The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Juicy Questions, Hookup Stories & Meeting on Tinder with Alex and Jon

Episode Date: July 12, 2023

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Are you down for a three-some? This is a question for everybody. Would yours be of the dude or woman? Probably a woman. I'm gonna say both. What do you do? No. I'm gonna be honest with you, I'm so sheltered, I don't logistically know how this would ever work.

When you guys met on Tinder, it probably wasn't the hook-up app. No, it was. Oh, it was. You guys were trying to hook up. You got it. Yeah. Ah.

Have you ever felt not in the mood, but did it anyways? How many times a week is guy guys stuff actually attractive to the girl? It depends This episode does include the discussion of adult topics so if you're with your children consider waiting to listen till they're not in the room What's up guys Alex and John welcome to the unplanned podcast They are the e-hats guys Alex and John are social media sensations They are hilarious

They make couples content which I wouldn't even know if I the right word is couples content Because it's really these really funny like skits and High quality, high quality entertainment You guys, I check out their videos if you haven't seen their stuff I'm sure you guys have seen them all over your for you page But we're excited because not only are we going to dig into just a little bit of their story But we're also gonna play a little game with them. We're gonna do some juicy questions We're gonna do with someone I was like it has to be out We're gonna try to keep it PG as much as we can for you

You know it's a little bit out there, but it's fine. We'll do our best. Hey, we want you guys to be yourself Yeah, we will bleep you You are shooting this podcast in our house. We are in your house. Yeah, oh wait a week Well, we're gonna have you guys when our house is done being renovated in our new studio space and you guys can join our podcast. Yeah, in your podcast, just give it to me straight. Yeah, correct? Yeah, we give everyone not great advice, but, you know, we do our best.

I love that. I love that. So we say our mediocre advice. Yeah, so they also have a podcast you guys can find them. I'm sure wherever you find your podcast and while you're following their podcast, make sure you've got a good record, Vice. Yeah, so they also have a podcast you guys can find them. I'm sure wherever you find your podcast and while you're following their podcast, make sure you're following ours, make sure you're subbing, hitting the like button, leaving a review, all those good things,

we would really appreciate that. I'm sweating right now. You're sweating? I think John's making me nervous. I'm sweating these whole times. I got it down to 69. That's why I'm wearing black because his eyes sweat. I mean, the sun is beaming through right now.

It's also these lights. Guys, we're in LA right now. This is crazy. I feel like all official that we're in LA. This is crazy. And you have good weather. I'm just glad the sun is out. The weather we've lived in all parts of the country, New York,

Virginia, North Carolina, casual. The weather has been the worst here, out of everywhere that we've lived. No way, in LA since you've been here, yeah. You're kidding. Rainy, cloudy, cold. Mud slides. Today is the nicest day I think that we've had in a really long time.

We brought the sun from Phoenix, but thank you. Yeah, thank you. Thank you, we needed it. Something guys are just telling us before we started the podcast is you met on Tinder. Yeah. That is so unique. I want to hear more about that. I think it's so funny that you say unique

because I feel like most people these days like meet on an app. Like, on a hint. But yeah, we're Tinder though. When we got on it, it was. No, I guess what's funny is because Tinder is the hook up app. Oh yeah, like Tinder's the lowest of the lowest. I'm sure when you guys met on Tinder,

it probably wasn't the hook up app. No, it was. No, it was. Oh, it was. I was trying to hook up. Yeah, you're going. Yeah. Ah. No.

No, no. Alex was. I was looking for something. No. We met. So we matched on Tinder. We met at the Raleigh Beer Garden. We grabbed beers.

I ordered some pizza, and we got along so great, but I just think, I don't know, the timing wasn't right for us to be exclusive. The timing wasn't right for Alex. The timing was right for me. Wait, why was the timing not right for Alex? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, this? This was okay, we met in 2016. I was out of a long-term relationship. I just wanted to be single, but I like to go on dates

and meet people and have them buy my beers, you know? Yeah. And so when I met John, I was like, oh my gosh, he's so nice, but I don't wanna date him. A few weeks later, after our first date, he was like, we need to hang out again. I was like, sure, we go on date number two, which is a paint night.

So like, wine and design, you know. That's, did you set that up? Of course. Yeah, I'm in. That was cute. So we get to the end of our day. It's definitely backfired on me. We get to the end of our date and he goes,

sign my last name on there so that when we get married, we can hang these paintings in the other way up. I was joking. Oh, oh. And there's a big move. She's right in the trash can. This is a red flag. I was like, he's so obsessed with me already. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, Hold your hands right right when Alex like red flash and and Matt's like Look at us. We're the perfect couple. We're the perfect couple and we've never fight and we definitely didn't meet on tinder Matt and Abby like we're the winning we're winning

It's all winning and losing And sweating Yeah, it's like to be not old things right now. It's don much actually, Johnny, even your leg is giving you too much heat. No more on Squatting. It's because Matt took three hours to set up this podcast. So it's just him moving around all the friction. It's just so hot here. All right, anyway long story short, we do this back and forth. I'm just waiting for you to spew your look away.

Just everyone knows, even him doing his sound check, the audio was in that bed. It was a light light like a light buzz He's just like I can't have it. I can't have it in here. I can't have it in the podcast A part because it's perfection you guys I'm sweating so hard. I'm laughing so hard This is great, okay, but it's a hard podcast is as amazing as it is. I still appreciate that you guys I figured I just have to say like something nice after saying something Complement to one every critique Yeah, I was just trying me like say if you're gonna be sour be sweet afterwards. No, it's a sandwich

Like you have to give a compliment and then yeah, you're critique and then another compliment. Yeah, but we have no critiques Well John might have a few but but I mean, your setup's way better than ours. And this is like, we've been in this house and like, we didn't even know that this was a possibility. This looks great. No, I like when I'm moving to your house right now, like, your house is so beautifully of a beautiful view of the valley. Is that the valley? Yeah. And they welcomed us with like, croissants and muffins when we walked in this morning. So this was just happy to eat. Happy to eat. Happy to eat. Is that not the standard? Do people not treat you with egg croissants? What? Sky's. I was like Abby's gonna be hungry. Yeah. And Matt was hungry. Matt was right. I actually ate already but I had to eat

more because the food was so good. Can we I want to know how they got married? All right. Okay. How did you go from like tender hookups to marriage? Yeah. So it was like, it was a long like, so it was like, here you go to time. Six months, ish of like from our first date to when we were like, okay, this is it. And it really went because I wanted to have my cake and eat it too.

Like I like hanging out with John, but I also liked the freedom of just being a single girly twerly in the city of Raleigh, just, you know, meeting people. And then John, he was like, it wasn't until one day, we both were separately at a bar. We like meet eyes across, I'm like, oh John, hey, and he goes, just waves at me

with no expression and turns around and walks away. And I'm like, I am his queen. How dare he ignore me. I was here with two other dudes. I was with my sister. Oh, my sister. Who are you? I was waiting for my bar. For some, like, who ya? I was waiting for my sister.

What am I supposed to do? She, they were like her work friends. And so I was like, oh my gosh. And so that's when I realized. And I was like, I am not willing to risk losing John in my life. Like, I do have to do that. That's not where she realized. I went in the end.

