Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus - Listen Again: Julia Gets Wise with Bonnie Raitt

Episode Date: December 29, 2024

In celebration of the recent Kennedy Center Honors where Julia helped honor Bonnie Raitt for her music and advocacy, we wanted to share Bonnie’s episode from Season 2 of Wiser Than Me.   To...day on Wiser Than Me, Julia sits down with 74-year-old music legend and Grammy Award winner Bonnie Raitt. Bonnie talks to Julia about performing live, the experience of external vs. internal validation, and managing grief. Julia also gets Bonnie thinking about her songwriting in a whole new light. Crying, laughing, raging -- this episode has everything. Plus, Julia discusses the deep emotions tied to meeting your heroes with her 90-year-old mom, Judy.    Follow Wiser Than Me on Instagram and TikTok @wiserthanme and on Facebook at facebook.com/wiserthanmepodcast.   Keep up with Bonnie Raitt @bonnieraittofficial on Instagram and TikTok and @officialbonnieraitt on Facebook.    Find out more about other shows on our network at @lemonadamedia on all social platforms.   Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our show and get bonus content. Subscribe today at bit.ly/lemonadapremium.    Wiser Than Me is sponsored by ZOE. Visit ZOE.com to find out what ZOE Membership could do for you and use the exclusive code WISER10 to get 10% off membership.   For exclusive discount codes and more information about our sponsors, visit https://lemonadamedia.com/sponsors/.    For additional resources, information, and a transcript of the episode, visit lemonadamedia.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Well, hi there! It's me, Julia Louis-Dreyfus. We're back for season three of Wiser Than Me. We've got so much more wisdom to share from the magnificent old ladies featured this season. To celebrate the start of season three, we've added some groovy new items to our Wiser Than Me merchandise collection. Head over to our merch shop to check out all of our great stuff, like a classic Wiser Than Me Bagu Tote Bag, a kitchen tea towel with my grandma Deity's delicious peanut butter cookie recipe featured on it, and a brand new gorgeous hard cover Wiser Than Me Notebook to capture all of this season's bits of wisdom. Start shopping today by visiting wiserthanmeshop.com. LEMONADA For me, music, well, listening to music, is both an escape from what's going on and a way to feel what's going on more intensely.
Starting point is 00:00:59 You know, always has been. When I was little, I loved the Beatles. Little kids loved the Beatles. I especially loved Ringo. Ringo was my favorite because he had that big nose, you know, that's irresistible. And I had a John Lennon doll too that somebody gave to me. Of course, I was only five years old so I didn't know they were geniuses. And I loved the monkeys, partly because they were cute and funny, but last train to Clarksville is pretty fucking good, truth be told. My grandma Dee Dee gave me a monkey's record.
Starting point is 00:01:30 Somebody must have told her to do that because I think she was more Benny Goodman than Mickey Dolan's. And of course, crushes are tied to music. I mean, I've already talked on this show about Bobby Sherman, but how about James Taylor? Oh, Lord Jesus. James Taylor on the cover of the album, Sweet Baby James, I just looked at it, and I fell so deeply in love all over again.
Starting point is 00:01:55 I have to say, side note, there was this guy that worked at a woman's clothing boutique that was really funky and cool called the Elephant Trunk, and it was in Mount Kisco, New York. And I used to go into that store practically on a daily basis when I was visiting my dad because that man was there and he looked so much like James Taylor.
Starting point is 00:02:17 And I would just look at him. And I can look at him right now in my mind's eye and I'm leaving my husband for that man because he was so fucking gorgeous. Anyway, I'm talking about music. It's very, very evocative, holy Christ. And I think the most important musical discovery for me was around middle school when I fell in love with rhythm and blues, soul music and funk. I started to go to concerts in Washington, DC with my best friend, Carleen. We saw the Commodores, saw Sly and the Family Stone, Parliament Funkadelic. We love to funk you, Funkenstein. Your funk is the best. And it was the best. I still can't get enough of that music.
Starting point is 00:02:58 And then, a couple years out of high school, I got to be on Saturday Night Live and I got to see all these artists up close when they were the musical guests on the show and we got some great ones like Queen and The Clash and Randy Newman and that band Squeeze. Excuse me, does anyone remember Squeeze? They were so great. Just saying those names takes me right back. But to top them all, one week, who is the host and the musical guest? Stevie Wonder. Yeah, Stevie Wonder. And he shows up and of course he's exactly what you want
Starting point is 00:03:32 him to be. He's funny, he's charming, he's singing all the time, and he's a genius. I mean, of course, I mean, come on, he's Stevie Wonder. So there's this meeting in the executive producers room with all the actors and the writers and everybody with Stevie Wonder to pitch sketches or something I don't really exactly remember, but I was late, okay? Oh God. So I get there and there are like 25 people crammed into the room and I'm very embarrassed
Starting point is 00:03:57 to be late, of course, so I kind of sneak into the room and Stevie Wonder from across the room says, well, there she is, my pretty baby. And everybody looks over, and I'm blushing, of course, because I'm caught being late, but mostly because Stevie Wonder just called me pretty. And then I thought, wait, what? How did he know it was me?
Starting point is 00:04:17 The guy is blind. How did he know it was me? And it turns out he loves to make jokes about his blindness, probably because he's never let it hold him back in any way. I mean, he kept pitching sketches where he was driving cars and having machinery, and there was a controversial sketch where he plays tennis against Joe Piscopo and actually got into the show. Anyway, just so many memories are tied to songs and artists, you know, just one or two notes and everything floods back.
Starting point is 00:04:46 The crush, the breakup, the sadness, the joy, the adventure, you know, the life. Music is the fastest way to get me to feel something here in my body and not in my head. I mean, even honestly, even Christmas carols. God damn it, sometimes I get so choked up, I can barely sing along. It's power, music has real power, a direct connection through your ears to your
Starting point is 00:05:09 heart, to your emotions, your soul. I really do believe music might be the best part of being human. That's something to consider. And then there's an artist that I haven't mentioned and I haven't mentioned her on purpose. I was saving her for last. She's that important to me. I have goosebumps as I'm saying this. Her music, how she writes, how she sings, how she plays guitar, how she plays slide guitar.
Starting point is 00:05:40 If I could, boy, I'd wanna do it just the way she does. Today, we're talking to Bonnie Raitt. Hi, I'm Julia Louis-Dreyfus, and this is Wiser Than Me, the podcast where I get schooled by women who are wiser than me. All right. So even though I love music, it's kind of hard to get me out of the house to listen to people live for some reason. I don't know. But today's guest is one artist I never miss.
