Two Hot Takes - 128: Justifiable Reactions?!

Episode Date: August 17, 2023

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Lauren! This episode features stories that have us deciding was the reaction for those involved justifiable? Or did they take things too far.. or not far enough? Can't wait to hear your takes.. I feel like there's a few we could all differ on. Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Bonus Content on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: Talkspace: Get $80 off your first month at Talkspace.com/THT Care/Of: TakeCareOf.com Promo code: tht50 Lume: lumedeodorant.com/tht  Athena Club: Get started with Athena Club today by shopping in-store at Target nationwide!

It's been a bit of a couple days for me. I've recorded like four father-in-law something episodes in two days. Wow. Why so many? Because we're all traveling. My dad's going to Australia. I'm going to Minnesota. Australia. Australia?

Wait, I didn't know that. What's he doing that for? He's got a job there. Memorial board job. That's amazing. Really good for him. But I've been having like a minor meltdown. My face had the craziest reaction to a lotion I've been using for literally a year and a half, randomly,

and it gave me a chemical peel. So I'm just feeling really not great today. I'm just going to preface this. So if I'm fiery, it's probably because my face is literally burning and feels like it's melting off me. You look great though. Skin looks flawless. That's because I just took a wet paper towel and literally like, fucking sanded it because it was, I literally looked like a snake. Like my skin was flaking off.

God, like it just, it's burned. It's burned. Yeah. But enough about me, how are you doing? Whew. You've had a busy day at work. Yeah. Chaos all around. Yeah.

So, I feel like no matter what, I don't know. I don't know how to really set up this theme. It's justifiable reactions. So it's all these stories where like there was a reaction to the problem and we're determining was that justifiable or do we think it's a bit over the top? Okay. Because there's like, I can't really think of like a concrete example. Maybe my face, I'd a panic attack and sort of crying.

And I'm like, but that's kind of justifiable. But I'm like, there's some other stuff lately that I've been dealing with where I'm like, that is the, that is, that's not a justifiable reaction. Reaction. Reaction or other people's. Other people's. And I'm like, do you have any like of your own reactions that you're like, that's not justifiable?

Um, give me a minute. Yeah, because it's kind of hard to, you know, every like reaction that we have, we're like, it was justifiable because we know where it's coming from. Do you know what I mean? But it's hard to just sit and reflect and be like, hmm, was that justifiable that I acted that way? No, it wasn't.

You know what I mean? My moment of chaos happened during the holidays this year and I think I shared it a little bit, but my parents, we were all back in Minnesota. I had spent like four or five hours decorating the Christmas tree and my mom and my dad literally just started fighting and my dad, like he is oftentimes rational,

but when he starts pounding, he is a fucking powder. And he was like, fine, I'll go stay at a hotel. I won't stay here to net. And my mom and my dad are very, they're still that before. Yeah. That's my go to. I'm going to remove myself. But they're very, they're still friends, but because of the history, sometimes they're water and oil.

They still mix and they're just going at each other. And he's like, fine, I'll stay at a hotel. I got so fed up with them fighting. I took the biggest pillow off the couch and just so long it into the Christmas tree. Oh my God. Knocked it over. I thought you were gonna say like either your dad

or your mom, but no, the Christmas tree, that's even worse. I just, because that's the only thing I can like hurt. I'm like, I spent the time making this. Oh my God. I put my heart in soul into the tree and I just fucking like bonked it down. And then I went back again

and I'm just beating the tree with the pillow. And I go, I literally screaming. I'm like, is this fun for you? I felt like Kurt Cousins. Do you like that? Do you like that? Oh my God. I don't like never told me that story.

It's been like eight months since that's happened and you haven't told me. Cause I'm a little embarrassed, like I understand. It's on hinge, that's on hinge. And it's so crazy where it's like, I never acted. Like that as a child when my parents were fighting and it's like, I act like that now. Yeah, you're like a 28 year old.

You had to make up for it. You're like, I was so good when I was a child. Like now I get my moments. I get my time to shine. Boolean, coach. That's hilarious. So I think that's one where like, looking back, I'm like, no, that was not justifiable.

Like, yeah, that poor tree. And it, it looked beautiful before I took it out, but I only broke a couple ornaments, so whatever. And it stopped them from fighting. And he said, I'm not one's, no, my mom like My mom has like first grade ornament that he made for your mom I didn't pull any of those out my mom. My mom is a little bit of a Christmas shopaholic

Slash a hoarder. Okay, so my mom has over 40 bins of Christmas decorations So I just grabbed the first bin I could find. And I didn't have any of the sentimental ones, so you were in the clear. That's good. She's got that in a box. Like, when your house is ready, I'm gonna ship your ornament.

Yeah. But it was unhinged. And I, you know, looking at some of these reactions, some of them are unhinged, some of them personally, I think are justifiable, but we're gonna put it to the test. We're gonna chit chat about it. I know this has been a longer intro, but the challenge today is to see how many stories we can get through. Anything over five is good. I'd love to get through seven, because we'll see what we can do.

Okay, no guarantees, guys. I see you. Get the shut up. Read the stories. I see you. This one is for you. I hope you're happy. Why'd you have me on it for this one? Ha-ha-ha. Could have like done anyone else. Yeah. Ha-ha-ha.

It's like even every single story that you just said in the intro, I was like, oh, I have something to add to that. Ooh, and then I'm like, no, just let it go, keep moving. So what's your, do you have a reaction? And then we'll get into it. Well, and then I'm like, no, just let it go, keep it moving. So what's your, what do you have a reaction? And then we'll get into it. Well, okay, so when I was little actually, I didn't know how to like channel my anger.

Like I just sometimes like my brother would make me so mad. I'd go to my room and I would just, I never ever swore in front of anybody, but I would go in my room by myself and I would swear, like I can say, every swear word that I knew. And but I would never do that in front of anyone. If anyone's sworn in front of me, I was like, don't do that, that's bad.

And so I would just like release it all in my room. And I threw something, and it was this gift that I was given from, my parents gave it to me from like Mexico or something. It was this little bird that was hanging. And I threw something just, you know, chaotically, and it hit the bird and shattered it because it was a ceramic bird.

And I was so sad. And I remember just like crying and thinking like, I'm upset. And so I just ruined something that I love. Like, that's, that sucks. And then what was funny is that, you know, however, like, meet like a month, maybe months later, I don't know how much longer, I got that upset again.

I went into my room and I had, like, I don't know how much longer. I got that upset again. I went into my room and I had, I don't know, some type of toy, like hard thing. And I had it in my hand and I'm like, I'm not gonna ruin anything just because I'm mad. I'm gonna throw it at my bed. So I threw it at my bed and you know what it did? Broke. Nope, it bounced off of my bed and it made a hole in my wall.

At least it was the wall and not your face. I did. Broke. Nope. It bounced off of my bed and it made a hole in my wall. At least it was the wall and not your face. So well, apparently like it's just, just don't like throw things as kind of what I learned from that. Even when you really want to. Yeah. So that I think that was that's a good one. Yeah, that's nice. Solid. Hey, we both came up with examples. That doesn't usually happen. Here you go. Okay. Let's dive in. Yeah, it's missed. Solid. Hey, we both came up with examples. That doesn't usually happen. Yeah, here you go. Okay. Let's dive in.

Wow, let's do it. That's a long intro. That's bold of you. Okay, so this first one, it's coming from AITH, not the usual amideasal, but there's, you know, the age at the end. Okay. My sister, 30 female, got married yesterday. I, 32 male, was so happy for her and agreed to help her out. She told me that the wedding was child-free,

which I understand. So I asked my best friend if there was any way he could watch my son and he agreed. I arrived at the wedding and found that it was not child-free. There were probably 15 children there. I was confused, but didn't want to make a scene, so I waited until my sister came over to me, and I asked her what the deal was. What she told me broke my heart, and I don't know how I can look at her the same way again.

She confessed that my son, 12-male, was excluded because he has an amputated leg. She said that it would draw attention to him at the wedding. I almost lost it. I could understand if he was going to be disruptive or something, but because of that, I didn't trust myself in that moment, so I just walked out and went home. When I got home, my son asked me why I was back so early, so I made up some excuse and then spent the rest of the day having fun with him him because it was the only thing keeping me sane. Since then I've been getting dozens of messages from people saying how me leaving caused my sister to start crying and the whole wedding was ruined. But I honestly don't care right now. I'm a mess. I'm a single dad so I don't have

someone to help me right now. But these messages are actually making me wonder. Am I the asshole? No, absolutely not. That's disgusting behavior. And I'm glad that her wedding was ruined. And you know what? Like he did not do anything to actively ruin that wedding. She decided to ruin that wedding. She actually could have kept going on her merry way and had a great wedding

She was affected by his Really good decision of exiting the situation because he didn't trust what he was going to say and she ruined her own wedding so I There's no part in my mind that thinks that he's an asshole like that is unacceptable No question. What she said, unacceptable. Unacceptable.

I'm honestly really surprised he didn't do more. Like, and I'm like, I'm so proud that he didn't. But like, God, I just told you guys I took down a Christmas tree. Like, if this were me, I would, oh, I just don't know how it would react. I think I would probably follow suit, actually. But you know how you watch movies sometimes, and there's the scene where everything goes to shit, someone pushes a cake down, they throw the wine, and then all of a sudden it's like, hey, are you listening to me?

And it zones back in. And none of that happened. Yeah. I, like, in the... That's what you envision. That's a hundred percent. that's what you envision. That's a hundred percent. That's what I envision. Like, did you see the video of the guy

that was cut, like cake cutting with his wife at their wedding and he used a sword and started hacking at the cake? No. Crazy. Absolute idiot. But I, like in this situation, it's like, oh, my son isn't here

because of his ampute. Wait, he was doing it to be funny? Or like, yeah, okay. I'll pull up the TikTok and show you. Okay, you got it. Basically, these two people got married. They're cutting their cake and the guy takes the sword and starts hacking at the cake.

