The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby - WE'RE PREGNANT!!! (again)

Episode Date: February 15, 2023

We accidentally got pregnant... Griffin is going to be a big brother! In this episode, we talk through our journey of discovering we were pregnant (again) and our experience so far with the 1st trimester. Make sure to rate our podcast and leave a review if you can, it really helps us out!

We're pregnant! Surprise! I know we are actually crazy. Yes, I'm sure you're shocked. We are too. I don't know, maybe they're not shocked because I feel like some people are starting to catch on a little bit. We've known for almost three months and I'm still shocked.

There's still Easter eggs that you've been putting around though. That's Son of Graham back there. I saw a couple people comment. They noticed that. Yes. That's not Griffin. That's actually our new baby. That's our new baby back there. I saw a couple people comment. They noticed that. Yes. That's not Griffin. That's actually our new baby. Who's in the oven. That's our new baby.

That's in the oven right here. Yes. I can't believe that we're doing this again so soon. What was the other hints that you gave? Oh man. I mean, first of all, the TikTok of me being. Yes, all the TikToks of Abby being sick, Abby threw up. That was the Kishu's right now.

Thank you to the videos of me being sick. Abby's been sick in YouTube videos. She's been so sick and no one was catching on I wasn't saying that many comments. I'm like guys, how are you not catching on? Abby is freaking pregnant and she was in the first trimester going through so much crap. I felt horrible for you. So I'm sorry. I was going through it. Abby's tough you guys. She's tough and you know I've seen some pregnant women who like really take it easy and that is totally cool. Like you should take it easy.

As you should, but Abby doesn't and I'm like, I don't know how the Frick she's doing this. Honestly. I took a definite take it easy the first trimester, but okay, I don't even know where to start. I mean, this is like so wild that this is happening again so soon. It's definitely not something that we planned. Yeah. Well, I think we need to start back at that first take. Talk we made where we took a pregnancy test the first time.

No, I think we need to start back before then. Oh, where's that? Without giving too many details. Okay. But let's just say, okay, post-gryphine being born. Yes. I wasn't super stoked on getting an IUD or any type of thing like that.

Happy to not one IUD. Or any hormonal birth control at all, actually, because I was like, my hormones are still adjusting from this massive hormone shift that takes place when a woman has a baby. Like when you go from being pregnant to not pregnant, just like this, like literally within minutes, it does a lot to your hormones.

And I was like, I feel like I just need to detox and just like kinda like let things chill out. So then I was like, hormonal birth control is enough. So then we started using alternative forms of birth control once that six week mark happened. The pullout method. And. And condoms here and there, you know.

We were doing both of those things, but I think that we both knew, obviously we are adults, you know? We weren't, even though we were shocked, when we were pregnant, we weren't absolutely dumbfounded because we know how reproduction works. Please do not get it to your stage. Oh my gosh, yes.

We know how it works, and we knew that the methods that we were using weren't 100% effective. Of course. Free Griffin, I had an it works and we knew that the methods that we were using weren't 100% effective of course free Griffin. I had an IUD and post-Graphin I was like I just don't want to that area has had a lot of action recently. Yeah Well, I needed a break you had a freaking hernia surgery. That was horrible Yes, and I had a hernia surgery I was like don't want any more medical interventions at this point So we were using those two methods and without giving much detail

Let's just say there were a couple instances and I say a couple. I literally mean to we did it one time unprotected We know this is what happened. We were like, okay, what what should we do? We're looking up, you know information on the internet. Obviously When you're breastfeeding it's not like a form of birth control But it is fairly it is very unlikely to get pregnant while your breastfeeding, it's not like a form of birth control, but it is fairly unlikely to get pregnant while you're breastfeeding early on. Breastfeeding can be used as a form of birth control. It's not 100% effective.

It's like 98.5. If it's done perfect, it's called LAM or LAM. Look it up. We were doing it pretty close to perfect because I never got my period. It was still within six months and I was exclusively breastfeeding. But your doctor did tell you,

hey, just so you know, make sure that you're using birth control because breastfeeding is not an effective form. Your doctor did tell it. That's what our doctor said. And so we were almost perfect with the birth control usage, but we weren't. And.

Well, that first time, we took the test and luckily, you know, I mean... No, we have to tell more to that story. What? What happened? I can't, I don't know what you're talking about. The circumstances around it, you're gonna leave out all the details of us being in Disney with my family. Oh my gosh, you got in a big fight with your brother. So Abby, that was the first big red flag. Well, not red flag, but like Abby. That's the first like...

Indicator. Well, no, no, no, no flag, but like Abby. There's the first like indicator. Well, no, no, no, no, you skipped a step. Pony, the first test you took was negative. The first pregnancy test you took was negative. And we made a tick talk about it. Yes. Like you took a video. At what time did I lie that was real?

