Woman Evolve with Sarah Jakes Roberts - Birthing Purpose w/ Iceis Elliott

Episode Date: February 2, 2022

The bestie SJR, co-host Iceis Elliott, & our homegirl Eve were rollin’ deep on the podcast! But why they started reminiscing on their ratchet days? That was until God said, "act up, you can get snatched up”. This episode talks about motherhood, blended families, and co-parenting revelations. Iceis shares her dream for the future, which proves to be full of purpose! Imagine being pregnant with the possibility of God’s future. If that's your word Sis, W.E. declare that every barren season is giving birth right now! Sponsors alert—Cheat meal turning into a cheat week? Launching that online business? Wanna explore mental health classes? Say less, by doing the MOST at Noom.com/Evolve + ShipStation.com + Skillshare.com/Evolve. Tell them W.E. sent you!

God can't bless you for ten to be or who you can care yourself to. He can only bless you and the lane that was created for you. I feel that for somebody like that. You don't need no itch, it's a two-unit boundary. So what? I don't need your lights, I don't need your elevation. All I need is a God fighting for me that's there for all things. All things, all things.

Try. For some reason, when I hear the name Isaac, I cannot help but think of the music group. You remember the song, if I can't have you. I'll just be single for the rest of my life. One day, let me tell you what's going to happen one day One day y'all are going to appreciate my vocals when I am standing on this stage somewhere getting a Grammy I just want to say the delegation started it all and might not be today, but one day okay until then I'm just gonna keep on faith in it till I make it. I wonder if I can get ISIS to do it do it with me

I mean I heard she's embracing a light just Just get it done, add it to this year. I don't know. She probably, I probably won't bring that up. I'm gonna wait for her to warm up to me. Maybe next podcast. Let's check in with her though. I have a feeling this is gonna be one that really helps you no matter what area of life

you are trying to develop and evolve in. Hi, I sense. Hello. How are you? I am absolutely amazed. I'm doing really good. Really? Okay, I wanna hear more about this really good.

What's happening in your world? Yes, so past the stare, sister stare, I just, whatever, I have manifested meeting you at some point, like, so live and get to the conference and just, you know, COVID has been such a hater. Yeah. So this is such a moment. So I'm really doing absolutely good. Okay.

So you have to tell me, when did you first hear about the movement? Like, how did you come to know woman evolve? Oh man, so you actually came to a woman's conference in Connecticut a while back. Yes, I think you were actually pregnant at the time. And so this is how I caught Wendy of you. And I was like, oh, she is phenomenal, like in such a vessel. And so since then, I've just been following you.

And so I think really once the delegation got started, I was like there from the beginning was just all of it and really into it. So yeah, it's been some time. Well thank you. Thank you for plugging into the movement and for reaching out to be a co-host. I think we're going to have a really great episode. So let's get this thing started. I have a question for you, ISIS.

If you had to define your journey of being a woman who has evolved, where did you start and where are you now? Where did I start? I feel like I started as soon as I graduated high school and like just caved and did some stuff. So my evolving started through my 20s. And I feel like where I am now, I'm just starting to feel grounded. I'm just starting to feel like I have some stability

and just who I am as a woman and who I'm becoming and as far as I have come. But yeah, it's the 20s was some growing time, some rocks and being thrown. Do you mommy asking how old you are? I am 32. Okay, yes. I feel like so when I turn 30,

everyone makes it seem like you turn 30 and like the 30s are your year and you finally get it together. And so I was waiting for like this moment to hit me like on my 30th birthday. But now that I'm a little different to my 30s, I feel all of those things, like I feel the seeds of all of those things

that people were saying. But it took a minute for me to like shake off the radical revolution, evolution, ratchetness of my 20s. My 20s were raggedy. Yes. What was the most ragged thing you did in your 20s? Oh man, wow.

