The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - Our Love Languages, Marital Satisfaction & Things We Would Change

Episode Date: September 20, 2023

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Okay. Who is your partner's celebrity crush? Is Michael B. Jordan. I guess. I just say that and you're so great. Honestly, great choice. They both have great bodies. Okay.

Who is most likely to apologize first? Me. Me. No. What's your partner's love language? Yours is acts of service. I feel like you're physical touch, but also you're definitely words of affirmation. I don't know which one I am. What is your partner's name?

It's me. I mean, you have more than one that's for sure. Yeah, there's a lot of things you need to understand. It would be like, what are all 1,000 X that Abby has? Have I had a whole podcast to talk about all your X? I couldn't do it. What's up dudes? And welcome back to the unplanned podcast.

Here we are. We are here and we are both sick. Okay, I am way more sick than you are more sick than me. You win the more sick award. Wait, I have a bad idea. That's actually some marriage advice thing I looked for. I was, I looked at marriage advice for after I have a baby and something someone said,

or no, I'd actually think it came on TikTok. Like, you can't compare how tired you are with the other person. So that probably goes for sickness as well. Yeah, but that's okay. I think it was good that you looked up that marriage advice. I learned a thing or two in the car. We actually have a marriage book, like a couple's book that we are going to read in the car together, and then we forgot it. So we just ended up looking up like articles, articles about how to-

I think it was literally on parenting.com actually, fighting my sources. But according to the data, most relationships, most marital satisfaction declines up to one year after the birth of your kid. Does it go back up after? I didn't read that far.

I don't know. We'll have to see. That's so sad. But we've had a really, I would say we've had a really good week, you know, we have, we have our eyes closed. I mean, it's only Wednesday. I feel like our, we, this always happens with us. We have the highest freaking highs and the lowest freaking lows. It's just like er, you know, you know, together all day. Yeah, we like, if we were separate, I feel like the

distance would make the heart grow fond of it. We'd all would be so happy. And then right as we're getting sick of each other again, we go back to work, but we stay together all day. But I feel like the disagreements are always over the stupidest crap. Like last night, we almost got into like a little disagreement over like, I kinda, we just kinda stopped talking and then like let it fade out.

And then we were able to come back together. That's matured. It was about crumble cookies. I don't even remember what it was. It was like the stupidest. I remember, but whatever, it's fine. Oh, okay. Yeah, see, that's the, you can remember,

I can't even remember what it was about. Oh, it's fine. But, no, it's been a good, it's been a good, well, this is my second podcast of the day. So shout out to Ashley Lemue, our friend and grief expert. Yes, she was just on, I was just on her podcast this morning. So check that out. We were talking about postpartum,

all things postpartum, honestly, but mostly like mental health postpartum. Speaking of postpartum, you look amazing. I cannot believe you gave birth to a baby. Well, I'm wearing a very flowy shirt. Three ways. The loose fitting clothes are the key to postpartum. No, but you look so good.

I got you an aloe yoga set and you tried it on and you looked amazing. Thank you, honey. Amazing. It looked like you didn't even have a belly at all. Three weeks and six days ago. That's not necessarily true. That's crazy how much your body has changed.

Thank you. People were asking Abby in the comments, like, girl, how are you looking so good postpartum? And I honestly think that the reason is I mean, I think it's you know, a lot of it's genetics, but I think well, it's also angles and true, but I think it's because you're so muscular, like you're very strong.

If you feel Abby's back, she's like built. Like this girl is very strong. And so I think I think just naturally those muscles need fuel. And so it's just like, I don't know, like you eat a lot of food. You eat as much food as I eat. I do eat a lot of it, but I think you need that food because you're just so muscular. Thank't know, like you eat a lot of food. You eat as much food as I eat. I do eat a lot of food. But I think you need that food because you're just so muscular.

Thank you. Well, you're clearly more muscular than me, so I don't know if that you're a strong woman. Thank you. I appreciate that. I think that's my favorite component. We got to do a Spartan race together. Abbey to the Spartan race. I keep getting texts from them because I stay on their text room because I want to know

when like the races are. Uh-huh. But I need to obviously recover and heal. But maybe by the spring. We're gonna do a fun episode today because we've had some harder topics with us. We need to lighten this freak up. I'm not gonna cry today. I already know that.

Did you cry in the podcast that you recorded earlier today? There was a minute there where I was about to ask, please no, not on somebody else's podcast. No, I'm okay. I've embraced the tears. Like, it's just, I wear my emotions on my sleeve and I think it's my greatest superpower. Well, let's get into it.

We're today, we're gonna see who knows who better. Who honestly do you think is gonna win? Are we gonna keep score? Are we gonna do like a general, like, okay, I feel like you won or you think I won? Like, what are we gonna do here? Do we wanna, we should keep score? You really wanna keep score this?

Oh, we don't have to. I guess we could. I mean. Okay, first of all, I know that I know you better because I feel like I almost know you better than you know yourself, Matt. Really? Yeah, like when you go to a restaurant,

you're like, what do I want? And I know what you want most of the time. But I think there's circumstances where I could say the same for you. No, I'm just very, I'm good at listening and I'm good at understanding you, I feel like. Okay, all right, let's just see, let's just get into it.

Let's see if you actually can back that up with facts. What did your partner wear on your first date? Do I have literally no idea? Okay. Do you know what I wore on the first date? I have been wearing it. Probably one of those purple polos that I always wore. I had like, I went to the polo.

You wore that on that memorable date. That was the PF Changs date. Yes, and we have a photo It's even on my Instagram of like our first our first picture together and then we put I did hashtag call me Nemo No, sorry, I thought it was fun. It was an inside show But does that make you feel uncomfortable now? My older brother told me to put that on the Caleb told you to put that on the cap show. think I told him I was like, never mind, I sound weird now.

I gotta be careful what I say, because like anybody can listen to this podcast. And be like, you're weirdo. So that's what forget that like every, like there's like hundreds of thousands of people like me. We're literally just in our house. Yeah, we're just having a conversation.

I gotta be careful what I say on this thing. My gosh, but I think, well, when I posted picture, we had been like, officially dating then, and I think I when I posted picture we'd been we'd been like officially dating then and I think I'd Grab your your your butt at some point and so I put call me Nemo because it's like touch the butt That's so inappropriate now. I just feel like a weirdo. Okay, moving right along What did I wear in the first state? What did you wear so I'm pretty sure I know what I wore because it was like We did something outside

Do people save that for marriage? Like do people like not grab their spouse as much? I'm sure that's a bit invasive. But like, okay. Like do people not front hug? Is it like side hugs only until you're married? Why are you acting like we are the most sheltered people in the world? I don't know. I guess everybody has their standard for what they want to follow.

But you probably shouldn't have been grabbing my butt like that. Okay, I'm sure you grabbed my butt too. Also, I have no one. By the way, I've seen you slap your dad and your brother on their butt cheek, so. It's just a friendly thing. That's what I did too. It was just a friendly butt slap.

