WHOA That's Good Podcast - Answering Your DMs: Searching Scripture & Long-Distance Relationships

Episode Date: May 20, 2020

Join Sadie as she dives into her DMs and answers listeners questions! Her husband, Christian Huff, joins her as they discuss how to search and read Scripture, tips for managing long-distance relationships, and how to handle changing friendships.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to the WoW that's good podcast. Welcome back to the WoW that's good podcast. Is this the copycat game? Yep it is. Yes. The cat copy game. This is just a bonus episode where Chris and I are going to read y'all's DMs that you send in with some of the questions that you've asked. And we love it because y'all have some deep questions. Keep the sound right, Chris. Yeah, I'm not saying that we can answer it the way that a professional at this can answer it, but we're going to answer it like a friend would and just talk to y'all through some stuff that some people are struggling with. And so the first DM that I am going to read, I will not name names because we're not going to expose anybody on the world. That's good podcast.

Well, that would not be bad. But I love this. It says anytime I'm going through a hard time, everyone says, go to the word. I love that. And I want to do that. And I'm so desperately want to hear the word, but I have no idea where to begin. There's so many different books in the Bible. And I'm absolutely clueless on where to start.

I just so desperately need to hear from God right now. I love this vulnerability and kind of what you shared. It's like everybody gives you this great advice, go to the word, which is true. But if you are like, where in the world do I go in the word, that would be really confusing. So I would just encourage you with, think about maybe what you're going through.

What do you need to hear the Lord in? Is it having more faith? Well, then maybe type in Google, who in the Bible had a lot of faith? And for me, I can know right off the top of my head, Abraham really had to walk through faith. There's a lot of things Abraham was not great at, but one thing he had was faith and that carried him going. Joshua had a lot of faith, you know?

And I'm sure Google will take you to those places with who in the Bible, me and Christian do that a lot will type in like scriptures on this. But I encourage you not just read one scripture but read an entire book or read an entire storyline because it's in those moments that you really get to see the whole character of God. You know, it takes it off this like self-mind

said, I just want to get a scripture to help myself. It's like, no, I need to understand who God is because ultimately that helps who I am as a person. So I would just encourage you think about it like a big picture of the story line in the Bible and not just individual verses. And that'll really help you hear the heart of God. Yeah, that's so good. And I know for me, you know, when I just want to get in the scriptures one of my favorite places Always to go to know it always leads me back. There's just just the gospels. You know Matthew, Mark, Luke and John I think I think it's so awesome when you get to read something that portrays so accurately the life of Jesus who You know we worship and who changed every part about us. And I know for me. I love John

But I think the gospels are a perfect place to turn to, going through anything, honestly, because it teaches you so much just on every aspect of life. And it really, Jesus shows you how to live life through those books. So for me, I love the gospels, and I can't point someone back to a better book. Yeah, I would say the gospels, for sure.

I mean, that's all time. That's Jesus. Go to I would say the gospels for sure. I mean, that's all time. That's Jesus. You know, go to Jesus, read the gospels. If you need like individual things, I guess, that on faith, like maybe that's Abraham or courage, that's Joshua or saying said fast, that would be Daniel. There's these different types of people in the Old Testament. And also, if you need some life advice, proverbs or in the New Testament, there's Philippians and there's Ephesians, the different books that Paul would or in the New Testament, there's Philippians and there's Ephesians,

there's different books that Paul would write to the New Testament church to give advice and so those are super, super helpful. Those are well, that's good books. Romans, yes. The next question is totally different, it's about relationships. And basically they're going through a long distance relationship and she says, what advice can you give us, and especially me

in guarding my heart, but allowing him to know me to a deep level while we're apart. Long distance is super hard, and I would love for some wisdom on how to do it well. Well, for those of you who don't know, Christian and I literally, where long distance are a whole entire relationship until we got married. And then the Lord was like,

I'm gonna just do y'all something else, I'm gonna put y'all in quarantine together. So here we are in quarantine. We're the furthest from Laundisins. Yeah, now we're actually being stuck with that. Stuck like glue. Uh-uh, a little stuck like a sun drink. Stuck like glue. A little bit full of sugar. We did, oh my gosh, I'm sorry, Crescent's laughing at his own joke now.

Sugar land. Okay, this is a deep question. Christian's laughing at his own joke now. Shega LAN. OK, this is a deep question. And we're about to speak into it. OK, so they're talking about Laundisense. And just the pain of that. And just so you know, Laundisense, it's hard. We're not saying that it's not. We're laughing because we made it through it.

But at the same time, you asked about how to go to a deeper level on Laundisense. And honestly, I can't think of a better way to get to a heart level conversation than a Laundis, I can't think of a better way to get to a hard level conversation than a long distance. Dan, on long distance, yeah. I mean, some of Christian and I's best talks were over FaceTime and late night over the phone conversations. And I think it's good because I know you mentioned that you've

been maybe dating for a while or something, but I think, you know, when you're dating in your together, there is this physical temptation, right? You know, you can just start kissing or like get shaked about your cuteness. And that's, you know, okay, under, you know, the the umbrella, the umbrella of purity and wisdom. And all of those things in the Bible, speaking of good advice from the Bible, then God's perfect plan. But when you're not together, and you just have this

communication, it can be a really beautiful time to just talk. And to just hear each other's voice and I'm not saying don't do that when you're in person. I encourage you when you're in person to have those really deep conversations because you want to save some of those for when you're right in front of each other. But there's a blessing to being over the telephone and getting to really chat.