Starting point is 00:06:33 One time I saw her outdoors in San Francisco. It was August, and so of course it was freezing. And she was playing, I remember, with James Taylor. And my husband said, how is she gonna play? It's too cold. And she came out and she actually said, oh God, it's fucking freezing. And she got somebody to give her a pair of gloves
Starting point is 00:06:54 that have half the finger cut out. So she was basically playing in mittens, and it didn't matter. She played so beautifully. And afterwards, I wanted to go and say hi to her, but I couldn't stop crying so it's just too embarrassing. I've seen her over and over and yet she still makes me cry to songs I've heard her sing a thousand times.
Starting point is 00:07:13 She is the one singer who I kind of feel like she's mine. Do you know what I mean? I have my own relationship with her music that makes me feel like more than just another fan. And of course, there are thousands, hundreds of thousands of her fans who feel exactly the same way. And oh my God, the way she plays guitar. Oh, she is such a distinct singular artist, whether she's playing blues or soul or rock and roll covering something or playing one of her perfect original songs,
Starting point is 00:07:46 she kills it. You know it's her instantly. She got her first guitar when she was eight or nine and discovered she had real talent on it at a Quaker summer camp in upstate New York. Cut to decades later, B.B. King called her the best slide player working today. I mean, come on. She's just all red hair and no bullshit, right? I'm so crazy
Starting point is 00:08:07 about her tough, don't fuck with me, get it done attitude, all while being indisputably hot. She's navigated the music business for more than five decades, always on her own terms, and that's an industry notorious for its misogyny. When she started her own record label, she hired a team of four superstar women so that they would be the ones calling the shots. Yep, our guest today is the Rock and Roll Hall of Famer with 18 studio albums under her belt who's been nominated for 30 Grammy Awards and won 13 of them including Song of the Year which she just won last year. The woman is a living legend ranking on the Rolling Stones list of the greatest singers and the list of the greatest guitarists of
Starting point is 00:08:49 all time and she's absolutely the top of my list in both. And I haven't even mentioned her social activism, her political power, her devotion to original blues artists, and her extraordinary personal journey. Oh and by the way on her very first album, 1971, she even had a tune called women be wise About that, so let's welcome a woman who is so much wiser than me Bonnie rate. Hi Bonnie. Hey, how are you? Julia I don't know how I can live up to this. I'm shaking in my boot. Don't be shaking I'm shaking so honored that you get me so deeply because it takes all of those qualities you like in me are in you and that's how we make that connection.
Starting point is 00:09:32 I know that's the truth and I've seen them in you, so thank you for honoring me with you. Oh my God. I'm already crying because I love you so much. Oh, I'm very touched. I really do. I'm just so happy. I'm very touched.
Starting point is 00:09:44 I've forclumped myself. Well, anyway, thank you for being here today. Let me start by asking the requisite question. Are you comfortable if I ask you your age? Absolutely. Proudly 74 as of November last year. Nice, nice. And how old do you feel, Bonnie?
Starting point is 00:10:03 Oh my God, probably 50. Uh-huh. Maybe, maybe. I, you know, some, the wear and tear on joints from being active and injuries here and there and all of that stuff. You know, just wear and tear from age is the only way I feel a little bit more, not a lot, I wouldn't say less vibrant, but it takes a little bit more to get up off the couch. You know, I can tell that the parts are getting a little worn. I'm trying to keep the soft tissue and the spirit still gooey. Smart. But are the parts getting, um, I mean, you still do what you want to do physically or
Starting point is 00:10:43 are you? Yes. Yes. Yes. And I work at it. I mean, I try to do yoga at least three times a week and I hike and I move around and try not to sit around too much. But it's, yeah, it's 74 is different than 64. And you know, we'll all have to keep lifting each other up through these rough times because
Starting point is 00:11:02 that's the part that beats us down more than gravity, I think. You know, the cruelty and the suffering and the war and the endless stupidity and what? Are you kidding? I think that works you out. Beats down the spirit. It's harder to get up off the spiritual couch when you get that pounding you down. I like that. I like that.
Starting point is 00:11:22 What do you think is the best part about being your age? I really think that you're more relaxed about the things that could bother you a lot more, that triggers you, you recognize that you're, you get reactive and trigger and it's just not worth the agita, you know? Yes. It's not healthy for you. Right. It doesn't end up, you end up harboring resentments, harboring anger and keep stuffing it and not saying how you really feel. That works to get you in the world,
Starting point is 00:11:52 but somehow I can't separate the fact that I've been, I'm in a tremendously lucky position of having enough power to be self-powered. In the business, I run my own ship with a great team, but I don't work for anybody and I don't have to answer to anybody and I'm living in a time when women can carve their own destinies a lot more than my mother's generation even. So I think I've earned the ability to be more relaxed from 36 years of work in a sobriety
Starting point is 00:12:20 program but also spiritual and therapy and some of it is just the age. I can't separate the times we're in from having been a feminist. You know, I mean, if we were fighting what women had to fight in the 1930s. Oh, please. I probably look like my grandmother did when she was 74. It was tougher to be a woman before. And I think we know more. We know how to get out of situations
Starting point is 00:12:47 that are really unpleasant and not working, we're wiser, and we get the hell out of that situation and stop hanging out with people that are draining us. And that's a wisdom that hopefully could come earlier, but for me, it took a long time. So every decade, I'm more, I'm not putting up with any more of this crap. And I'm more comfortable where I'm at.
Starting point is 00:13:08 And if I'm not comfortable, it's up to me to move out of the way. So it sounds like you've found a way of being more sanguine about either certain things that maybe used to bother you, and now you can let them go. And if they really bother you and they deserve attention, you handle it, you know, sort of maybe without apology, by the way. I that that was very well spoken. But yeah, I think that I'm better at that than I was I'm less. I'm less at the mercy of other people. And, and I've heard a lot of women on your podcast and heard a lot of other women that I admire and read their books and have friends that are older than me
Starting point is 00:13:45 and they also have told me they are just more comfortable with themselves than they used to be. I've heard you differentiate before between capital B Bonnie and lowercase B Bonnie. Can you explain the difference between, I mean, I have a feeling I know what you mean, but will you tell us what you mean between those two types of Bonnie? Yes, and that's diving deep early on, but why not?
Starting point is 00:14:11 Yeah, let's do it, yeah. The way those two upper case and lower case came up for me was being asked about the balance of my life, you know, what bugs you, and what bugs me is, and what has driven a lot of, as I've learned over the years with therapy and in sobriety working on my programs and finding out, trying to analyze why I do what I do and why I was moved to overindulge in this
Starting point is 00:14:38 or pick the wrong partner or why do I, you know, why have I been the way that I've been when it's clearly not working? And that's something that comes with age. But one of the problems that I recognized early on was ever since I was little, I really got more strokes and attention and love by performing. Oh. Outside of my family unit and school, even for my relatives, I became Bonnie the cute little redhead with temples.
