Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus - Julia Gets Wise with Julie Andrews
Episode Date: June 5, 2024On the Season 2 finale of Wiser Than Me, Julia sits at the feet of 88-year-old Academy Award-winning icon Julie Andrews. Acclaimed for her enduring roles in “Mary Poppins” and “The Sound of Musi...c,” Julie brings a depth of wisdom from a lifetime in the spotlight. The pair discuss the restorative feeling of being in nature, their favorite curse words, and Julie’s 60-year friendship with Carol Burnett. Plus, Julia and her 90-year-old mom, Judy, talk about a life-changing health scare in Judy’s past and how it helped her find her creative voice. Follow Wiser Than Me on Instagram and TikTok @wiserthanme and on Facebook at facebook.com/wiserthanmepodcast. Keep up with Julie Andrews @julieandrews on Instagram. Find out more about other shows on our network at @lemonadamedia on all social platforms. Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium. Maker’s Mark is a proud sponsor of Wiser Than Me. Celebrate the wise women in your life by creating a custom, personalized label from artist Gayle Kabaker today at www.makersmark.com/personalize. Hairstory is a proud sponsor of Wiser Than Me. Check out their hero product, New Wash, today at Hairstory.com and get 20% off with code WISER. For exclusive discount codes and more information about our sponsors, visit https://lemonadamedia.com/sponsors/. For additional resources, information, and a transcript of the episode, visit lemonadamedia.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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I am a hiker.
I'm somebody who likes to get out on a trail in the hills,
in the mountains, or along the beach,
just out in nature.
It's an activity that brings me an enormous amount of solace,
of joy, peace of mind.
Hiking can really change my mindset.
In fact, as I'm saying this,
I realize I've really got to get out there right now and
move, which I'm going to do right after we record.
There is something about walking and looking at the natural world and feeling and smelling
the world around me.
Smells are important to me too.
My memories are really full of smells for real.
Where I live in California, we have seasons, believe it or not. They're subtle,
but we do have seasons that change, and the smells in the air from the trees and all the
shrubbery, the chaparral, it changes from season to season, from month to month. And
I love that. The pitosporum, the cyanothus, the jasmine that blooms at night. I mean,
one night you can't smell it at all, and then the next night it's
almost dizzyingly sweet. The orange blossoms, which just are California to me, the eucalyptus
and the boxwood, ugh. Well, I can't smell boxwood without thinking of my dad, my dear
dad. These smells, you know, they wax and wane from month to month, from year to year,
but they're all so wonderful.
And I find that if I'm having a hard time or if I'm anxious or if I'm trying to figure
something out, to get out of my head and to free up my brain, I really need to move in
the outdoors.
This to a certain extent has always been true for me, but as I've gotten older, it's only
become more and more true.
My favorite thing to do is to go on a hiking trip.
We did that last year with family and friends.
We went to the Dolomites in Italy and we hiked thousands of vertical feet and many, many
miles a day, and it was super hard and it was as good as it gets.
And another benefit of being out walking or hiking in the natural world beyond the self-searching
and meditative stuff is that it is a great opportunity for conversation.
Conversation can flow in a way that it just might not otherwise.
I think maybe that's because you're both looking forward and
you're not looking at each other that it sort of allows a kind of openness and
maybe a deeper form of honesty.
The ritual of walking and breathing a deeper form of honesty.
The ritual of walking and breathing at a pace together is just conducive to a more intimate
conversation.
And, in fact, it was on a hike with my college roommate and dearest friend Paula that we
first discussed the idea for this very podcast and how to do it and what it might be like
and how it would be devised and who it would be fun to do it and what it might be like and how it
would be devised and who it would be fun to talk to and where do we get the microphones
from and what button is record, you know, all of this.
And now look, here we are.
We're finishing up our second season of being inspired and roused by all these mind-blowing
old ladies.
I mean, seriously, who'd have thunk it?
Something happens moving through the natural world, something deep-rooted. They say that
mountains are nature's cathedral, and I do think that's true. You know, maybe the hills
really are alive with the sound of music or with something otherworldly, something sacred
and what, divine. Mary Oliver has so many great poems
about moving through nature,
and this is one called Why I Wake Early.
Hello, sun in my face.
Hello, you who make the morning
and spread it over the fields
and into the faces of the tulips
and the nodding morning
glories and into the windows of even the miserable and crotchety.
Best preacher that ever was, dear star, that just happens to be where you are in the universe
to keep us from ever darkness, to ease us with warm touching, to hold us in the great hands of light
good morning good morning good morning watch now how I start the day in
happiness in kindness boy that Mary Oliver I'll tell you. Yeah, the hills really are alive. How fitting then
that for the last episode of this season, we get to talk to Julie Andrews. Hi, I'm Julia Louis-Dreyfus, and this is Wiser Than Me, the podcast where I get schooled
by women who are wiser than me. I was just four years old when the Sound of Music premiered in 1965.
And for those of you listening who were not alive in the 60s, we didn't have Netflix or
Disney Plus or Macs or whatever.
We didn't even have DVDs or VHS, which meant that if you wanted to watch a movie,
you actually had to go to see it in the theaters.
Well, lucky for me, the sound of music was basically always playing when I was growing up,
which meant I got to go to the theater and see it as much as I wanted to, which was a lot.
I simply couldn't get enough. I've seen it more
than I've seen any other movie. I mean, I've seen it dozens of times. I saw it last week,
for God's sakes. Most people have to think really hard for a minute to come up with their favorite
movie, but not me, Sound of Music, that's it. And it's been since I can remember. Why do I love it so much? Well, for starters, it was the soundtrack of my childhood.
So yeah, it is a little hard for me to believe today's conversation is even happening because
today we get to talk to the woman behind that incredible voice and performance.
I mean, are we lucky or what?