Runes their whole cake. Interesting. And so in my head, I'm like, oh, my son's not at your wedding because he has one less leg. Yeah. Well, guess what, bitch, you're not gonna have a cake. Hack, hack, hack, hack. No, I think like I would just,

I would be a little bit more meticulous because in that case, it would look like I'm fucking crazy, right? Like people would just be like, why the fuck? Like they'd have videos of it, maybe on TikTok, they'd be like crazy lady, Roomscake, you know, whatever. And so what I think what I would do is be like, anyone have a mic? I wanna make a toast to my lovely sister,

who, and then I would just say that, has the warmest, biggest heart, which is why my son isn't here. Oh, that's right. You didn't want him here because he has an everyday leg. Yeah. Oh, cancel that speech. Thank you.

Have a good night. Yeah, drop Mike and leave. Like, that's what I would want to do. Because then it's just like, you're not the crazy one. You are a little bit malicious, but you're not the crazy one. Like, to me, I'm like, that's justified. So that's what I'm saying. Like, this move that he made,

it's actually the most mature thing he could have possibly done. He did not ruin her wedding slightly. She ruined her own wedding in every single way, like every single way. Yeah, like even after she was a complete bitch and you know decided to, I don't have make that horrible decision, it's like he could have left and she could have just been like,

all right, well we are gonna like proceed and move forward, not think about it until tomorrow, but no, she decided to ruin her own wedding. So not the asshole, 100%. Good, yeah, or I think we're all in agreement. Top comment on this one, not the asshole. 100%. Good. Yeah. Or I think we're all in agreement. Top comment on this one, not the asshole. You did not ruin the wedding.

You left it when you found out your son was not invited. For fear, his amputated leg would take attention from the bride. I felt icky just typing that out. Yeah. What did she think would happen? Did she think you would not notice all the kids at a wedding? You were told was child-free? Have you found out what fairy tale she has told as to why you left?

Anyone messaging you, saying you ruined the wedding, I suggest the following response. And then they like, I tallessize it. I made a choice to leave when I learned the wedding was not child-free, as I had been told. But rather, my son had been excluded for nothing more than my sister's fear, his amputated leg would somehow overshadow her. Had I been told the truth up front, I wouldn't have been there to walk out in the first place. If anything ruined her wedding, it was her own lies, deception, and ego. If knowing the truth, you still side with her, let me know now so that I can add you to the list of

people on my no contact list. No, no, it's absolutely. No, it's just absolutely wild. I don't know. Oh, it's so frustrating to me how people when they have a wedding get so self-absorbed. Like I understand it's your day and it's that like in there's certain situations where like you shouldn't try to please everybody, like certain what like, sores you've told, you know. But when it comes to something so disgustingly vain, like a child who lost a limb and you think it's going to take away from your attention, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself who the fuck you are. Because that's like disgusting behavior.

Also like, Grinit, he's 12. I don't know how like fresh this is. I don't know what caused the amputation. You can have an amputation from cancer, if you have bone cancer. He could have had a traumatic accident. I worked in the ER. I saw a little girl get run over by a lawnmower. She lost her lower leg.

I saw like the crazy shit. You don't know what he went through. You don't know how fresh it is. But in my head, I'm like, if this isn't a fresh injury, he could be very well adapted to this by now. He could already have his prosthesis. He could be wearing pants in a nice little suit.

Who's gonna fucking notice? It doesn't matter though. That's the thing is that there's like, it doesn't matter no matter what that context is here, but it's like, how delusional are you? How fucking unhinged are you that you think this little 12 year old is gonna take away from your day? You're the bride.

Of course everyone's gonna be staring at you. It's just one of those things where, you know, sometimes we read these stories and we don't know. There's two sides to two stories, people like skew things, but like this is one of those stories where it doesn't matter the other details. Him not being allowed in the wedding

and other kids being allowed in the wedding. Bottom line, bad. That's what her nephew, that's her nephew. My brain just gets so curious. I just want to know all the details. I'm just such a nosy little shithead sometimes. And my OT brain, I go like, okay, well, why would he take away?

I'm like, what's happening there from an OT perspective? I just like, I wanna know. I wanna know. I mean, even if it was- I don't need to know, it's none of my fucking business. I get that, but I'm just curious. It's like, even if it was fresh, like, she should be like,

carry him. I don't care what you have to do. Like, have him show up. I want him there. I want him included. I don't want him to feel. Yeah. Ugh.

Unbelievable. There's a couple comments from OP, not the asshole, holy shit. What was your sister even thinking? That you suddenly went notice that 15 other children were there? Did she exclude every other person with visible disabilities? Because they might take attention away from her precious day. What she did was just plain cruel. Yeah.

And OP goes, I honestly don't know what she was thinking because I don't think I can talk to her right now. She couldn't even tell me why she didn't want him there before the wedding. That is what is making me more mad than anything. Yeah. There's a couple other comments, basically just being like, I felt that I needed a leave from my own safety.

I've dealt with so much crap from other people about my son. I couldn't deal with it coming from my family. Unbelievable. What crap is he getting? Yeah. This poor guy. Who are these people? I had a day today where I was just like,

I hate people. And I know some days I wake up and I'm like, I'm an idiot by a random lady. Yeah. Like you literally got harassed by a random lady calling you idiot literally got her rast by a random lady calling you idiot. Like yeah. Like you had a day, girl. Well, she sometimes would go back and force saying idiot and then she would say idiot, idiot, yeah, idiot, idiot, I don't know if that means something else, but and she said something like you said, well, she was also

homeless. So I there's it wasn't personal, but like I had a morning. I mean, she said that I was like You better fucking stay the fuck away from you Wild but but yeah, I wish I had a day like that today and like some days I like wake up and I'm like I fucking love people like people are so cool and like creative and Like I'm imaginative and amazing. And then some days I'm literally like, I fucking hate people. Yeah.

So today was one of those mornings. So I might be a little feisty. It's not me all the time, but today might be a fire. Yeah. Okay, next one. Okay. One of the week's partners is Talkspace. I really believe that everyone could benefit from therapy.

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at her shit show of a bachelor at party. For some reason my female 32 sister, 23, and her fiance, 25, decided that the very best way to celebrate before getting married was to have a joint bachelor slash bachelor at party at strip clubs. They also hired a bus limo for the evening. The aftermath was, thus far, three breakups, four people dropping out of the wedding party, one impending divorce, and one arrest. The cleaning bill for the limo was more than the original rental fee. She was crying to her mom at dinner the other day and I snorted.

I tried not to. I honestly did. I was trying my best to just keep my mouth shut. She asked me what was so funny. I said that I wasn't sure what she expected to happen, getting a group of people drunk, using illicit substances and getting horned up watching exotic dancers. She said that I was an asshole for judging her and her friends. I said I wasn't judging, just that literally anyone could have seen that outcome. My mom told me to apologize because my sister is having to replace most of her wedding party on the fly. I did, but I still think I'm right. Am I the asshole? But I still think I'm right. Am I the asshole? I mean, that's just, I don't really even know how to label that because

the asshole for laughing at a sad situation. Yeah, yeah, I would say, I would say, I don't know if I'd be able to keep it in though. Right, like it's really not that you can't blame OP that much, right? But it's also just, I mean like, your sister is going through something and is really unhappy and then you laughed at it. Like yeah, you could put yourself in the asshole category. I honestly, I think sometimes like, were was this to be expected? I don't think the answer is obviously yes. I think our group of friends, for my bachelor at Justin's bachelor party, I think we could

easily handle this. I think sometimes some people don't know how to handle things. Some people take this opportunity as an excuse to go off the rails, get crazy, cheat, do things. Like there are people that, I mean, people ruin everything. Like the certain people will ruin things. Like you think about a wedding and a cake cutting. Like I mentioned earlier, you think about gender reveals. People are people, they're unpredictable

and things can go south. Yeah. I think that's sister kind of saying that sounds a little judgy. Yeah. I think laughing, yeah, I would have a hard time containing my laughter. I'd be like, girl, like it got crazy. Like I mean, we did go to a strip club and there were drugs, like, come on. But I don't know. I feel like in that moment, then you need to be like, but hey, we're gonna fix it. Like, she's clearly struggling. She's 23, she's a little younger,

trying to plan this wedding, trying to replace her friends. Also, like replacing your wedding party on the fly, just cut the wedding party down. You don't need eight bridesmaids. Yeah. Cut it down. Oh, it's just, yeah, it's a difficult situation because you look at you and Justin and you guys have always been completely okay with the idea of strip clubs. It doesn't phase you.

And I on the other hand would never want to do a strip club with a significant other. Like maybe if it was just totally gimmicky and at the end of the night and we were just like having so much fun and we're laughing about it but like it's not anything that I would ever be like actively down for because I'm just that's just how I am in a relationship like I want it to be like there's a million guys that I can be really good friends with like if I'm gonna be like dedicated to one person like I want us to be intimate with each other and like just each other kind of thing. Yeah. So I think that it's like if you and Justin were

to have a situation like this where you're like, that sounds great. Like it would be great for you guys. And then if you brought all of your like bridesmaids and then like what are they called? Mediviner. Mediviner? Grimzmann.

Yeah. Um, and then it's just like not everyone has that relationship, but everyone's trying to please you guys, right? And so then it's like there's going to be couples that are like not as stable in that situation. And that doesn't mean that it's you and Justin's fault because like everyone could have opted out, right? But at the same time, like people are trying to to, like, you know, like, please you, they don't want to opt out.

But like, I wish everyone would just communicate, like, up front. Hey, strip clubs would make me uncomfortable. Okay, cool. We won't go. Yeah. Let's go to the casino and play blackjack and boop around. Let's, yeah, there's so many other activities. Let's go to a laser tag and take shrooms. Like, yeah, I don't know. Whatever you want to do, whatever floats your bow, but you don't have to go

to a strip club. Yeah. And I just wish people would be more upfront about their feelings. Right. And also at 23, I mean, everybody's different, but I think for a lot of people, a lot of people could relate to this.

When I was 23 years old, it's like, I was still just trying to be like, cool girl. Yeah. I'm a fucking chill. I be like cool girl. Yeah. I'm fucking chill. I'm a cool girl. It's cool. And so sometimes you bend to things that like you realize as you get older, like no, I actually know what I like and what I dislike and what I'm cool with and what I'm not. Like, at least that's how it happened for me.

