Two Hot Takes - 153: Are the Straights Okay? Ft. Carlo Malis

Episode Date: February 15, 2024

WE'RE ON TOUR!!! 1st show THIS WEEK!!: https://linktr.ee/twohottakestour Link for Google Form if you're attending one of our shows: https://forms.gle/A9WkQAci26LhMZjs5 Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Carlo Malis! This weeks episode is full of stories where couples are going through it, but luckily Carlo is here to shed some light. And based on his TikToks.. He's seen some things. From commenting on your partners hairline/weight to acting like a cat.. the straights are not okay. Can't wait to hear your thoughts on these ones! Checkout Carlo's Content! https://www.instagram.com/carlomalis/?hl=en https://www.tiktok.com/@carlomalis?lang=en MERCH IS HERE ! https://shop.twohottakes.com I can't wait to see you all in these, especially at our live shows!! Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Bonus Content on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: Liquid Death: liquiddeath.com/THT Seat Geek: Use code THT for $20 off your first SeatGeek order. https://seatgeek.onelink.me/RrnK/THT TalkSpace: Get $80 off your first month at Talkspace.com/THT ZocDoc: Zocdoc.com/tht

There's a feeling you get at Sunnybrook. This place is special. There are special spaces, like a hybrid operating room that saves precious minutes when a life is in balance, and special treatments, like ultra precise radiation therapy, and special people specialized in their fields and passionate about your care. Yes, Sunnybrook is special. Just like you. Learn more at sunnybrook.ca slash special.

Just your reminder to subscribe and we're on tour right now. We are likely at our very first show as you're listening to this. So fingers crossed it went well and everyone had fun. But if you haven't gotten tickets yet to one of our live show, please do now. Don't wait anymore because they're dwindling, which I'm so happy about.

But don't miss out. We're really, really, really looking forward to meeting a lot of you guys. Enjoy the episode. People are going to die over your voice today. Where? Is this a record? We are rolling. Oh.

We're rolling. I was like, when is this going to a record we are rolling? Oh, we're rolling. I Was like when is this gonna start? We are rolling It's kind of hard to tell because it's a one-girl circus in here I have to start everything and then sit down. So I kind of kind of shock people a little little sometimes But hi guys welcome back to another episode of two hot takes I'm your host Morgan and you have probably recognized his voice already. I hope. We are joined today by Carlo Malis. Yes, hello everyone. Dude, I'm like is Bane in the studio? Holy shit.

I actually do the best Bane impression ever. That just now was unreal. I'm like, Tom Hardy, what the fuck? Dude, I have the best bang impression ever. Let's hear it. Are you ready? It's like really good. Okay, I'm ready.

Which part of the movie is your favorite? Your favorite. But like all his parts are my favorite, so you have to pick one. I don't know. All right, I'll do the most famous one. Okay. Are you ready? Yeah. Oh, you think darkness is your ally? But you merely adopted the dark. I was born in it.

Boded by it. Oh my god. I was already mad by that. It was nothing to me but blood. Unreal. Unreal. We're done. We're packing up. That's the show today. That's all, folks.

That's the show. Oh my God. So Carlo got his start on TikTok. Yes. I would say from my perspective, your bread and butter is like responding, duetting to crazy outrageous videos that might be a little sexually coded. I feel like it's pretty diverse.

Nowadays it's more diverse. It's more diverse. Those are the ones that like I feel like I got first from you and you'd have water fall out of your mouth or you would just have these crazy reactions and I would lose my mind. Yeah, I adopted that from one of my best friends, Mike, because he did this, sir, sir! And then he and I became friends and then I came up

with the whole Pastor George thing that was based off of his. And then it kind of became driven by that. And I was like, this was supposed to be like social commentary on how dudes just get horned over everything. It wasn't supposed to be me, but like it's just a character to emulate how freaky dudes are. They're freaky. They're freaky. They're freaky.

Oh my God, our theme today is gonna be are the straights okay? Who are not okay? We're not okay. I have had people asking, they're like, please have some more guys come on. Like we want some more dudes perspectives. And I'm like, I know a dude.

Hell yeah, she's another dude. I know a dude, that'll be good. So here you are. I'm here. And we're gonna get into this. Before we start though, have you seen that wood, the log splitter guy? Oh yes, of course I've seen him. You can't not see him.

He does ads now. Oh my god, the candle we have in the studio today is from him, the hot log splitter guy. I forget his actual name, maybe it says on the candle. Yeah, what is his name? Thor, Thor Bradley. Of course. But the candle is non-toxic masculinity. So I'm hoping it'll inspire some good guys.

That man is not always morning wood. Mr. Morning Wood. Is that what his thing is? I don't know. There's a hot girl doing it now too. Word? Yeah. Hey, I might have to, you know.

I could see you out there. Take off a new fetish. I could see you out there with an axe. Word? Yeah. You see me with an axe? You're a strong looking guy, yeah. Just out there within an axe. Word? Yeah. You see me with an axe? You're a strong looking guy, yeah. Just out there chopping that wood.

Hey. Making eye contact with the camera. Yeah. Ah! If you see me out in nature, playing with some wood, don't be surprised. I won't be chopping anything up though. Okay, let's dive in.

Let's get it. Okay, up first, hitting them where it hurts, okay? I'm excited. This is coming from Am I the Asshole. It is titled Am I the Asshole for commenting on my partner's lack of a hairline when he keeps making comments about my weight. We had a daughter last year and I've put on about 30 pounds. Now, even though I've gained weight, I don't think I'm fat. My legs have just gotten thicker.

Anyways, he keeps making comments saying that I haven't stopped eating since I've gotten pregnant. Yesterday, I was preparing a snack for our daughter when he said, quote, why don't you move out of the way? You don't see you're big. He tried to play it off after and said he was just talking about my butt. It really hurt my feelings. So I said, quote, at least a fat person can lose weight, but your hairline is never going to grow back.

For context, he's 27, but the front of his hair and the middle have thinned out a lot. He's very self-conscious about it to the point that he won't leave the house without a hat and he'll turn back around if he realizes that he forgot to take it with him. He's been angry at me since I made the comment, but I feel like if he keeps talking about my weight, then I can talk about his hairline. Am I the asshole? Hell no, she's not the asshole. No. You know what I'm saying? Like don't, what's that saying? Don't throw rocks if you live in a glass house. Yeah, that's spot on. And there's so many things that go, she's, dude, she's postpartum. There's so many things that go into that. Like, you don't

understand the hormones that are, you know, being distributed after giving birth. You don't understand her state of mind. And she just gave birth. Like, what the fuck? Well, it's like, and she talks about too, where she's like, I don't think I'm fat. Like, I've gained about 30 pounds,

which I'm pretty sure that is the average, if not lower than the average of what women gain during pregnancy. But it's like regardless is like who gives a fuck. Who gives a fuck. This is your partner. Exactly. You are supposed to like love her and you just had a kid with her. So like you're together now.

You're tied for life, baby. I think his insecurity is kind of overflowing when he made that comment Well, it's like if you can't take it don't dish it out like the glass house saying is like the perfect one for him literally Like what did you expect to get back if you keep calling someone fat or big or move out of the way like what come on? Who's your head? At least she's thinning for the both of them. So bad. What do you think the overall vote on this one was?

I think in favor of the woman, I would hope. So the overall vote is everyone sucks. They were like- In that situation? Yeah, they're like, you both suck. Like you were wrong too. So the're like, you both suck. Like you were wrong too. So the top comment, everyone sucks here. Why are you being so mean to each other? Info, has he always been negative about your appearance

or is this something new? You have a young child. Are you both sleep deprived and snarly maybe? Whatever it is, you need to get to the bottom of it and stop sniping at each other. It's not fair for you or your daughter. And OP goes, no, he hasn't always been like this. Overall, he's usually loving and not mean spirited. He just keeps making these little comments about my weight, even though he knows that I'm insecure about the weight gain and that I'm actively trying to lose it.

Yeah, I think there's a lack of communication happening clearly. Clearly, clearly. But I get it. Like it's one of those things you just, you've had enough. You snap after the 10th comment. He deserves. I doubt that that was the first comment. No.

Like. No. Yeah, but people, people really didn't like it. They're like, no, he didn't deserve that even after even after calling you fat so many times It's a little goofy my thing is whenever I say something I'm expecting a consequence to what I say We could be in favor of we know what I'm saying or but I'm expecting some sort of you know Anything I don't know. I guess there's just how I sort of, you know, anything.

I don't know, I guess there's just how I grew up, cause, you know. I love that. Yeah, it's like, I'm going to expect, it's like, you're not always gonna get the reaction you want, but you're gonna get a reaction. You know what I mean? I've never heard someone put it like that,

and I absolutely love that, because no matter how like good intentions you can be, someone can be just determined to misunderstand you and like, what? You think what? Yeah, I think understanding that not everyone is going to give responses the way you want them to be said. And understanding that will kind of broaden your perception of people and make you more tolerant of listening and hearing other people's perspectives. Okay, Buddha. Ha ha ha ha! Okay, Confucius. No, hell no.

You're very, just very well rounded. I hope. You're good. I try to be. Okay, moving along. Therapy? Hell yeah! I love therapy. Everyone needs it.

We're big therapy pluggers. Everyone especially do like, especially men. I think so too. But like as soon as you reach like the age 25 when the existential dread becomes all-consuming, that's when you're like, I need to talk to somebody. Because you'll just be consumed by your thoughts. It's that prefrontal cortex developing and you finally have this like awareness of like,

I'm on a rock that's floating through space. It's like that second coming into existence. Like, you know how when you're like, have you ever experienced this like you're five years old and all of a sudden you're like, what the fuck? And you're like, fuck, have you ever experienced this? Like you're five years old and all of a sudden you're like, yeah. You're like, whoa, what is going on? I literally had this conversation with someone the other day. I was like, our consciousness is by far one of the most terrifying things.

Cause like, I get we all die. Okay. Like I'm trying to, I'm trying to get better about being okay with death. But I'm like, where does our consciousness float to? Because like, if you think about as a baby, I'm like, you don't really remember that. So then yeah, you have the snap in moment where all of a sudden you're awake.

