WHOA That's Good Podcast - Intentionality Protects the Heart

Episode Date: November 13, 2019

Sadie Robertson kicks off Season 3 with a very special guest, her future husband, Christian Huff! Join them as Christian shares his testimony with listeners and the couple gives an inside peek into their relationship. Hear how Christian’s intentionality during their dating season impacted Sadie and set the tone for the future of their relationship.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey yo, Sadie Rob here. What's up fam? I am so pumped because whoa, that's good podcast is officially back in action. We have so much going on and live original world right now. I don't know if you've seen on my Instagram page, the Jet Sadie Rob, but we have a new clothing line called Words by City Rob. We have a blog that's bumpin on liverjones.com. And oh yeah, my dear detail, I'm getting married. Oh, so crazy.

And so what better way can we start off a new podcast season with the one I'm in right now getting married? And so I have my very favorite guest because he's about to be my husband, Christian Huff on the podcast. And I'm so excited for y'all to get to know Christian more because obviously he's the love of my life, but not everybody knows his sweetheart.

And so I'm gonna get to interview him today. So we'll see how this goes. Let me try to interview him. I'll probably be giddy and flirty. So bear with me, but I'm so excited for y'all to get to know. My future has been Christian Hub a little more. Listen y'all, I'm so excited. One special day that I get to have my favorite person in the world on a podcast. This is kind of fun because it's a normal conversation that

we'd have, but yet there's a microphone. And hopefully people are listening and inspired and encouraged and laugh a little and find Jesus in the middle of it all. But listen, I'm not going to treat you in differently besides I might kiss you once or twice. But I'm going to ask you the same question. I'll ask everybody else. What is the best piece of advice that you've ever been given? The best piece of advice that I've ever been given. I would say, I heard it.

Ellen said, it was necessarily given to me, but I heard it about two years ago. I heard a sermon from Rich Workers and Junior, and it said, if it breaks God's heart, why do you think it will fulfill yours? Great. And that really just spoke to me in the sense of, I felt like that was my prayer at that time, was really like, break my heart for a break of yours, Lord. And, you know, I don't want anything in my eyes that's fulfilling. They've had the end of it, breaks God's heart. So I kind of wanted to have the same heartbeat at that time in my life as a Lord. And that quote just really spoke to me. That's great. I guess you say at that time, that just really meant a lot to you.

What time of your life was that you read that and something in your spirit said, I needed to take this and so much so that you would have as your Instagram bio. And a lot of people, Evan Schock, so many people come up to you and say, Hey man, your bio has really encouraged me. And so what about that time in your life did that speak to you so clearly? Yeah. So I'd say that was two years ago. So that was the start of my sophomore year of college.

And that was really a time where I was kind of coming off the summer and turning it into church, then coming back into college and kind of taking more of a bigger role with leading a Bible study and kind of getting more plugged in with our local church and volunteering more up there. And really just wanting to progress in the college and really just have it impact and Ultimately just be on the same heartbeat as God breaking my heart for breaks his throughout the campus That's great. So a part of that quote that I think is so cool It's like if it breaks God hearts and why do you think that of a failures and at one time in your life?

There might have been things that Sin and I would say I mean we've all've all gone through all going through those hard times. And like that, that does break God's heart. And it's that question, man, why did I think that was going to fulfill my heart because I was breaking the Lord. So for you, like, I know your story because I'm your fiance, but not everybody knows your story. And I would love you to share your testimony because I think in your story,

it is so powerful to see how far I've got to take you in such an expedited amount of time. I think a lot of people think, okay, you know, if I go to college and I do this at in the other, my high school was rough, then hopefully one day when I'm a dou, I'll finish college and I'll come out of it and maybe I'll start living life for Jesus. But your story is so unique because God caught you at such a pivotal

time and such a great time, I would say, because you got to, like you said, sophomore year, start living for God. So what did that freshman year look like? What did high school look like when was that shift for you? Yeah. So I would say high school, we're just kind of growing up with like my family kind of grew up in a Christian household and let a church every Sunday, but didn't know anything about a relationship with Jesus and didn't know.