I'm almost like there's several things. I think for one, I was a hard person going out. Like the club scene, just trying to keep that whole balance and everything. I love dancing. So, yeah, those are some of my most ratchet days where, like, God really has to be like, okay, now I gotta pull you out of this scene because it's coming with other stuff.

But yeah, those are some moments. I feel like the raggedy is part of my 20s was the season and much I literally smoked weed every day like a rapper. I used to like pride myself on like rolling V best blunts. Like you can still see the line in the bl- like listen, let me tell you something. If y'all think she put them sermons together, then blunt, she used to roll them things so tight that you could not tell unless you looked down the middle what they was roll with. It looked like they still came out the swishy pack and you know what every day you cannot tell me I was not

snooze dogs like alter ego somewhere I was giving him a run for his money. See and that the funny part is is so I'm more so aside with the drinking part of it. I can't I can't smoke her nothing my My friends would always be like, okay, cause you're coughing everywhere. It's just the timing. You're running. You're running. I was like that for it. Now it's just like, this is it for you.

This is not for you. It's not for you. It's okay. All right. But, God, let me tell you. So at what point did you go from, okay, like 20s, you gotta let me go. 30s, like, you know what, like this woman,

I need to lay hold of her, I need to grab her. How did that happen? Yeah, so during that time, I had my son at 21. And even though that's like your adult age, you're still not old enough to technically run a car without an adult. So was I really grown or faking it, but when I had my son, I think there were just things I started to realize that set me apart from my friends who were single

and didn't have kids that I needed to be this stable person for my son. I needed to be more consistent and more present. I was also during that time in my undergrad year, and I was so serious about school and just education. So with that, I just, you know, was like, God, you have to take this away from me because I am tempted way too easy. And so it really was just me just like, you know, you have to help me raise this child. And so I started just getting more serious with that in my relationship, growing with God even more because I knew

that it was him who had to really just be the anchor in my life for me to be able to support this child. I always say that my son was such a gift to me. I had him as a teenager and we had to work through all of the unexpected feelings and emotions when someone has a child as a teenager. But his life was a gift to me and that it really gave me a sense of needing to be anchored and stable at a very early age. Now I still had moments of course while I was out here doing whatever, but I had my limits. Like he created a limit for me where I was like there are some things you literally

cannot do. And so when they say that babies are a blessing, I mean it is so true because at the end of the day if it weren't for him, there's no way I'd be the woman I am today because he was the thing that grounded me. Yes. How did your son? Yeah, that's how I I was about to have a son. What was that?

I said, how old is your son? He is 11. 11. That's an interesting age. What is it like for you to be a young mom who you're expecting now? Yes. Yes, I am. Okay.

So you're a young mom with an 11 year old and you're expecting, like, how is that age gap doing pregnant? I don't know if you had any children in between then, but like, is this like a thing for you? Yeah, so I am an blended family. My husband has three daughters and then I have my son. And so this is actually going to be my husband and I first child together. We've been married for five years. And the age gaps in general is just crazy.

Like our oldest is getting ready to turn 18 in January. Then we have a 15 year old. Then the youngest daughter is 12. and then my son is 11. And now some reason we started, we pressed restart, and it's just like, baby, you know. And I think managing all of it, because you know, when you think about it, it's like I'm 32. When I think about, I was just 18, you know, a you think about it, it's like I'm 32. When I think about, I was just 18,

you know, a couple of years ago. For sure. Right. And then going through the timeline, it's amazing one to see myself again, just making certain mistakes. And then it's also a blessing to be able to be someone who kind of sees why I went through the things that I went through. As I'm present in these girls' lives and I'm able to walk them through certain stages or just be more understanding in regards to just what they're going through and everything. And even with my son now, because he's the only boy in the house right now. Even with that, just seeing him growing and how he's been able to adjust and transition to this blended family. So we we work one. It's a big family.