No, what's that? Where's this going? Okay, so I'm pretty sure that I had like my cute outdoors outfit, cause we were gonna go on a hike. We did go on a hike. Yes. And I'm pretty sure I wore my one pair of Lula women shorts I had that I wore all the time.

I still have them actually. That's cool. Wow, over seven years later, I still have those shorts. Seven years today, my Instagram story posted the video of me asking you to homecoming when I was like singing and playing guitar.

Yes, cute. Seven years ago, dude, we've been together for a freaking long time. And I think I wore a blue tank top. It would be really crazy. I guess is that you wore one of those Nike Mank tops that you were really into, and I almost think it was the purple and yellow one. Do you remember that one?

Nope, that wasn't it. I didn't wear it. I don't think so. We actually don't even have a picture to back it up, so we have no idea. Okay, so we both don't know this one. We both don't know. I mean, I don't know why you would remember that. I guess for some people it's like very memorable, but. I feel like you were wearing a Mank top. I did not wear a Mank top to the movies. We went to a know this one. We both don't know. I mean, I don't know why you'd remember that. I guess for some people it's like very memorable, but.

I feel like you were wearing a make-top. I did not wear a make-top to the movies. We went to a make-top. You wore a make-top. Not to the movies. You were really into makes and you still are kind of into makes. I just wore a make-top again. I used to love those.

Oh! Okay, what was that voice you used to? I'm not into those. Okay. Oh my gosh, this question is already is grinding my gears because we both say this. Oh no. Okay, what is it? Just my gears because we both say this. Oh no. Okay, what is it?

Just to get on each other. What is it? Who is your partner's celebrity crush? It is Michael B. Jordan. I guess. I could be Jordan. I just say that because it's like, I don't actually have a celebrity crush,

so I just say that one. And I know yours is Kim Kay. That, like it actually is Michael B. Jordan. Like you told me that for years. I've known that ever since we got there. Because it's just my stock answer. For that question. Hey, he's a very attractive man.

I've seen all three creed movies. He's very jacked. Has a great body. You know, I can't. And yours are okay. Honestly, a great choice. Great choice. Kim K, also a great body.

They both have great bodies. Okay, so we both got that right, right? Yeah, so do I need to write this down? Yeah, write down one point for me. One point for you. Okay, okay. What is your partner's ideal date night? I don't know what you say. What would you say for me? I don't even know I'm keeping four. Okay, okay. Okay. What is your partner's ideal date night? I don't, what would you say?

What would you say for me? I don't even know what mine would be. It says date night. But are you just gonna say date in general? Sure. Yeah, a date. I feel like for you, you'd want to do something outdoorsy. And if we're at, I think you would probably want to go

one wheeling with me or take me on the ripstick. I did just buy you a ripstick. Cause I'm gonna teat cause if you can ripstick, then you can snowboard. And I want you to know that you can't snowboard in the Phoenix heat in the best way up in the world. We can go north and we can snowboard up north in the wintertime.

Don't forget about that. We were having dinner with Dalin and Bella, our friends. And I was like, in other news, Mac, I'm here, ripstick. And everyone thought that was hilarious. I don't know why they thought it was so funny. This is just another average day in our house. I just kind of want to rip sick now too.

I don't know why I bought you a lipstick. I want a lipstick. You can have my lipstick. We know I wanted to be for you. So I think we do something outdoors and maybe hike. You know what maybe sad? No, maybe sad in Hawaii. You never would surface me into Hawaii.

I wanted to be that hot surf couple that just gets on the surf board together, like tandem surfing, we could have gone tandem surfing. Honey. And we never, Do you know I really wanted to be that hot surf for girl for you? But I feel like you never gave it a shot.

Oh, I did. You did? I did. The thing is, I was learning how to surf. I almost died. No, you did not almost die. You just can't hold your breath for more than three seconds. Exactly. That's why I almost died. Literally, I tried. I sent it out there in the choppiest coldest waves for you. It wasn't even that cold.

It was cool. People would be wearing wetsuits and people weren't wearing wetsuits. No, no one else was out in the water. It was at castles that day. That's like the beginner spot, honey. That's not like an intense area. No, I'm telling you, no one else was out in the water. It was at castles that day. That's like the beginner spot, honey. That's not like an intense area. No, I'm telling you, no one else was out there. It was cold, it was very windy. That's a very windy spot. I think we need to teach you at a swim first and then maybe it'll be good.

I went surfing several times. Like maybe three or four. More than that. Every time I don't think it was a good experience for you. So. I just didn't like it. Except for why Kiki, you did get up. I have to be true to myself.

And why Kiki, you got up, which was actually really cool. I was really proud of you. And that's because we had friends with us that were way better surfers than I was and they were coaching you through it because I was still learning so I just didn't know what to tell you to do, right? Yeah, I had fun there. That's good.

I really wanted to be that for you and sing with a snowboarding. I do it more for you than for myself because I'm like I want to do this for you but it's just not in my blood. I think for you, it's for me. Wait, I need to finish your date. Oh, okay. And then you're right, it's an outdoorsy thing. Some sort of activity.

Okay, because I feel like you like to bond and connect over an activity. It's more fun. Or something really, like, I would either, I would usually lean towards that, but I can really enjoy the romance side. Wait, what would I do more? I think that's what you would want.

Let me just go. What do you mean by romance? Let me tell you the perfect date. Okay, this is what I, for you or for me. Wait, what were we doing? I think that's what you would want. Let me just go. What do you mean by romance? Let me tell you the perfect date. Okay, this is what I- For you or for me? This is for you. And this is what I did for your birthday two years ago. Oh, this was the perfect date.

Take you out to a really nice dinner. Food. And then get you a nice gift. Well, I was just like, I think I got you chocolate covers, strawberries, and flowers. And then we sit at this like super fancy hotel. Thank you. And you get me a Kindle.

I got you a Kindle too. I got you so many gifts. Yeah, I just I just spoil all you for you. Wait, you got me chocolate covered shoppers? I did. Oh, thank you. Yeah, or actually wait, I think it was a complimentary thing with the hotel. So yeah, we sat at the super nice hotel

in Springfield, Missouri where we went to college. It was like a boutique, really cute hotel hotel. Hotel V, it's the name of it. They had a record player in there. It was very romantic. It was very romantic Yeah, and we watched a Christmas movie. That's always good. Okay, sorry I keep going because there was more to your date than that. Oh no, that was actually it And then that's where I was like wait a second Maybe I like to remore romantic stuff because when I really send it on the romantic stuff

Then somehow your clothes fall off and then it's you and then that's end I much rather do that than go on a hike with you. Let me just be honest So anyway, um that would be I think that would be your perfect date is a really nice dinner We weren't the flames take houses. It's actually where Abby and I used to work in college and we had a creepy manager It's across from black sheep and owned by the same people I'm not the same people but the management at the same people, but the management at the time, the hired GM, and the going to prison. And we actually got fired from that job, but it's because this guy was just sketching.