The Holy Spirit didn't have him as a guide and Kind of throughout high school was very, you know prideful and I'd say insecure and that kind of went into college wanting to have Kind of like one foot in the world, but also one foot in church and kind of you know fulfill kind of like you go to church Because that's what you do. Yeah, yeah kind of like fulfill worldly desire for the same time You know try to clean your stuff up on Sundays. It's a good for church. So a few weeks in the college I actually had this party and I was kind of on this balcony by myself. And I was just, you know, just drinking beer and letting it by myself. And then I remember sitting down and this random guy walked up to me kind of sat next to me.

It's only if he's a believer. Don't really know him that well, but he kind of walked up and said, like, I thought you didn't drink. And like, look me dead. Yeah, for some reason, like like something that moment kind of clicked and I was like, I don't and then in that moment kind of Left and then walked home in the range by two miles and they kind of fell on my face like in my dorm floor Before the Lord and I was like, what am I doing? And then kind of in that moment kind of load up my eyes kind of stuff my heart. Give me your seat here I used to see

Hard to be receptive to his word. Yeah, so good. I think it's so good. And you know how cool that somebody just calls you out and you're like, I don't. And I think that's really cool because at the time, Christians on this balcony, paint in this picture, he's literally drinking a beer.

The guy can see that. And the guy's like, I thought you don't drink. And Christians said, I don't. But yet, he has a beer in his hand. And that's what the action that he is doing. But yet, he said, I don't drink and Christians said I don't. But yet he has a beer in his hand, and that's what the action that he is doing. But yet he said I don't. And I think that's so powerful because something that this guy called out

about who he was, Christians was like actually the man that I am, and Christ he says does not. I don't do this. But yeah, I am doing this, but I think that's what you said. You can't show it in high school. That's my insecurity,

or that's my this side, or whatever. And that's what I'm doing right now, but that is that's what you said. You can't show it in high school. That's my insecurity, or that's my this, that, or whatever. And that's what I'm doing right now. But that is actually not what I do. Then the man that I know. And so you go home and you have this encounter and it just changes everything. So what did it look like after that encounter? Because I think a lot of people might have that encounter

in that moment with God and they say, okay, but how do I actually change? Yeah, after that moment, kind of turned to the Lord. And I wasn't perfect after that. You know, I stumbled after that. But I think definitely kind of getting plugged in with the church and surrounding yourself with that community. And for me, it was having weekly prayer nights and weekly Bible studies that surrounded

myself with guys at our church and really got into the pasture well and really got involved with volunteering and prayer nights for the church and worship nights and talking to the elders pretty regularly. So I think when that moment happens, all you wanna do is just seek in those moments. I was saying nothing satisfies you, but you're so desperate after that. And you wanna just continue to seek

and continue just to pursue. That's so good. So I wanna ask you because you always say that night when you want to just continue to see, and continue just to pursue. That's so good. So I want to ask you because you always say that night, when you left that party, what did that walk look like for you on the way home? I think a lot of it's kind of questioning myself. And I love Cory Asber. I did a live song to reckless love.

And this, the image of the good shepherd like carrying over his shoulder like this one sheep for me, like this remembering to that leaving there just the picture of like Jesus carrying me over shoulder, walking back to my dorm. Yeah. And then just the Lord wrecking me that night. That's amazing.

So I remember when you told me that the first time and you were telling me your story and your testimony and it was far before we even started dating. I remember we were on the phone one night and we just started sharing stories and you told me that and I said, you know what that reminds me of just started sharing stories and you told me that and I said You know what that reminds me of I said because you told me you walked two miles in the rain that night From the balcony to your room and I said that reminds me the verse

It says that the godly walk with integrity and I've never even thought about this before until right now But you know how you said in high school and even in college it was like you try to live with one foot in and one foot out But in that night, you're like, you know what, that's not who I am, and I'm gonna walk home. You know? And you started walking home and you said, like, there is this night,

you're walking in two miles in the rain and I said, the godly walker than tiger. And that word integrity, one of the definitions is the state of being whole and undivided. And so that was a night, you're like, no, I am wholeheartedly about

to walk. And I'm going to walk with Jesus and you have. And I've watched, I don't know that side of you. I didn't see that side of you. The man that I know is so hearted and so absolutely 100% both feet in the water diving actually into what God has for him. And so I'm so proud of you. I'm so inspired by your story And I just think that's gonna speak to so many people if you're in college or if you're in high school if you've made a mistake You know we all have if you've lived a life party and for whatever reason But yet you know you know what this actually isn't who I am This might be what I'm doing right now, but I know it's not who I am, it is never too late to walk that walk of integrity.

