't. But. I always wake up with Gervin. And the morning. Yeah. But like in Hawaii, for instance, every day, I'd like I brought Gervin to you to feed and then I'd go take him. But anyway, no, but what I was saying though

is you're just tired at night. And so you really need to, you can't make love making happen before date night, which sucks because then you don't have all the romance built up Right Maybe just do it before exactly, but that sucks though because if you do before there's no like romance that built up from the date That's true, but then it makes your date extra romantic. That's true. That's a good point Don't know where to go from there

What did your spouse get you for their first Christmas together? We were in high school, so budgets were tight. Um, I remember when you got me, oh you got me some nice JBL headphones. Yeah, those cute hot pink headphones. Those are so cute. You want those back. You still have them? You think so. You got rid of them?

Maybe they broke. That's really sad. They did not break. You definitely just donated those. I definitely did not donate them. You 100% donated those headphones. Why would I have donated them? Because you like to get rid of stuff.

You don't like clutter. It's true. I don't like clutter, I have. Yeah, we have like this. Maybe I got new headphones, so then I got rid of the old ones. Yeah. What did you, oh, I noticed that.

No, no, no, no, no, actually the headphones were for my birthday. For our very first Christmas together, you got me, remember this, electric purple leggings that were skin tight from Lulule. Nope, nope, nope, that was in college. That was after a year and a half together. Really, because I'm pretty sure I remember you

a member opening them in front of my grandma and her being like, those leggings are painted on, like some made some. Yeah, no, I got you those leggings a year and a half into where I was like, oh, sure. Okay, so I was right with my first one. The first one might, no, I got you a bunch of stuff. I got you like 10 different gifts.

I don't know what all they were, but I think either the headphones or your birthday gift or your Christmas gift, it's hard because your birthday and Christmas are right next to each other. They were my birthday gift. But for me, I know that a very personal gift that you did was you made this deck of cards with 52 things that I love about you and it was like this whole list of all these things that you loved about me. You still have that? I still have it. I still have it.

That was actually took me a really long time. Really sweet. And you stopped making those for me. So thanks a lot. No, we have to do another one. Yeah, that was really sweet. I miss when you used to do that. I'm going to put a picture of that on the podcast Instagram because that's actually a really sweet idea if it's like your first year together because it's just a great memory to have. Yeah. I think I also got you a watch out here. You didn't get me the watch the first year. That was like your number two or three.

They're all bulling together. What was your first significant fight? And what was it about? Oh, I remember. I want to say that you tell me that the first, I think you've said that the first fight was about colleges that we were going to. Yeah.

Because we were dating in high school, we had to make a decision on college. Like if we were going to go to college together. No. We were pursuing theater in college. We had to make a decision on college like if we were gonna go to college together No, we were pursuing Theater in college. We wanted to get acting degrees and so we had auditioned at all these friends schools And it was crazy you guys like think about okay think about this think about like auditioning for some program and like making sure that your significant other also makes it in that program

That's what you're trying to do. So we both audition. Like when we have kids audition and they only take 20 kids. So we auditioned at a craps on the schools in the hopes that a few of these schools would accept both of us. And luckily they did. So that's how we figured it out. But that was our first fight. And it was scary because we were wanting to stick around.

But we knew that if we went to different schools, most likely we'd break up. Yeah, I think that is an understandable reason to get in a fight. There was just a lot of high stakes because we're gonna break up or we're gonna stay together. Well, I think also you were down because. I didn't wanna do long distance and call it. You don't wanna do long distance,

and for me, you were not having a fun time at the audition process We went we went to Chicago and auditioned at all these different colleges They had this thing called unified through audition for like a hundred schools at once and with like one audition Well, it's like multiple auditions, but in this hotel anyway long story short I was getting a lot of success at the auditions because I was a guy There's not a lot a lot of guys in theater that have a big dance background I took dance my whole entire life. I had like nine years of experience in dance So I got a like a lot of great feedback

But then for you because you were auditioning for these musical theaters Well, you're just not like I'm gonna give them a little snippet. Oh my god Abby's a good Abby's not Abby's a very strong Oh, say. Abby's not... Abby's a very strong dancer and actor and so she was so let down because they were wanting to see you sing in these musical theater auditions. Which is very interesting. So yeah, we got into an argument about that. About what?