I was hanging out with some other girl. She saw me at the bar with her and was like, oh, you're gonna move on from me? I don't like this. This is a separate night? No, this was the same thing. Tom's just making it confusing, yeah. But you're not gonna add in the part that like-

You were in a whole group of people. I didn't know that you were like individually seeing one of them. She knew. Anyway, so yeah, you both got jealous. Yeah, it was like a game of cat and mouse and sure, John's one in the end. That's the one's toxic wave, you know. Oh my gosh, yeah, you both got jelly. Yeah, it was like a game of cat and mouse and sure John's one is toxic wave, you know, oh my gosh. Yeah, no, not healthy. Do not recommend the way that we

We are happily ever after Take beautiful love Yeah, and then we got engaged in Hawaii That's so cool. Which island? Why? Oh, okay, that's like the one island we have not been. You have it? My favorite. My favorite.

My favorite. My favorite. Oh my gosh, it's so chill. It's so chill. You guys would love it there. I really want to go backpacking there. Because I've never been backpacking and I've heard there's a really neat like 20 mile trail. The polycos.

Yeah, then a polycos. Yeah, it's 20 miles. It's gorgeous. No, the one that we did that we got engaged on. You want it to go to Hawaii to go on a hike for 20 miles. Yes. To be out in nature, it's beautiful. Nature is nature.

Nature. Nature. We should have hiking trip together. Yeah, see you. Yeah. John would love it. But the one that we did that we got engaged on was like a six mile trail, but it was rough. I didn't know.

It was also that one. So muddy, but we've been back. We love Hawaii a few times. So when I saw that you guys were living there, I was like, we have to meet them there. And then you're back. So I got the coordinates on my arm. Oh no, yeah, this is he's engaged. Yeah, so John like tattooed The Habiscus and then the coordinates and like the mountain range of like where we got engaged. Yeah That's really really I know. So now like we're really stuck together. Well, I guess he stuck with the memory of me I have no tats

Look at Alex look at a neck tattoo Like our meat John You guys know that we have matching tattoos You guys do you guys can know that? No, you're welcome. Stop Oh my god I forget that I have that I haven't looked at that tattoo in a year or two. You know how we said what's up, dudes? To start that episode.

That's our brand. And so we got Master's Act. This was a while. How does Commitment? It's a promoter first merch launch ever. I think it was like three years ago. This was in 2020. What?

We made merch that said, dude. And got Master lip tattoo. It was crazy. Is that fade? Yeah. Over time. Is that faded now? A little bit.

Yeah. I think that's what it looks like initially, though. It's so fun, though. I can still see what it says. People little bit. Yeah, it looks like a initially though It's so fun though because people are like no you don't and then we're like you Yeah, yeah, we're crazy We are facing our family right after none of them believed it They all thought we were lying in like made like some prank It was like no, we actually got it. It was honestly kind of hard to get someone to do the tattoo because it was literally 20 like it was like oh yeah You get someone to do the tattoo because it was literally 2020, like it was like, COVID-19. It's our lip.

You were thinking of doing the ring tattoo? I'm trying to get her to do that. I think you guys don't wanna come in. They also fit. Yeah, they fade and I heard it really freaking hurts together. Yeah. What's with all the rings? I'll be honest with you.

I got the sons of Anarchy thing. Yeah, dude. So like, I got these sent to me. There's a guy that makes rings. His name's Tristan Ekaika. They're really cool rings. There's a guy that makes rings. His name's Tristan E. Kaika. They're really cool rings. And he makes like really cool rings. My buddy's had some and then he sent me some and I was like,

okay, I say and I didn't really have like a strong like fashion statement. I wanted to make or anything. It was just, oh, these are cool. Maybe I'll look a little bit more. He doesn't have a wedding ring either. So. He's got the rubber.

I have the rubber. Yeah. So I can keep my rubber. But he never had like a real wedding ring. Oh, I spent like four, it was four dollars and five pieces. He bought his ring for four dollars. Oh, we didn't either. I think we ordered his off of Etsy

because our our jeweler messed our rings up initially. So like when we got married, they were wrong. And we were like whatever, we'll just like get them later. So he overnighted it to us the day before our wedding. And then we opened up the boxes and I was like, these are wrong. Like we both ordered yellow gold and then we're right. Did you freak out?

No, because we're just like, is that, like we're in the wedding industry at the time and we knew it would be like, it's not a big deal. Right, yeah. I want to talk about that. So before you start doing social media full time, you guys are videographers for wedding. Yeah, you're wedding filmmakers.

Because one of my friends that was like, Matt, I saw that you're like, this is like when our TikTok is taking off. They were trying to book you. They were like, yeah, you're wedding filmmakers. Because one of my friends that was like, man, I saw that you're like, this is like when you're when our TikTok is taking off. They were trying to book you. They were like, yeah, they're like, do you know this other couple? They're like a wedding videographer? Yeah.

They're like, oh, I'm seeing this stuff. I'm busy. I'm sure they're busy doing TikTok. Well, we didn't realize how, like when we started TikTok, we just thought that we would do it in parallel with being wedding filmmakers and didn't realize

that it would turn into a full time job. And ultimately, we couldn't do both. We just retired this past year from weddings. We like to say like retired, but we were doing both. Like 2020, we had all of our weddings postpone into 2021 because of the pandemic, that's when we jumped onto TikTok. And then that's when our social media blew up.

So then we had double the amount of weddings in 2021 that we were filming. On top of all of our social channels blowing up. Wow. So it was just like, it felt like we were working, I mean, we were working seven days a week, but like quadruple the amount of time. Like we were not in a good headspace.

I started therapy. Like, I mean, it ended up being a really good thing for us because it aligned us. Like it made us closer. We, I think we're just pushed to our ultimate limit But you know what we can like achieve What's hard to do exactly? Yeah, so wait you guys both filmed and both edited But you got married in 2020 we got married in 2019 like four months before the pandemic started right before you got married So started we met in Raleigh, in North Carolina,

and then John, I was working at that time for another wedding film company, and John saw my work, and he was like, you need to start your own. And I was like, I don't know, I need help, and he was like, train me how to use a camera, and then we'll start it together. And so he was an occupational therapist.

So we moved to New York, I start the wedding film company. And we were shooting together on the weekends and I was editing during the week and he was an OT. So we were still working seven days a week, but then we got married, then the pandemic happened and that's when we jumped in. So I was always the editor. And then so when we saw that TikTok

was like a creative app video focused, I was like, this is the app for us. Like we could totally do it because I was like a creative app, you know, video, video focused. I was like, this is the app for us. Like we could totally do it because I was like, you know, I think that we have personalities, you know, that we could be in front of the camera and then we can edit because we were always behind the camera, like as filmmakers. How has that been now to like start filmmaking on an app where rather than, you know, this family out of wedding gets to see your work. Now you have millions of people that can see your work.

