The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Moving, Pregnancy Symptoms & Making a Will

Episode Date: October 9, 2024

Matt and Abby discuss buying their new home, dealing with Abby's recent pregnancy-like symptoms, and making a will for the first time. They also talk about their plans for Halloween, watching 'Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story,' and Matt's recovery from a recent concussion. This episode is sponsored by Bombas, BetterHelp and Rocket Money. Bombas: Feel good and do good. Head over to https://bombas.com/unplanned and use code unplanned for 20% off your first purchase. BetterHelp: Visit https://BetterHelp.com/unplannedpodcast today to get 10% off your first month. RocketMoney: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to https://RocketMoney.com/unplanned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Your friends at the gym today were trying to get you to take a pregnancy test. There's no way what's crazy though Is we have friends that got pregnant on an IUD? It is 99.9 percent effective, but there's still that point one percent creating the will the questions are shocking They're very shocking here in a vegetative state. Are we allowed to pull the plug who's allowed to make that decision? There's a lot of things involved in making a will that are not financial in the least make that decision. There's a lot of things involved in making a will that are not financial in the least. What's up dudes? And welcome back to the unplanned podcast. I'm your host, Matt, as well as we have another host as well. We're co-hosts of this thing. Okay. I feel like I'm your guest. Really? I don't know. You're very good at leading conversations. I am not the best at it. I don't know. I're you're very like good at leading conversations. I

Am not the best at it. I don't know. I think you're very good at connecting with people and I think you have like very strong empathy Thank you. Thank you. I feel that I just don't think I'm good at like directing a conversation if that makes sense I don't know. I think you're I think you're a very good interviewer You guys it's been a while since we've done a solo episode. It has it's good to be back We're just talking before we started recording. I was at the store yesterday looking for baked sour cream and cheddar. Ruffles. Ruffles, ruffles yesterday. And Abby was having this weird craving for them

and was not feeling good. And today. No you guys, it was the weirdest thing. I woke up at 2 a.m., two nights ago, so nauseous. I was like, if I even lift my pinky finger, I'm going to vomit. So I did not move. I had to go to the bathroom, and I was like,

no, I cannot move. I will throw up. So I finally, I just was up in the night, so, so nauseous. I fight throwing up with everything in me, because my body does not know how to vomit, and I know there's a lot of people like me, where it's like, we fight it because it is such a uncomfortable experience. It's, I would say it's more uncomfortable than the average person.

I pop blood vessels all in my face and my eyeballs and my neck. I didn't see that. No, no, no. When I throw up. Okay. Yes. You can vouch for me though. Like it's dramatic when I throw up.

I can't help that. My body doesn't know how to do it properly. So like for me, it's like, I don't want to be dramatic, but I think it's worse than the average person's experience vomiting. So I like avoided it at all costs. So I'm like, I'm not going to move. I'm not going to move. I wake up the next morning, still feel the same way.

I, yesterday, I probably took like 500 steps max. Wouldn't you say? I never do that. I know. You're like always on the go. And so it was actually shocking to see you. It was weird, right? Yeah. Like I, I'm not saying I'm like always on the go and so I it was actually shocking to see you It was weird, right? Yeah, like I I'm not saying I'm like super tough or anything But like I try to keep moving even when I'm not feeling well

Just cuz I think it tricks my brain into feeling better yesterday was like literally not an option I was so so nauseous I mean, I guess if I had to I probably would have moved but I moved from the bed to the tub to the couch back To the bed. That's all I did. Your friends at I moved from the bed to the tub to the couch back to the bed. That's all I did. And so your friends at the gym today were trying to get you to take a pregnancy test. I know, everyone's like, take a test, take a test, take a test. I'm like, there's no... I'm saying there's no way. We have an IUD.

What's crazy though is we have friends that got pregnant on an IUD. I know, but like... But it's it is 99.9% effective, but there's still that point one When I tell you I was like I've only felt this way when I was pregnant But this was like worse than that like I was so so because it last you you were not you were down bad yesterday I was down bad. I had no other symptoms. There was no fever I didn't actually ever vomit and I like didn't feel bad in any sense except for extreme nausea and literally it was so weird I couldn't eat anything I had literally no appetite at

all very strange for me and then all of a sudden I was laying there on the couch I was like something I could eat is baked sour cream and cheddar ruffles and I was like because it was so specific I literally almost cried when you told me that they didn't have them at the store I was like maybe I am pregnant there's no way maybe there's just like an illness sweeping through there is our entire family because your brother's been sick your dad's been sick one of our kids threw up the other day I probably had a concussion last week at the gym and now my head really hurts I don't know if my head hurts really bad still from the concussion or from yeah we need to talk about that everyone in your

family has I don't know what it is. Well, you know what? Something's going on. And you got sick too. Mommy played it today and I was telling this other mom about all my symptoms and she was like, maybe it's because of ovulation because like ovulation post-babies can make you really nauseous apparently. Really?

Yeah. So maybe that's what it is. I don't know. That's actually really interesting. Which is weird though because I have heard a lot of people talk about how periods are so much different post-baby but but apparently ovulation might be... I don't know. I literally don't know what it is.

I have no way of tracking that stuff because I don't really even get a period, but I feel better today. I'm like, let's just keep the ball rolling. And I went to the gym and I ate normal. I forced myself to eat. I couldn't eat first thing in the morning, so I took a Tupperware to this playdate to heat up in the microwave so I made sure I ate. So speaking of the gym last week, I went to Abby's gym for the whole entire week. I was determined to go through the end of the week because on Saturday is like one of

the hardest classes that they do at Abby's gym. Okay so at the gym they don't- It's typically metabolic conditioning on Saturdays which is like really intense., they do high cardio days on Saturdays because they only have three classes. So the class sizes are much, much bigger. So they don't want everyone to have to have equipment. And those days tend to be way more exhausting because it's all about getting your heart rate up. Yep. So anyway, anyway, I was making a whole YouTube video out of it, like for my channel, which is something I've been having a lot of fun with. I did a morning routine where I woke up at 5 a.m. for an entire week. Abby did that too.

The reason I did that video is because Abby did it and I was like, okay, crap. I still haven't gotten my video posted. Hopefully by the time this podcast is up, I'm the worst social media person in the world. No, you're great. But what crazy thing happened though on Tuesday is I pushed myself a little too hard in the ab workout. Abby wasn't there, she was gone on a trip and I fell back on my head at the end of the workout thinking that I was just gonna hit the spongy mat

that we were on, but there was a kettlebell right behind my head. You guys, he has it on camera because he was recording a YouTube video, but he like went limp with exhaustion, smacked his head on this kettlebell, and the video really doesn't do justice for how injured you were. It really hurt. Like I, I like just kind of sat there for a second, like, wow, I have not hit my head that hard in a very long time.

And then I, I confirmed that I hit my head really hard when a lady came up to me and said, excuse me sir, your head's bleeding. That's so bad. There was a lot of blood. I went to the bathroom and sure enough there was just blood gushing down the back of my head and it looked like it was, it was weird, like it looked like almost fake, you know? Yeah, because it was orange. It was so like bright red, it looked like I took like something from Spirit of Halloween or whatever and like squirted it on the back of my head. Ew, I think it's because it's like orange. It was so bright red. It looked like I took something from Spirit of Halloween or whatever and squirted it on the back of my head. Ew. I think it's because it was mixed with sweat.