And I'm telling you what, you'll never regret it. The fruit that will come from your life, just like Christian, I mean, God's going to use you in so many, so many, so many mighty ways. And not that I'm not saying partying is bad, but if anything doesn't align with who you are, that's when you have to walk away. And so the Christian, that's awesome. Yeah. Okay.

So I know people are wondering our dating story. And I know we've already talked about this on YouTube. So if you wanna hear all of our dating story, not all of it, but a good glimpse of it. Go to YouTube, read the blogs. And we try to talk about a lot there, but a Christian. Okay, let's talk about it. The night we met.

The night we met. What were you thinking? I was thinking, oh, wow, look at you. No, it's not real. What's funny is, Chris should have had like a low-key crush on me, I guess, from like watching Doug Dynastie and different things,

but I didn't know that. And so when I met Chris, you know, I'd heard about him, my sister taught Doug and my sister knew him, a friend knew him, and of course I thought Christian, you know, I'd heard about him, my sister taught that and my sister knew him, a friend, knew him. And of course, I thought he was super cute, but I just didn't, you know, didn't think we'd date or anything because you were their friend. And I was like, he's so cute.

I think I'd be nervous to talk to him. And so through that night, we met. I was thinking the same thing. I was like, oh goodness. Oh shoot. Oh shoot. And so tell them how you move, because people say, how did you go for meeting each other crowd hunting to dating?

You come out to me before the night is. So I came out to her before the night ends and I said, kind of in a joking way that, you know, that you're the only one and my family that you don't follow back on Instagram. And she kind of like laughing. Oh really? I was like,. Oh really? I was like, you're really now. And I was like, yeah.

And then later that night I saw that she followed me back. And you screamed, Johnny. And I screamed, Johnny, I was very ecstatic. That was very excited actually. Yeah. And then when she followed me back, she saw a message that I sent her two years prior. And then she never saw it because she did not follow me. And then you responded three days later. Which ladies, I never saw. And then she never saw it because she did not follow me.

And then you're spying at three days later. Which ladies, I'm just gonna say this, I'm gonna throw it out, use it if you want it. I call this the three day rule. I think about like this, if it took Jesus three days to decide he was ready to come out of the grave, you can take three days to decide

if it's good or not to follow into maybe pursue a relationship. So then after that, we Instagram DM. We do. We have DM for a little bit and then we actually got each of this number because we were talking about podcast. Well, this is hilarious. We did it for a little like two weeks.

And I'm thinking this boy never gonna make it all the deals. Because we are going to ask for that number. And finally, how a stereotypical, it's not even stereotypical. It's more like church world, stereotypical. He's like, oh, I want to send you this amazing podcast called Single Dating and Gage Married by Ben Stewart. And I was like, oh, I'd love to send you the Relationship Series by Mike Todd, a week away.

And he's like, but the weird thing is, I can't send the leak over Instagram DMs. So would you mind if I got your number? I remember you gave me a number with the dancer emoji. Because I was like celebrating that we finally slid all the damn. And then from that moment on, we texted every day, talking the phone for hours and I, then a few weeks in, I'm gonna call you. When did you know?

When did you know? I'm gonna ask this girl on a date? The second that you text me back. Well that's good. But how did you do it? Because we taught for a good month and a half. And when I say Todd, this is what's cool about Chris' isolation.