I like it more because it's, we're filming what we want to film. And not saying we want to film weddings, but it was a very time consuming. You know, we're shooting 14-hour days and then to edit, if we're only working on one wedding, it'd be at least 50 hours. Yeah, editing. It's a lot. So it was, it was definitely. In the beginning though, I think it was a little bit of like an ego thing because we had all the gear,

we had the skill of like making these really high-end cinematic wedding films, but that's not what was going viral. What was going viral was what we were shooting on our iPhones. Something so simple. And then when Brand started reaching out and we were like, we're making how much money from a 30-second TikTok versus a wedding film that like, we're putting our heart and soul into it. Like, it just didn't.

So we had to like look at it from a business perspective and be like, where do we need to invest our time at this point? And so we ultimately made the transition out of weddings. Yeah. But then I think too, the bear that we were growing, we were getting recognized a lot at weddings. And not that it was taking away from the couple, but it was a distraction.

Like for us to even do our jobs, we were like, we can't give 100% of ourselves to our couples anymore. And so we had to make that decision. It was really, it was a bittersweet though. Like John was okay. He was like, TikTok is the world for us, like digital content creation, but for me,

I was like, I have to- Well, let's be honest, it's tough, because when you start seeing the money coming in for social media, it kind of takes away a little bit. You're like, well, we could be shooting these weddings that are taking all of our time. Oh, we should just wait for three seconds, and we're doubling or tripling whatever we're making

off of weddings. It kind of like takes away the passion a little, at least for me, that I'm like, I just be stupid not to know. The route of social media. But like weddings are such a personal business that it was really tough for me, I think, to like walk away from creating these heirlooms

for couples, but I think ultimately, like you just have to pick and choose where your time is best well spent, and we're having so much fun obviously doing this, and it gives us a lot more freedom. Well, and you went from filming other people to filming yourself. Exactly.

And you guys are just so hilarious together. I am like, thank you. I think it's so funny too, because I love that you guys, in the couples space on social media, a lot of it is super sweet and lovely. It's like copy paste, copy paste. I like how your couples content is very different than any other couples content out there.

We try. I think that that's one thing when you are starting out is figuring out what you're good at and like what your audience also relates to and for us we were like okay what kind of like couple content are we like are we even a couple content like creators and we were like we can't do pranks. It just did not feel right. I mean, we tried it all. And we just honed into what felt most natural to us. And it's like showing, because we're skipp-based, but we show the real-life things that happen until making it cinematic and comedy. We don't say we're couple creators, we say we're comedy creators. We're in the comedy space.

Exactly comedy. I think that's a better way. I mean, I think that's a good way. And you guys like talk about like fighting and things that annoy you about each other. And I think that's hilarious. Like we talk about like, I think we talk about fights a lot. Yeah, we just want to be honest with people.

I think people get sick of seeing like people show the all the good. And I think it's great. You want to keep things positive and fun. I think some people, some couples genuinely are a lot sweet as well. But fighting's not a bad thing. Yeah, it's natural and it's healthy in a relationship.

But people throw it up fake shit all the time. I'm like, this isn't real relationship. And what I like about, well, our content is skit based though at the same time. So that's why for our podcast, it's like, we want you to see us who we actually are. But what I like about yours is you're not trying to pretend that it's a real moment.

It's very clear that it's a skip. It's a skip, exactly. And that's like one thing that we knew that we couldn't nail down. Like we've tried to do a curated, natural moment so that it seems like it's like, and I'm like, we can't do it. So it's easier for us to just script something out.

And that's not the point where we couldn't do that anymore, either though, because it's like, at some point you're gonna know there's a camera somewhere. Even if you don't know where the camera is, it's gotta be somewhere. And so now I'm like, recently I wanted to do that to Matt from one video. I was like, I literally can't even,

I don't even know where to, what to do at this point. Yeah. Yeah, that's the point. Now I can get you good though, because you would not be expecting it now. That's true, yeah, we don't be. Because again, like you acknowledge that the camera is there, and that's I think the thing as content creators,

it's like we're not gonna pretend, like we don't know that the camera is right there. Like we're going out of our way to show that we're acknowledging it, but yeah, I think like for us, because we came from a filmmaking background, we knew that this is going to be the most. And we wanted to lean into our skills. Our skills were from the filmmaking side of it, so if we can marry the two.

But again, everyone has to find their own corner of what works best for them. And I think your audience is going to see that as well. Well, you guys are hilarious. Your comedy skits always make me laugh when they pop up on my FIP. I think I wanna get into some of these juicy questions that we have for Alex and Jon, because- I haven't seen them either. Oh, you haven't even watched them.

No, I mean, I like briefly looked but then I had someone go in and so I would be surprised too. Yeah, we had you guys submit juicy questions for us to answer together on the unplanned podcast Instagram So thank you to everyone. Oh gosh. What what do we got? I don't know how You just said it how much are we willing to let's just literally wear open bucks? If you yeah, yeah, what is it?

What is it? One ask Okay, I'll ask it. All right, so these are the ones that people send in and then we had another list too Okay, so all right, so first one. I'm sweating more. This is- I thought I thought- Is Guy's stuff actually attractive to the girl?

Are you talking about my penis? Yes. I guess we're talking about penis right now. I think this is a question for the ladies. I'm so confused. So basically- Do wives think their husband's junk is attractive? Oh, oh, oh.

It depends. It depends. You'll never see me wanting to look up anybody. You know what it is, though? It really depends because I'm going to get really vulnerable here. And John, feel free to stop me just shut up. OK, so like, studying so much is John doing the helicopter?

No. If John's bending over and I get a back view because that's a whole different view, no. Like, it was like a curated shot like you said to pick. It depends really on like the pose in which and it also depends on my mood, am I hungry? No. But if I got a surprise, I feel like generally my libido is higher than john's is, so I'm

usually, I always think it's a track of what it really depends on the pose. Sometimes john will just be, I don't know why you do this. Like, you always somehow bend over. When I'm coming into the room and I'm like, this is of you, I never ever want to see it. And I immediately dry up and turn around. And could go up. When they say junk, they're talking about my penis.

Not my fault. I'm trying to be aware of where you're at in the room and I'm trying to not face you. When you bend over, I see it all. It's like it's all, you act like that. Don't swing the door but so quick. So I actually, I'm just, I'm pretty sick of it.

I'm trying to be aware of where I'm standing. I know you don't want to see inside my trance a while. You're whispering, I, yeah, you're right. I don't want to see inside there. So it really depends. I don't think to see inside there. So it really depends. So all of the other is a joke. Like Abby usually doesn't catch me like bedding over on accident, but like if sometimes just like,

if I'm just naked, I get out of the shower, I might just like give Abby a little surprise. And then she's like, whoa. You're supposed to be waiting. No. You never saw a waiting with some. No, I haven't. I am Reynolds.

Or he's like a waiter. And it's and just like they're like a grungy Restaurant or something and they're all doing like different poses with their like the bat wing and the go and they're all trying to get each other With it. I feel like we should move on That's a whole classic We'll watch our next Definitely to watch What yeah, what is your answer to that question? I would say I would never want to actually look at the day. I definitely need to watch that. I never answered the question. Yeah, what is your answer to that question? I would say, I would never want to see another guys,

but I think. Which is shocking. It's shocking to hear that you say that though, because not to be weird, but I think. I would rather look at a naked woman than naked man. Yeah, I agree. Yeah, but like, I'm gonna agree with that. Yeah.