Exactly. But then you die, like do I sit in the fucking box? That's scary. And that freaks me out. But I did see this one TikTok of this dude, he was pronounced, he was clinically dead for like a little while. And he said that coming back to life after experiencing like such peacefulness has been hard to cope with.

So I'm like, you know, that kind of opened my perception. I always had the idea that like, you know, energy doesn't die, you know. It goes somewhere. Exactly. It's transferred. But it's like, you know, energy doesn't die, you know. It goes somewhere. Exactly. It's transferred. But it's like, they're still that. It's so funny how like death is the most certain thing, but also the most uncertain thing after it happens.

And it's like, like you said, like it's something that we don't think about. But like when we do, it's like, oh. I think about dying daily. Yeah, me too. I think about dying all the time. I'm dying, all the time. Especially driving in LA. Dude. Oh my god. It is terrifying. Like I had my- You surprise every time I park my car. I'm like, whoo. I literally, as I get someplace, I notice my body just like sinks back and I'm like, I have

been like holding so much tension in my body the whole time I was driving. But like in LA, you have to. I put my blinker on today. I look over my whole time I was driving. But like in LA, you have to. I put my blinker on a day. I look over my shoulder. I'm clear. All of a sudden I'm changing lanes and someone was flying 100 miles an hour. And like got in my way and I'm like, I could have just died. I wonder if like people are paid to like be like, you know, bad drivers. Yes.

Because it's so prevalent, especially the people who roll out. Like, you know, when they have the stop sign, they make the right turn. They just, they don't even look. They don't. They don't care. They just expect everyone to stop for them. I'm like, are you on autopilot?

Or it's like your car on autopilot because like what the hell was that? What do you think about the Waymo Jaguars that don't have people? Oh my God, that is terrifying me. I would not be able to chill in that situation. No. Like, I would be inching to grab the wheel every time.

Oh! I don't think I can do it. I have really bad car anxiety. I wouldn't, yeah, I can. Whenever I'm not in the driver's seat, I'm like, mm. Stressed. Very. Same. Same. I know everyone's seat. I'm like, mm. Stressed. Very. Same.

Same. I know everyone's like, it's a control thing. I'm like, no, it's a, I have more faith in myself than you think. Yeah. I don't care what it is. All I know is that I need to keep myself alive. Okay. And when I give that responsibility,

when I give that the responsibility to someone else, yeah, I'm gonna be a little freaked out. Yeah, that's me. That is me, too, T. Okay, moving along. What do you think the weirdest thing you've seen on TikTok is? Oh my God.

I know there's a lot, but- It's like asking me, what's the weirdest thing at a circus? I hate to hear it. I hate to like asking me what's the weirdest thing at a circus. Everything. The fact they exist. Oh my God, I've seen so many things to where I'm at the point where I'm like, what else is there? Yeah.

Like what else could there possibly be? We're not even surprised at the existence of aliens anymore. No. That's how weird TikTok has gotten. Yeah. Everyone's like, uh. I feel like I have the same experience because Reddit is like this crazy,

cesspool dark corner of the internet. Like I read a post the other day of this guy who had to have his foot amputated. So he decided to take it and cook it, cook some parts of it and eat it. And he said he tasted similar to like bacon. He ate his own amputated foot. Yeah, him and his buddies cooked it up one night

in a cast iron skillet. Why if I need my foot amputated, would I then eat the very thing that shouldn't have been on my body? Like, it's not supposed to be there, which is why they took it off. I know, it's just, it's wild. So I've seen some crazy stuff.

So I feel like there's a lot. I'm like, I don't know. I don't have a favorite because there's just so many. My favorite? My favorite Reddit story to date. Is someone said, he is someone said he was like He was like there's days where I look forward to like having diarrhea He was like I have lax days where I'll just take a laxative and just chill at home and just

the whole day and I have never laughed so hard in my life. I've never read that one. And I'm like, I'm like the fact that there are people who have this story to tell. And then there's people who agree with this story. Oh, what? The fact that there's a community for this is, that was the funniest part of it.

It's like, there's so many people who do this thing and it's like, there's a thing for everyone. There really is. You reminded me of like one of my OG stories. Have you heard of waffle stomping? No. So there was this person that wrote in

and they were like, I found out my boyfriend was waffle stomping in the shower. And so every single time he took a shit, he had to do it in the shower. No. And he stomps it down the drain with the heel of his foot. Wow.

Waffle stomper. That's an OG. The fact that there's a term is probably the scariest part of that. Because the drain, the little holes, they kind of look like a waffle. Sssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss It's coming from A-I-T-A-H, which is just another version of Am I the Asshole? Am I the Asshole? For telling my brother he cannot stay with me over Christmas if he brings his prosthetic leg.

My younger brother has a prosthetic leg. I think it is creepy as fuck and I have no idea where he got it. I'm reasonably certain that it is something I would rather not know. To be clear here, my brother has two perfectly healthy legs still attached to his body. He just has this thing he takes with him everywhere. I don't know why, I don't wanna know. Before you ask, yeah, it is probably a mental health thing.

He wanted to stay with me rather than our parents while he is home for the holidays I said he was welcome to stay so long as he doesn't bring that thing to my house He said it wasn't a big deal and that he would leave it in his luggage I agreed on the condition that if I sought outside of his luggage in my home, then I had the right to destroy it He backtracked on staying with me and is at our parents' house, where he is miserable. They still treat him like a little boy instead of a guy who is almost 30. He called me again after supper

and asked to please stay with me. I said he could, so long as we together, took his thing and put it in a storage unit until he leaves, I get the key. He won't do it. He says that I'm being a bitch for not letting him stay with me. I think he needs to get therapy or medication or both or a girlfriend, dog, cat, hamster, something, just not a goddamn prosthetic leg.

Am I the asshole? I don't even know how to accept the information that just came into my brain. It's just a little blanky basically. There's so many things that unpack. It's just a little security blanky, a little fun. First of all, is your brother Rocket Raccoon, bro? Why is he going around? Collecting arms. What is going on?

And secondly, this man couldn't, he couldn't not have it to the point where he backtracked and said, you know what? I'm staying with mom and dad. I will put myself through the misery of there, you know, whatever it is. Yeah. Rather than not keep my leg.

That's crazy. Well, I'm like a leg is not, it's not small likely, unless it's like a baby, like a toddler prosthetic leg. Part of the leg is being kept. So I think someone does ask, yeah, so OP does respond to some comments from people. One is, I'm a prosthetist and I have to ask, what does this leg even look like? Below knee or above knee? Does it also have pylon bear or is there a foam covering so that it sort of looks like a leg? Is there a foot shell on it?

Or is the foot component just sort of hanging out? The reason I'm asking is because, A, prosthetic anything is mind-bogglingly expensive. And B, you can't just have a prosthetic leg if you have two perfectly healthy legs. You literally need a stump to make one that's specifically yours. Did your brother receive it from someone?

Did he steal it? And just to be sure, if it's an actual prosthesis and not a leg brace of some kind, I've had patients and their families make this mistake before. Really getting into the questions. Make this mistake before. I mean, I feel like someone's family,

like they passed and probably just brought it to Goodwill. And that's like what I envisioned he got it. But OP goes, it looks like a carbon fiber cup with a steel knee and lower leg and foot, which based on what I know about those, like that's an expensive unit. Carbon fiber is like not cheap. I watched a TikTok of a guy who has,

I think it's a below knee amputation and just his one was like 123k. And I think it was like, it's like a running one. So you can like- And they're drawing an engine in it? They're so expensive. I used to fit people for wheelchairs when I was doing my OT job. And like the cost of a wheelchair,

which is like, it's literally, people don't realize like wheelchairs are an extension of that person. That's what makes me so fucking mad when you see those airline employees just chucking them. That is so crazy bro. So this guy has the Ferrari of prosthetic legs. Yeah.

Chilling. The Ferrari. My question is, what is he doing with it? What could he possibly do with it that he is required to have it on his person at all times? Well, someone does ask, is it just there to look at or is there cuddling involved? Is he bringing it with him to places then to have it like function?

And OP goes, what he does with it is on the list of stuff I do not want to know. Okay. I would have to know. Like, I'm like, is it weird? Yeah. But like, I mean, he's likely not jerking off to it. No, you don't know that. We're talking about a man close to his 30s

with a prosthetic leg. I feel like if he's jacking off to it, that would be the least of my worries. He's like, I wanna know what's really going on. You know when someone's like, I'm about to put my foot up your ass. That's probably whoop. He's living out that saying.

So the top comment, I know this is extremely distressing for you, but I'm laughing so hard. At first I was like, is this asshole serious? She won't let her brother bring his leg, like a whole ass leg? Initially that's what I was like, what the? I was like, bro, he needs it. Yeah, do you want him to hop?

That's a lot of work. That's not sustainable. And then after hearing the story, I'm like, wow, he needs it. He needs it. He needs it. So we do have an update on this one. What? I have to know.

I was not aware of this prior to 30 seconds ago. Oh my God, exclusive. I know. Breaking news. Breaking news. I didn't realize how much attention this was going to get. Enough that someone informed the woman my brother stole it from and she was able to figure out what happened.

She called the cops and he got arrested. I guess he was sort of trying to do the thing where he could be the hero that tracked down her leg. Please don't ask me what the fuck was going through his head. The leg was expensive enough that he is facing real criminal charges. That's all. Yeah, that's felonious behavior right there.

That's a felony. Yeah, after a thousand dollars, I mean, depending on the state. Yeah. That was a really impressive word. What? Felonious. Yes. I have literally never heard that word.

Really? Never. You know, the prefixes, a felony, felonious, felony. Wow, that's a big word for Elmo. Oh my God, that was a, you learn something new every day. You do.

Phelonious. You just used it so smooth, like I could tell you've used it before. Yeah, I like to read. You know. Oh my God. Well, okay, thank God for Reddit. Like, she got her leg back.

You thank God for Reddit because after I went through a breakup Well, not really break up wasn't official which are arguably the worst ones Because it's like I'm not supposed to feel this way. Yeah, but I do feel this way I went into the craziest rabbit hole of rare stories I spent the whole entire day just listening to Reddit stories to the point where I was like, if this isn't, I was swiping on TikTok, I was like, if this isn't a Reddit story, I don't want to listen to it. Subway surf got you down bad, huh? Yes.