Listen, well, you still need one more in order to be equal with me, because we're sick, strong, and our blended family. And it is, it is quite the journey. In many ways, I felt like when I had my daughter with my husband, that it was like starting over, like it was almost like I felt like I was being becoming a mom again for the first time, because I was becoming a mom with all of this knowledge and wisdom that I didn't have when I was last pregnant at 21 with my daughter.

Do you feel that same way? I do, because for one, a lot has changed when it just comes to technology and baby stuff. I was like walking down the aisle and like, talking to all of you and everything was like, this wasn't out just when I had my son 11 years ago, but okay. But also because it's a different experience all around, you know, my child's father and I, we didn't work out. So I was a single mom. And now doing this, it feels like the beginning and just a refreshing beginning at that.

Just because I get to experience certain things with my husband and this pregnancy that I didn't Like the beginning and just a refreshing beginning at that. Just because I get to experience certain things with my husband and this pregnancy that I didn't get the opportunity to experience before. But there is this fear in starting over at this age. And not because I think I'm like two old to have kids or anything like that, but I think there's a sphere where it's kind of just like men. It's been 11 years.

I kept my son alive for 11 years. And now there's another child and all right, God, do it again, work your magic again, but it's so amazing to have partnership this time and marriage. And it's almost like God is giving me what I wanted the first time for my son. That gave me chills because that's exactly what I wanted to ask you next. Like when you compare and contrast your first experience to this experience, are you able to allow this experience to like heal and restore maybe some of the brokenness or just the unfulfilled desires

that you had in the first experience. Absolutely, because I think a lot of times especially as women, it's not like me wake up and say, I want to be a single mother, I want this struggle, you know, I want to wake up in the middle of the night by myself. And so I would always envision just with my son how unfair it was and even just how it made me feel as a parent. Just I also played a part in bringing him into this situation where we have to struggle

or he doesn't necessarily have that support. So in this season now, it really gives me a chance once you see that God can do it. And that it's just like a full turnaround and to see how he's doing it and to see that even though I was a single mom that like, hey, look where you are now, look where I bought you from and now look how I'm abundantly blessing you even in this moment right now. So it definitely is mending those places that I felt like I wouldn't get the opportunity to have this. I love how carbs can make everything alright. Need a break, but no time for a vacation?

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because as a young woman who's starting this new chapter of your family story, can we go back a few chapters and talk about what was it like blending a family and feeling like, I don't know whether or not your bonus daughters have their mom in their life, but how did you all set the tone for how you would blend your family? Yeah, so when it was hard, this is not for the faint heart. I know Will and Jada make it look real cute sometimes. But there were times I was like, God, is this really what I want?

Like, do you know, this is really what I want for my life? I know you say that you know what's in my heart. Like, does my heart really desire this right here. And the girl, like our daughters, their mom is very much in their life. So in blending that, there were definitely a lot of boundaries that we had to put in place. And just respects for each other, you know, going into a

relationship and I remember, I did like this blending step family's group. And something was said that stuck out to me so much, which is you don't realize that when you marry someone with kids, you're actually marrying the ex spouse. And so once I got that revelation, it was so much easier to also be like, wow, so technically you're family too.

So we have to figure out how this is going to work and how this is going to work for the kids. The girls attached to me really quickly and that was really nice. I know everyone doesn't get that opportunity, but trying to co-parent was hard because, you know, you also have the other person that wants to make sure that their position is known. I think that was the most important thing for me. I think that was the most important thing for me. I think that was the most important thing for me.

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And just over the years, we're like in a group family group sex message now. We always talk about the kids. Anytime there's something new or we're doing something, we have like a Zoom call that we do together. So again, it just shows that with practice and patience, it can work. And if you all have a certain understanding

of each other's boundaries, then you can make this happen. So it's been challenging, but it's something that it's been worth me seeing like, okay, God, you're working this out because in the beginning, I was just like, I'm out, we're not going to do this. Yeah, when blending a family with a person who has children, that person is key to making sure that the family can blend. If that person doesn't have a healthy parent with the co-parent or the ex, then it's going to be challenging for whoever comes into that unit to have a healthy relationship as well. So it's really important when you consider blending a family, how that person is presently

engaging with who will become, you know, the co-parent to your stepchildren because at the end of the day, they are going to have to go back and forth. They are going to have to communicate things until a good rhythm is established. And it sounds like your husband was able to do that. My husband was the same exact way when we first got married. Like, there was tension, there was awkwardness. No one knew where they fit. But he was very diligent about like, here are the boundaries. This is what we're doing with the children.