It was kind of like, like, witty. But something that I thought of is when you watch a movie, right, and someone gets shot in the head, and that sounds so bad, but there's a gruesome scene in a movie, it may, like, your head has a crap ton of blood in it. So it makes sense that blood would just spill out in like a, you know, dramatic action movie like that because I just smacked my head on a kettle belt,

didn't even like have anything crazy happen and it was gushing out of the back of my head. Are you just thinking about movies with blood gushing because of monsters? Maybe a little bit. We have been watching Monsters on Netflix about the Menendez brothers. Wait, before we move on to that topic, I do want to tell you I have to admit I'm a bad caretaker to you when you're sick. I'm kind of just like, for me, I'm like, let's just keep moving, let's suck it up. Kind of like how I normally do when I'm sick. I expect you to do the same thing. But then when I was like so down bad yesterday, I was like, man, Matt probably could have used

some recovery from that concussion. So I feel bad, you kind of just powered through because like Matt said, he got that concussion when I was away on a trip for like a 48 hour work trip. And then you just like had to keep single parenting with a head wound. Which we don't know for sure if it was. I don't know how you officially get diagnosed.

Like I don't get headaches really and I have had a constant headache ever since I smacked my head. You definitely did. And it feels a lot like what happened when I did officially go to the doctor to get diagnosed six years ago, the summer that I proposed to Abby. Wow, that was six years ago. I got a concussion while I was working at McDonald's, not on the job, but it was like I was in Orlando in this leadership training camp and me and this guy, we were just young

and being stupid and he shoved my head into a cabinet and I got a concussion from that. So yeah, anyway. Who was that? Thanks, anyway. Who was that? Thanks Ryan. I'm not gonna say the last name, somebody will know. I don't even know that guy. Anyway, but yeah, I just like stayed in a room,

a dark room and couldn't go to work at McDonald's for a couple of days because of how bad it was. But I haven't really gotten that chance now. Cause like when you're a parent, like you can't really, you can't really just like I know and like six days six days are never fun But they're even less fun when you're a parent because you feel so guilty Yeah, like for not playing with them for like them getting extra screen time lucky because we have each other right like think about you get a

Concussion or you get really sick and you're a single parent. What the frick do you do? I don't know what you do. Hopefully you have family. Hopefully maybe there's, you know, you have the support of daycare, but even then it's like daycare is expensive. Like there's a lot of stuff. So parents, I actually saw there was a creator that made a video, I'm blanking on her name,

but she was talking about how flamingos, when they have babies, they lose their pink, because they're giving so much to their baby, and then eventually they get their pink back. And I thought that was so cool. You just now heard about that stuff? I'd never heard about that before. Do you know that she's doing a thing now,

because her first fundraiser was for breast cancer, and now I'm not gonna, I don't know all the details of it, but she's doing, get your pink back, but the eye of the pink is the breast cancer ribbon. That's really cool. And so she's doing new sweatshirts, and I wanna get the pink is the breast cancer ribbon. That's really cool. And so she's doing new sweatshirts, and I wanna get it, because I love that. That's actually really cool.

I resonated with that a lot. Oh, you resonated. Think about moms resonating with that. That's literally her explaining that. I was like, that is literally what I went through, and I feel like so many moms go through where you're just like, I don't have my identity right now, I'm nothing.

I'm literally just serving this child, and then I feel like a loss of identity and then you finally get your identity back and start to enjoy the same things that you used to enjoy beforehand. But for a while there, I literally felt like I couldn't, anything that I thought was enjoyable or fun before, I was like this isn't fun.

This is terrifying. So yeah, anyway, change the subject right there. But I'm glad that you could relate to her too because it's just, it's a thing getting your pink Back. Yeah, I thought that was I thought that was really really cool But anyway, how did you relate again? I just because as a parent you give so much to your kids Oh, yeah, and then you kind of lose yourself. Yeah, you're like who the frick am I anymore? What do I like to do? I don't know

Who the frick am I anymore? You're like, what do I like to do? I don't know. When we were talking about Head Wounds, though, that reminded me of Monsters, which has been... We're really not big TV show people. We, for a little bit, we had a really sweet phase where we were reading books together in bed. And I ended up... You left that phase. I ended up ending that phase.

I'm still in that phase. I'm sorry. I started reading a book. I've been in that phase my entire life. My book sucked, though. Like, I started reading a book that I just did in that phase. I'm sorry. I started reading a book. I've been in that phase my entire life. My book sucked though. Like I started reading a book that I just did not care about and it was a, I think they just stretched the series way too long. Okay. So for me, I was like, this book was in my opinion, a cash grab, which I respect the hustle, you know, like that the author was like, Hey, people love the series. Why not make another one? But the book just sucked. And I still,

I tried to finish the book. What finish the book from picking up a different book So I tried to actually I start reading it by Stephen King So you're telling me that it entered you into a book slump it did and so now I've been watching TV shows Which led us to start watching monster on Netflix. So we're not a big TV show people I think that it's hard to just like I think it's hard it's a bad trap to get into as a married couple to like put the kids to bed and then you watch a show together because when your kids are there then you can still connect to a degree

but you really can't get very deep with your partner or your spouse, you know? So then to turn on a TV show and like numb out and not talk and just be entertained, then you're not really, you know, what do they say about relationships? Like if you're not growing deeper then you're not really, you know, what do they say about relationships? Like if you're not growing deeper then you're growing apart. Yeah, if you're not growing together you're growing apart. Yeah, that sounds right. It's okay, like there's a time and a place

for that, but with TV shows it's kind of hard because it like sucks you in and you just want to always watch the show. I will say though, but this one's only eight episodes, right? Sometimes, like I think life is all about balance. Exactly. And when you can have a balanced life, I think that's the key to happiness right there, right? You need everything in moderation, just like a balance. And when you're watching too much TV, I find myself like, I need to do something else. I'm like, I need to go do literally anything else but this. So I think like your body can kind of like self moderate if you've been watching too many TV shows at night. Because then that led us to start playing games. Like we started playing Monopoly Deal again, which I love that game. It was one of our favorite

card games in college that we'd play at a coffee shop near a university. It was a really good quick game. And it just like, I feel like we really connected over that card game. I need to say quick because most people when they hear Monopoly they're like, oh heck no, that's so long. But Monopoly Deal is totally different. It's like 10 minutes. Really quick. You can play a game in like 10 minutes. But yeah. I beat you every time the other night. Back to Monsters though it really has made me rethink when you hear from being murdered right? Like your instinct is to be like wow that murderer must be like a monster right?

The title of the show. They must be a horrible, horrible person. But you get into the show, and let me preface this by saying apparently the show isn't completely- Yeah, I wanna give a disclaimer. Apparently it's not like- Completely accurate. I think there's a lot of inaccuracies in it actually.

I was talking to my friend at the gym today about it and he actually told me that apparently, this is what he said, but apparently the director, producer of the show wanted to show a bunch of different theories about what could have happened or like all these different speculations. It wasn't presented that way.