Starting point is 00:15:09 If I did a little Shirley Temple tap dancer, then later, you know, if I played the guitar for my folks' friends, I got a lot of positive attention by being extroverted. And I think that redheaded personality thing, you're born with that color hair and you're supposed to grow into it. So I got what I didn't get at home by being big Bonnie. And I'll say that that became later, when I became professional, I'm more comfortable on stage. And I always wondered why.
Starting point is 00:15:46 Why when I come off stage, I don't have the same self-esteem or lack of self-judgment. So I was beating myself up a lot. And privately as a little girl when I went back, and so I wonder when that started, I was never that comfortable when I wasn't performing the version of myself that was a good little girl
Starting point is 00:16:05 or the cute girl or the talented girl or the all A's or the daddy's little girl and not cause too much of a ruckus. And then when I was just back in my room, I would pour my heart out and play the guitar and just sing these sad ballads and longing and look in the mirror and hate what I saw. So I had a double life early on and I have to be careful now that I don't let that schism happen and I remember the metaphor of the Wizard of Oz being found out to be just a regular man, you know, pay no attention to the man behind the curtain. The best movie ever.
Starting point is 00:16:45 The best. I totally related to that because I have been given this mantle of so much power and responsibility and I look so badass to everybody, but I'm really not like that. And in my private life, I have to really wrestle who that is in the ground and see, don't spend too much time just stoking the BR machinery. Otherwise, you lose who you are when you're just a smaller case. Well, that is just fascinating.
Starting point is 00:17:15 And I think that that, well, there are two things I need to say. One is, I think even in my own life as a performer, obviously I don't do what you do, but when I perform, there is a, it's like a hit of something. And it's very delicious and intoxicating, right? It's intoxicating.
Starting point is 00:17:39 And I love it. I love it. But it isn't who I am either. I mean, it is who I am, but it's not the whole thing at all. And when I walk into a room, people expect me just to be funny. And I'm not, I mean, I have a funny bone, I have a sense of humor,
Starting point is 00:18:03 but I'm not like, you know, Shecky Green going off, you know what I'm not, I mean, I have a funny bone, I have a sense of humor, but I'm not like, you know, Shecky Green going off, you know what I'm saying? I'm not. But that thing, I know what you're talking about, that they bump up against each other when you're a performer, right? They really do. I completely get that. The other thing I just wanted to mention is, because you mentioned The Wizard of Oz, which
Starting point is 00:18:20 is like top five movie for me of all time. I agree. And it's an incredible, every time I watch that movie, I die. I cry so hard. It's so beautiful. Have you ever heard Judy Garland's, there was a scene in the movie that they cut in which she sings somewhere over the rainbow when she's being held in the castle by the witch.
Starting point is 00:18:42 And evidently, but listen, Bonnie, seriously, you've got to find it because you'll start crying. It is so gut wrenching because she can barely get through it. She's weeping so much and they just they decided to cut it because it was too sad. But if you hear it, you will hear what a magnificent performer she is, which you already knew, of course.
Starting point is 00:19:03 But it is an elevated performance of that tune. So do me a favor and look for that, okay? Or have somebody find that for me. Thank you for telling me about that because I immediately get her vulnerability in her voice for all the strength that she had. That's why so many people relate to her. That's right, there is a real vulnerability.
Starting point is 00:19:23 Oh my gosh, it was just, and to be put through what she was put through as a child. Oh. Uppers and downers and dance for this and. Right, exactly. Do you feel pressure to create? Do you feel frustration when you're not creating? What's... Oh no, here you go.
Starting point is 00:19:40 Here's where the rubber hits the road. I am frustrated not being on tour. Oh. There's nothing like what happens on stage. Nothing like it. I mean, I make records so I can tour. My dad loved it till the day he stopped performing at 86 years old and he only mostly stopped
Starting point is 00:19:58 because his audience was passed away. And, but I'm telling you that I am frustrated when I'm not, it's not the adulation of the crowd, it's the gang comradery, it's the travel, it's the waking up in a different city in a new opening act, an opening night every night, show those people you still got it. I love since I was 20 years old, being on the road. So when I'm home, I have a satisfying, beautiful life here. I live where I wanna live. I got a small circle of chosen family, friends.
Starting point is 00:20:34 And I'm healthy and I'm lucky, but I really miss what happens playing with other people on the road. I mean, playing by myself is not as satisfying. But do you play every day? No, I only play when I'm getting ready to tour. You really? So you're not sitting around noodling on the guitar
Starting point is 00:20:53 or the piano at home? No. No way, really? I don't do it. No, I'm too busy managing the big career of this woman who, where's my name? So the business of being Bonnie Raitt is taking up a lot of my time and I'm glad to do it and answer as diplomatically and kindly when
Starting point is 00:21:14 I can't do a benefit or I can't sing on someone's record or I can't write a blurb. And when I hear a song that I really love and I want to do it live, then I pick up the guitar and learn it. Got it. But I mean, I'm not one of those, when I was a teenager, I just played all the time. But I don't do that so much anymore. But now I'm playing for fun and I got to get my calluses going again. I did my vocal warmup today and I'm singing on a session after we dock on this podcast, I'm singing on someone's record. So I'm getting that fire is going again,
Starting point is 00:21:47 and my fingers are going, where is it, where is it? My son is a musician, and he's always noodling and writing. I mean, he's young, of course, and he wanted me to ask you, how written out beforehand are your solos? Are they fully improvised on the day, or notated beforehand? I wouldn't know how to notate a solo.
Starting point is 00:22:06 I didn't take guitar lessons, so I don't know how to read music. But I took a little piano lesson, so I do everything by ear pretty much. I just make chord charts when I'm learning a new song, but I play mostly by ear. But yeah, it's pretty spontaneous. When I'm making a record,
Starting point is 00:22:23 I like to get it as live as possible on the first or second take. So minimal rehearsal, just pick the key, learn the lyrics, you know, I get lyrics in front of me so I can just be present and get the band and I rocking on this tune. And then later I do my guitar solo. So I might do three or four takes,
Starting point is 00:22:40 but when I piece together from two or different takes, if I wanna make a combo, a lot of times I start with that as the scaffolding for the solos on tour. I'm not a big jam stretch out for three or four times around. I'd rather play more songs on the set and save the guitar duels for the rockers. Then I turn to my other guitar player and we just let her rip for a while.
Starting point is 00:23:07 Yeah. That's fun. That's so fun. So you took piano, I think you said for five years when you were little? Yes. Yes. Good memory.
Starting point is 00:23:15 I took piano for two years and then I quit when my piano teacher hit me, if you can believe it. Are you serious? That bitch hit me. I would have hit her back. Like Sidney Poitier in To Sir with Love. Not To Sir with Love, in the heat of the night when he slaps Rod Steiger.