Everyone said that to you. And it's universally. But it's interesting how you as a straight woman saying that is like totally, I wouldn't with that. Yeah. Everyone said it to universe. It's interesting how you as a straight woman saying that is totally, I wouldn't question that. Right. But I get that you'd be like, oh are you gay? I think it's because women are, no one's gonna disagree women's bodies are beautiful. 100%.

100%. But I know what you're saying where there's a double standard. If John was like, I would rather look at a naked man. Everyone would be a little bit questioning yeah okay wow we really we're really sending it with these trunks just so much your first explicit episode

it's all good okay next one we got is are you down for a three some? Listen, this is a question for everybody who's the third one. Oh, who is the third? I think back in my college days like when I wasn't in a committed like married relationship like it's something that I could have explored but now that I'm married and I just know I think it's off the table for me now. Yeah, John's like Oh college days for sure now. No, I'm too tired. Oh my gosh You guys had a really crazy college is compared to us. We were married in college Yeah, we were married throughout college Yeah, but it felt awesome cuz I was like we're having sex and none of our friends are like

He was really great. What? I almost went to the library state. Yeah Yeah, I'm so excited. Like nobody was married. Like we were like the only people. But you guys knew though, you know what I mean? Like, and it worked for you. Like you are the one, I don't know. I like, we actually have a few friends who are high school sweethearts.

And I think a lot of people are against it because they know that it's not gonna work, you know, because of like just like stereotypical rates, but again, like when you can come out of it, like that's even better. Oh, totally. Like, yeah. I would never have been down for three some at any point in my life.

Yeah. I'm very monogamous. Yeah. That's what I was going to like tell Matt, I'm like, I'm not attracted to other guys. I'm a little bit like that. I feel like people that end up swinging, like it's like, oh, it's like making it happen. I'm like, oh, I'll just immediately assume that three sums with another dude. Like, just so you know, it's good to be able to hold it.

Oh, my gosh. I could not have been thinking about it. It was like, no. Like, just so you know, it's gonna be a woman. Oh my gosh, I could not even think about it. It was like, no. So you had Abby, you had to pick one. It's a three so it's you, Matt. Is it with another dude or a woman? Another dude, wait, what? John, don't put Abby on the spot. She said no three sums were guard less.

Yeah, just be with a dude or a woman. I just, I, probably a woman, I'm gonna say, what do you do? So no, with me, I'm gonna be honest with you, I'm social, woman. I don't know. With me, I would be honest with you, I was so sheltered. I don't logistically know how this would end up. Who's the third party member? So sorry to all like you're very like kinds. That's actually fun. I think I think all of us that if it if it were to happen, I think everyone would take woman. Actually, yeah. Now, I think about it. I'm gonna be so happy with someone. Am I doing as good as he's doing it?

But I'm so scared. I don't know. I just feel like that would like, then it would affect our relationship. Like why would then be like self-conscious and self-conscious and like not happy? Like it just would, it's not worth, I don't think it's not worth the issues

that would follow. I am knowing it will just stickly worse. No, yeah. Why are we all in the same like chair? This is the most, the dumbest thing. I think it's fine. It's, we like to be crazy. Sorry, I'm actually uncomfortable too right now.

I'll be completely, Are we uncomfortable because of like, this way or the conversation about the recess? Yeah, yeah. John, like, you're like, I retract my answer for that because I literally do not know how that would even work. Yeah, I'm gonna say no, I think you would cause problems.

Yeah. I think there's no way around that, I think you would cause problems. Yeah. I think there's no way around that. Of course would cause problems. Would you or have you had adult nap time while your baby slash kid was in the room? That's what about your pet? Oh, Kobe. Do you guys actually nap in general?

Maybe that should be the best. Do you have your doesn't like to take naps? Cause then I stay up at night. It's frustrating. I'm like, Abby, just take a freaking nap. She'll be so exhausted. I'm like, if you just take an hour and a half nap, you'll feel awake.

You guys, if we don't nap, we don't. We don't nap. We don't nap. We don't nap. Yeah, oh that's true. Last time you took a nap, you woke up crying. And then, every single time I took a nap, I wake up hungry and emotional.

That was actually our last YouTube video. And I also don't know what day it is. You mean you're more confused. You're more confused. But I think, no, he didn't. I think with adult nap time, we're talking about sex. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm not just like adult sleep.

We're not sleeping. The last kid was in the room or your pet. Old messages. I think people are nap time we're talking about sex. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm not just like adult sleep. We're not just being a such kid, we're in the room or your pet. Old messages. I think people are sending code messages. We have to decipher the code. Okay, well, I'm gonna assume, yeah, that it means sexy time. Well, we don't have kids, so we can,

we could adult nap, all day long. See, we've definitely done that. And then I think what felt weird though is like, you feel weird that your kids in the room, but then you're also like, they can't even see anything. Because they're in, they're like guarded, like they're asleep or they're in their bassinet and they're like, they're either hated.

I was like, you're just like, I'm in the room with this. Oh yeah, this has been a long time. Yeah, he's been, what in Griffin starts sleeping in the bathroom? I think, yeah, there's like an age limit of course when you stop doing it. No, no, no, no.

I think anything real, now would be, oh my gosh. He's much too old now. Just like, when stories though. Just like when stories though. Just like when you stop like kissing your kid on the mouth at some point, you know. But it is weird. I do have the thoughts of like,

if we're both like naked and we're like getting in and out of the shower and stuff and griffing us. I'm like, is it weird that our 11 month old is seeing like this naked woman, but at the same time, he also still breast feeds and he's going, I mean, or actually I guess he just stops like literally like two days ago. I just just sat in two days ago, I also still breast feeds, and he's going, or actually, I guess he just stops, like literally like two days a year. I just just sat in two days ago, I was done.

Yeah, I mean. I haven't seen those TikToks where it's like, was your mom a naked mom or not naked mom? It's like, did you grow up like seeing your mom, like walk around naked, like didn't care? I did, where I didn't. My mom would wear underwear around the house, but like, I didn't think of anything,

it didn't seem weird. Right, yeah, my mom too, she like didn't care. But like, I guess it got to a point where one day day she just like stopped. Yeah, I think the day my mom stopped was when like me and my brothers were like, mom, please put some clothes on. Like, that's hard. What do you notice? Yeah. She's like, well, they told me to. Maybe that happens to me. Yeah. But once he starts talking, there's no way I'd be okay with him seeing me or changing. Yeah. But I never, even I even my dad make it that much. Yeah, I don't think I've ever seen my dad make it. No.

He did all the time. He did? Oh yeah. There's actually a TikTok. When the guy has a punching bag coming towards him, he's like dodging, he's like, when you're taking showers, when you're dad, when you're a kid.

Oh, my God. You're dodging it. To meet my brother, we used to play, we used to play shower hockey in the shower. Yeah, the shower together. And we had these play shower hockey in the shower. The sewage shower together, and we had these plastic hockey sticks, and it was so much fun. We were like five and six, five and seven.