That was instant number one. That was like completely 100% real. Whenever you took a test, it's like, if there's a slight chance, you might as well record it. So you have the memory saved and I I did, and it was negative. And it was all good. Yeah, and I was very nervous seeing that test. Because when Abby showed us me, I thought, for sure,

that she was pregnant. Which would have been fine. And I think that we also need to mention this, that like, we knew the methods weren't 100% effective. And we were OK with that, because we were like, we know we want more kids in the future. This just wasn't the timing that we were planning on, but we were super excited about it now, but we just have to go back to the time that I found out.

But being parents is a lot of work, and so we did not want to get pregnant. We did it. It was honestly a big relief when that first test came back negative. We were just, I mean, that was a crazy time. It really was. Yeah. And so then, fast forward, I think it was like two months, one or two months. And the same.

No, it wasn't even a month. It was even more. We were talking about like two weeks later, dude. Okay, two weeks later. That was friends giving. The day that we posted that TikTok was friends giving, the day that we had that, and then we went home to Thanksgiving.

So we go home to St. Louis, we're then spending the holidays with family, we go to Disney World, okay, we're with Abby's family in Disney. That's what things got really weird because you started to have all these same symptoms that you had back when you were pregnant last year. Not exactly.

Like they were so faint that I was like convincing myself. They weren't real. What do you mean though? You smelled onion and you immediately were just like, whoa, I need to get away from that. Yeah, but I feel like I just like convinced myself. I was like, oh, I just don't think that smell is good right now.

Like I feel like the early symptoms of pregnancy you can, like the really weren't early ones, you can really kind of convince yourself aren't real. I don't know, you had so many. It was food a versions, you were craving Taco Bell. There were so many things that I was like, something's weird. And Disney, I was craving Taco Bell.

And you still, and the thing is, you still had never gotten your period at that point. You never got your period, which is wild. I haven't had my period since before, I got pregnant with Griffin. That is crazy. And now it's gonna be another long while, which is wild. I haven't had my period since before I got pregnant with Griffin. That is crazy. And now it's gonna be another long while. That is crazy.

So I remember that day we were at the parks in Disney World. And you drank a grapefruit beer in that pot. I feel so bad about that. Well, you didn't know, it's okay. I had no, I had literally no idea. We weren't trying. I had a beer which I have had. That was like the only full beer I've had in my life.

And again, even though breastfeeding is not an effective form of breast control, it is still unlikely to get pregnant. And so we just did not think for a second that Abby was pregnant, not for a second. Especially with the fact that it was just so. And then we went to universal, you ride the blog. You rode the Ballasticoaster, that one was fun, dude. I was on Crazy Roller Coasters.

Did you do the whole ride, too? I think you skipped on that one, right? You did a couple roller coasters. I skipped on the whole because it makes me block out. Yeah, but that was a fun time. It was really fun. And there was a couple things that had started to happen on that trip that I was like, you know,

I just need to be careful and just take a test before we go to the parks again. And I was starting to think about the fact that I had that beer, which is so unlike me. And I obviously spaced it in between feeding Griffin. So that was safe for everyone. But if someone liked me and I was just like, you know what, I just need to make sure.

And so we were at Joe's, Joe's Crap Shack. Yeah. With my family. And there's a grocery store nearby. I was like, you know what, I'm gonna pop over the grocery store. Does anyone need anything? And my dad's like, my dad's super protective. Yeah, and he really wanted to go with you.

He was like, let me go with you. And I'm like, no, no, no, it's fine. I'm a big girl. I can go by myself. But I think the reason you wanted to go to get a test right then was because I think you didn't like your food or something Wasn't there an aversion to the food there? No, I was just starving at this point. Oh, it was earlier that day that you had that big aversion to onion, right?

I had an aversion to onion and I was like yes. There's just a couple things I was like, you know what? What were the other things? There were a few things that we were just like that is weird There wasn't much. I was just really hungry. There was nothing. Like, I remember when you first got pregnant last year, we noticed like your poop's got really big right away, but we couldn't notice that this time around, because you were breastfeeding at the time. It didn't really show. But, man, like, there were a couple things. I can't think of them right now, but there were quite a few things.

And that's when I told you I was like, Abby, you need to take a test. Like, we need to figure out if this is actually a pregnancy or not. I feel like I was just, I was hungry and I... That was it too. Yes, you had insane hunger. You could not stop eating. That was one of them. Yes. Yes. We were at Joe's front. Joe's crab shack. And I was like, let me roll in over my dad's super protective. And he was like, no, no, no, let me go with you. And I was like, no, I had to like convince him to let me go with my self. Because I didn't want

I'm gonna know what I really needed to get and I get a pregnancy test. It was like the oddest Grocery Hall the person checking me out probably was like what in the world? I was getting like a case of beers for my dad and brother. Yes pregnancy test some like Protein drinks like like it was a weird, I was like, please don't ask any questions. And so then we get home and Griffin was so upset that night. Griffin had a hard night. We had been at the park solid day and the poor kid, he was just exhausted, you know. And I think that was another, another big sign, you know, right before you took the test

that it was clear that you were pregnant because you, I think your hormones were just, they were different and your brother Blake made a comment about- He just made a comment. He made a silly joke. Yeah, I was like super emotional. Like I got super angry with him,

which is not normal. I don't even think we've had a fight since I was like in high school. Yeah, you do not want to mess around with pregnant ladies. Then I go up to my room since I was in high school. Yeah, you do not want to mess around with pregnant ladies. Then I go over to my room and I'm like sobbing. And I'm like, okay, this feels really dramatic honestly for the situation.