I know everyone's different, but like this, this girl at 23 years old, she might have just been like, I'm so chill. we're all just gonna have a good time. It's fun, it's gimmicky, it's just, it's like people do this on their Bachelor of Bachelorette parties. And so that's why I'm like, yeah, to have someone laugh in your face, it's like, yeah, it was an asshole move, but it doesn't mean like you're an asshole.

Yeah, especially your older sister. That's nine years older than you. Yeah. Who you probably really look up to, you're trying to work on that relationship because for me personally, there's eight years between me and my older brother. And our relationship was super strained.

We were not on similar plane fields. And he was in high school. I was in elementary school. It was a really hard relationship until I got into college. And then I really wanted to work on that. So it would be really hurtful to deal with this. Do we want to know a little T about what happened?

Yeah. What do you think overall vote is though first? That's a good question. I don't know actually. I could see it totally going either way. So it's posted one day ago, so it hasn't populated yet, but I'm seeing a lot of Year the Asshole. Okay.

Which I could see. The top comment right now is info. Is there anything other than the overall party plan that made it likely to be a mess? Did they buy a bunch of Coke and order sex workers too? Because there's no actual reason a group of adults can't go to a strip club, get tipsy, have a nice time, and not descend in the chaos. And OP goes, no sex workers. Let's leave it at that. Doesn't want to get her IP attracted. Okay. That person, I think, read a lot of opi's comments and edited to add your the asshole.

There's a lot of people just being like strip clubs are literally one of the few industries that explicitly hires sex workers. Are you saying you went to a strip club that had no strippers because they are quite literally sex workers and OP responds responds and goes, no prostitutes. Got it. Yeah. And clarifies. I have to be honest, never seen more comments from an OP than this post. So if I scroll, this is the bottom. That makes it feel like very real. And I didn't even load them all. Yeah. So OP does finally get into it. Someone goes, so there was Coke, but no strippers

at the strip club, huh? And they go, a little while, there were no prostitutes. They use that word. Someone goes, you're the asshole. That sounds like a party that so many people could have had a good time at and not ruin anything. Blaming the party and all the people makes you sound like a prude, no offense.

Yeah, I mean, sucks that your sister is dealing with that before a wedding. Maybe like support her unless there's something missing here. And that makes you not the asshole. I was at the party. I went to celebrate with my sister. I managed to not get fucked up and wreck my relationship. Yeah, she's like really judgmental. It's just like, it's interesting.

Someone goes, it's like she's almost like jealous of her sister by the way that she's living. I don't know if the way that she's just like looking down on her, you know, like it does seem like I'm 32, I'm so mature, strip club, joint bachelor at party, which is what I want to do. I don't, I want to do like a like a joint thing. Yeah, I think we each have one really fun. Yeah. Well, I think we have one night where we like go our separate ways and then like meet up, but like I think like I don't know, I think it would be a good weekend, but yeah.

Someone goes suggest that your sister give the attendees a free STD test as their party gift. Opie response, funny story in college, a lot of this group got an STI because they were parting gift. O.P. responds, funny story. In college, a lot of this group got an STI because they were all having sex with each other in unconventional groups and couples. My brother called them, quote, the burning ring of fire. People are just pounding her, like asking, what's the T? What's the T?

The first common I see spelling details is fine. The maid of honor and her boyfriend did not break up. The other bridesmaid, who is married, wasn't an ifletower with two of the groomsmen. One groomsman has dropped out, along with the bridesmaid. Her husband has left her, because I guess this isn't the first time. The other groomsman in that group has no fucks to give and will be attending. We are lucky that by the time the cops showed up, everything illegal had been taken, eaten

ingested or swallowed. I stayed mostly sober and stayed with my sister all night so she could party and not do anything stupid. My husband also attended, and I had tasked him with keeping an eye on the groom. He decided the best way to keep the groom out of trouble was to get his pants shitting drunk, which he accomplished with the only casualty being some underwear, a sock, and a pair of Levi's. I don't know what that means. The bus slash limo came out as the worst victim in this whole debacle. It needs a biohazard cleanup. Oh my god. And maybe some upholstery replaced.

Wow. My dad is pissed. Wow. After reading the comments, I went to see my sister this morning and gave a more sincere apology. She asked me to be the matron of honor and I accepted. If anyone here is free Saturday. That's good.

If anyone here is free Saturday, we will still need someone to say where did she live? The rose during the ceremony since my cousin is currently persona non-grata. I only know about the breakups from hearsay, but suffice it is to say that getting a group of friends who have a lot of sexual history together and giving them drugs and alcohol, then taking them out to see naked people is a terrific idea if you are not getting married in a week.

Yeah, I think, and you know what? I also think that this is actually a favor that she did for a lot of these people because now it just shows. Like, if you're not with the right person, you're not with the right fucking person, people can start like moving on living their own life. And I just said it, I wanna take this not back,

but like, because I already said, what I said, and I meant it, but like, I think that, okay, laughing. You know what, that happens. When you told me that a girl got Iful-toured, I started giggling a little bit too, okay? It's a natural reaction sometimes. And I don't think that's what made her,

like the asshole, I think the fact that she doubled down. Like if her sister to be like, wait, why are you laughing? And then she's like, well, this is your fault. Instead, she could have been like, I'm sorry. Like, I didn't mean to laugh. Like, you know, this is not fun for you. I know this is hard. Like, it, obviously, like, you could handle this type of scenario, but a lot of your friends couldn't.

And that's a hard lesson learned. Like, let me know how I can help you. Yeah. Like, initially laughing is just like, sometimes it's like a knee jerk reaction. So I'm glad she came back around and apologized. Sounds like everything worked out. Realized, realized.

There are a lot of people asking what an Eiffel Tower is. Honestly, a shocking amount, like a multiple for those of you. She was to us three. Interest. No hell no. For my poor intern Lucy over here. Hell no. I feel like with clothes on, you cannot do that for a plurid. I mean, it's like the same thing is like cheerleading,

like doing the same shit. Okay, so for those that don't know, an Eiffel Tower usually involves three people. There's a middle person, think of someone in the middle. There's someone pounding them from behind, doggy style. And then they're usually sucking a dick, or licking a clit, or something online. So I think it's supposed to be standing up though, right? Like it's supposed to be standing on the ground. It's usually in the context of either three guys,

or two guys and a girl. And so it's like the girl is on all fours or whoever the middle person is. She's like the stilt in the middle of the Apple Towers. Blowjob on the mouth end, doggie on the rear. The two are high-five in at the top. Yeah, that's the last thing. Yeah.

At a very, like, I think I was like 19 years old, somebody said, I full tower, and I went to look it up on, what's that site called? PornHub? No, what? Jesus. Urban dictionary.

Yes, Urban Dictionary, yeah. And I just remember reading it graphically, and I was like, what the fuck? Ha, ha, ha. Urban Dictionary is scary. I remember there was a rumor that went around about me from one of my ex-boyfriends after we broke up. And one of my guy friends told me about it

like years later and he's like, he's like, did you ever hear about that rumor? Like about you and the pink sock? Oh, why? And I'm like, what the fuck is that? And he goes, well, it's where you do anal and you have a prolapsed colon. You get flipped inside out.

I've heard of that one too. Pink sock, because if you pull a sock off, sometimes it flips out. Oh no. And I was like, that never fucking happened. Oh no. And then I heard this story, he was like, yeah, you were having sex,

your mom was downstairs, I I go you know my mom. Yeah that would never happen. Do you think I would have sex with my mother in the house? Yeah. And he goes I knew it was like and I'm like yeah. People are so brutal in high school. They're so annoying. And in life.

Do you remember that app Yic-Yac? No I think that like I was like a like a year off or something because I think college, we were in college at the same time. I don't know. I remember my roommate was on there and it was like the meanest shit. I had a flip phone for like a really long time and then I also like, I did too, my health freshman year.

Then once I got an actual, like no, by the way, this is not like ageing myself out, like everybody had iPhones. I just had a flip phone. Like, I, and then, and then once I finally got an iPhone, I lost it. And then, you know, I had a boyfriend who had an iPhone and then like I just was like, whatever.

So people would contact me through him. Yeah, you lost that Wii Fest, huh? So, yeah, but actually, I got it back that time. I lost it again after that. Uh-huh. But yeah, so I, I think I missed out on the Yikyak stuff. It was mean because it was essentially like an anonymous platform where you could like go on and like say the meanest shit about people.

And it typically you joined like a college. So you're doing your school and people would upvote these things. Like, it would be like, Lauren Ruff is the biggest whore. I watched you cook off someone's dick and then people would upvote it. I didn't even know what Coke was in college. Like, I swear to you, I never encountered it there. I could not believe that people did cocaine in college. Like when I graduated, I talked to some people

like that I was friends with in fraternities and they were just like, yeah, no we did that all the time. I had no idea. I had no idea. Like I know it's like pretty prevalent now but like I used to think or like you know people, whatever.

I used to think that like cocaine was meth. Like up until I don't come in LA. Yeah, even so, and I was in LA for at least like three years into LA. I was so sheltered from it. So, and now I'm like, wow, it's not every party, somebody has it. It's so crazy. It's really crazy too, that it is so prevalent prevalent because it's literally made with gasoline. Like the chemicals and shit that go into making a lot of the drugs out there.

Don't touch on me guys. Is that why that song is? Ba da da da gasolina, ba da da gasolina. Do you know what I'm talking about? I thought it was the only way I recognize that song is from fast and the furious. I didn't watch any of those actually. Yeah, that's a car racing. No, I know, I know that. Yeah. Yeah. So that's how I recognize that song. And then if you do the tour at Universal

Studios, you like see the car's dance behind the scenes to that. So then if it's at Universal Studios, then it's probably not referring to cocaine with gasoline. Honestly, I think a lot of drug innuendos and sexual innu you windows go over people's heads. So who knows? There is one more comment I'll read from this one. They did share another example. I'll give one of the tamer examples. My cousin is a talented singer.

