WHOA That's Good Podcast - Answering Your DMs: Dating & Relationships

Episode Date: April 8, 2020

Host of the ‘Whoa That’s Good’ Podcast Sadie Robertson shares a bonus episode, tackling some of listeners' most popular questions that have hit her DMs.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's up fam welcome back to the world that's good podcast. Alright so this is going to be a new type of podcast and maybe we'll do this every other week I don't know. Depends on if you guys are into it and learning from it and enjoying it but you know nowadays we have a lot more time on our hands Hashtag quarantine life I know we're kind of all in the same boat here. And this is a crazy time. As we spoke about in the last podcast, we are definitely praying for everybody who is sick,

everybody who knows me that's sick, praying for people quarantined, dealing with just isolation and different stuff like that. We have a massive thing on our hands and just so you know, we are not taking that lightly and definitely praying. And hopefully this podcast can bring you joy in the midst of this uncertain time. But what I wanted to do on this podcast and hopefully maybe

start doing this every other week is just pop on here myself and you know just give any advice that I can to people who are asking questions and what I mean by that is we actually aren't getting a lot of questions. I have had questions sent into my DM box on Instagram. Whoa, that's a good Instagram live originals. And we've never really set down and just answered some of those questions. And so we decided we were gonna look through

a Whoa, that's good podcast DMs on Instagram. And hopefully I can just answer some of these things that you reached out to me and asked. I hope that you guys feel seen and heard and loved. And I hope that you walk out to me and asked. I hope that you guys feel seen and heard and loved. And I hope that you walk out of here with encouragement. I think it's amazing, some of the ones that I chose to talk about on this podcast are ones that I thought, man,

like you are not the only one. There's thousands of people who are wondering this same question and searching for this answer. And hopefully I can bring whatever I've learned from the Lord or my time spent in the Bible or my time spent with people older, wiser or just throughout life, through experiences or through following myself.

So hopefully I can answer some of these and find encouragement, but I also think that should be encouraging to y'all just to see that you're not alone and your questions that you have, that a lot of people are wondering the same thing you're wondering and it's okay to search. So Bible actually encourages for you to seek.

And it talks about if you seek in the kingdom of God, you will find because there's nothing that our God doesn't lack. And so let's go through some of these questions. All right, so the first thing I wanna read to you all, by the way, there's a lot of relationship questions in here. And so I'm gonna talk about some of those and then some other topics as well. But this one happens to be a relationship one. It says,

I don't know if you'll see this, but my ex cheated on me again. I feel so hurt and betrayed and feel like I can't trust anyone again. How do I accept and pray for someone good to enter my life that will treat me with love and respect? And how do I feel comfortable with waiting for that? I'm trying to find happiness within myself, but it's so hard. I really love some guidance. I feel incredibly lost. First of all, I'm so sorry that this is happened to you. It's such a painful thing to experience and I know that that does hurt your trust.

But I just want to speak some life of you first of all and say, if you're executed on you again, it's definitely time to move on for sure. And I think honestly, you know, you said, pray for me or how do I wait for that? I would encourage you to wait, give it some time. Give it some time to really heal your own heart because the last thing you wanna do is bring this broken trust and this lack of trust

into another relationship because even if the other guys awesome, I think it would be hard to let him love you knowing what just happened to you. And so I would just encourage you and you know, that's something I didn't do myself. I would be hurt by one person. Then I move on to the next and bring that hurt into the next and then be sensitive and then, you know, this is a cycle. And so I know you said, I want to find happiness in myself, but the truth is we're probably not going to find that much happiness just solely in ourselves. So I encourage you, take some time, get by yourself, but seek your happiness and your joy through the Lord and let God and what he says and what his perfect love is, heal those wounds in your heart.

And so that you won't keep record of wrong. You won't be so hard on yourself. You won't have trust issues. You won't be so hard on yourself. You won't have stress issues. You won't be sad, but you'll be refilled and rejuvenated with his great love. And you'll find how awesome you are and how loved you are. And then you can go into the next relationship, knowing that you're loved, knowing that you're enough,

knowing that you have every reason to be treated with respect. And in return, you'll be able to do the same thing for the next person. And so I just encourage you, take some time to heal. Take some time to heal and treat yourself with a respect that you deserve, sister. What's your next plan?

All right, next one. Hi, I was wondering if you could do a message related to balancing an intimate relationship with Jesus with a relationship with a guy. I'm sure you would have great insight and I feel kind of lost because it looks like this may be a problem I will have to face soon. I found true love in Jesus is past August I've saved myself for a while But this was when I actually felt that complete love for him and nothing else But I'm not sure how to keep that first love for him and also come to love someone else

I hope you see this and thank you for your amazing messages. God definitely has his hand on you. First of all, thank you. Second of all, okay, let's talk about it. I think even the way that we phrase the question on this is something that we can address. It says, how do I find a balance between a relationship with the Lord and a relationship with a guy?

