The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Our Due Date, Breastfeeding While pregnant & Baby Names

Episode Date: February 22, 2023

Our first Q&A episode!! In this episode, we answer all of your questions about our new pregnancy ranging from the due date, baby names, and our general plans for this pregnancy and birth. Make sure to rate our podcast and leave a review if you can, it really helps us out!

People are dying to know what is the due date of this baby. Did you say? I don't drink really hardly at all and put part of my head and drink until I had that green premiere. I was actually like three weeks pregnant. It's not easy to have a baby, then have a double herniary pair and then go right back to having another baby. I'm almost nervous talking about this because I know there's going to be so many opinions. Oh, I'm sure. I'm sure people are like, you should not be doing that. Or people be like, yes,, mom you must keep breastfeeding

What's up dudes and welcome back to the unplanned podcast episode four you guys Thank you so much for blowing us up like honestly like we have been hitting the charts recently and it's because of you guys I can't believe it dude. We're literally on episode four Thank you to everyone that's been leaving us reviews on Apple Podcast. It's really helping us out. And if you haven't subscribed to that right now, it would mean a whole lot.

It takes like two seconds to do a five star review. Just do it. Abby showed in her Instagram story how fast you can leave a review. She did in like, what, 15 seconds? It was so quick. She did five stars and said it was good and then submitted her review.

So are you gonna do? Yeah, and I think you can leave reviews on like Spotify too and other platforms. So, leave a review. It really means a lot, you guys. So, you guys have a lot of questions for us after having watched Episode 3. How do you feel right now? I honestly don't know how I feel. I feel kind of nervous, actually. At the time that we're recording this, we just announced the whole entire world

that we're pregnant and that it was a surprise pregnancy. We got a lot of really good feedback. We did get some, you know, a little bit of negative feedback, but I would say like 99% was like so nice. So many people were reassuring me and honestly brought tears to my eyes because it just felt so good to hear from other moms that were like,

you don't have to worry., I felt the same way finding out I was pregnant with my second, but everything has been great. Like, our kids are just best friends. Like, everything will work out and that felt like really, really, really reassuring to hear because I've been freaking out a little bit. Honestly, like, this could happen to anybody. Like, we understand how this works. We understand how babies are made. I mean, literally everyone does, and this stuff happens. And it's funny, our situation, we only had two times that we're unprotected,

and we have so many friends that literally told us for a victim, like, that was us. Like, we had the same thing, like, we don't have another kid on the way. Like, so, we've talked to so many people that have said that and it's blown my mind. Things happen. Yeah. But the so many people that have said that, and it's blown my mind. Yeah, these things happen. Yeah.

But the good thing is that we're married, and we welcome kids with open arms. It's gonna be great, we're super excited, and obviously it never really crossed our minds. It never crossed our minds to do anything different, but then to just like, you know, just switch everything around and make our life fit this new plan. But we had you guys submit questions

on the unplanned podcast Instagram and we have so many good questions to answer today. Should we just dive right in? Yeah, let's just dive right in. So the first question that people are dying to know, what is the due date of this baby? Should we say it? Yeah. August 15th.

I'm surprised you remember. Yes, well we had it up behind us in the previous episodes. That's true. So if you guys caught that Easter egg in episode two, well we had it up behind us in the previous episodes. I love that true, that true. So if you guys caught that Easter egg in episode two, we literally had August 15th on our little date thing behind us. By the way, we're in Hawaii right now.

We're filming while we're on a trip here. We're here for a month, seeing some old friends. And yeah, no, that's why we're not in the same studio. You guys were probably confused. But yes, we had that teaser up there. Yeah, I'm kinda thinking this baby's gonna come early just cause we had Griffin early. So it could be really cool if this baby came just four days

early and was born on August 11th, which is my dad's birthday. Oh my gosh. Because Griffin was born on Matt's mom's birthday. Dude, that would be- That would be so sick. I didn't realize your dad's birthday was August 11th. What type of son-in-law are you?

I'm sorry, I don't memorize birthdays. I just put it in the calendar. Anyway, I know your mom's birthday. Yeah, July 3rd, Griffin's birthday. That would be amazing. I'm hoping that Griffin comes on your dad's birthday. That'd be really cool. That's so cool.

So that makes me currently 15 weeks pregnant when you're watching this. Oh, crap, dude. That is insane. This pregnancy has flown by. And it's because we're parents right now. And we are so busy, and it's a lot of work. Fun work, most of the time.

But like, no, it's crazy how fast this one's gone by. I can, wow. Like you're approaching 20 weeks already. What the freak? That's crazy. I know. I tell you what, I feel like it's going to become more and more real to you as you like start to see my bump. Yeah, well, I'm already seeing your bump right now. I can see your, but I saw today it looked really cute. Really? Yes, it looks really, really cute. That was another question. Like, what is your bump look like? Should I show the bump for the people

looking at these? Yeah, yeah. Let's give the That's our currently unbutton because I can Or can but it just hurts really bad. Yeah for our video viewers. We're showing Abby's bump. Let's see it Wow, wow, wow with the unbutton pants and everything Actually, you know what we'll put on the podcast Instagram a video from last night because last night was Valentine's Day Yes, when we're filming this and my bump was bumping After dinner bumping so we'll put that video on the Instagram podcast. It's unplanned podcast on Instagram. Check that out It's pretty impressive like I feel like I did expect it to be bigger than it is at this point though Because everyone was says you're bigger with your second. That's true

But I will say your bump has been popping out and I was worried that people would know before we told them. Because we've been telling our friends all week and Hawaii that we're pregnant. We have an exciting video coming of telling everyone that we're pregnant, but I was scared people were gonna figure it out. No one would ask though, they would.

Oh yeah, oh, nobody. That would be horrible if you asked some women that's like, especially if they're not pregnant. Oh my gosh, but I could clearly see. My poor grandma's done that three times. Oh my lord. Like ask someone their new date and they're like, I'm actually, I'm not pregnant. That's hilarious.