She is single and was supposed to sing a song during the ceremony. This is why they need a replacement to sing the rose. However, she hooked up with the maid of honor, whom nobody knew had that in her, including her boyfriend. This happened in the bus. He got arrested for trying to break into the bus

while this was going on, and several people were cheering them on after locking him out. Oh my God, we need like a series, Netflix series on this shindig. This is out of control. This feels like project. Yes, but like more crazy like sex edition. Oh my god. Wild. Did I ever tell you how, oh, dude, I like knew this guy for so long that I was dating and then

dated him and we shared Netflix and then all of a sudden I see like whatever I like a year ago or so I see on my Netflix recently watched Project X and it and I was like what is wrong with him like what is because I'm like I know this person like this is not stuff you watch like are you okay he's going through something and then I found out that I logged in to hotels or Airbnb's and my stuff was still playing there. So people were so easy with my stuff. But for at least a month, I was like, my ex lost it. Oh my God.

How did you find out? Did you ask that? No, because they changed my name, they made a profile on my account and they said Bob, and they had a really scary, I can't remember, it might as well, but it was a really scary icon for you. And the name was Bob. And so then he actually hit me up and he was like,

really? He's like, you're giving other dudes access to like, you're not doing it. And I was like, dude, really? He's like, you're giving other dudes access to like, you're not doing it. And I was like, dude, what? I was like, I thought that was you being weird. See? Yes. Oh, man. Anyway.

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I don't know, food-related stuff, just like... It's just kind of like... I'm gonna prove you wrong. Really? Yeah. Okay. So we're doing the food. God, it's like one of those things where it's like... You ask them Airbnb and they say A and then they're like,

okay, so B. Yeah. Well, it's one of those things where it's like, you ask your girlfriend what they want for dinner and it's like, oh, do you want to go get like sushi? And she's like, no. I know, I want pizza. And it's like, you ask your girlfriend what they want for dinner and it's like, oh, do you want to go get like sushi? And she's like, no, I know, I want pizza. And it's like, you know, when everyone's like being indecisive, it's like, what do you want for dinner? I don't know. You choose. They just needed a sushi. Yeah, they needed you to say something to know for sure that they're heart-lied with the other story. Yeah. All right. Go for it. I heard a trick about that though. Okay. If you have a partner

that's really indecisive, you always say, guess where we're going to eat tonight. It's going to be really good. And then you would be like, see, I'm in decisive two. I'd be like, I don't know, tell me. Fuck. Yeah. And then I'd say, Bacchari. If anyone is ever in L.A. Go to Bacchari. It's amazing food. Oh, we are says the Bakery. Well, it's actually Bakery. Bakery. No. Oh, oh, oh, you're in it. It's spelled Bakery. B-A-C-A-R-I Bakery, but it's pronounced Bakery.

No, you're so right. I spent so much time correcting people because I talked to like a waitress in depth. Yeah. And so then finally, when someone says it correct, I was like, I gotta do the opposite. Yeah, the servers have it on their shirt. Yeah, yeah.

So let's do this food one, because I'm gonna prove you run. Okay. So this is titled, Am I the asshole for taking my fiance's dinner after he touched mine? I'll be quick. My female 26, fiance, male 32 is blind. We don't disagree a lot except he always gets bothered whenever I eat different food

from what he's eating when we go out to eat. Like if we're having dinner out and I order something else, he'd instantly get upset and accuse me of treating him as less than when I just have different tastes in food. I just eat what he eats to keep the peace. I eat out alone as an alternative, but since he clearly doesn't trust me, he'd randomly touch my plate to see if I'm actually having the same dish. This has caused huge arguments between us,

and I told him to stop doing it and he said he would. We went out to eat two nights ago, and I ordered the same dish that he ordered. When the food arrived, he looked he would. We went out to eat two nights ago and I ordered the same dish that he ordered. When the food arrived, he looked somewhat uncomfortable. I asked what was wrong, and he refused to say, and before I could even grab the fork, he extended his arm and his hand and touched the food on my plate. He moved quickly and started excusing what he did, saying he, quote, just wanted to make sure. But I lost it on him. I felt so grossed out and there was no way I could eat the food after he touched it.

He tried to get me to drop it saying I shouldn't be grossed out by his hand and that I overreacted, etc. But I grabbed his plate and told him that I was taking it as my dinner. He at first asked me to be rational and give the plate back, but I refused. An argument ensued and we had a fight. He then ended up leaving, started spam texting me, accusing me of being bitter, pathetic, and childish, and robbing his dinner. He went to stay with his friend, who picked him up, and his friend sided with him, saying I was in the wrong. Even when as far as to say that I was abusing my fiance and financially controlling him,

when I pointed out that I was the one who paid for the food. The problem is magnified now with him wanting an apology and me refusing to give him one. My parents think I should have more patience and that this is just typical love spats between us, but I'm not sure. Was I the asshole with how I handled this? Wait, so I'm sorry. Why does he want to make sure she has the same food as him? There is no mention of it in the post.

There isn't edits shortly after that says, I want to point out that this is not the case when we eat at home. He has no issue with me eating different food at home. But in public, it's a different story. In the original post, there's no mention as to why. I don't see, there's too many things missing. I don't understand this because what, why does anyone need to eat the same thing as somebody else?

I'm wondering if it's just because he's blind and maybe he's self-conscious about like eating something that might be like more difficult like, like I don't want to imply that because he's blind, he can't handle certain dishes. But I wonder if just from his perspective, maybe he feels a little more self-conscious and in order to make things easier, he requests that she orders the exact same dish as him.

I don't know. I have no idea. But there was an any mention of that. No, there's no mention as to why. See, I feel like there's too many holes missing. This one I'm just like, I'm really confused on that. But based off of what you just gave me, I think, so people have their things, right? My boyfriend took the lid off of this like couscous salad that we had from Mendo

and it had a bunch of like the sauce or flavor on the lid and he like licked the lid and then put it back on and I was like, it just grossed out and it's like it doesn't matter that I kiss that person. Like I, it just weirds me out. Like, it makes the food like undesirable to me. And like, I can't help that I feel that way. So I'm just, I'm just like, a no way because I'm like, I'm like, that's yours now. I don't want that anymore.

It's cool, like, I'll just move forward. But like, I think that if this is something that OP's partner does often, like puts their entire hand on a meal. It's like, yeah, like if OP feels grossed out by it, like that's okay, that's like, it's gross. Like where have your hands been? Yeah, like our hands are so dirty.

Like you touch a bunch of doors and then have you washed your hands since, I don't know if you went to the bathroom and grabbed your dick and then didn't wash after because a lot of guys don't wash after. They think, oh, I just touched my dick. I didn't touch anything. And they don't wash their hands.

And it's a weird thing, right? Because OP probably touches his dick. So if he touches his dick, touches the food, like, you know, so it's like, it's like, it doesn't, it's one of those things where, I don't think that there needs to be an explanation for what makes you feel unappetized towards your food. It's your food. It's your food.

You feel unappetized, that's your story. And that's why I'm like, it feels like there's a bunch of things missing maybe. I'm really confused by this. But based off of this information I'm given, I don't understand why the touching, why, like, yeah, like why OP's partner would not understand that she doesn't like that.

Well, and he has been asked to stop, said he would, and then still is checking. Right. There are only two comments that OP responds to, one of which I can't even see because the comment was removed by a moderator, but the response from OP is, I don't know what his issue is, but he has said something about equality, which I guess is nonsense to me because I don't get this argument. The other comment is info. Has he ever been evaluated for OCD?

No, but he's been known for having trust issues due to former relationships. I don't, I don't know, I'm getting a lot of like bad vibes from this one. One, the controlling aspect, you need to order exactly what I order to the touching the food. Three, the insane reaction from him when she's like, well, you just put your hands all over my food. We have the same dish. We're switching. It's your food. You touched it.

You eat it. I think her reaction in this was totally justifiable. Wait, wait, so he didn't want to eat the food that he touched? That's what this whole fight is over. I figured that he touched his food and then her food. No, he only touched his food. And then when she went to switch them, he was like, how dare you? That act rational. Act rational. Switch them back. Okay.

Wow, yeah, that's bitch. You eat the food you talk to. Yeah. So I'm like totally on the first side. That is some very, very controlling tendencies. The overall vote on this one is not the asshole. Top comment, not the asshole. List of red flags. Him insisting you eat the same food as him. Him feeling he has the right to

check to make sure. Him putting his hands on your food. Him continuing to touch your food after saying he would stop. There's something going on there and you shouldn't ignore it. Yeah. Next comment. I agree with all of this. I would also add his enlisting, his friend on his side. His friend's idea of support is ridiculous, financially controlling him because she points out she paid for the meal. What a drama queen. I think this relationship sounds like it has run its course.

There is a fundamental lack of respect and denial of autonomy. And it's all coming from her boyfriend. Yeah. I would have a really hard time. And you see it a lot in like date scenarios on like movies and stuff. But like when you go to eat and you're looking at the menu and you haven't decided, or like one of the people in this scenario is on the movies. And typically the male, if it's a hat couple,

will go, she'll have the salmon. And she's like, I didn't want the salmon. I forget, somebody just told me that a guy did that to her. Who told you that? Our friend, she'll, yes. She'll, she'll, she'll, she'll win her on a date. You guys, just so you know, chill is like she is the most independent woman of all time.

She is a fucking tornado, but we love her. And it when it comes to food, like she knows exactly what she wants. She is not indecisive. She knows exactly what she's gonna order. She knows what wine she's gonna have. She knows a glass of shenanigans. Where she's gonna order from,

she knows how tender she wants it to be. She knows everything. So it's have. She knows a glass of sugar. Where does she order from? She knows how tender she wants it to be. She knows everything. So it was just so funny, because apparently she went on a date with somebody who tried to order for her, and she was like, I don't even like that. What? And she didn't even like the phone.

Yeah, and she didn't even like what he was ordering. She's like, I don't even eat that. Yeah, and I just, I thought that was so funny, because it's like in general, it's really strange to me thinking about it. And it was the first date too. Yeah, it was so presumptuous and rude. And I think that like, I'm sure,

honestly, like the guy probably was getting hyped up and was just like, like, you know what, you gotta be really confident. A woman wants to know that you're gonna take care of her and that you're gonna be, you know what I mean? Like he probably was like, yeah, I'm gonna do this. I'm like, ooh, and like, you could totally see him in the mirror before the day. Yeah, just typing himself up like, she'll have the salmon and all the burger.