Like, and I've tried to be respectful as well. She was respectful, but it's still awkward. Like, you can have the most amazing, co-parent situation ever. I just cannot believe you, if you don't tell me, there weren't moments of like awkward tension. Can I say that? Is this out of my lane?

And like, having, oh gosh, surviving those awkward moments for the sake of family, when it's not someone who you're actually doing life with every single day, is like where you have to have your mind expanded. Yeah, exactly. I mean, and there's a couple of times, like, you know, it's like that eve moment where like, you know better, but you don't do better. Right, right.

Like, we, we both are petty. So it would be like kind of that thing are my husband would have to step in because he knows neither one of us are going to be the bigger person in the situation. You know, um, and so those would be those moments where it's just like, I know you got to see each other right because one of the kids is having like birthday party graduation. Yes, all of the things. Like here we are. And it's so funny because me and her actually had gotten to like a argument one time and then right after it was like one of the girls eighth grade graduation and so like we showed up and it was kind of just like hi. And it was just like once or several ways. And it was just it was so so awkward, but when we think about it, it's really just because we all love the kids. We just know that we felt that we wanted to be respected

as well, you know. And so once we were able to acknowledge that, we gained a mutual respect for each other. Do you think it's hard to blend a family because it requires as dismantling this idea of what family looks like or what we thought our family would look like. Like we saw one husband, one father, one wife, one mother. We didn't see all these extra players and like the exes and all of that. We just thought when we got married, that was going to be it. And then when you blend the family, you have to make room for this other person and resist the natural urge to just kind of be like,

I wish it was just us because it would be less drama. But once you expand your view, I feel like there is so much value that the co-parents can add to the situation. But it's hard because it does feel very territorial when you have to include someone in your family picture that you weren't expecting to have in there at all. Exactly. And it's like this personality

that you have to get to know outside of the person who you chose to marry personality. You know, so it was kind of one of those things where I made space for my husband. I made space for, you know, his kids. I didn't see myself making space for this ex person. And then this ex person also has another person. So now when you make space for them and now for their spouse.

And so it can take a lot of energy from you. But it does also dismantle this like fantasy that I think a lot of us have when it comes to us putting families together, we don't think about that. I know a lot of my friends when they talk a lot of them often say like I couldn't do it. You know, I don't see myself marrying someone with kids or marrying someone who's been on a previous marriage or something, but it's almost becoming the new era of a new family. It's almost hard to find a family that's not blended

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It's so funny because our oldest daughter is about to get married and even with her joining her life to someone else, I realize marriage in itself is blending a family. Because they're having to take into account the different cultures of the family, the different communication styles, the different boundaries or lack of boundaries. That in itself is blending a family. So I think that thing that makes marriage hard is the fact that you're blending

two different cultures and two different styles is the same thing that makes literally building a family difficult. What has been like, or did you have a defining moment where you were like, okay, I can't be Eve and a survive. Like I can't be Eve and this marriage work and the children work and did you have, was it a defining moment and if so what was it? Yeah so our mental child has, she has some challenges and some things came with her

in a sense that I think need her household households expected in regards to just our behavior. And there was just this moment where I realized we're working against each other and it's really not benefiting the situation. So how can we come together to give this child support and support one another in each other's household when these things are going on and everything. So there came this moment where I think we both had to look at the situation and say,

like, hey, here's why we're here. Here's what I'm looking for. What do you need so you can feel respected? What are your boundaries? What's going to work for your household? Here's what's going to work for hours. And we really had to be okay with having difficult conversations

and working through that muddy awkwardness, those sense of feelings petty. Like you could tell that it's coming up, but then you're kind of just like, why is this? And it's really because you want to feel heard or you feel like your feelings are heard. And once you realize like that's really what it is,

we kind of just addressed the elephant in the room. And so it was really a turning point for us to realize like, hey, when we speak to each other, let's not say this or let's be mindful of this or instead of sending something through text message or email, let's pick up the phone. And we started picking up the phone more and having those conversations. And now for us, it's just something that has been working.