Starting point is 00:23:36 Yeah, unbelievable. But anyway, so that was the end of my piano lessons, but you wanted to play rock tunes and stuff of the day and I guess they wouldn't let you do that or what? No, no, I love taking my piano lessons. My teacher passed away and I also fell in love with the guitar and I was playing the guitar more and I got enough out of the piano. I only wanted to learn piano enough so that I could back myself up and play theme from
Starting point is 00:24:02 Exodus and pop songs. You know, I had my mom was my dad's musical director and rehearsal. That's right. And so we had racks and racks of drawers of alphabetized sheet music. And I would just come home when it wasn't time for me to learn my classical piece.
Starting point is 00:24:17 I would play, you know, Richard Rogers songs, you know, if ever I would leave you. I do all the Broadway songs and I would play by ear and sing along with them. So I'm so lucky that I grew up with two incredible music parents. And let me ask you something. How do you know when a song is the right fit for you? Does it hit you in the gut right away? Do you know instantly?
Starting point is 00:24:42 I pretty much know when I hear a song that I love so much that I just wanna sing it. I mean, it started when we were little and Joan Baez, it was one thing to fall in love with that first Joan Baez or Odetta record, but I just had to sing and play it, not for performing it, but just to take in the communing with her.
Starting point is 00:25:04 There's something about the song where it wasn't enough to just hear her do it. And it wasn't about her as much as it was just what, what that made me feel. I wanted to make myself feel so I would sing for myself. And I'm still, when I hear a song that I go nuts over, I, I go, man, we're going to kill that. And you know, right away, you know, right away we're gonna kill that. And you know right away. You know right away. That's so interesting.
Starting point is 00:25:27 Cause I have the, I mean, just like reading a script, for example, if you know, you know. It's a gut feeling. It's like, oh, I have to do this is the feeling. I have to do this. I have to just do a sidetrack and say, you hurt my feelings is so great.urt My Feelings is so great. Thank you.
Starting point is 00:25:47 It is so fantastic, as are all your performances. I just adore you. So don't get me started. Thank you so much. I'll bet you when you read that script, you said, I have to do this. Well, I'll tell you interestingly, first of all, what's so uncanny is that you mentioned that because your voice, if I close my eyes, your voice sounds a lot like Nicole Hollif Center's voice, who's the director and writer.
Starting point is 00:26:13 But when I sat down with Nicole, before she'd even written the script, and she said, she told me the premise being that a woman who's a writer who relies on her husband, they're madly in love with one another for his support. And when he says he likes something, obviously he likes something of hers. And then she only finds out that the film is about her finding out that he's been lying to her about her work and he actually hates it. It's so profound. Oh my God. Isn't it. It's so profound. Isn't it? Oh my god. I relate to this so much that I almost wanted to go ask everybody in my life that is, are you, have you been lying to me? It's very risky to do it with your romantic partner though. No shit. I like to keep them kind of separate for that reason. I don't want to know. Yeah, I don't want to be asked what my opinion is of what they're doing or the other way around. I just, they go, sounds great.
Starting point is 00:27:09 We have to take a really quick break. My conversation with Bonnie Raitt continues in just a bit. Hey, wiser Than Me listeners, it's Julia here with some very exciting news. We have teamed up with CADIS, the California-based maker of high-quality custom eyewear, to bring you exclusive Wiser Than Me reader frames. How cool is that? I personally handpicked the frame, the color, and added a very special phrase engraved right on top.
Starting point is 00:27:50 It says, Get Wise. Isn't that fabulous? So you can feel the wisdom flowing every time you wear them. So head to wiserthanmeshop.com and check out the Catus collection to grab yours now. Now your record company, your label is called Red Wing, right? Yes. First of all, why is it called Red Wing? Because of this shock of hair on the side.
Starting point is 00:28:16 I thought so. It goes down and then I put a little white streak in the bird wing and the little logo. It's like the red wing with the little white streak. I love that. Which I've had since I was 24, by the way. I just showed up out of the blue and I've had that white streak. And when I finally, it's 31 when my red hair kind of faded a little bit.
Starting point is 00:28:34 Yeah. It was still just that one white streak and I tried dying it when I dyed my whole head. And I just went, you know, I'm used to this thing being here. It felt weird. So people always ask me, why do you dye your hair white? it when I dyed my whole head and I just went, you know, I'm used to this thing being here. It felt weird. So people always ask me, why do you dye your hair white?
Starting point is 00:28:48 I go, because it's the only real color that's been there all this time. I just never touched it. It's so chic. It's so unusual. I love everything about it. And as a matter of fact, you'll be, you'll get a kick out of this. I'm doing a Marvel movie and you are. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:29:04 But listen to this. I'm wearing hair with a streak in it in the front. Get out of here. Fantastic. Swear to God. I've been told by someone that said, oh, it means you've been kissed by an angel. So just wear that when you. Oh, I've been kissed by an angel.
Starting point is 00:29:18 Can I say something, Bonnie? I'm going to use that line in the movie. Can I use it? Good. Yes. I'm going to totally use it. It was the hospice nurse that was there with my dad when he passed away in the movie. Can I use it? Good, yes. I'm gonna totally use it. It was the hospice nurse that was there with my dad when he passed away in the palisades.
Starting point is 00:29:29 She said, I've always loved that white streak. You know it means you've been kissed by an angel. Oh, I love hospice workers. As she opens the window when my dad passed away and let his spirit out, I mean, whoa, I said, okay, I'm gonna take, I'm taking that. And I'm gonna be kissed by an angel. That's why I have the white street.
Starting point is 00:29:47 Oh my God. I mean, it was within, it wasn't at the exact moment. It was just, I mean, that was the same person who was kind of connected to the other realms in a way that when you are blessed enough to be able to be with a loved one as they're getting ready to go. Yes. And those angels, those
Starting point is 00:30:05 saints, those hospice nurses are there helping you get through it. She just said, does anyone mind if I open the window? And then he passed away and she said, I like to let the spirit out. And I just was... Bonnie. It was so moving to me. It wasn't anything I would question, because she was an incredibly empathetic, compassionate, wonderful nurse that helped not only my dad, but the whole family get through that. You know, I think hospice workers
Starting point is 00:30:35 are the most admirable, the most tender. My dad passed away with hospice workers. And I had the same experience, although now having heard this about the window, I should have opened the window, but I know his spirit definitely found a way out of the house. Anyway, I mean, we're all over the place, which is good. That means we're- Oh, we were talking about my record company.