Yeah. And that's when I heard that lack story, the fucking dude that's like, I spent all, he's like, my most relaxing day is me taking laxatives all day and just shitting my brains out Which is so funny because if you have the IBS where stuff shoots through you that's like a nightmare So the fact enjoys it because there's there's many kinds of IBS I have that one, but there's say I feel like it's so common with women like I never hear dudes talk about IBS Stomach issues hot. It's like hot girls. Tell me problems. Like I never hear dudes talk about IVF. Stomach issues. It's like hot girls, tummy problems. Like it's just the thing. But I'm getting a colonoscopy this year. Hell yeah.

Let you know how it goes. Don't don't everyone else will know just correct them to yourself. I'm traumatizing you today. Oh no, TikTok has done more than enough of that. Okay.

Okay. One of this week's partners is Liquid Death. Now, some people might be scared by what you're drinking when you start drinking Liquid Death. As I experienced today, they might be a little concerned that you're drinking what looks like a beer on your 10 a.m. Zoom call. But liquid death is actually a healthy beverage brand. They have Mountain Spring water, low sugar sodas,

and low sugar iced teas too. And then your next question is probably why liquid death? Well, that's because they're bringing death to single use plastic bottles with their infinitely recyclable cans. I'm getting away from plastic. I am genuinely avoiding it like the plague. The amount of microplastics we have in our bodies

already is astonishing. So drinking water out of these cans is all I want to be doing. And if that's not incentive enough, if we don't crack down on our plastic pollution, plastic will outweigh fish in the ocean by 2050. That is pretty disgusting. Something I've also been trying to do

is get away from coffee in the morning and the iced tea has caffeine in it. It has been a nice refreshing pick me up and doesn't keep me up at night when I'm trying to go to bed. It's crisp, it's clean, it's refreshing. It's what water should be without all those microplastics. So if you're ready to try it for yourself, you can get free shipping of Liquid Desk

Mound Water, flavored sparkling and iced tea 8 packs with Amazon Prime, or grab a can, or a case at your local 7-Eleven, Target Walmart Whole Foods, or on Instacart. Go to liquiddeath.com slash THT to check out all of their healthy, infinitely recyclable beverages and find your closest retailer. That's liquiddeath.com slash tht. Liquiddeath.com slash tht. This next one, Two Days Old. Two Days Old. Fresh. Two Days Old.

Fresh. Oh yeah. It is titled Am I the Asshole for Not Sharing a Free Meal with My Anti-Instagram Boyfriend. I post my food pics when I go out to eat on Instagram. It's just for fun. I spend 30 minutes a week on it tops. My boyfriend is a very sweet guy in many ways, but one thing I'm not so much of a fan of is that he often hops on the bandwagon of hating innocent things.

Not just liking something, but making sure everyone knows he doesn't like it, even if nobody asked. I can't help but notice a theme. Pumpkin spice lattes, pouty selfies, Taylor Swift, etc. As you can guess, he is not a fan of the food pics and thinks it's very annoying and cringe. He doesn't even follow my Instagram, even though he has an account. Even though I don't have very many followers, I have started getting occasional offers and invitations from restaurants in my city to try their food for free in exchange for a review.

Nothing crazy, no steak dinners so far, but I've gotten a few sandwiches and several baked goods. Well, I just hit the big leagues and got invited to a new restaurant opening that includes a free appetizer and entree for me and one guest. I immediately invited one of my Instagram friends who I have gone out to eat with on several occasions and who also enjoys taking food photos. I told my boyfriend and he's pissed that I'm not taking him and says I'm doing it out of spite. I really think I'm not.

If the restaurant is giving me free food in exchange for a post, I'm gonna put more effort into the post and spend a few extra minutes making sure that I actually get very good shots. And I'd rather do it with someone who isn't going to sigh and roll their eyes through the whole thing. Also, I think it's pretty audacious of him to be actively unsupportive of an

activity that hurts no one, but then also expects to benefit when it's actually successful. Hmm. She hit it right there on the head. I love that for her. Good job for her, bro. Like, why are you even writing in? You know, the dudes are clown.

You know the answer. Why you with him? Oh, I hate people like that. People that's like, oh, I hate this. Like, how can you hate on Instagram and all that shit while actively having an Instagram account? I mean, it's, it's literally taking a picture of a meal. Like who, I mean, I feel like if you don't do that

at least once, you're a weirdo. Yeah. You can't tell me you've never ordered something and it looks so fucking good. See, I do it to send it to people because I'm like, look at this. Yeah. But yeah, I've done it, but I don't know

if I've ever posted on Instagram, but. Not even your story? Even still, it's like, look at this. But yeah, I've done it, but I don't know if I've ever posted on Instagram, but even still, it's like, who gives a fuck? Like who cares, bro? I feel like that's such a, like I'm generalizing of course, but I feel like it's such a dude thing to just like hate on innocent things like this. Yeah, definitely. Especially Taylor Swift.

Like right now with the football and Taylor Swift and like all the hate and it's like, I'm boycotting the NFL until they stop showing Taylor Swift like right now with the football and Taylor Swift and like all the hate and it's like I'm boycotting the NFL until they stop showing Taylor Swift. Are you a Swiftie? I'm a big fucking Swiftie. I can tell the passion. I can hear the passion in your voice. I'm just so annoyed because it's like does she want to be shown on camera? No, no, she would love to go and support her, her, her man, her boyfriend, her partner without getting shown on camera. She is literally just trying to live her life and have a good time. And the fact that people are like burning cutouts of her head. So you're telling me, Buffalo Bills, that you had the energy and the time to print out a picture of Taylor Swift and then put it in a barrel that's on fire.

You need to get a fucking hobby. Yeah. I think it's so funny how, you know, people will put so much effort into like, hating something that they end up like, it's like you're getting the opposite outcome of what you're trying to achieve. Yeah. Like you're putting all this effort into dedicating so much

time to it. It's like, why do you hate Toast Wim? And you can list off all her songs. You know the lyrics to this. Why are you in a being one of her biggest supporters under the guise of hatred? It's it's like, dude, I think you support her more than I do. It's that haters to lovers. Trump, I hate haters with no purpose.

Like if you're just hating, just to hate, that's weird and strange. But if you use, you know, those negative feelings and make something positive out of it, like let's say you're like, oh, I hate that guy, someone who's, I guess, on Instagram doing better than you, right? But then you use that as a means to be above that. You know granted, you know, I wouldn't argue that that's the best way to do things. But, you know, at least you're doing something positive

for yourself if nothing else. Rather than just sitting around just wallowing and despair and anger over stupid shit. For what? Exactly. For what? Exactly. For what? Literally, stress changes your DNA. Yeah, it does.

Don't let Taylor Swift poppin' up on the TV screen stress you out. Exactly. Come on, not a big deal. I'm just like, all right, people like this. People like what they like. Let them live. You know what I'm saying?

Me? I can't say I'm not a hater, but I'm a hater with a purpose at least. What's one thing you hate? What's like you're like you would die on that hill and you would go down hating? One thing I hate, damn, that's hard. Because I'm at the point where I'm just like, I don't like putting energy into things that, so I'm like hating something requires at least a little bit of love too. You think so? You can't truly hate something unless you loved it.

So mine is the hackers from India. And I know that's like a generalization. What is going on in your life? Hackers can be anywhere. I fully recognize that. But like my grandma and grandpa got scammed out of like 20k from a hacker from India So I love that YouTube channel of the guy who he's like pretending to be an old Like grandma and will reverse hack them as they try to hack him

And I just love those videos. I want to make it when I need another hobby I have too many right now, but I wanna learn how to fucking hack them back. And I just wanna take them down. Like there's some- See, hate her with a purpose. Yeah, there's some people that deserve the electric chair to be brought back. Just not on high, not on high, but like,

you know, like a cattle fence. Like a little, yeah. Electrify, not electrocute. Exactly, just a couple zaps. Every time they try to call someone, just fuck them up. Nah, yeah, I feel that. Something I hate. I guess that, you know, haters with no purpose.

Okay, that's a good one. Yeah, haters with no purpose. Cause like me, I'll hate on something, but I don't, you know, I don't really hate on something. I'm just like, not stupid. You're not that passionate about it. Yeah, you know, it's just like whatever. You're logical.

That's all it is. Exactly. And show us she, that girl, you know, she's logical. She's like, I'm bringing someone who would appreciate the experience, who would also post it, you know. Yeah. And make me look good to the restaurant. Exactly.

This is a business move Exactly people make a shit ton of money off posting their pets posting food So this could turn into like something bigger for her The overall vote on this one is not the asshole But the amount of comments I see saying everyone sucks and you're the asshole is actually concerning. Yeah, it's always like that. Why? Like, because they want to go against the grain. They probably don't really feel that they're just a bunch of that guy, you know?

Literally. They just hate, they're like, well now that you know, everyone's collectively on this point. I want to be different. Well, now that everyone's collectively on this point, I wanna be different. Ah! So weird! They're so weird. This person, your boyfriend sounds like any sane man would. Chowdy selfies, pumpkin spice lattes and Taylor Swift are all horrible things to like.

You're the asshole. That's literally just her boyfriend writing that. If you don't like those things, just don't engage with them. That's my philosophy. No one is waterboarding you with pumpkin spice lattes. That's what I'm saying. You end up putting more effort

than the people who actually like that stuff. Oh my God. Just crazy. And people are asking a lot of unnecessary questions, I feel too. They're like, is your boyfriend paying for all these dinners? Okay. It's better.

OP does respond like, no. We have separate finances. It's all me. Someone's like, you're the asshole. These things are cringe. That's crazy. Not all women like football, and they'll still sit there

and watch it with their partners. Like, this is literally just a food pick. A lot of people, this is my hot take. A lot of people don't need opinions. Not that they don't need opinions, they don't need forums to be able to express them. I agree. Like, have your opinion.

People probably say that about me and this microphone. They're like, take it away. But here we are. You can't get rid of me, bitch. Hell yeah. That's my favorite attribute in a person is perseverance. It's like, no matter what you're doing, as long as you're going hard with conviction, I fuck with it.

I'm a scrappy motherfucker. Unless it's non conducive to you and your environment. Then I'm like, all right, well, you're doing a little too much for nothing. Yeah. Would you be able? Would I be able to? Would you be able to date this person? Who?