Because I was so excited and then you were so let down. So like, we were on completely different wavelengths and working through that. Let me just say a boy walking into one of those auditions is not quite like a girl walking into those auditions. I'm a diamond doesn't. You a tall strapping man walking in these auditions. You are a diamond in the rough. We need to whip through these final questions because there's a lot of good ones still.

Oh gosh. One thing my spouse would never do is. What would you say? I have one for myself, but I'd say. I was gonna say cheat. Oh yeah my spouse would never do is. What would you say? I have one for myself, but I do. I was gonna say cheat. Oh yeah, I would never cheat. Yeah, what were you gonna say for me? No, I was gonna have one.

I had one for myself. Oh. I was just thinking I've seen you're gonna say cheat too. You weren't gonna say that too. For you? Yeah, what were you gonna say for me? Between the two of us, I feel like

you're more likely to cheat. Okay, okay, wow, wow, all right. You said you're saying I'm not loyal right now. No, you're loyal. You're very loyal. One thing you would never do, I thought I was a boring one. But I feel like, why did I just think of this one?

I was like, join a time share. I would never catch me joining a time share. I hate time shares. I think there's a waste there waste of time. There was a waste of money. We wouldn't sat through a four hour long time share meeting just to get cheap. And we still have to spend $150 to go to this Lou out. But oh my gosh, it's out of waste of time. And they were mean too. Like, they had good cop bad cop going on. They had this girl who was so nice and brought us free drinks and gave us free snacks. And she was like so excited to talk to us

and ask us about our travel plans. And then they brought in this really mean guy who was like, okay, here's the deal. You guys are gonna do that. And like, this guy was like so mean. And we're like, okay, like, what's going on? Like, we're literally just here just to get our free cheap tickets,

or our cheap tickets and leave. And then once we finally got out of that situation they brought in a freaking third dude who then was like, so why did you not sign the paperwork? And like, we're like, dude, we're just here to get our Lua out tickets. So anyway, I hate time shares. I will never do one ever again in my life.

My time's more valuable than that. It was just, it was a crap show. I hate time shares. I mean, glad you got that off your chest. Thank you, thank you. Was it worth the lure I'd take it so? Honestly, the lure was pretty fun. It was really fun.

It was a pretty fun lure. Okay, and we're gonna both answer this at the same time. Okay. Who is a bigger baby when they're sick? One, two, three, you. See, I, one, one, three, four, five, four, five, four. Percent. You see I One Percent I'm literally constantly sick every day pretty much. So here's what happens when we're sick Okay, if I'm sick I take rest I recognize that I'm not feeling good It's all day and snow I just I make sure that I'm getting sleep and so that I'm taking care of myself

What Abby does is she doesn't She pretends that she's not sick And it works it tricks your brain and then you feel bad. No, it doesn't trick your brain It just it just makes you really pissed off and then you complain to me all day about it No, that's just because my love language is being taken care of no But like sometimes you milk it a little bit you milk it so much, but you're the bigger baby Abby I'm not a baby. I just get rest like I just recognize that I need to take it easy Okay, we need to move on this

Go for it. What is it are you a part of the mile high? Oh, are you oh my gosh? Are we are not a real mention are we? Are we gonna talk about this Are we actually gonna reveal this from the podcast? We briefly mentioned it. Oh my gosh, okay. Let's just say we tried. We wanted to join the mile high club so bad.

I wanted to join the mile high club so bad. Matt, tell it fast because it's painful. It hurts. I am sweating. My heart is racing. I did some research online. I figured out how we can make this happen. And so the game plan was Abby goes in the bathroom first.

I waited a couple minutes and then go in the bathroom. So now nobody realizes there's two people in the bathroom. We do the deed and then leave. Nobody knows. And that was the plan. But things did not go according to plan. It was a fail. It was a massive fail.

So the flight attendant was outside the door literally. Two flight attendants. You need to come out of there. Okay, we're getting ahead of ourselves. So first of all, we should have done it on a night flight. When people were asleep, when flight attendants were sleeping, we should have made sure that there was like, coast was clear, nobody was there.