Actually, are we lucky or what is the motto our guest lives by? According to her daughter,
she'll even say it under the worst of circumstances, like in the middle of a thunderstorm when
the power goes out. But a whole lot more than luck has shaped this glorious woman's incomparable
career. She's been working professionally since she was just 10 years old, performing in a vaudeville act with her family,
singing all over England, even performing at age 13
for King George VI and the future Queen Elizabeth.
She originated the leading roles in the Broadway productions
of My Fair Lady and Camelot, the latter of which
put her in front of the eyes of Walt Disney himself,
who cast her in the iconic role of Mary Poppins.
And off she went to do all these other incredible films – SOB, Victor Victoria, The Americanization
of Emily, and of course, there's the sound of music.
And lucky for us, she's still working today.
She's a prolific author who's written
dozens of children's books with her daughter Emma and continues to star in some of the
most beloved family films in history like Princess Diaries and Shrek. You'll even hear
her voice as Lady Whistledown in Bridgerton on Netflix.
So I'm a little overcome that today I'll be talking to the Academy Award winning,
Emmy winning, Grammy winning, BAFTA winning songstress herself, a true English rose,
the star of my favorite movie, a woman who is so much wiser than me, Dame Julie Andrews.
Hi Julie. Hello my dear, how are you? I'm so good. I'm so good. I'm very happy to meet
you my dear. Oh I'm so happy to meet you too. I've never had as good an introduction as that. Thank
you so much, Julia. A fellow name, a name that is actually my name too. I was born and imprisoned Julia.
And it was changed to Julie when my mother remarried, Ted Andrews, and Julia Andrews
didn't roll off the tongue as well as Julie.
So they changed it.
And I didn't know much about it at the time.
But do people call you Julia ever?
No, only maybe great aunts and people like
that.
Mostly, no, I'm Julia and have been for a long, long time.
Julia Well, it suits you.
Carol Are you at home?
Julia I am at home.
Carol And where is that?
Julia I'm in Santa Barbara, California.
Carol Oh, no.
Julia Yes.
Carol Then you know my chum, Carol, very well.
Julia Yes, you know my chum, Carol, very well.
We've become friends, as a matter of fact.
She's adorable and it's such a great friend. Well, we'll talk about that. So, Julie, are you comfortable if I ask your real age?
Yeah, I don't mind at all. I am, I believe, 88.
And how old do you feel?
Well, I probably feel like in my 50s, honest to God, as long as the brain holds out, I'm doing okay,
you know, and I don't feel bad at all, no. Well, what do you think is the best part of being your age, Julie?
I don't know. There are times when it's a nuisance,
and I want to do, well, I want to do more, and I want to exercise more, and all of those things,
but with the accompanying sort of aches and And I want to do, well, I want to do more and I want to exercise more and all of those things.
But with the accompanying sort of aches and pains, I bitch a lot about it.
But I actually, the best part is to a certain extent, people leave me alone and that I rather
like.
Because otherwise, but I mean, I'm being slightly facetious.
No, that's fine.
You can just let it all hang out.
I love it.
Thank you.
Thank you.
But wait a minute.
When you say they leave you alone, what does that actually in fact mean?
Because of your age?
What does that mean?
No, it's because I don't do as much.
I don't go out as much and I love being home.
And so life is quieter these days.
But I kind of enjoy that pulling back
a little bit now. And of course, I've got a million thoughts and ideas and hope that
I can keep going for a great deal longer, but who knows? And I'm just pleased that I've
arrived here.
Oh, I'm so pleased you've arrived here too. You know, when we were putting together a wish list to have these conversations with
various people, you were absolutely at the top of that wish list.
So I want to just take a breath and say thank you again for being here today because I've
admired you my entire life.
Well, I'm thrilled to have been asked, Julia, and it's a lovely medium to be on and to
see your face and you're seeing mine, and yet here we are privately in our homes.
Yes, exactly.
Yeah, are we lucky or what?
That's exactly right.
Now listen, I was so pleased, Julie, to discover that you love cursing.
You're a cursor, am I right?
Oh yeah.
Yeah, you're very body.
Quite free.
Honestly, I myself, I mean, I feel to a certain extent that I've kind of built half of my
career on that.
And I even cursed once in front of Elmo on Sesame Street back in the day.
Do you have a favorite curse word?
No, not really. I mean, on an average every day there's a couple of them, S-H-I-T's that
pop in, but more, oh God, what favorite curse word. My mother had a beautiful curse word
because she was much boardier and alive than I was or am.
But because of the times and because she was raised, as they say in Cockney, she was brung
up and proper. She would say, oh, P, Po, Bum, Draws, meaning knickers. So P, obviously, PO meaning the commode, and BUM being your backside, and
DRAWS being your knickers. So it
resonated. I don't say it. I just remember it vividly and I would laugh always.
That's hilarious. And what's particularly funny is that it seems so benign to me.
Yeah, it does to me.
Right?
Yeah, but I mean, I'm not, I don't go into it much. I don't think I curse as much as everybody else thinks I do.
And maybe because it's Mary Poppins uttering whatever I utter and I go at it whenever I
need to.
But I think that's a surprise really.
Yes, I think so because you've played so many so-called good girl characters.
What's your go-to word, Julie?
Oh, well, come on, Julie.
It's fuck.
Yeah.
Well, I do have some of this.
Mostly, I guess mostly it's shit, isn't it, with me?
You're not that bad.
You're not like me.
No, stop.
No, no, it's true.
I'm very bad.
And you know, I did a show called Veep and there was a lot, it was very scary show,
but you know, of course, the Brits use certain words that Americans are taken aback by,
you know, the ones I'm talking about. I know they do. Yeah. Yeah. So I won't,
I think I won't utter those words today, but you know, the ones I'm talking about for female
anatomy and I, it really
became a part of my vocabulary after a couple of years in their presence, I have to say.