This guy. Or like if it was a girl that was like a hater without a purpose, you know what I mean? No, I can't. It goes against, you know, I just can't. A person, I just. Goes against every fiber. I just can't. A person, I just. Goes against every fiber. I just can't, like for you to just hate shit,

just to hate shit, like, you know, I just can't. I wouldn't be able to either. Top comment, does have a not the asshole vote, thank God. Your gut feeling about this is absolutely correct. You're there to do a job, essentially, and his bad attitude would be a hindrance to you getting it done right. I would also gently point out as a married woman of 21 years that for a relationship to work and be healthy and happy Your partner needs to be supportive of the things you're excited about. They don't have to be interested themselves

But they do need to encourage and lift you up. Your boyfriend is disdainful of your passion Did you know disdain has been scientifically proven to be one of the four predictors of future divorce? Mm-hmm. And that's on John Gottman, baby. Who's that? Relationship expert. He can analyze a couple for 30 minutes and with 94 or 95 percent accuracy can predict their divorce or not. Also, so. Yeah, I mean, that's just knowing people and human interactions.

I don't see any updates about this, like in regards to them. I don't really think that needs an update. I want one. Really? We broke up. I wanted to dump his ass. That would be a good update because I just, someone like that is just, they're just like an endless pit, like they're constantly just trying to bring you down

with them. So he must be miserable in some aspect and he just wants her to revel in it with him. Yeah, I don't like it. Another one of this week's partners is SeatGeek. I really hate overspending on tickets and I always try to find the best deal, which is why I love SeatGeek.

There's more than 70,000 events on SeatGeek, including concerts, sports festivals, and more. I don't know about you guys, but I just watched Usher's performance at that big football game and I was blown away. So I'm on SeatGeek looking at tickets, looking at things that are coming up near me, and Usher is performing this fall and tickets are only $100. So guess who is going thanks to SeatGeek? Me, maybe Bieber will come out this time, right?

But if Usher is not who you're dying to see, don't worry, you'll find everything on SeatGeek. I love that SeatGeek puts all the tickets from all over the web in one place, and they also show you how good the deals are. Every ticket is rated one to 10. The green means it is good, red, bad. Don't spend your money on those ones.

So if you're ready to try it for yourself, you know I came through for you guys. Use my code THT for $20 off tickets at SeatGeek. That's $20 off your first purchase with promo code THT. Make sure you click the link in the description to download the app. So this is coming from best of redditor updates. It is titled,

Am I wrong for throwing my husband out after finding nudes from the nanny? What would you even ask? I think she just needs validation. We all do. We all do. We are over thinkers. Yeah, that's right. I'm new to Reddit, but my little sister suggested I ask here. I'm 28 female, my daughter is Cassie, 11 months, and my husband is Alex, 35. So basically, it's just what the title said. I had Cassie and then returned to work, psychologist, and I could never be a stay-at-home mom.

I'm actually French, but live in the US, so when I returned at the four-month mark, as I had a difficult birth, we looked around to find a nanny to look after Cassie while myself and Alex were at work. We saw a few girls, but then one of Alex's colleagues suggested his daughter who had dropped out of college. Let's call her Liv, 20 female. Everything went well. Admittedly, I did notice her being quite attached to Cassie,

but I brushed it off as a good friendship between the two. She also liked Alex. It was obvious she had a crush on him, always batting her lashes and giggling. I actually found it amusing as I'm confident in myself. He always laughed it off with me too. But then, on Thursday night, he asked me to do something on his phone while he bathed Cassie,

and I saw some pictures flash up from Liv. When I looked at them, they were obviously sexy nudes. She was wearing skimpy lingerie and in a provocative pose. I looked back at the history, and she had been sending these for a while. As far as I can see, Alex never responded, but obviously, texts can be deleted. When I asked him, he got defensive and told me to stop using my psychiatrist tricks on him. I was not happy with his non-answers and ended up in a shouting match, waking Cassie. So I got him a bag and threw him out, Told him he's not welcome back until I have answers. I'm considering taking Cassie back home

to see my family in France for a little bit. His mom and friends have been blowing up my phone saying I'm being too harsh and they were harmless texts. Nevertheless, I feel disrespected and that doesn't fly with me. Was I too harsh? Should I expect his claims that he never responded? Her psychiatrist tricks on him.

Literally just asking him, are you cheating on me? What's the quickest guess? Stop using your tricks on me! I asked you if you're cheating on me. There are pictures, sir. Yo! What are these? Like, what?

That's crazy. I hate when people bad-wagging on the one who's, like, doing the bad thing, you know? I hate that. I hate when people feel enabled and encouraged to continue their bad behaviors. Because you always look at the reaction and never was causing it. And then you're like, oh, she's crazy. Well, why is she crazy? You know what I mean?

I hate that. That's one thing I hate. Yeah. I do think that's a red flag. If you are talking to someone new and they're like, all my exes are crazy. Definitely. Definitely. Who's the common denominator? You.

Exactly. I feel like, like you have to be able to take accountability to some extent. Yeah. Like you don't want to, you know, blame yourself for like everything, but also you're like, there's certain actions that I could have, you know, done differently. Or, you know, it's all about self-reflection and self-awareness. But just throwing a blame at everyone else and you're crazy, even though when there's evidence

to prove that what I'm saying is true. And that's, you know. Well, and I feel like for this one, she does say he never responded. But if you were innocent in this, you could have like approached your wife after the first pictures came through and been like, hey, the nanny, I did nothing to initiate this,

but we have a problem on our hands. And why would she feel so comfortable as to continue to send them if he wasn't responding? Exactly, like, I mean, there's some, I know there are some women out there and there's some guys too that probably get off on it. I feel like I see so many stories on Reddit and at least like that are like, I stole, blah, blah, blah.

Like we started dating Because of this reason I knew he was married, but I didn't care and it's just like I think maybe she's 20 She's just very confident and just kind of like naive and maybe just going in Hard and just being like I'm gonna keep sending until I get asked not to But I feel like news though is such a vulnerable thing that like when you don't get a response, you're like, you kind of just like, what the fuck? The rejection of it.

Especially at nude. Like if I send a text and I don't get a text back and you double text, you're like, okay, that makes sense. Like granted it's like kind of strange, but you know, it makes sense. But if you send a nude, something that you're expecting someone to be like, oh my God, you look so good.

I'm not gonna continue to send that if I'm not getting the validation. Yeah. You know what I mean? I can relate to that because I'm definitely like, I'm more insecure with my body, but I've had girlfriends that are not, and like the ass pictures they would get I'm like damn if my ass looked like that like I'd send everyone I know like

At that point you just put it online At least get some money off of it only yeah, patron if you want something, you know like that, but yeah, it's Interesting. Yeah, I feel like he's he's definitely if you want something like that. But yeah, it's interesting. Yeah, I feel like he's definitely... You don't think he's telling the truth that like... Hell, there's no way he's telling the truth. And my thing is, is like, the only thing that I could imagine,

or that would help, you know, his case, is the fact that he wasn't like putting them in an album or like, you know, deleting them. Like the fact that he kept them on there, you're kind of like, hmm, he could be telling the truth at the same time. Why she continuously sending these things. Yeah.

I'm curious how they just popped up too. I'm like, like, were they really that easy to find? Like, you just... No, she definitely did a little bit of scouring. Yeah. Uh, the top comment on the original post, you are not wrong. Even if the very first nude was unsolicited, he should have alerted you and discussed,

and people comment below. And his parents and family trying to minimize the bad behavior are just as complicit. Exactly. Which is weird. Everyone trying to gaslight her and be like, it's not a big deal. You're overreacting. Really?

Because I don't think it's normal for a 20 year old nanny to send naked pictures. Yeah. And that's weird. Getting your family to try to guilt trip your partner into continuing the relationship that they obviously felt the need to get away from? How about we couldn't enter that? How about stop implementing your families to try to sway the other person that you did wrong?

Do not get them involved. Like, come on, bro, this relationship is between y'all. It doesn't help your case. At all. No. Are you ready for the update? What's the update? So a lot of people were like mad at OP. No. Are you ready for the update? What's the update?

So a lot of people were like mad at OP. They were like, you cannot kidnap your daughter. You can't go to France. So she does start off by addressing that. I'm taking her with me to visit my family back home in France for a few weeks. Her father has given his consent. It is a non-issue. There was also confusion about my job.

I work in the psychology field, and I was just using this post as a sounding board, really. The responses from his friends and mothers made me question myself. As stated, I informed Liv's father of what happened. He was furious with both Alex and Liv. He apologized to me and said he will try to get to the truth from her and that she rebels any chance she gets, But this was disgusting. I then looked through the camera in my daughter's nursery and I saw a clip of Liv asking if she wanted a sister or brother from Miss Livy and Daddy. What?

Showed that I was actually sick. Is this Ariana Grande? Whoa, what's her story? Oh, she stole SpongeBob from his wife. SpongeBob? Well, I'll tell you after. That made me feel sick to my stomach. Yeah, nah, that's sick.

She responded to her dismissal with denials, but I told her I had the footage and that she was to never lay a hand on my baby again. But if she wanted Alex so bad, she could have him. I reminded her that how you got them is how you lose them. And he would soon tire of a 20-something-year-old college dropout kid. Thanks.

Alex returned to the house temporarily for us to talk. After me showing him the camera footage and texts from Liv, he broke down and said he was really sorry. He admitted that while nothing had physically happened between them, they had been exchanging photos and messages for a month or two. My thing is like, if I have to get information out of you like incrementally, like like come on, bro.

It's done. You're giving me truth and increments as I find more things out. Like I can't believe anything you're saying. No, no. It's like unless she found that footage, would he have admitted to that? No.

He showed me the original messages and it was her who had pursued him. She started by saying she felt like a schoolgirl around him. Puk, because she is a schoolgirl. And she said she needed advice from an important man like him and sent a photo of her in lingerie asking if it was sexy. He started out not really responding, but after a few texts he responded and it started from there.

She was saying things about them being a happy family together, but he never responded to those texts. He begged me to forgive him and start fresh. He said we can move and that we have plenty of money. He will do whatever I want. I told him what I want is to go home for a few weeks, so that's what I'm doing. Cassie and I are flying tomorrow. He honestly looks so pathetic right now.