Exactly, so I think you watch it and then you start to think, oh, this is factual, this is all true, but it's really all these speculations kind of thrown together into one show. That's what I heard. Yeah, I will say, yeah, disclaimer on that one. We should watch a real documentary like one that, see this one was clearly for entertainment. Well, you know,

by the time, it is entertaining. I think by the time this episode is out, they're going to have the documentary with the Menendez brothers of themselves talking about it coming on Netflix. So that's good. I'd be interested, but also like, are they credible? You know, they're like murderers. I know. But I will say though, when you watch the show, at least we're out of the show. We haven't finished the show yet. But you really start to hear about the abuse that these boys faced from their parents, especially their father. And it makes you... You know what? I heard the mom participated too. It just makes you sick. It just makes you sick. It just made like I'm sitting there like I have goosebumps

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of makes sense seeing that why they would do that. And also I've seen my buddy at the gym if you're watching a movie, okay, let's pretend this is like, you're watching a movie and the main character is being abused. Let's just keep it at that. It's way worse, I'm saying abuse, it's way worse than just that. You can go look it up for yourself,

but what happened to these people, at least from what I've seen and heard, horrible. So, say in the movie, someone's being abused by a parent for eight straight years every multiple times a month for years and then they unalive their parent. You're like yeah like in the movie you'd be like I'm glad the main character did that like obviously murder is not okay but like you can you can emphasize with that main character that in the movie to be like they needed out out of that. Like that was so dark.

But the way the show is presented when it starts is you see them as these like rich kids who commit this crime. And it looks like they appear to be sociopaths. Exactly. And they appear. It's like they just did it for money. And so it like it kind of your whole view of them gets flipped upside down while you're watching the documentary. Even through the lens of abuse, like obviously, yeah, I don't know. I don't. Sorry, I feel like we're spoiling some of the show, but it's still, you can still watch.

No, it's a true, like it happened a while ago. Yeah, it happened a long time ago. But I will say too, they were adults living with their parents. Like they didn't have to, they could have gone away. Even in the show, like it said that they hadn't experienced abuse for over a month. So it wasn't like they were an imminent danger. They premeditated that and like they planned that. That's true too. You also have to recognize they were adults. They weren't stuck in the house. Like it's not, you know, like I think Gypsy Rose when the whole thing happened with her,

she was, was she still a kid or was she an adult at that point? I think she was a kid. I think she was, I don't think she was 18. But like, I don't think she even knew how old she was. With these, with these boys being adults at the time, right? They were like high school, college age. I think they were 18 and 21. That's what you told me. I never fact-checked that, but they could have just left. And they were filthy rich. Like they had resources. Well, it wasn't their money though. Well, it was their parents' money. They were spending it. Like they, anyway. But you can't just like, there's truth to the fact that if your parents are super rich, you can't just like leave your parents and expect for them to pay for everything for

you, especially if your dad is an abusive father. Like that, you know, there's no way they would have had any support from their parents. They would have been out on their own, like working at some fast food place trying to pay rent probably if they left, which is still doesn't justify their actions but yeah it wasn't playing devil's advocate because like you you know there's laws preventing people from murder for a reason yeah like obviously i pity them so so much for what they went through and like that's horrible but like well murder i mean i think we can all agree that it's not okay but you can start to empathize with someone when you see the absolute

nightmare that they lived through because I've been fortunate enough to not have an abusive parent. I don't know. I have no idea what that would be like, especially at that level. I cannot imagine. I don't know what I would do to try to get out of that situation. Totally, and the thing is, is from the show's perspective, it, what is true and what is not true, I am not, I'm interested after finishing the series to find out what of it was, like, we've been kind of fact checking it as we go, but from an entertainment perspective,

it's very entertaining. The acting is really, really good. That scene that we watched last night. Yes, it's like the whole episode is 35 minutes, it's uncut. Okay, so you guys, one of the episodes, like Abby just said, is uncut. One, like they did it in, I think they did a couple takes to make sure they got it right.

Really? That's again what I've heard, I don't know. I don't know. But it is just insane that they memorized all these lines and did this whole scene completely uncut, just a slow zoom in on the characters. Wow, it takes your breath away. Well, I mean, he literally looks like a real person having these thoughts for the first time. And that right there is like an amazing actor.

Like I was like, he doesn't even it didn't feel scripted at all. It felt so genuine and he's a cute guy. He's he's he's a very attractive guy. He's a very attractive guy. He's a attractive dude. I actually saw a TikTok, no it was an Instagram reel, pop up and it was this lady saying, me wanting to watch a documentary or whatever, just like trying to play it off like they were just getting educated or something. And then it was just like all these like thirst trap shots of the brothers and they're good

looking dudes. They're good looking dudes. They're good looking dudes. You can't ignore that. Yeah, I felt very seen when the main character had a toupee. You don't have a toupee. I don't have a toupee, but I'm like, hey, that's representation for, you know, male pattern baldness right there on the show. Where did you make that connection there? I don't know. I think that guy is actually bald now. Actually? That's

the thing that's so yeah. Oh in real life. I don't think they're keeping up with this toupee in prison which is actually so wild like they're still like they're our parents age and they're just like in prison. I'm guessing they watched the documentary like I don't know what their privileges look like in prison but I heard that they watched it and we're very displeased with it so okay that actually threw me off. That has to be so weird. They're in prison and they're married I didn't know that you could just like get married to someone that's not in prison. Dude apparently it's like a fetish like to be like turned on someone in prison. I think it's mostly men that are imprisoned and that women find it attractive. That is wild.

For me, I'm like, that seems like that could be the most glaring red flag that could ever be. And they're serving life sentences too. So it's like, what's the point of being married if you can like never it couldn't be for the money because I guarantee That they don't get the money from the will if they're the ones that killed the parents Yeah, I shouldn't be making light of that situation But we did just sign our first will which is kind of morbid, but I'm it makes I feel a lot better now I like any time if we ever fly to go interview once someone on the podcast over on the fly I'm like man if this plane crash like I

to go interview someone on the podcast or on the fly. I'm like, man, if this plane crashed, I wanna make sure that our stuff would go to our kids. Like, I don't know. It just like, it feels comforting to know that we have that document in place now. No, I thought that whole process would be really, make me feel like morbid, like eerie, thoughts of death. No, like actually as we were going through it,

even though the questions are shocking. They're very shocking. If you're in a vegetative state, are we allowed to pull the plug, or who's allowed to make that decision, things like that? Do you want CPR? There's a lot of things involved in making a will that are not financial in the least.

A lot of end of life health questions, and obviously child custody things. Anyway, there's a lot of ones that could be perceived as really dark, but in general, the creating the will process made me feel so much more peace. It was weird, though, like with the will, making decisions on like, OK, if you ever are in a vegetative light state, do you want the plug to be pulled on you? Like, it was just weird answering all those questions.

Yeah. Well, also, like you want to be cremated. Like I'm sitting there like thinking about things really quickly. Yeah, we're getting cremated apparently. We decided that. Like it happened really quick, like all those decisions. I'm like, I mean, realistically, my physical body I don't care about once I die.

Like really, like, yeah. So all those decisions kinda came relatively easy, but it's just such a weird, it is a little weird, but also I felt a lot of comfort having that in place. Well, haven't you heard of those stories of people that donate their body once they die, and then their organs are able to save 20 people's lives because they use a liver here and a lung here?

