WHOA That's Good Podcast - What My Mom & Dad Learned When They Were First Married | Sadie, Willie & Korie

Episode Date: November 27, 2023

It's a mini Robertson family reunion ... sorta! ... but mostly finding out what Korie's REALLY like when she's driving her car. Then get ready for some practical advice that mightsound easy, but will... take discipline and intentionality! Sadie's parents, Willie and Korie Robertson, join her for a conversation about gratitude which goes hand-in-hand with living a life of generosity. Willie and Korie talk about their early days of their marriage when they didn't have a lot but from that grew a spirit of being generous and open-handed with everything God gave them. Wilie remembers one night in particular when Korie had to learn a difficult lesson about how cash-poor they really were. And Wilie challenges us to start every day avoiding the trap of negativity. And are we thankful for the WRONG things in our life? You'll be encouraged and convicted in this special family episode!  https://give.cru.org/first or text FIRST to 71326 — Get a free copy of Sadie and Christian's new book "How to Put Love First" with your gift! https://drinkag1.com/whoa — Get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 & 5 FREE AG1 travel packs with your first purchase! https://www.auraframes.com/whoa — Get $40 off Aura’s best-selling frames when you use code WHOA at checkout now through Black Friday and Cyber Monday! https://www.drinklmnt.com/whoa — Get 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order! - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:03:28 Try audible for free for 30 days. audible.com slash woe. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ What's up, sisters and friends? Happy Monday, everybody. I hope you're having a great week. A great start to your week and a great Thanksgiving. Y'all, I don't care how close you live to your family.
Starting point is 00:03:48 When you see your family in public, it is always something exciting. And I happen to run into all these who are good and falling. And this podcast was just supposed to be mom and dad, which it will eventually, but will was in the office day with Abby and then John Luke was here. With Ella was here.
Starting point is 00:04:05 And I was like, swag fam you night. So here we are. We say it's public. Actually at our document or office. I know. It's gonna rare for us all to be. No, it's very rare. When have we ever all been here at the same time?
Starting point is 00:04:20 It is rare. And the office. And the office. But I have to say even on the way here. We have been building fights on our show yesterday. Actually, we do it. And the office server. And the office. But I have to say, even on the way here, we have been building fights last night yesterday. Actually, we, do we? Yeah, we did. And Bill is like honk and that, because she's behind me
Starting point is 00:04:31 and I'm like, hey, I guess I'm excited. I was like, oh, yeah, yesterday when I left you, I said, see you tomorrow. And then I walked away. I was like, will that see you? Probably. I always see you tomorrow. Yeah, that's exciting.
Starting point is 00:04:41 But it's still exciting. But Will and Abby were the kickers today. That's right. We all made it extra fun. Yeah, well, we were coming home because we're working from home from Texas. And I got super excited because I was like, oh, everybody works at the office now. So now we could just go work with them.
Starting point is 00:04:58 Yeah, I was, yeah. Actually, recently, we've all been here together because now you're working up here, but not dad's not here that bad. At the same time, for y'all to come But I never took my family friends, so I had no idea that you were gonna I was totally surprised because I stalked everyone in this family and I saw Will's occasion is like who wills home and then I got here and
Starting point is 00:05:18 Mom was so surprised. I'm like do you people not look at find my friends? Oh, you know, it looked at Abby's story. I saw it on Abby's story. I'm off Instagram. I always keep open that story. Nobody else knew that we were coming home except for John Luke because I texted him last night and I was like, hey, you're gonna be there tomorrow? And he's like, yeah, it's like, okay, we're gonna be there too.
Starting point is 00:05:36 He's like, is anyone gonna work here? Yeah. That's awesome. Lucky if it's just... I say mom and town all the time, she never sees me. She never knows my vehicle or that it's me. And recently I got behind her red light and blew my horn because she was on her phone with a light turn.
Starting point is 00:05:53 And I blew my horn and she said, I didn't know that. She didn't know it was me. No, I didn't know it was you. This is new information for me. But now my car like deans when the red light changes. So you need that. You need it. I feel like today I was in the car with mom and John Shepherd. information for me, but now my car like deans when the red light changes so you needed that. I was in the car with mom and John Shepherd and she was playing
Starting point is 00:06:10 two noises on her Tesla and John Shepherd and doing that she sat through two green lights. How can she even do that? She does. She sat through two and a round. That's green light. That's sure to do that. Why? Because she's actually two. Two to get light. Oh, you wanted it. Oh, that was the biggest again.
Starting point is 00:06:33 That was the Tesla. She's the biggest. Oh, you sold the way down. She's the biggest. Oh, you sold the way down. She's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest.
Starting point is 00:06:41 That's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest. That's the biggest. We needed a whole family for you all to really get to know K-SW. I need to see Kori and the audience put together a business woman full of the word of God and today you're getting back and all smart. This is the real one. This is the same old one who gets her grandkids in the car and they say, K, K, go fast.
Starting point is 00:07:04 And she blaze on the break on her test site and then just lays on the gas as fast as she can. And I was like, I literally am car sick. And if you ever see mom on the road, just go and pass there, just let her do her thing. That's one of the fun grandma. You are the fun grandma. Well we do have a piecat to get to but I wanted to start it with the whole fam here as we're
Starting point is 00:07:34 celebrating Thanksgiving and all the things the holiday season so mom and dad y'all stay and I also just had to say mom was the one actually booked for this piecat and the latest one here everyone else was on time. But we're gonna get to... I'm gonna go see your store because Bella Decrider is store for Christmas. Oh, that's a committance. Go for it.
Starting point is 00:07:51 I'm gonna decorate it for Christmas. It's so cute. I got here on time. You were late. I was late. Mom went to the bathroom and the lights. I was wondering why I got here all the time. I should have known with all the girls and the family.
Starting point is 00:08:05 That is true. The rush. If it's 10, 10. Yeah, I always say 10 minutes is not really late. Like, you got a 10 minute window. And now you know when I'm always 10 minutes late. This is when I was writing. And you like, 15 minutes, you're late.
Starting point is 00:08:18 10, within 10, you're, thank you. Sorry. I'm gonna receive that. Well, we're gonna hop into it. Thanks, fam, for joining. Yep. Yeah. All right.