It's crazy. You remember that one. Yeah, I remember. I was like, what's the shower hockey? I remember taking a bath with my sister once, and she pooped in the bath. Oh god. You don't forget that.

Yeah, no. But anyways, the answer to our question is, yes, but you guys never answered about this. We've gone way too far. Oh yeah, well with Kobe, Yeah, no, but anyways, the answer to our question is yes, but you guys never answered about the dog. We've been saying so far. Oh yeah, well with Kobe, it depends also. I don't really have a choice. Or he'll mess up the flow, because if we shut the door,

he'll scratch the door and it'll like, yeah. I think he just wants to be near us. Like he's not a dog though that jumps on the bed. Like if he was interfering, then it would be a problem. But like he just wants to be close so he'll lay down. I'll be honest, maybe he's have a six cents, they know when something's about to happen

and they wake up and start crying. Every single time. No, it's so freaking frustrating you guys. I swear it's like finally we're about to do it. And then, I'm like, on the second. Every time, I swear, every time.

So now we're about to, for a nap I'm like, let's go do it right now. He's asleep like we can finally go Yeah guys you really are selling the kid I'm telling you no it's it's hard I think this for this year you were able to have another baby Yeah, he's I would say like kid years been the hardest year for marriage for sure. It's just it's challenging I hear from you know the sources on TikTok to not even talk about the D word divorce during the years of like the first year Having a kid because like your hormones like everything. It's just you hate your spouse It's just like you're going through this whole huge change together

That it's like that can't even be an option on the table like you just have to work through it and know that it's a phase. I mean, Yes, did you have like issues with Matt? Like, you guys, I don't know, because hormone-wide, that it affects you with Matt, your relationship, or no, no, no, like, did you ever look at him and you're like, I hate you. I'll start generally asking, because we're like,

because the conversation of having kids is constantly about that. I think too, like, I think it made me hate him now. No, no. I think it made me, I really did make me love you more. I think it depends on your partner though. Like if you have a partner who's helping you, like I think would you.

Well, I don't know if like chemical imbalance or whatever. Here's where it's really hard is I feel like I'm doing more work and she feels like she's doing more work. Then you get mad at each other because you're like, I'm doing all this and you're not doing it. I find it. And then we both feel that way. That's where a couple is really butt heads.

And it's funny how everyone, like I've looked at like research and done some research of my own. Most people go through the same crap. Yeah. Because we had this phase right after Griffin was born. We were so crazy. Cloud nine. It was like we just made our family. We have this little human and he's so freaking cute and he's ours. And it just was like heaven. It was like, it's actually, and then you guys first started dating. And then like a week later, a week later, boom, like drops. And a lot of people go through that. I didn't realize that, but a lot of people have this like heaven phase

right out of the baby. But I do footing again. And then I feel like also the thing that did, I did not expect is it literally changed my brain, becoming a mom. Like I cannot physically not think about Griffin or like, and so it like takes a tension for me from him. Yeah, because it, he's your everything.

Yeah. It's funny to bring up that fighting though because we had a therapist on our podcast and she goes the number one thing is like, don't have a- You don't keep score. And that's I think a lot of what people do is they're like, well I do this and I do that. And it's like, well I do this and I do that.

And it's like, you have to work as a team. Like, you're both doing a lot. That becomes so toxic, because then you really do start like going on, like, you can, well, last month, like, you could just start bringing stuff for the college. Yeah. That's what we talked about. Like, sometimes, like, what do they say?

Like, you can't always each give 50%. Like, sometimes someone's giving 70, and someone's giving 30, or so then you ask, what's your percentage right now? And I'm like, if I'm pregnant, it's never going above 40. Like, that's just how it is. I love how we're segueing into all these questions

like way longer. Okay, so now we have, have you ever felt not in the mood but did it anyways? Of course. I feel like me all the time. Yeah. Never.

That's always mad. I don't know, like definitely. I time. Yeah. Never. That's always mad. I don't know. Like, definitely. I would, yeah, definitely. I feel like, it's natural. Someone's always going to be, you know, each one's different. But also, it's one of those things kind of like going to the gym. Like, do you ever really feel like going?

And but then like when you do it, you're like, you're so glad you did it. That's Abby. That's Abby. Like, a lot of times she'll be like, I don't really feel like, let's do it. And then, and then average, like, man, I'm so glad we did. That's Abby. That's Abby. A lot of times she'll be like, I don't really feel like, let's do it. And then after a year, like, man, I'm so glad I did it. So glad.

It's a man's thing too. Because it is. It's one of those things, like when we're getting testy with each other, I'm like, we gotta do it. I'm like, it's been too long. No, seriously, yeah, I've gotten a bad fight. It's like, wow, we feel way better. Yeah, exactly.

So what we find about doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Yeah. Yeah. It's so important, honestly. And I think a ton of people say that, but even when you don't feel like doing it, you should do it.

And to miss these huge and a relationship. Yeah. I don't know why this is even a question, but it says, do you or have you ever done the dirty width just socks on? Yes. I've had socks. Actually, the other day I had socks on

while we were doing it. Just socks. Just socks. Like nothing else. Nothing else. I think we should read somewhere that it makes it better. There's no way. Maybe we sleep better than that.

I've heard that, but I don't believe that though. I like to have socks off and then I like to have my foot outside of the covers so I can like equalize that temperature. You get a little bit of coolness. Yeah, also I want to like grip and support of the ground or wherever I am located. John's giving away a lot of things. Well, I'll just say, because you could slip and kill yourself

with socks on. John, he's got the game because John has an occupational therapist and he worked with geriatrics. He would look at everything and be like fall risk, fall risk, fall risk. You're going to have grip socks on the hot, you work with geriatrics? Wow. That takes a special person.

Yeah. Yeah. It's got to be hard. It's a good nursing facility. They're for like six years, but it's got to be hard skill nursing facility different like six years But it's definitely draining for sure. Yeah, wow sad. I can't I can't ask you questions. I my voice sounds like a camera Ask this one you can do it I ask you can do it would you remarry if something happened to me? We talk about this all the time go ahead you first though

See I I think like- We did not you. You just, I wanna hear, I'm here for you. You're looking me all the way. You're the first. I'm the first. You guys go first, yeah. How would you know I was even talking to you? What are you looking at me?

You pointed this way and you go, you first. I'm like, okay, I'll go. I'm so like, like I said, I'm so loyal. I feel like I cannot even go there. Like, I can't even think of that. That would make me sad though if I were to die in a car that. That would make me sad though, if I were to die in a car accident, that would make me sad if she didn't marry Mary. I know it's weird, but it's like I would be dead.

And like for her to just like losing her best friend. And it's like, that's like saying, oh, if you lost your best friend, would you never have another best friend? Right. Why would you not have another best friend? I can't picture her. No, I'll be locking up.

Lock up, girl. I can't picture another guy. Like, was our kids too? You don't have to. The kids make another like, I'll live into it. Like, I would hate to see another. That would make me so sad if you're all alone,

raising kids on your own. That's just what you digging into. Scratching at the door. It's snowing out. Ma'am, Remarry, I know he would. You could not be alone. I would hope that you would Remarry. I don't know if I could.