I think it goes against some people's religious beliefs, which is why they probably have a lot of like maybe hesitancies on it. But yeah, yeah, there's a lot of things that we had to decide and maybe hug the boys a little tighter when we got back home. But I know that they're in amazing hands if something drastic were to happen. I never thought I would talk this casually about my own death, but yeah, I guess here we are. Yeah. Speaking of the boys and with it now being October, do we have a plan for the family Halloween costume this year? We really need to do better because last year, well actually last year adorable, but we weren't really involved. Here's the thing, I've never-

Oh yeah, we had Woody, wait was- Woody and Bullseye. Oh, he was Bullseye, I've never. Oh yeah, we had Woody, wait was. Woody and Bullseye. Oh he was Bullseye, that's right. So here's the thing about me. I am a festive person. I love festivities, I love holidays. I love doing everything that's just related to the season. I'm not clearly a planner and I'm also not a,

I'm not a DIY girl. So Halloween's kinda tough for me. Because I'm like, and I'm also kinda DIY girl. Yeah. So Halloween's kind of tough for me because I'm like, I'm also kind of realistic with things. I'm like, I don't want to buy an adult costume to wear for like, I don't know. Like in theory I like it, but in practice I don't. You know what I've been inspired though by? What?

When you see the like super aesthetic Instagram families. Yeah. That everyone is like a part of the theme. I think that looks so sick. I totally, I totally admire it. Just for the photo, like just for the picture, I'm like, I know that sounds so silly, but how sick is that?

Like you go back at your family photos and you're like, bro, we were all- I think about the Bucket List family. They crushed it. The Fish Man, I feel like the LeBrance, like all the more like so, here's the thing, I admire it, I'm not gonna knock it at all. I can't, I don't think I can do that.

Can we do it maybe this year? Maybe we send it this year. Like what if we're all astronauts or something? Like maybe like one, maybe our kids are aliens and we're astronauts. Like, I don't know, something like that would be kind of fun. See what I really, really want Griffin and I'll give me Timon and Pumbaa.

Oh, okay, Lion King. They are Timon and Pumbaa. Let's do Lion King team. I guess we could be Nala and Simba. Yeah, okay. They are Timon and Pumba. Let's do Lion King theme. I guess we could be Nala and Simba. Yeah, that's true. I was thinking like, man. I was thinking that was like, that's pretty difficult. I feel like I would be scared to do a Lion King themed family costume. I know, me too. Like, I don't want to accidentally appropriate some culture. I know. But dressing up like an animal, I think is pretty safe. So I think if we- You just get like a mane. If I'm a lion, like I think I'm not gonna get...

What am I gonna do as Nala? I don't know. Because for a second I was like, oh I could be like the monkey. But then for some... Rafiki? The guy who like does like the paint on people. And I could be Zazu. That's... Who the heck is Zazu? I forget who that is. Shut up. Don't even... The bird. Zazu's the bird. Yes. I haven't watched that movie in probably 20 years. Where have you been the last 50 times Griffin's watched?

I listened to the soundtrack about every day of my life, but I have not watched the actual movie. Okay, Griffin and Augie are so Timon and Pumbaa. It's ridiculous that I'm like, I have to make this happen. Guess what? There's no costume online. And I was on this Disneyland trip last

week and Haley on the trip. She's amazing at DIY. She's like, oh you can totally make that. And I'm like, I don't think you know who you're talking to. I can't do that. And she was like telling me how I could do this and she showed me her costume, how I could do the same thing and like with foam from the craft store and all. I'm like... You know what costume we did two years ago that was a total L? Banana? The picture is still up on Abby's Instagram and my Instagram too. It was horrendous.

Shocking. Like you in that banana suit, that was so funny. And then me as, was I supposed to be... The man in the yellow hat. Originally I was the man in the yellow hat, but you thought... I couldn't find the yellow hat, but you thought just a random black hat and bought some spray paint to spray paint this like, what was the material? We tried to spray paint it, it looked horrible.

It was not, I don't think it was suede. I don't know. It was just crappy material and here's the thing, I'm just not good at that stuff, man. I'm not a DIY girl. You know what, it's okay. Maybe this is the year that we take the reins of our life and have an aesthetic family costume. You know, I actually DIYed my costume as a kid.

And I tried to look kind of like a monster. And it was very scary. I had a stump. I think about that a lot. I don't want our kids to ever be anything scary for Halloween. Yeah, that was a freaky costume. I had just gone to a haunted house with my dad and I thought all the people there looked so cool and gory and I was like, I want to make it up.

But see, think about it, Matt. You were trick or treating with little kids on Halloween. That was weird. I was 12. So I was like in that weird stage of like, I was still a kid, but I was getting older. So I wanted to like be cool. And I didn't know that. You probably scared so many like toddlers.

I definitely did scare some people. But like, is it wrong then to like make, let your kid, I guess it's not wrong because it's I scared so many like toddlers. I definitely did scare some people. What, like is it wrong then to like make, let your kid, I guess it's not wrong because it's Halloween, that's a whole deal, it's like, it's supposed to be spooky, but then me, I'm like being all sensitive because I have a two year old and a one year old, I'm like, I don't want them to scare them. But then I guess like those kids stay out

like till like nine o'clock, whereas like my kids will be in bed for two hours at that point. I don't know, it'll be fun, we'll'll figure something out so you want to do a family costume? I think we should. Okay. I think we should and I think it would be cute and fun. Maybe I could be Scar. And I think we should get family photos of our costumes. Wow. Yeah. Okay well I'm gonna add that to my to-do list. Hey maybe we do it maybe it's a thing we do together. We should do it together.

It doesn't have to be like Abby's to-do list. How's your DIY skills? You know, I haven't really used them since I was 12, but I think they're in there somewhere. I'm gonna have to really dig deep. Because Etsy did not, I thought for sure Etsy would have something. No, it didn't.

I think these people that do these fancy costumes, I think they just do it themselves. I know. Unless they're friends with some like LA costume designer person, but I know that's not many people don't have a friend like that. I don't. That would be cool that if you had friends like that. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this portion of today's episode.

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And there was another song from like four years ago that played on my Spotify, which I did not realize was by her. And I was like, ah, like that's how she got on the map was that song. But how does it go? I literally cannot even think of it right now. I just remember I was like, wow, that song is from a while back and I did not know that was her. But then she made this new one and I literally am blanking on it,

but I've been playing it. It's like one of her top performing songs right now and I just keep listening to it on repeat. I actually do that when I find a song that I love, I will binge that song over and over and over and over again. You get more sick of it than I do. I play the same song since we first got married I played Johnny Swim literally every single see I like my news cycle in my head for

music goes faster like I'll do a week of like the same song and then I'm done I never want to hear the song ever again my last like 10 years I still am not tired of Johnny's one I love them guys look up Johnny Swim and they did concert, you should take me there. Wait, that would actually be sweet. That would be so sweet. We're going to a concert this weekend. We are? A country concert.

That's funny. For the other couple. We haven't really been to concerts together. You know why I don't like concerts? Because you get claustrophobic. Yes, and I'm like, what if there's a fire? How are we all gonna get out of here? And also, I get tired of standing and I never know the words. You know what's sad is I actually love concerts

Like I love only and I've only been like two Well that's what I'm taking you to one on Sunday But like my vibe which I would love to experience more of is like being in the mosh pit like being that Being okay like this standing room only, just surrounded by people and it's just like everyone's dancing. Yeah, well when we did that last time I got groped twice. Okay, and that was very unfortunate, but... It was horrible.