Starting point is 00:08:27 So, so, so. All right. So, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so. I was like, so, y'all ready to talk about generosity. I was going to, and I was going to share with them some of the questions I had prepared into which dad goes, wait, generosity, you told us gratitude. And then mom was like, yeah, you said gratitude. I was like, I said gratitude.
Starting point is 00:08:58 And dad pulls it as I was like, I have fully prepared for this conversation of being gratitude. And I have fully prepared for this conversation of being gratitude. And I have fully prepared for this conversation of each generosity. We're like, it's around Thanksgiving, gratitude, and exit. So we went with gratitude.
Starting point is 00:09:12 And then I was thinking the next day is giving Tuesday, so we should know what being generous. So we are going to marry the two. And you know what, we're just gonna go for it because we have a lot of talking about with both subjects. And I wanna hear everything that you prepare for gratitude because I'm sure it's so. Well, don't over sell it.
Starting point is 00:09:29 Good grief. I wouldn't say this is- Well, you're so sure. I just wrote down a couple of thoughts, but this does remind me of mom and I's marriage over 31 years. Oftentimes we'd both come together and each would be thinking
Starting point is 00:09:43 we had a completely different conversation we were going to have, but we weren't on the same page, but we were doing it on the same page. Well, at this time, y'all are actually on the same page. Y'all both thought that I did that. And mom prepared. Mom, well, I just got to hear my eyes. I just love grateful.
Starting point is 00:09:58 That's good. I just prepared. You know what I was saying that lately, I used to prepare for sermons like word for word and now I prepare my heart because I'm like, if I'm living it, then it will naturally overflow. And if I had to prepare word words sometimes I'm like striving to say those words that I plan
Starting point is 00:10:16 when it's like, you know what? I'm live and prepared. My life is prepared because day to day I'm walking with the spirit. So I like that. Normally I do prepare for these. Whenever we do our messy conversations, or we do.
Starting point is 00:10:26 Well, we got to prepare for those. I do prepare. But this one, I just, I counted on, dad was with us, so I was like, he'll prepare. Granted, too. When I was a teenager in the youth group, we used to do this thing called preacher on the spot. And so, they were just, the youth men should call you up
Starting point is 00:10:43 and you give you a thing and say, go. And so, you just had to go should call you out and give you a thing and say go And so you just had to go which was really good because in life when you're talking to someone you never know what's gonna come out Yeah, it's not like you can be prepared if someone has something going on and so you're like whoa I didn't always go in up talking about this and so I'm gonna train you to be on your feet You know, well never so about always be prepared to give an answer. Yeah. Thank you for your call too, for the hope. For the hope that you have there you go. I love, I like that on the go.
Starting point is 00:11:10 Like, we should do that more, because in it prepares more people to be ready to like share. You know, to be like a preacher, to preach gospel. Like generosity, go. Go. Gratitude, go.
Starting point is 00:11:20 That's a good, I like that. Okay, so what I was actually gonna ask y'all to start, which you can go both ways with this about being grateful and You know different seasons of your life, but also being generous is that y'all have really seen Two different sides of life like when y'all got married y'all did not have any money You were living at Camp Shioca Are you and over a baseball card or magazine for the week which Kajalla Ford, you could only afford one who's gonna get the extra thing that week. And then, of course, years later, you have a TV show called Duck Dynasty, which means y'all ended up doing pretty well. So, you'll
Starting point is 00:11:55 have been in two totally different seasons of your life, where, you know, you don't have as much, and you do have as much. But I feel like like have you been able to see in your life, even when you didn't have as much and you have a lot, the difference in your generosity or gratitude, has it stayed the same, has it changed? What does that look like for you in two different ways of life? I would say I think that we were both really fortunate to be modeled that from our parents, like both of us had parents that lived different lives, like then he lived on the river, I lived in a neighborhood, you know, that whole thing. We lived very differently, but generosity was very much at the root of both of our families,
Starting point is 00:12:40 both of our families had homes that were very open and the idea that people were much more important than things was definitely taught to us, told to us and actually lived out to us. So I think that even, you know, whenever we were newlyweds and first married, we had had that example. So we still lived very generously and also with gratefulness even during that time period. So yeah, it's kind of like what you really do with little, you will actually do with much. Yes. I think is really a truth and not that, you know, we've ever been perfect in any of it or live perfectly. And there's probably been seasons where we lived it out better than others, but I do think we both kind of had that at our court or base because we saw that in our parents.
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Starting point is 00:16:10 and then had big dreams and aspirations, dad work hard, mom work hard, but there just wasn't a lot of cash or money. And so I knew what it was like to be poor. And I wouldn't say hungry. I mean, we, you know, to be poor. And I wouldn't say hungry. I mean, we, you know, I remember being just starving, but we also could fish and hunt and, you know, go get food if we needed to. But definitely didn't have money for a lot of these things, which, I think
Starting point is 00:16:37 mom grew up in a different situation when she says in the neighborhood, you know, that in ice house and they had been successful at business. And so then when we smashed together, this is interesting. Um, with then, I think we consider now we say we didn't have a lot like going on, didn't have a lot. However, it seemed like way more than when I was a kid, like at a car I could buy fuel. You know, it was like stuff that was really tough. You know, and so I felt like, you know, we're doing good and one of the funny stories that Mom and I, we were out by the mall and she said she wanted a Coke and I said, well, I don't have any money
Starting point is 00:17:20 and she, whatever you need to have any money either. And I said, well, I don't have any money and she goes, have any money either. And I said, well, I don't have any money and she goes, but I still want to go. No, no, I think I said, but I'm thirsty. Yeah, but I'm thirsty and I'm like, still don't change the fact that we don't have any money. And so I remember that she was like,
Starting point is 00:17:38 well, I mean, if I'm thirsty, we need to buy some drink. I was like, we were going to have to figure this out. And then even when we got married, like the day we got married, her grandfather did the ceremony. And he had, which was actually about him, he had come from probably way more than I was for, back in the, I guess 30s and 40s. And then, but then he had become real successful.