I hope I don't know what happened to that guy. I don't know if he's still in jail. I don't know what happened. Maybe I shouldn't even be talking about that on the podcast. I don't know. I think you should say allegedly. All of that is a legend.

We don't know for sure. It was an interesting situation at our first job in college. So we worked there. But everybody was really still wanted to go back there once we no longer, once they already got fired because food is so good. No, we actually did get fired though. Anyway, the reason I bring up that they also own black sheep

is because James Charles just went there and it was so fun seeing like a celebrity like that go back to where we like our stomping grounds where we would call it. When do you go from being an influencer to a celebrity? Like when does that happen? Because I think James Charles would be considered a celebrity. I don't he was a cover girl. That's true. That's probably when he that happened. He was like and pressure was on Ellen Davis. We get it. We were this close to being celebrity status because people magazine wanted to feature our birth photos

exclusively and then we did it in time and posted them before they did and then apparently we had to send them to them first. So they were like, we don't want to post them more. I don't ever want to cross that threshold. Oh, you don't want to be a celebrity. No, you can cross that threshold. I can cross it.

I can be a music person. Yes. But you don't want to do it. You just want to be. I'll be your groupie. Oh, But you don't want to do it. You just want to be. I'll be your groupie. Oh, thank you. What do you want to be? What do you want your title to be, Abby?

Mom. That's sweet. Yeah. Maybe I'll come up with another title sometime. You told me yesterday that you might be interested in writing a book or doing a cooking show. Like a children's book? Or maybe you could cook a cooking show.

Or an actress. You could be an actress. Or you could be an actress. You're a really good actor. Probably not in this season, but maybe in the next season. What when is that season? I don't know, whenever I feel. Is that season two?

That season, no, no, no. We're already on like season five. Oh, okay. Of Abby's ares. Abby's ares. You're in your mom era right now. I made my new mom era. I'm actually still in the postpartum era.

Okay. Postpartum era means we can't think about anything else. Nice. Other than tomorrow. We're actually till the next hour. Well, I think we both get a point for you. Yeah, we both got that one right. We pretty much crushed it on both sides of that.

What's your partner's favorite home cooked meal? Oh, that's fun. So we're talking about meals that I cook. I can't do meals that you cook for me. Yes, you can. Ready for it. Yellow curry from the restaurant by our house. Oh, salmon. I make the best salmon.

Oh, you grill it. Yeah, that is my favorite. I grill salmon, and then we use our microwave full rice packs, which it makes the rice perfectly. You can buy them at Costco. This is not an ad. This is just my personal thing. It's maybe go sticky rice.

It's so good. And we put sweet side chili sauce on the sticky rice. Yeah, we got this all from Belmont. And then, yeah, this is all from our friends down the mountain. And the soy yaki from Trader Joe. That's true. And then the, there's a local grocery store that seasoned the salmon. I don't know what type of seasoning they do on the salmon,

but it's amazing. It's marinated. And it's actually not local, it's that fruit. Oh, it's called sprouts. But the trick to, I thought sprouts is a local place. I don't think so. I don't think so. But the trick to making great salmon, like I I do is to use a thermometer, which I'm not

really that like gifted in the area of cooking, but I do know that if you cook meat to the correct temperature and don't overcook it, it's in a taste really good. Not to keep going on this tangent, but if you cook the salmon in the foil, I think it keeps it way more moist than it is. I think your eyes put on the grill. You don't just lose all that moisture. Yeah, okay, so that's my favorite that you cook.

So thanks for grilling that salmon. Of course. I think it's 145 degrees. I think that's what you cook it to. You got to take it off the grill early because it's still cooks after. You're right. Take it off the grill. You do it excellently.

Thank you. And you do make the broccoli. You gotta give you that. And I microwave the rice. And I prep it for the salmon. Well, it that. And I microwave the rice. And I prep it for you. Well, it depends, sometimes I microwave the rice. So. Okay. I think your favorite meal that I cook, that's really tough.

Why do I feel like I love my Zee-Dee? This is, oh I do love your Zee-Dee. But you gotta, come on dude, this is easy money. You know, this is the meal I always beg you for. My every food. Yeah, Screek food, every single week. If we lived in Greece, that would be amazing. The only thing that I would do is.

I feel like it's probably the most American Greek foods I am hesitant for. No, we got Greek viewers. We got Euros in Greece and they were delicious when we were on the island of Mekanos. But we're not home cooked meals. Yeah, but you just said that we don't like the Greek food if we went to Greece. We would like it. No, no, no, that's not what I said. I'm saying.

Oh, your version is Greek. My version is probably American. Yeah, it is. It is American. It's more like a kava, great style, you know, yeah, but it's really good. Thank you. Okay. We both got a point. Gosh, we know each other really well. We are. Oh, this is a lot of time together. Um, a picture of I have my phone cycle through pictures of you as my screen saver. And this is you. How do you do that? Oh, it's the one of us on our wedding night. This is Abby. She's so pretty.

Thank you. And you're wedding dress. What's your partner's favorite movie? I know yours. Oh yeah, you know mine go. It's with the guy with the movie. He's like the music. I always get this wrong for you too,

because like I always want to say the Grinch or Elf, but it's not a Christmas movie. Wait, maybe it is a Grinch. No, I don't want it to be a Christian movie. Christmas. You're such a Christmas fanatic. Your favorite because these are Elf, The Grinch, and I think Christmas of a K-Tune.

I'm literally googling this movie right now because I'm not gonna get this wrong. I can just tell it to you. No, no, no, no, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't. If you're googling it, that doesn't count. You're cheating. I can't think of the name of it, but if I can pull it up, I can't Google Matt Howard's

favorite movie. How is it cheating? I don't think you can use your phone. That doesn't count with the movie, what's it, Michael Keaton the movie with Michael Keaton. Who's Michael Keaton? It's with Ansel Elgore. Yes, and him.

Yeah, Ansel Elgore is baby true. And it's raw. Hey! Yeah. Can I get that right? Yeah. Uh, if I, you can get it right, if I can get mine right for all three of my,

I named your top three Christmas movies. So if we can have it, that's everybody's top three Christmas movies. That does not just have a musical agreement, shake-ins. Give me a second to think about my favorite movie. Look at both get points. See, if you have to really think about it, then you don't even have one.

No, I thought of one and I told you, this was my favorite movie recently. So actually, you have to get it right to get the point. I don't know, what is it? What is it? What is it, Abby? Captain Phillips. Why did you tell me that? That was last week.

Oh my gosh. You do remember it now. My favorite? You have to remember it now, that I told you tell me that? That was last week. Gosh. You do remember it now. My favorite? You've had it right now that I told you. I don't remember that at all. But that is a very, I love that movie too. Maybe I could say that's my favorite movie too. I'm like Captain now.

That's a really good part. Oh, I love it. You just watched that. Wait, I wanted to say, my favorite movie moment with you is after we get done watching. What are you about to say? That one movie on the airplane. It's the one with, is it Leonardo DiCaprio and Matt Damon?

I love that one. What's it called? The parted. The parted. I love that one. It was so gruesome and graphic and everyone gets murdered. The mafia. It's the mafia.