We let God handle the rest of it. Man, because what you will say over the phone versus what you will say via text are two completely different things. I hear you telling me that you became vulnerable to your partner's ex for the sake of blending the family healthy. Yes. That's a lot of trust to give that person. It is. It is. And what's so interesting is also seeing how much me and this

person hasn't commented. Yeah. You know, like I think for both of us it was kind of like that too like We probably would have been best for it. We probably would have been home girls. It was a first situation So there was that part too But yeah, I said I became vulnerable and She became vulnerable as well, and I think we both were able to just create a safe space. So how do you feel that that has affected the girls? Do you see a change in them from the time that things were fragile to the way that they've been strengthened now? comfortable in being able to speak to one of us in front of each other. They're more comfortable to share certain experiences that maybe they've had with one

with the other person. And also because they see now that there's so much communication before when there wasn't, you can tell even they didn't know what to do. They were even confused. And so once we saw that we started working together more, they actually started helping with that transition almost. And so it's been really nice to just even see them like they're no longer surprised if it's just like, hey, so I spoke to your mom or like,

hey, so I talk to your step mom, you know, they're not shocked when it comes to that. They expect that because we're in communication that they know we're going to all work together. So it's been a nice adjustment for them. And I think it's even taken stress off of them as well because I can only imagine us children like you love both sides.

But also knowing that their loyalty is going to be to that biological parent. And so it was also hard for them to just feel like, oh, man, we want to love you, but we're kind of nervous because if you do, we also don't want mom to feel left out. So now that they see that they don't have to choose a side, they don't have to get caught up in the middle of things that they don't need to or that's unnecessary. They have also been able to just be more comfortable in growing their relationship with both parties. That is some real grown woman stuff right there. That's the kind of grown woman stuff that it takes. Some people never learn that lesson or it takes quite a bit of time and the kids are damaged in the process.

Now that you've kind of got that settled, like your home life is settled and situated, you've got a good rhythm there. When you look at your life, five, ten years down the road, what is your dream for yourself as a woman outside of your family? Outside of maybe your mayor. It's like, what is your own personal dream for yourself? outside of maybe your marriage. Like what is your own personal dream for yourself? Oh man, I feel like that's where I am trying to be more vulnerable in. I run from this thing that I know God is calling me for, which is really to put myself out there

and be more vulnerable to women, to share my testimony and share my story. I'm someone who I'll say like, oh, I really don't like talking in front of people, but the truth is, I do. And I don't think God has put me through the things that he's put me through for me to just be silent and sit still. So really what I envision for myself is really just being able to be a safe space

for a lot of women to come and share in their most authentic self. Because I think a lot of times we hold on to depression, we hold on to just a lot of stuff that breaks us down physically, mentally and emotionally, because we feel like we don't have a place where we can talk about it and share it and feel like we're being heard and not being judged. So I really see myself creating just a space for women to come and be their true self and walk away

with just knowing that God still loves them regardless of what path they have taken, no matter how far they strayed away. And being able to fill just good after being introduced to whatever, whether that's a conference, a book reading, a podcast, whatever, but I just want to create a safe space for people to go, because I know that's what's been really for me what I needed to even be who I am is in those moments taking those opportunities to talk about things that are icky or to hear stories like yeah girl I was out there and it's like you were like okay so I'm not the only one and this is why I'm broken is someone's someone still loves me, is still married me. And you know, it's a lot of us.