Or it's the worst that they just had a baby. Like it's understandable how that could happen, but it's just like, that's not what you want to hear postpartum. You think I'm bigger than I was when I was with Griffin at this point? Honestly, I think you're like right on par. I don't think you're that big. I don't think I'm not any bigger yet. I expect that by the end I'm going to be bigger point. Honestly, I think you're like right on par. I don't think you're that big. I haven't been on you bigger yet. I expect that by the end I'm gonna be bigger though.

My skin's already stretched out. Okay, next, a lot of questions on, do you plan on finding out the sex of this baby or are you going to keep it a surprise? Ooh, we definitely are gonna find out. We definitely have to. Yeah. That's just too much to wait till the end for, you know.

No, I always say that it is surprised enough on the day of delivery. Yes. Holy. The people that wait to find out the gender of their baby, holy cow. Like, I don't know. Well, that's our brother and sister-in-law.

That's right. Yeah, they are doing that. I can't believe that. But you can't point. I'm gonna have to literally bribe their doctor. I'm not okay with that. You're not okay with that. I'm not gonna wait.

You're gonna bribe your doctor. I'm okay with this. Jeez, dude. No, I you're gonna fry for doctor. Okay with it. He's dude No, I support their decision, but I just I mean as someone that's how to maybe I'm like the day of the birth is Exciting enough. Oh, yeah, you need to spread out the fun You gotta have a little like just sprinkle it out just a little bit. That's just our opinion I can understand like not doing the the blood test at like 10 weeks or whatever We can do it to find out the gender of the baby, but bro, like, wait in the end, that's not for me.

Maybe one day on a future baby, but like for this one we got to find out. Maybe like number 10 or something. Yeah, no. Yeah, so we didn't do any blood testing. We didn't do it with Griffin either, so we are gonna just wait to find out at the anatomy scan, which happens around,

I mean ours is happening March 30th. Wow. So I think we'll probably do this. I mean, we haven't really discussed this in detail yet, but I'm figuring we'll do the same thing that we did with Griffin. We keep our eyes closed when they're like doing the sonogram of the private parts. And then they write it on a card and envelope and then Matt opened the envelope and then he told me. Which I think is really sweet because which I think it's really sweet Because I feel like it's hard for dads to feel involved in the pregnancy and it was like a small way for you to like

I don't know yeah No, yeah, it felt really special that I got to be the first one and then I got to tell you and I was what if you know for a whole day This time and you don't tell me do you actually want to do that? I don't know actually I think I think I'll. I think I'll crack. I think I'll just end up telling you. Yeah, I can read you like a book, honestly. People cracked me easy when like we had friends trying to get the gender out of me

and they would just say like, Matt, it's a bull isn't it? I would literally be like, Matt, don't look at them. I feel like, do not look at them. It's like rude because Matt is just like, literally his eyes tell, like, keep no secrets. I am a horrible liar. So I took that liar. I am a horrible liar. So I kept that liar.

I kept that. That's one thing I'm like, you're never gonna cheat on me. Well, or if you do, I'm gonna know immediately. I'm not gonna cheat on you, honey. Thank you. Appreciate that. So yeah, we will find out at the anatomy scan, which is in about, I don't know, five weeks or so.

Yeah. And then we will probably, I don't know, are we gonna do a gender reveal with this one? We got to. We got to. At least some sort of gender reveal. Like, is our family gonna be able to come out to go to it? I don't know. My mom texted me about that literally yesterday about the gender reveal party. We got to throw one. My mom's expecting it. Hmm. We'll have to figure that out. We'll do a fun way of telling you guys the gender. You'll know the gender before the baby's born. Dude, why do I seriously think so strongly it's a boy?

I do too. But then, oddly, just like the past couple of days, I started to think the other way. I was like, yeah. But like, because I don't know, because there's really, like in my brain, I feel like I know, but I really don't. No, exactly, like there's no way of knowing.

There's no way of knowing. Somehow though, you're so good at guessing the gender's of babies. Except for with myself. You know, you're so good at it. You literally guess like all of our friends, baby's genders. I know a girl at the gym today,

I said, there's a 70% chance you're having a girl. Yeah. And I feel really good about that. Most people, I'm like, there is a 99% chance you're having this gender and I'm like, I don't know what your center is telling you right now. Well, first of all, I feel like I need to give the disclaimer that we just want a healthy baby. But also that disclaimer sometimes takes me off a little bit because like that should be a suit.

Of course, who does not want a healthy baby? I'd rather have the gender that they prefer than a healthy baby. What is out here not wanting a healthy baby? They're like, well, I don't care if it's healthy. I just want a boy. Like, that, nope, that's that. But I'm just going to say that. I'm going to put that out there because some people stress me out. Of course, I want a boy like that. No, that's not that. But I'm just gonna say that. I'm gonna put that out there because some people stress me out. Of course, I want a healthy baby.

I feel like knowing how crazy our world can be. Like there's definitely been someone who said that before. Oh my gosh, those people should never be. I don't want to meet that person. I don't want to meet that person. Those people should not be parents. You're right. If you're not wanting a healthy baby.

I want to get their baby and raise them. But I'm kind of leaning towards boy. I just think it would be so cute. It's so cute. If we had two little boys run around being best friends. Little surfer dudes, little skater dudes. Oh, I just love that. And we can, I'm gonna take them snowboarding

when they can walk. Like the second they can walk, they're gonna get on a snowboard. What if they do dance classes too like you did? I think could, you know, I mean, I don't wanna push them into that though. Why? I don't know. I guess they could do. You, I mean, like I don't want to push them into that though. Why? I don't know.

I guess they could do. You don't want to force them to be a theater kid just because you were a theater kid. I just, I want to do whatever they want to do. Of course. And here I'm saying that, but here I'm like, I want to get them on a skateboard. Yeah, listen to you. It's just so much fun. I feel like they'd be a fun sport that we could do together because I really enjoy it.

But no, whatever they want to do, they're gonna do. And we're gonna be supportive in that, you know? Yeah, of course. So we've kind of like just been saying he by accident, slash we've just like been thinking about having a boy, but probably it's because that's all we know right now, but having a girl would be really, really fun. I definitely would have a girl at some point.