I'll be honest, I don't think I would live the rest of my six years. Why, just, well, I think it also depends on when. Like if it's tomorrow? No, no, no, no. You know what I mean, but like if you're in like, I don't know. That would be devastating.

That would be, are we terrible people? Unbelievably. I mean, I know that I would not. I think I, like, because I look at Betty White and I'm like, queen, her husband had passed away. Not because, like, I don't like that. Yeah, not because I would not. I think I like because I look at Betty White and I'm like, Queen, her husband had passed away. Not because like, I don't like that. No, no, no, no, no, because I don't like that. I don't like that. No, because I don't like that. I don't like that. I don't like that.

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Oh yeah. I hate being alone. But if you want to done for me, I'm good. I didn't want to. Really? I don't believe in soulmates. I think that you have to just work for me. Or just a muscle if you're not working out.

It's true. So true. I do think that you can have several, like if you like to just work for me, or just like a muscle if you're not working out. It's your turn to be strong. I do think that you can have like several, like if you like to meet someone else, but I think for me, I just, my expectations would be so high in a partner, that like maybe, but I don't know, it's like one of those things that I would,

I hate to think about, and would never think about. I think it's literally only dated and been with and kept each other. So it's like, I literally can't even imagine. Right. Like I'm like, that's just, no one else could fill out. It's's like I literally cannot even imagine. Right. Like I'm like that's just, no one else could fill out.

It's not, I don't know. I know. I get that. Yeah. That would be very undoubtedly. Like there's just no way. It makes me look like a complete A-hole right now. You honestly, you're like throwing thing

about losing your ears. Like I do. I don't know why, but my brain doesn't go to that place of like, I'm not gonna really think through how I would feel if you died right now. But you do that. I can really put my brain to that position. I mean, your brain goes there and you're like in tears.

And I'm like, well, like if somebody is going through something that I'm wearing, I feel like I'm going through the same thing. You do have very good empathy. Yeah, but really strong. Because if someone's struggling with something, I can't remove myself and help them,

because I'm literally just like, well, you've been to funerals where you cry more than the people that lost. Then the family who lost someone, because obviously, it's not good. It's very bad, it's actually not good. But I mean, that also could be a superpower. Like you use that, you feel,

you can have these deep conversations with people because you feel their pain. You know, like you can connect with people in that way. So like, it's not a bad thing. I wear all my emotions 100% You also are very pregnant. I like the thing that I didn't knew with pregnancy, but it's really kind of not.

How many times a week? Oh, it depends on the week, honestly, because with like traveling, but yeah, usually at least two. I think average couples are like two to three a week or something. I don't know, but some people, like, I mean, everyone's normal, it's different. No, that was like statistically.

I would be great with two to three. I'm so happy with that. That's what's kind of a bummer is, like in the early days of marriage, I swear you guys, like it was literally every day. There was not a day that I had. So much fun. And now, which is so much fun.

Totally, like, yeah, obviously, like a lot's going on, Abbie's pregnant. We have a baby, like, there's a lot going on. There was not a day that so much so much fun and now which is so much totally like Yeah, obviously like a lot. Let's go to Abby's pregnant. We have baby like there's a lot going on So yeah, it's probably it's saying probably two times a week out like how you guys are like two times That's it and we're like killing it I Guess I just have a high libido Yeah, you want what you can't have you know, yeah, what's the closest you've come to breaking up or divorcing? I guess I just have a high libido. I don't know. You do it. You're freaking out. You want one you can't have, you know? Yeah.

What's the closest you've come to breaking up or divorcing? Wow. Oh gosh. Probably just like in our peak year, like we just had so much going on. It was like so stressful. Yeah. We had like 38 weddings. We had, I was working.

I was working together. Working together is working together. Working together. Oh my gosh, can you talk about that? Yeah. Because I mean, like, we're together 24-7. Exactly. You have to have your marriage relationship at and you have to have your business have,

but they don't. They blend together. You have to get off with your business. You're always talking about business. Exactly. So it's really hard. You have to create intentional time. But during the year 2021, when we had all the weddings and we're

like, and again, when your relationship is is front and center for people to rip it apart, like it was a lot of stress on us. But I started therapy and it has I think just like helped me have an outlet to like talk about my problems. But it also like gave me the tools to help communicate with John better because John, he's a great communicator. Like never really needed. I know you can't tell. For, and I've been in relationships in the past where yeah, like he's a really,

and I was the one who like would, you know, brush my feelings aside and put it under the rug and just like work. And I would work to mask like what I was feeling and like to mask my stress. So I would just work all the time. And instead of addressing the issues that we were having, and so we got to a breaking point,

and we were like, something's not a change. So we took a week and a half off socials, we took a break from the pod, which a week and a half sounds like nothing, but to us who post every day, it is. Yeah, and so it was kind of a reset for us. It was kind of scary, I mean, especially since we're so used to posting every day, it feels like yeah. And so it was kind of like a reset for us. It was kind of scary, I mean, like,

especially since we're so used to posting every day, it feels like if you take a week and a half off, you're gonna do anything. You want a day, you should do a kill to us. What do you feel guilty about? Yeah, everyone deserves like a rest day, exactly. But we didn't make an announcement or anything, like we're taking a break,

but we just, it was like what we needed. And like now, instead of feeling the pressure of like this hamster wheel, if we do need to like focus on our relationship, we do. We'll step back from socials for a few days and just not worry about work and just focus on each other. That's really good.

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Okay, we've got, what's the craziest or most rare place? He's done too many sex questions. You'd want to shag. That's what it says. We never heard of that. I've never heard of that. I've never heard of that. What's shag? Like, you know, shag. I've never heard of shag.'ve never heard of that. What's Jack? Like, you know, Cheg.

I've never heard of Cheg. I've never heard of it. I've never heard of it. Who says Cheg? Who murders? Who murdered? Who murdered? I mean, for millennials versus

Jam, what do you mean? Oh my god. We'll do that on our podcast when you guys are going to find out. I'm learning some new terms, by the way. Like, Gigi? No, that's a meetup word. But wait.

Riz, have you guys heard of Riz? Riz, yeah, like it's not a new term. Yeah. People are using the Gen Zers, even though we're Gen Z, I feel like what you're really fit. We don't really fit. We don't really fit either one. Yeah, I guess you guys are like in between.

We're just cryptic words. We're just in between. Because you're very mature for Gen Zers. Well, we're also like the oldest Gen Z. Oh, okay, okay. So we are on like, like, custom anyways. Yeah, well where is, where is, where are we friends with only millennials?

Oh, right, yeah. So where's the like, where's the craziest place that we have shagged, John? In the car, we've never even done it in the car. In the car, yeah. We've never done it in the car. We need to up our game, Abby. But you know, it gets a crime.

How sad that I like can't see in. I think I, is the question, where would you want to? Where I guess the question is Oh, Tom the balcony on a trip We did do it on a balcony and if we were we were way too many drinks We're like more to find the next day. Oh my god. The next I was like did anyone see us like it's not like you're on a high rise It was like I level with other people's Oh my gosh. No.