So that's what I envision for my life. I need to just open up my mouth and stop being afraid. You just did it. It's a beautiful vision, one that I resonate with deeply. My prayer is that Womany Vov provides, you know, in our corner of the world that same thing for women, but that it also empowers other women to do the same. So to hear you say, you know, I am dismantling an

identity that I've been hiding behind and stepping into the fullness of who I know I'm supposed to be. Maybe you're given birth to more than just a baby. Maybe you're also birthing you. you're also birthing you. Don't see now. I'm a tear dropper. You're saying consider that. Consider that. That's amazing. That's a word. That's a word that I'll hold on to. Yeah. Well, and it's confirmation. Is it? It is. We wait and know you, we need you. Sis, our friends at Skillshare are so committed to us learning something new every day that they're

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I'm gonna leave you alone. Okay. Can a man and woman have a successful relationship even if they go to separate churches, specifically non-denominational and methodist? Is this considered being unequally yoked? How can you successfully be in a relationship with someone you love? They don't go to churches as much as you do,

but still love God. You wanna kick it off? Wow, that had a lot in there. Um, so what I will say is that I do think it's possible to be in a relationship with someone that either goes to a separate church or maybe someone who has a strong belief system in God, but for whatever reason, might have what a lot of people have, potentially, church, or in so their struggling to bring them self into the building.

I think that when we stay unequally yoked, we're looking at situations where you have a belief, and this person does not have that same belief whatsoever. There's no foundation. So I think as long as you are with someone who is willing one to grow in that area, maybe it's not about bringing them to church, but bringing the church to them. Sometimes you might be that church. You might be that person that's bringing the word to them. Sometimes it might, you might be in that person's life to be a part of their killing process for whatever

reason. So I do think that it is possible. I think that it takes having those hard conversations. think that it is possible, I think that it takes having those hard conversations. I think it takes both being able to be in agreement with each other. I think sometimes we say that we accept something and we really don't and then later it comes up and we feel like we've been played, but we have to be truthful and have those conversations and make sure that we really see, you know, we really see and we're really in agreement with what this decision is going to be based on, are we going to church together? Are we not? So if we don't go to church, then what are we going to do?

Do we have Bible study here instead? Can we start reading scriptures together? What about praying? What if I start praying first and then maybe later on you can pray over dinner. But let's talk about it. I think that's great. I think that's great, I said, and I'm everything that I said, and I would just add, I think you're asking in a way the wrong question because I just like I said, yes, it's definitely possible and with communication you can work things out

but what you should really ask yourself is can you be in a relationship with someone who shares a different faith or a different system of belief or a different take on spirituality or they don't go to church as much. That is such a personal question because to be unequally yoked means

that you have to first understand what is your equal, what is your capacity, what do you need the other person to have? And so you have to ask yourself, can I be in a relationship with someone who doesn't go to church as much as I do is church? Such an integral part of my identity that I need someone who I'm gonna be with

to share that with me. Those are the questions that you first need to ask yourself and then you can qualify whether or not you can be in a relationship with that person. I have a feeling that if you're sending the question, there's a part of you that doesn't feel completely comfortable with it.

Otherwise, we say, you know what, that's his life I love and we figured out we keep in a truck. But I think there's a part of you that isn't quite sure that you can handle that. And I would lean into that and ask yourself some necessary questions so that you don't spend any unnecessary time with someone or so that you can finally come to a place where you're no longer accusing them or resentful of them because they don't show up in life the way that you do. That's my two cents.