Also that was Vegas. We were in Vegas. I got groped in Vegas twice. Okay, so what happened, what Matt's talking about is why I don't like mosh pits. I never liked them to start with, to be fair, but then after this experience I really hated them. They put out these like, what's that called? The fog. They make the fog really, really intense and like turn the lights off at one part of like really intense part of the song. And both times it happened, two or three times it happened, someone honked my boobs.

I guess you never told me that, but I guess you couldn't hear me. That's what it was. I was like, I was like, gotta get out of here. And you you were like what? So yeah you kept saying we gotta get out or something or like you're like I was like saying I want to leave like I want but I didn't want to leave without you because and so I finally got you out and I was like Matt this horrible thing happened. I wish you would have just said like someone grabbed my boob like I wish you would have said that to me because I've been like I'm gonna go fight somebody like who's this fight someone in Vegas. I would have I'm like you do not do that. I don't want you to fight. You do not do that to me because I've been like I'm gonna go fight somebody like who's this fight someone in Vegas I would have I'm like you do not want you to do not do that I don't want you to fight anybody okay but like I think I

think your words were like I kind of want to go and I'm like this is so fun like I was having the time of my life like well you still left pretty fog is go yeah we left I told you I was like no we have to go and then yeah and so we left because we actually did have a table and so we went back to the table and I told you but it Was like that's just that was just like more fuel for the fire for me to be like Yeah, this is why I hate mosh pits But I already didn't like them because the fire hazard the claustrophobic. I'm so claustrophobic. We never talk about that I also need to recognize too. I'm 6'2 so like I'm a head taller than most of you. You're getting fresh air up there. So I'm getting the fresh air. I'm getting the farts down below at the five foot level. I had no I had literally no idea any of that even happened and I'm like 10 feet from this world famous DJ and there's fog and music and it just felt like I was literally in a movie like it it literally was like, this is so sick, so cool.

I totally understand. You were having the time of your life. And I think that's the only time, other than when I went to 21 Pilots when I was in high school, I haven't really, I've never been like a concert person. We did go to Macklemore on a whim. We were at the-

With a bunch of like divorced 50 year olds that were so drunk. We were in Scottsdale. At a golf tournament. Yeah, we just like went and got dinner with some friends in Scottsdale And such a weird they happen to have extra tickets and we're like, okay Sure, we will go to this didn't even do thrift shop and we I don't know why Macklemore would not use it I think we missed I think it must have been his like very first song that is proud because we came to the tail end

Of the concert. Yeah, but I'm like you got to end with her if shop. I know more I was really hoping that was gonna be the encore, right? That's ridiculous. No, that was fun because there was more space, but I was getting splashed with beer left and right. And then what's the other concert we went to? Oh, we went to Connor Price. That was fun. Oh, you're right. Yeah, we went to go see. I got so tired. Yeah, and our and our friend Graham was there. That was that was cool. Yeah, that was fun. Yeah. Yeah. So we have been to a few, but really in the grand scheme of things, I would not

say we are categorized as concert people at all. There's people that will just go to a concert every month. No, I know. Some people spend their entire paychecks on concerts because they love it that much. But I can understand that. It is a really cool atmosphere. I see.

No, I can't understand it. Oh, OK. I don't get it. I'm like, of all the ways to spend your money. So someone would have to pay you to go to the concert. I wouldn't go that extreme. Like if we're going, like this one on Sunday, like they had extra tickets. So like we're going and I'm like, it's free.

I'll go. Okay. But like if I have money, like I'm gonna go to the spa. Okay. What about let's, I want to be checking through the spa with a massage and just my book and a pool. See, I rather go to a concert than go to the spa with a massage and just my book in a pool. See, I'd rather go to a concert than go to a spa. You're crazy.

I'm serious. Oh my gosh, comment down below. Would you rather go to a concert or a spa? I love entertainment. I love storytelling. I think it's so cool to see what humans are capable of when it comes to telling a story in a different way, especially when it's like, wow, I've never seen lighting used in that intricate way before. Or music.

So cool, especially like concerts, sometimes people are like flying in the air, right? They'll be like levitating through, there's like a wire on their back and they're in a harness and they're just like floating across the crowd. That stuff is so sick. I think that's so cool. Like that's why-

You know I flew through the air. You did? As a flying monkey. That was the show that so cool. You know I flew through the air. You did? As a flying monkey. That was the show that we met. That was when we first became friends. Yeah, and at performance of Wizard of Oz, I was a flying monkey and I flew through the air. Yeah. That's fun for me. I'm not afraid of heights. I'm afraid of close spaces. The opposite.

You know that my dream, ever since I was a kid, was to also fly in the air in a show? And it's what got me into theater because I saw Peter Pan and I was like, That's so cute. I want to fly. Never happened happened I've never flown ever but maybe one day maybe one day I'll get cast as Peter Pan probably not they always cast a woman for Peter Pan I got a crow you actually would be great because you you're very athletic and you're tiny and you could do all like, I feel like you have a gymnast build.

You would be able to figure out all the gymnast moves for Peter Pan. I also hope you weren't offended when I said you'd be too heavy for their lifting system. No, I was not offended. You're always trying to get heavier. I feel like so many wives relate to this where your husband wants to gain weight and you're kind of like, oh. Actually? Imagine that being the thing you have to work against. I was actually talking to my friend about that today. My goals in the gym have changed. I just

now, I literally just want to be fit. That is it. I don't want to, I want to avoid getting a belly, right? That's like my only gym goal. I just don't want to have a belly. I feel like that. You don't have a belly. But I do. Like I have more of a belly now than I've ever had in my life for sure. Oh my gosh. And that's nothing. So. But I'm just saying, I think it's funny how you're like your goals and your ambitions as you get older change. Cause you're like, you know what? Like you lower your status. Let's be realistic here. Like I just don't want to have a ton of excess body fat. Like

I just want to be in decent physical shape to do the things I love. Wait. And spend time with people that I love. That reminds me. My friend shared this fact about moms that work out. Okay. And how much more likely you are, your child are two times more likely to live longer and healthier lives if the kids grow up in a household with an active mother.

What? Whoa, whoa, whoa, wait, okay. So the stat was for the mom or for the kid? For the mom. Okay. So like, I feel like something a lot of moms struggle with going to the gym is like feeling like, oh man, I can't spend like focus on myself

for this amount of time. But studies show that children with active mothers are two times more likely to live longer and healthier lives Well, you said the children are more likely to have yes an active. Yes. Okay, so it affects the children. Yes Because they're watching that model Like growing up knowing that is important to prioritize your health and wellness And I'm assuming that's the main reason why that study is like reflects that. But isn't it crazy? That is really cool.

I'm glad that you shared that. I don't really have gym goals other than to feel good. I just want to join some sort of like rec league for men's volleyball right now. I feel like that'd be so fun because I used to play that in high school. Or if you did pickleball. Pickleball would be fun, too. You almost told your meniscus doing that last time. I did. But you know what?

I didn't. And you know what? I feel like pickleball has to be fairly easy on the body because so many people do it at an old age. Don't get me wrong, the older pickleball players kill it, and I know that. Like, even like 90 year olds are amazing at pickleball, but maybe it's not as damaging on your body as some sports. So maybe you start doing pickleball.