Nobody going to the bathroom. That was our first big mistake. Second big mistake, I followed Abby in immediately. That was so stupid. So Abby goes in the bathroom, and then I walked in, literally like, kind of. Not like we were on a private jet we were on a commercial we're an economy we're an economy I think this is like a flight back home from why back like two years ago anyway and so I follow Abby and almost immediately right away there's like knocking on the door

and I swore we were never gonna talk about it and I'm like crap I hope that is not the flight attendance and it was like so embarrassing, but like, Abby was trying to take her clothes off. Yeah! Okay, no. We're almost done. This is the most hilarious story. I'm actually glad we're talking about this.

And so, we're like, we're both practically naked at this point. Oh gosh. And I'm like, okay, here we go. We're gonna make it happen. But Abby got so nervous. I'm like you're in. Abby got so nervous about the fact that people would know

that we joined the mile hike or like the flight attendant. No, the flight attendant was right outside the door, less than a foot away, being like, you guys need to get out out of there. Like, we didn't know them. We didn't know them. I heard her knocking. You heard her knocking.

That's why I was freaking out. But then I thought it might have just been some person that was trying to get in there. You know what I'm saying? It was clear to the flight attendant. It was hard to know what was going on. While we were in there, it was very confusing. It was clear that somebody was wanting to use the restroom

but I'm like, man, we've already come this far. No matter what, we both have to walk out of this bathroom at this point. I was like, we might as well just do it and say we did it. They were trying to use the restroom. They were trying to get us out of there. I know, but I wasn't aware of that. Oh, I knew.

I thought it could just be some random person trying to get in the bathroom. And I was like, look, we're gonna go through embarrassment either way. So we might as well just make was unaware of that. I knew. I thought it could just be some random person trying to get in the bathroom. And I was like, look, we're gonna go through embarrassment, either way. So we might as well just make the most of it. So I'm still down to go for it. But Abby was way too nervous. She was very stressed out.

She was panicking. The lady was out there drawing more attention. You're also claustrophobic. That was also a big mistake. Bad plan. Abby's very claustrophobic. So I don't even know why we thought this could work. So anyway, essentially, all we did was go into the bathroom on the plane,

get naked in the bathroom, look at each other and then leave. And so when we left, I went first. That is the ultimate walk of shame. Abby, Abby was like, you need to go first. I peeked out of the door. I could see that the flight attendants were like literally just a few feet away, like waiting for us to walk out. And I walk out and the flight attendant is like,

excuse me sir, I want you to know this is like a crime. You cannot do this on the plane. It is illegal man. She was so mad. Come to find out it actually is illegal. Apparently it might be illegal. I don't even know. We did break the law.

I don't even know if that's a, if that's technically a law that we broke. I don't know. No, it is that I looked it up and it is illegal. It's technically a law. No one is a law. Wow, okay. Anyway, I knew that this, there was some shady business with mile high club stuff. So I actually had this, it is illegal. It's technically a law. No one is a law. Wow, okay, anyway. I knew that there was some shady business

with mile high club stuff. So I actually had a speech, I had something prepared in case of anything. So I made up a white lie. I told the ladies, I was like, I'm so sorry, I was helping my wife with a medical need she had. It won't happen again. And so once I brought up like a medical thing,

they just like, they couldn't really say anything and I just walked through it. Not true, because then when I walked out, they said to me, man, you just like broke the wall, like said something like that loudly for everybody. And they did this loudly. This was at the back of the plane so luckily since planes are loud.

They just really wanted to use us as an example. Yeah, only a couple people probably heard it, but it was definitely humiliating. No, a lot of people heard it. So humiliating. I just wanted to, that's the one time of my life. I've wanted to just disappear. Like I wanted to dissolve into my seat.

I want to say we were wearing masks on the plane. So that at least made it less embarrassing. Like people couldn't figure out who we were as much. Well, that was the longest explanation of the most painful memory of the day. Yeah, I can't believe we just talked about us going like literally. I'm just gonna need to cut the podcast here.

Wait, what? You were done. We're done. I thought we had like 10 more questions. We shared plenty more. We've shared plenty today. I've been wanting. We might have to do a part two.

Maybe we should do part two with your parents. Oh my gosh. They would be a riot. Oh my gosh, that would be hilarious. Yes. But before we go, I wanted to read a review from one of our kind viewers. This is from Hannah Conley.

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