And there's also like a fun aspect of it. Like ask each other the silly like 20 question game questions, you know, and just get to know each other for who you all are a little bit better. And I encourage everybody relationships, whether you're long distance, whether you're together, truly ask each other the deep questions, ask each other the hard questions.

If that's somebody that you're considering spending your life with because knowing each other is just equivalent to either loving each other more or knowing that they're not right for you. And Christian and I couldn't be more thankful for those hard questions at the time because now I feel like we have so much fun in our marriage because we know each other, we know each other fully, we're not hiding in our past, we're not searching back to our past, we're not having to have some of those conversations. Now that we're married that we could have and did have while we were dating. So I just encourage you to get on that deep level through your communication. Yeah, that's so good. For us, I know that being long distance and talking on the telephone really made us closer.

I know that it forced us to have conversations because like you said, you know, when you're in person, you know, you can maybe do things and go get a movie or go to dinner and do stuff like that. And I think that those are awesome things, but sometimes it maybe can create less of like a conversation maybe between us. I know for us, when we were talking on the phone for an hour or three hours every night, it forced us to have conversations and it really helped us to get to know each other.

Yeah, so good. They. On the topic of relationships, somebody else said that her and her boyfriend had just recently given their life to Christ. And now they're going to go and church together and get to know the Lord better together. And they ask if we had any divas that we we love or any books and we like love reading books They then we were dating single dating engage married was a book we read love that last was a book we read So single dating gauge married has been steward love that last was Jefferson Bestie we listened to the relationship series by Mike Todd and

Right now we're actually going through this, she reads truth and he reads truth. It's the promise is a God devotional, but there's like so many devotional that they've done. And that's really cool, because you're reading the same thing and just getting so much out of it individually and together. And I think that's a great thing to do as a couple. That's awesome. And something I know that really impacted me

and really helped me when we first started dating. We did the Proverbs a day. Yeah, we did Proverbs a couple. That's awesome. And something I know that really impacted me and really helped me when we first started dating. We did the proverbs today. Yeah. We did proverbs today. So we would, for the first day, it was proverbs one, and we would send to each other what we learned from it, and what we felt like the lower speaking to us

and teaching us through it. We did it all the way through the proverbs 31. And it's really crazy because I put on my list of things I wanted to find in the house and somebody who would finish the proverbs challenge with me. And it's so funny, because that was kind of my thing. I would do that with if I started dating a guy and we'd always drop off at like

seven or eight and I made a 31 and I was like, well, hey, I guess on your promise, anyone won't see his clothes. Strang the dignity. And our marriage. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, true story. Somebody actually has a circle back question too when we talked about eating disorders and they said how did you get over it?

Like how did you come through that and how did you tell yourself it's okay to eat again? Honestly for me, I got the main voice out of my life. I need to get out who was kind of speaking over me that insecurity. But then also I just stopped thinking about those things. So much I kept giving it to God. I remember asking God, this is a funny prayer, but I was like, God, build a wall around my mind like the wall of Jericho and do not let it fall unless it is your command that it comes in.

I mean, I just got serious about my thought life and just started eating. Like, just started saying, like, God, I thank you for my body, I'm free in this body. I'll, you gave me this body for its purpose, not for how it looks and just started to view my body as like the gift that it was that my lights can run and that my arms can run and that my arms can

move and that I can dance and be free and not so much about what it looks like. And that was huge. But I think the first thing was just getting the voice out. Yeah, that's good. Definitely getting the voice out for sure. Yeah. And I know surrounding yourself with people that encourage you and speak life into you and going out and dinner with your friends. I know that that was something that helped me rather than isolating myself in my own house with my own kitchen and cooking, whatever I wanted to, but really getting out for me was what helped me a lot. Yeah, I would just say,

like, we're not talking about like, starting to say with people that are like, you look good, like you're beautiful, you're like, no, like starting to say with people who are like, aren't thinking about you that much and you're not thinking about yourself that much. That's good. Not focus on what you look like,

but focus on who you are. I mean, that's the most important thing. That's good. So, somebody who says, and this is kind of the last one, we'll talk about, they said, not sure if you'll see this. I like how you all start, start over this, but it's,

What we're seeing it? We're seeing it, girl. It says, but what's your advice on someone who's best friend has replaced you in their life with someone else and they have become almost nonexistent in your life? I would say first of all, like, that is so hard. And so, you know, we're sitting here and we can give advice, but at the same time, like, that is hard. And we're not going to, like, it's not. That actually happened to me in high school. I had this best, best best friend, and I love her to death. But I started getting busy in my own life,

and then she had another best friend, and I just kind of saw that replacement. And I remember struggling with that, and wanting and fighting to get that friendship back. And to be honest with you, it didn't ever get back to the way that it was before. But I will say this, God is so good. And her and that girl are so friends.