Starting point is 00:18:06 And then he was up there joking on the stage because I had to move into the basement of their house for a short time before we got married. And he said, he said, look out there. And I'm like, is this all the stuff you got? Because it was all my little stuff put in the corner. And I remember thinking like, man man I got a lot of stuff like I got a whole dining set like I had the little stuff that I'd gotten from
Starting point is 00:18:31 he was out of half off of that because he was like he didn't like value my little stuff yeah I had a 10-mo on a TV I had some look likes a little dresser drawer and stuff I got from mom and I'm totalling that around everywhere I go. And I was on the stage thinking, well, crap, I thought I was doing pretty good. And he was like, this is what I got. So then from that point, and then we went into,
Starting point is 00:18:57 you know, more where we were on the verge of getting, you know, becoming successful. And I think, which is probably the most scary time because I think when we first got married, it was like, we didn't have a lot, but there wasn't a lot of responsibility. It's not like you worried about anything. Then you go into business and then you get in business debt
Starting point is 00:19:17 and you have payroll and you have stuff that you have to pay. And I mean, that was probably the scariest part. I think it's a scary part. People don't think about that because I think young people wanna jump ahead and you mean, that was probably the scariest part. I think it's a scary part. People don't think about that because I think young people want to jump ahead and you want to have that security, but you may be, even though you may look successful, you may be like on the verge, like you could collapse. The business could collapse.
Starting point is 00:19:37 You can't make payroll, COVID happens. Everything you had set up, you know, is like gone. And so that was probably the scariest time financially, and then going on to be successful. So, but back to answer your question. I think it's two ways. I think there's a heart of gratefulness. I think there's a heart of generosity. I think that's, you know, can be in your heart.
Starting point is 00:20:03 But also, it's a constant thing where you have to learn and put those actions into it. It's a decision that you have to make, and I think you can grow in that. Like, you know, when I think about gratitude, you know, I think, I was thinking like, like when, when in J's where he says like faith without action is dead. And then I think about gratitude or thankfulness without action is really not that big of a deal. If you're just saying, thank you. Yeah. If you don't turn that into something and put that into, I'm so thankful and I'm so grateful.
Starting point is 00:20:45 Now I'm gonna do what? Now I'm gonna go and help others. And to me, that's the real action point. I even think of overall Christianity is when you take that. It's not just taking and saying thank you and thank you so much, thank you. But then if you turn it, you don't do that.
Starting point is 00:21:00 And so that's the thing I've noticed and I've tried to help people with is like, when I do something kind for someone, and I challenge them and I want to see that happen to someone else. And then so it always bothers me. It's like then they turn around and then they're stingy with their stuff or they're not, you know, they're not grateful. And so that's always hard. Yeah, taking that and being thankful and then being generous, you know, with what you've been given. I think it's true. Like you grow in it, the more you give. Sometimes I think also you grow your faith in it too, because you see that God will provide for you, because it is scary sometimes to give, because you
Starting point is 00:21:33 put yourself out there, and you're giving, a lot of times it's a sacrifice, you know, to give most times. It's going to be a sacrifice. But the more you see God provide and be Jaira, you know, Jehovah Jaira, who's the provider. You're like, okay, I can do this again because if God has, you know, put it on my heart to give to them, then he's gonna sustain me. And that might look different than, you know, just like financial blessing or anything like that. That just might be sustaining you in other ways, but he's always gonna have your back. Like, you gotta get your daily bread. Yeah. I want to say this,
Starting point is 00:22:08 because I think that made a really good point, because I think gratitude and generosity, like it comes with perspective, and you know, his point about when we were early married, that was, you know, a lean time for us. We were, you know, having to be careful about what we bought, and we couldn't go out, just go out to eat, or, you know, we didn't, we very rarely went out to eat things like that. But putting in perspective, we were so blessed. And so we had so much more than
Starting point is 00:22:34 so many others. And so like, there's a lot of times when you can feel like, oh, if you're comparing yourself to, it depends on who you're comparing yourself to, you know, and that gratitude can, you can be grateful for what you know, and that gratitude can, you can be grateful for what you have and you can look, we can look at the time, you know, like, actually, we were, we were, we were, we were great. I mean, we were in college, we had enough, we had a house, we had, you know, we had the things that we needed. And there's a lot of people who don't have any of that, you know, and still live grateful.
Starting point is 00:23:03 I was actually just in Mexico and Tijuana and there was a past sort of church who's taken care, taken in people and literally like, she's got 50 people living in their church and she just lived with such gratefulness. She was like, God, provides every time and this is, you know, a situation where situation where they're cooking outside. They just got a washing machine for 50 people. They don't have a dryer. They're hanging everything up and it rained that day and everything that was hanging out was like soaked. And they're cooking outside and she's like, every time we need, God provides. If we're out of rice and someone just brings us a bag of rice. And just, you know, and just living that gratefulness
Starting point is 00:23:46 and that comes with respect if she could be like, you know, we could have gone into that situation because she could have been like, it's terrible. We don't even have a dryer. We don't have this. We don't have that. Instead, she's like, here's what we have. We have this.
Starting point is 00:23:58 We have beds now. We used to sleep on mattresses on the floor and now we have bunk beds for people, you know? So each of those things just, it really depends on the floor and now we have bunk beds for people. So each of those things, just it really depends on how you look at it. I think that it's actually such a God thing that I said gratitude, but I'm gonna say generosity because I really do think they go ahead and hand.
Starting point is 00:24:17 Like if you're grateful, you're able to be generous, but if you have a perspective of like, I'm actually listening to Winning the Battle of the Mine by Joyce Meyer right now. And the chapter I'm reading right now, she said, you can't be pitiful and powerful at the same time. You can't be like wallowing in self-pity
Starting point is 00:24:36 and walking in the power of God at the same time. And I was like, that is so good. And I think when you have a perspective that's like self-pity and all of these things and you're not able to be generous but what you have a perspective that's like self-pity and all these things and you're not able to be generous But what you have actually was a posted about this little girl named Norkee on my Instagram last night because She's a little girl in our community that has a very very rare form of cancer and She's four years old and the only chase I cure is a bone marrow transplant
Starting point is 00:25:01 But they haven't been able to find a match. So I was like blasting it on social media and I saw this one girl commented and was like, I'm poor, so I can't, like, money's tight. I can't get a swab kit, but the swab kids are free. And so everyone was like telling her they're free, they're free. Like, you should do it. But I think it was like interesting because before even like pursuing it, it was like I'm poor. Like I'm not gonna be able to do money's tight. But it was actually free. So like if you have that heart to just be like,
Starting point is 00:25:31 okay, I just wanna seek to give, maybe she might have clicked on it and seen that it was free, you know? But didn't have like the eyes to see in that way how she could give. Not saying that, I don't know her story at all, but I think that just kind of stuck out to me because it is free. So it's that perspective. And some of the most generous people that I've ever
Starting point is 00:25:50 encountered had the least. When we were in Uganda, I'll never forget, go into these tiny huts, literal huts that were made by the people who live in them. And every hut we went to, they offered us something. Or they would offer us like peanuts or banana, or they were like making coffee beans. It didn't matter what it was, but like you just felt like you were given the world because to them that was so huge that they just gave you anything
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Starting point is 00:28:59 actually when this podcast come out, just had our four year anniversary. And I asked him, I was like, what's something in the past four years that surprised you about me, that you didn't know when we got married. And he said, how generous you are. And I was like, that's so nice.