And I was like, you know what, I'm gonna wait till the morning to take this test because that's what they say to do. Like you would take a test with your first pee of the morning. And the next morning, that first of all that night, I feel like was an awful night of sleep. Gervin was having a hard time. There was just so many factors that was affecting his sleep.

I was exhausted. It was probably like six o'clock in the morning and I was like, finally, I'm just gonna get up and I go to the bathroom, I see the pregnancy test on the counter and I was like, I'm just gonna take this. It's so miracle I recorded my reaction because that's how convinced I was that I wasn't pregnant.

And I, I mean, we have the video of it. We might show a little bit on the podcast Instagram. I'm playing podcast on Instagram. But the video's honestly really sad. It is, it is a really sad video, honestly. Kind of embarrassed to share it, but like I'm sure I'm sure there's some others out there that can relate. You love your babies so, so much.

And we knew we wanted more children and we just didn't have this timing in mind. So it was at the time with everything going on with Griffin, the little sleep, like I wasn't feeling good. I was like, I felt not equipped to enter into a new pregnancy. And so you see the positive pregnancy test. Yeah.

And I'm dead asleep. I've been up super late the night, you know, that night editing. I think I was up to like 3 a.m. editing, take talks, and YouTube videos, and just trying to freaking like get our content edited while we were at Disney. That was stupid.

It made the trip not fun. You rushed then to wake me up. And- Yeah, like most people I feel like at least like content creators usually think of like a cute way to tell. No, everyone does that though. They think of a cute way to tell their husband. So cute. Yeah. But I was like panicking and I think that people also can relate to being in this boat and maybe don't have a video of it, but I do have a video of this.

Of me just like dragging man at the bathroom. Yeah. His eyes were like not even open. I was still asleep practically. And what were you feeling in that moment? Dude, I don't even know. I was like, I was like practically sleepwalking. I just remember you being like, Matt, Matt, Matt, come here. And like get up, I just like.

Did you have any clue? I had no idea. I didn't even realize. You knew I was gonna take the test. I remember you buying the test that night, the night before, but I did not think you were gonna take it that morning. Okay. I don't know, it just, it really caught me off guard.

So I look at the test. Your reaction literally looks fake in a video. You look like a cartoon, just like. Really? I think I've only seen, I think I've only seen the video once since that happened. I can only watch it once, but I remember being so shocked. And at first, I kind of was like, is this a joke?

But then looking at you, I was like's no way there's actually no way yes and There's women know there's like no false positives out there and I just remember thinking oh Honestly, yeah, I mean I'm gonna be honest with you guys like at first It was like the feeling wasn't excitement. I actually have like pictures on my phone Yeah, I walked out of that room. First of all, I'm just like wide awake then. Like thinking through everything, like, when could this baby possibly be due?

How old will Griffin be? What would their age difference be? What's this pregnancy gonna be like? Like is the baby okay? I just had a beer. I was on rollercoaster. Like I was freaking out. And then that goes back to sleep.

Dude, I slept for like three hours Pist I was like how can he relax right now? Like my world is flipped upside down and he's just asleep. That's what I do That's my escape that really is like I'm sorry. I was exhausted. I couldn't even think I was like I'm gonna process this later I'm going back to bed. That's really what I thought I didn't have the option and I walk out of the room And I see Matt like his eyes pretty much closed laying next to Griffin in the bed And I take a picture of them because I'm literally looking at that. I'm like that is ridiculous

Look how I have a tiny baby and yet I'm growing another one in my stomach right now In my womb and I so I took a picture of the two of them. I was just like, this is insane. I took another pregnancy test because of course I didn't believe it enough. It was also positive, shockingly. And then I'm like, oh my gosh. And then in my head, it took me a long time

to kind of just like finally be like, I think I might be pregnant. We went to Hollywood studios then. Abby, no, you denied it for weeks. For weeks. No, like for, I don't know if it was like more than two weeks, but it was, it was a while and that day, that day was rough, dude.

That was not a fun day. I feel like it was so hard to process it. Well, we didn't tell our family immediately. Oh, no. Because we were just like so not processed with processing it ourselves. Like we needed time, the two of us to work through it. I wanted to go to the doctor because I was like,

so I was so fraisled that I was like, I need a medical professional to tell me that this is the case right now. So we just kind of go through the day. I'm like, there's a picture of me at the park. So it's like, I'm just processing things. And you had a really bad headache that day too, I'm pretty sure, because you weren't sleeping well.