But we just wanna healthy baby. Oh my gosh, thanks for giving us a disclaimer Matt. Of course. Okay. This question here says who is most excited Papa J dog? For those of you guys that don't know my dad wants to be referred to as Papa J dog I don't know if that's actually gonna stick around. Yeah, you know We've kind of gone along with it because I thought it was kind of funny and they really have been made and matching t-shirts Oh my gosh, it's so stupid. It's hilarious, but my dad's name is John along with it because I thought it was kind of funny and really made and matching to your soul.

It's so stupid, it's hilarious, but my dad's name is John. We really should call him Papa John. Like Papa John makes a lot of things. And my mom's name is Teresa, so she should be Mother Teresa. Well, that would be Grandmother Teresa. That's true. That's true. Your parents have great names for being Grandparents honestly.

So yeah, Papa J. Dog was definitely excited. Yes, everyone was so shocked. She had been the most excited. It was really fun because when we told everybody, my brother and sister-in-law announced that they were pregnant first and everyone freaked out because everyone's so excited for them to have their baby and so are we.

And then when we told them that Abby was pregnant too, everyone went wild because they're not only as Abby having another baby, but then my Abby and my sister and law Abby are having babies at the same time, which is just so. Yeah, some people were asking what are difference in due date, so be in it's literally less than three weeks. I thought it's two weeks of the day from what I read. It's gonna be super close because I could have him early. See look, I just said him. I could have this baby early. Yeah. And since it's her first, you know, she could go late.

Who knows? Oh, one of them was asking if we would do a home birth this time. Like, I've had a baby. Oh, man. I know how to do it. What I do at home birth this time. Wow, I did see some comments on two videos that go people were saying how in some countries,

or actually, I think in the US too, how home births can be a really great option and that people, even if Griffin, in our situation where Griffin and the shoulder got stuck, there's like, there's people trained for that. For all circumstances, yeah. Which I didn't actually fully realize that.

So that's really cool. I think for us, I mean, I'm just speaking for myself right now, but I feel like a hospital is like where I wanna be, just for us, what do you think for you, Abby? What time do I- No, I definitely feel better in a hospital. Like, that's just me, I feel like. And look like, if something crazy did go wrong,

I'm sure, like in most situations with a home birth, like you can get to the hospital, you know. I've even heard of some people having, like an ambulance out there, side of their house, right? Doesn't know if some people do that. I heard if that happening actually, yeah. Yeah, just in case, like in the off-chance that something crazy happened, you have an ambulance ready.

Well, like if you need a blood transfusion, is that the word? I think so. You need blood, which is a semi-common thing. I don't know that you can do that at home. I don't know, let us know in the comments if you can do that at home. Yeah, we're not experts on this by the way.

Yeah, we're not doctors, okay. We're just two people chatting away about this stuff. Yeah, people chatting away. Speaking about doctors and stuff, someone said, isn't this considered a high risk pregnancy? My OB said that you have to wait a year between. Whoa, yeah, that's a really good question because your OB said that too.

She was like, wait a year. She did say that. But she never told you, like we went in for appointments already and they never said that you're high-risk. No, I think they would have told me. Oh yeah, they definitely would have told you. But I do think that you should wait longer.

Oh, yeah, I shouldn't say that. I think that it is recommended by medical professionals to give yourself at least a year. Oh, yeah. You don't want to have a baby four months after having your first baby. You also don't want to have a baby right after hernia surgery and look where we are. That's crap, dude. I forget about that. A lot of people were asking how is this pregnancy going to be affected by my hernia surgery? Okay, the fact of the matter is that the surgeon did tell me I could get pregnant right away. He's like, yeah, you can. Oh, he did. Yes. Okay. He was like, yeah, you can get pregnant right away. That's

reassuring. Yeah, he told me that. And then I even asked my doctor at our first appointment, I was like, is there anything I should be doing differently? Like, are we worried about it? My hernia is coming back. For those of you that don't know I had a double hernia after I'm giving birth to Griffin. That got repaired. They used mesh in my abdomen. So I have like literally still have mesh right here and on the side because I had an umbilical one and a ventral.

I think that's what's called hernia. And yeah I guess we just hope and pray that the mesh doesn't detach. I don't, we don't have any reason to think that that's gonna affect anything about this pregnancy or my body. I have more. If you were like 35, I would be worried about all of this

because you had a kid, then like literally right after that cat surgery. And now you're pregnant again. My body is like dying. Your body is like, what the freak's going on? But because you're 24, I do have a lot of confidence and just, I don't know, however, how everything's gonna go because you're very young,

we're having kids young, hopefully we're not got all our kids by 30. You knock them all out. You knock them all out, right? Porshimal, I'm feeling confident, okay. I feel like you're gonna, you're gonna, you're gonna, I'm also really trying to listen to my body. I'm just, I'm eating good. Yeah, you are we both are you're both eating great. Yes, I'm sleeping

I'm staying active. I'm drinking a lot of water. I'm still living as much as I can and I'm just listening to my body Bro, you've been doing CrossFit Abby's been doing freaking CrossFit. Okay, let me tell you what Matt You want to be strong going into labor? Yeah. You need muscles. Yes, and you're doing a great job of working out. Abby's been going across it more than I have. We still go to cross it with me,

lived in Hawaii and being back here. We actually got a month long membership at our old gym. So yeah, I'm eating good. And a lot of that has to do with the fact that I am pregnant, nursing, and I'm still working out a lot. But I've gotten a lot of questions about if I'm still breastfeeding Griffin, this person says, it's dangerous while being pregnant.

Really dangerous. So when I first found out that I was pregnant, I was like thinking for sure that I would have to start weaning Griffin because I thought there was no way that it would be safe to nurse while, or that I thought my milk would go away. A lot of people asked me out my milk supply.

So from right now, after doing personal research and also talking to Griffin's pediatrician and my doctor, yes. I don't feel at risk currently with where I am the pregnancy nursing Griffin. What's really interesting though is we got two different opinions from doctors on when you should stop, which I found very fascinating because Griffin's pediatrician said you can keep nursing up until, or she said you don't have to stop at all, right?