And God provided me with so many other amazing friends. And me and her still talk every now and then. And I will always love her so much. But I kind of had to let go of the idea that it was going to be back to the way before and just leave my hands open and say, God, what do you have for me now? You know, and God just brought new people in my life and they don't replace her. They never will.

But they're their own friendship with me. And now I have those best friends and those best friends and it being bridesmaids and they're walking with me and it was just so awesome. And so I think you know, when you can stop looking back at the past, even though you can be thankful for the past, but be open to the future of new people and new friendships. It'll free you up and don't compare the new people to the old people. It's not going to be the same. They're going to make new memories. You're going to do different things, but just let it be new and let that be okay. And I think that'll help you a lot. And I know it's hard, and I know it's sad and frustrating. But also don't let yourself become bitter towards them.

That's the biggest thing I would say too. So you don't want to form resentment? You don't want to form resentment. It's not good. The bell talks about forgiving 70 times seven. You don't want to harbor bitterness in your heart because you can't let love in your heart. And if you're able to cheer your old best friend on

and her new best friendship, that's such a mature thing to do. And it'll bless you in the long run. Like, I'm so glad that I still have some sort of relationship with my old best friend because I love her. And I always will. And we can laugh at the memories that we had. And I would hate to think that I would hold us back from having any type of relationship. Yeah. That's so good. Having anything to add, babe? I think exactly what you said. I think, you know, new friends will come along

and don't, you know, compare that to what was and really just not letting yourself, you know, former resentment in your heart and maybe wanting to get back at her by showing off your new best friend or something like that. But really, just seeing what God has for you in this new season, like you said, sharing your friend on, I think that's huge.

I think that really shows maturity. Yep. Yeah. All right, this is where we're going stronger. Now let's do one more. All right, let's do one more. I think this one's really good. It talks about the relationship with God

and it's kind of like a relationship question but it's kind of more like Jesus question. They're talking about how like they want to just be content with dating God in this season, if you will. Like she craves a boyfriend so badly, but she wishes she was just content with being with God. So she says, how do you achieve just being satisfied by being loved by God, not being

loved by God? And then I would just say, you know, as hard as it is in a much as you crave it, it is necessary that you are loved by God and understand your love by God before you ever even welcome a guy into your life. Because when a guy comes into your life, if you don't know that you're loved, you're not going to be able to receive love from him. You know, you'll be jealous, you'll be insecure, you won't believe it, you'll have trust, you know, all these other things will be striving.

And sometimes it works out, you know, I guess, but for me what I've found is you won't find that contentment unless you find it in God first. And so in that goes for any season, that goes for dating engagement marriage marriage, even in our marriage, if I'm not content and satisfied and the love that I have from the Lord, then I'll never be able to give that. No, I won't even accept it or see it or recognize it. Because I'll be so in my head and vice versa. Christian would do it goes for guys and girls. It goes for, believe me, it goes for guys and girls.

And that's whatever season of life we're in, knowing that you're loved by God and understanding that and embrace that. And only what you can know that is to build a confidence in your relationship with him. Like that is gonna be the thing that frees you up to live your life and be a confident person and be someone who has good relationships and in friendships and in all those different things. So I think it's crucial you take this time and let yourself be loved by God

and understand the depth of his love. It's a crazy love. It's a crazy love. It's a crazy love. It's a crazy love. Well, we love you guys. We're so thankful to get to have a little bonus episode to answer some of your DMs. Keep sending them in. We love them, whether they're fine or silly or goofy.

Or whatever. Whatever. So to end this, you know, we normally do like good and bad advice, but that's kind of on our regular episodes. But Christian, let's just tell them some quarantine advice. We've been doing lately because I know you've been loving sharing some quarantine advice. What was so fun things to do on quarantine? So some fun. How about quarantine wins? Okay, quarantine wins. Watch the show chopped.

Chopped is so good. Chopped is so good. And it's so fun for me and Sadie because we're like make food. And we can both like really emulate what the judges say. Like on our forget there's that we were watching it the other day and this guy cooked something and the judge were like, this is a really buttoned up dish,

but it just didn't really sit well in my palate, but it was very savory. And we're like, so literally making it into smoothies. Like it was very savory. And we're like, so literally making Christmas movies, like it was a very buttoned up smoothie, but the colors of the blend was a little off to me. Yeah, yeah. So that, and then we've also just been getting out

and just exercising, whether it's just some jumping jacks or some push ups or just whatever, it's been fun. Yeah, lay outside, we've been, Oh, we've been taming in the back. We've been taming in my truck, but a little bit, but we've just been really spending some quite a time with each other and we've been It's been fun. Go have fun kids.

We're having fun kids. We love you all. Bye. Love you kids. Love you kids. Bye! you