Starting point is 00:29:12 And I think you all done like a really good job of raising us that way. But truly, it was practical things. Like when I can think back to just y'all helping shape our generosity. And I think about us having that jar where we put in like money for and like eventually one day we were going to go to Africa, you know, we did get to go to Africa and then we actually ended up getting to build a school in Africa. But like you taught
Starting point is 00:29:35 us to think towards that, you know, it's like give your money here and it was like I think part of our allowance at the time and some of your money and then one day you're going to be able to use this to serve others. Or I mean there was a lot of circumstances that y'all, it's always to be generous, even at 11 years old, taking us to different countries to see people who live differently than us and like giving to them and having them in our mind and shaping our perspective to what we should be grateful for even though we didn't have as much when I was younger as like people at my school did, but I also knew what it was like to really have nothing and be grateful because I got to see that around the world. So what are some ways just for people out there to intentionally keep a heart of gratitude for what they have and also seek to be generous to others?
Starting point is 00:30:20 Yeah, I do think those two things are married. Not actually never thought about that, but to others. Yeah, I do think those two things are married, not actually never thought about that, but they're so married, they're so together. In fact, I was trying to think of, have you ever known anybody that's super generous that wasn't grateful? Now, have you ever known someone that's super grateful that wasn't generous? I mean, they really do. They really do.
Starting point is 00:30:39 Yeah, they really do. And those two things, and so it's like, it's like there's a hard, and it's almost like a hard and an action together but to that kind of heart and action. I remember when I was I went to Peru and we were going around this little river village of I can't think of the name of it but it's a basically a village of probably 50,000. Alianne? Alianne. Yeah, a little village that's half time in the year, it's on water and half time, it's
Starting point is 00:31:10 it's dry. But, and the reason is, I don't have to pay taxes if it's in a flood zone. And so, these, these people there have cleverly figured out how to live on in this area, which as you can imagine, is very difficult, you know, when you're living on water. There's no, there's no, there is electricity because I remember I saw a TV on, but there's, you know, there's no bathroom like we had. It's in the water and these kids are swimming in the water. And this is backwards, not flowing water. So it's, you know, I think a lot, it's, you know, kind of disgusting.
Starting point is 00:31:45 And when we look at it, it's like, whoa, the smell. And as the river goes down the bush, is you going to match it? Trash is everywhere. And so we were, you know, we're boating along. And one of the youngsters, it's probably 18 or 19, who knew the guy we're with. And he actually invited us and said, you can come into to our house. And so I'm getting off the boat. And I'm like, am I gonna fall through this thing?
Starting point is 00:32:10 And I was very unsure. And we walk in, it's probably too room, like too rooms, if you will. And I don't know how many people are in there. Like uncles and aunts, they slept on this side. And we're just trying to, yeah, again, now I'm back to feeling so grateful I was like wow I can't imagine you know having adult couples and grandmother and we're all there's no privacy
Starting point is 00:32:33 There's no you know So I was just kind of overcome with that and so I'm I'm talking to the guy through the translator and he says that he His dream is to be an engineer so they can come back and help his community design stuff and engineer things and I so well what would that take to be an engineer here in Perude and the whole thing all in was like $5,000 and at the time I was able to say I'm going to give you that $5,000. Now we're taking the I'm feeling grateful for what we have and that where we live and turning it into generosity to where I can say, this is a gift for you and he's balling crime.
Starting point is 00:33:16 Then I'm balling crime. Then everybody's balling crime. And then a year to a go, I got the photo of him and his graduate suit, his degree. So he now he has a degree in engineering. And to think, you can get an engineering degree for about that month, which is crazy, right? And so I know that that's going to impact him. That's going to impact his wife, his children, his kids now. The whole community is around, you know, to know that someone did that for him. So, you know, to know that someone did that for him. So, you know, I think to answer your question is, is, how do you put that in there?
Starting point is 00:33:52 One, I think you have to, you know, your mindset is controlled by you and what you think about and how you wake up and how you start your day. And I think, you know, these, we get into these negative mindsets. And I would, they know, we get into these negative mindsets. And I would, they almost the opposite to me of those two words really is negativity and selfishness. And so those are the two. And so as we wake up in the morning, you know, I promise we're all gonna get hit
Starting point is 00:34:20 with negativity and selfishness. You know, something's gonna be negative. You know, it's like, like Mom yesterday walks in, it was like, I cannot get out of bed and I thought that that was a bad thing. But it's like, just human beings, we're drawn into that, what's wrong rather than what's right. You know, what's wrong with today, what's wrong in life,
Starting point is 00:34:43 what's wrong in this world? And if we wake up in the minute, you grab your phone, probably 80% of the time, something negative you're gonna see, initially not something positive, you know? And so that's where you start changing that mindset. And so I've got little things that I do to try to kick that off, you know, like,
Starting point is 00:35:07 like I, like in my Bible, I have a photo. It's probably 20 years old of a kid that who's passed away now. He had cerebral palsy. And I just, you know, I'm flipping to the Bible and I see that photo. And I remember that kid. And at the right, it can always be worse than whatever I've got going on. I could be in a chair and he couldn't communicate and his drool would come down. And so, and we would hug on him and try to make his life. And he didn't live that long, you know, probably until 14 or 15 years old.
Starting point is 00:35:38 So again, it's just changing that mindset. I've got a book of Nick Boyochek by side my, Dylan, I looked at it and I just, I look, I think I think every day, what if I didn't have legs and arms, uh, because he did, does not have legs or arms. And every thought, everything you want to do, you have to ask someone to literally move you. So when you start thinking in those kind of terms, and then it really makes you contemplate whether or not you should complain about most of anything, you know, the things that we tend to complain about.