We did not flirt in that time. And people were like, how did you not flirt? Y'all are sitting in a series on dating, awesome. But it wasn't flirt. He happened to be reading single day engagement rate and I really did just watch that series. But that wasn't the only books and podcasts we were sharing. We were sharing everything. I mean, we were both seeking the Lord so hardily for our individual life. And then meeting each other

we're like, Oh, here, read this. Look at this. Listen to this. This inspired me. This helped me a little, and just pouring into one another. And that built such a solid foundation. And so by the time you asked me on a date, we had already established a deep relationship. Yeah, and by that, I think really starting out, we both just wanted us to get to know each other so well.

We did. And I think we had such good, with no issues attached or expectations. Yeah, that's the thing. We had no expectations. And you said that from the beginning, like I'll never put an expectation on you. And I think because of that, I've never, no, I don't want to say,

I've never disappointed you. But I haven't disappointed you and you haven't disappointed me because there was no expectation that we were to be anything other than who we were getting to know. And we were both super intentional with our intentions and the way we pursued more than that was really beautiful.

It's so true. And the cool thing is about Christian, just the way that he pursued me is he never asked me to be his girlfriend, which is so, so funny. And some of you would be like, what? But I love that because to be honest, there was never a question that if I was his girlfriend I like I knew what was like I knew that I was yours and I knew that you were mine I knew there was no question about it because of the way that you intentionally pursued me You left no room to doubt you left no room to question I never wondered is this a commitment issue?

Is this does he really like me? Is he gonna walk away one day? Like there was never any of that because you were always so clear with where you're at with me. And so I wanna ask you, and I know the answer of course, but I think it's important because if you've written about this, we talk about this on Instagram a lot. What does that look like for you in a relationship? Just being intentional with the person that you're pursuing

because it's crazy that I didn't doubt that you were mine, that I was yours, even though we didn't make these official things at the rest of the world might say you know makes you in a relationship but I keep saying it was that intentionality that made me not doubt and so kind of speak to that what does it mean to be intentional I think nowadays dating has become such a it's almost like the value. There's no depth in a lot of these relationships because oh, we're just boyfriend and girlfriend,

but what does that actually mean to you? So I think being intentional really speaks to providing clarity. And I think the more clarity that you can provide, the more real and vulnerable you can be with one another. And I think that also leaves room for there not to be any confusion and no ambiguity with just, with, it's kind of like with this mindset of like, you know, what is he thinking,

what is she thinking? I think being intentional means being clear and being concise with being like, you know, this is what I'm thinking, this is what I wanna do. I wanna be living for. You always did that. Yeah, and I think as intentional as you can be, I think thinking. This is what I want to do. I want to be living for. You always did that. Yeah. And I think as intentional as you can be,

I think like their pursuit is weaved so beautifully into that. Yeah. You know, I'm going to pursue you with the best of intentions. And that means being intentional about me and the way you speak to one another, the way you affirm one another, the way that you're constantly even encouraging one another. Yeah.

I love every time we talk, you'd say, okay, I love talking to you tonight. I can't wait to talk to you again. How about we talk Tuesday? And you would always set up another time, but I knew you were gonna talk to me and I'd say, I'll text you the next day. And you were so intentional, letting me know,

like, I'm not going anywhere. I am focusing and making time for you. And I remember when we got into this habit of talking a lot and we were on the phone and we weren't anything. Like, we weren't dating, we weren't the phone and we weren't anything like we weren't Daydain we weren't even talking we weren't flirting we were just literally getting them each other and talking in that sense and One night I went to hang out and I said talk to you tomorrow. I was like, I mean if you want to talk to me tomorrow And you're like, what do you mean if I went to of course I'm gonna talk to you tomorrow

And I was to, of course I'm gonna talk to you tomorrow. And I was like, oh, thanks, okay. And I got so awkward, I was like, laugh, make it, you're like, you did a babe, now you say babe. You were like, no, like, of course I will, like, yeah, I'll talk to you tomorrow. And I was like, oh, it was just so good to hear that because I think so many relationships nowadays,

it's like this constant of like wondering what's he thinking, what's she thinking, what is just talking mean Are they talking to other people is it exclusive is just me but I mean I'm telling you like that's a way to do it And that's great for some people but Intentionality like it puts so much rest to a heart for the guy and for the girl saying where you're at and what you're feeling It makes that time that you have valuable. You know, I just think that there's no time that should be wasted on emotions that you