They are welcome to each other. There will be no wedding, as I mentioned in my previous post, it's fiance, not husband. And I will be consulting with a custody lawyer once I get to France to see my options both in the US and internationally. But as someone in the comments said, I stayed in the US not because I think it's a good place to live, but because that's where Alex was based and wanted to build our family. However, I will always support the daughter-father relationship, but he cannot have our daughter and his nanny.

Now that that's not happening, I'd like to move home, and most certainly away from the slutty nanny, I am not looking for any custody advice. Dang, she stood on business. Yeah, there's also another like mini update from Liv's father, the nanny. He also found and sent me some of the deleted messages. Liv talked about wanting me out of the picture

so she can be Cassie's mom. This is terrifying. Yeah, she dodged a missile. They. Yeah, that's crazy. This is really bad. This is giving like, I'm going to murder you and take your husband and baby. Yeah.

And then asking my child if they want. A sibling by way of me is crazy. Oh, it just gives you like the heebie-jeebies. Like it is so gross. See, that's why I'm afraid to go outside. Like, I am, like every time I hear stories, I'm just like, yup. I'm glad I'm paying a high rent

cause now I got even more reasons to stay in the crib. I've honestly became quite a hermit. Dude, ever since COVID, I'm like ever since COVID and then realizing just how, I guess limitless. The inside of your houses with a TV and why? No, just like how limitless like, you know, human behavior is.

Oh. I'm just like, it knows no bounds. I think I'm going to stay home. So this story reminded me of Ariana Grande. Yeah. What's up with that? So, well, she's the one dating Betty Black or? No, that's Selena Gomez. Oh, okay.

Yeah. I'm very in the know on celebrity gossip drama. I see. Too much so. Yeah. You revealed some interesting things as well. Yeah. I'm very in the know on celebrity gossip drama. I see. Too much so. Yeah, you revealed some interesting things as well. Yeah, I have some brain rot for sure. So Ariana Grande was doing this musical version of Wicked. One of the other actors is a guy named Ethan Slater.

Ethan previously played SpongeBob. Yeah, I wish y'all could see the picture. That she just. So they are working together on Wicked. Ethan is married to his longtime partner. They just had a baby together. Ariana would become friendly with them. So much so to where she was holding their baby

and told his wife, I would love to have a baby like this someday. And ends up leaving his wife and they're dating now. They're together. Yo, that's almost as crazy as that. What's his name? Adam Levine story. Yeah.

Remember, didn't he try to get? Yeah. He told the girl that he wanted to name his child after the girl that he was like Sumner or something like that. It's like SOM NER. And wasn't that girl like was she young? She was like super young. She's younger. She's just like an Instagram model.

Yeah. And so they were DMing and he was like I want to name my baby after you That's a baby. He's having with his wife That is abhorrent What is wrong with these people? Like me bro, if I was in her shoes, I was like, I'll be like, why would you think that that's something that would you know? Will me Do you think that that's something that would, you know, woo me? Like, what is wrong with you? If someone said they were naming their baby after me,

I'd be weirded out. That is crazy, honey. I don't care how, cause you know, sexy people get away with a lot more than, you know, the average person. That is very true. They get away with a lot of cringy behavior.

Oh my God, I wanna have, um... But that is inescapable. No. You can'tescapable. No You cannot know it's so gross I would love to have Alex Earl on to talk about How she kept a dress she threw up on in her closet for like a year. She didn't wash it She literally like threw up all over this dress and just hung it up like nothing ever happened I'm sorry. I'm like, girl, what are you doing?

Get a dry cleaned. I'm sorry. Do you mind repeating what you just said? So apparently she like just did like a closet thing. I don't know. And she took out this dress on her TikTok and she had worn it out like a year prior threw up all over it, but didn't clean it after just hung it up in her closet.

I know She's letting these girls get away with this. Okay, because I have a few questions Is that just like negligent behavior or is that like you have to be so conceited to the point where you think that you are upping the value of your dress with your own vomit? Well, and she did post it herself. So like, she posted a video finding my puke covered birthday dress from last year. She just like pulled it out.

So I mean, she opened herself up to that discourse. I just wanna ask her about it. Yeah, please find out about that. Yeah. Yeah, more, find out about that and less about your colonoscopy. Okay. Update me up. I think you're going to be concerned about my colon health. She's like, yo, this is what just happened. No polyps, baby.

Be good for another 10 years. I specifically asked you not. I'm just like so paranoid about colon cancer now, especially like the prevalence of it is crazy. Has it risen? Huge and it's in our age demographic. And you look at big people like Chadwick Boseman dead at 35 from colon cancer. No, he was like 40, like 45 I think.

Was he? Yeah, he just looked very young. I was surprised when I saw his age. Oh my god, I'm so bad at math. What's 2020 minus 1976? 44? It's 44. Oh, okay.

So he was a little older. Okay, the TikTok star that passed was like 34 or 35. Who? Oh, the guy, his family. Yeah, him and his like, they were looking. That was so sad. Yeah, so. Oh my god.

It's just better to get checked, especially if you have any stomach issues. Our 20 to 30s is the highest age of rise in colon cancer. What is the food we eat? What is going on? I think so. I'm scared. I haven't done.

I need to really dive into it because I want to look at it based on other countries and see if other countries with restrictions on food. Like we still let red dye go in all of our food. And like just so bad. Did you know that most of the cereal sold in the US are like illegal? Yeah. Everywhere else.

I think Japan has like a ban on American cereal. I would believe it. You can't do it right now. It's really bad. A lot of the bread in the US is not considered bread because of the high sugar volume. Hershey chocolate is not considered actual chocolate in other countries

because it has too much dairy content or something. It's weird. It's scary. Our food is not good here. Yeah, I mean, the food is meant to make you sick so that you can Then you shut out the big bus. Yeah it's all I'm like a big conspiracy person too, but I think that's one where I'm like

I feel like we don't seem so I'm talking about that all day. We could that's like a bonus episode. We could do Man Another one of this week's partners is talk space you guys know That's like a bonus episode we could do. Diving in the... Oh man. Another one of this week's partners is Talkspace. You guys know I've been struggling with a lot of burnout. And if you're considering therapy but maybe just don't know where to begin, try Talkspace. Talkspace makes it easy to find a therapist you like and it's conveniently online. And you can do it at home or wherever you're most comfortable. Car, park, you name it, you can do therapy wherever, whenever.

I'm getting back into therapy this year and in the past online therapy has been so impactful for me. I love how convenient it is and I can message my provider in the app whenever I need them. And no matter what specific challenges you feel like you're dealing with, Talkspace can help. They have licensed therapists in over 40 specialties,

including anxiety, depression, substance abuse, relationship issues, and more. Talkspace actually has couples therapy. And I know a lot of us worry about our data and privacy. Talkspace is secure. They use the latest end-to-end bank rate encryption technology to store client information and comply with the latest HIPAA regulations. They're in-network with most major insurance providers, so it could be a lot more affordable

for you. So if you're ready to try it for yourself, as a listener of this podcast, you'll get $80 off your first month with Talkspace when you go to talkspace.com.sht. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to talkspace.com.sht to get $80 off your first month and share your support for the show. That's talkspace.com slash THT. I'm not sure if this one necessarily needs a trigger warning, but I think it's an interesting conversation

that we're about to have. After this episode and while I was editing it, it got me thinking about laws pertaining to this issue you're about to hear. And based on what I'm finding, it's not illegal. So let me know what you think about this one. It's kind of a dicey story, but I feel like it could bring

about a meaningful conversation for all of us. Are you ready for a doozy? Always. Have you ever had someone try to baby trap you? Um, not in America. Okay. This, if I was a dude, this would by far be one of my biggest fears. That's crazy.

I don't know. I would probably be celibate. No, that's a lie. That's a lie. But I just feel like if you baby trap someone in the U.S. That is just, you know, very malicious. Like you are you are a malevolent person because it is so expensive to raise a job. That you would forego any chance of you having like decent finances to keep this person with you.

That is a different type of evil. Someone in a foreign country like where I'm from, I'm from Guinea and when I went back to visit, you know, had a little fun over there. But she was trying to get me to like, you know, I was like, no. She's trying to go have his these with you. Like, nah, we're using, we're using protection. First of all, we're using protection. But I understand that, you know, me being, there's a perception of me, you know, they think I'm, I'm not American, I'm from Guinea, but because they have this idea that I'm like this rich American,

that I would be, you know, take care of her and like get her out of that situation. So that makes sense. But you're here and you know how shit is here. And it's a little goofy. Yeah, yeah, that's crazy. OK, so this one is two days old. It's coming from true off my chest. I caught my serious girlfriend trying to baby-trap me

last night. I don't know what to do from here. Just a warning, this post does have moments of TMI. I will say he gets very descriptive, so take that with, you know, grain of salt. Maybe skip if you don't want to talk about sex. My girlfriend and I have been together for two years and lived together. We are both 25 and get along perfectly, rarely fight, and seem to be on the same page about the future and what we wanted. We both have a desire to get married and have a family one day. I 100% was planning on marrying her soon. The first year of our relationship, I strictly wore condoms. She isn't on anything because hormonal birth control doesn't agree with her mentally, but over the past year, we've slowly gone to using the pullout method.

I'd say it's about 65 to 75% what we do. I pull out and finish on her stomach. Since we live together and seem to be serious, we kind of have the quote, if it happens, it happens approach. But I do not want to try for a child now. And she knew that. We do talk about things regarding our future children, send cute baby reels to each other, but it's just cute talk. Last night, after we had sex, I finished on her pulling out 20 seconds before I finished. I went into the next room to grab her some paper towel to wipe it off. And I saw her fingering herself.

I asked her what she was doing. And she stayed silent for a minute until I put the pieces together. She told me, I love you, and I really want a family with you. So I asked her why she's telling me that and she said, quote, I've been taking your come on my fingers and putting it inside me for months now. I ended it. I haven't returned her calls all day.

Is there a big chance she could be pregnant from this? With how long she's been doing this? I feel the odds are low, but my trust is broken. Well, I don't know why I imagine her taking like a turkey-based air. What do you mean? Do you just like... That would be horrifying.