Starting point is 00:36:11 Not that there's not things that go wrong, you know, certainly, but it's not having that negative mindset. I mean, there's people, and I know we all know people, when I see them, they say something negative. Well, I guess it's got, I guess it's what it's gonna be. I guess, I'm a car that, it's just always, I'm like, I just wanna go, every time I see you say something negative. You don't say something positive, you say something negative.
Starting point is 00:36:35 And probably most of us know a lot of people who have lived their whole lives in negativity. And those are the probably the same people who are not grateful, who are certainly not generous, who are not thinking like, how can I help someone else and how can I, you know, and I see people get like that too with selfishness. And then because then it becomes about self. And so, I think you you wake up with a mindset. Obviously, when you read the word, which is, if you read the entire New Testament, it's completely based on less self-sacrifice, giving up, helping others, loving others, all these kind of ideas.
Starting point is 00:37:14 And so that's how we just start changing that mindset. And I think generosity is just start giving stuff away. And watch what it does to you. The feeling I have with that kid on that house thing, whatever that shack was, I mean, that feeling, it's a feeling like it's up there with some of the coolest things I've ever gotten to do. Or some of the certainly way more than cool stuff I've gotten.
Starting point is 00:37:41 Yeah. I'm saying, when I compare that to, I've got a new truck or I've got some, you know, some clothes or something. You know, it's nothing in comparison with that feeling, that emotional time, that knowing that that will last for the rest of their lives versus, you know, whatever these tips I think.
Starting point is 00:37:58 And it doesn't have to be something that big. It can be just small things, you know, small, someone, a little bit of a hand somebody, you know, if you notice somebody that needs things, you know? Small. Small. That's what I said. Just start. That's what I said. Just start. You can't hand somebody, you know, if you notice somebody that needs food, you know, helping them out at the grocery store or whatever. Or just, if it's not financial, it could just be noticing, noticing people and noticing
Starting point is 00:38:17 things and where you can step into how I was thinking as he was talking to that, you know, just that idea that take captive your thoughts. And I think we talked about that. I remember when you're young, you're just really trying to impress one. You're in charge of your thoughts. You have control of your thoughts. And that's the only, you don't really have control over anybody else. Only you're in charge of you and you are in charge of your thoughts.
Starting point is 00:38:39 And you can take captive those thoughts. And so I do think it does start with what you think about, you know, and what you ruminate on and how you are like you start thinking about what you don't have or think about what you do have and the blessings and you know that idea of right down five things that you're grateful for are just take just wake up and decide you're going to take notice of the things or take notice of the the negative thoughts, you know, as they come into your brain, like, they're like, oh, that was not, you know, that's negative, that's going to take me down a road and take captive those thoughts. I was thinking about also as he was talking, I was actually at kind of a event recently where
Starting point is 00:39:23 the, it started off where it was like, oh, say something, tell something that's like bothering you or whatever. And it was weird or tell something that's painful for you right now. And what it kind of did, it felt like from that because it started that way, it was like the whole time together.
Starting point is 00:39:41 It started negative. So the whole time together shifted as like, other the whole time together, shifted as like, I don't know if it's interesting. Yeah, like complaining and all that. And I thought like, the question, because yeah, it started out there and it was like, we couldn't get out of it. Like the whole group, it shifted the whole group
Starting point is 00:39:55 and we couldn't get out of that. And you left kind of just feeling a little deflated, you know, and not that there's time to talk about the hard things. For sure, there's definitely times when you need to sit down with a friend or with a counselor and talk about the hard things. But I do think it's like, think about how when you come into a room, what's your kind of like bringing into a room?
Starting point is 00:40:19 Is it negativity, complaining, and ungratefulness, or is it gratefulness, positivity, generosity, is that what you're kind of bringing into that space. We actually were on a car ride the other day with some friends and like from the start of the car ride I prayed and was like, like I always Pray over the car but also like God we have good conversations with the car would you spirit fill these conversations will they be fruitful and just praying beyond to safety but praying that this car would actually be a fruitful car ride and it was so cool because one of my friends in the car as we were just asking each other random questions she was like what's something that you learn from your in-laws that you love that they did for their family and I thought that was such a good question because then we were all talking about what we learned from our in-laws and our family And I was just thinking like typically in the world
Starting point is 00:41:09 People want to complain about their in-laws over the holiday Over the holiday season and stuff like that. I'm great in laws If if you're listening to this I love y'all and I love the holidays to the all But I just thought that was such a good question. Like it made your mind go to all the positive things about your extended family. And especially on the holidays, it's not typically the conversation you're having. It's like, how are we gonna do both families?
Starting point is 00:41:34 How are we gonna do all this time? But to think like, what do I love about them that they've set the tone in their family over the holidays? That was a great question. But I was thinking about when you were talking about generosity, how when you gave the $5,000 and they were able to go and get their degree.
Starting point is 00:41:48 I think also generosity, especially when it's a God thing, it really does launch something in someone else's life most of the time. It's something that they needed or were long you for and it might even be the answer to their prayer. They needed to do the thing that they're gonna get started. Because one time I had this in my heart to give a certain amount of money to this lady. And Christian and I both felt like we needed to do it. We both agreed on the number.
Starting point is 00:42:13 And we both felt that number specifically. And so we gave it to her and we were like, we want you to have this. We are not gonna take it back. You have to receive this. We are being a being so Lord and giving you this, we are not gonna take it back. You have to receive this. We are being a being to the Lord and giving you this, so you have to take it. And she was like, oh, this goes against everything
Starting point is 00:42:32 in my nature to receive this. She said, but I will receive this because I had been praying and asking the Lord when is the time to launch this Bible study thing that she had been writing. And because this woman has money, so it was kind of random that we felt the need to do this. But she has been praying about the timing to start this Bible
Starting point is 00:42:50 study thing that she had written and how she's going to get it out. And the dollar amount we gave her was the dollar amount she needed, like exactly to start it. And then I just saw on Instagram her doing the thing. And that was like years ago. And I was like, that is so cool. That even we didn't really know what it was for. It was even beyond the money.