Horrible. I mean, you're over that. I'm impressed you guys have taken two weeks of drinking off by the way. That's very, very, very sweet. Three weeks of drinking. Catalina, why I'm mixture we went way too hard. We said we need a reset or a liver. I know. You guys doing that just as long as you can go?

Yeah, I mean, I am. I do like how I feel like not drinking. And so I think just like being older, the older that you get, I'm like, we don't, we haven't really been drinking much like these years except for like on the weekends or like out of dinner or whatever, but I just don't think it like really serves me anymore. So. I mean, I like doing it.

I just want to see how long I can go. Alex is more of a lifestyle change. Mine's more of like, I want to know what it's like because I've been drinking since the 19 20 like consistently college going is that old? I'm not old I'm not old but like going on three weeks. I'm like wow and I don't really know Is a huge difference to be honest? Yeah, but I think it's a matter of like not feeling like you know what I mean like not having brain fog Like but not drinking. I'm now just slam in sweets.

No way. I'm eating cookies. I never eat dessert or anything. That's probably why I do that, because I don't drink very much, but I do if I make sweet cookies, you better believe I'm eating all 24 cookies in 24 hours. It happens every time.

And I'm like, I'm going to develop type two diabetes. It's going to happen. If I can't control my sweet addiction. Do you like to bake? I do. It's dangerous. And if I can't control my sweet addiction. Right. Do you like to bake? She does. I do. It's dangerous. And she won't eat it.

She'll just bake and leave all the cookies out, and they smell so good. That's the torture. That's torture. I'll have like one, like as a dessert. I don't have one. I feel like I always, I love balance in every area of my life. Like I love balance with my eating, with my sleeping,

with my activity. What's cooking like in your house? Are you the, are you the chef? This is the chef. Matt doesn't know how to cook anything. every area of my life. Like I love balance with my eating, with my sleeping, with my activity. What's cooking like in your house? Are you the chef? That's not how to cook anything. You don't know how to cook. I grill. Come on. I grill.

I like prepare the meat. People grill the meat. I've never grilled. I've never grilled. I've never grilled. I've never grilled. I've never grilled. I've never grilled.

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I buy it when I donate it. Okay, okay. But then, which is like, it makes it so easy. But then also put a little extra fresh lemon and salt. We love salmon. It's so good. So fresh. So good.

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she taught me how to cook, how to edit, how to shoot with a camera. Like, John's very trainable, but no, you, so no, I cook a lot now too, but it's also she showed me how to cook. Yeah, Matt is a cook or grocery shop. I guess we probably do breakfast evenly. Why don't you say? I don't really make your breakfast that much. Have you had some like the TikTok of like what you do

in the relationship like? Oh, that guy got us canned. See that guy has canned stuff. Yeah, why? Because I do a lot of the house stuff because he does a lot of the business stuff. Well, that's how we are. Like I do a lot of like the business editing behind the scenes, which takes a lot of time. And John does a lot of the business stuff. Well, that's how we are. Like, I do a lot of like the business editing behind the scenes,

which takes a lot of time. And John does a lot of the house stuff. But at the same time, you're both contributing to the house show. But he is. You guys don't get canceled because it's the woman working and the husband doing the house stuff. And because you do it the traditional way.

And it's seen as like me being like everyone can go f off. Whatever works for you is what, like, are you bothering someone else by living your life and what works in your family? It didn't change how we do things in our house. Exactly. People said anything. I would actually also say that our roles are more equally spread out before you just do business. Alex does nothing with the finances. Let's just go into it.

Alex can do the creative edit for videos, but I do everything with the podcast. Because I made you. Or would have done the podcast. But it's like, our roles are pretty equally. I don't touch the finances, I don't want to do that. I just got done doing bookkeeping for like three days because I had put it off for so long

and I want to throw up, dude, bookkeeping and stuff. I heard an account. What we do, but then like, I have to tell them which expenses match which. It's stuck time. I have to train throw up, dude, but I have to count. What we do, but then I have to tell them which expenses match which. I know. It's time. I have to train them up on what is what in our first instance. When you just give them your Viewer America Express,

don't you just give them, like you have a business card. Yeah. Do you guys have a bookkeeper for your business? Yeah, well, he does both. He's our accountant and he doesn't keep it. Okay, we have that too, but yeah, I was doing it just.

I mean, it still takes time, though. Like, again, like you're on. You're very similar where I think you guys are just two hands on, where it's like, right,, it still takes time though. Like again, like you're on. You're very similar where I think you guys are just two hands on, where it's like, let it go a little bit. Have a little bit better. Have a little bit better. We got it out wherever.

Better. Yeah, while we're doing our best, you know? Yeah, don't touch her. Sorry, we just fist bump. Jellis, John, John, we need fist bumped earlier. Yeah, you guys fist bumped earlier. We're gonna belly bump. Do you notice imperfections?

Stretch marks, cellulite. Which one, any other person? Yeah, and your other person, do you notice the imperfections? I mean, no, like I just think I'm so distracted by like being literally in love with John and obsessed with him all the time that when he bends over and shows me his booty hole I'm like wow I love it all

I'm gonna be having fun with me because like I let water run through my Bro when I'm trying to take a shower like yeah, like that yeah, like that's where I, like, that's where I went my butt. Like I got a clue now. Don't make eye contact with me, as you're doing it though. You gotta get in there and clean it. It's really, really aggressive. John is aggressive. You gotta clean it. I walked into the bathroom, duration.

Wait, Matt, you know what I was feeling? It just like lets the shower just run over you and that's how you, I mean, it doesn't like bend over and let the water go through. She just like, I'm like, that's not cleaning your butt. Like that's real. You gotta get her. You gotta clean that booty hole.

You gotta clean that booty hole. Matt, Matt, Matt. What are you doing blinding? I am very clean and hygienic. I'm implying that you're... But when I walk in the bathroom, I'm like, oh, least over. Brad, eat on me.

You gotta do, you gotta do. Here's the thing. I can't, is that? I can't, I can't. I'm trying to act for me. I'm like I don't need Just to have with you. You're staring into my soul But okay when I say I wish we had one of those like little like ones things, you know I just like Done right but like because we don't have the one. I'm like okay. I got a freaking like

Endo word. Oh I don't know what the anatomy difference is but I don't have the one. I'm like, okay, I gotta freaking like, bend over and let it go through. I don't know what the anatomy difference is, but I don't need to do that. I think you're just really short, and I think there's some difference with you being short and you being tall. You know? I'm gonna fuse it.

You had to bend over to get in here. That's how he does it. Is that just like bring your arm around? No, but like, why are you bending over? To the rinse. Exactly, that's what I wanna know. If you're not like when you wash your hands, you like wash your hands and then you like rinse off,

like rinse off your hands to water, like that's why. To rinse off. Oh, like once you get in there, like to get it out. The suns. Oh, I see where you're saying. Yeah. I just like splash it up in that part. Yeah, and that does enough for me.

So I feel like that's not, I feel like you're missing. No, no, I soak it up. So you're not soaked up, that's like water. You're not soaked up, that's like water. But day, maybe we could feel like you're missing. No, no, I soak it up. Do you guys have a day? I'm gonna have a day, maybe we could all get a day's box. No, I know our builders know, because they asked, I said, absolutely not. I don't trust them. I tried my friends.