I thought, dude, my thoughts before this were like, she's poking holes in the condoms or, you know, turkey based her breath, but this is crazy. I'm just envisioning her like, like snow plowing it down and like, I just like the mental image it gives you, it's just so bad. But like, I've had guys, and like I guess when you're dating someone for two years,

you don't think you have to be paranoid about that, but I have guys that literally are so paranoid about their jizz, they use condoms, but then afterwards they flush it, so it's not left in the trash for a girl to get and use. I just thought that was normal practice to flush. I don't think you're supposed to flush latex. Really? No, you're not supposed to flush tampons.

Like fucking the environment up. You're definitely. You're definitely. Yeah. Fault gang. Oh, God. Damn. I don't know how long it takes condoms to disintegrate in a landfill.

It's hard. I don't know. I don't have the knowledge to answer that question. Yeah. Just random. Damn. Yo, fingering yourself with your boyfriend's DNA is that there's underlying problems that need to be addressed. There's something going on. Because if you just, you're like right then and there in front of him, you're like,

I want him to accept this behavior. Well, I mean, she's been getting away with it. Like, I think he just walked back too fast. But it sounds like they kind of, she has baby fever. But he was kind of like encouraging it a little bit. Of course. Which I don't want to like victim blame him because this is like, this is not good behavior. But it's like, you're sending her cute baby videos. Like you're gonna make her think you're ready. Yeah, I mean, I don't even think that's like victim blaming because there's cause and effect, you know? If I'm under the impression that we both want a baby,

I'm gonna assume that I can take measures to ensure that. But I wouldn't take drastic measures in her case. I kind of be like, yo, like, it's like when they were like, if it happens, it happens. That would probably be like, oh, okay, you know, that'd be the extent of what I would do if I was her. Yeah. If it happens, it happens.

But going out of your way and trying to force a baby upon someone is kind of. That's fucked up. Yeah. I feel, and this is like my hot take for the day probably. I personally think if you're not on any form of birth control and you're using the pullout method, you're trying on any form of birth control and you're using the pullout method, you're trying to get pregnant.

Pullout method has a 96% efficiency. Are you sure about that? We can look at it right now, fact check me. I think it's less because the top comment, one out of five people that use the pullout method get pregnant. Really? That's one in every five,

assuming 100 people pull out perfectly. If I'm you and I'm 25 with my whole life ahead of me, I'm not liking those odds. I swear, I heard it was 96% effective. And that's not what you're trying to use. That's not based off of just experience. Like I looked it up. Oh my gosh. Yeah, that was the top comment. OP does add like a little bit of an edit. And people are like, she's lying about not being able to take birth control.

You were pulling out, so that's trying for a baby. No, we weren't trying. We were okay with the slim chance. Saying she's lying about hormonal birth, like no man should ever claim that a woman's lying about hormonal birth control, bro. You don't know what happens in the effects of it. I would never make a comment about that.

If she's lying, she's lying. If she's not, you know, but as a guy, I just wouldn't comment. There's certain things that I wouldn't comment on. That shit makes me suicidal. Like birth control. Like you had it? I've tried a bunch of different kinds. The pill and other like nuvaring type stuff and it just anything.

Just like I'm crazy. Yeah, fucking with hormones. Yeah, like it'll fuck you up. It is. It's not good. It'll fuck you up the way you want it to or it'll just fuck you up. It is. It's not good. It'll either fuck you up the way you want it to, or it'll just fuck you up. No, dangerous. It's disrupting the equilibrium of your body.

For sure. Be careful out there, you guys. Condoms are your friends. Some people have latex allergies. I do. I think I do. Yeah, so I don't use latex ones. I bought this. You're a latex guy. Yeah, so I don't use latex ones. I bought this. You use the goat skin one?

What the fuck? Is that what they're made out of? They use some component that, you know, uses animal skin, I think. Shut the fuck up. At least that's what they used to do. I swear to God, if I've been putting goat skin inside of me. Dude, you are goat skin, human skin.

It's all skin. Ew! I use these ones. Yeah, look up the... What? Why is it called skin? Oh no. No, no, no, no, no.

What's in it? It doesn't have like an ingredient list on Amazon. Dude, I have to know what's in it? It doesn't have like an ingredient list on Amazon. Dude, I have to know what to do. I need to know I swear to God. This is going to ruin my day if I've been using goat skin condoms. My God. Yeah, they just say latex free skin feel technology a revolutionary poly isoprene material It's so soft and comfortable. It almost feels like we're nothing at all. Wow

There's that that that is a little too vague for my sense of comfort. I know I need the chemical formula now like Where's poly isoprene coming from. That doesn't sound great either, though, to put inside you. Yeah, they're just using scientific names that you wouldn't know. That way you're just like, oh, whatever. It's just science.

Science. Oh my gosh, OK. I just need to Google this just so I can have a piece of mind. It is the primary chemical constitute of natural rubber. Mmm, okay, so trees. Okay, that's better than a goat skin. It's all the same stuff, it's all nature. You'd rather have tree inside of you than a goat?

Yeah, everyday. Twice on Sunday, every day. Every day. Her clue she started talking. Yeah. I need someone to review lamb skin now. Have you tried them? Nah, I haven't. Well, there you go.

Send us a review. The first time I ever used a it was the most painful thing and I used to think that Everyone was like a masochist because I thought sex was the most painful thing ever Not enough lube. No, it's not that is I bought a condom that was like super tight around the base tied around the base. Oh, I mean, this song was just like. It's just cut off your circulation. I was like, yo, what is wrong with people?

Like, what are they doing? Why are they doing this? This sucks. And for like two weeks, I did not like have sex with the girl that I was talking to at the time. And I had just like, that was like me losing my virginity. I was like, nah, fuck that. I was like, I don't know what these people are.

This is overrated. He got his craze. My hand is better. How am I here right now? Oh, man. Yeah, sex should not be painful if it is. You gotta. Yeah, go see a specialist. Yeah, otherwise ask yourself, are you using enough lube?

Speaking of, this might be a fun tip for you. Have you ever used coconut oil? Of course! Okay, good. It helps balance out the bacteria in the vagina. Yes, it is antibacterial. Yeah, it helps the good bacteria in the vagina. Why am I saying it like that?

Vagina. Vagina. Say it with an Eastern European accent. It helps the good bacteria in the vagina can you talk about the rest of the episode? Of course. I was kidding. Menya Jevoot Karlo.

Yeah, I love coconut oil and not the Jay Alvarez like weird stuff. Jay Alvarez. Did you ever watch that sex tape? Asking someone how far have we gone as a society where you could casually be like Have you ever watched that sex? I'm sorry. I feel like everyone was talking about it He used this like coconut coconut oil lotion Motion yeah, like that's not we're supposed to be using literally go to your grocery store and get a jar of coconut oil I think it needs to be

Unrefined no no unrefined extra virgin coconut. Yep. That's the one Well, and when you scoop it out like it does Have like little grains Initially, so you got to like warm it up on your hands, like get it going. Yeah, get the grains out. Yeah, cause at room temp it's solid. So pro tip for those out there. Miss coconut oil over here.

I know, well, and people do say they always yell at me. They always yell at me. Yeah, like if you're using coconut oil plus condoms, coconut oil can cause your- Yeah, cancels out the latex. Yeah. I will say, you know, choose your own level of risk, but I haven't had any issues with condoms and coconut oil.

Really? In the past seven years. I recently, so funny, I made a video about coconut oil. Really? It's one of my- Insert video now. One of my favorite videos. Okay, I'm gonna watch it. It's gonna be good. I cook no oil really insert video now Okay, I'm gonna watch it. It's gonna be good

It is it's so good I promise and I'm not just saying that out of hubris Yeah Well if Carlo gives us permission we'll include it here for those watching and listening. Plug it a little. Access granted. Okay, moving along. What the hell, man? Where is this shit? Hey, have you seen the coconut oil?

Oh, shh, not fault, man. Here you go, brother. Thanks, man, I've been looking for this order Hey man Why is the word virgin crossed out? Huh? You said what? The word virgin on This bottle of coconut oil is crossed out Why because that is what it used to be until I got my hands on it. What? One of this week's partners is ZockDock. If you didn't skip that section of this episode,

you guys hear first hand how bad my stomach issues are. And this year I am taking no chances, I'm getting my colonoscopy, but where do I even begin? Where do I find a good gastrodoctor? One that's actually gonna do a colonoscopy on a 30 year old ZocDoc, baby. ZocDoc is a free app and website where you can search and compare highly rated in-network doctors near you and instantly book appointments with them online.

Lauren has actually already done a little legwork for me. She went on ZocDoc, found a Gastrodoc, and he is amazing. She read the reviews and she knew going in what he was gonna be like, his bedside manner and all that, and the reviews weren't lying. He took her seriously. He's scheduling her colonoscopy. She didn't have to advocate or fight for herself to get it.

Everything you want in a doctor. So guess what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna get on ZockDoc, book my appointment with him, get my colonoscopy, and make sure I'm good too. And no matter what health issue you're having, ZockDoc is gonna be able to help you find that professional. And another thing I love about ZockDoc is they get you in. I needed an emergency gyno appointment

and I was able to book within 24 hours. And the typical wait time on ZockDoc is just between 24 to 72 hours. So if you're ready to try it for yourself and make sure you're looking after your health, go to zockdoc.com slash THT and download the ZockDoc app for free. Then find and book a top rated doctor today.

That's ZOC, DOC.com slash THT. Zockdoc.com slash THT. Thank you. Zoc dot com slash T-H-T. Thank you. Trigger warning on this next one, you guys. The story is somewhat safe, but our conversation after does contain talks of poop. This next one, God damn it. Oh, God.

It's coming from relationship advice. It is a little older. It is titled, When my girlfriend and I get into a fight, she pees on the floor. So throwaway account for obvious reasons. But a couple of months ago, I, male 24, met this really incredible girl, female 22,

and we hit it off. We shared a lot of common interests and spent pretty much every waking moment together. She had this really weird obsession with being a cat girl, but I thought it was kind of hot so I didn't really care too much. Even though it was pretty early into our relationship, we decided to move in together. And it was pretty good for the first couple of weeks. But then things started getting weird. I'm not going to beat around the bush,

and I need you to understand that I'm being 100% serious. She started pissing on the carpet when she's frustrated with me. She says it's a part of her kinship or something, but when we have an argument, she'll just squat and piss somewhere in the apartment. I don't know what to do. I'm losing my mind, and my entire apartment smells like urine.