No. She was like, you can just keep on nursing that kid. Well, think about it. Everyone that has, does tandem feeding, they nurse their whole pregnancy. Yeah. Because then I don't think their baby would like, their older child would stop nursing and then start again. Yeah, but then your OB, right?

It's your OB. Well, it was actually the nurse. Oh, it was the nurse. She was like, you need to stop by 23 weeks because of risk of preterm labor. But after looking into that, I don't personally feel that I'm at risk of preterm labor as that was never issue with Gryffin's pregnancy.

And if I have any symptoms of early labor, I would stop immediately. But especially, I'm not even close to 23 weeks yet. So as of right now, my milk supply seems to still be good. It's kind of hard to know when you're exclusively brushing, you're like, how much are you getting? I don't know. But Gryff Griffin loves nursing.

It's a very good tactic to calm him down. Helms that kid down so fast. He's been really fussy because he's been teething recently. Yeah, so I feel like he needs it still. And it's good nutrients for him. And I'm definitely taking in enough calories to sustain both Griffin and this baby that's growing in me. So right now it's working great. And I don't feel like at risk doing it.

Thank you for doing that by the way. Like that's a lot of work and a lot of women don't go that far. And the fact that you've done that is just really impressive. So honestly, Congrats. I'm giving you nuts. Thank you. And it fascinates me that people have different opinions in the medical world about when you should stop. It's just so interesting how.

I'm almost nervous talking about this because I know there's gonna be so many opinions. Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure people are just looking at comments. You should not be doing that. Or people will be like, yes, Mom, you must keep breastfeeding. It's for your baby. They will not love you otherwise. People are gonna go to war in the comments about this. I am just saying, like right now it feels right

and it feels healthy and it feels responsible. Good. If it doesn't, we'll stop. It's that simple. So yeah. Yeah. We're just gonna keep doing that. With whatever you choose to do,

you're gonna have a doctor backing you up somewhere, okay? So. We have some cook. With their opinions that come from nowhere. Okay, this one says, is there anything you're gonna do differently during this pregnancy? Ooh, ooh, ooh, wow.

Well, already it's flown by like that. Oh, it has a flown by for you. Yes, it has. Yes, it has. I've been busy over here being a dad and like, I'm sorry, I feel like I, I feel like I maybe gave you a little bit more special treatment with the first pregnancy.

But I don't know,, where's the freaking time? Between being a father and trying to run our business, I don't have time, I'm trying to do the best I can. So I definitely can do better. I feel like Matt, you kind of could get a gear more when you see the bump. Yeah, that's true. Like we just-

But I need you more at the beginning when I'm feeling nauseous. That's true. That's true. Honestly, it almost seemed like he were faking it. I know you weren't. Oh my. That makes me so mad.

I'm so sorry. It seemed like I was faking it. I'm so sorry. I know you weren't faking it. I know for a fact. I know that when I was needing magnesium and I was feeling really tired and nauseous that you weren't believing me. And I kept saying you, you don't believe that I don't feel good and you were like, no,

I believe you. What threw me off was with your first pregnancy, you used to be like, I'm gonna throw up and then you would never throw up. I did throw up. But then this pregnancy you did throw up. But it was only, you only threw up like twice. I think it was only twice.

And the first, really? You threw it more than twice in the first trimester. Can't remember all those times that I'd try to take my prenatals and then just up to that I don't consider that throw up. You just spit out water. I'm talking about like No, and my curry. I'm talking about like puke bro. Like that time my parents house where you like puke literally all over the carpet. I puke all over the carpet. Yeah, but it was just like every it was so much like that.

Because I kind of as once or every time I vomited that night. That's a good question. I kind of count that as one like one incident, but like you did throw up like five times. One session. Yeah. good question. I kind of count that as one incident, but you did throw up like five times. One session. Yeah. Anyway, yeah, apparently I need to actually vomit for Matt to have some of you for me while pregnant. That's not true. That is not true. I'm gonna let him take on the next pregnancy and see what you're doing. Oh my gosh. I wish I could. I really do wish I could take this from you. I really wish I could do that. It sucks that you're having to do this all over again. I really do feel for you because I know that it's not

easy. So thank you for doing that. No, it is a privilege to carry baby, but I will be honest. It's been a lot. Actually, one of these questions was, are you nervous? Oh heck yeah. Right? I mean, I had a breakdown last night. Guys, giving, oh yeah, that's true. Do you want to talk about that? Or you do not really want to know if we can talk about it. Oh sick. Okay. Like, what do you want to say? I mean, I kind of caught me off guard. It was very, very vulnerable. Get to know how you perceived it. I don't know. It was, it was really sweet. Just like you being able to share those fears with me about like about the pregnancy and about what you're going through. Yeah, I was just like, wow, I, I didn't think through all of that because it's all of these things that you're feeling, I don't directly feel them unless

I'm like really studying you, you know? So the fact that you just like put all that out there, I was like, wow, like Abby's going through a lot and I need to be there for her more because it's not easy to have a baby, then have a double herniary pair and then go right back to having another baby. So I know you did make it through the first trimester already, but the second trimester is gonna be tough too. And so yeah, thank you for sharing that with me last night.

Yeah, like last night I just kinda like, just a recap, kinda just like cried to Matt for like 30 minutes while I was like talking about like all my, I guess like, I don't know if it's nerves, but there is like a part while I was like talking about like all my I guess like I don't know if it's nerves but there is like a part of me that like some women love pregnancy and I don't have bad pregnancies but it is such a physically taxing thing that I was just like kind of daunted by the fact that I was already entering that so soon when I don't feel like I've healed I actually haven't probably healed postpartum and post surgery

So I was just like how in the world am I going to do this again? And I know that I'm not given circumstances that I'm not going to be able to handle like I'm going to be able to do this But sometimes in a moment of weakness it just feels too much too bare so that's kind of like what I felt like last night, honestly, but nothing not a good night of sleep. And the sunshine can't kind of help. We have such a good support system, like I said in the last episode. So that gives me so much peace. And plus like all your messages are so sweet. Yeah. And also make me feel not dumb for getting pregnant so soon.