Starting point is 00:43:09 It was just her confirmation to go, it's time. You know, God said now's the time. And so you never know what God's doing with the stirring in your heart and the generosity that you're gonna give. And I was thinking to you about just holidays because this is the time where people tend to get more selfish. And you know, you're wanting to get all these gifts or things or
Starting point is 00:43:27 you're trying to give but you don't feel like you're giving enough to maybe your family. But when I think back about the holidays, we're talking about those Christianine one day about we don't remember as much the gifts that we were given but the memories that we have over the holidays. And so, participating that in your household that, you know, it's fun to get a gift and it's awesome to give in all of those things. But it's also the memories that you make and the feeling that you have and the love and the joy and the warmth of the home. And I was thinking about when we went to Guatemala for Christmas that year, and it was, I didn't
Starting point is 00:44:01 have anything to give like financially, I was younger But when those kids remember they thought I was Hannah Montana Cuz they looked at their shirt and they looked at me and me and Marley Cyrus did kind of look like back in the day when she was in Montana They're like I don't have to know. I was like oh English. I know and I just went with it and I go you get the lima rat front And they were like, oh, it's here, I'm on dinner. That performed the whole thing. That's right, my favorite memories. Ever at Christmas.
Starting point is 00:44:30 And it was something I got to give. And it wasn't money. It was singing, you get the best of both worlds because these kids in Guatemala, 100% believed that Hannah Montana came to their village and it made their entire Christmas. And it was awesome, you know? And so just the way you make people feel is so generous.
Starting point is 00:44:48 And it's so generous to be positive into a room, being negative is so selfish, because it just sucks the life out of a room. It sucks the life out of a conversation, but like being positive in and of itself is so generous. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
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Starting point is 00:47:54 then you want to give, because you want someone else to feel that feeling as well. I mean, thinking about the ultimate, what Jesus gave to us is that idea that like, we love others, we forgive us because we were first love. Like we were first given this great gift of forgiveness of our sins, so we extend that to others. And that is true for like a small oxygen arosity.
Starting point is 00:48:16 When someone does something for you, you're like, oh, I could pass this on. I can do this for somebody else because you know what that feels like and you're so grateful for that feeling and you want that for somebody else because you know what that feels like. And you're so grateful for that feeling and you want that for somebody else. It's like the drive-through line things, like some paste for your meal
Starting point is 00:48:29 and then you're like, wow, paper the person behind me. Well, I'll be with you, and you keep going on, or you have the eyes to see how can I do this for someone. And it's so cool when you're generous to people. It's so cool to see the Lord generous to you, you know, like his generosity to you.
Starting point is 00:48:43 And I mean, ultimately, he's in his son's die for you. So that's the Lord generous to you, you know, like his generosity to you. And I mean, ultimately, he's in his son die for you. So that's the most generous thing you could ever, ever do because it is where when it comes back. And I should have done a study on my life on giving something and then looking at just it's unbelievable. Like, it's unbelievable. I'm like, I can't believe. And sometimes now I'm like, oh, something good's gonna happen. You know, I just, I know it. I mean, and not the dot, I'm not prosperity or saying. That's not the right. It's just unbelievable how many times that happens.
Starting point is 00:49:16 Like, you give this and then I look up and this will, this will be provided. And I think for your listeners, I think, you know, don't get into the trap. We're like, oh, you all got money. If you can get money, you can give. It's, that's not the idea. I mean, I think, you know,
Starting point is 00:49:32 my one hour giving tips or whatever, to people way before we even, you know, it's all, it's a sliding scale, you know? And so I think the, you know, the biblical, there's like a 10% idea. And so if you've got a hundred bucks, it's sliding scale, you know? And so I think the biblical, there's like a 10% idea. And so if you've got a hundred bucks, it's 10 bucks, you know? And give it to something, you know? I mean, whatever it is that you want to be generous with that, if it's a thousand, it's
Starting point is 00:49:54 a hundred, if it's a hundred thousand, it's 10,000. And so, you know, our scale may be a little higher now, but there was a time when it wasn't. There was a time when I made, you know, $300 a week, you know, and I had 30 of it and I said, I'm going to give this to something, you know, you know, give it away to somewhere else. And, and man, when I can give that to someone, when I could, when I can hit a person at a restaurant, a waitress or a driver, somebody that I'm with, and I love it when they say their eyes cut back up and they say, are you sure?
Starting point is 00:50:26 Yeah, you sure. And those of those, you know, because you don't know how many times that, you know, when you were talking about the lady down by the border, where it was saying, God just provided, you don't know where in that, where they may tell someone, God just always provided.
Starting point is 00:50:40 And it could have been something you gave them along the way. Maybe not giant, but just like got, you know, God provided this. Like when we grew up, like there was these little things that happened that was like, just got us through, you know, got us through to the next month or got us through through to where we could pay the electric bill or whatever. And those little things and you can go back in time, find like, ah, remember that person who said, here, here's this and and somebody been generous. Remember when dad did that for the youth group? So our parents were, You can go back in time, find like, ah, remember that person who said, here's this and some I've been generous.
Starting point is 00:51:06 Remember when dad did that for the youth group? So our parents were, you know, the youth leaders at our church for a long time and had the youth group at our house as I was growing up. And one year my dad gave everybody money. Remember that? He gave everybody in the youth group cash. And he, but it was like December and he gave everyone the youth group some cash. And he said, you have to give this away. And then I want you to come back and tell us the stories of
Starting point is 00:51:30 who you gave it to and what happened. And it was the neatest experience. My dad was cool. Two Papa is very generous. Two Mom and Two Papa are very generous and he's, you know, always you don't know who he's given to or what he's doing, but he's so generous. And he's just challenged the whole youth group and gave him a little bit of money and said, okay, I'm going to give you this money, but you have to give it away. And then you have to come back and tell us the story. And it was so awesome and so faithful and to hear the stories because so many people are like, oh, I was actually praying for this.
Starting point is 00:52:00 Wow. I was praying for that moment. For that moment. And, you know, I think that's a practical way you could do it too. I remember Don Luke used to, it has a teenager, he used to carry like 20 in his car and just be like, this is for somebody. And just pray. Ask God to say, reveal who I need to get this to.