And he's practicing. Yeah, she'll have the salmon. No, that wasn't right. Yeah, she'll have the salmon. Like, you could just see him practicing in the mirror before the day. So it's like, I'm not even like, it's, it's, it's cute. It's cute, but it's just so funny because out of all people that could have like had that scenario happen to, it's like, but it's just so funny because out of all people that could have had that scenario happen to, it's so funny that it was her because the wrong girl knows exactly what she wants. Yeah, the wrong girl. Really.

I will also say the one thing, and I don't see it mentioned in any of the top upper comments, there is just one that has seven K up votes. He's okay with her eating a meal he touches, but he won't eat the meal he touches. Yeah, that's weird. Something's wrong here. Yeah.

And I don't know, I'm just gonna read it. I don't know how to feel about it yet. I'm seeing it for the first time, but someone goes in the next comment, weaponized disability. Hmm. I've never heard that term before. Well, and we hear next comment, weaponized disability. I've never heard that term before. Well, and we hear a lot of weaponized incompetence all the time. That is the first time I've come across that.

Someone goes down under it. No, just controlling. Next comment down, it's both. And someone after that goes, for me, it doesn't make enough sense to be either. What the fuck? So someone, someone, after that points out something interesting though, did he put something in her food, he didn't want to eat? I think you're right.

It's toxic and controlling. But the abuse combined with the strange nature of it makes me question if there is more. Yeah. Like maybe he's roofing her. I don't like no, who knows? I don't. It's probably if anything, I would guess it's more closer to like an OCD thing and insecurity thing than it is a roofing thing. I can't imagine that. I don't know, dude, but like, maybe he just was so insecure and then it's like like the obsessive nature of him was just like,

no, like you need to accept that I touched your food and I'm not gonna eat my own food that I, you know, whatever and that you just switched the plates on me and you were just messing with me. Like I feel like it's more of like a deep rooted insecurity thing than it is. Like I don't think he, it doesn't sound like a roofy situation. I don't know.

But the one thing I do wanna point out is her parents kinda being like, oh, it's just a love spat. I mean, it could be if that was one time, but I think that the issue is that way. Yeah, it's been a continuous conversation of like, hey, don't touch my food. And then not respecting those wishes. Like, that's where it becomes not just

like a simple little love spat. It's like, okay, it's an actual problem. And like, are we gonna be compatible? Because if it's different, when like, people like make mistakes, they do stupid things all the time. That's what relationships are. You gotta like get to the point

where like when it's a pattern, that's when you really gotta like check yourself yourself check your partner and think like, okay, can we work through this or are we not compatible? Like mistakes happen, we say stupid things, we get invites, but like if it's a constant like pattern, that's when you have to really like reflect on it. Yeah. Moving along, Moving along. How many stories, it was that three? Four. Three. We gotta start, we gotta start hauling ass.

All right. I know how much you love periods. So that's what's to mean. Don't you remember the original story we had about the period, Kitchen Bull? Yeah, I mean, I don't want like blood of any sort in like in my kitchen. Okay.

So this one is Amity Asshole. Sorry, you know what the blood that's in the turkey packs or the chicken in the meat packs? Apparently that's not blood. Wait, what? I don't even know what you're talking about. So you know how you get a pack of ground chicken or ground turkey and you see the pink bloody looking water?

Oh, it's not blood. I knew that ever since my first date was... Bleh, bleh. I just learned this last week. I've always been so grossed out by it, but apparently it's just like a protein. Yeah. But no, it's funny because I was looking at these comments

of someone who saw a video, cooks steak a lot. And I always thought that too. And a lot of people are like, love this video besides the fact that it's so bloody and disgusting. And everybody was talking about it. And it's just like, no, I don't even know the correct word.

It's like, no, it was curated to like, it's only proteins. I don't even remember what it was. How do you get all the blood out of the food? I don't know. Apparently they, I mean, how do you get to the moon? Fuck if I know. Okay, so this next one.

Am I the asshole for pointing out a period stain to my coworker? So first of all, I'm a guy and my coworker is a girl and she's about a decade older than me and we don't know each other very well. Tonight, about an hour before closing, we were sweeping up together. And I noticed that she had a blood stain on her pants from her period.

So I pulled her aside and I whispered, I just wanted to let you know, I think you may have gotten your period. I have a jacket if you need it. And she kind of perched her lips at me and said, okay, and then stormed away. Now I just got home and I'm wiped and my boss texted me that I need to call him tomorrow to talk about the situation, and that I said something very inappropriate to my coworker. What?

I texted back saying I was genuinely trying to help her out if she didn't know about the stain, but he said, quote, she interpreted it differently and told a different story. But that we'd talk about it tomorrow because he wanted to go to sleep. Now I'm freaking out. I wasn't trying to shame her or anything about it and I don't think I hope it didn't come off like that.

Am I the asshole? That is so dumb. I mean, I like, okay, I will say first and foremost that I don't know why, but when people call me out for things, it bothers me. Like not when it's, I don't even know how to explain it. Like when it's a boyfriend, like a boyfriend saying hip-hop, a pottomist. Sure. Yeah, but that's, I figured that would be the example. No, I wasn't going to, okay, you can say that later, but like, no, I'm saying like, let's say I have dry skin right here,

and then I can just see that like my boyfriend will be looking at, and I'm talking about any boyfriend, any like, you know what I'm, like looking at this dry skin, and like, hey, hey, there's dry skin right there? Hey, hey, and I'm like trying to tell a story, and I'm like, you know what? I don't care that there's dry skin right there? Hey, hey, and I'm like trying to tell a story. I'm like, you know what? I don't care that there's dry skin right there.

We're, it's just the two of us hanging out watching a movie. I don't care. It's bothering you more than it's bothering me. I didn't know about it. Like, I'm just like chill out. So it's like, I have like these moments where I'm just like, leave me alone. But like, if I'm in a public setting, and I just got my period in like a white skirt, or something, and somebody pulled me aside, and that's brave. And they probably didn't wanna do that.

They probably weren't just like, ooh, I'm totally gonna, you know, like this is gonna be really fun for me. Like no, if they don't know each other that well, it's like they're trying to look out for you. It's awkward, yeah. And that's awkward for them. And they're trying to look out for you.

And so it's just like if someone were to do that, I would be like, I'm really embarrassed, but it's not your fault. All you're trying to do is help me. But yeah, I feel like sometimes people like look at them as a scapegoat and then like, fuck you, you know? Like, yeah.

I, this one's super weird. I'm also annoyed that the boss, like, texted him and was like, we need to talk tomorrow. But I want to tell you, yeah, like, oh my God, let's instill some severe anxiety. So he can't sleep all night. And then tomorrow he's going to be a fucking mess. And then I'm going to go for him. Like what? You already know you want to talk tomorrow.

Just talk tomorrow. Talk tomorrow. Yeah, let him go to bed. I let them sleep. And people do that all the time, like even like in relationships, someone will be upset with the other person. It's like, hey, you know, I'm not like really happy right now.

We should talk tomorrow. I got so called out for that by my roommate. Sarah? Why? Because I was just like, hey, can we talk when you get home? And she's like, no, we're gonna talk right now. She's like, you can't just do this to me. And I was like, okay, that's fair.

She's like, you're gonna run the rest of my day and I'm just gonna be wondering what you wanna talk about. So she's like, calling me. And I was like, ah! It's exactly provoked. But I was like the only reason, I like, I explained this to her, the only reason I was like, can we talk when you get home?

It's because I was like, right when she gets home, I'm like, you know what? She's so cool. I don't need to talk about it. I won't hold myself accountable to be like, hey, I would really like if you put your spoons in the dishes, I don't know what it was. You know what I mean?

Something's minor. But it's just like, I'm gonna chicken out and be like, you know what, I'm not gonna speak up for something that I think would be cool. If she did, I'm just gonna, you know, like, you know what, I'm not gonna speak up for something that I think would be cool if she did. I'm just gonna, you know, like, it's fine. She's awesome. Let's watch a movie together. So I held myself accountable by being like,

can we talk when you get home? Because I was like, that way she's gonna be like, oh, you wanted to talk, I'm like, yeah, could you, you know, put your spoons away? Like whatever it was. Yeah. And so it wasn't to be like anxiety provoking, but when she said that, I was like, oh my God,

she's so right. Like that is just like, it happens all the time. Yeah. And I think for everyone out there, do not send messages like that, unless you are ready to hold that conversation, right then and there. Yeah, true.

Cause it's not fair. It's disrupting like the entire day. Yeah. Or you are so bad about this. If you're having a conversation with someone, trying to resolve something, which, okay, granted, we shouldn't do it over text messages, but like, also they'll be waiting days.

And I'm like, this bitch hasn't responded to me. For days, days. And a conflict resolution. Days. You've done up to me before too. When? What do you mean? When when you're notorious. No, I'm not That's not true. I

Actually, you know, it's so weird is that so my terrible texture. Okay, I'm not the best But like you know what's weird is that like I actually have this thing where when I'm texting When it's it's not on purpose. It sounds like it's just to get back or be like, oh, you didn't respond to me for a day? Now, I'm not going to respond to you for a day. It's actually never like, that's not malicious. It's literally like, oh, okay, they didn't respond

to me for a day. So I have time to sit on this, to think about this. I don't have to be be like rushed into it. I can like, you know, this is kind of set the standard. And so it's okay if I take a day to like mull it over and then respond. And so like, you're the one that set the standard for me though. And then I'm sitting over there and like,

she didn't respond to me. I don't know, are we gonna be friends again? I don't hate me. She must hate me. A my brain goes down the darkest little tunnel. My brain does that too. I didn't know that your brain did that towards me. So this is where we're really making breakthroughs right now.

So I think this is back to the story. Because we got a cruise. I think this is very inappropriate. This is not a justifiable reaction. I don't know why she's so upset. Maybe because she thought her coworker was checking out her ass. I mean, modern day, it's like you can't

dress code kids anymore. Like, oh yeah, my boyfriend's brother is a high school teacher. And he said that they're not allowed to dress code kids. And he's like, not that I would, but like, it is kind of strange having like these girls come in with just like complete, not even just crop tops, but like literally braw tops. And then short shorts, because they're in California. And it's like their entire like, they're just, they might as well be wearing swimsuits. And he's like, it's not like, he's like, it's not like even if I were allowed

to dress code, I wouldn't, but at the same time, it's just weird. And he even mentioned that like, if people were to dress code, then it's like, could be a sexual assault claim. And so, God, yeah. I don't really know because I also felt like it was really weird when people would dress code meat when I was a kid.