Well that's very useful sometimes, I really do think, yeah.
Yeah I think it is too.
But you know, it's funny that you say that, I think that maybe you just utter a shit and
people are probably, maybe it takes their breath away because of course, all the characters you
play were very sort of Pollyanna types.
Good girls.
Good girls, exactly.
In what ways do you think that good girl image has served you or has gotten in your way,
if you were going to say?
That's a good question. I think to the extent that I began to be typecast for my image, and it's so far from the truth.
I mean, I'm a much, I know I'm a much more bawdy, broad, as they used to say, than Mary
Poppins or whatever, but it's now of no consequence because I've done enough that's different.
And I think enough people know that, know me, that it's, I'm not that prim and proper.
Of course I'm not.
Although my voice sometimes gets in the way or gives me away, one of the two.
Yeah, exactly.
And I mean, are you a rebel?
Are you a nonconformist, you, Julie Andrews?
Oh, I hope so.
I do, yeah.
I am, I think, but not to the extent,
I mean, as Eliza Doolittle used to say,
oh, a good girl I am,
and I kind of know when to be a rebel and when not to be.
I like to be a family when working.
I'm sure you do too, Julia.
It's so lovely to have great collaborators
and great people around you and all of that.
And when you find them,
you must cling to them, don't you think?
I think so, yes I do.
Keep them in your orbit.
Yes. For real.
Yeah, because it's very, very good.
And as you have pointed out on one or two podcasts, I think now, that laughter is, yeah,
obviously phenomenal, but it's such a joy and it frees you up so much.
And if you can be really healthily, anything from bawdy to laughing your head off or weeping
with laughter, that's where I land, I think.
Yeah, that's the best possible place to be, isn't it? I mean, all sorts of endorphins,
I think, are released. I mean, it's actually a physical reality that laughing is a release
and it's good physically for the body.
It is good. And I think weeping too is, but sometimes when the two get combined, I get
helpless. I mean, I laugh so hard and I weep so much at the idiocy of what I'm hearing.
But really, but of course, I was married for 43 years to Blake, Blake Edwards, and if you
don't laugh with that man,
then you better get out of the room, you know.
He made me laugh so hard sometimes.
Oh, I'm sure.
And I think that it's partially
what held our marriage together, the great laughter.
We'll get more wisdom from Julie Andrews
after this super quick break.
Stay tuned.
this super quick break. Stay tuned.
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Do you think that I want to talk about sort of the idea of not showing off and the idea
of humility
and being humble.
Do you think that there's an expectation of humility that can impact a woman's sort of
ability to assert themselves or negotiate for themselves?
Is that?
I'm not sure about that part of it. I think that my mum, who was very much
boredier and more alive than I seem to be,
but she used to say
there's always somebody around that can do it better than you and so do
do good things and be grateful
because there are so many people that have talent
but don't get the breaks and that don't,
and that's, I think, where I land mostly.
And it's all a learning experience.
I'm still learning.
You know, I was interested that you said
that you hid your Oscar for Mary Poppins
in the attic for
a while.
And I was wondering, did you feel you didn't deserve it?
Probably, yes.
I think that's true.
I didn't want to show off.
I was very new to this lovely craft that we're all in, and in terms of movies and things. And also, I did have a hunch,
maybe, that perhaps it was given in lieu of not getting the role of Eliza in the movie
of My Fair Lady. And I had been passed up for that, and I understood it perfectly well.
But of course, it made me sad that I couldn't have a good
crack at it on film, though I'd never done a movie before when I made Mary Poppins.
So thank goodness Walt saw something that was appropriate for Mary.
I didn't mind not doing My Fair Lady, but I wish I'd had a chance of some kind to put it down on record.
I did do excerpts on television and on different shows, but it would have been fun and interesting
to see what became of Eliza Doolittle when, if I had been in, you know, my job was in
the show for about three and a half years, yeah.
So you felt like to a certain extent you owned it, it was you felt the
character you were playing, you gave your heart and soul to it.
Well it took me a long time to get there, but I had a long time to get there and
yeah it was something like that. But I really felt that in a way the Academy
was generous enough to honor me for pop-ins because in a way it was saying
you should have got the other one or something like that. There was so much talk about it
at the time. So I kind of hid the Oscar away, didn't want to show off, didn't want to parade
it in my office or anything like that.
But I hope it's out of the attic, is it?
Oh yeah, it is, yes. I mean, I was absolutely thrilled
and my mother was terribly thrilled.
Yes.
But I think I was very grateful too.
It was a beautiful beginning
and I couldn't have been more welcomed.
Your acceptance speech, by the way, is divine.
Oh, you know how to spoil a girl.
Yeah, right. Yeah, and Americans do Oh, you know how to spoil a girl. Yeah.
Right.
Yeah.
And Americans do.
Yes.
I didn't mean to say you Americans, but yeah, that's right.
But I felt that.
Yeah.
They really do.
Yeah.
So, by the way, your memoirs are so beautiful.
Oh, thanks.
It's really beautiful.
You've done your homework, my god.
Yes.
Well, we take this seriously.
I mean, you take the time to talk to us.
We want to take the time to come at you with, you know, thoughtful stuff based on what you've
done.
Thank you.
But in your memoir, you said something that struck me that I thought was interesting.
You describe your childhood self as being bossy.
Oh, that's easy.
Tell me, what ways were you bossy?
Well, I had three brothers and I was the eldest child.
So of course they thought me bossy.
Because my parents were in showbiz and traveled a lot and were away a lot, I usually ended
up being the head on show in the family when they were away because I was the eldest. And so I think
bossy was, I was given that name by then probably more than anybody else. But yeah, I can be
a bit bossy, but only, you know, we get a reputation for that and yet it's only in search
of something being as good as it possibly can. And it's not being bossy. Yeah. I'm
sure you feel that way.