And what I would encourage you with is, when it's the right guy and when that guy is seeking the Lord wholeheartedly himself, I don't feel like it's going to have to feel like such a big balance if that makes sense. I feel like you're naturally going to keep your pursuit of Jesus and his pursuit of Jesus will also remain the same because y'all are encouraging one another's pursuit. And in return, y'all will be actually giving to one another as far as like filling each other with life, filling each other's scripts, filling each other with Jesus. And there won't be this balance with it. Be this beautiful blend of encouragement and just soaking in Jesus. I found out with

Christian because I actually was nervous to date Christian because that's what I felt like in every other relationship. I would feel like, oh, I'm trying to balance my show with Jesus. And I'm kind of slacking because now I'm in this other relationship. And I just want to encourage you and everybody out there, you should never, ever, ever get out of relationship with Jesus in order to get into a relationship with somebody else. Jesus is your firm foundation. He is your relationship with love itself because God is love. And from that relationship, you can welcome another relationship. firm foundation, he is your relationship with love itself because God is love.

And from that relationship, you can welcome another relationship only to encourage and make each other better. Yes, it's going to be hard. Yes, you're going to have bumps in the road. But ultimately, you'll both have to have that foundation and center point and Jesus so that you're always coming back to that. And so I wouldn't put Jesus over here and him over there. And then think you have to leave always coming back to that. And so I wouldn't put Jesus over here and him over there and then think you have to leave Jesus to go to him. It's like, no, here's Jesus.

And if you want to date me, then you'll find me running to him. And that's kind of how I think it works in the most successful way of a relationship with two people running after God. They look over and they see we're running the same pace. All you all know, all you all know, all you all know. Alright, next one. Hey girl, listen to you has been so amazing in life, giving for me.

Oh, love that. It's been a hard season. Just got married. First out of my friends, I'm 19, but I've never felt so alone. Married is amazing, but it's hard when you don't feel like you have community. Listening to you guys really encouraged me, and then she goes on a conversation really nice things about our podcast and stuff. I want to just encourage you because I know a lot of people that have gone through this, you know, you get married or you go into a new season, you move states, you find a job,

and then you feel alone and you don't feel like you have community, and that can be really hard. Something I've actually been learning because Christian I got married and I had lived in Nashville and had just like the most amazing community of friends and then I moved to a new place and didn't know anybody really. And I had to kind of restart finding friends and what I realized is I didn't actually have to restart and I want to encourage you by that by saying like I think sometimes we feel like okay We're in a place where to rebuild what we just came from because we want it to be like what we just came from

But your new season isn't gonna look like your last mirror just gonna look like your college years or your high school years for Your sake it's not gonna look like all of your other friends It's a new season and don't expect the new season to look at the old let it be a new season and embrace the new season for what it is and then you'll find so much joy in it than when you're comparing it to a previous one. The other thing is you don't have to rebuild a friendship or restart something because it's not like your old friends left it's not like they're gone it's just again a new season and so you can build from a place of knowing I didn't lose everything. I just get to add to my life

This is just another season of my life that I get to add to and in that case you don't feel like you've lost anything You feel like you just have potential to gain and I like to look at it that way The thing I would say is you know, it's gonna be hard to get plugged in But you're gonna have to put yourself out there in certain ways, you know? Like for me, I'd never been to a pure bar class in my life. Okay. I was actually scared to go to these kind of workout classes, but when I moved to this new place for Christian, this girl was like, Hey, do you want to go to pure bar with me? I'd love to get to know you. And I'm like, oh shoot, because she not a set coffee, but okay. So I go with her and I was so terrible at purebore. Oh my gosh, it was embarrassing. Like literally the ball like fell,

I had to lean down on the ball with my back, you know? And it like shite out from behind me. The ball like rolled up girls the whole classroom. So I'm not good at purebore, but I made a new friend, you know? And so sometimes in new seasons, you have to do new things. And that's okay. Get to know people through that way.

She ended up becoming my closest friend where we ended up moving. And the last thing is, you know, even though you feel the need to build community and you should always build community and work towards that, if you've just got married, like let your husband and that friendship be enough, you know, I think gosh, even though I didn't know many people and I wanted and desired to know more people and I did end up getting to know more people the time that I got to spend with Christian was so sweet. I mean we just became so much better friends and we got to build our teammate situation was gonna look like what our relationship was gonna look like and set the tone for hopefully the next years of our life and so I hope that encourages you.

I hope that encourages you. I hope that encourages you. I hope that's true. I hope that's true. I hope that's true. All right, here we go. This is a relationship question, but not relationship with a guy.