It was a really good movie. It was free on the airplane. I think that. We should watch it that again. Such a freaking good movie. But we liked watching violent movies if you can't tell. Abby is a sweet little lady, but she loves violence and she likes watching Game of Thrones too.

So anyway, watch the movie. Can you tell me, you're like, you know what, I love about that movie, Matt? Is there wasn't a single? It was a good entertainment. It was violent, but I'm a little... There wasn't a single cussword throughout the whole entire thing.

I'm like, Abby, they said that F-bomb every 30 seconds. We looked it up, there's a gap. They literally, I think it was 300 times. Stop it. Let me look this up. The departed. I looked this up after it. It says like, Abby, I think I've never seen a movie more where they like, I'm so disappointed in myself. They cost so much. I wish you're blind. I think you just got so used to it. That's so sad. I should never get numb to the F word. Okay. The departed F bomb count. You wanna guess? Oh my gosh, 300.

It says 237. No, that's so awful. I'm not proud of that. Okay, so I got that one right, but you got that one wrong. 237 F bomb. Give me a point. That's so many.

That's more than an F bomb per minute. How many minutes is it? 60 minutes in an hour. And so it's like a two hour long movie. Oh, that's all. That's all. Oh my gosh, wait, no, that's like two F bombs a minute. How many minutes is it? 60 minutes in an hour, and so it's like a two hour long movie. Oh, that's all. Oh, that's all. Oh, my gosh. Wait, no, that's like two F-bombs a minute.

That's horrible. I don't know how you did it here, that. I don't know how to even fit that many in. That's pretty impressive. I don't know how much enough time for that one, and any other words. I know. That's a really good point.

That's, they should get an award for that. Most F-bombs in a movie. No, it's Wolf of Wall Street. How many F-bombs they have in Wolf of Wall Street? That's probably 400. Let's look it up. How many? Which by the way, that movie in Wolf. I liked it, but it was overhyped.

Wolf of Wall Street. It just went on to Wolf. Yeah, you're right. They annihilated. It's a long movie. They annihilated the record. Do you know how many f-bombs there are? Yes.

400. Oh. 500? No way. 569 f-bombs. That's inappropriate. Yeah, thumbs are our more more 500 a little bit more no way 169 that bombs that's inappropriate. Yeah, okay, so I get a point you don't get a point no We both get a point. I'm giving us both a point. That's a captain Philip. We're tied and I said no I said you had to think about it for like a minute and you couldn't even how were you giving if any whatever I'll come back and win later. I'll put a zero for me right there. Okay. Wait, give me a half point. It's fine.

Because I knew the movie I just couldn't think of the title. You get a point. Okay, what's next? What's your partner's coffee order? Your coffee order is anything with very little coffee and a lot of cream and sugar. And so for you, it's gonna be a s'mores frappuccino, but unfortunately, it's limited time only at Starbucks. But you try to order it any time of the year and you're always shocked when they don't have it

That's not a coffee that's milk shake Abby. So it didn't say what your partner's milkshake order It's a milk shake. It's a milk. Okay, your coffee order. Yeah, it's my what's my coffee order? Dude, you don't even know your own Honestly, dude, we both cycle through it's not like you have a set coffee order You don't have a set that would be right that I don't have a set coffee order give me give me an answer Okay, there's a couple different ones for you. So it used to be a black and white latte at Starbucks You're still stuck on that that was freshman year of college We have to syrup no that was when we are newly married

And I think you were still getting it, but it wasn't my order. I still like that though I know for a little bit it was pistachio That's limited also and then well right now we're in false. You're doing pumpkin spice lattes. Look. But do I like it cold or hot or blended? Ooh, that is a tricky one. Because we did get it cold from dunking the other day.

By the way, you like dunking. I don't know why you like dunking. I'm definitely killing our chances of everything at dunking sponsorship. But. Don't do that. I don't think it's that good. Why do you like Duncan donut so much?

It's economical. But their coffee isn't good and their donuts aren't good. Their hot coffee isn't good, no. You just like to get their their munchkins and you don't not their munchkins. You're the little egg thing, the little egg thing. The veggie egg white bites and the everything bagel stuffed mace. Yeah, pumpkin spice latte, that's your order. Okay, but that's not you didn't answer hot, cold or blended? Not definitely not blended.

The mod that you do is half the sweetener. Yes. What threw me off at Dunkin' the other day, they gave us, they gave us a cold one and I didn't know we didn't specify ice or hot. I don't think we did. But which one do I like? Hot. Yes.

There we go. Even if it's 100 degrees, I like hot. I'll get a latte hot half-sweetened. I'll give you a point. I'm gonna give myself a point. Okay. Yeah, you get a point two. This is kind of freaky people are like no people watching this are gonna just know us so well. I'm gonna be like I brought you your new... Oh, yeah, it's so personal. Our coffee order. That's very vulnerable of us to share. Hey, sorry to interrupt. If you could please share this podcast with someone that entered into a new relationship, maybe they would enjoy it. Maybe this would be something fun for them to listen to because I don't know if you guys knew this, but Abby and I are

married, and we've been together for seven years. I could also share it with maybe, um, you could share it with your waxer. Whoa, that would be pretty good. They're already getting personal. So that would be an interesting job to wax someone. That would be a weird, because every single day show up and just wax people's bodies. How interesting would that be? They've seen it all. I'm sure there's someone watching our podcast right now

that's their job. Tell us what it's like. It's probably just not even weird for them. They must have some crazy stories. Share it with your waxer. Thank you and back to the episode. What is your partner's Ich? I mean, you have more than one, that's for sure.

Yeah, it is a lot of things. It would be like, what are all 1,000 eggs that Abby has? And I couldn't answer that. In one podcast, if I had a whole podcast to talk about all your eggs, I couldn't do it. Okay, one that I do, that you think that is icky. First of all, wearing shoes in the house. Wear shoes in the house is pacing me off. Because I'm on not feet get dark.

Do I hurt feet? When I eat feet off the floor. I luckily don't have dirt in my feet right now, but if when I walk around our floors, my feet turn black because people keep wearing shoes in our house. I wear shoes in the house because I don't want to step my toe. Toast to the bed.

You can wear shoes. Ask Abby, that's a good reason. That's the stupidest reason I've ever heard. Also another reason, Griffin steps on my feet all the time You can wear shoes. Ask Abby, that's a good reason. That's the stupidest reason I've ever heard. Also another reason, Griffin steps on my feet all the time and it hurts very bad. I deepbred your feet some time too. And you're gonna run it. When I go to kiss you.

And also Griffin is a little rolling rock water thing. It hurts my feet. Sometimes I go to give you, I'm so awkward in clubs. Sometimes I'll go to give you a hug or kiss and not run into your feet. You're like, I'm kissing a girl now. And then it is right here. Yeah, I'll just like run and see you. Okay, yeah.