I wasn't sleeping well. I was stressed. Griffin wasn't sleeping well. I was stressed. Griffin wasn't sleeping well. It was just a mess. And I think that was the sad part about the trip you guys to Disney and Universal. We really didn't have fun. Being on like, to be-

There are moments of fun for sure. And I feel bad saying that. Because that's where you should be having some of the most fun with your family. But it just wasn't fun. It was stressful and we were tired. And we were trying to take care of our baby. Meanwhile Abby's growing another baby in her belly

and we were in the Nile about it. And I think I was just like, I was just kind of scared at that point. It was scary. And you had to quickly come up with a cover for why you weren't riding rides. Because immediately we were just like, I guess that means. My parents and my brother were like,

get on this ride with us. Like pushing so hard. They know I love roller coasters, right? They're like, why aren't you going on your favorite ride? And Abby sends it. Abby loves writing roller coasters. I was like, I'm just gonna hang out with Griffin, like coming up with every excuse in the book.

Were you jealous of me? Cause I still rode the rides. I think at that point I couldn't think of any. You shouldn't even care. I was like anything I once liked just out the window. I don't know, I was like feeling dramatic about life. I'm sorry that I didn't like stay back with you. Maybe that was me that should have done.

No, it's fine. I was fine. I think I was just wrapping my head around this major life change that was taking place. And so we get back home from Disney and we, I like call my doctor and I'm like, I don't know what's happening, but I'm taking pregnancy tests and they say it positive. Like I don't know what this could mean.

And they're like, well chances are you're probably pregnant, but you need to come in. And since you never, because they were asking the date of my last period, which is how they usually determine what week you are in your pregnancy, like how far along you are. And they're like, since you haven't started like your cycle post baby, like you need to come in as soon as you can so we can like see how far along you are. And because of the circumstances of this second child's

conception, I was like, I can tell you the day that this child was conceived. And they're like, okay, great. We'll just verify it at an appointment can tell you the day that this child was conceived. And they're like, okay, great. We'll just verify it at an appointment. What was the day? These are details that the internet doesn't need to know. Okay, that's true. That's true.

Yeah, we don't need to share. So they can probably figure out if they really want to share. Yeah, if you really did the math, you could figure it out. But go into the doctor, the doctor comes in. I'm actually my practitioner, nurse practitioner, who I love, and I feel like I had just seen so recently to do my six-week appointment post having Griffin. And she comes to the room and she's like, so what's going on? She's like so so nice.

And I just immediately start crying. I'm just like, I don't know what's happening. And I'm just like crying. She's like so calm. She's like, it's gonna be just fine. Like lots of women have babies close together. And it's like, it's crazy, but they never regret it. Like it's the greatest thing. And so she was super reassuring and super kind. And so then I was like, we just have to get,

like do this appointment. Yeah, well Abby, I think up into that point, you had really been in denial. I remember you using words around me like, yeah, if this baby is actually in my belly and like, you, you were referring to the pregnancy as like a maybe thing, like as it's probably not actually happening. That's some of the craziest denial I've ever been in my life. Yes, you took two pregnancy tests like that. I'm sure I'm sure it's happened before.

I'm sure there's somebody that's taken two and got into two positives and then it was wrong, but like that must be like one in a million, you know. Yeah, I think, yeah, that's some of the craziest denial I've ever been. I don't know, I can't even explain how I've been feeling. You totally did, and like you kept, you were so confident in it too, like you were almost convincing me that you were pregnant.

I literally was like, I have made, she probably, she's probably not, honestly. And I was like, what am I saying? I'm like, she took two pregnancy tests. She's 1,000% pregnant, you know? Yeah, so basically they do the appointment. I'm so early on at this point, as I suspected, that they don't hear a heartbeat,

but they're like, they don't have a heartbeat until six weeks. Exactly. You'll need to come back at eight weeks and will, you know, do a pregnancy confirmation, a formal pregnancy confirmation, but they did do, like an ultrasound, up there, and they were like, we don't even usually see something,

but they did see something. Oh, they did. Yeah, and they also had me take a urine sample test that's like really accurate in their office. And they're like, you have, they test your like HCG levels is what it's called to determine if a woman's probably pregnant or not.

And they're like, yeah, you have the levels, they're all lined up. If they were low, we'd have you come back in, but they're super high. So we're not even gonna have you come back in. And then I was like, well, do one more thing because I was like, I said, like the most crazy mile. And I was like, what else can you do? And they were like, we could do a blood work test, if you'd like. I was like, yeah, like do it. They took like eight vials of my blood. And I was like,

yeah, I'm gonna be interested to see how this comes back. I didn't even realize they did blood work this time. Yeah, you had to leave for some. No, I had to come in the next day because their lab had closed. That's right. but I think I had to leave with Griffin at either that appointment or the next appointment. I remember walking Griffin for like 30 minutes in the parking lot of the office, because you were doing, I don't know what was happening, but something was going on.

They were examining my breasts, actually. Oh, okay. And I think they did a pap smear too. Wait, what? Wow, it was gone. Yeah, they did both of those things. All that happened. Yeah, they're quick.

That's crazy. But I, yeah, I of those things. All that happened. Yeah. Wow. They're quick. That's crazy. But I, yeah, I gump. I literally drove all the, our doctor is considerable distance from our house. Yes. I drove all the way there and back again because I was just couldn't believe it. Yeah.