Starting point is 00:31:03 Oh, yeah. So wait a minute. So obviously songwriting, generally speaking, is a male dominated field. And I think, isn't it? Is it not? I don't think so. Well, you would know better than I, I thought it was. Well, I'm just saying that I'm not a country music artist,
Starting point is 00:31:21 but I was surprised with this amount of zillions of streams and appreciation of so many women artists in the country field that it turned out that for a couple of decades they were mostly just playing guys on the radio. And I couldn't understand what that gap was, you know, like we can't understand the wage gap. Are you still, are you kidding? Right. Still there. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:31:45 But no, I think, I mean, Joni Mitchell and so many great, Carole King, great singer songwriters and artists have always been instrumentalists as well. But I think that- Well, but like when you're writing a song, Bonnie, is it important to you to write a song through a female lens?
Starting point is 00:32:03 I mean, No, I don't even think about that. You don't think about gender, you're just writing. Well, when I sing Angel from Montgomery, some of my strongest songs have been written by men about women, that Nobody's Girl is a beautiful song from Nick of Time, Larry John McNally, and, oh my God, there's a whole slew of them
Starting point is 00:32:23 that are so inside what women are feeling. There's a song of mine on Longing in Their Hearts called All at Once. So it was the first time I wrote in the third person about a woman that had a fight with her daughter, a teenage daughter. And it was just like a short story. And that really felt good to write and sing from a woman's point of view. So I sing from women's point of view, women be wise. Keep your mouth shut.
Starting point is 00:32:49 Don't advertise your man. I love those lyrics. Oh, thank you. I think I've written a lot of really strong lyrics about- Oh, please, just like that is incredible. I was just re-listening to that yesterday and then this morning, and every time I hear it, I cry. I lay just re-listening to that yesterday and then this morning, and every time I hear it, I cry. I lay my head upon his chest.
Starting point is 00:33:08 I was with my boy again. I mean. Thank you. Thank you. I watched that go down on TV. A news team brought a crew for a woman to meet the man who had her son's heart. And that just inspired me. I mean, I wrote a story about
Starting point is 00:33:25 a woman who actually caused the death of her child because she was looking the other way. And she just was so ashamed and so horrified. She just disappeared. And there was no way for her ever to have fun, any redemption. You know, she was just one of those people that that crazy lady down the street with the blinds closed and that this guy who had her son's heart that she didn't even know was donated, spent all this time to find her. But anyway, to answer you, there are a lot more songs I sing from a woman's point of view. I should probably say I write from a woman's point of view and not, I just don't think about it consciously.
Starting point is 00:33:59 I understand. Well, I mean, it's your experience as a woman, so that's why you don't think about it consciously, I would imagine. But I mean, also, I wanted, it's your experience as a woman, so that's why you don't think about it consciously, I would imagine. But I mean, also I wanted to mention too that your cover of Baby Mine. Oh, I love that one. So I have to say that when I was listening to that on repeat when I had my first son, and by the way, produced by Don Was, Don and Gemma are good friends of ours. Oh, of course they would be good friends of yours.
Starting point is 00:34:31 Aren't they the greatest? The greatest. Oh, and Sheila, I know, because I mean, I knew Sheila more because she booked me for David Letterman. Oh, my God, speaking of which, do you know we met on Letterman? Yes, we did.
Starting point is 00:34:44 I even, I remember, I was going, God, she just built like a rocket ship. I just remember loving you, but then going, man, I am going to work out more. No, stop it. I was so inspired. I remember being thrilled that we were on at the same time. Oh my God, me too. And I have a picture I just have to show you. Here it is. And I mean, I know our listeners can't see it. How do I get this big? Here, can you see? How do I do this? That's us. I can see it.
Starting point is 00:35:10 Oh, sweet. Oh my gosh. Isn't that fun? Are we foxes or what? We are stone cold fucking foxes. I love it. And I was so happy that you were, you know, friends with Jane and-
Starting point is 00:35:23 Fonda, yes. Yeah, you're political. And I just, I love who you are friends with Jane and Fonda. Yeah. Yeah. You're political and I just, I love who you are in the world too. So we're going to go on and on like this. People were going to just shake their head and go, you guys just make a date and sleep together. Get it over with. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:35:37 Well, fuck them. We're not, I mean, we're doing what we want to do. We can talk about anything we want. What was it like being on the road all the time with men? Was it great? Did you love it? Did they drive you crazy? All of the above? No, no, I loved it, but I have two brothers. I'm not a girly girl anyway, so it was really fun. I was kind of a tomboy. I never identified with hair and makeup and I just wasn't into shopping and I didn't want I just wasn't into shopping.
Starting point is 00:36:05 And I didn't want to be a wife and mother, you know, I just wanted- From the get go? It's from the get go? Yeah. Gidget was a big role model from when that book and movie came out. Yes.
Starting point is 00:36:17 When she was not accepted in a man's world of surfing and then she got really good at it. Yes, you're the Gidget. Yeah. And then I've also said this on interviews, but I really loved Amanda Blake, because she had red hair and she owned the saloon and she didn't have to get married,
Starting point is 00:36:32 but they were way in love. And I just thought that was so cool, because a lot of women, the mothers of my friends in LA when I was growing up, somehow in the middle of our teen years, a lot of them were getting dumped. You know, the husbands were marrying younger women. You know, either the wives later, I realized,
Starting point is 00:36:54 might have been premenopausal or when the kids, you know, my dad left my mom when I was 19 and found a younger woman that he was closer with. I mean, I don't know what went on between them closed doors, but parenting teenagers can put a lot of stress on a relationship. Sure. And my dad was away a lot, and my mom was,
Starting point is 00:37:17 you know, it was difficult. And so I just got the message where I just don't want to have to depend on any guy. I'd just rather be way in love, but stay independent and be the, not the other woman, like breaking up people's homes. Even before feminism, I didn't want to have that model of being married and living in the suburbs
Starting point is 00:37:36 and having kids. Did you get pushback on that from anybody? No. Didn't. I was just naturally a little, a tough girl, you know, and I adopted that blues mama persona early on with my band Jump Ahead from teenage years to my first album. I couldn't stand the way I sang because it was so fruity and I wanted to sound like Etta James and it wasn't going to happen.
Starting point is 00:38:01 Wait a minute, wait a minute. You couldn't stand it? I'm sure I... On the first album? I hated it, hated, hated. But I loved doing it, I just didn't like listening to it. So I would adopt this kind of swagger and drink and smoke and talk.
Starting point is 00:38:16 I mean, I listened to some bootleg live shows of my early folk days where I was just like, who was I? I adopted a persona as if I was somebody that did own a saloon. Can you listen back to your music or you can't? Is it hard for you to listen? I mean, you're talking about your first album in early days, but is it hard for you to listen back?
Starting point is 00:38:39 I have great affection and compassion and a lot of great memories of who she was back then, you know? I'm proud of the music that I made, but do I like listening to my voice? Not really. I mean, maybe as I got older, I could like it more. Yeah. Yeah, you're- How about you?