I do. I think I'm probably very bossy.
In fact, I'm sure of it.
I'm sure that my husband would say that.
You don't look very bossy.
I can be very tough.
How long have you been married?
I've been married for, wait, 36 years.
37 actually coming up, yeah.
So quite a while. Quite an achievement too. Yes, yeah. So, quite a while.
Quite an achievement too.
Yes, it is. Yeah, it is. I'm proud, although I also am like, oh my God, that's so long.
It's like...
Yeah, but in a way, you go through so many phases in a marriage.
Boy, I'll say, yeah.
You know, there's physical love and adoration and admiration, and then there comes the kind of understanding
love and then the tolerant love and the understanding of your mate more.
And it just, there's so many phases that one goes through, I feel.
And I don't know how Blake and I managed it, but we did.
And I also admired him very much.
And as I say, he made me laugh.
And anybody that
does that is great in my book.
Is a keeper. But Julie, you had a pretty chaotic upbringing with your family battling poverty
and alcoholism.
Well, you have to remember, Julia, I didn't know anything else. It's what was handed to
me and I became so incredibly fortunate. I thank God for the
gift of singing and a singing voice. I had a phenomenal teacher who was with me until
she passed away and I had such unbelievable help that I think age is about passing on,
teaching what you know in a gentle way, or I don't think it's exactly
setting an example, but I'd love to and hope to do one of those podcasts that are a class,
a master class, and I'm talking about that because I thought in terms of performing and
particularly with lyrics and using them well and so on, there's
a number of wonderful ways to do that.
And I'd love to pass that on to young singers who are very talented but don't have that
extra bullet in their gun, if you know what I'm saying.
What is that extra bullet, Julie? Is it about absorbing the lyrics and acting them?
Well, every song is... I mean, I can't sing a song that doesn't have good lyrics, and that sounds very stupid.
But, for instance, remember there's a... I don't mean to put it down it's a pretty melody but remember feelings oh whoa whoa feelings well I couldn't do that song I wasn't
good at doing the oh whoa whoa's and things like that I had to find a way to
delve into the song and find out what it meant and I once couldn't sing a song it
was a blues song called come rain or Shine, which I'm sure you know and which I
adore.
It's Harold Arlen and I'm going to love you like nobody's loved you.
And my tutor one day said, I said, it's not my kind of song.
I don't sing sort of bluesy or that kind of deep song.
And she said, make it about the theater.
Now think of the lyrics and oh my God, it changed my life.
Isn't that wonderful, Arthur?
And so, wow, I said, oh, and so, you know,
I'm gonna be true if you let me, you know,
come rain or come shine, in or the way,
out of the money, but I'm with you always, come
rain or come shine.
I mean, it couldn't be more appropriate to being in this wonderful business.
And I know you'll get exactly what I mean.
So it's that kind of thing.
I get exactly what you mean.
And if you can find your way into a song, if it's something else, but you make it a
song about how you feel about your husband
when he's standing at the dresser after his shower or something like that.
It brings into it.
If you make that, if you take it on and adopt that attitude, it's very, very helpful.
Well, it's an acting exercise is really what you're describing.
Of course, it's all about the... I'm big on lyrics. I've directed a few things which I've loved doing,
and to see young people and talented people
suddenly grasp that if you just emphasize that word
or think about it, let's go and do that again and so on,
it can be enormously helpful and was to me over the years.
It's all learning and you never stop.
Well, I'm jumping around here
because since we're talking about lyrics recently,
just a couple of days ago,
I watched Sound of Music for the 3,000th time, happily so.
And I was so struck because,
first of all, my favorite things, the lyrics for that tune... Great, aren't they?
Yes. And what I was so struck by was the lyrics are like a basis for a gratitude practice,
almost like cognitive behavioral therapy. I simply remember my favorite things
and then I don't feel so bad.
But also picking your favorite things or remembering them as you say.
Identifying them.
All of that.
Yes.
Mind you, when I did that, and I don't mean to cop out, but that was my second movie. And so I didn't know as much about it as I do now.
And I wish that I'd known some of the things I know now.
But-
But except Julie, in that performance that you gave,
I hear what you're saying,
that perhaps you weren't thinking of it
quite like that then,
but your instinct when you performed that song
and how you absorbed it,
conveyed that regardless.
It really did.
Our music director, Saul Chaplin, a very lovely guy who worked hand in glove with Robert Wise,
our director, he said, why don't we try reciting the first two lines, you know, raindrops on
roses? Oh, and then the orchestra comes in.
And I was so grateful to him because it was exactly
what I thought should be done, but he said, go with it.
And the orchestrator went with it and it sort of brought
the song from dialogue into music in a lovely way.
Yes, it was seamless, absolutely seamless.
And the same, by the way, is true,
not to harp too much on this,
but in the sound of music,
the themes of nature, actually,
the themes of nature throughout the entire film are...
That's very much where Oscar Hammerstein was.
I mean, he...
All his songs have birds and nature brought into them.
I mean, to be truthful, no, it's not very, it's churlish of me, but one of the lyrics
that I couldn't wrap my head around, the only one in the entire film was like a lark who
is learning to pray.
And that was a little, and so I rushed through it as quickly as I can and got onto the next line or the
next stanza because I don't know how to say that.
But let me ask you a question. Is that because it didn't make sense to you?
Yes, yes. Because I thought it was a bit sort of artsy-fartsy. But Oscar loved to write
like that and set the pattern for that and trained Sondheim
and all those brilliant composers.
And Sondheim ran with that, but just came up with such a stringent lyrics that were
beautiful.
He is, I think, almost one of my favorite lyricists.
He is my favorite lyricist.
Forget about it.
He is.