The blood work the next morning. The blood work comes back. I think I had to wait like the weekend and Monday morning it comes back. And it's like, yeah, you're, you're pretty much pregnant. They don't confirm a pregnancy until they see it and hear the heartbeat. But they're like, yeah, you're pretty much pregnant. They don't confirm a pregnancy until they see it and hear the heartbeat, but they're like, yeah, you're pregnant.

At that point, we had like six pregnancy tests. There was just so much evidence, like at that point, there was literally no reason at all to believe the Abby wasn't pregnant. And I think that's when you're like, okay, like, this is the reality. And I think we are still both very scared. We were in the days, we drove around for like an hour

after that. I remember that. And you remember where we went? Because we had to go to our Airbnb, right? Didn't we have to go to our Airbnb and check on it? Yeah, but then after that we went to your brother's house. Yes, oh my gosh. Wait, there's a really fun twist of the story.

That gets wild. Do you want to tell it or do you want me to tell it? You can tell it. So we get to my brother and sister-in-law's house. We haven't seen them in a few weeks, I believe. Immediately after the doctor's appointment. Yes, right after the doctor's appointment. And we get in there and pretty much right away, my sister-in-law is like, hey, can I hold

Griffin for a little bit? And we're like, yeah. She's like, I have a really cute Christmas outfit. I want to put him in. Yeah, so then she goes up to their bedroom and she's putting Griffin in this Christmas outfit and she comes down and I immediately almost started laughing. Like I was just so shocked because Griffin was in a cousin,

one Z. Immediately we were like so excited for them, of course. So excited because I know, I knew like seeing them sing us have a baby. I knew they're like, man, like that'll be so cool because we had the first grandchild of both sides of our family is like all of our grandparents and parents were just so stoked for Griffin. And so I think they're like, man, like that's really fun. Let's have a baby too.

So yeah, they tell us and we're excited for them. But then I'm like, oh my gosh. I didn't even think at that point that we were gonna tell anybody for a very long time, but knowing that they were pregnant, I was like, we gotta tell them. It was just too exciting not to. So I made a split second decision. I pull out my phone and I'm like,

hey, let me take your picture with Abby. And fun fact, my sister-in-law is also named Abby. So there's- Not just Abby, Abby Howard. Abby Howard, there's two Abby Howard's in our family. Literally the same name. And so it's my brother Caleb, my sister-in-law Abby and my wife Abby, all in this photo with Griffin.

And I say, all right, three, two, one, say Abby's pregnant. Which they had just announced that Abby was pregnant. And they go, Abby's pregnant. And it's like quiet for a second. What are you thinking? And I'm like, Abby that Abby was pregnant. And they go, Abby's pregnant. And it's like quiet for a second. What are you thinking? And I'm like, Abby Elizabeth Howard's pregnant. And then they're like, no way. And we just all went crazy.

It was really exciting. We went crazy. And I think that's where things started to first turn for us. Where the shock was definitely still there, but it was wearing off a little bit and it was really turning into excitement and feeling like While this baby wasn't planned and came sooner than we had anticipated

Like it was really such a blessing and we were so excited to go through this journey again However, rough the first trimester can be and so yeah, that's where it started to change and it really started to become more exciting and comfortable in our eyes. I was stoked. As we were told. When they told us, like, that was like a night and day shift for me.

I was so excited. And then I started to be like, wait a second, Griffin's gonna have a sibling that's 13 months apart from him. Like how, they're practically twins, you know what I'm saying? Like, we hadn gonna have a sibling that's 13 months apart from him. Like how, they're practically twins, you know what I'm saying? Like, we hadn't even gotten to that yet. What do you mean? They're ages difference.

Oh, that's right. I think that was another appointment later on. Yeah, so we go back for Christmas and we're like, okay, we gotta tell family then, even though we were still pretty early. Yeah. It was like, we're not gonna see them for a while. We wanna tell them in person and how fun would it be

to tell them with our brother and sister-in-law that we're also expecting. Oh, totally. It was just gonna be like the greatest surprise for the family, not that we wanted to steal their thunder or anything. Yeah. Which I kinda did feel a little bit about.

I was like, maybe we are stealing their thunder. No, yeah, we definitely didn't want to, so we were trying to navigate that. But what we ended up doing is we had them announce first, everyone freaked out, and then we announced second, and then people freaked out again. Actually, I think they freaked out even more, because they're like, you're pregnant together, you know?

No, but Caleb and Abby are so gracious, and like, not like that at all. So I wasn't really worried about that, but it did cross my mind. Yeah, but we didn't even really tell many friends. I mean, they're still right now, as we're speaking, there was a ton of friends that don't even know we need to go tell them, because- Well, they know now. Yeah as we're speaking. There's a ton of friends that don't even know we need to go tell them because-

Well, they know now. Yeah, we have some- Because this is being filmed. That's true. You guys are watching this- When you're watching this, we filmed this two weeks ago, so fun fact. So yeah, but we go back and we tell family and I think my favorite reaction personally was your grandma Sharon's friend to go. She was, your mom was really smart because Matt's mom told her he was like, she was like, make sure that grandma sharing is sitting down for this announcement

because it's gonna be a lot. Oh my God. And so, I don't know, Matt, your family is like the most joyful people. They're so joyful. And so they were so excited. And your grandma, man, I thought she was gonna have hard time. I love my grandma.