Starting point is 00:38:55 When you see yourself, do you cringe when you see early footage of yourself? I don't like it, I gotta tell you, Bonnie. I don't like it. Yeah. I really don't. I'm very, I mean, there are a few exceptions, but I'm pretty judgy about it. And I just watch mistakes.
Starting point is 00:39:13 I see mistakes I'm making. And no, it's true, I do, which is, you know, but I mean, I like certain things. There are certain bits and bobs I can watch, but for the most part I would say I just sort of wince. I have a lot of that too. I know exactly what you mean. And here's the thing that I found out. How about when you think you're making a cool looking face at the camera.
Starting point is 00:39:39 Oh please. And then you see the results and you look like you're just trying to go to the bathroom or something. You look like such a dumbass. I know. It's funny you say that because somebody posted something of me on Instagram or somewhere and it was, anyway, it was some red carpet event and I had gotten it in my head that I smile too much on the red carpet.
Starting point is 00:40:00 I'm right with you where you're going with this. So I'm standing there and I'm sort of looking over my shoulder and sort of like a slightly open mouth and I'm not smiling and I look like I'm comatose in the picture. I just I mean it's really so embarrassing I just had to just look at a whole bunch of shots where I could have sworn I was, or even live shots now. I'm editing, helping pick the promo pictures for the Austin City Limits show we cut. All these shots of me playing guitar, they just look hideous. I mean, now I'm going to be self-conscious about how I play. Oh no, you mustn't be.
Starting point is 00:40:40 I don't want to be. I just want to wear a COVID mask and just make whatever face I want. Let me explain to you something. When you have that guitar on, nobody holds a guitar like you, nobody has swagger like you do. It is incredible. So under no circumstances are you allowed to do a head game on yourself about holding that guitar.
Starting point is 00:41:00 I will not permit it. I will- Well, the guitar part's fine. I just have to make sure that I'm not making the face that I just saw in about 10 photos. But I mean, your voice has changed as you've gotten older. It's gotten a little bit deeper, is it? I guess. I mean, I think that happens naturally.
Starting point is 00:41:16 Yeah. It happens. You get lower, you get more notes down below as you get older. It sounds great. And warm up more. Yeah. Oh, thank you. I mean, I feel like I have more agility and I know that I have to say when I look at my pals, Jackson Brown and, you know, Bruce Hornsby,
Starting point is 00:41:35 Bruce Springsteen, like a lot of people, men and women that are touring now, their voices have never been better. And it's really great because we're not 50, we're like 70. It's fantastic. It's a huge benefit to aging, isn't it? And look at Tony Bennett and Willie and Bebe. I mean, my dad was singing his butt off when he was in his 80s.
Starting point is 00:41:56 Incredible. I mean, when people go, are you going to retire? I go, why would I retire? Why would you do that? No, keep going. Never stop. Never stop. Actually, I'm circling back to something because I really did want to ask you, all these fabulous people in blues, women in particular, and Sippy Wallace,
Starting point is 00:42:15 and I know you talk about her like she was your grandmother. I do need to know what, because she was like a wise old lady for you, correct? Yeah, exactly. And I hung out all my 20s with these people who are like my age now. Yeah. So what kind of, if you recall, what kind of wisdom did she impart to you? What did you learn from her?
Starting point is 00:42:39 Well, I'll tell you what was great was that she had all of the inherent swagger still, but she was bemused. And I don't think that when you're in your 20s, you're bemused by men's bad behavior. In her case, if somebody should have paid royalties and they didn't, she was just really happy to be appreciated. And she would just sit and listen to us clowning around
Starting point is 00:43:08 in the dressing room, you know? And I just looked over at her and she was like, not winking, but almost. She was bemused and relaxed and having the time of her life. And I said, man, I want to get to that Yoda place. Muddy was like that. John Lee Hooker was like that. Fred McDowell, Mississippi Fred McDowell, Sippy Wallace. When you're talking about Ruth Brown,
Starting point is 00:43:33 who did get ripped off and built Atlantic Records, she was from a different generation. In the 50s, she built Atlantic Records. She was pissed, so you don't cross her. But Sippy was, for me as a young woman to get to be with somebody that was so uh, wise about men. And she said, you can make me do what you want to do, but you got to know how. That was one of the songs of hers.
Starting point is 00:43:59 I picked her songs because, you know, the feminists would say, what do you mean? Women be wise, keep your mouth shut, don't advertise your man, that if you talk about yours they're going to come up and steal him. Well, excuse me, that's what happens, you know. Women don't do that to each other. I go, oh, really? What world are you living in?
Starting point is 00:44:18 Right, exactly. You're going to brag on why somebody's so to great lover and then you're surprised when you're on the road and they take a little taste. Come on. But you know, first of all, that's so funny because you're sort of describing her and her way of being sort of bemused and it sounds like relaxed. It's kind of how you're describing yourself right now to a certain extent, right? I hope I reached the Sippy Wallace level of bemusement. Because really, you got to
Starting point is 00:44:48 just sit back and go, it's out of my control. But I'm not sure. I mean, there's layers of political stuff that are on top of being alive now that I don't know whether any amusement would be what I would call any, you know. No, I hear that. Yes. But I'm just saying in her as a young woman, she was just, she was like what I'm aspiring to feel like now, like okay. She's okay. She's okay.
Starting point is 00:45:18 Yeah. She's like sitting with it all. She's sitting with it all. She can breathe deep. Breathe deep. Funny. Yes. Present. Bring it when she needs to. You know?
Starting point is 00:45:28 And she just, she didn't seem to care about what people thought about her. All that stuff that, I mean, we're tyrannized by the weight thing, by the, you know, am I pretty enough? I know, believe me. What about ageism? Oh.
Starting point is 00:45:44 Yeah, talk about that Bonnie. I think in my folk Americana wing of the music business, we only get more legendary and people respect us more as we get older. I don't see the discrimination that leading ladies got in my dad's business. When Connie Towers and other people turned 50 and other actresses. They were over, over. And so in my world, I did not face sexism or ageism,
Starting point is 00:46:17 but I did face men in the beginning not liking to be told that I was self-managed that I was the music director of my albums when I couldn't you know That was odd to be told What you were doing not correctly or you'd like somebody to do it differently in the studio when when I couldn't play that instrument As well as they could so like who are you who died and made you the boss So how did you talk about that? So like, who are you who died and made you the boss? So how did you handle that? Talk about that. I mean, how did you manage that push? Tip toe around that?