Starting point is 00:52:17 You know, it could be, maybe it's 10 or maybe it's 5, maybe it's 20, maybe it's 100. Depending on what you have financially and can you can do, but you know, keep a little bit of cash with you and do like, ask God to reveal, okay, when do I need to, who do I need to do that? Keeping cash on me and it's so funny, because when I had cash on me, like it does not last long,
Starting point is 00:52:35 because there's always someone to give. You know, there's always someone that you see that you need to give to like, this morning I saw this homeless man that I've given to a couple of times, and I was in a hurry this morning by I saw him, I just smiled and waveed at him, and he smiled and and wave that being because like he knows me now, you know, and Sometimes you you don't always have something to give and stop
Starting point is 00:52:51 But even just like acknowledging a person or smiling waving I saw the joy light up on his face because you know, just giving anything, you know giving your joy Yeah, I think the time Who was it Peter and then he said Monday or go, I don't have it. Yeah, but I'm giving what I do. I do have. And so yeah, I had a friend this week, um, uh, named Chad, who, uh, calm in that we've got this building that we're working on.
Starting point is 00:53:21 He called me so they turned the water on and everything's leaking and he's trying to clean out the toilets. And I feel so bad because I'm not even in town. And here he is, not his building. And I can hear him like gagging, trying to clean the toilets. And I'm like, what a generous person. You know, I was like, what I do that for when I go in there building is like, okay, I'll clean all this mess up.
Starting point is 00:53:46 And because he knew it was just gonna be a disaster until I got home. So it's just stuff like that, even to me, it's just, even your time, you know. Even during Thanksgiving, I was thinking about, you know, when we have people over for Thanksgiving and family, which again, how many times does that turn into a negative thing? And it's crazy, it's negative and itself is like, oh, look at, and, but it's really the time, like the
Starting point is 00:54:13 amount of time that just that, that I'll spend during a Thanksgiving to cook for people and to have, you know, to have people over to set that up is part of that gratefulness, which is what that's about, and then generosity as well, which is interesting because you go from Thanksgiving into Christmas and go from gratefulness and Thanksgiving into then generosity. That's cool. That's cool. Wow, we didn't even know through my mess up of a text that we were on to something. I love that. At least next book. Generosity and gratefulness, gratitude.
Starting point is 00:54:51 How about that? How about that? You heard it here first. Let's say one of the greatest gifts, I think as a parent, is to see each of you and each of you are so generous and grateful and live that way in different ways and as a parent I get to like know it about each of you and little things that maybe no one else knows but I love that so much. And so cool. I hope to thank you.
Starting point is 00:55:15 Well you all have taught me in so many ways and by example but I was thinking about how you said it is crazy how it always just comes back and it's not that you expect that and you don't do it certainly to receive that but this just happened so I'll tell it because it's really really cool so you know this year has been crazy because we had another baby we're building a house so financially it has been kind of like a crazy year for us you know and with L.O. we need to hire more people and how you said it's almost even scarier the more because you're like, oh, this is so much responsibility. And I've definitely been
Starting point is 00:55:49 feeling the weight of that. And so I was going to do this event recently and I was getting paid for it obviously. And I was like, okay, this is great because I'm getting paid and I had taken maternity leave and all these stuff. So I'm just not kind of getting back to it. And I was like, this is great. Well, during the event, I felt the Lord say, give everything that I was making at this event to this certain thing. And I was thinking, oh no, and I was thinking, okay, maybe I heard that wrong.
Starting point is 00:56:16 I was like, maybe I'll give 10% of what I made because you, the Bible says 10%. And I felt Lord said again, everything. And I was like, okay. And then I was thinking, okay, how am I gonna to a Christian this? Because, you know, I mean, I'm sure he's gonna be great with it, but still that's kind of a lot to just be like,
Starting point is 00:56:34 oh yeah, finally, went out and did my vent and I'm giving it all away. But I felt like, give it all away. So it's like, okay. So I had, and this was all internal dialogue. I hadn't told anybody, you were sitting right beside me. I hadn't told anybody like, I'm gonna give everything, but in my heart, I play Laura said do it,
Starting point is 00:56:51 and I had just kind of agreed in my heart, okay, I'm gonna do it. And as soon, I'm telling you, as soon as my thought went to, okay, I'm doing it, I got a text from one of my teammates that basically said the exact dollar amount I was making came in in another way in another form. And it was just like really, really cool to me because I felt like if anything it was just the Lord check him out, it's like, well you say yes, what you obey. And even to the second, like, I needed to say yes before I got that text that something else was coming
Starting point is 00:57:27 because I needed, he needed to know I would have given it even if I didn't know something was around the corner. And it was so cool because when I called Christian, I told him the whole thing, it was like, this is crazy. I felt the Lord say, give it all. And I said, yes. And I was a little bit worried like, how am I going to tell you? Because I know everything's been kind of crazy.
Starting point is 00:57:44 But then the second I said, yes, it which then it was able to build both of our faith and just knowing that like God is Get it asked us to give and we need to say yes And even if it's not always to the dollar because most time like that's never happened to me before like that But man God will provide and so that was just like a cool story that just recently happened Yeah, I wouldn't normally share that but I just want to build your faith who's listening to know that, you know, God really does have your back. And he wants you to be obedient. But he also, when you're filled with that gratitude, you're going to be able to be more generous
Starting point is 00:58:16 than you thought you were able to in the past. It just changed your whole perspective. Here that sizzle. That's McDonald's, juicy and and delicious quarter pounder with cheese. Yeah, I'm hungry too. So what makes it such a hit? Spoiler. It's made with 100% Canadian beef.
Starting point is 00:58:35 Yeah, that's right. Sounds delicious, doesn't it? Just imagine how it tastes. The quarter pounder with cheese only had McDonald's. Um, there for my dad. I'm not sure. But go ahead mom before we do. No, I was going to say I have one more story on gratefulness.
Starting point is 00:58:55 Well, we can, we can do this before or after. But, um, this is kind of an extreme example. But I was thinking about this is, it shows you how like when you, when you practice gratefulnessness even whenever something really bad or hard happens it just it's there and so we've told this before about how when our our house got shot at you know back in 2020 we had someone shoot at our property and it actually went through John Lake and Mary Kates House and it was very scary I mean it was they were in the home when it happened.
Starting point is 00:59:25 And so get a emotional note, telling about it. It was very scary. But I remember John Lake saying, and he said, actually, it was a really good day, except for that just few minutes. And they were like, actually it really was. It was a beautiful day. The sun was out.