Yeah.
He's absolutely incredible.
I think that is so amazing that that one phrase in the song.
That's the one I got stuck on.
That you got stuck on it and you blew past it and that's good.
And it's about the natural world, that tune.
It's about the value of being in nature, you know, what the Japanese often call forest
bathing, again, sort of a practice.
Do they really?
I've never heard that.
Yes.
Isn't it marvelous?
No, that's wonderful.
Yeah, I get it.
This whole notion of being out in the wilderness, it's a forest bath, and that we all must do
it.
That tune absolutely speaks to that. And I know that your life in the natural world, you have a
huge bond with Switzerland. And I do. And also my garden and what I put in my garden. And I can't
wait for spring this year, because with all this rain, it's going to look beautiful. My daffodils will come out and my bluebells will come out and I try to, not in an obsessive
way but I like to kind of plan a succession of things that I can look forward to blossoming
and so on. Love all that.
Julie, we have that in common because I do the same. I have my daffodils are coming up now. My blue bell, yes. And I have daffodils
and narcissus. And then when they peter out, my blue bells will come up.
And it's a blue world, isn't it? And when they... Yes, lovely. I'm so pleased. That's so special.
I'm glad we have that in common. Tell me about your life in Switzerland. How much time do you
spend there and what do you do when you're there?
I'm dying to know.
Well, Blake and I have had a chalet there, oh, for 60 years maybe now.
Just after we first met, we took a vacation with our kids.
Not just after, but you know, when we were really a team and beginning to be a family.
We fell in love with this beautiful place called Stade in Switzerland.
The beauty of it is stunning.
I mean stunning.
You talk about wildflowers blooming and things like that.
My dad was a great lover also of nature.
And so my real dad, that is, or the man I thought was my real dad, but he taught me
so much about tree.
He could see the outline of a tree in winter and know what it was, and I could not do that.
And I've been trying ever since and can't. He'd say, oh, that's a lime tree or that's a such and such tree, but it didn't
have a blossom on it, you know.
So you said the man that you thought was your real dad, so your real dad.
Oh, no, my mom, when I was about 14, said to me, we'd gone to some kind of event and
a man sat and talked to me for quite a while and obviously it
had been planned and on the way home she said, did you like him? And I said yeah, okay. It struck me
as odd that he spent as much time on me at this odd party and she said well he was your dad in fact
Julie and I could feel this freight train coming at me. But in fact,
it all worked out pretty well because there was nothing I could do about it. And he always
sent me a loving Christmas card but didn't interfere at my request because I didn't know
whether the man I thought was my dad knew. After he passed away, it transpires that he
did and it didn't make any difference and I wish
We he and I could have talked about it more, but I loved him so much for that. He was a darling and
he wasn't he absolutely was a countryman and
the man I thought was my real dad and I had vacations with him and all of that because
In truth, he was my dad. He raised me. You raised you know the the man that I thought was my real dad. And I had vacations with him and all of that because in truth he was
my dad. He raised me. The man that I thought was my dad, yeah. I mean, whenever I could
see him I did.
And what would that conversation have been like? How'd you been able to talk to him,
do you think?
Well, I don't know. I just know that I think it would have made an even more understand on my part even more love for him. Once I found out
my love knew no bounds because he was so generous and had no compunction in
taking me on and was so proud of me and never ever let me feel that I wasn't his
daughter. And since I didn't know he was my dad and he did raise me. So truthfully, that's
where I arrived eventually. But the man that raised me, he was a lovely nature man and he too would
drive me to certain places in the country where the blue bells were rampant. And oddly enough,
like a lark who's learning to pray, he took me up a hill near where he
used to live in Surrey, the county of Surrey in England.
And he said one night, he collected me from the theatre, brought me down to spend a weekend
with him.
And he said, I want you to hear something.
And he got me out of the car at the crest of the hill and said, and he took me to a five bar gate, a big country gate,
and said, now listen, and nightingales all over
that South Downs were singing.
And you can imagine how magical that was.
And that's the kind of nature man he was.
And he taught me, I think, my love of books,
my love of writing.
You know, 76, this man that I thought was my dad went back to college and got a
degree in German at 76.
I mean, he was an amazing man.
He said, well, I've got to do something.
I've got to use my brain.
And he loved poetry.
He got a degree in German, you said? Speaking German. Speaking
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So I want to talk about friendship.
We had Carol Burnett on this podcast.
I heard her, I heard her, and I love her so much.
Isn't she divine?
Yes, she is. And honest and real and unbelievably talented. I mean, I admire her so much.
I do too.
And she makes me better, which is odd. She brings out the worst in me, the most bawdy in me.
I do not know why, but she does.
And we laugh a lot.
Well, what is it about her that you connected with when you first met?
We're very similar in some ways.
She had a grandma that raised her, parents that were alcoholics, as I did.
And one way or another, in our own countries, you know, I'm from
England, she's from here, we bonded tremendously straight away. It was as if two ladies discovered
that they lived on the same block and they hadn't ever been introduced, but once they
were, it was, we bonded straight away. And every 10 years, as you probably know, we managed to get a
special made together. And each special became, first of all, it was like, who are you dating?
And you know, are you going to get married? And so on. Then it was about parent-teacher
conferences and having to get, pick up the kids from school. And then eventually by the time of the third or whatever outing that we had together on film or tape,
it was like, do you take Metamucil?
And stuff like that.
And we don't see each other as much as I wish we did
because she's on one end of the country
and now I'm out here on the East Coast.
But it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter where we are,
we just pick up where we left off.
It's so easy.
Yes, that's a true friendship.
And the very first one we did together,
which was Julie and Carol at Carnegie Hall,
I'll never forget that she was the one
that gave me the strength and the courage.