People are like, it happens. Like, you don't expect it to, things happen. So things like that. Yeah. No, I really was honored to get to hear that from you. And I'm sorry. I really do wish I could just take that away. But I'm going to work on empathy.

I think this pregnancy, I think it can be a better empathizer and just walk alongside you, even though I'm never- You are really sweet and you do think about me. Thank you. But I think that it's hard because it's like I'm living this every second of the day and you are just witnessing it from afar.

And my coping mechanism also is to just keep going. Keep pushing, you've got this and then everyone's might just crack in the fall apart. But as far as like the birth goes, I don't feel as nervous for that this time around. I wasn't feeling super nervous the first time either, but I feel even less nervous just because I mean, I really went into that not knowing a lot.

And now I feel like I know what to expect. I know that like we'll probably be alone most of the labor and then they'll just come in every once in a while and check me and I know that I have to have an IV in my arm, even after I have the baby. And I know that, like, all these things, I know that there's a catheter, which I still don't even like.

Did they put that in you when you gave birth? Yeah. Dude, how did I not even realize that? I didn't even notice that either. The funny thing is, like, if you poop and you're giving birth, you don't even know. Like, I wouldn't even know that. I didn't even notice that either. The funny thing is, if you poop and you're giving birth, you don't even know. I wouldn't even know if you did personally,

because- You're watching, you would. Well, I was up by your face just hearing you on. I'm not down there. Did you look down there? Yeah, a little bit, but I didn't- What's scary? A little bit, yeah.

I mean, yeah, it's crazy. It's insane. You remember, if you head right now, what that looks like? Yes, birth is crazy, Abby. Birth is crazy. I kind of want to see it, but I also don't at all. You need to.

I will say watching, I've watched the videos back and looking back at it. We have, it's of my... Yeah, we have all sports angles. Why did you watch that back? I forget the exact reason, but there's a lot of blood and it's pretty intense But the good news is did you think it looked gross? No, no, no, no

It's just like your your body's pushing out a whole entire human So of course things are gonna look different, but I'm just saying like Back that you did that very impressive round two is gonna be easier for you because literally everyone says that I think so your body's done it once. I literally everyone says that. I think so. Your body's done it once. I'm sure it's not already. I mean, honestly, like your body's prepared. It's like, okay, round number two.

The second try of everything is always way easier. Like I experienced that in my own life, so not that I've been pregnant. I just feel like it's going to be faster. My body already knows what's gonna happen. Of course, yeah. But that's actually really cool about the first time around too, is that my body knew exactly what was going on. Even though my head didn't know what was gonna happen. Of course, yeah. But that's actually really cool about the first time around too, is that my body knew exactly what was going on. Even though my head didn't know what was going on.

My body was made for that. That's cool, and I feel a lot of peace about that. Okay, if y'all haven't been pregnant so early, when would you start considering your sex? Oh! How would we have done this otherwise? The ironic part about all this is we were actually thinking about should we push our timeline for having maybe number two back?

Because originally we were like, let's face our kids out every two years. But then after Griffin, we were like, wow. I think we're like, maybe we'll wait two years to start trying again. Yeah, I was like, which obviously pushes it back another nine months. Exactly.

So it was like, maybe we should do every three years because even though it'd be ideal to have them close in age, it's just a lot. We just need to regroup. As a parent, it's a lot. So yeah, this is- But honestly, what's the point of thinking about what of's and shut-ups and cut-

Totally. We definitely are gonna need more help around the house. Come, baby, number two. I think we're gonna definitely have a nanny or more help of some sort. Well, people were asking if we'd ever consider moving back home now that we have like two kids literally 13 months apart. And I think that our plan is to just get families to move out to us.

Yes, if you're a family, come move. You come live with us and you can help us watch our kids. No, but like our family is like the best and we just really hoping that they will join us out there at some point. Yeah. You know what kills people to be away from nephews and well nephews see I keep saying nephews. We're pretty set on thinking this is a boy so I think it's like, oh, we're gonna be completely shocked.

It's okay. But also so excited because all we want is healthy baby. Can you stop? Seriously though, we would be thrilled either way. This one says which pregnancy has been harder so far. That's a complete U-collection. Which has been harder for you, Matt. Honestly this has been harder just because we're parents now.

Yeah. And guys, being parents has changed everything. Our whole life is like so different. But it's so much joy. There is so much work, but I will say it's freaking hard. Yeah. I will say that. I'm going to be honest with you.

I'm not trying to like sugar coat this pretend that like everything's perfect. No, it's freaking hard. And like recently with Griffin Teething, he just cries so much. It's sad. And it is sad, but at a certain point you're like, I can't hear crying for 24-7.

Like it gets to be a lot. So, luckily we have each other to take breaks. Tag team it. Tag team it. Single parents. I don't know how you guys do it. You guys are freaking insane. Yeah, I think this one has been harder just because So luckily we have each other to take breaks tag team it tag team it single parents I don't know how you guys do it you guys are freaking insane. Yeah, I think this one has been harder just because I The first pregnant sicker just sleep told kingdom come and now I have to wake up multiple times throughout the night and I think nursing also has taken a toll on my energy and

I just it was hard in the first trimester because I had a lot of food a versions But I needed to consume a lot of calories because I was still nursing and so it was hard in the first trimester because I had a lot of food versions, but I needed to consume a lot of calories because I was still nursing. And so it was just hard because I was not eating it. Okay, this one says, why didn't you use a digital read test this time? Just curious, you mentioned in another episode. Well, I think you just had to get the test right away

and you didn't have time. No, there was digital read ones, but I was like, it's not gonna be positive. So I'm not gonna get that. The irony. Yeah, so to fill you in, my advice to people that are trying for a baby is to not test until you have a misperiod

because you will drive yourself crazy trying to see, like to think about like, okay, wait, what if this was, like, what if I'm actually pregnant, it's just not showing like things like that? Wait till you have a misperiod so you know for sure. And then also get a digital read test. So that literally says pregnant or not pregnant. So you're not sitting there trying to see if there's two lines or not.