don't need, stress, you don't need, hurt, you don't need. And some of that, yes, it grows you. It makes you stronger. And there are good things that come from that. But even if our relationship doesn't work out, when you can be intentional, because not all relationships are going to work out, some are just not meant to be. Sometimes you're just with the person that you're not going to marry and that's okay, you're going to break up and you're going to be stronger and you're going to be alright,

because God has somebody for you. But at the same time, even in a breakup, even a relationship that's not going to work out, intentionality protects a heart. And I think that we need to know as a generation and even beyond and below, you have to protect people's heart because from the heart comes the overflow into life. It's the wellspring of life. And so protecting each other's hearts is going to make a healthier world for us. And so in these relationships, be serious about that. Christian has protected my heart so well. I didn't even know what it meant to really protect my heart.

And so Christian even taught me how to protect my own heart in protecting my heart. And so I encourage you to do that because I like our relationship. And I will say in the past year over a year of estate, now I'm being engaged. I am so much healthier of a person. I'm so much stronger. I've gotten so much better in my personal everyday life.

And in my workspace and every single aspect because you have loved me well, you protect my heart and there's been an overflow. Yeah, it's true. It's been amazing. And so, it isn't absolutely amazing. That's awesome. So, Christian, people know what I do.

People know what I am passionate about. But what are some of your passions and your dreams and things that you pray about, but what are some of your passions and your dreams and things that you pray for I get excited about? Some things that I get excited about. Well one, I would say, I love getting the word and I love studying, I love learning. This man loves the word. I love to learn more about God's character in his heart and yeah, I just really just learn more

about who Jesus is and ultimately like the life that he died for us to live. I think something super passionate about you know, even still being in college like the younger guys in college and even high school guys, this upcoming year really wanted to be intentional. There's the word and to be intentional about trying to pour into younger guys and college and just helping them with any insecurities or any pride that they're dealing with or any thing that they find fulfilling that's not rooted in Jesus and really call it out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out.

Yeah. Go out and speak that out. Yeah. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. Yeah. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. Go out and speak that out. I want to ask you for more things and I know we're probably well over time, but I think it's important We have a 21 year old guy and you know It could you I learned so much from you and so much about what I can even encourage college kids within high school kids with from things that we talk about

And so I want to get as much wisdom out of you as possible for all the girls and the guys to hear So a lot of people say this to you and I want to hear it from you too You know, I'm a very confident person. I'm a strong woman. I preach the gospel and all these things of a big personality. But in your own way, you're so confident and you're so powerful and you're, but you're so humble and you're so kind and you're sweet and you're all these things in one. But when you're around me and you're supporting me and things, how do you remain confident and what in you can stand tall beside me and you're supporting me in things, how do you remain confident? And what in you can stand tall beside me and support me when I'm doing but not feel threatened by that?

It's a great question. I think really it all goes back to this knowing who you are in Christ and knowing what he thinks about you, what he speaks about you and kind of like what we've been talking about this past week and we're in London right now at the focus festival, you know, like your days are numbered, you know, in the book of life, even before even the foundations of the world. So like the Lord knows, you know, what gifts he's give to do with and what ability he's placed in. Actually, this is come to take a different turn, but I'm in a ramp two, which means the helper. I just love helping people. I love encouraging people. And I love getting to help people and their calling, and I think getting to help and support you is such an honor and such a To special thing just to get to witness to see and then just to see you You know walk that out and encourage you in that. I think that's a super fulfilling thing to get to be a part of

Well, babe. I love you And you supported me and made me stronger and made me better in every single way of life. Especially when I speak I think you've even given me such a strength to hold my hand and to pray with me before that I find myself speaking even more authority because I'm so affirmed in the word that God's given me and a lot of that comes from the prayers you pray ever me the words you speak over me. And so what's awesome about this and I want you all to see is Christian and I are strong and two very different ways. But God has given that to both of us. He's purposed me to something and he's purposed him to something. And when I'm confident and when he's purposed me to do what he's called me to do, I can fully live that out. And when Christian is confident in what he has been given and what he can do,