I do genuinely enjoy her company, but this is getting out of hand. I don't know what to do! I need help, please. What is going on? Are the straight people okay? What is going on? Are the straight people okay? What is going on? Not only do you have to argue about it, not only you have to worry about losing the argument,

but your loss now results into a urinated carpet. No. Oh my God. No. That my God. No. That's so crazy. Can you imagine getting so mad at someone that you piss the floor? Not only can I not control my emotions,

but my bowels as well. Ah, dammit! Pull my dick out. I'm gonna damn it. Would you pee back would you just show if I was him and I got to the point Where I couldn't take it anymore Can't beat him just join him. Yeah, it is that mentality I just had of like

This is not something I've ever shared. Oh, god. I just had a- What, before? Yeah, I'm like, I'm really nervous. Before you share this, understand. I'm not a safe space. So, yeah, I am not a safe space. I overshare sometimes.

I will have judgments. I overshare- They may be in favor of you. They may go against you. They're definitely gonna go against me. What? I'm just letting you know before. You're gonna go out in the real world after this and you're gonna tell people you're like,

I went on this girls podcast and she's fucking crazy. Depends on what you say, because sometimes I'll be like, yeah, it wasn't me on that podcast. And the guy's getting crazy, man. Oh, man. I'm so sorry, everyone. So you remember how we talked about snapping into consciousness

when you're a kid? Yes. So I just had this mental image of me as a kid. And I used to, at my house I grew up with, I like lived with my great grandma and like my mom, my brothers. And we had this like really old couch that like went the whole length of the wall,

but like the way it was angled, like you could get behind it. It was like a fort. And so I would like always go behind the couch to like do things I shouldn't. Like I would take always go behind the couch to do things I shouldn't. I would take my cat behind the couch and I used to give her haircuts.

Like an actual cat, I was like four. I was like three or four. This is very, I wasn't in school yet. I was like three or four. And I remember one time, and I don't know why I would fucking do this because the bathroom was like 10 feet away, I remember peeing behind the couch.

Is that it? That's it. Man, you had me on that edge of my freaking seat. That's gross. Yeah, but you're like four. But still, like who just pees behind the couch? A lot of people. Four year olds, a lot of four year olds.

You made this a very safe space actually. This was very safe. I feel like I could tell you way more now. Well, I mean with the things I've heard and seen, you know. Where's the weirdest place you've peed? Weirdest place? Well, I'm a guy, so, you know. You have a lot of flexibility in that. Yeah.

We're plays like, peed is in my car. In a bottle? Yeah, hell yeah. That's kind of normal though. I've peed in a bottle at my apartment because the bathroom is way too far. Okay. Just out of this, I was like, yo,

my penis is gonna fall off. If I don't get this out of me. Yeah. You know, many instances get this out of me. Yeah. You know, many instances in life when that happens. Yeah. There's something about dudes. I feel like when you have to pee all of a sudden, it can just like happen out of nowhere.

And I literally, I was taking my fiance's roommate's dog for a walk the other day. I don't know. I was taking a dog for a walk the other day. And I was walking down the corner and I like went to take a right to go down a side street. And I looked down the street and like a block, half a block up, there was a pickup truck.

And all four of the doors were open. And you could just see streams coming from like the doors. And I was like putting two and two together I'm like are they pouring water out? They were all pissing. All of them. I literally just like turned the dog around and kept I would like walk the total opposite. You're like no good things could come with me walking in that direction. None. None. As a girl by herself, none. But like, you're brazen. I think the better question is,

where's the weirdest place you've taken a shit? You know? Cause there's those- The woods. Just the woods. One time, I remember I had just registered for college classes. And at the time I didn't have a car

and I used to have to wait on the bus. But I was like, you know what, let me just walk because I'm better off walking than to wait for the bus. So I'm walking and there's like this tall grass and then there's like these corporate buildings. Uh-oh. Walking and, I'm actually enjoying the walk. I'm like, wow, this is, you know,

I'll just walk all the way home. All of a sudden, rumble in the jungle. Yup. Fucking crazy shit I've ever had. It's one of those where like your whole body's reacting to the pain in your stomach. It's hard to like walk. Your muscles are constricting.

It's just like you start sweating. Yeah. And you're just like, you know, and you're clenching, and you're just like, please stop. So then I bolt across the street, and I'm like looking at the corporate bills, and I'm like, oh, am I trying to get in? But it's like, it's like 6 PM. So no one's there, obviously.

They're gone. They're gone. And I'm like, no, why do? And it's just the tall grass, all these cars coming, and I'm like, fuck, am I going to have to do this coming and I'm like fuck am I gonna have to do this So I'm like no no I'm not that far away from my sister's job She worked her best by in like the town center, but like I said, it was one of those that just cripple you So I'm like no I can't make I can't make it and like as I'm like taking my shorts off like it's just

And like as I'm like taking my shorts off like it's just So I just had to I just had to do that and then I had to use my socks So I'm there sockless Draw list. I'm just free ballin at this point I felt so that was like so primal too. I just felt like, felt like a dog after. I was like, it was a very fine line between humanity and animals. Oh my God, that feeling. That is a really tough feeling.

I just experienced it in London a couple months ago. Oh yeah, if you're gonna experience it anyway, it's gonna be London. It was the traveling, my stomach was messed up, I was constipated. English food will do that to you. And I literally had a coffee, I had two coffees that day

because like nothing was happening. And so I'm like, it's day four, like I gotta go. So had a coffee and all of a sudden I'm like, you feel it, you just hear it, you're sweating. It's the sweat that starts it all. The sweat makes me panic. Because I know when I'm sweating, I know it's bad.

Like I know it's bad. And I'm wearing this like really long coat. Like it is literally so long. I had someone ask me in a grocery store, can I ask you a question? Why'd your coat so long? Like it basically touches the ground. That's your poop coat now.

So I literally, I like, there's nowhere to poop. It's not in Hill fucking craft market. I run into a restaurant and I'm like, hi, any tables? Nothing, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah There's two bathrooms, men, women. And I literally go in and get my coat up, immediately explodes. I shit you not. Two seconds after, knocking on the door. Knocking on the door. I go to like get toilet paper, it runs out.

I luckily have enough. I go to flush, it doesn't flush. No! It's clogged. I have people banging on the door. I have to open it and be like, I'm so sorry girls. Like it's clogged. Like I'm gonna need a minute.

Shut it again. And they're like, oh, I guess I can go into the other one. I'm like, yeah, you might want to do that anyways. Yeah, what the hell? It was just, it was a nightmare. And like I finally got to the point, I had flushed it like 10 times or something like that. And there was still a little bit.

And I'm like, that's as good as I can get it. Like I got to go. And I ran out of there. And I had to check my coat because I literally like, I was like, they're better not be poop on this thing because then you're walking around, you know. You definitely defiled that bathroom. It was everywhere. It was everywhere.

Yo, let somebody run up in my restaurant. Hey, commit a crime like that. It was so bad. I didn't even get a drink. I just put it in. I was like, I need to run. Cause like if the girls from downstairs see me, like, we can't. You're like a fugitive.

I was like, yeah. Yeah. I would have rather pooped in the grass than that experience. So pooping in the grass is a enlightening experience. I feel like everyone at one, they got to. Okay. You know, it kind of brings you closer to nature. Okay.

It's got to be shitting the woods real quick, man. You know, learn to live. I'm going back to Minnesota soon. I'll try it. But I will carry toilet paper with me. From Minnesota. I've been in my entire life. I didn't know Minnesota was a real place until you try it. But I will carry toilet paper with me. You're the first person from Minnesota. I've ever been in my entire life. I didn't know Minnesota was a real place until we said it.

What did you think it was? I thought it was like AI generated state. It's like one of those places you hear about. It's literally like one of the best states. Minnesota? Yeah. Like hands down, I've been to almost all of them. What's the population in Minnesota? I

Don't know probably like 500,000. I don't think it's that little. I promise you. That's almost 6 million You're telling me that there's more of you. Yeah Minnesotans. Yeah, we're very diverse. We're actually a really big melting pot in Minnesota, especially Minneapolis We're very diverse. We're actually a really big melting pot in Minnesota, especially Minneapolis. Do you are broadening my mind? And the food, the foodie world there is insane. There's a lot of immigrants,

cause Minnesota being very blue takes in a lot of refugees. So the food scene in the past, like 20 years has just blown up. Minnesota is really cool, really cool. Phew, I wish you could like take a trip to my brain and see how much it is exploding. I love, I love Minnesota. That's crazy.

Love Minnesota. You're the first Minnesota man. I'm trying to organize a good little trip for everyone to let go and experience. Now I have to go see. I'll let you know when it is. Drew's coming. It's gonna be good.

I love Drew. That's gonna be good. She's great. Moving along. Shout out Minnesota. One last one for ya. And I think it's also gonna be a little bit of a nick. It is coming from true off my chest.

Eight days old. Truff my chest. True off my chest. Oh true off my chest, eight days old. Truff my chest. True off my chest. Oh, true off my chest, okay. A place to get personal things off your chest, just like you can just dump in here. My husband of eight years drives hundreds of miles for work every week and because I work from home,

he calls me every time he gets in the car and expects me to stay on the phone and keep him company for his hours long drives. This has been going on for years now. It is absolutely fucking maddening. And when I don't have anything left to talk about on our fifth hour on the phone that day, he says, I'm boring and starts complaining that we're just another couple

who have nothing to talk about. No motherfucker, most couples don't talk for dozens of hours on the phone every week. Most of the time, there's 8-10 hours gaps every day for stories and topics to accumulate, but I have no material left inside my fucking head. Everything I've seen and felt, I've already talked to you about. What else do you fucking want from me? I'm running on brain fumes. Sure.

I've started faking work phone calls just to get off the phone. And sometimes I choose to work in the office because he won't call me while I'm there. But he knows the second I get off work. So as soon as I get in the car to come home, he calls me. I can't even decompress in the fucking car before coming home to see him.

Like I wish I felt special because my husband wants to talk to me incessantly, but I'm not. I'm aggravated. I sometimes wanna listen to music or a podcast or a show on the TV, but I can't because I'm on the phone with him. I get overstimulated because the kids also wanna talk to me.