And I was wearing sweatpants and it said pink on the butt. Yeah, it's happened to me. Yeah. And so I thought that was really, it made me feel really gross that like an old man came up to me and was just like, you need to go to the principal's office because you have pink on your butt.

Well, it's like, oh, so you're looking. Yeah, like it felt weird. So like, but like at the bare minimum, like I have wondered like lately, especially like seeing like 15 year olds on TikTok. Get ready for me with high school, like, or even some of the prom dresses, I'm like, wow, okay, that's like, that is very,

it's not what we're used to growing up. That's for sure. It's not what we're used to growing up. That's for sure. So I was wondering, I'm like, damn, how are you, how are you wearing that in high school? They banned, they banned like leggings. Leggings when we were, yeah. Like you couldn't wear leggings.

And it's like, you can wear yoga pants. No, it's banned yoga pants. And so I'm just like, I've been like wondering. And even objectively, like when you have to look at someone, I don't know, doesn't your eyes kind of take in the whole person? It's not like you're checking them out, but when you glance at someone, I'm looking at Lucy over here,

and it's like, I see the sweatshirt. I see that she's got shorts on today. You see the whole person, it's not like you have a zoom lens, and you just zoom into their face. But yeah, so I think maybe that's where she was coming from. I personally think that she probably was just embarrassed. I mean, if you see a blood stain on the back of somebody, I don't think you're sexually harassing them by checking them out.

I think it's just, yeah, stands out, right? Just it happens and she happens. The top comment is, if it went down the way you just told us, not the asshole. Maybe next time instead of saying, I think she may be on her period, just say, you have a stain on your pants. I think you sat on something less embarrassing.

I mean, sure, but at that point, it's just kind of like, I mean, come on. Yeah, we're all adults. It's like let it go. We had a friend that had like a wardrobe malfunction. It's not like he was going around telling everybody, that'd be a different story. It was like a period just like, he's like,

oh my gosh, he's on a period that's different. But like, if he's just like, I think you might be on your period, it's just like, cool. Like, so he has to like, monitor himself and say something, he doesn't actually think, hey, I he has to like, monitor himself and say something. He doesn't actually think, Hey, I think you sat on ketchup. Like, you know what I mean?

It's just, We're all adults. Why do we have to play this game? Yeah, and it's like, yeah, my fiancee. He'll be embarrassing. Right, it might be embarrassing. Whatever, all he was trying to do was help. So it's just like, come on.

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Speaking of schooling and kids being crazy in school. This next one is titled, Am I the asshole for making my sister cry since I quizzed her on her knowledge because she wants to homeschool her kid? Hmm. I'm going to get it out of the way and say, I don't like homeschooling. I think it is almost impossible to do correctly

on social and educational development. This is coming from someone that went to a shitty public school. So my sister was talking about a homeschooling her kid. She said her and her husband will teach her. My sister and her husband are not the brightest people, much more physically labor people than understanding math. I tried to ask if that was a good idea, but she basically said how hard could it be. So I started quizzing her and these were not hard questions. For example, I asked what a verb was.

Name the planets and a simple math problem. I literally asked her to do division. She could only name a few of the planets and she just gave the definition for an adjective, not a verb. Also just completely wrong with the math. It was kind of sad. I told her the right answer and asked if she can't do it, how will she teach the kid to read or do any math? She called me a jerk and left to cry. Her husband is on my ass, but my mom thinks it was a blessing. Am I the asshole? I'm questioning myself. Okay, so here's the thing. First of all, if you're not in grade school, there's a good chance that you don't know all of those answers. I don't know how to plan it. Yeah, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're an idiot. Like, those are not things that we deal with day to day, unless you are an

astronaut or unless you are a math major, whatever it is. So it's like, I think that the idea, no, the idea of homeschooling, it's like you have all of the answers right in front of you. Like these things are actually not like impossible to understand. It's about like teaching your kid to figure it out. And then you have the answer key in front of you and then you can help them along the way, right? So I don't think that it's impossible for that person to yeah, homeschool. And that that was a quiz to rule her out of homeschooling.

However, my opinion on homeschooling in general is that I think it's I think that it's better to not homeschool unless it's you know necessary. Like unless there's situations where it's like it's very necessary, but I do think being put out into a bunch of different different personalities and learning how to interact with humans of all different types of personalities, different upbringing at a very young age. I do think that's a really good skill. So that's my personal opinion. I don't think that people that are homeschooled can't learn that in other ways, but I think it's easiest for them to do that. The parents could obviously take their child and make sure that they

were interacting with children like every single day outside of their school work. Yeah. Um, but yeah, so um, the question, asshole, was he asking if he was an asshole? Is this while for making my sister cry? Yeah, I mean, it was, I feel like it just like maybe got blown out of proportion. It's like, yeah, I mean, you quizzed her to try to make her feel like a dumbass

to prove a point. So like, yeah, are you the asshole? Like, I mean, slightly, but like you also have a very strong conviction about your dismay for homeschooling. Yeah. And so you wanted to change the outcome. That is true.

Well, an OP also already kind of has a judgment on their sister and the husband. Basically being like, they're not the brightest people. Yeah, right. They're more physically labor people, not math people. So there's already this thought behind OP, like, no my sister's dumb. Yeah, but I think you're right. If you have the resources,

like you can buy homeschooling coursework, that you just follow along with your kid. But there's also the side of this where it's like, homeschooling doesn't necessarily just have to be mom or dad, whoever is staying home, no matter who's staying home with the kid, whatever, it doesn't have to be just them. There's also like these little like, I forget what they call them, but they're like almost like pods of a group of parents that come together and they all like trade off homeschooling.

So it's a bunch of little kids together being homeschooled. And I'm like, okay, well, that's kind of cool. I think it's the social benefits, the safety of not getting shot at school, like things like that. Because that is a big fear for a lot of parents. I had, when I was writing for USA Today, I actually had a USA Today story about a mom

that like really wanted to send her kids to school because she didn't feel equipped, but her husband was so scared about the dangers. And so that is a big fear for a lot of parents. I don't say that lightly, but I don't know. I think this is just kind of like her crying. I mean, you're entitled to your feelings. Like, yeah, you might be the asshole on this one. It might be a justifiable reaction because you kind of were being mean. And I don't know all the planets. I know Earth, Mars, Uranus, Venus, Neptune, Mercury.

Dude, the other night, I don't even know how many there are. I literally could not sleep the other night, like, I think, like three weeks ago. And because I started thinking about the fact that I don't know if I know long division anymore. Oh, I'll show you. Or like, I was trying to do like basic math, like multiplication, I was like trying to do like 84 times 74.

And then I was like putting in my head and I was just like, okay, four times four, eight. And then I was, I basically was like, I'm losing it. I think I forgot how to do this. And so, we have calculus. Yeah, we don't, we don't, we don't use that type of stuff on a regular basis.

So, I don't think that, that point was really driven home by asking those questions. No. Also, like doing division off the top of your head, like, I don't know, I would need to put it on paper in front of me. I can't instantly, I'm not fucking Alan from- 16 times four. 64?

Oh wait, I meant 16 divided by four. 33, no, no, three points. 16 divided by four. Yeah, so four eight 12 three there's Yeah, I can't homeschool my kids school kids were 8 12 16 okay We all know I'm really bad at math here. But you're really smart. So like if you wanted to homeschool your child, I believe in you. I would just hire a math teacher.

I really do. I would just hope that you would also socialize too because it, I mean, even someone, but I would have figured that out. Yeah, no, I know. But this is what I said. I can't see it in my head because when I think about math, she's crying. She's crying.

She's laughing, crying. I know. But I always get this vision of like, I haven't seen Goodwill hunting, but remember Alan from the hangover, and he's like at the card table and he sees all these crazy mass symbols floating around his head.

That's what I envision with people that can like do math without paper. I need paper. But also like, I'm just dumb like 4, 8, 12, 16. But I can do multiplication of 9s really well. Ask me one of those. I'm a little scared actually. Oh, you know why? I know you can do that really well because your fingers, huh? No, I don a little scared actually. Oh, you know why? I know you can do that really well

because your fingers, huh? No, I don't do that right. I don't do this thing. Nope, but I learned about that recently. Okay, nine times nine. 81. Yeah. Nine times seven.

63. Cool. That I'm good at. You know, you want to make a trick? Okay. So anything times the nine, seven times nine, one less than seven is six. What does it take to get you back to nine? Three, 63.

Hmm. I had to do the finger trick. Nine times five. One less than five, four. We'll get you back to nine, five, 45. Pretty slick on. no fingers needed. Don't ask me sixteen divided by four though. Yeah.

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after she announced our pregnancy. My wife was pregnant with our first child. We weren't telling anyone yet because it was early. My mom was over at our house and noticed some obvious clues of pregnancy. She asked about it and we were honest. We also asked her to please respect our wishes and not go telling people because it was early in the pregnancy and we wanted time to ourselves to absorb it. The pregnancy was unplanned, but welcome. My mom lasted two weeks before she started posting

about becoming a grandmother. We hadn't told her yet, we had lost the baby. I was still feeling dead inside when I saw her post, so I just commented that, quote, Elise miscarried a week ago. I guess it took about an hour for my mom to see the comment and delete her post. We have been getting condolences, which we don't want, and my mom has been getting crapped on by family and friends for being so insensitive.

She has mad at me for not telling her that we had lost her grandchild. I think I was an asshole because I replied that I didn't want her blabbing my family's personal life again She is crying and my dad says that I have every right to be upset, but that I could have been nicer I'm just so angry right now. I don't know how to feel am I the asshole What do you think? No, like this person's mom Completely disrespected them when it went against what they asked. You know, they said, Hey, we're not ready to share.

We want time to absorb it. We did two weeks and then goes on Facebook. Yeah. Fuck you. This is not your news to share. If that couple has not posted on their own social media, do you think you have a right to go tell the world? Absolutely not.

It's the same with people like getting told, we don't want pictures of our babies, shared on social media, please respect that. And then you see people, grandma's, grandpa's, aunts, uncles, whoever the fuck it is, posting pictures of those children without the parents consent. Against the parents explicit wishes.