The reason I didn't follow my own advice is because I thought for sure I wasn't pregnant. So I just got the cheapest one, which is just the two lines test. Big, great value version. It was still a clear blue test, but it wasn't just their high-tech digital version. And you still didn't believe it. That's why I didn't believe it. You took two of them and you didn't believe it. Honestly, that line was so dark that I was convinced

that I was having twins, because I was only three weeks. That wasn't even four weeks pregnant yet. And it was an immediate dark line. Yeah, oh, that's another thing. We're not having twins. Thank God. We were so scared. That would be, oh my gosh.

Yeah, we were really scared about that. And that point we went to when we found out it was just one, we were like, woo, okay, we're off the hook. Gosh, that would have been so scary. Someone did message me that they had a baby and then they had twins 15 months later. Oh gosh. I'm scared.

This one's for you Matt. Okay, what is it? Are you nervous? You'll get less time with Abby with 2002. Wow, I haven't even had time to process that really. I feel like that's just a fact that I won't get as much time with you. I get less time with you even now with Griffin, so I feel like it'll probably be even less time with you. So I feel like we need to make plans now to have more time together, and I think a weekly date night

is a great option. I know we've, I've been bad about doing that, so I'm sorry. I can agree on that. You guys are here, everyone keep in my camel. From all screens. Hey, hold up, hold up. Am I taking you on the dates every single week

or are you going to take me on some too? I can take you on dates. Thank you. I'll be so good at that, but it's just like, you have to set aside time. Maybe we should alternate. We need to make an actual date night every just like you have to set aside time. Maybe we should alternate. We need to make we need to make an Actual date night every week like have a day. Yes, and it should be not on the weekend. I love to yeah, Tuesday nights

Taco Tuesday. Taco. Yes, and then we can get cheap tacos and then go on drives and like make out like we're in high school. Yes Let's do it That's a really good idea. Okay, so alternate days, you do one and then I'll do one. Please alternate weeks. Alternate weeks, that's my meant. Yeah, okay, let's do it. Okay. I think we need to make plans as far as like with us running our own business, like I

think we need to be smart with planning out like our own business stuff and then our like our own life. And we definitely need to get help with our kids because I think we will drive ourselves crazy. For instance, okay, here in Hawaii, recently with Abby and I, trying to get work done, we've been in the same room and then we end up both taking care of Griffin and we both don't get anything done. So it's like, we need a tag team to say, hey, you go take Griffin on a walk and then

I can actually get things done in vice versa. But if we don't plan things out, that's where we get screwed. And that's where we get stressed and fights happen. And yeah, we got a plan ahead. Plan ahead for weekly day nine. Even though I do think it's very important that we prioritize our marriage. Even though our kids are obviously going to be a priority, I think that even slightly more important maybe is that we are taking care of us as a unit so that we can be the strongest parents for our kids as possible. Totally, the marriage is the core.

I feel like that's kind of controversial, but. No, I completely agree with you. If the marriage isn't the core of the family, then it falls apart. Like if mom and dad don't love each other. Well, I think that there's a way that it can be done. Yeah, yeah. Like, you can still, you could be. You could be a single parent or you could be co-parenting

and you can still have a great arrangement. Exactly. No, it can still work out, but I think like in the traditional sense, like I think the mom and dad need to be good together and then like that just, it just trickles down. That love trickles down to all the kids. That's very sweet. Yeah.

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Four. Abby, one is already crazy. You wanna quadruple that? That he's a baby, he will ever be. I love Griffin so much, but having four of him, I would go crazy. But I understand what you're saying. Different ages.

He's gonna get older. I get that. I don't know. Just right now it seems like a lot. Yeah, I know. It's not like a conversation we need to have for serious now, but I just know that I am not done having kids. Our original plan, we've talked about this before

on our YouTube channel. It's have two kids, adopt two kids. Yes, that was our plan. So are you saying you're trying to switch up the plan? No, I'm not trying to switch it up. I'm just saying. Are you switching up the plan? What do you mean? What are you saying you're trying to switch up the plan? No, I'm not trying to switch it up. I'm just saying. Are you switching up the plan? What do you mean?

What are you saying? It's just so, for some reason it's hard to think of this being as my last pregnancy, especially because it happens so soon. I'm just like, not ready. I don't know. I'm about to cry. Are you saying that?

I'm sorry. I just think it makes me want to cry when I think about kids that don't have a home and kids that don't have a loving mother and father or father and father, whatever, just like loving parents, okay? Like, whatever that I'm sorry. I think that, like, I think there'd be really cool opportunity, like, we have our kids and then, a time and the future, we open our house for foster care or for, like, even what's it called, like,

respite care, like, safe homes where it it's like they need just a spot for the night or the next like 48 hours before they can be placed in a foster care home. It's so sad how there's so many kids that don't have parents, right? And I don't, I'm not okay with that. And like I wanna do something, I wanna do something about that.

Maybe, maybe if the foster or adoption thing doesn't work out, maybe we have to help in those cases in some other way. I don't know if that's donating financially, I don't know if that's raising awareness. I don't know what that is. But like we, I wanna do something about that and the fact that kids don't have,

that there's kids out there that don't have parents that breaks my heart. You can also support foster parents by providing diapers, providing, you need so many things with little kids and school supplies, things like that. There's a lot of ways that you can help them out. 100%.

Do you have any idea for names? Oh, we should keep those secret. We don't have like a four-year boy name or a four-year girl name. I feel like we can even have a lot of girl names at all, actually. The name that I really like is a little on the crazy side, and I'm worried that people might think it's a weird one. I don't know, it's just like weird when you name your kids' name and then people are like, that name sucks.