You should teach me. My problem with pickleball is that I feel like a giant, chasing a little tiny ping pong ball. Did you know? I just feel clumsy. I've got this on my notepad here. Okay. Meta's CEO thinks smart glasses will replace phones by 2030. No. You don't think it's gonna happen? I mean I don't want to act like I'm smarter than Meta but as a consumer it's gonna take more than seven years for me to decide that I'm going to just switch to glasses. Here's what they got to figure out with all this virtual

reality stuff. Eye strain. Okay, my eyeballs in 2024 hurt more than they ever have. And it's because I'm always looking at a screen. When you say your eyeballs hurt, like explain that like sting, like bright light, you never feel like your eyes never hurt. Are you serious? Okay, what we used to have an oculus and we'd play beat saber on our oculus we gave it to my brother

it makes me dizzy he now has it now but you never your brother had that i gave it to him that's nice he really wanted to play beat saber and i was like you got it i want to play beat saber again that is a really fun game but what did you never get eye strain from playing beat saber i just felt i remember feeling dizzy maybe a bit, maybe a little bit. Cause I've never felt it. I'm like, how are we? Like when you put 3D glasses on and go on a ride, like I kind of feel like my eyes feel dizzy.

Yeah. But I don't know if that's eye strain. Yeah, I don't know. I think that could be cool if we have a world where we don't even need our phones and everything's on our glasses. I'll be up for that. But only if it's not gonna hurt my eyeballs.

Because my- What's the point though? I don't wanna always have notifications. I like my phone cause I can put it I'll be up for that. But only if it's not gonna hurt my eyeballs because my- What's the point though? I don't wanna always have notifications. I like my phone because I can put it away and be like, ugh. That's true, but like maybe- Wait, so aren't these glasses you wear all the time? Yeah, you can probably take them off though, right? See, the problem with that is that like, it's already too hard to separate yourself

from the constant notifications. Yeah. And if you're literally wearing it, it's in your field of vision constantly. Yeah. That is just, I can see some like highly productive people thinking that's incredible, but it's just, I don't know, it's gonna take a lot more to convince me.

I'm not gonna say I'm never gonna come around because I'm already changing my mind on a million other things. Remember how on this podcast I said I didn't want to get my boobies done? Yeah. Now I'm just like, what if I did? See, here's the thing. We're human. We're allowed to change our mind and just like think about things. Now I haven't made any plans to do so.

You know what? We're walking contradictions. You know what? Once you say it out loud, it's actually a rule somewhere that I read that you can never change your mind. Oh, no, I know. The internet will be like, wait a minute. But you said, yeah, I did say that.

I did say that. Don't worry. There's no plans in the works. internet will be like, wait a minute, but you said, yeah, I did say that. I did say that. Don't worry, there's no plans in the works. And also, here's the thing, if I decide to make that change about my body, it actually doesn't impact you at all. So, wow, that you just freaking spoke flames right there. It's not me. I'm just running. I want everyone to feel relaxed, to know that whatever I decide to do

with my body is cosmetically, it's's actually gonna leave you your life exactly how it currently is and you know what I feel empowered by Abby so I'm gonna talk about my shoes right now I am wearing these checkerboard shoes and you know what Abby said the first thing that that she okay when I walked in the room today, you were like, what are those? I did not. I did not. They just don't match with your- But I think they're kind of cool. No, I think the shoes are great.

I think they're sick. I honestly love your outfit. I just don't know if they go together. Maybe you can cuff your jeans. My stylist friend Josh, he was on our podcast like a year ago, Josh and Sav, very nice sweet couple. Josh did a video with me. He picked out all my outfits and he picked out these shoes and I got to keep them. And I think they're cool. And I also think that

I could probably wear these to go skateboarding because I would love. I want to teach Griffin to skateboard. I think he's old enough now, probably. He's two and a half. He's nearing two and a half. Like the kid can run now. Like he definitely could hold his balance on a skateboard. So maybe I'd need a, maybe I should take him to like a little mini ramp and get him in knee pads, elbow pads, like all the pads. We need to get Augie in rock climbing ASAP. He is such a good climber. Yes. It's all he wants to do. He doesn't care about books, he doesn't care about shows, he doesn't care about toys. He only wants to climb and constantly risk his life. Wow. But you're, I mean you're right though. I think he's going to be a stunt devil one day. That would actually be so sick. What's cute about Augie is we have this like little

type slide that we bought at like Target for like $15 or something. It was 35, but. Oh, okay. That was more than I thought. But anyway, $35 and he goes down that slide probably 50 times a day. Yeah, he loves it.

Maybe more. I love it when he's going in just his diaper cause his thighs get stuck and it's like, like squeaky down the slide. He has some thick thighs. Maybe more. I love him when he's going in just his diaper because his thighs get stuck. It's like Like squeaky down the slide. He has some thick thighs. He's so thick you guys. He is Pumba He is Pumba and you know what it is Griffin is going through this stage of he just like I don't know why two-year-olds do this They just will decide to not eat dinner. They're like screw you. They're like screw you. I'm not gonna eat any of this It's like two-year-olds apparently test the, their pediatrician said that they

like test the limits to see how far, like how long they can go without food. And you're like, okay, well I love this little gamer playing but it's actually panicking me and it makes me scared that you're going to wake up in the night hungry or you're going to do this, that, and the other. I think that we're just going to have to survive on a lot of small meals. But luckily he will drink milk if he doesn't eat dinner. So I feel like he's getting nutrition there. He loves yogurt. I can always count that he'll have fruit and yogurt

and like packets if he needs to. Yes. He's sustaining himself well. Like, you know what? He went on a play date today and the mom, the other mom that was hosting the play date made the kids peanut butter and jelly. Okay.

He attacked that. So I was like, maybe I just needed to go for peanut butter and jelly. The thing is though I think my theory for why Augie is so chunky is because he loves food. He loves food. And when Griffin doesn't eat his dinner, Augie will just eat Griffin's dinner. And I feel like he almost views it as a challenge. I know. Augie ate all the kids leftovers. They thought that since he was a baby they're like he's just a baby he doesn't need a whole meal. I thought that since he was a baby, they're like, he's just a baby, he doesn't need a whole meal.

I was like, no, he needs a whole meal. Oh, it's so funny. Like when we tell people our kids' ages, they're like, bro, your kids are big. Like they're big boys. They're big boys. They might go on to be football players. They're our little linebackers.

They say that, like, he's robust. I love him so much. He's so healthy and funny and he's so dramatic. I love his laugh. The best laugh. His laugh is so sweet and somebody, you said someone commented on my Instagram reel the other day. Yes, they commented like if this was like whatever town Monsters Inc is set in then his laugh could light up the whole city. That's so sweet. I thought that was the cutest comment ever. That's sweet. I like your outfit by the way. I think it's very classy. Yeah, I think it's very cute. Thank you. Nudes and Madewell. Okay. Remind me to get more Madewell jeans. These are so comfy. You just have good fashion. Maybe you should pick out more of my clothes. I don't know anything about men's fashion. I think you'd know. You probably know more than I do. Well, maybe. Also, I kind of wear the same thing every day. let's be honest.