he's purposely when he's fully living that out, there is such a powerful confidence that comes with that. And not only confidence, a celebration, a cheering each other on of support and a friendship and all of those things. And you get to watch God, just do amazing things through each other. You learn about the body, you learn about the image of God. But when you start to feel threatened by each other's gifts,

that's when you start to feel either sorry for yourself or threatened or in competition or that you're not doing enough or that you have to strive or feel insecure or blah, blah, blah, blah. The list goes on and on and on. But when you thrive in who you are, I'm telling you, when you come together in a relationship as a couple or even in a friendship with somebody else who's driving with you and you're thriving what you are for the kingdom of God, you can do mighty things together. So I just want

to encourage you, your gifts are not going to look the same because God has made us all unique in his image. And that's there's power. There's power behind that. Something about Christian that I've always noticed is that he's so affirmed in who he is. And it's because he surrounds ourselves with people who affirm him and who he is. And he affirms himself in the word all the time. And in return, because you are so set in that and you stand on such solid ground, you're

able to do it to others, you do it to me and to everyone because you are so set in that and you stand on such solid ground, you're able to do that to others, you do that to me and you do that to everyone around you. And so I just really wanted to take a little more time because Christian, you have a lot to say. Christian is an introvert, which is funny. Very much so. Not everybody would know that. He is and so he's not gonna be the one.

18 to 19, so we did the Myers-Briggs. 19 introvert. He was 19 introvert, two extrovert. AndBriggs. 19, it's a word. He was 19, introvert, two extra. And you were 20. Extra, one introvert. We're so different, but we compliment each other so well. So he's not always going to be the one to say all the words, and he's not going to be the loud one and step in front

of everybody and make sure he's heard. But I wanted to make sure that in this time that, you know, you have this mic and people are listening that. You had an opportunity to share the things that you shared to me, the things that you shared to the people that are close to you and just people to see like the treasure on earth that you are and be inspired by who you are.

And so, Christian, is there anything else before I close off that you want to say and that there's not? I think you've said so many great things, but I know there's always a one more thing in that brainer that want to cut you off. The first thing I actually came up when you say that, I would say outside of Jesus, there's no life and nothing can like fulfill you and satisfy you the way that you can and the way that the spirit there's just nothing as fulfilling as when he takes every life and when he guides your life and when

You're living to please him with everything you do. There's nothing in the world that can satisfy you the way Yeah, that can't because it was never meant to so looking back at your high school self at your college self Although you had fun you party hard. Yeah, you were well known probably well-liked Yeah, you were very cool. I, look at you. You're a super attractive. You played baseball. You did all these things. But to hear you say something like that, I think I should have speak to a lot of people because I think that all those places that you once tried to find life and fulfillment, then you did it and you ended up empty and walking home for two miles in the rain and encounter Jesus from that moment on he felt filled. I think

that day that's a powerful testimony. That's powerful. You're welcome. I love you. I love you. Thanks for being on my way again. Whoa. That was cool. That was cool. Whoa, that was cool. I love you. I love you. At least for having me. Yo, we have just had ourselves a treat this season because normally at least first season goes. We always called Mom at the end of every piecast but we've been lucky enough to be with Mom. So welcome mom. Thank you.

That means great quality. So we're excited that we're together today and we get to do the advice segment of the hour, if you will. I feel so official now that I have a mic. I feel like I should talk like a podcast. I'm not sure. We even had hit them. Oh no, this is so professional.

You're wearing a robe. Well, that's true. With Nike shorts underneath it in a diesel. Cause we're in a hotel room. Oh, that's hilarious. All right, so I want to talk to you about this really good piece of advice that I heard. Truly, actually, great piece of advice.

It was from Nikki Dumbledore, who's one of my favorite people in the world. And he said, if you want an easy life, don't follow Jesus. But if you want a great life, follow Jesus every day of your life. When I grade, that's really good. I mean, that's good, stuff. I like it. If you want an easy life, like, if a follow Jesus, isn't always good of easy, but then again,

who has an easy life? Right. Nobody. But if you want a great life, not just a good life, not just an okay life But a great life filled with purpose for them every day of life What I think that we all know this inherently that the way to a great life is the life that has meaning and has purpose You know, it's we don't really want the easy life like it's really not the way to go There's a lot of people who seem like you can look at and say like oh, they've got the easy life They've got everything they need they've got money money, power, houses, cars, all the things,

servants, all of that. But they're miserable because they don't understand where they're meaning, where their purpose is. So easy life is definitely not the way to happiness. And I think the Christian life is the way to greatness because God created us. He knows what we need and He gives us all those things that we need for our life.