I don't know. No one would ever say that to you, but... I don't know, it's the internet. People say that. Yeah, that's true. I guess like maybe if we win a crazier out with the first name, we could always have a more traditional middle name so that if they didn't like their first name, they can just go by their middle name. I also think that with the names of people are choosing nowadays the name I know the name that you like. It's really not that out there. It's pretty dope. It's really cool name. It's a name though It's a name. Yeah, one of my roommates in college though He actually had the opposite his first name was John and his middle name was Brendan

And so we just all called him Brendan like he just went by Brendan. I honestly didn't even know his name was John Oh, you know that no, okay, but yeah, like that could happen. We could call our kid by their middle name. So in case they hate their first name. I'm going to be honest with you, it does kind of bug me some of the names that are. Is that bad to say? No, you can say that. Other nowadays are just like so off the wall. I'm like, you know, your child is going to grow up and be an adult and potentially working in a professional setting. That's true.

It's like, I just don't know. I completely agree. If you name your kid a name that's really cute for a kid, but then they don't have like in a name, a name that could be an adult name, that is scary. And also some people are like so proud of like, I don't know anyone named this name and I'm naming my kid that. I'm like, that might not be the flex that you think it is. That might be a red flag.

Personally. I have got to think you're on to something. I mean, I just think that sometimes I get a little weird when they're like, we're not gonna say the name, but I've just never heard it before. I'm like, please, I will think long in heart about that name. I really don't want to offend anybody, but it has blown my mind some of the names I've seen, especially in the social media world.

It's crazy, you guys. It's insane. That's a little crazy. This person says, is the baby okay from the drinking and the roller coasters? Let me prep this with my saying, drinking really makes it sound like I was like binge drinking or something taking shots.

Abby's an alcoholic. No. That was literally my, I'm pretty sure that was my first drink postpartum. Are you serious? Did I have another drink in there? I thought you had at least one more drink after before that one. What was it? I can't think of it, but I feel like you had like Moscato and then a beer or something.

Nope. No, that was your first drink. That was my first drink post party. A grapefruit beer and Epcot. That's how good they are. And you guys have ever been to Germany and Epcot? Well, not, okay, I just offended every German viewer out. But if you go to Disney World,

Epcot has like all these foreign countries and Germany inside Epcot, which is inside Walt Disney World, they have fire grapefruit beer and you gotta try it. It's the only reason I like it is because it's super, super light. I don't like beer, I don't like alcohol in general. I don't drink really hardly at all. And especially since I was pregnant,

I didn't drink at all and post part of my head and drink until I had that grapefruit beer when I was actually like three weeks pregnant. And I did. That's crazy, dude. I cannot believe you literally drink alcohol and then road roller coasters. We wrote some crazy ones. We went on the Velasa Raptor ride at Universal.

Luckily, luckily you did into the whole ride. But then what's the one that you did at Disney World? Didn't you do a crazy one at Disney World? You did at least, you did a test track. I mean you did all these rides that are like, do not ride if pregnant. But we just had no idea. Okay, yeah and I did.

I was feeling very guilty about it, but I did talk to my doctor and she was like, you would not believe all the moms that come in here that conceived on their honeymoon and they definitely had been drinking a lot more than you drank and they're just fine. And I think that the concerns with the rides while I don't think you should go on them

while you're pregnant at all, but like it's more so when you have a large bump and the harnesses don't fit great on you. Well, I did read online though that it's actually a big risk in the first trimester because that's when your placenta is growing. Oh, gosh. And you don't want to placenta getting detached as it grows and all that. We would know that it was detached though.

But I mean, the nurse did tell Abby like, hey, I promise you if God forbid, there's something wrong with the pregnancy. If something goes wrong, it's not because of you. She was like, you not believing out of people that are on their honey moon and drink like a crazy meant. Did you just say that? Yeah, I did. You literally did. Okay. I'm so I'm so sorry. Someone says, oh, one other thing. Oh, yes. One other thing that I wanted to say. I literally just, I completely lost my train of thought. I'm gonna let you think about that. I am the next question. It is, can we see your reaction video?

By the time this is posted, they'll have seen it. Oh yeah, it'll be out. So check it out. It's probably on our TikTok, Matt and Abby. We hadn't watched it until literally yesterday. Yes. And I feel like it perfectly captures every single emotion that was going through us. It's a five minute video. Should we post the whole thing?

It's real, and it's raw. All right, we're gonna post the whole thing. We get post the whole thing somewhere. No, okay, then I talked about poop. You talk about taking a poop. You literally go pee while the video's being filmed. Like, you keep your camera rolling, and you go pee. I even walk into my underwear and I have to put a towel around my waist because I'm like, crap, I'll be taking a video. I can't be in my underwear for this.

I cannot believe you weren't on to me. Dude, I did not think for a second that you were going to be pregnant. Like, I just woke up. I was expecting it the day before, but like, it really caught me off guard, Abby. You were expecting it the day before? Yes, because you had all the inversions you had when you're pregnant from pregnancy number one. But that morning, I forgot that you were taking a test. Well, it would have been a rough night.

Okay, I just thought of what I forgot to say earlier. I know somebody that had told us that their doctor had said it's okay to have like a glass of wine a week when you're pregnant, and I just wanted to put that out there that it's not, okay, I don't know who, I don't know. I just wanted to say that, I wanted to tell that person, like don't do that, but I didn't want to be mean and maybe they're watching this, I don't know. I just wanted to say that. I wanted to tell that person, like, don't do that, but I didn't want to be mean and maybe they're watching this, I don't know, but I just want people to know out there,

like, don't drink when you're pregnant. It's not a good idea. I know that we, like, obviously Abby had a beer on accident because we had no idea she was pregnant, but like, if you know you're pregnant and you're drinking, like, don't do it, that's not what I wanted to say. That was a PSA from Matt Howard.

This question says, did you ever start your period back before finding out? We talked about that last episode, but the answer's no. I never did. Literally no. So, you can ovulate, just a little health lesson. You can ovulate without bleeding. Well, yeah, totally.