Yeah, but you look good in it, so I switch it up. Thank you. You look amazing. That's very nice. Well, okay, so my shoes though, I know they're checkerboard. If I were to make these- I think if you just cuff your jeans,

like roll them up more. I think your jeans were too long and a weird cut for those. I also am wearing skinny jeans right now, so I will admit that. I know those are like way out of style I wouldn't say they're skinny jeans. I think they're more just like a straight leg. Yeah, they're pretty tight paper I mean, yeah

You can't really see my lower half while I'm sitting down this couch So I thought hey, it's a safe place to wear skinny jeans and I literally just outed myself on this podcast No, we were just talking about you shouldn't care about trends You should just wear what you like and what you like on your body I actually respect that a lot about Adam Sandler because he will wear whatever the frick he wants and he's cool and he's super funny. Have you seen that? I heard that audio. It's like, what are you doing here? Or Adam Sandler, what are you doing here? He's just waiting for them to play Gangnam Style.

I have no idea what that is. Okay, nevermind. That's like what people do when they're showing someone wearing a weird outfit. They're like, Adam Sandler, what are you doing here? I don't know what that's from. I just heard that audio. That's hilarious. Thank you to Rocket Money for sponsoring this portion of today's episode. If you have unwanted subscriptions that you can't seem to get rid of, you should try Rocket Money. Rocket Money is a personal finance app that finds and cancels your unwanted subscriptions, monitors your spending, and helps lower your bills so that you can grow

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All right, let's say it. One, two, three. We're moving! And we bought a house. We bought a house. I can't even believe we're like, this is happening. It's not officially bought. I guess things could, crap could hit the fan right now

and we could lose it. But we're like, it's happening people. It's happening. They accepted our offer. We're not leaving Arizona. We're actually staying very close, but we're just moving to a different area that is more family friendly.

Did you know that people all the time don't realize we live in Arizona? Cause we'll, like I was just at the gym and this guy was like, he was like, are you Matt? He was like, I did not realize you guys lived in Arizona. Well, I'm a proud Arizonan. I know we- But I just don't know if I can claim it

cause I'm not born here, but we've lived here for like three years almost. We've been two and a half, yeah. Two and a half to three years. We're Arizonans now. So I like, like I don't want to take that from locals though. You know what I mean? Yeah.

So I'm like, I love Arizona so much. I love living here, but I feel like I don't want to take that from locals though. You know what I mean? So I'm like, I love Arizona so much. I love living here, but I feel like I don't ever be like, but it's kind of Arizona. It's kind of like Nashville though. Like everyone has moved here. That's true. A lot of people aren't from here originally. Exactly. Most people are from California.

But something I will say, everyone that's from Arizona that still lives here loves Arizona. They speak so highly of it. Yes and no. I don't know. There are some people that are like, like recently people have been telling me

how the frick is it 115 in it's October. Yeah, it's really hot here. That's horrible. That is truly horrible. I love the heat though. Yeah, but what's crazy is if you have a pool, right? Because it's so dry here, it like you get out of the pool and you'll actually be cold,

even when it's like 110. I was in the pool the other day with the boys and we got out and like Griffin was actually like kind of cold and it was 110. Is the water evaporating off of you? I think that's what it is. I think it evaporates so fast that it actually makes you cold when you get out of the pool,

even though it's literally 110 degrees outside. And I know that pool wasn't cold water. Yeah. That pool was hot water. No, it actually felt refreshing. Really? That's good. Yeah. It's gotten it's gotten like it's not as hot as it used to be right now. So it's it was refreshing water.

Well, we're just moving to a different area of Arizona and our family is still going to be super close. In fact, we're going to be even closer to your brother and his wife. I think we should kind of go into the details of buying our house and what the process has been like when we started thinking about doing this because this wasn't just a decision we made overnight. This is something that we thought that has been in the works for actually the past two years. Yeah, we made a house hunting video over two years ago, right after you gave birth to Griffin because you got this like itch to move.

And it was because the area that we have been living in for the past two and a half years, unfortunately isn't the most family friendly. Yeah. Let me say this first. I am, I love the house that we're currently in. The actual house is amazing and it's really served us so well. And I think what's crazy is when we bought that house,

we were like, what in the world are we gonna do with all this house, just the two of us? And we have just like, everything has become, like every space in our house is so used, so useful, so functional for us And also I love the look of it and we have hosted so many people in it We've brought our two babies home to it I'm just so thankful for that house and all the memories we've created in it

And like all the laughs we've shared and like the hard moments like that house I just I i'm not leaving because I dislike our house. I love love love our house. Yeah Um the exact area we're in isn't somewhere that I could see us living long term with our kids, like our kids growing up in that area. And I think that as a mom, like civilian security, like I want our kids to always feel like when they come home they are safe

and that they are at a place where they can feel really grounded and like a community of people around them that is like supporting them because that's what I had growing up. And it was like, it is foundational to who I am. And so since I knew my kids weren't gonna grow up in this community, it's like hard for me.

Like I'm like, okay, wait, I'm ready to like, you know, get out there and meet people, make lifelong friendships. And I'm like, I know I'm gonna move. And so it's nice that we're able to make the move at this point to an area that I could not feel better about. Like there's so many parks, kids activities. It's very safe and very, very, very family friendly. And I just feel so good about it.

I will admit. So for the longest time, you know, like with where our house is right now, I've always loved it, because it's really close to mountains and it's so beautiful and there's so many gorgeous views of yeah, the mountains, the city of Phoenix, it's just, it's a beautiful area.

But as the kids have gotten older and we've been like wanting to do activities with them, you know, get them out of the house, go do things, our neighborhood doesn't have a, like there's no swings. Our neighborhood doesn't have, there's no swings, there's no swing set, there's no slides for kids. So I was like, okay, what are local parks in our area that I can take the kids to? And so I've gone to those parks

and unfortunately they're just not the safest. Here's the thing, buying a house and then literally just picking up and moving is not a wise decision by most standards. So I totally understand like your hesitancy and being like, okay, wait, let's reevaluate this. Let's not be so rash because I also do make tend to make quick decisions. But I can say officially this was not a quick decision.

This was very thought over for like a matter of years. Honestly, you have been thinking about it for over two years. And I think this is gonna be a good move. I'm excited. Yeah, no, it was tricky looking for houses because we had gotten used to our current house and we're like, well, we have this at our house. Like, especially when you're moving from an area

where the price per square foot is cheaper. Right? We bought an area where you could get more house for the money and now we're moving to an area where the price per square foot has gone up. It's like, oh crap. Okay. You do have to spend more to get what you want and that is tricky. But you, yeah, I don't know. I mean, I don't even know where I was going with that to be honest. But it's happening rather fast, which is, well at this point, like I feel like it's been slow, slow, slow, and then now it's like, okay, time to pack up and get out the door and into the new place. And I honestly, I've had so many sweet friends like looking out

for me being like, are you stressed? Are you feeling super overwhelmed? And it's, I don't take it lightly, but I also am coming at it from a place of like so much gratitude. I'm so grateful for This being able to do this like with you know, the current housing market and like everything I'm just so grateful that I'm I feel like that has made This dress quote-unquote just like man. I got to get this done. But like I don't know It's just made it it just made it so much more joyful. What's crazy is the way we process things is we don't process them until they are happening.

Exactly, because so many people are like, well, are you excited then? Because I'm like, I'm not stressed, they're like, why are you excited? I'm like, not even, because I'm just like, once I get there, I will be so excited and happy, but like, I haven't processed it. It doesn't feel real.