Another thing that you have about me is when I... You think's off the floor? Where things in bed that I wore throughout the day. That can be gross. Yeah. Like if we were in like say we were like walking around Chicago or New York and then you're just getting to the sheets with what you were wearing out the streets. To take a nap you don't know that. No don't do that.

Another thing I was going to eat off the floor. You don't like that. You're eating off the floor just across. Why would you do that? Okay now name some eggs. Chewing. The biggest one is always going to be the chewy. Yeah but that's a cop out you can't do something like that. I don't know what this does this mean that I have ADHD or that I'm most I don't like that I do this weird thing with my everybody look at this I do this with my fingers and then I'll do like random my my leg We'll also bounce up and down like all like The leg shaking is kind of an egg my leg my leg So funny Shake my egg. You never shake your egg? hat, my boots, and my large muffins.

She meant men. That's too, I can't, that's so funny. We were both crying, it was so stupid. It's a little bit. My large body. Shake my head. Okay, wow. No, Matt. Your fingers and your legs shaking aren't x really.

But I think I know what our audience is saying. Our audience is sick is that we always don't're shoes on our podcast and our freaking dogs are out Don dogs that's a dog not dog Yeah, your guys is it is that we have our toes out and sometimes I'm like touch my toes Don't Matt that's gonna go on a pornography site. That's gonna go like gosh. It is That's gonna go like gosh it is When I touch my toes either they don't like it when my toes touch you either wait how is it? That people get off to feet. I don't understand that How does that even logistically work? No, here's my theory is that those people that find that actually like as a fetish

are over Blown like there really cannot be that many people that's probably like most of our viewers It's probably never were of our viewers say. It's probably one person. Because we never were on our, on our part. No, I think they just are grossed out by it. That's totally different. Oh, yeah, yeah, that's true.

No, they don't like it. Okay, so your guys is, Ick is when we touch our toes, when you can see our toes or when my toes touch Matt. Yeah. Okay, no, you're so close, but the fingers don't count. The legs don't count.

Okay. It's when you... I like whack things. No. Sometimes I'll breathe a song, so I'll be like breathing the beat of a song. So if I'm singing like rewrite the stars from the greatest show, and I'll be like,

I'm not gonna do it. I'll be like, I'll breathe the rhythm of it. I used to do that when I ran cross country. I'd breathe the rhythm of a song. Is he sure on backwards? No, it is not. No, it's when you wiggle your toes and I can hear how dry they are.

Oh, when I do this, I'll make my big toe and then my- Fomiting, immediately vomiting. Is that my ring finger toe? No, the one right next to my big toe, I'll rub them against each other and Abby hates that, especially if I'm dry feet. I have so many x about you

But I don't want to just think into you right now. I want to be my two other ones. What are two other ones? When you spit in the sink and you don't rinse it out you hate when I gargle in the shower. No, I just find that odd I do that to clear my throat I get a lot of sink and not rinse it out. I do rinse it out. My brother's own it's out and I think that's super discussing. And they also don't lift the limit. Your brothers are coming to why? My brothers also don't lift the lid when they pee and I think that's disgusting.

Okay, well you lift it. If you're a man, you leave it lifted. I leave it lifted. And I almost fall in the toilet sometimes. No, I've gotten better about that. It's just an hazard in my own house. I've gotten better and now I put both lids down. That way your mom taught me this.

She said that she made a really good point She's like everybody should have to do something when they're going to bathroom So if you always close it you she did she made a good point because it's like if you always close it all the way after You're done then if you're a woman you you know open it up to go to the bathroom and then you close it and then if you're a guy You can just like open it up completely to go pee and then close both lids I think we should do that just so we don't have a toddler getting in our toilet because it was like a dry, I caught Gryff in putting his hands

in the toilet one time. He thought it was a bowl of water just before. Gryffin also already pooped on the floor the other day. That's the egg I have about Gryffin. That's because your dad changed his diaper. It didn't put it on all the way. Thank you. Well.

So thanks Matt. Okay, I'm gonna give us both the point there. Right now, Abby's in the lead. She's beating me, currently. Another Ike I have about you, I don't know if this is, I'm actually using Ike properly, but when you're watching something that you already know what's gonna be said or sung,

you mouth it. I don't know why I do that. My mom does that too. I don't know what that is. You mouth it as it's happening. And it kinda just freaks me out. If I'm watching myself sing, you're watching myself say something. It freaks me. I of just like freaks me out. I'm watching myself sing or like watching myself say something. It freaks me.

I don't know why I do that. I'm sorry. I don't know what's happening. I'll be looking straight and then I like look back at you and I'm like, oh my gosh, why is he doing that? I don't know why I do that. What's your partner's biggest fear? Oh man.

Oh, I know for yours. Yours is claustrophobia. You hate elevators and you hate being in tight spaces. Mm. Is it my biggest fear? That's definitely a big one. I mean how deep are we gonna be using your babies would be a big That was really sad. Sorry. I don't even say that. Yeah. Sorry That's that is right though. Or you okay your biggest fear I feel like is being stuck like being limited

Being tied down being held down. That's true, that's a good point. You're a free range man. Which not to say that my, like I, like I wanna echo your biggest fears too, like obviously. You're just covering yourself right now. No, but not to, like obviously that's, I feel like that's a given.

Yes, you know? I know. So then I'm like, maybe I shouldn't count that and maybe my biggest fear should be listed as. Haustrophobia. Mm. What? What am I afraid of?

Oh, you're afraid of possums. Yes. You know offense to possums, but I have a phobia of them. Yeah, they are kind of creepy looking. Okay, so do we both get those right? I'm gonna say yes. Why are you looking at me like that? I have a fear of yours,

but I don't think I should say it on the internet. Yeah, maybe not. But I got it think I should say it on the internet. Yeah, maybe not But I got it right Okay, we're all gonna be like guessing the comments like to say the most random crap for what They're gonna go they're gonna go crazy and none of them are gonna be right. We can't say nobody's gonna be right By the way, maybe they will be give us your best shot. What is your partner's favorite thing about their job for you? It's getting to be home with your babies Yes, and to have like the flexibility to like like tomorrow during the work day Give us your best shot. What is your partner's favorite thing about their job? For you, it's getting to be home with your babies. Yes.

And to have the flexibility to like, like tomorrow, during the work day, I get to go to Griffin Gymnastics class. That's awesome. That's great. That's a true gift. Give me a hug. That is a true gift.

If I had to go show up at a nine to five, I wouldn't be able to do that. So I'm gonna echo that one. I love that one too, but what was another one you'd say? I think yours would be that you get to be creative and have, and there's a business element too. You go. And just getting to, like, when I was a kid,

I used to put on little, little shows. And you get to entertain. And sing. And yeah, I think just like working an entertainment is fun because I always wanted to do that in some aspect. And this didn't even exist when we were kids. So there was no way we could have even known that this was something that we could do. I don't know why I just thought of this, but thank you at, like, when we used to. So there was no way we could have even known that this was something that we could do. I don't know why I just thought of this but

thinking about like when we used to perform and stuff I was dancing for Griffin while he was eating breakfast the other day and but I said hey Google play wait this is gonna make someone's Google go off do it that'll be hilarious hey Google play Disney classics and I when I did that it just made someone's Google go off the first song that came up was the most random song and it goes, we're pollinators, pollinators, it from the bugs life. Da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da It was the most random song to pull up. And so I was like doing a little cane dance for Griffin. And then the next song that came up was when you wish upon a star. And you guys, I told him not this this morning.