And before we taped taped which was twice we
taped one big rehearsal and then the big night and
I
Remember we made an entrance she on one side of the stage and I was on the other side and we
looked at each other across the stages we were about to make that first entrance and
We were doing thumbs up and blowing kisses, but it was because
I could see her across from me and I felt her strength and I also knew she knew mine.
And so...
You had each other's backs.
Yeah, we were there and we weren't going to pull rank and we weren't going to be foolish,
I hope. Well, foolish in the right way, I hope.
Yes, of course. Yeah. And you must have met then doing theater in New York, because she was probably doing,
what, Mattress or whatever?
Well, yes, it probably was.
I met her during Camelot when I was there, and yes, she was.
And I first of all did one of her shows, which was the Gary Moore show that she was on.
Oh, that's right.
And then she did Once Upon a Mattress. I happily was able to see that because her day off was,
I guess, my day off, yeah. And so my manager at the time said, you two have to eat, you'll
adore each other, which is quite often the kiss of death, as you can imagine.
Yes, most of the time they don't know what they're talking about, but in this case it
was a great good fortune.
Magical, and nobody else got a word in edgeways.
And so you've stayed connected all these years, it's quite remarkable.
All these years.
I wonder, is there any advice you might have to give to people who are listening to this,
to younger people about cultivating and maintaining friendships, which I think
personally are one of the big keys to longevity and wellness.
Well, why would anybody pull rank when your friends are so loyal and talented and smart?
And how lovely that you can all bond and either work together or appreciate each other in
some way, I don't know. I just
think it's great. I just about love everybody that I have worked with. I actually can't
remember anybody that ticked me off in such a way that I wasn't happy. That is such a
good fortune, I think.
Oh, yeah. It certainly is. Bravo to both of you.
Thank you.
It's fabulous.
Okay, so let's switch gears for a second.
I wanted to talk to you about your voice.
You started having trouble with it in 1997.
I think you had nodules on your vocal cords, Julie, is that right?
How should I explain it?
No, it wasn't. That was what was so painful to comprehend. Eventually, it wasn't that
at all. How can I explain it well enough? When you, if you hop on one knee long enough,
and it sounds stupid, when you hop on one leg long enough, that leg will buckle and you will get a kind of
striation in the limb that is just a bit, it's muscle and, oh, there's another word
I'm looking for.
Like a stress fracture or a tear?
Or like tissue that becomes a little bit more hardened because you've been using it so much.
But it did lead, think of this, it did lead to my saying I've got to do, I mean a year
of waiting and depression and all those kind of things, but it led to my finding a new
life which is the one with my daughter and writing.
I thought I have to do something and be good for something or begin to be good at something.
And that's what came out of it.
And I've gotten over it.
I think I would have stopped singing pretty quickly anyway
because I was getting that much older
and I would have been 65 or something
when I finally began writing with my Emma.
And it's been such a joy, this part of my life, this latter part of my life, that
I have gotten over it. It was a bad period, but, and you can imagine, I adore music and
I love classical music and all of those things.
But can you talk a little bit about the experience? I mean, you had surgery, and did you know
after it that something had changed for you, you had surgery and did you know after it that
something had changed for you, that something had shifted for you?
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, it wouldn't recover, it wouldn't recover.
Poor Joy.
And I eventually found an absolutely superb vocal, not coach, but doctor, and he cleared anything up that he could, which is why I'm able to
speak and I'm not hoarse.
And I can't sing now, though.
That's the thing.
And I miss it very, very, very much.
And so let's talk about sort of the process of making the adjustment to this, Julie, because
I think, you know, a lot of people, well, frankly,
people have lost in their lives of varying degrees, right?
Oh, they do, and far worse than mine.
Well, but yours was a radical loss, I would say.
And you know, I had breast cancer diagnosis, I don't know, seven years ago now, and I had to go through that.
Thank you, but I'm fine.
But it was, again, it's a loss.
Huge. Huge.
Yeah, huge learning curve, I would think, yeah.
Yeah, it's your body that you know so fundamentally
and that you rely on so completely.
Yes, I understand that very, very well, I do.
You understand it, and it's really, there's a shift that happens emotionally and intellectually.
But you know, what I learned is that I was still Julie. I couldn't do that craft and
you've discovered, look at the strengths you've had since then and what the opportunities
and so on.
That wasn't all that was Julia.
Right.
So what advice would you say to those who are trying to get back up?
Get past something?
Yeah.
What do you think? I'm not very good at answering that question because I don't have it fully in my head
But I think it's to do with find what you love keep doing something because women of my age
Can
Keep being useful. That's really a can keep giving pleasure. And I wish that I could
find a voice again, but I found it in my daughter Emma when I bemoaned my fate
one day and was getting a bit teary. She said, mom you've just found a different
way to use your voice. Exactly. And that the penny dropped in my brain and I became a lot more content.
And now my whole focus is on communicating, teaching, writing, and helping the arts as
much as I can and combining them in some way, which is lovely.
Oh yes, it's lovely.
So you met your second husband Blake Edwards
in the parking lot of your therapist's office, is that right? No, but meeting him
was on Sunset Boulevard and I don't, you probably know that there's that huge
medium across Sunset, and you can go across that, and I had to park in the
middle of the medium
because it had cars going both ways
and cars zooming down Sunset Boulevard.
So I pulled up and waited for the traffic to clear
and a Rolls Royce on the other side pulled up
and I looked over and smiled at the very handsome man,
not in any way thinking anything,
but just smiled because it happened again
and then it happened again. And finally, the window of the roles another day was wound down and Blake said,
Hello, I'm Blake Edwards, you're Julie. And I said, Yes, I want an honor and thrilled
to meet you. He said, Are you coming? Are you going to where I just came from? And that
was analysis, my analyst. And so we got to talking and then
not too many weeks later I received a call and asked if he could come by. He asked if
he could come by and run by an idea that he had. And that was the first movie we ever
made together that was finally made. And it was a flop.