This is a relationship with God. Somebody said, I know you'll never see this. God said, read it right now, but I need advice. I feel like I've strayed from God in my life has become so difficult. I have faced so many struggles and I feel like it's pounding out when I'm hurting so much. I feel lost and confused and I'm at such a weird place in my life. I don't want to bore you with all this, but I need advice and I don't know what to do anymore. Wow. First of all, you are not boring me at all. Sending in advice. This is no different than sitting with a friend of mine or myself going through just the

emotions of life and having a hard day or a hard time. I just want to say, you know, you acknowledge that when you strayed from God, your life has been really difficult and you've been facing all these struggles. And I think a lot of times people think, because I've strayed from God and because I begin to struggle and because I've done all these things now I have to sit in the place and I'm at and there's no hope for me. But I want to encourage you to turn around and go back to God because where your hope is, where your peace is, where your future is, where your rest is, where your joy is,

is all in the presence of your father God. Your story is reminding me of the prodigal son. Speaking of her, Austin confused the prodigal son. He lived with his father and he had this amazing house with his father and his father was going to give him and his brother a share of the estate that he had. Well, the younger brother asked for his estate early and the father gave it to him and the brother. You all and the brother. You all know the story.

He took it and he squandered everything he had in wild living. I mean, he was struggling. He totally turned from his father and he threw all this away with prostitutes and parties and all of these different things. And then a famine hit the area that he was living in so he didn't have anything. I mean, he was wiped of money. He was wiped the food. Literally to the point, this son was eating from the pig's pin, okay? And then he said he was on the brink of death and he thought to himself,

how many of my father servants have something to eat? And yet I'm here eating from the pig's bit. So, you know, we get in that moment, we do, we struggle. We turn from God. We do all these things and we're in this place and we're at the brink of death and we're starving and we're like, oh, if only I could just get some food. If only I could just get some hope. If only I could just get some help. How many other people have a life like me and can be happier, could be joyful or is thriving or whatever. And the truth is, it's like, actually, that offer is available for you too. And he kind of just thought,

maybe I'll just go back home and I'll just be a servant because I'm no longer worthy of being a son, but I at least need to do that so I can get some food. And so the prodigal son, he returned back home. And if you know the story, it says that the prodigal son's father saw him before he even got back and he ran out and he embraced his son and he was hugging him and he kissed him and he said, my son is home.

And before he could even get to what he was going to say, the son stopped him and he's like, whoa, no, no, no, I'm actually not worthy of being called your son anymore. I just want to be your servant. I've sinned against your father and of heaven. And it's so beautiful because his son returned and he was repenting. He was apologizing. But even in this apology and this repentance, he so didn't feel like he was worthy enough to be his son.

But yet to everybody's surprise, the father just said quick to a servant. Go get the best row, put it on him, get the ring put on his finger, kill the fat in the cap. We have to have a party and celebrate because my son was once dead. Now he's alive. He was lost, but now he's found and he began to celebrate. And so I say that to you to say, if you think the reaction of God is going to be mad and anger and bitter and you're never going to be forgiven You're going to be judged then that's not the picture of God that I see right there in the Bible from the story of the Prodigal Son

When his son returned who had turned from him and he had struggled This father who represents God Jesus was telling this story He rejoiced and he celebrated and he welcomed him back And he's like, you know, think you're worthy. It's not about you being worthy. It's about you belonging to me See, that's the beautiful thing about where you're at right now no matter how you feel You might feel like you're in this weird place. You might feel lost from God You might feel all those things but but yet God caused you found. God caused you free.

God caused you a lot in him. And so rest in that. Don't let yourself go to those. I'm not worthy. I shouldn't. I don't belong here. I don't because I did this because I did that. God's like, hey, it's okay.

If you turn to me and you have a pit, you're forgiven and you're welcome here. You know, I wanted to preach that right now. I just kind of share that to you because I know that a lot of people feel like you do right now. I know a lot of people feel like you do in this DM. Actually, because I got so many other DMs that said, how do I get back to God? How do I get back to our relationship? I got them struggling. I feel lost. I feel depressed. I feel like I'm not worthy. All of these different things. And it's like just read the story of the prodigal son

that Jesus told because that is the story of getting back to God. You just turn in his direction and on your way, who'll meet you there and celebrate you. So guys, I hope that if you're in your car right now listening, you're at your house. Oh, you just responded that. Turn to God. Repent for the things you've done and say, Father, I'm not worthy, but God, I'm glad you

call me yours, God. Thank you for sending your son a die for me to forgive my sins, so I can have access to you, God. Bring your Holy Spirit to fill my heart. Respond to that call today. You'll never regret it. If you're looking for hope, if you're looking for life, if you're looking for love, if you're looking for joy, then really you might not know it, but you're looking for God. Today, you found it. Rest in that.

Yo, I love doing this. I love doing this pod guys today. I hope you feel encouraged. I hope you feel seen and heard and loved. And yeah, I hope you guys, if you all have any more specific questions, send them in the way that's good. And I'll just keep popping on here and doing these pod guys if it benefits you guys life and y'all's faith. Love you guys, city rob rob out catch you next week

Probably with a friend and then the next week maybe I'll be here solo who knows okay Oh yeah.