She is the sweetest lady and she still sends us cards. She'll send us gift cards in the mail. She sends, you can always send me Starbucks gift cards. Starbucks gift cards and then she'll send me a cheesecake factory gift card. Is that where we go for our date nights and what was really,

She just sent us an Uber Eats gift card. No. She's the greatest. Oh, thanks grandma. Not just because of her gift cards. No, oh my God, she's just so sweet. Most thoughtful. She's so thoughtful.

And we're not, we're horrible at gift giving. We're so bad. We get better at that. We do need to get better at that. But what's funny, you skipped the part though, we surprised my parents on Christmas morning with the news, right? Wasn't it Christmas morning?

No, it wasn't. Oh, that's right, we had to do it after Christmas because my brother came in late. Yes. Yes, so my brother and sister-in-law came in for Christmas late. And so we waited till they were there at my parents' house,

and we had our own Christmas morning on December 29th. 27th, Thursday. 27th, one of those days. It was the 28th, then. The 28th. And I think what they ended up doing was they gave my parents, was they cousin onesie? Is that what they did?

They gave your parents the cousin onesie. They're like, this is your Christmas gift. This is your Christmas gift. They didn't even give any context. And then, yes. Then, you want to say what happened next. Yes. And then what happened next is we had a big brother, onesie for Griffin.

And, which might I add is very difficult to find. Oh. A six month old onesie. Yes. That says big brother. They're gonna say little brother. Oh, 100%. They make them. We get them on Amazon. We've logged all this, by the way, so I'm really excited for you guys to watch the vlog.

I think we're posting that soon because just to live that and record that was really cool. I really tried to just be in the moment as we shared all this with them because it's hard. You want to document all those special moments, but you don't want to be so about documenting it that you don't live in the moment. But anyway, we set up our camera. We're like, all right, let's take a picture and we get everyone together.

I feel like it was really thrown together because we were just so excited. Oh, yes, so nervous. We waited so long. And then we hit them with the news and everyone went wild. It was really exciting. And my dad started to cry. My dad always cries. He's such an emotional guy. He's so long. And then we hit them with the news and everyone went wild. It was really exciting. And my dad started to cry. My dad always cries. He's such an emotional guy. He's so excited. I think he's really, really hoping for our girl. Yeah, he really. For at least one of us.

I think we're having a boy. I don't know. We'll see. Um, anyway. So he starts to cry. I'm not even crying. And I don't know. I didn't inherit that gene from my dad. I'm like my mom, my mom's an engineer. She got her bachelors in civil engineering. She's a very smart lady and she's like super, just like, she's a boss woman. She's, I don't know, she's not very emotional and either am I. So anyway, my dad's crying and it was just a really

special moment. Your brother Josh was so sweet too. So happy. Given the biggest hugs your mom was clapping and jumped. She probably did one of her classic high kicks. Yes. It was a great time. And then we told my family who, my parents poor things.

So shocked. Yeah. I think that, I think pregnancy, like experiencing your daughter being pregnant is a stressful thing. Because you're like, this is about to be really tough for them. There's a lot of things that can happen. And they just see me go through a lot. And I don't think they were quite ready

to see happen again so soon. They love being grandparents though. So they're really work-sided, but I think they were just shocked. It can be scary though. And there's people that have really scary pregnancies. And there can be different complications. And we've people that have really scary pregnancies and there can be different complications. And we've been so blessed so far to have no issues

with this pregnancy or the pregnancy before with Griffin. So we've just been so thankful for that. Yeah, there is a lot of risk. And I think there's so many people have a miscarriage and people just don't talk about it. I think people are slowly starting to talk about that more and more. I think back in the day, people either didn't realize about it. I think people are slowly starting to talk about that more and more. I think back in the day, people either didn't realize

that they did or if they did, they didn't want to share about it. They wanted to keep it private. And they wanted to try to be all happy and put on not a show, but just not bring the mood down. It's not comfortable to talk about. It cannot almost make it worse to have to just talk about all the time rather than just kind of move on, deal

with it within your circle. But anyway, so we tell our parents and they're super excited. But also shocked to tell my grandparents and everyone was just like, what is the age difference going to be between these two kids? What stunt is we missed my family's big Christmas party because they bumped it back They bumped it back thinking that we could all be together But they didn't realize that Abby and I were gonna be out of town for new years Yeah, so we were out of town with with Abby's family

And so we facetimed in for the big family Christmas party when my brother and his wife told the whole extended family Yeah, whole like big extended family that they were pregnant. And then on the FaceTime call, we're like, wait, what? That's crazy because we're pregnant too. Like we didn't know. Everyone freaked out. Yeah, it was so cool. Very fun. Yeah. So so cool.