Crazy as thing happened, I look over at Griffin. And he's not whining or really making a sound. He just has the saddest face. And he reaches up for me. And he has a big crocodile tear going down his eyes. And I was like, wait, did he just get touched by this song? So I like said something and then, or I, I thought it in my head and I said something to my mom. I don't know if he's capable of having those emotions yet.

Flash forward to this morning. She's playing Disney songs for him during breakfast and the same thing happened. You know what, I think he gets that from me because I'm not a very emotional person but music makes me emotional. It's why I like music so much. Don't matter. That happened to me as a kid too though. Really, it would make you cry if you heard a sad, like an emotional song. The song from Toy Story would make me sad. Really.

When somebody loves you, you know that one song is like, Henna Kiddes with... Stop, stop, stop that song actually wrecked me. Stop, stop, stop, stop. I said I'm not crying this one. The other song that made me sad as a kid. That one added wedding, aw.

Don't even. That makes me... But imagine if you had a little girl. I can't. I can't do that. No, but the song that made me sad as a kid was chim chim mini, chim chim mini, chim chim chim cherry. Which is funny because the words aren't sad,

but I could feel that there is a, it's a minor, is it not song minor? I don't know. It is a minor song, so then I could feel the... See, you were a choir kid. I never did choir. I played guitar and sang. That was like my musical side and addition.

Your realist in a label me as a choir kid. You were a show choir kid more specifically. We're polymatoos. Okay, back to the questions. Where did we, we got like, so a topic. That was sorry about that. Sorry, guys. What do we win?

So if you win or I win, what do we get? Oh, kiss. How about a make out? Honestly, I just want to cheeseburger. A cheeseburger. Thanks. You get a cheeseburger whether you win or lose. I can't stop thinking about cheeseburger.

How about we have a trophy that is a participation trophy and that would be a cheeseburger. Deal. And you can have mine if you would. No. I'm just being nice. Can we go to end it out after this? I've filmed two podcasts today.

Of course, yeah. That's what I'm talking about first. Okay. What's your partner's love language? I feel like your physical touch, but also you're definitely words of affirmation. I don't know which one I am. I like quality time too. I really enjoy it. Like yesterday on the way to Cumble. I just wanted to spend time with you.

No, I feel that. And I purposely wanted to drive through the really far away crumble that had the waffle cookie because I wanted to just talk to you. No, I agree. I feel like we're craving quality time, not necessarily because it's actually our love language, but maybe just because it's harder to come by nowadays. Yeah, that's true. But I feel like what makes you feel loved is probably words of affirmation. Yeah, probably. You love that. Yeah, I think I do.

What's my love about it? Actually, you're right, because I give you a lot. You give what you like a lot, and I give you a lot of words of affirmation. Mm, yeah. What's my love language? Yours is called, is acts of service. Yeah, but I think it's becoming quality time

because it's hard to come by. Yeah. I just like, I like acts of service because it's like I think it's becoming quality time because it's hard to come by. Yeah. I just like, I like Axe of service because it's like, oh, you were thinking about me. Yeah. And that's what I've realized, too, because I'm like, what if this, like, this thing that I'm doing isn't exactly what she wants, but it's just the fact that I thought about you, which makes some big difference. Exactly.

Hey, real quick. I don't know if you guys knew this, but I'm releasing music on Spotify. My name is Matt Howard. In case you didn't know, our last name is Howard. And I would appreciate if you guys can follow my Spotify account and save my song, Falling in Love. It's the song that I wrote for our son, Oggi, it was in our birthflaw.

And it would just mean a lot. So if you can do that, I'd really appreciate it. Now, back to the episode. What's your partner's dream job as a kid? Yours is definitely being an actress. What was mine? I mean, I really think yours was being an actor, like being a Broadway performer, but now,

but then you also had a part of you that wanted to be a singer. What's weird, something that I realized too that... Like an artist. So we have to be open to one day that I never even thought about was like, would probably be like directing, or like doing some sort of behind the scenes work

in a film or movie, because that's what I love to do that one, I was, like, would probably be like directing or like doing some sort of behind the scenes work in a film or movie, because that's what I love to do that when I was a kid. And that's kind of what I do when I put together our YouTube videos, like that's what I'm doing. I'm like trying to tell a story through all these life experiences that we've been through. And I'm like, okay, what's the story here? How do I make this keep this like entertaining?

And that's what directors and producers and like all the like it falls into that category. So that could be really fun. Okay, who is more likely to deal with a spider? Me. Abby. We both got that right. Yeah.

Why do you, you just love bugs? I'm the exterminator in the house. You are the exterminator in the house. And we even pay for pest control. I don't like killing them, but if they're in my house, outside, I will, you'll never see me kill a bug outside. But it's in your house. Not in my house.

You know what's sad is I feel bad, I try not to kill them now. I try to get like a cup or something, because I just like, I feel so bad for them. Like I don't wanna kill a living thing. So sad, you know, it's a life. Even if it's a bug, it's still a life. They broke into your house.

They made a whole movie about that. It's called the bug's life. But if they broke into your house. They just snuck in, they didn't break in. They didn't break anything. Sometimes they do, termites. But we haven't had any termites. If it's a termite, I'd kill that termite.

But I'm talking about like, I don't know, a moth. Okay, well then they're intruders. That's true. I get frustrated with bugs if they multiply. So it's like, that's the only reason that I would kill them. So like, crap, I don't want this thing to make more.

Let me tell you Matt, I think I'll have to get in. They'll know how to come back in. Yeah, and now they're making babies in your house. That's just, that's weird. That's a breach of privacy, you know? Reaching privacy? Yeah. What?

Okay, I don't know if that's what you meant to say. What did I mean to say then? I don't know. Okay. What is your favorite memory of us together? Okay, so your answering what my favorite memory is. Yeah, I don't wanna say the wedding day. I don't wanna say the wedding day

because that's like such an easy one. That's like, I feel like that's a cop out. Like, oh, the wedding, you know? I feel like some of your best memories are when we travel together. Yeah. And so I'm gonna say maybe our first trip to Hawaii. That was magical.

When we went to the Big Island, that's your favorite memory. Yeah, well that convinced us to move to Hawaii. Okay, so what's my favorite memory? It just was so exciting because we were young and newly married and hadn't really gotten a travel together. And like here we are going to freaking Hawaii. Are you tearing up?

I don't know. It was just so exciting. And it just like changed my perspective of life and the world and- The whole traffic together that much at all. Yeah, it was really, really special. It was really, really fun. Yeah, for sure.