You know what's, I can, I actually agree with everything that you're just saying right now, just to let you know. But you just, you made me think about something because there was a scenario where I worked with this guy who he's from, where was he from? Alabama, his family was super, super close. And he was saying that his sister, or sorry, his brother just had a baby.

And that his sister-in-law said, the baby is not allowed to be posted anywhere. But yet, she made sure the baby was in every single family picture. So it would be like a group of 20 of them. And she would have the baby in that photo for every single one of the pictures. And so then some of the relatives would post on their Facebook and be like such a fun time gather with my family. And she freaked out and ripped all of

their heads off. And this is also like her all of her like in-laws too. So it's not even her direct family. And she's like was freaking out at all of them. And so my coworker was telling me like how pissed that he was because he's just like, if you don't want your baby posted on social media, keep them out of the pictures and we need to do two different takes.

If you want to do that because we're allowed to post our happy moments with our family and you can't police that. So we need to do one with your baby and one without. Yeah. And like that's that. Or you take it on one person's phone and then if the baby is in the picture. But here, I think that is a better solution. Let's take two versions. So like, hey, grandma and grandpa don't have to learn how to put an emoji on baby's face. Because a lot of parents do do that. They'll put the emoji, but if you took it on one person's phone,

put the emoji of the baby covered on the baby and all the pictures, then the baby's not getting seen. But I think at that point, it's like, what's the point? Put the baby in a crib, a bounce, or whatever, the fuck you have for a couple of minutes, take two versions. Because you do want those photos to cherish and have those memories. But again, if you don't want your baby on social media, take two versions. Because you do want those photos to cherish and have those memories.

But again, if you don't want your baby on social media, get two shots. Yes, super easy. That's interesting. It was interesting. I remember how upset he was because he came into work and apparently she blew up on everybody and freaked out. He was so angry because he was just like,

we had such an amazing like time like gather with our family and like there was photos of like all 20 of us. You know what? You know, it's like, and now we just have to put those photos and like hide them away. Like no, no, no, we're happy about them. We want to share them. Yeah. We you go, you go on this nice little website called Fiverr and you pay someone five or $10 to literally Photoshop the baby out of the pictures. There you go. Happy memory.

I love Fiverr, I've removed people out of my pictures. Very cheap, $10, couldn't even tell. Who? Well, it wasn't you, so don't worry about it. But back to this one, I feel like this person is totally justified in their reaction because how can you imagine? Can you imagine? You just lost your baby.

And you're trying to scroll through Facebook. Just have a mental vacation, a break, distract yourself, not think about the loss, not be in your living nightmare hell. And all of a sudden, you see your mom posted a pregnancy announcement for you. And you're like, And you're morning. No, I'd be pissed. I'd be so pissed.

It's when you ask somebody not to, like if that wasn't asked, it's just a pure accident, you know, and it's whatever. But at the same time, like you should be able to read the room. Like even with me, like my, basically sister-in-law, she posts her baby all the time, my niece, my brother's baby too. I even hesitate before

I post her on my social media because I don't want to ever cross a boundary. Yeah, cross a boundary. Just add. You have to think about that type of stuff. It is a baby who's not consenting, and you do have to go to their parents, right? So it's like, it is in the most kindest way. I'm sure she was just so excited, but it is disrespectful.

Yeah, and I think anytime something involves other people and you wanna to share it or like it obviously involves yourself too. Hey Lauren, I really want to share this moment. I know you're not telling people yet is it okay? Like I just think like you could have consulted them. One of the comments that I think is interesting is info. How does your wife feel about your comment on the post?

So OP says, let's just say it was better that I posted than I had let her post what she wanted. Yeah, I could see that. So honestly, the dad being like, you could have been nicer, really? Because I think you were pretty just objective. Subjective, to her, yeah. Matter of fact, I agree.

Like I think honestly, this is very justified. And I think in experiences like this, like he's grieving, like this is shitty. And if this is how it went down truly and there's not missing information, like justified. Yeah, and I also, you know, I don't like to justify people being, not, I'm not saying that OPs did anything wrong at all, but just in general, I don't wanna justify people being bad

because of something they're going through, but at the same time, when somebody is grieving, I do think that you gotta give them some slack, truly, truly, some slack for ways that they speak to you, ways that they react. Like, that's my personal opinion, like for sure. It's like, I don't think OP, like, did anything wrong in terms of like, and when you add on the fact that OP was grieving, it's just like, yeah.

Yeah. Well, and someone goes, um, I feel not the asshole for how you treated your mom, but maybe you're the asshole if your wife didn't want to be telling people about the miscarriage publicly. Right. Sorry for your loss, but OP covered that. Well, and the problem is, OP does respond and say, I didn't want people calling my wife to congratulate us.

Yeah. And the problem is, unless you corrected it publicly, like the cats out of the bag, like your mom just made this very public announcement. Yeah, how do you reel it back? All you can do is now because your mom did this to you, all you can do is say, hey, that's not the case anymore. Right.

So thanks, mom. And your mom does deserve the heat she's getting from family and friends. This is a shitty move. Don't spoil people's pregnancy announcements. I'm honestly, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I think I'm gonna be really sneaky because I can record the podcast. No one's gonna see, like, look at this. Look at this nice block.

No one's gonna see shit. I think I'm just gonna, like, all of a sudden, like, post a baby on my feed. Hey, I'm gonna pull a Kylie Jenner. I don't know, weird flex. I think I just wanna try it. I wanna see how long I can get away with it, you know? Could be like, you didn't have a white claw in that episode.

Pregnant. So, are you gonna do this just to like, for fun, podcast or like to everyone? Like are you gonna try to like hide it for me for like six months? I don't know, we'll see. I'm not there yet. I'm not there yet.

Well, I don't know, I just think it'd be kind of fun. And like to not have the stress of other people knowing and to like really just like soak it in, like I get what they were trying to do. That's why I think I'm so mad. Because like you are a new parent. It's the first time you like soak it in like I get what they were trying to do. That's why I think I'm so mad because like you're a new parent. It's the first time you want to soak it in. No pressure. Oh yeah, I think that that is an that's one thing.

That's an absolute standard. You do not have the right to announce anyone else's pregnancy. End of story. Nope. There's just no like nope. I don't care if it's because you're so excited. I don't care if it's so innocent. And of story. Nope. Nope. Nope. I don't care if it's because you're so excited. I don't care if it's so innocent. It's because you're so full of love and joy.

You do not have the right to announce somebody else's pregnancy period. Yeah. I'm moving along. Moving along. I just saw this one and I'm like, I know I said I would end it, but this is the last one. Unless you want to read about a cat that looks like a scrotum end it, but this is the last one. Unless you wanna read about a cat that looks like a scrotum, but otherwise, this is the last one.

Yes. So this one is titled, Am I the asshole for going home after my in-laws excluded me from dinner at a restaurant? I, female 26, went on a family trip with my in-laws two weeks ago. Mother-in-law always thought that I am a bit ignorant and backwards, and that's just because I come from a lower-class family compared to hers and I have no etiquette. After we arrived at the hotel, they arranged to

visit a fancy restaurant for dinner. My husband avoided telling me and I learned it last minute after he had already gotten dressed. I asked where he was going and he said he and his family were going out to eat, but I wasn't invited because his mom assumed that since I wouldn't be familiar with the food and how to eat it, they're at the restaurant, then it's better for me to stay in and eat at the hotel. I didn't argue, I just let him go, then I packed and took the first flight home. He freaked out and called many times. And when he found out that I went home, he blew up and called me

ridiculous and irrational to do this. Even said I acted in an ungrateful manner and embarrassed him in front of his family after he literally begged to have me go on the trip. We argued and he started giving me the silent treatment after he came home. Moreover, his family are indirectly criticizing me on Facebook about what I did. Did I overreact? Edit. He didn't even mention what type of food they ordered. Edit number two.

The family didn't plan on having me come along, but my husband, like he said, begged them to invite me. This isn't just with me. My brother-in-law's girlfriend wasn't invited as well. We have one more edit. Should we just get it out of the way up? Edit three, they paid for my expenses so I didn't want to act like I'm being needy, slash, or something.

That's what we got. I think this is justified. Yeah. I mean, I do too. Like, this is your husband. I think it'd be one thing if it was like a boyfriend, things are early on. I don't know. I think even then, I think it would be fucked up because like, my family is so inclusive. Like everyone, like let's go. Like that's just my family. I don't, I guess I don't have an excuse for this. I'm trying to like play the devil's advocate over here and I think it's weird and it's

especially weird that they're married and it's like, oh, he begged, he begged for me to go and it's like, well, if they still said no, he shouldn't have gone. You should have stood by you. This is weird. You're justified. Yeah. I would have, if I were to be like specifically excluded in my husband's family's anything, I wouldn't want to be a part of that family.

No. I'd be furious. It's interesting that the brother-in-law's girlfriend is getting excluded too. Well, and that's why, okay, that's why I'm kind of curious, what is their dynamic? They do, they only wanna just have, like, their blood relatives right there,

and then, like, they want a moment like that, because it's like, okay, like, I guess, you know, it's fine to have moments where it's just of, like, you know, your childhood upbringing, like, siblings get together, like, you know, your childhood upbringing, like, siblings get together, like, get away trip, whatever. I don't know. Don't invite them, but leave them at home. Yeah, like, but that's exactly,

like, that the whole, I just don't like any of that. I would have been furious. I would have been furious. You remember my favorite word, right? What, just think. What's my favorite word that I love to describe certain relationships? All I can think about is that one word that you found out was a bad word in Canada and so you can't say it anymore. Goofball. Not Goofball. This is giving some weird,

not healthy relationship with a mom. And that's for sons. This is a mom that wants to keep tabs on her little boys and she'll come up with any excuse to exclude their partners. The girlfriends excluded. What's her excuse? Does she come from a low class family as well? Also, using that as an excuse,

I grew up on a farm and played in mud, but I could eat an oyster if I had to, I won't, because I just don't look good, but I could. So, yeah. Grab the shell, tip it back, slip it down. Psh, you're good. You're good. I would have been furious.