And I feel like I have too many pots on the stove and my attention is being pulled in too many directions. Work, kids, spouse, IMs, email, the cat's having the zoomies, it just gets to me. But does he understand? Nope. He gets butt hurt that he has to drive alone. Should he listen to music and podcasts? Yes.

But apparently him being autistic and no, no therapy at all, ever has made him severely attached to me to the point I cannot fucking breathe. Even when he's home, he's up my ass about 80% of the time. I just want to scream, leave me the fuck alone. But anytime I express needy to be alone, he makes me feel bad. I don't know if he means to, think he does though. He has no friends and dislikes his family,

which makes it all worse because I'm literally all he has. It is exhausting being the only person he has. I do not know if I can keep up with this for the rest of my life. I'm suffocating. Well, I'm suffocating just listening to that guy. I'm stressed for her.

I'm stressed. Oh, for real. Dude, being on the phone is such an arduous task. I hate it. It's like I go on the phone with people because I'm like, this is a conversation I have for like this amount of time. And then, you know, that's it. Because I also hate texting.

I hate texting. So I'll call real quick. Be like, 30 minutes, maybe an hour if we're real cool. And then, you know, that's that's it. Yeah, it is a lot of work to be on the phone. It is. And like, I'm just not about it. Phone calls, especially like random ones that pop up and you're like, oh my God, is everything okay?

Why are they calling me? They stress me out. I need people to text me very clearly. Hey, nothing's wrong, but let's chat. And I'm like, oh, then I'll do it. I love texting. I type on my computer, so I go really fast. But like, oh, this much?

I don't mind the phone call. It's just like, I don't like feeling like it's a task. Yeah. You know what I mean? It's like, when you take the phone out of the Spontaneity with phone call, and you turn it into like, and she's just getting off work, bro. Letter.

She probably had calls all day, had to interact. Social batteries down the drain. And it's like, you don't see it as someone expending their social battery because it's not, you don't view yourself as an outside societal person. This is your person. It's like, this is a separate individual, this is a separate entity with separate needs

and wants and everything. And I feel like when you start to implement the idea that's my person, they have to conform to what I want. That's kind of where the rift begins. And setting those types of expectations on people is just ridiculous. Well, and I don't, I feel like if he's driving, like it sounds like he's a truck driver or something

If he's driving a lot and like a phone call once a day an hour a day But they're talking every day For hours and hours on end. So it's like she says here by the fifth hour on the phone He says I'm boring and starts complaining or on the phone, he says I'm boring and starts complaining. Fifth hour is crazy. I don't think I've been on the phone with anyone that long since high school. I've never been on the phone that long, ever.

Like somebody would be paying me for it. Like someone needs to be paying me. It's just kind of concerning. And I think he definitely has a very insecure attachment or something. Yeah, definitely. But like, I don't- There's something-

But yeah, she said that he's autistic, so- Yeah. Him understanding social norms, I guess, is a bit of a task. It could be really difficult, but like, at this point, I mean, she says like, no, he's never had therapy. But like, you guys need to go to couples therapy. You need to like start working with someone who can like convey this message like, you guys need to go to couples therapy. You need to like start working with someone who can like convey this message like, this isn't normal. We need to work on

this. I need me time. I need to be able to decompress because I mean, she's been married for eight years and I would not be able to handle this for more than a month. Yeah, shout out to her. A saint. That's crazy. A saint of a woman. That is crazy. Yo, cause if she, if you're,

and that's one of those things where it's like, if they ever separate and she gets that taste of freedom, she's never gonna wanna go back. So he definitely needs to put more effort into, first of all, understanding himself and then understanding, you know, other people. Yeah. Like, that's crazy.

And then guilt tripping her is wild. I know, he just doesn't get it. The top comment, it sounds like you need to assert boundaries around this and stick with them. You should do what they say to do with little kids. Offer him options, compromises that are acceptable to you, and reiterate that those are the only options you can offer. It's up to him to take it or leave it.

He might whine, sulk, guilt trip you, but he's an adult and a husband. His needs and desires aren't the only ones that matter. Your needs matter too, and you've been far to accommodating for far too long. Yeah, that's how you gotta do it. I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I used to guilt trip back when I was younger and learning, you know, that's something

that you have to learn to like not do. Yeah. It's like guilt, it's like making people feel bad. And I learned that from like my parents cause I would get guilt tripped by them if they I didn't do Yeah, they wanted so that's what I'm saying like you got to understand yourself and what your behaviors come from So that you can better serve your partner. Yeah But like guilt tripping is so terrible So bad so manipulative

It's so terrible. It's so bad. It's so manipulative. Yeah, it is. And understanding that it is manipulative and it's not, you know, it's something that you need to nip in the bud. Yeah. Well, especially if like the person you're guilt tripping

on the flip side is a people pleaser, which it sounds like she could be. To put up with this for so long. Like that is like so emotionally and psychologically abusive. Yes, yes, definitely. This can't go on. And the worst part about it is she makes it seem like he's unaware, like completely oblivious to his actions. And it doesn't seem like she's setting boundaries either.

No, she's being kind of a pushover on it. Yeah. And like lying about the phone calls, which I would every day I got meetings all day back to back to back to back Crazy meetings it was Sunday 12 I'm I am not I just I would I would I'm talking to the church I would talk to anyone. I would talk to anyone. I would take telemarketer phone calls to get off the phone.

I'll show you for real. You imagine. I would take the scammer from India. He's like, well, all right, man. It was nice talking to you. You're like, wait. No. No.

Tell me about my car's extended warranty. Yeah, please. Please, one more time. Student loans? Yeah, sure. Nelmet, is that you? I never, you never even went to college. Oh my gosh. One more time No, that is that you I never you never even want to go

Oh my god, it's it's tough. It's really tough. Oh It's just feel like any social. Yeah, I mean I'm biased cuz I feel like almost all social interactions are just a lot I'm an introvert. Yeah, I'm like an introvert, but like I'll put on my, I'll put on my extrovert suit. You know what I mean? That's what people, people always like, I'm like, I'm introverted and they're like, you? No. And I'm like, no, that's like,

I can force myself to be an extrovert in social situations. But I go home and I need a dark room. That's quiet. So I love being in the dark. I just like I love there's some comfort for me in the dark. I don't understand. Bundled with a fan on just peace. I love cold environment.

And you know, you'll love Minnesota. No, it's cold. I think you got it twisted. I like I like my apartment to be like 66 degrees. Yeah. Yeah. 69 at the hottest. No, I left the got it twisted. I like my apartment to be like 66. Yeah. Yeah 69 at the hottest No, I left the East Coast for a reason. I hate snow. I can't do snow. It's brutal But it's so fun at the same time. It is snow like everywhere was getting crazy snowstorms today You guys get one of Minnesota. Yeah, there's some blizzards for sure. Are you guys you guys are north? Mm-hmm. We're by Canada.

That explains your accent. Yeah, it's not that bad though. When you said bag. Bag. Bag, I have to think about that. I do, so I don't get made fun of. But I got to like bring it back, just like, oh, can I get a bag?

It's just so cute. Can I get a bag? And a boat, let's go on a boat. A boat. I've got to check out Minnesota. You'll love it. There was only one comment that OP responded to. Someone was essentially like popping off on her

and being like meanwhile, there's wives all over the world wishing their husbands would pay attention to them. I think any wife would be exhausted after eight hours of a phone call. Not all attention is good attention. And that's on that. Not all attention is good attention.

Not all of everything. There needs to be moderation with everything. Even moderation needs moderation. Yeah, she basically just responded was like, you did not read past the third sentence. Yo, for real, yeah. Like, come on. Like, yeah.

But, oh no, you go ahead. No, I was gonna say, I hate people who like, they already have a response prepared before they ever hear you out. Common sense isn't common, comprehension is very hard. Like, you missed the entire point. Like, it's right there in front of you. You're so close, but yet right over.

Some people have no problem being far away. They just like the idea of just talking. There's people that get off on rage baiting for sure. Definitely. For sure. And the best way to counteract that is just not talk to them. Nope, just ignore it. My favorite thing is the older I get,

the more I realize how much of a skill it is to know when to shut the fuck up. That is a super power. I need to work on that. To, your life will be so much better. I definitely need to work on that. And also like not engaging with people that are trying to rile you up.

Cause I think it happens with politics and family stuff where you're just like, you just want to fight because it's like, it feels like if you don't fight, it's like you, you lack that integrity or something. But I need to get better about like that. Like knowing when to shut up or just being like, that's interesting, I'll consider it.

Sometimes now. Ends, it ends like. It's so amazing. Sometimes now I'll write what I initially was going to say. And this happens to me all the time. I do this. I literally do this. And I'm like, what the fuck am I doing? I'm like, I'm on delete. I literally, if I get a meme comment on YouTube, I type out like a nasty response,

just like advocating for my self. And then I see it it it makes me feel better I delete it. I don't post. Or sometimes I'll pin it and I know that my supporters would just laugh. That's a tactic if I've ever seen one. I love that is my favorite just pinning the most painless comments. Oh well Carlo that's all I got for you. This was amazing. I had a lot of fun. Thank you so much for coming on. Learn so much about Minnesota, coconut oil, lamb skin condoms that you apparently use and unbeknownst to you.

So much. I hope not. I'm going to go home and literally read the ingredient list. She's panicking right now. You can't see the smacked. I'm a little scared. I'm a little scared. But where can people find you?

What do you have going on right now? Shareaway. A lot of things I have going on right now I can't little scared. But where can people find you? What do you have going on right now? Share away. A lot of things I have going on right now I can't talk about. Ooh, I like that though. But yeah, I mean, I've actually been pretty busy, which is good, but you find me on Instagram, TikTok,

YouTube, Carlo Malis everywhere. I like it. I like it. Facebook. Ooh, there you go. I'm all I you for. Are you on the tube? The tube YouTube? Yeah. I like it. Facebook. Ooh, there you go. I'm all live. Are you on the tube?

The tube YouTube? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. The links for Carlos' channels will be in the description. So be sure you check them out. Give them a follow. And I'll be sure to post the coconut oil one that you have too.

I'll show you that. It'll be good. Okay. Bye guys. Bye. Thanks for watching!