I have a sensation. Well, you, they have a heat control on it. So John, I don't care about the heat control. Oh, but that doesn't make a difference. When it's cold water up your butt. Once again, I was telling a story that she wasn't part of I was in the bathroom I didn't know you were in the bathroom. It was zero to 12. I turned it to five Nothing came out. I'm like this is the first time I ever used it. I'm like, oh, I guess I had to charge

So I put it up to 12. I shot myself right in the end With it. I was so appalled. I was like never again. I'm never using this thing again I'll tell you what at first it's super uncomfortable. I've only used a bidet by the way, like three times. The first two times were like really, I was like, this is weird. Did it go around or is it supposed to go in? I think it just, it's just like it rents.

It's like a little rents. Oh, rents. All the part, it wasn't like a jet, like a zip- No, see, I think you were on the wrong setting. Yeah, it was like, we just were in Mexico. And we're at on the wrong setting. Yeah, we just were in Mexico and they were at this thing. I was on the clean the toilet setting So they had one in Mexico. I was like I have never felt cleaner. I feel so clean really They say in other countries they use a lot less toilet paper because it makes sense

Yeah, you should like you would never just like if you're washing your hands You would never just like use a towel. Why they don't off? Right, like you would use water. So it makes sense that you a bidet exists. What is an argument we have gotten into that you thought I made a big deal out of? I can think of two times, you know what? We don't do pranks to each other. Yeah.

Cause they go horribly, horribly wrong. And not even like a set up prank, like for a video. It was like I actually did a prank. Oh, you did it. In a backfire on me twice. It was like I actually did a prank. Oh, you did. And a back fight on me twice. What was it? What was it? The first time I was in Mexico where I, Alex was drunk

and I took the key to the hotel door. Because John likes to say that I lose my stuff all the time. But I never lose it. It just lost in my purse somewhere. And I'm like, I'm gonna find it. So he's like, Alex, you lose everything. So we get to like our hotel door. But you're recording this?

Yes, I'm my cell phone. But it was it for social media, I think. I just thought it was fun. I just thought it was fun. And I wanted to get a reaction. So I took the hotel key. I'm like, where's the key, Alex? And she's looking around.

She can't find it. He's all look from me. So I'm like, I don't know where it is. Like I literally had it in my person. He goes, here it is. And whips it out. And I'm like, why would you take it? Like, why are you gaslighting me?

He kicks it out of my hand. So he's, he's thinks that he's so funny, filming it and I go, I was a dancer growing up, so I went, yeah! And I kicked it out of his, I kicked the fight out of it. And she was crying and the whole night, she was like so mad at me. He needs to think I got lost the key.

He's like, I was trying to teach you a lesson. I'm like, exactly, that's cruel. You stole the key for me. And then tried to blame it on me. And make me feel that as a lesson for losing something that I didn't lose, you're wrong. Also, real quick, another time was, how do you remember these?

Like, I can do anything. Four weekends ago. Four weekends ago. Four weekends ago, I remember this. I say I can't remember yesterday, but I remember my pranks. We were at a bar and I was drunk, and I was talking to the sky all day. It was a really cool guy. I was taking a break from Brian.

Yeah, I remember. I was like, man, I told this guy, you know, it'd be funny if you went up to my wife and told her I was being a huge asshole to you. And so that crank happens. Alex gets, I don't even remember the rest of the thing. So this guy comes up to me when we're out This is not for video. This is just I just thought by the way Abby does this to me to I pranked all the time not

Why do I always relate more to the wife and Abbie's out here pranking me just to screw with me doesn't even care to record. She's like this Me funny. Yeah, no no John like I said though John was not thinking of this as like a prank to make content. So this guy comes up to me, he goes, hey, your husband, he's like, love your content. He was just a huge dick to me. And I was like, ah, John is out here ruining our relationships

with like our audience, are you kidding me? Like, we need to be nicer people. Like, and he's out here just being rude. I'm like, he's just probably in a bad mood. I need to find him. We need to lock this up. So I find John. And I'm like, some guy just came up to me

and told me that you were being mean to him, John. And John's like, I don't know what you're talking about. Just like losing his mind on me. I forgot. I completely forgot. You know what I mean? You said he forgot that he told this guy to say it. And he goes, you're just blaming me.

You just believe this guy. You just like are taking it. You just believe this guy. I was just like, you're not gonna take my side. You're just automatically gonna believe someone else. You're just coming up to me and tell me that, John. And then I go, and then it wasn't until the next day when we're talking about it, I said,

John, we need to talk. Like, you can't be rude to other people. And then you just remembered. And then, no, I didn't. It wasn't until I go. And then John's like, John, we need to talk. You can't be rude to other people. And they just remembered. No, I didn't. It wasn't until I go. And then John's like, well, what do you even look like? I go, he was in a cowboy hat and John goes, oh, and then that's when you remembered.

And you were like, oh, I was actually hung over the next day. I was like, oh my God, I'm a terrible person. I don't know what I said to this person. And then he was like, oh yeah, wait, that guy in a cowboy hat, we were talking for a while and I told him to tell you that. Okay.

That's the funniest thing I've ever heard. So yeah, literally they could not even imagine that scenario. I was like, if someone were to come, just because the way you are, if someone comes to you, just wait, I feel like if someone came up and was like, your wife was a huge B to me, what would you think? I would know that it's not true. Yeah, I'm just not a bee.

I love it. Not me. What a team, you two are. I'm sorry. What a team. Well, also, we never really drink. So I feel like that as an element where it's like, it's not really yourself.

So it's like, yeah, because we don't really have that. Right, because I'm like, oh oh John acting like it sounds like him Oh my god, that's why we're not drinking right now Well, that wasn't argument everyone place their guesses for how long they think Alex and John can make it without drinking They're going on three weeks right now. Yeah, I'm proud of you guys. Thank you. Thank you They're going on three weeks right now. Very proud of you guys. Thank you. Thank you so much.

Yes. Oh my goodness. It's been so fun having you guys on the podcast. We'll have to do our other episode. I haven't laughed this hard on a podcast episode. On top. In how long? I don't know.

I've been laughing so hard. It's my fault. We're all sweating now. Yeah. But again, you guys can check out Alex and John's podcast. Give it to me straight. Yes. It's on all podcast platforms.

Check out, leave them a review, and while you're at it, leave us a review, we really appreciate your reviews, and we're gonna actually read one of your reviews right now, because that's what we do at the end of our episodes. What we do. Amazing, I love watching your YouTube channel, and when I found out you were starting a podcast, I was ecstatic, ecstatic.

Ecstatic, I think they spelled it wrong love the podcast thank you so much we really appreciate you guys I wish there was an Instagram handle to shut that person out but we love you guys if you haven't already left a review we'd really appreciate it and we'll see you in the next episode thank you again Alex and thank you for having us thank you guys and as always this is where we say peace out dudes three two one peace out dudes This is where we say peace out dude. Three, two, one. Peace out dudes.