And there's constant hope. There's constant hope that something better is coming. And even if it's not in this life, there's something greater coming. And so, yeah, I think it's a great way to live, even if it's hard, it's great. Yeah. And also I think as believers, like we have something like we have the key. Yeah. We know the key to great life. And so it's up to us to share it. Yeah, no, keep it to ourselves. Don't hide it. Sure.

All right, now I'm gonna throw a piece of advice that I think makes your skin crawl. You do you boo? Oh yeah, no. Ha ha ha. Nope, that is, she's literally biting her own teeth. She's still a lot of you. A lot of self.

A lot of like, hey, I can do whatever I want. That whole attitude of like, it's all about me. When you're making it all about you, you're making it all about self. And that's again, not the key to happy life. The key to have a life of service and thoughtfulness of others and kindness and all these things. But whenever you're focusing yourself and you're just like, hey, I'm just going to be me, I'm just going to be me, whatever that looks like, whatever that is, you're putting too many of us on yourself. And here's the thing, you do a new boo, doesn't just affect you boo, okay?

Every decision that you make, whether it's a selfish one or not, it affects another person. So you doing you boo and choosing to live your own life and your best life still has an effect on the world. Even though it's a self centered effect and it's normally not the most kind and the most righteous or the most positive or even one that's really full of depth and meaning or purpose or towards goodness.

And also, a lot of times we're wrong. We think stupid things. Like, we're not right. We're trying to do it ourselves. If we don't have something bigger than us, we don't look to people wiser than us. We don't look to God, to His Word, to others, to say, like, hey, what's the key to a good life? A lot of times, so we're gonna make really stupid decisions. You know, we try to be kind of like the king of our own world. That doesn't usually work out very well. This is our gal. You know, if you haven't seen the Lion King,

go see the Lion King because if you said you good job, I kind of show in that when Simba is out and he's living in this place with Timon and Pumbumba. And he's saying Akuna Matata and they keep saying to him, literally, the movie, you do, you boo. They're basically trying to convince him that there's not a circle of life, that the decisions you may don't affect anybody else.

It doesn't matter, there's no meaning. But yeah, everybody knew it's a huge meaning because on the other side, this whole kingdom is falling because Simba is doing him. Boo, you know. So it does affect people. When you're not living out to the fullness of what's in you to live out, then it does have an effect. Oh, that's good.

Whoa, that's good. All right. Last thing I'll say, I love this piece of advice that a leader said. He said, before I put anybody on a stage, I look at character first before great gifting because he trusts the character first before he just throws out great gifting. And what do you think that does? And not just a church, but just in life to really focus on character first over either gifting or talent or ability. Yeah, I think that's really good. I heard somebody say one time that like because of our world and celebrity culture and even like reality

television, which of course we're a part of, we see people who are good characters, they're interesting to watch on television, they're good characters, they're either like really outrageous or they're funny or they're awful and you watch it on your like I can't believe they're a train wrecking it. So they're good characters, but they don't necessarily have good character. And so I think we've lost some of that in our world today of like really looking up to people. So a lot of people that we might look up to as celebrities, like they might, you know, be entertaining, but are they really people of character? So I think it's important that we do look to our leaders and be like, here are we

saying our heroes. Who are we? Who are we looking up to? Who are we? Value? And who are we following? Who, who are we valuing, who are we following, who are that, and are they people of character, are the people that we would want to be in life or that we should look up to because they have good values, not just because they maybe have good talent, are they really beautiful or something like that. Yeah, that's Good Podcast. I have so much been doing this, I hope you'll have fun listening. And don't forget to follow me on Instagram at legitsadyrob and follow the podcast at WoW

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