Yes, because you were ovulating. Because women still have a hormonal cycle that they're going through. Yes. I'm learning a lot as we go through this. Yes. But you can ovulate without shedding the lining. Well, because you, yeah, to get pregnant, you had to ovulate and you never got your period. Or I could have also, I don't think there's any way we'd ever know this, but I could have

been about to start my period For the first time, you don't know. Oh really? We have no idea. We have no idea. We will never know. This is kind of just a random question, but I feel like we should answer it. Where you ever can turn, you couldn't get pregnant. It's a fear of mine. Someone, someone sent that question in.

Why have I never think we were gonna have issues? And that's probably just being naive. Well, you're not a warrior. I'm not a warrior. And also, you can't just expect to have that issue. Yeah. I did worry about that, actually. Yeah, you did.

I didn't at all. I was like, Abby, we're gonna be fine. And you were like, I don't know, you never know. And that's why we kind of started trying about it, maybe like six months to a year out from when we kind of wanted to have a kid dish. Obviously, we were ready if it happened. Yeah, we were ready.

Yeah. But it just like, boom, we got pregnant right away with baby number one. Matt, do you have anxiety about handling both kids at once and how are you handling? Oh, okay. I feel confident in tackling this. I think it all comes down to planning ahead, making sure that we have either family or sitters or people to help us because it is going to be a crap show. If it's just me and you,

if it's literally just me and you without help, having two kids under two is gonna be a crap show. So we need to plan ahead, we're not planners, that's why this is called the unplanned podcast, we're not planners. No way. Sorry, keep going. But if we can make plans, we're gonna be okay. I don't feel guilt at all for having help with Griffin or for this future baby.

We're not made to do this life alone and like we need help and so yeah, that's why I feel really good about having help with our kids. Yeah, and it's the way that they can get the most attention. More people more attention more love. And it's the way that they can get the most attention. More people, more attention, more love. I'm trying to find the question, but it was really funny, but it was like, are you gonna do anything different with birth control after this child? Dude, can I just say, I wish that there was a male former birth control that wasn't con.

I'm just like, I wish so badly. They're making that. They're working on it, but by the time that we're done having kids, it's gonna be available. And so I will never get to use that. No, you understand how it works though. They're gonna make it so that the sperm, like somehow morphs so that the tails

attach on the other side. What? I don't actually know how that works. We need to look into that. Did you see this on TikTok? Probably Google. Okay. But it's like, so they swim the wrong way.

What is this? I haven't even heard about this. No, it's like, I think it's, what is that crap? If this is how it't even heard about this. No, it's like, I think it's not. What is this? If this is how it works, then maybe this is just food for thought for someone that can do this. If you can do science, please listen to that.

But it makes them sperm put their tails on the wrong side, so they swim the wrong direction. That would be incredible. I wish we had that. I would totally take the male form of a birth intro. I wish we had. I don't want you to be the first one to do it though, because-

Yeah, I don't want to be the first one to do it either. I don't want that to be somebody else. Man, it's not crazy though that the guys are the ones that literally have this, okay, I don't want to be weird, but guys have the seed. It's like, why would you not just keep the seed from meeting the egg? That just makes way more sense.

Why is it that women are the ones that have to have the birth control? Honestly, that makes no sense. It's because we live in a patriarchy. That's right. Fight the patriarchy. Thanks Matt. Okay, with our whole situation, I think after everything said and done, I will be getting the snip, right? I know, but we're not gonna be said and done after this second baby. So are you getting naïd? Yeah. Okay. Thanks for doing that. I'm sorry. I wish I could get naïd. I literally cannot. They don't make those for you guys Honestly at this point I'm desensitized to any medical thing down there No, but for really had I had the kailena, which is a hormonal it has per is it progesterone?

I think it's progesterone. Yeah, and as you did. Did we pronounce that right? No, okay? I'm just gonna say it fast Did we pronounce that right? No, okay. I'm just gonna say it fast. Is it for the really fast? Is it for just for just Ron? Is it with an own or just a Ronan estrogen? and so it's a formal It's a form of hormonal control that I had before we had babies and it worked great for me I didn't get a period on it. I didn't have any crazy symptoms.

It was great. It was effective. If you don't want to do the hormonal method, you could do the copper IUD. I don't want that because I heard it makes your periods heavier. Yes, that would suck. And you didn't get a period with hormonal spritual. I know, so I'm going to get the marina,

which is the big girl version of... For mamas. It's the moma version. Why do we keep that? I love giving you nuts. I think it's so much fun. It's the moma version of kai lina that I had before so I feel good about getting that again because While we're gonna be just fine with two under literally 13 months. I don't think that We're gonna want to risk it for a third. Yeah. Yeah, gosh. We could have three under holy crap

What if he had three under three that would would be a nightmare. That'd be scary people do it Yeah, yeah, if you have triplets. No, but you could also just get pregnant. That's true quickly. That's true But yeah, I think that we will get in IUD or I will get in IUD next time and you're coming with me because I will all your hand You didn't let me come with you the first time what the heck I could like wore a blindfold what the crap? I could have held your hand. You got it like a week before we got married anyway. I'm a big girl. I'm tough.

I feel bad that it wasn't there. For me, it really wasn't that bad actually. You didn't go with your mom or your best friend. You went by yourself. No best friend, no mom. Because I was fine. You're tough. I'm tough cookie.

People do say getting an IUD sucks and Abby. Well, actually, there's like a whole campaign to start using anesthesia for it Oh really yeah, but for you it wasn't that bad right? I mean wasn't comfortable They literally pinch your uterus. I'm pretty sure no pinch your cervix They they go through it. That's crazy. I think they go through your cervix. Holy flip. Yeah Anyway, I think you're just tough. You probably just have a really high-paying tolerance No, it wasn't comfortable, but it really wasn't in the world.

You said, I think you said that laser hair removal though, down there, was like less painful than getting the eye-udite. Didn't you say that? Or more painful. You said laser hair removal was worse than the eye-udite. The first appointment. But now they have, they have lasers now that cause no pain or discomfort. Oh.

Should have had that laser. Well, that wraps up episode four, you guys. We answered a bunch of your questions. We have some really fun things planned for the next episode. So make sure that you are subscribed if you were listening in on other platforms. Make sure you hit that follow button and leave us a review. Again, it really helps us out.

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