Starting point is 00:46:53 Yeah. You know, first of all, try to make sure you're only in the room with people that have a lot of respect for you. And most of that time, that was the case. There was like one record where I was with a lot of really heavy hitters in New York and I was only 24 and there was an actual producer,
Starting point is 00:47:10 Jerry Ragavoy, and so what I would do, oftentimes that would be a partnership and when something tricky needed to be said, sometimes I would ask him to rephrase it. He'd be like my Secretary of State. Uh-huh, yeah, he was the diplomat. He was the UN ambassador that went in and said, what she means to say here is,
Starting point is 00:47:30 sounds great, it sounds great, but. Did you ever have any self-doubt? Or did you stand pretty firm or sort of a combo? Probably a combo, I would think. Isn't that human? You know, when it comes to music, my ears tell me when something's working. I cannot lie. If it doesn't sound right,
Starting point is 00:47:48 if the groove's too rushed, or the playing isn't... That track wasn't it. I have to be completely honest. And so I've... And I trust that implicitly since the beginning. I can tell when it's the right take. And pretty much the people that I pick to work with, they feel the same way. So I haven't had a lot of pushback on that.
Starting point is 00:48:11 The pushback sometimes is in the record company where they don't like to see a woman represent themselves. And if you say, how come you don't put enough records in the stores after I just sold out that city? They don't like to hear that from the artists. So they want to have an intermedi intermediate and it's usually a guy. Incredible. Stay put, my conversation with Bonnie Raitt
Starting point is 00:48:32 continues in just a moment. ["Doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo, doo"] So, I want to talk a little bit about the relationship between art and pain, especially in music, you know, because there's this mythology around the sort of the out of control lifestyle and pain and then elevated artistry as a result of that. And I mean, you've talked about confronting this when you were talking about getting sober on your sobriety journey. Were you afraid that when you got sober
Starting point is 00:49:18 that it would be harder to make music or to perform? Or did you have confidence about that? How were you feeling? It's interesting, I haven't been asked this in a very long time and it's an interesting, when we started out speaking about the upper case and lower case, I was worried that by personally becoming more at peace and serene and well, that I wouldn't, the edge that I had, that the suffering,
Starting point is 00:49:48 that the anger and the resentment and the betrayal and I'm singing all of your pain, I'm singing for you, I'm going through it too and I had this bad relationship and I picked all those relationships so I could be authentic when I sang about pain. But I'm just saying that what happens when you get out of agony and you're not suffering anymore and you're not paying? What if it doesn't sound as authentic when you're up there trying to play? And in fact, it was just as if the windshield was clear and I could be more authentically me and feel even stronger. And I watched Stevie Ray Vaughan come out of rehab and he was worried about whether he'd be able to play it the same, whether he'd have the same fire.
Starting point is 00:50:30 Where's the source of that fire? Is it suffering and pain and self-doubt and all of those even existential questions? And it turns out that the miracle that happens when you can be coming from a different place that's not inauthentic or phony or a crutch of becoming somebody else or putting in chemicals to try to be that other person, you can be,
Starting point is 00:50:55 like the wizard actually came up with the solutions all by himself without being behind there. So that was what was beautiful. And for me, singing my songs straight, because I didn't sing in my shows messed up, I kind of waited till after the show to get high. So it wasn't that different, but being the person that I became
Starting point is 00:51:14 when I was more authentically okay with the smaller case me, only made the bigger case me stronger, I think, and more compelling and more passionate. And the suffering is right there. I can remember what those pain, when I sing, I can't make you love me. It's as if I just went through it. It's like what that, like you said, the wizard says you had it all along. It was, you know, that is what I, that's, I just got goosebumps from that. I, that's what I, I think I want to know.
Starting point is 00:51:45 I want to know that I had it all along, that I don't have to put it on. It's not a role that I'm playing. It's a beautiful thing to just feel so in your moment when I'm singing and playing music and it's working. It's like you when you're doing your thing and it's just perfect. It's the ultimate. It's the ultimate.
Starting point is 00:52:08 Melding of what you were supposed to be doing on this earth this time and I know what a gift it is. So I'm not going to cheapen it and mess it up. Right, right, right. That's good. That makes me happy to hear. We were talking about it earlier with your dad in hospice. Grief is obviously a subject that comes up a lot on this show because we have women who have lived a long time, therefore they've lost important people in their lives. Has music helped you process your grief? KS Absolutely. It is probably the longing for what I wish I could have and love or didn't get as a little kid. That's not grief, but it's longing and the loss of so many things in my life that I didn't cherish at the time.
Starting point is 00:53:05 Well, I just mean relationships that because I'm on the road all the time, I wish I had nurtured more. You know, that's something we all kick ourselves for, but the loss of so many people has been, when I go to sing now, I sing dimming of the day for my brother Steve, and I wrote this rocker song with my guitar player, I put the words to it called, I'm living for the ones who didn't make it.
Starting point is 00:53:28 And that helps to get the rockers actually get the energy out as much as the sad songs. But the Angel from Montgomery, I mean, wipes me out. I mean, there's so many different songs that have ache in them. And grief is a big part of that because it's been part of my life the last 20 years, especially. Yeah, right. So it's cathartic that way, right, Bonnie? Absolutely. And I know the audience is feeling that. And when I sing just like that, I try
Starting point is 00:54:00 not to make eye contact with the people in the audience, but the guys in the band will tell me there was people sobbing in the front, you know. Oh, yeah. You know, or I've gotten letters from women that have said, I've never seen my husband cry. We've been married 40 years. And when you sing, I turn and look at him and he was crying. I can't make you love me.
Starting point is 00:54:20 Oh, yeah. So I know that I'm holding a really holy space on those songs like Angel from Montgomery. And you know, the fe I know that I'm holding a really holy space on those songs like Angel from Montgomery and the feisty ones, I'm holding that space and when you're asking about, do I write from women's point of view? Yeah, I've written a whole lot of songs, Meet Me Halfway, Standing By the Same Old Love,
Starting point is 00:54:38 Down to You. There's a whole bunch of tunes, Baby Don't You Know I'm On Your Side, that are about, even though we were finished talking about it, I just went, I'm standing up for these positions, these lyrics that I pick, I'm standing up for those people in the audience
Starting point is 00:54:56 that need to say that to their partners. And a lot of them are women, so yeah, I mean I take back saying I don't think about gender. I think about me, but because I'm a woman, I'm speaking about meet me halfway. I mean, that's your default position. That's where you are. And I like that you use the word holy because I think your music is holy. Oh, thank you.
Starting point is 00:55:22 I do. It feels that way when I'm singing it. Thank you for receiving it. It really means a lot. I do. I totally receive it with open arms. And what a dream. What a dream.
Starting point is 00:55:39 Well, can you imagine how it feels for me to be off the road since October and have my first time being me again, be with you, receiving me with such... I mean, I knew you were a fan, but not to the extent of soul connection that we have. So many things line up, and all the important ways. The real things. The real things. And I admire you so much. For you to like me is just thrilling.