Starting point is 00:59:44 We were outside the whole day. Everyone was around Like, it was a beautiful day. The sun was out, we were outside the whole day. Everyone was around, the family was in and out. We had ordered lobster from Maine. We had ordered lobster from Maine. We had ordered lobster from Maine. We had ordered lobster from Maine. Yeah, this drive-by shooting happened at like one o'clock in the afternoon.
Starting point is 00:59:59 It was like at night. Yeah, it happened in the afternoon. And then we still cut lobster. And everyone came over and we had a good day, you know? And so, yeah, you know, that was a little bit, I was like, well, maybe we shouldn't talk about all the good that happened because it was scary. It was scary.
Starting point is 01:00:15 But it was such a posture of like gratefulness for John Lake to just point out. I was like, actually, other than that few minutes, it was a really good day, and it was. It really was true, and we were all healthy. And that was the thing that just when after it happened, we really didn't focus on what happened. We were just like, we're so grateful.
Starting point is 01:00:31 We're all fine. Like, we were spared. Like, no one was hurt. It was like, we really, that night as we ate lobster, we were just like, we were just grateful. Yes, this bad thing happened, but no one got hurt. And we were okay, you know, and there's times when people do get hurt and things aren't okay.
Starting point is 01:00:51 And that is a tough situation. And we've lived through that with other people just recently, you know, but to see people who, you know, when things even aren't okay, like a friend who just lost two of her children in Iraq and it's just so devastating. But the way we've seen her live, even with gratefulness. And the Facebook post is about the goodness of God. Even with gratefulness. Even when things do not come out okay, it's just such a beautiful
Starting point is 01:01:21 example. And something that like I feel like we're learning from through her. Yeah, you know, Bernat Brown says that like gratitude defeats fear and I think that that's kind of what Jellink was doing at that moment of like we could be really afraid tonight. Yeah. Someone shot through our house and that's really scary. But instead I'm just going to be grateful that we're okay. Instead of like sitting in the anxiety which Bernat Brown says like she studies shame and all stuff. But actually the Bible really says, you know, don't be anxious about anything, but with everything with prayer and tradition, but present your request to God. And it's like, instead of just being
Starting point is 01:01:54 like anxious, I'm going to be prayerful, I'm going to be thankful, I'm going to be grateful. And that kind of starts to defeat that fear of the anxiety. Yeah. Dad, take us to the word, let's, let's, let's root this in some truth. So we're a good button that mom's double segue to her last thing. And then even the one you said, which is in, and all these circumstances, and then the other
Starting point is 01:02:17 I want to touch on is another scripture out of Thessalonians about what you should be thankful for. Because I think sometimes we get off them. Like we're really thankful for the wrong things. We're like thankful for, oh, I'm so thankful I got the job or I'm thankful I got this or I'm thankful this worked out for me, which again, we gotta be careful of that. What do we think?
Starting point is 01:02:38 So this one small passage, you know, you could spend your entire life just trying to figure out how exactly to do these things, but look at the things that are tied together. First, Thessalonians 5-16, be joyful always. Pray continually. Give thanks in all circumstances. For this is God's will for you and Christ Jesus. So just think about those three things right there and look at how they're tied together and I'm telling you with prayer for this with being thankful and be enjoyable. Just think about what type of different person you would be. And then I think as your parents say to you and then these are these are kind of ideas we have about and you were talking about what we taught and it's really what you should be thankful for. So when we look at our kids, you know, I hear parents and not that it's bad. I mean whatever like school and jobs and you know, things that kids do in life are always great, but what we're really thankful for, what I'm thankful for, and mom is seeing this and you guys over in Sagethaselonians 1, 3, we ought always to thank God for
Starting point is 01:03:52 you, brothers, and rightly so because your faith is growing more and more, and the love every one of you has for each other is increasing. That's what he was thankful for. And your faith is growing and your love is increasing. And so when you really think about what really to be thankful for, because I think some of those people can often go like, oh, they're happy and they have a job
Starting point is 01:04:17 and they're doing the, and usually we talk about what they, they've got a great house or an apartment or whatever that is. And not that we can't be thankful for all those things, but what I was gonna be most thankful for was in your faith increase and your love increase. In Jesus Christ, I want to see that. And that's what we can be thankful for.
Starting point is 01:04:37 Because that'll help you in all the circumstances. Yeah. But, you know, because if we're gonna be thankful in our services, what if something goes bad? It's not what if it's win. something is gonna go wrong when somebody's gonna get sick when someone's gonna Pass away all of us will yeah, none of that you know, so it's windy say you're gonna happen How can we remain faithful to when that when your faith increases increases increases and your love increases, increases, increases, and your love increases. That's good. Man, this turn out to be awesome. I'm so glad for that mess up, which was actually just a set up.
Starting point is 01:05:11 So thank you, God. You know, I listened to other people's podcasts all the time and one of my favorites is Bat Portiology and Lisa Harbor ends it with a prayer oftentimes. And then I was just listening to the duck call room that the other day would build on it and they ended it with a prayer often times. And then I was just listening to the duck call room that the other day would bella on it and they ended it with a prayer. And I feel like it's only fitting that we pray at the end of this one because I feel like truly, if you just ask the Lord to be in the change or perspective,
Starting point is 01:05:35 man, if half of you went out and started living more generous, the world would be a better place with all of you dead, man, we'd probably really feel the shaking of the ground. So let's just pray over this and seal this, ask the Lord to help us be what we're talking about. So Lord, we just come before you and we ask God that you would, if we need a change in mindset, if we need a change in heart, that you would purify it, that you would say to fight it, you would turn our eyes and shift our perspective towards you Lord and
Starting point is 01:06:04 gotta pray that when our perspective is shifted that we would become grateful people. We would become generous people. I give us eyes to see the people who need our generosity, who need our obedience and Lord, maybe that's with a financial blessing. Maybe that's with a smile, maybe it's with a hug. Maybe that's with a specific thing, a cup of coffee. Gotta just pray that you would give us the eyes to see it and the heart to say yes to doing it.
Starting point is 01:06:29 Lord, I pray that our faith would increase, I pray that our love would increase, and I pray that the world would see you through the way that we love. Like it says in first Sean, so God, give us just the actions to go out and be the hands and feet of you. Lord, we love you and to your name and pray.
Starting point is 01:06:44 Amen. Amen. Amen. you

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