So telling family definitely started to like get it settling into our heads more. And at this point, I was starting to feel sick too. So I was like, if we don't tell family soon, they're gonna find out because I started to throw up. I started to hardly eat anything. Well, there was that TikTok, Abby, where you, I remember being woken up in the middle of the night

where you just, you were like, Matt, Matt, I need you. And I'm like, what's going on? You're like, I think I'm gonna throw up. And so, I was hardly, if I get up, like to go to the toilet, I'm going to throw up. Yes. And so I was basically trying to get you to get a to the toilet, I'm going to throw up. Yes. And so I was basically trying to get you to get a trash can as soon as you could, but you were so tired.

But I sprinted though, like the second you were like, I was like, do you need a trash can? And you said yes. And I sprint to the bathroom. And right as I get up, you just started puking all over the carpet. Projectile. Oh, it was so, it was so sad.

And so I grabbed that trash can. I will never eat lasagna again. Oh my gosh. Yeah, yeah. And so I grabbed that trash can. I will never eat lasagna again. Oh my gosh. Yeah, yeah. And you broke blood vessels. I can't vomit like a normal person. And I didn't know how to clean up vomit off the carpet. My dad always did that for me when I was a kid.

My dad's the sweetest man. He just, yeah, such a great dad. But I never cleaned up puke before. So I was like googling how to do this. You cleaned up my puke the first pregnancy. Oh, you're right. Oh my gosh, I scooped it out of the sink. Yeah, you don't need to get me to do that.

Okay, we don't need to give details of that. Anyway, so actually, I guess I have cleaned up puke before, but never out of the carpet. So that was a learning experience for me, which I looked up how to do it on YouTube, and I think that shows my age because people are now looking up how to do things on TikTok, which is way faster.

Oh yeah, you're such an old man. I'm such an old man anyway, but we figured it out. Well, Matt was cleaning it up and I was feeling so sick because like I said, I can't really throw up like a normal person. Like I literally have the most violent, bomb-a-ding experiences, not to be disgusting, but like it breaks blood vessels in my face, my neck, my eyeballs. And like I just had so much acidity in my face, my neck, my eyeballs. And I just had so much acidity in my throat. I thought I was gonna throw up a good and I did.

I just kept taping that night. And then after that, everyone for the holidays wants to make the classic Christmas ham. Oh my God. And ham is a massive aversion for me when I pregnant. It was with Griffin too. And so I'm like, I'm not eating any of that. The only thing I want to eat is bread

and I don't even really want to eat that. Like I was being super picky, which is also not like me. I will eat any food normally. And so I was like, if we don't tell them, they're gonna find out because. And that happened before we told them. All of the throw up and the being sitting.

So I thought they would be more onto us. But it was so soon. I don't even think their brains went there. No, they had no idea. I think they were be more onto us, but it's that we're so soon. I don't even think their brains went there. No, they had no idea. I think they were suspecting my brother. They were suspecting him to, you know, him and Abby to be pregnant, but they did not for a second thing that we were. And either did we.

Either did we. We're still in shock. I'm still in shock, dude. I'm still so confused. My mind is fully wrapping around it. It's crazy. Because I don't, I have to process it because it's happening currently to me.

Yes. I feel like this pregnancy has been textbook like the pregnancy with Griffin. Yeah. Like I have the same things that are giving me a versions. I have the same like lot, lot, lot, loss, loss of appetite. Yeah. The same nausea, headache, fatigue, all that is the same, but it's now that I'm like about 12 weeks. Totally. I'm starting to get over that

and which is like the same timeline. Totally. So. It's been, yeah, it's been difficult, like figuring out things that Abby can eat. We've been doing a lot of takeout. We've been, we've been just like getting literally whatever just sounds good in the moment to Abby.

Like I, and what stinks too is like, something will sound good to her, and then like 45 minutes later, boom, it's gone. You can't get that. And no longer is a craving for her. So. It's not really, I don't really feel like I get cravings. I just like, in an instant, I think of something

that I could possibly eat. And today that was Krispy Kreme donut. Today I did actually kind of have a craving though. I was like, I really want a Krispy Kreme. Those were delicious. That was a great idea, babe. Which the last time that we had Krispy Kreme was literally when I was pregnant with her. Yeah and they were free too. We got some free ones which is very nice. Maybe the hot light was on. I don't think

it was because they were not hot. I think what happened is I think the girl working saw us recording and then I and then she was smiling really big and I think I think she might watch her videos because then she just gave us a bunch of redone us. Maybe she was just, it's like super nice person and didn't even know who the happy were. I had two donuts. Had a sugar high.

They were so good. Yeah, that was really nice. But yeah, I'm starting to finally get out of the Sikki first trimester, which I'm really grateful for because some people are pregnant, they're pregnant the entire time, are nauseous the entire time,

involving the entire time. And like like need to get IVs. And that sounds miserable and those women are warriors. But. It's funny though, because I would never, I would have never thought I would be saying this, but I really do think we have the best years ahead of us. I really do.