Okay, I see. Before we go, I have to ask you, do you have any questions for me? Is there any way that I can serve you beyond the fact that I am going to be praying and pleading that you finally birth this connection point, this safe space for women? Yes. What was it that made you birth woman evolve? Like, what was that moment where you felt like, okay, I have to do this. And how did you start? Okay. I had something to say and I knew I knew I couldn't see who it was, but I knew that there was someone who was on the other end, right? I knew that it wasn't just

something I needed to say to myself. It felt like this could be impactful for someone else. And the first thing I did that was woman above, I planned a conference because I felt like that was just the way to do it, but there was still a sense of urgency that was like, no, even before the conference, she need to start creating the safe space. And that's why I created the podcast because I felt like, I can just get on Facebook live, turn on my laptop, we can he-he-haha talk about high topics and help one another, but then I can serve them what I am learning about Eve and Mary

and ourselves in the journey. And so I think I was sensitive to the fact that there was someone waiting on me to say it. And I just dove in, like I ordered a podcast, Kidd off Amazon, I opened up my laptop, nobody knew, I didn't have any like marketing or promotion. I'm like, this is the thing that we're gonna do. And the more that people were attracted to it,

the more, you know, I was like, okay, you probably should get your life together. You should probably make things doll him up a little bit. You can't mix the podcast and shoot the podcast yourself. So things kind of took on a life of their own, but I used what was available to me and I started speaking to the people who were ready to listen that were already just within earshot. That's amazing.

Yeah, you're amazing. Thank you so much. We're going to let you have maternity leave and push this baby out and then we're gonna be waiting on our thing so we want them. Yes, it's so funny. I think the last thing for me is that it's almost like I put in the email when I wrote,

when I emailed to even do this because I was watching the podcast when it was on Facebook live. And then I saw me, you went over to when you transitioned over to doing it this way. And so I've been watching these podcast. I've been listening to them and I've been loving all the co-hosts. And then something dropped in my spirit and was just like, okay, so you're going to send an email. And I was just like, no, I'm not. And then I remembered the daughter said something from the conference and she was just like, you know,

do it scared. And I was just like, okay, I'm gonna do it scared. And so I have this thing where I'm just like, okay, God, if it's not for me, hide me. And he always does this little trick where it's just like, he hides me, but like in plain sight. So when I got the email back, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry, and I remember hearing him going, yeah,

and this is at your time where your pregnant and your pregnant was more than just a physical child. You are pregnant with your purpose, so I need you to get ready for a serious delivery. And I was just like, I'm going to do it. This is how we're starting off. You know, I came into January just like, what's the point? Like, I don't know. I wasn't excited about anything. So for this to be happening and happening in January, I'm just like confirmation all over again. So I really appreciate this opportunity.

Okay. Let me add one little more sprinkler pressure and then I'm gonna leave you alone, okay? Give us your social media handle or any place that you have where we can contact you in the whole delegation can get behind supporting the vision that you're gonna spring forth. spring forth. Absolutely so my personal social media is goddess free g-a-h-d-e-s-s-f-r-i-i but my empowerment motivational page is glossed with ISIS, it stands for growing in love, opportunity success, and serenity so that that's G L O S S S with ice that is my name. And that's on Facebook and Instagram. And you can also email me. So it has already started. Gloss with ice. It's already begun. Okay. Gloss with

ice is ladies. You heard it here first. We're waiting on you. We're waiting waiting to get even glossier with you. So thank you, ISIS, for doing it here first. We're waiting on you. We're waiting waiting to get even glossier with you. So thank you, Isis, for doing this with me. Thank you so much, absolutely. Take care of yourself and safe delivery. Thank you. Bye. Bye.

Isis, you, my friend, were a delight to kick it with. So much to love about you. So much yet to bloom and blossom and we cannot wait to be in your corner, cheering you on every step of the way. The co-host seat is still pretty warm, but if you're down to fill it, send us an email to podcastatwomenevolved.com that happens to also be the same email address to send us advice questions. I know you use the sign-in to my DMs, but now we fancy, okay, podcastatwomenevolved.com, send me your advice questions. Basically, we want to stay connected with you somehow. Either

help me try to help someone else or you can be on the receiving end of the help, either way, it's a delegation link up and you know what happens when we get together. It's time to get out of here, but I'll talk to you next week. you