Starting point is 00:56:05 Thank you. So it's right, it's mutual. Thank you. Thank you, thank you. Tell me, I'm going to just take this moment to ask a couple of very quick questions that I like to ask the ladies when we're talking on the show. Is there something you go back and tell yourself at 21? Oh, wow. Try to pick partners that are more your peers than someone that's just feeding what you need and companionship and being okay. See if you can make more of parity in
Starting point is 00:56:44 the decision. And that's hard to do when you travel all the time. But that's good advice. You know, but I wish I had, I've had relationships with people that were really even on many, many levels, and those were the ones that had a shot, and when I aimed lower and just sort of like filled up on fast food for that desire and I didn't, I was holding out for the higher one later, well next thing you
Starting point is 00:57:13 know, you know, you've, I would have liked to have known that sooner. Okay. That's really good advice. What are you looking forward to, Bonnie? Oh, gosh. Oh, peace, sanity, coming together, putting aside our differences and an end to this, a redirect of the road we're on onto one that's more solid and more loving and more compassionate and more just. And may we be at peace, may I be at peace, may I find a way to be effective. And I'm looking forward to making a difference if I can help make that happen.
Starting point is 00:58:01 That's a future I want to see. Well, that's the perfect way to end this conversation. Well, I'm a basket case. I am too. I am too. I'm going to go sing on a record by the man who co-wrote I Can't Make You Love Me and the wonderful Joe Henry that produced like eight songs I've put out on the last few albums. One of my favorite songwriters
Starting point is 00:58:27 and the two of them are collaborating on a record together and I'm gonna go finally get to pay back to Mike Reed by singing on his, he sings like an angel. I mean, Scott, you know how Michael McDonald's voice is unearthly beautiful? Mike Reed has made several albums of his own. He's just so, but for a former Cincinnati Bengal football player to have come up with the music
Starting point is 00:58:51 for I Can't Make You Love Me, and with Alan Shamblin to come up with that, Don't Patronize Me. Don't Patronize Me is extraordinary. Oh my God, so you're going to that now. And I'm gonna take this lump in my throat that you've carefully honed for the last two hours and I'm going to use that and sing on this beautiful song that they did together.
Starting point is 00:59:13 Oh, I'm so happy. Oh, I'm so happy. I can't wait to hear it. I look forward to it. Me too. I can't wait. I just think now it doesn't exist. In a couple hours, it will always exist.
Starting point is 00:59:23 All right. It's amazing. All right, I can't wait to see you again and make a difference together and have a blast and laugh and hike and do all that stuff. Okay. We are one. We are one.
Starting point is 00:59:35 Bonnie Raitt, the most wonderful, the most authentic. Julia, oh, thank you for everything. Thank you, Julia, I love you too. Love you, love you. Be well. You too. Love you, love you. Be well. You, too. Bye. Bye. Oh my God, I love her.
Starting point is 00:59:51 Oh. I'm like lying on the floor. Oh, Bonnie Raitt, wow. Okay, I gotta get my mom on Zoom so I can tell her all about this. Hi, mama. You look so nice with your red lipstick. Oh, I put some red lipstick on. What do you think of it? I love it. I think it's chic. Thank you. Sometimes I used to see old ladies with red lips, and I couldn't ever decide if I thought it was good or bad.
Starting point is 01:00:21 I'll tell you when it's bad. It's bad when the lipstick's out of bounds. As soon as the lipstick goes out of bounds, that's a big red flag. Pull over and get that fixed. Yeah, but this is a lipstick that's very dry. So in other words, have I done it right? Yes, it looks perfect. Okay, good. Wait, put your mouth closer to the screen. Let me see. Yes, it looks perfect. Wait, put your mouth closer to the screen. Let me see. Oh yeah, mom, it's good. Is that good?
Starting point is 01:00:47 Yeah, it's very good. All right, well, that's all we have time for today. So much for activism. And the good of the planet. Okay, so I just had a very lengthy conversation with Bonnie Raitt, who is a hero of mine. And I have to tell you that I started the intro and I could feel that I was just going to lose it. I knew I was going to start crying from the second I started to talk to her. And I felt that way through the entire interview. And I actually did cry a number of times talking about her and her music and what she's meant
Starting point is 01:01:26 to me. But it was so, mom, can we talk about trying not to cry? Have you, have you ever been in a position where you were trying not to cry and you couldn't get your shit together and you did and it was like bad? And I'm not saying it was bad that I was crying talking to her, but that it was awkward or anything like that? Yeah, there was one time when I met Carl Sandberg's daughter and I just started to cry. I mean, I was so overwhelmed with being close to somebody that was a daughter of Carl Sandberg
Starting point is 01:02:02 that I felt like I was sort of in this state of grace. But it came as a surprise. I mean, I didn't expect it. And I couldn't stop that feeling of overwhelmed, sort of both joy and melancholy. I don't know how to explain it, but it was, in retrospect, it was wonderful to feel that way. Feeling the glory of the world,
Starting point is 01:02:29 letting the glory of the world come in through a person. Totally. Yeah. Did she respond? Was she, was it awkward? Or was she happy to receive that? Or what would you recall? One of the songs that we sang in those days, because we loved folk
Starting point is 01:02:47 music, was the Colorado Trail and Carl Sandberg wrote it. And we had literally been singing it the night before. And I started to tell her that. I couldn't tell her. I couldn't say it, that. I couldn't tell her. I couldn't say it because it was so I was so overwhelmed. Oh, that's so good. That makes me feel better about today. I didn't know that Bonnie was a big hero of yours. Tell me about that. Well, her music has been a part of my life of, you know, from being a teenager forward. And she is an unusual singer and songwriter in that she's a woman and she plays blues guitar like nobody's business.
Starting point is 01:03:36 And she sings soulfully. Her style of music speaks to me. I, you know, you know how you have certain styles that you love. I love her style of musicianship. And she's very, she's just a remarkable person. And we were talking about the holiness of her music. And I think her music is holy.
Starting point is 01:04:00 So it was just, it was really intense and just incredibly heartwarming. and I love her to death. You know, there are some things that go beyond words and something that happens to us when we're in contact with those people or what they represent to us or what they've said that means something to us. But there are people that are, I guess, in a way bigger than life or that,
Starting point is 01:04:23 or who just have opened you up to certain things. I mean what can you say it's just you know in your body and soul just is like whoof wow. I know I know exactly exactly. Well mommy I'm going to talk to you again later very soon as a matter of fact because I'm coming to visit you but thanks for talking now I love you and I love you and don't start crying when you see me. No you I'd love to be that figure for you. You are Love you. Bye. There's more Wiser Than Me with Lemonada Premium. Subscribers get exclusive access to bonus content from each episode of the show. Subscribe now in Apple Podcasts. Make sure you're following
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