I mean, we're gonna have two kids so close in age, they're gonna be such best buds. I think it's gonna be another boy. I think they're gonna be, you know, just such and hey if it's a girl that's gonna be so exciting too Yeah, I don't care. I'm just excited for a baby and you know I'm really looking forward to those years especially recently going to Disney World It'll be cool to take them there universal On trips we love traveling and I want to show our kids the world

Mm-hmm It's gonna be so fun and obviously It's going to be extremely challenging having a 13-month-old and a newborn at the same time, but I can also recognize that we are like incredibly blessed to have the freedom that we have to both be able to parent at home the whole day and You know, we have such a great support system system which means everything I know that a lot of women and maybe single dads too don't have that and that is that's so tough and my heart goes out to you and yeah I feel so blessed but

then also I'm starting to like finally just be so excited for this little life that we're about to welcome and it's gonna come so soon. I feel like the second pregnancy is gonna fly by and it's just gonna be also this is why I've been crying a lot recently in our past two podcasts episode. My hormones are raging but um I'm shocked I don't think you've tried in this episode yet. Oh it could come stuff. I thought for sure you'd try in this episode. Because I think that we've only been talking about the stressful side of things. And now things have flipped where I just like feel so grateful.

Is the happy things that make you feel the motions? Yes. Yeah. Like I get to feel, I feel like it's such a blessing just to get to, you know, do this crazy thing again. Selfishly, I'm really looking forward to having more time with Griffin. I know, Matt keeps saying this. I am so stoked, Griffin has just matured so much and he knows who I am now.

He can tell the difference between. He prefers Matt honestly. And we're just best buds. He's laying his little head on my shoulder and we just cuddle and I just- We close when you see him. And recently we had babysitters bail on us to where I had to just screw it.

I couldn't work, I couldn't edit. I had to just push all that to the side and have a lot more time with Griffin. And we've had so many good times together recently. I'm looking forward to having even more of that as you have to breastfeed this new baby. But when the newborn baby is gonna like need me obviously more than Matt at the beginning,

because I'm probably gonna breastfeed this baby also. And so therefore that just requires a lot more of my attention than Matt. So then Matt thinks he's gonna just take over Gryffinduity. Yes, Gryffind's gonna be my buddy. And by the way, when we say Gryffinduity, we've always said that like if Abby goes,

if I work out, Abby's on Gryffinduity, if, if I work out, Abby's on Griffin duty, if- If I work out, yeah. Matt's on Griffin duty, because it's how we call it. Because we, we, we, we tag team. Like when we're both at the house, no one's on Griffin. Oh, if I take a shower, I'm like, you're on Griffin duty.

Yeah, no one, like at the house, we, we just like tag team, we work together as a unit. But when one of us is gone, then the person that's at the house alone with Griffin is on Griffin duty, because there's no handing him off. Like you're, you're, you know, always watching that kid. And that's at the house alone with Griffin is on Griffin duty, because there's no handing him off. Like you're always watching that kid, and that's why I have so much respect

for single parents out there because. Yeah, there's no break. Oh my gosh, they're incredible. Like seriously, I don't know how single parents do it. That's just insane. They're superheroes. Yeah. It's literally gonna be so wild in that.

Like I don't think we have any clue what we're in for. If you have two children close an age, please send tips and maybe some encouragement. We don't think we have any clue what we're in for. If you have two children close an age, please send tips and maybe some encouragement. We don't need any discouragement because we really are excited for this new addition. It's gonna be such a whirlwind. I feel like I'm already starting to get a little bum. But they do say comes a lot faster with your second.

Yes, well, I can already tell. I mean, I think it definitely is coming faster than it did before. It is coming faster and just crazy. I'm gonna be huge again. I was literally going through my closet and looking at all of my maternity clothes with a crook fin. I was like, wow, I'm gonna wear those again right quick.

How are you breastfeeding right now? How are you doing that? It is a lot to be nursing while pregnant. I will tell you that I feel like it's just sucking my ear. She got me daily. But I'm just gonna keep nursing because I've like looked into it and I think we're good to go as long as this baby still continues to grow as healthy and strong as he or she has. Until that point, I'll probably continue and Griffin's still eating great or nursing great.

So I'm like, we'll just keep this up until further notice. Hey, I'm really proud of you. I really am. The way you've approached this whole thing, you've shown so much maturity. You've been so brave. You've been so bold. And I know that you are so looking forward to like getting back into CrossFit and getting back into doing all the things that you wanted to do before you were pregnant

and it crushed you that you weren't able to do that. And I'm just at first, at first. But just like the, I wanted to get in my strong phase again. No, but like the new way that you've approached this whole thing has been really cool to see. And it just shows how good of a mom you are and how selfless you are, really.

That's really sweet. We are so grateful for this new baby and we are so, so excited. And we don't think that this is a mistake at all. Of course, it is unplanned. It is an accident. I mean, it was. Accidents sound so bad, but I mean, it really was. The accidents can turn into a really good thing.

And that's totally what happened. I am so excited. Maybe an accident, a banana mistake. How about that? Exactly. Yeah, I'm really looking forward to this. And I really do think that our best years are ahead of us. This was how our family was meant to grow and it's going to be really beautiful. Yeah.

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