Yeah, it inspired me. I'm like, man, we can live. We can leave the Midwest. I'd spent my whole life in Missouri trying to buy corn fields and not that I lived near a cornfield because you live by cornfield and I grew up by the city. But it was just such a small, the world was small to me and I'm like, man, we're in this massive world

and there's so much to do. And I was getting into hiking too, so we did a lot of hikes there. Now, the one for me would be our LA trip. When we went to LA. We found these like really cheap flights for like 50 bucks and flew backpack only, stayed in LA for a couple of days. You put your pants. I put my pants. We went to we tried the we made this YouTube video called The Weirdest Food and now trying the

weirdest foods in LA. You guys should watch it. It's actually so funny. That's why I put my pants on. That's why I put my pants on. Watch it. Cause we ate The Weirdest Foodtinal. Watch it knowing that Matt Pudis pants and that. Yeah.

I mean, it's cause we ate some funky stuff. We ate the tentacles. We ate tentacles. We ate this funky grilled cheese that was colored like a rainbow. But that was just exciting. It was just like man the world is our oyster. There's so much So much life to live so much to do. I think I was like discovering my love for travel at that point with you Because I didn't really travel a whole bunch as a kid our family trips remain lead to like the lake and then we'd go to 30 a Florida

Like destined when I was a kid So I don't know it was just like it was it was fun discovering all these new things and getting to do that with you My best friend was just magical. Yeah, okay yours Initially, I was like the wedding, but I feel like that's a cop out then I thought about the the memory two days after we got home from the hospital we were in the in the loft upstairs and then we had it was me you Griffin and Ogi all just like playing together I was playing with Griffin and I think you were holding on and you started crying because you were like this is all I've ever wanted and I thought like oh that's probably that was probably really special for you to like realize why we have our family

Because I know family was really really really important to you know and you being you be a dad to our two boys for the first time really like and a Normal family setting was like really, really a sweet memory. Yeah, there's probably something. They have all the cool things that we've done. Like a travel experience. That's what you're thinking of. Me and you hiking and being at the top of Moro Rock

and just watching the sunset. Well, some more rock in LA would be, well, that's not in LA, but it's four hours outside of LA. I would say that, and there's just some funny memories too. Like, I have of just like so many good memories of our first year of marriage living in that tiny apartment when we were in low-income housing in college.

That was like so many sweet memories. I wonder how many of our memories are like fully accurate as in like when we look at the past, we always glamorize it. I think we always romanticize the past. I think we, this sounds kind of morbid, but I think we kind of do that for dead people too. Like, you know how like if someone passes everyone. This is such a matte-houred thing.

Okay, but I was thinking about this. I heard this on a podcast and I was like, oh my gosh, you're so right. Someone passes and you never hear about like, man, they sucked. You know? It's like, it's a word for that. Yeah. Like, where are you, murder?

Nobody ever talks about someone that passed as if they were a bad person. Because it's not really a good thing to do. True, and I don't blame people, but I'm just saying like, we truly do glamorize and romanticize the past. And so I wonder like how many of our past memories were actually truly incredible and how many we just made up to be better than they actually were in our brains because our brains do that. We had a lot of really fun car rides to road trips together. There was a really fun memory that I, man, we got to hang out with these friends again,

but our friends, Grant and Shaley, this like random couple that DM just off of TikTok. Well, they're not a random couple, but at some time they were random. Yeah, we didn't know who they were. Because we didn't know who they were. Because we didn't know who they were. But we just started to talk. This was September of 2020. So this was three years ago. They sent us a DM like, hey, you guys should come stay with us.

And we should go hiking. And we were like, OK, and we booked our flights for like, I think four days after we responded to the DM. It was so quick. Such a fun. The only reason that. Fontaineous trip. Yeah, the reason that it worked out was because they, and we've vlogged this trip.

A lot of these, that's the other cool thing. This makes me like almost want to vlog more because it's kind of cool to go back on these memories. Like, we, I've vlogged that trip with Grant and Tram. No, I was listening, uh, Jess and Gabe, they make vlogs, which right now we're in a hard time. It's hard to make vlogs that we're gonna really want to look back on because we're not showing our kids faces. But they make vlogs of like, especially like their first

Christmas with Macchaya, but they're just private. Like they don't post them. So they have a private unlisted. So they can go back and still have those curated edited videos, but of their family. That's a really good idea. So we should do that. That is a really good idea. So we should do that. That is a really good idea.

I need to do that more. Because a photo album is great, but what's even better is edited, curated vlog. You know what I want to get is I think that the new VR thing, the Apple made, it's like the Apple's version of VR. You know that headset? You were talking to me about that. Okay, I don't know, I think this is correct,

but I don't know if it's right, but apparently it has like multiple cameras so that when you're looking through the headset, you can put the headset on, you can record a memory, right? I could record myself right now in this podcast studio and show what I'm seeing and show my, like show me an Abby interacting. And I could record that so that like five years now, I can put the headset back on and Play that same video and really I like that the internet is just gonna be there probably unless the world is You can probably save it and into the cloud. I'm sure you'd save it cloud. If it's in the cloud I'm never getting it again. I don't even know

Our stuff is safe in the cloud all of our stuff is in the cloud. That's so ominous. We don't have anything that's not safe I feel like it's more scary to not have it. I feel like you don't even know what the cloud is yourself. You don't know what the cloud is, and that's why you're there. No, I definitely don't know what the cloud is. Okay. We have a hard drive that's not saved to the cloud, and I'm worried that if that hard drive, like, say, caught on fire or broke or just stopped working one day,

all those memories, like all of our wedding videos gone. It's all on there. I need to move it over to the cloud. Anyway, back to what I was saying though, is with the headset, I want to get that to show me, like, to record myself interacting with Ogi and you and Griffin. And that would be, I'm gonna get emotional saying this,

but I can't just imagine, like, 20 years from now putting that back on and then getting to relive that all over again and feel like I'm there. That'd be really, that'd be precious. And hear their voices. Yeah. That's really precious because I wish I could hear my little voice because, and like, now we be precious. And hear their voices. Yeah. That's really precious because I wish I could hear my little voice

because now we get to hear our little voice voice. I try to remind myself sometimes, like, sometimes I'm trying to just, when I'm putting Gryffin down at night time, I'm trying to just get it done so I can go out and just enjoy time with you or, which obviously time with you is important. Or maybe I have a task I'm trying to complete right after I put him down to bed. But I try to really just let myself relax and just live in the moment for just a second and just realize there's gonna be a day where I'm gonna wish I could just go back and put

Griffin down again for bed. Stop. Wait, man, I said I wasn't even crying. You're trying to make me cry. I'm sorry, but I remind myself that because I'm like, I need to really appreciate this because this isn't, this won't last forever. And there's just so much beauty in the every day.

Things that we have that you just gotta cherish those moments. For sure. And there's nothing wrong with looking back to fond memories in the past. There's nothing wrong with looking forward to, you know, experiences that you'll have in the future. But if that all comes at the cost of overlooking the present,

then I think that's a really bad, that's a really bad habit to build, because you're gonna live your whole entire life looking to the past in the future and never fully living in the moment, and that's really sad. That is. That's not a way to live. Gotta enjoy the journey.