Was that Darling Lily?
That was Darling Lily. It was a huge flop. And that Darling Lily? That was Darling Lily, a huge flop and
how we ever stayed together after that I don't know but we did and then of course
eventually married several years later. Oh that's so lovely. What about him
directing you? What was that like since you were you know first boyfriend and
girlfriend and then a married couple? I know. What about him, Derek? Did you like it?
Did you like him as a director when he directed you?
Oh, I liked him very much and I felt very, very safe because he was a good director and
didn't waste time playing director.
He knew his shots, he knew what he wanted and was very knowledgeable about film and all of those things.
I couldn't feel more safe.
Oh, that's nice.
And he'd had, you know, six ideas a week and would want to get all of them done.
And I would think, oh yeah, you know, we'll see about that.
And then they mostly all came to Paris.
And when I started writing, he was my biggest, he encouraged the most of anybody and said,
darling, it's what I sort of an idea and thought he might like it. And he said, do
it, just keep the pages piling up. And you have said that he had a depressive
personality, right? Yes, he did. And how did you navigate that as a couple and as
his wife? By learning more and more about how to deal with it and with the help of good therapy
and things like that.
And I did know when he would obviously, because he was a depressive at times, it would have
a peak and then it would disappear.
He loved working, he loved writing.
So when he was doing that, he was usually pretty great.
I see.
But it was other times and he was very sad at times and knowing his background, I'm not
surprised.
Have you struggled with depression, Julie?
Yes, but not like, I mean, occasionally.
No, I mean, I was depressed when I did have my surgery, very depressed.
But then happily, time and learning and beginning to do something else came along and that was
very good for me.
Oh, I bet.
So not only are you a grandmother,
you are a great grandmother, right?
Yes, I am, yeah.
Okay, so you're the first great grandmother
we've had on this show, so I'm very excited about that.
How would you characterize the difference
between being a grandmother and then a great grandmother?
Is there, how do you distinguish those relationships?
Being a great grandmother is a tiny bit more removed than being a grandma because it's,
the generations kind of, well, children get raised differently at times and so on. But
in terms of the blessing that they all are and how sweet they all are, especially the
babies, I don't care whether
it's a grandchild or a great grandchild. It could be a great great if I get so lucky.
But I have five kids of my own and then I have like 10 grandchildren and then they have
like three or four, I don't know if there are any more hanging around
or waiting in the wings as we say.
But they're, oh God, they're so adorable
when they're little too.
And Julie, what do they call you?
Granny Jules.
Oh, that's-
J-O-O-L-S.
I love it.
Mostly I'm known as Granny Jules.
Granny Jules is lovely.
People call me Jules.
Do they call you Jules?
Yes.
Yeah.
How do you spell your Jules?
J-U-L-E-S.
Yeah.
I've been that and now I'm double O-L-S.
Yeah.
Just, I don't know why, but it seemed easier.
Yeah, it does.
Okay, Jules, double O-L-S.
At the end of these conversations, I always ask a couple of quick questions.
Well, for sure.
This has been such a delight to talk to you. It's just been like a dream. At the end of these conversations, I always ask a couple of quick questions. Well, for sure.
This has been such a delight to talk to you.
It's just been like a dream.
Okay, so here's the first question.
Is there something you'd go back and tell yourself when you were 21?
Oh, well, it's something that I get asked a lot in terms of what advice do you have
for younger people? And I think what I try to convey to everybody
is finally learning the pleasure of singing
and giving it back to others.
I used to do it by rote.
I was in my parents' vaudeville act
and then I went out on my own for years.
But it was all because I had to and we needed the money and I would
come on stage and kind of clasp my hands and sing my big aria and so on.
But when I learned that I could give people pleasure and really mean that I did, that
realized that they come to the theatre paying good money to see something and that they go away hopefully feeling happier
and more enlightened, let's say.
It's something I learned when I was about, oh, 24, I think, something like that.
And I would say if you're passionate, do your homework to all the young people trying, because
if you don't, you won't have as many
chances, you won't be as good. So it's all about doing your homework and then giving it
and giving the pleasure of it. And is there something that you would like me to know about
aging from where you sit right now? Well, yes. Tell me. Mostly I say aging sucks, but it doesn't really.
Since there's no alternative, why bitch so much about it and try to find out what I can
still do and what I love to do and what gives me pleasure and so on.
I see.
Yeah.
And what are you looking forward to?
What's something you're looking forward to?
Directing other things, passing on more books if I can because I do love doing them.
I'm still learning about writing, but as long as people like what's coming out, I will continue
and I hope to get more and more confident and better, you know.
But I mean, I would love to direct more, too.
So before we say goodbye, I want to tell you that last year I took a trip with actually
my very friend Paula, who produces this podcast with me, my friend from college.
Yeah.
And we went hiking in the Dolomites.
Oh!
Yes. And so, and the wildflowers were bananas.
Exquisite, I can imagine.
And of course, what did we see when we got to high altitudes? We saw…
Edelweiss.
That's right. And so I wanted to show you the picture of the Edelweiss. And we took…
How lovely.
Isn't that lovely?
Yes. and we took how lovely isn't that lovely yes and it every time I have to say it
was such every time we would see one I would scream Edelweiss Edelweiss and
it's one of my favorite songs by the way from the sound of music that and my
favorite things but Edelweiss is about anyone's hometown and beloved home or
whatever and I used to finish my my act with that, and with a full orchestra it is almost enough
to render me very tearful at times, because it's very pretty.
It's very pretty, it's very, it's a tender song.
Well, I have no trouble bringing back happy memories or warm feelings, or to hear the orchestrations.
I love singing with an orchestra.