Okay, I take that back. We've packed like one closet of our house. That's it. We have a lot of packing to do. We're gonna take it into gear. So we're gonna freaking, yeah, whip ourselves into shape and get moving with this. It's hard because it's not something that you really can do gradually

because with kids it's like you gotta have, you know, all their stuff situated to some extent and then you got to have like a bed you got to have and I don't know it's so it's gonna happen I feel like it's been like nothing and then all at once but I'm like I'm so excited to make it happen I feel like we're in a good place before the holidays start to happen like I want to be more stable by the time Thanksgiving comes because we're hosting Thanksgiving Wow so I'm like I want to have, like I want to be more stable by the time Thanksgiving comes, because we're hopes ting Thanksgiving. Wow.

So I'm like, I want to have things, like I want to have a table, you know, and things like that. And we're doing a couple interior renovations to the place that I want to get, you know, contractors out for, before too long, because I know that once you like move into a space, you start getting really comfortable and then you don't end up actually doing the things

that you want to do in the space. So we'll take it one project at a time and see what was actually necessary, but we have some renovations coming up. Also just wanted to clear something up. We never bought a house in Nashville. We never moved to Nashville. Some people saw that we were in Nashville for a little bit and they thought like, oh, they moved to Nashville and they bought a house there.

We didn't, we actually stayed at a friend's house for a month and we went there and escaped the Phoenix heat because it's like 20 degrees cooler in Nashville. I didn't realize people thought that. People did, one of my friends is like, wait, you moved to Nashville? I was like, no, no, we did not move to Nashville. We're still in Arizona, but we actually are moving now.

We actually did buy a house. They accepted our offer. We're working through all the paperwork, which by the way, the paperwork, when you go to buy a house. They accepted our offer. We're working through all the paperwork, which by the way, the paperwork when you go to buy a house, it's crazy. Like you have to send over a lot. Like you don't really think about all the different documents you have to send over and stuff. It takes a lot of time actually. Like I'm thankful for you taking care of that because I don't really understand that stuff. Yeah. There's just like a lot of back and forth. Not that, yeah. Not that it's like hard, but it's just, it's time consuming, right? Oh, I'm sure. Yeah, I don't understand any of that stuff.

But, oh, and the other thing too, we have been looking at houses, well, I've always been looking at houses for the past year, I think. Over a year. Two years. We, I mean, we looked at houses for fun two years ago, and then I was like not on board at all. And then we looked at houses, I think a year ago,

like almost a year ago. And so this has kind of been a slow process, gradual, but it's happening. We're gonna be in a more family friendly part of Arizona and yeah, we're very excited. And we love the house too. Like it's a beautiful house. So.

What's funny though is the layout is actually kind of similar to our current house. I know, we were looking for something like our current house. Because we kept telling ourselves how nice would it be if we could take our current house and just plop it in a different location. And so in a way we're kind of doing that. For sure. I guess. I'm so excited and the kids will have a bigger backyard which is going to be really nice because they're just they they just need to get outside. They feel so much better when they're outside

playing and I'm just so excited so many parks and playgrounds they love that. A decision we do have to make though is right now the backyard is dirt and so we need to decide what we want to do with it. I know. So what are we what are we thinking are you in are you leaning in the direction of doing like turf or grass and then doing a swing set? What is that turf gets too hot like their kids can't even play on it if it's like in the summer. Really? Because the turf heats up but we have turf and I've never noticed that problem but okay maybe if it's in direct sunlight all day then it would I don't know. That makes sense. I'm like maybe we just don't like maybe we put in a pool once our kids are like

really stable swimmers. Yeah. Because it's like now we have the option to kind of wait I don't know we're weighing our options because it's we've always thought we would have a pool living in Arizona and it'd be so nice but then I'm like it might be kind of nice to not have that hazard until they're stronger swimmers. Yeah. If we have the option of choosing. But if we do have a pool we'll put a fence around it or if there's no fence we would do a pool cover to completely cover up the pool. No you still have to have a fence. Even if with the pool cover?

Yeah. Oh, okay. Then we do both. Just because people forget to put it over it. Ah, that makes sense. Yeah. Yeah. It's just extra precautions and like obviously so many locks and home security alarms if certain doors get open, but yeah, we'll just see.

It'll be really nice to just have a good place for them to run around, set up a bounce house or set up a little blow up, slip and slide, things like that would be really fun. Do you feel relieved about the whole house situation? I do. I would say I feel relieved because I was like itching to make the move for so long and then I shouldn't say for so long, but like I was itching to do it and I knew in my heart I was like, I just, if we could just get there.

And so I'm like really excited. Well, I mean, what's kind of funny too, is we were, the house that we're buying was one that we, I think you had looked at without me. Months ago. And you were just like, nope, not gonna work. And so we kind of just like never even looked at the house. And then I was on Zillow looking at houses

and I was like, Abby, what do you think about this house? And you're like, well, I didn't, I didn't like it for this reason and this reason. I was like, okay, what if we like, you know, because when you're buying a house, you can't, unfortunately, unless you have unlimited money and you're going to build the house yourself from scratch and spend like two to four years doing that, you can't get everything you want. It just doesn't work that way. Like you have to make compromises on what you want. And so we had been, we had gone to, I don't know, we looked at so many houses this summer,

especially before we went to Nashville. And then after we went to Nashville, we just looked at a ton of houses. Like maybe a hundred. Nah, maybe 50 would be more realistic. I don't know, I looked at a lot. You probably, yes, you looked at more houses than I did. But yeah, it was one that we weren't even like really thinking of.

Yeah. Actually, this is gonna work. This is the one. Yeah, with some renovations, it's gonna fit all of our needs and I'm really excited about it. And I feel like I also still haven't processed it because, you know, this is how I was like with pregnancy too. Like, I was like, yes, I'm having a baby, but I don't think I had like emotionally done any processing until that baby was in my arms both times. So like, yes, I'm having a baby, but I don't think I had emotionally done any processing until that baby was in my arms both times. So that's gonna be me with this house,

but hopefully it doesn't hit me as hard. It's like, oh, we're in this house, and like, ah, we're here. This is exciting. This is where we're gonna live. What makes this move differently too is, I don't know how long you guys have been following our journey, but there's some people that have been here,

literally since we were in our low-income housing apartment in Springfield. And so when we were back in Springfield, that was a 650 square foot apartment. Then we moved to a 500 square foot little cottage on the beach in Hawaii. And we moved there with just our suitcases. That was it. Well, it was already furnished too. We were renting it. Yeah, we rented it. Both were rentals. And then when we moved to Arizona, we also moved with just our suitcases. Into a studio. Yes, into a little studio. And then from there, we moved into our current house,

which currently, as of right now, has six people living in it, including us. So we have a lot of, we've now accumulated a lot of stuff. Like we have couches and beds and dressers and nightstands and all these things that we had no use for because we were living in, you know, a little apartment. So now moving isn't gonna just be like, okay, pack the suitcase and go. Like it's actually a whole process. So I can see why when people are like, wow, moving. It's like such a big

thing. I'm like, okay, that actually makes sense now because before Yeah, before was nothing because you just had suitcases, which honestly, one day like maybe when our kids are out of the house, that would be fun to just like only to like our only belongings to be like our suitcases. And then maybe have a little storage unit with like keepsakes because how freeing is that to be like minimalistic like that and not to have like all this stuff for furniture, all this

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