I would have laughed too. I would have, that's the thing, is that like, I would have left completely divorced. Yeah. Yeah. I love that pause. I love that pause. It's done. You really just hit it home. Top comment on this one. Not the asshole. It's offensive for your husband and his family to exclude you from this dinner. Their reason for doing so is atrocious. It's even worse for him not to inform you in advance that he'd be having dinner without you. That your husband doesn't understand

Why his behavior and his family's behavior is completely unacceptable? Just compounds their assholeness. Mm-hmm. That is weird. He did kind of try to like sneak out Like he's getting ready and like you're all of a sudden. You're like wait, where are you going? Oh, I'm going to dinner Okay, I'll just eat air Where are you going? Oh, I'm going to dinner. Okay. I'll just eat air like things. Oh my God.

And they didn't stay at the hotel. Like they like went off campus. The next comment, big red box. What the hell did I just read? The only response should be not the asshole. Your hobby is a massive asshole for not standing up for you. For going behind your back to a meal in a group vacation, for being surprised and upset that you left

that vacation to go home and is now giving you the silent treatment. That's another layer to this too, the reaction and behavior, thus after. No, that was like triggering to me, hearing that he freaked out that she left. This is a little, a little, a lot of red flags here. Honey, I have never said this to a post as it is just a snapshot of a relationship, but this relationship is toxic. You need to leave and not look back. He is never going to support you or choose you over his family. What the fuck?

You are so low class, you can't eat at a nice restaurant. What does that even mean? Run, run, run. Yeah. Lots of awards, 21 K-O-Fotes. Do we have more responses from O.P.? No comments from O.P. Mm, nothing.

O.P. posted a day ago. Okay. So this one is very fresh, we're gonna have to keep our eyes peeled. Busy getting the paperwork in order. Yeah, let's get to this cat. Oh, okay. So we're getting the scrotum cat. This is our ending Okay, am I the screw-up cat? Is that what you said? Yeah, okay. Am I the asshole? I can't stop. It's gonna be bad Am I the asshole for telling my aunt her new kitten looked like a scrotum?

I don't know why I didn't know that's where it was going. My mom and I were visiting my uncle and his family yesterday. My aunt just got a baby sphinx cat. It is pink, hairless and wrinkled. She was going on and on about how beautiful it was. I will be clear. It is a very cute kitten. I however think that expensive pets are a waste and that she could have

adopted a rescue. Lauren's fostering, if anyone needs a cap. When we were having dinner, she was sitting with the kitten in her lap still going on about it. My uncle was rolling his eyes and my cousins were obviously getting tired of this as well. When she asked me for the 10th time, how cute I thought it was, I told her it kind of looked like a scrotum. My uncle laughed so hard he spit food out all over the table. My one cousin also laughed, but his little sister kept asking what a scrotum was. At home. I didn't know that until like last year. At home, that shows you how bad sex education is in the States.

At home, my mom told me I was an asshole for using that word at the dinner table. That shows you how bad sex education is in the States. At home, my mom told me I was an asshole for using that word at the dinner table. I stand by my comparison. Am I the asshole? Where you trying to be the asshole is the question. I don't think so. I think they were just annoying.

You don't think so? There are no it. So they maybe were trying to be the asshole. Hmm. Trying to make her shut up. Say something so I'll read that. Yeah. Like, were you trying to, like, clearly you aren't happy with the fact that she's excited.

Somebody is paying a lot of money for an expensive animal that they could actually adopt because there's so many animals. I learned like, what was the stat? Like, I think I told you this. It was like 378 or 478,000 animals in the shelters. Every single year in the United States are put down for no other reason besides not having a home, dogs and cats.

Like that stat literally broke my heart for like a week. It just especially because I am fostering and like does that include like animals with behavioral issues that might be tougher to ensure it's all of the above. But like it's still and it's a sort of number. But it's also it's, you know, it's, it's also just animals who just genuinely,

they can't find a home for. Wow, that number is astounding. When you think about how many animals that is, astounding. Insane. And because like you said, I have been fostering. And there's two places I've fostered. So if anyone lives in Southern California,

so the two places that I was fostering was Orange County Animal Care. And then also, best friends, LA. So there's during kitten season too, specifically a lot of the adult cats are at risk because there's so many kittens, and that's like summertime.

So it's just like once, like fostering in general, you get to know like these animals and each of them has a different personality. Like I had a litter of kittens and every single one had a different personality and it's just so beautiful and then so heartbreaking to think about how many animals

just don't even get the chance to be seen. So I know if anyone, you know, is living in those areas or is considering helping out or fostering or loves animals, like look into a near foster near you and see how you can help because it really does save their lives by watching them for a while because the shelters get overcrowded and they can't take care of them. Well, and when you foster the shelters typically pay for all the expenses related to the animal food, the litter, the ticket cap. Yeah, I actually ended up spending like $300 on fostering.

I think it was like $300 or $400. Yeah. That like I didn't necessarily need to, but like, you know, you feel good. I did. You feel good. That's crazy. Wow. So yeah, I get your point. Like there is a little feel good. That's crazy. Wow. So yeah, I get your point.

Like there is a little bit of a judgment here already. Yeah. Sorry. Back to like the story. I do think like, I don't think you should support backyard breeders. Like people buying animals off Craigslist. Don't buy animals off Craigslist. Like you're supporting backyard breeders.

That's only encouraging people that have no fucking idea what they're doing to breed their pets. Don't do it. Go to a shelter or go to a very reputable, responsible breeder, because I understand wanting to go to a breeder and get a dog that you know where they come from. Exactly. Yeah. They're genetics. I adopted a German shepherd. He was like a puppy male rescue. He was literally $100. I'm sorry, I love bear, but the dude was crazy. He bit people. I got a Yorkie.

She came from a backyard breeder. She bites people. Like I got crazy dogs. So for me personally, I know I don't have the ability to take any chances on a dog that maybe has some screws loose. I have enough screws loose for me. I don't need, you know what I mean? I just can't deal with that again

after having so many reactive dogs. So I will go to a very ethical, responsible breeder. But again, there's German Shepherd rescues out there. I'm gonna foster before. Me and Justin, when we get our house, we actually move in. We're gonna start fostering seniors. Yeah.

And maybe you might find a match. And that's how a lot of people do get adopted. Yeah. It's when they're fostering. So that's, there's fostering helps not only to, not overcrowd the shelters, but then sometimes you fall in love. And you can't say goodbye. Yeah, so it is a really, I would encourage it a lot.

And that's why I'm pushing that because I have thought about it Like in a lot of the past few episodes I've done of like talking about it on the podcast So that's a crazy number. Yeah, but this lady was excited and I think you make a really good point of like I think what was your comment intended for well, yeah, and so is it helpful or helpful when you go back to the point where it's like That animal now is there and that animal does exist. So like if you're gonna like being mean to that animal If that's what you're trying to do Isn't helping like your cause, right? Like if you want to go out and make a difference like

Preach to adopt but like once the animal is there That's just as that's yeah, that's just as much as an animal and an innocent life as, you know, the ones in the shelter. Like that animal is there. So it's like, you know, I don't think it's that deep and I think it is kind of funny. Like those, I think those animals are so cute but also so funny looking at the same time and it's not in a bad way. So like, I don't think that it's like that deep but like if you meant it deep, then it's a different story.

I know, it is interesting. Overall vote was asshole. I'm sitting here, Googling, I literally typed in Google, Scrodom versus Finks Cat. I just wanted to see, no, Scrodoms came up, it's only cats. But honestly, they're just like, they just look like kind of raw chickens. You know what I mean?

I think they're really cute. I honestly, I do one. Justin's mom's like super allergic to cats But I love cats. Yeah, so I could get one. I think they're fun. The only thing is apparently You really need to lube them up. I was just thinking like when you pet them because they like to like rub their faces Yeah, and the fur like allows it to just like glide But like what their skin just kind of drag? You have to loob them. So I've seen a lot of people make sense why he called them a scrotum. Oh my god.

Full circle. Full circle. A lot of people put coconut oil all over them or like, I don't know. What are you used to use all the time? I still use it. It's the best loob in the world. And then they'll put them in little sweaters after so the oil doesn't get all over the house.

Yeah, okay, that makes sense. That makes sense to other sweaters. But I've also seen one lady with her Sphinx cat and maybe all cats get it, but mine didn't. Like in their nails, they get these little like oil buildups and you have to like pluck them out. So if you're really into like pimple popping and popping stuff picking stuff Don't this might say this is the cat for you do not say that Morgan. This might be the cat for you

There's a cat for everybody get your pussy today at a shelter near you. Oh my god We're done catch Well, it's a next time real I'm used to seriously ending right there? I guess. Okay. Can we do that to people? I think they'd be sad.

Okay. We're back. I felt weird ending it like that. Yeah, I know. It felt like kind of comical though. Can you imagine if it was just like, I'm gonna punk I'm gonna like put the song and be like, just kidding.

I don't think a lot of people will stay. I'll end it quick. Okay, it'll just be the, jing, okay, cool. We wouldn't leave you guys like that. We couldn't do that. I thought you wanted to. I was along for the ride.

You know, it has been a long episode But you know it was long which means we got through a lot of stories All you people that say shut up more stories. Are you proud a lot of chitter chatter? Are you happy? I think we got through six seven I lost count. It's a lot of chitter chatter But if we get rid of that one where we went in circles, then I think it'll be clean. You know? Well, one is gonna go to Patreon.

All of them were good stories though. That one was just so intense. It flustered us a little. Still a quality story. Yeah. One of the best actually. Yeah. You learned a new word.

I did. In molecule. Yeah. So there's that word. I did. In molecule. Yeah. So there's that. There's that. I'll use every single day. And is that the story that I do bad math on? Well, sorry that you had to wait until that. No, it wasn't.

Fuck. Now the masses get to see how bad I am. But this is why eventually there will be math-leap merch. But new merch is coming soon. I don't know when this is coming out, but merch is dropping September sometime. Do I get some?

Of course. Yeah. It'll be the first, second, my first. Well, I still dream about that, like, lime sweatshirt. You never got one. No. That is so cute. I'll give you one.

I have an extra thing. You do? We'll hook you up. But thank you guys so much for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode. That's all I really got. Head over to Patreon. Yeah. Maybe look for a poll on Spotify. We'll see, but other than that. Until next time. Bye guys! you