How do we even get there? I think you're talking... I think we were talking about your... I just... You would say more rock would be a memory for you. Which is really interesting, because more... Wait, this is an example of glamorizing the past because more rock Remember you were crying because you were so uncomfortable because we had hiked for 13

But I was very happy when I got to the top but you had you were crying Abby We had hiked 13 miles and you were exhausted and you were like I think you were you might have been mad at me too Because of all the hiking that we did Well, you probably just frustrated at the situation. Yeah, I was just scared because we were so, even at that moment, we were so far from our car. We had a hitch, I could get our car. We made this nice lady's though. And the pitch black, that was a little bit.

That was beautiful. That was dicey. What is your partner's most prized possession that they would save during a fire? You were both not very sentimental about items. We don't keep money in our house, so there'd be no money to save. No, you might. Your mind is going so logical.

Prize possession, like something that's valuable just to you, not necessarily to other people. Like don't be thinking about your computer or something. Gosh, I don't even know. I mean, there's not really like a physical thing that I'm like, oh you know what, maybe it'd be all. Our love notes. That's what I'm thinking of. Our love notes to each other. Okay. Those would be precious. Whenever we are going through a bad Rut in our marriage I'll look at our love letters to each other and look at those like those notes and it makes me really happy I'll do that if you were doing social media. What would your dream job be?

Probably just working in a coffee shop for me. Oh wait yours was guessy Okay yours is coffee shop Now you're gonna be doing different one. I know there's another one you can say what would mine be what would mine be though That was so cute. You would just want to work in a coffee shop You'd be like a CEO of something. I don't know. I have a lot of music artists a music a music star music a DJ I would be a DJ. I keep joking when I'm like My answer locking it in I keep joking to Abby's parents. I'm like I'm gonna be a music star Like I just like it's like it inside joke your man if it's because your mom is sarcastic

And so with your mom I'm like, but it's but your mom will be sarcastic She'll be sarcastic, but then also serious at the same time So I'm doing the same thing cuz like I I would like for my music to do well You guys always play mental games. I don't know, but I just think it's funny to be like I'm gonna be a music star Cuz it's just it just sounds so but it sounds so funny though Like it sounds so I don't know like a music star just sounds very Errogant I don't know. No. I just think it's funny. Okay. Okay anyway. No, you have to say another job for me Because I said this the other day

You would have been an actress if you didn't have kids right now you would have gotten to and I'm talking about a realistic job We talk about you being realtor at one point because you like to show houses. You didn't really get it. No, no, no. You... A librarian. I don't think you've ever voiced these to me, by the way.

You're just like, I think you had this thought and you thought that you said it to me, but you definitely never said that. I said it in the car. You never said that. In the car, I said it. Okay, next question. We talked to...

Yes, from that, but yesterday we said that maybe you could have, you were telling me that you wanna have a cooking show, write a book, and do acting. And you told me, this was on our walk-out on neighborhood, you were like, maybe I'll do a three. Then you said that and I was like, yeah, I could do that, yeah, I could do that. Maybe I'm just really good at figuring out things

that you'd wanna do. Cause I'm like, oh Abby, you could do a cooking show, oh Abby, you could write a book, Abby, you could be an actress, you're really good at acting, and then you just decided, I wanna do- I said right ahead, I'm like, oh, I wanna, I wanna start a coffee shop, and then I'm like, no, Abby, you could be an actress, you're really good at acting, and then you just decided. I want to do- I said right ahead, I'm like, oh, I want to, I want to start a coffee shop. And then I'm like, no, realistically, I just want to make coffee and talk to people. So then probably I just want to work at a coffee shop.

Exactly. Because only the coffee shop- And then I'm like, maybe I want to write a children's book. I'm like, nope, I actually just want to read children's book to kids. I've thought about that too with music, because I love EDM. And I'm like, I want to make EDM music. And I'm like, maybe I just want to listen to EDM. Like, it gets me so hyped. I love EDM, and I'm like, I wanna make EDM music, and I'm like, maybe I just wanna listen to EDM.

Like, it gets me so hyped. I love the vibe of it. Maybe I don't wanna make it. Maybe I just like to consume the product itself. But my creative brain does like to make things, so maybe I'll give it a shot and see what happens. Right now I'm not making EDM though, because I feel like, I don't know, I don't know.

I'll probably make EDM music at some point in the future, but I think I would wanna like make it myself. I didn't know I'd do that. Would your partner rather be loved, think I'd want to like make it myself. I know I would do that. Would your partner rather be loved, respected, mired, or feared? Wow. I would. What would you-

Yours is respected. Yeah, well, I think I want to, I say, I think sometimes if I don't feel respected, maybe I just want to feel respect, I think you want to be respected. Yes. Or do you want to be feared? Maybe you want to be feared.

Fear, that's horrible. I don't think either one of us would have, I think we, I think we both want to have respect. Yes. I think that's, I think that's, I think that's, I think every human deserves that. Who is most likely to apologize first? Me. No. Not at all.

Earlier today you were like, can you please apologize? I said, I'm sorry. And I was like immediate. Beak, here's the thing. I always have to ask for the apology. I have to ask you to put up a fight. I go out of my way to apologize. That is not true I'm not even gonna get in this just trust me guys. I am quick with that. I'm sorry

They just don't come they just never I don't even want to fight about this right now Where was your partners first family vacation? That's a weird one. I don't know where your first family vacation was Oh, I'm stupid Disney world. Yeah, I would say yours is probably Florida. Probably Florida. Yeah. And if your partner had a superpower, what would it be? Like if we could choose a superpower or if we already have a superpower. Yeah, what would it be if you could choose one? Oh, if I could choose one. Okay, I got mine. What would it be? Tell me what mine is. Okay, I'll try to see if you'd fall for that again. Super strength.

No, that's a good one. That's a good one. You are very strong. Maybe super strength. But I was thinking about flying. What would mine be? I want to fly. There's a bee.

You could just look at me and see me naked. I can already do that. No, you could see through my clothes. That's a really weird thing to put on the internet. I mean, I would love that superpower. I would take it. I would take it. I was thinking of flying.

Oh, actually. I mean, we were both thinking of flying. Yeah, data flying. What does that say about our personalities? I mean, both of us, which we could fly. Yeah, but I did suggest that though. I was like, Abby, we should make a rule in our room that we have to do.

That's why I said that. A no clothing rule in our bedroom. Yeah, that's right. It'd be awesome. It'd be great. Yeah. Well, I think it's pretty clear That'd be awesome. The great. Yeah. Well, I think it's pretty clear that I know Matt better than he knows me. You beat me by one guy.

I'm just kidding. And it was also a technicality because I named all of your favorite Christmas movies. So yeah. That's everybody's favorite Christmas movies. No, it's not. Elf, the Grinch, those are movies that like nobody ever watches. They're like, they're not like up there. Yeah, you're very neat. Well, you guys, thank you so much for listening to this episode.

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