It's like the one thing I'd love to end with this,
when you love what you do and when you sing with a symphony orchestra,
I tell you it's like my singing teacher used to say,
singing with a symphony orchestra is like being lifted up
in the most comfortable armchair you could sit in
and being carried over the orchestra. And of course it stimulates you to sing better,
to try harder. And I loved making albums and things like that very much.
Oh, what joy.
Isn't that a lovely analogy of how all of that turns you on to be better than you ever thought
you may be better than you ever thought you may be better than you
ever thought you could be.
Yeah, it's absolutely gorgeous.
And it's a great metaphor too for a connection because there you are with other musicians
who are lifting you up.
You no doubt are lifting them up as well.
And so they're...
I don't know about that, but...
No, I guarantee it.
If they tap their stands at the end of the recording or whatever, it's a great accolade.
But the point being that connection is everything, don't you think, Julie?
Yes, I do.
Well, I want to thank you for speaking with us today.
This was a treasure.
It was a lovely interview, Julie.
It was nice talking about all the things, all my favorite things, as they say.
Yeah, it really was.
And I wish you nothing but happiness and health and laughter.
Thank you. That's what's going to do it, isn't it?
Yeah, it is.
I think so. I hope we meet again soon, Julia.
I do too, Julie. I hope our paths cross. I just give you my love.
If somebody that loves Carol as much as I do and you do,
we're all going to meet again one of these days.
We're going to meet again. I'm going to text her after we finish
and I'm going to tell her I just spoke with you.
Give her my love.
I will.
Give my chum my love, please.
I will indeed.
Okay, well she's just as delightful as I dreamed she'd be.
God, what a perfect way to end season two.
Ha ha.
My mom is going to freak out when I tell her about this.
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Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh my God. Julie Andrews is like part of our DNA.
Yeah, for real, because she was such a huge part of our family and our childhood, don't you think?
And in a kind of perfect way, you know, she was sort of a perfect gifted performer.
Yeah, absolutely. She looked perfect. She spoke perfectly, and she sang perfectly.
Well, one of the stories I grew up with was Mary Poppins. And my friend Judy A used to read all the Mary Poppins books, and then she would tell me about them.
So I had in my image of this Mary Poppins, that was always sort of around in the trees and so forth.
And she was a perfect Mary Poppins.
Yeah, she really hit that one out of the park.
So, you know, speaking of perfection, she, I don't know if you know this, but she had a lot of vocal
trouble. And actually, it was very hard for her to talk about it for multiple reasons, but her singing voice is highly compromised, which is a great tragedy really.
And she has overcome this, which is beautiful. I mean, she has found her way through that with the help of her daughter and therapy.
And she's become a writer, which has given her a new voice in
fact which is wonderful but it really did it made me think about you because
when I was 18 you got an acoustic neuroma which is a benign tumor, but it was in your ear, deep within your ear.
It was on the brain stem.
So I had this, I had the test after test after test and finally it was determined that I
had a neuroma on my right brain stem.
And I went from playing tennis and just doing my life,
and all of a sudden this happened. And I remember that you drove me down to the hospital and
your sisters were in the car. And when I got out of the car, Daddy was going to meet me
in the hospital. And when I got out of the car, I remember just a flash for a moment, I thought to myself, I may never see my girls again.
Oh,
because in the the olden days, that is to say, 20 years before, acoustic neuromas could
kill people because the surgery was so intricate. And so I faced that. So I went into the surgery and then came out of the surgery. And then as I was
recovering, I very slowly began to comprehend that I was deaf in my right ear. and what that was like for you, Mummy? You know, the thing about it is that it's so much can happen in life, which is that
you are going along and you're whole and you don't even think about your hearing or your
taste or your vision because everything works. All I can say is that it equipped me to know that these wonderful things that we have, that we take
for granted that we have, which are human bodies, that in a flesh you can be taken.
And then I think about Julie Andrews because it didn't take away my life force. Although
it did throw me into writing in a certain way. I never quite understood exactly what that process has been in me.
But I did find, I mean, I'm so happy that she found writing,
and I'm so happy that I found writing as a way of going beyond loss,
and going into a new life.
And I always loved literature, but it never occurred to me to make it. And
the making of it, I think really it thrust me into making. And in a way I don't think I would have,
otherwise I think I would have continued to just receive literature.
LESLIE KENDRICK That is amazing. And I hadn't considered the connection between your hearing loss and then your sort
of fervor for writing and how it sort of took hold for you. And for our listeners, just
in case you're interested, my mother's written two books of poetry. Mom, what are the names
of the two books of poetry?
The Gatherer is the first and the Unlocatable Source is the second. Unlocatable source, that's interesting
in view of what we're talking about because in a way I wouldn't have known then that maybe a loss
had led me toward importance of expression. I mean, and I know Julie Andrews' work, she is a
wonderful writer and she's written with her daughter too, which is a wonderful thing. And it makes me feel so good to think that I'm like, I'm in some way like her,
or I found the same path. Yes. And in some way she's like you. And that's really nice.
I think that that is a perfect way to end this particular season of Wiser Than Me. This is the end of season two, mom,
if you can believe it.
Oh honey, season two, can you believe?
Season two, no.
Well, I have to say something. My friends who are older women have appreciated and enjoyed
what you're doing on this, this so much. And it is so important to have older women listen to
and maybe even for them to begin to appreciate
who they are and what they've done.
Because sometimes in telling your story,
it's like you have a new appreciation of it.
So even they're telling it,
I think is a wonderful thing for women to do.
Me too, I think so too.
So there you go, mommy.
There you go, honey. Well, listen, you're a lot wiser than me.
Now, ma, you're wiser than me.
Well, it works both ways. It works both ways. Isn't that beautiful?
Yes, it's a doublet. I love you, mommy.
I love you, honey.
Talk to you later.
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