Young and Profiting with Hala Taha - Rick Hanson: Hack Your Happiness | E156

Episode Date: February 9, 2022

Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to hack your brain to be more happy? This week on YAP, we’re chatting with Dr. Rick Hanson. Rick is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of UC Berkeley’s Greater... Good Science Center, and New York Times bestselling author of several books, most recently Neurodharma. He has lectured at NASA, Google, Oxford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. As An expert on positive neuroplasticity, Dr. Hanson's work has been featured on the BBC, CBS, NPR, and other major media outlets. He also founded the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. As a practicing Buddhist, Dr. Rick integrates the ancient teachings of the Buddha with modern science to explain not only what's happening in your mind, but how to rewire your brain to experience more happiness and positivity. In today’s episode, Rick will walk us through the scientific and spiritual concepts behind his newest book NeuroDharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. He’ll break down a concept called ‘Monkey Mind’, provide quick hacks to ourselves in stressful situations, and explain the high-science theory of neuroplasticity.   If you’ve ever wondered what makes our brains happy at a scientific level, stay tuned in! Sponsored by -  Real Vision - Get a year of Essential membership for only $199 - a 17% discount and less than $17/ month use promo code ESSENTIALPOD at checkout  To get started, visit realvision.com/yap   Mint Mobile - To get your new wireless plan for just 15 bucks a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE, go to mintmobile.com/yap  Constant Contact - To start your free 60 day digital marketing trial today, visit constantcontact.com today Woven Earth - Make Woven Earth a part of your night routine and save 20% on your order with code YAP20 on WovenEarth.com/YAP  Social Media:  Follow YAP on IG: www.instagram.com/youngandprofiting Reach out to Hala directly at Hala@YoungandProfiting.com Follow Hala on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Follow Hala on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yapwithhala Follow Hala on Clubhouse: @halataha Check out our website to meet the team, view show notes and transcripts: www.youngandprofiting.com Timestamps: (0:00) - Intro (00:52) - Rick’s Childhood/Turning Point in His life at Age 15 (3:06) - Starting College at Age 16 (4:44) - When He Discovered People Can Be Unhappy (7:17) - How Rick Became A Buddhist (10:15) - What is Neuro Dharma? (14:05) - Why is it important to be in a calm, steady state? (16:11) - Keeping A level Head Amidst Success or Failure (18:46) - What is the Essence Of Awakening? (22:44) - Emotional Intelligence (24:22) - What is Monkey Mind? (27:00) - How does our Brain Influence the Way We React to Our Reality? (31:53) - Quick Hacks to To Calm Ourselves (33:15) - What is Neuroplasticity?  (36:53) - How Meditation Changes the Brain (40:00) - Rick Explains what ‘Add-On Suffering’ Is (43:10) - How to Counteract Neuroplasticity.  (47:30) - The Seven Ways of Being (55:34) - Where to Find Nheurodharma (56:46) - Rick’s Five Minute Challenge for Growth and Healing (1:00:00) - Rick’s Secret to Profiting in Life (1:02:05) - Where to Learn More About Rick Mentioned In The Episode: Rick's Website - https://www.rickhanson.net/ Being Well Podcast - https://www.rickhanson.net/being-well-podcast/ Rick's Books - https://www.rickhanson.net/books/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:27 Source. Taxes and other fee still apply. You're listening to YAP, Young and Profiting Podcast. A place where you can listen, learn, and profit. Welcome to the show. I'm your host, Halla Taha, and on Young and Profiting Podcast, we investigate a new topic each week and interview some of the brightest minds in the world. My goal is to turn their wisdom into actionable advice that you can use in your everyday life, no matter your age, profession
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Starting point is 00:01:22 and more. If you're smart and like to continually improve yourself, hit the subscribe button, because you'll love it here at Young & Profiting Podcast. This big on YAP, we're chatting with Dr. Rick Hanson, psychologist, senior fellow of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, and the author of several New York Times Besseling books. He has lectured at NASA, Google, Oxford, as well as Harvard, and teaches in meditation centers all around the world. Dr. Hansen's work and expertise on neuroscience
Starting point is 00:01:53 has been featured on BBC, CBS, NPR, and other major media outlets. As a practicing Buddhist, Dr. Rick integrates the ancient teachings of Buddha with modern science to explain not only what's happening in your mind, but how to rewire your brain to experience more happiness and positivity. In today's episode, Rick will walk us through his seven ways of being and the core principles behind his newest book, Neurodharma, New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the highest happiness.
Starting point is 00:02:22 We'll get an understanding of the foundational principles of Buddhism and the practices of the highest happiness. We'll get an understanding of the foundational principles of Buddhism and the concept of add-on suffering, and how to avoid it. And lastly, we'll learn how our brains process our reality and how mindfulness and meditation can change our brain at a biological level. If you want to figure out how to hack your brain to reach peak happiness, keep on listening. Hi, Rick. Welcome to Young & Profiting Podcast. your brain to reach peak happiness, keep on listening. Hi, Rick.
Starting point is 00:02:47 Welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast. Well, I'm really happy to be here. We spoke briefly before we started and I'm thoroughly psyched about what we're going to be talking about. Thanks. I'm really excited too. I know that my listeners love this kind of content. So I'm sure they're going to enjoy this conversation.
Starting point is 00:03:03 So welcome, Rick. For those who don't know you, you are a psychologist, you are the founder of the Wellspring Institute, you are the host of the Being Well podcast and a best-selling author. So we're gonna get into your neurodharma book and seven ways of being in a bit. But first, I wanna start off by hearing
Starting point is 00:03:21 a little bit about your childhood. So I learned that you had a big turning point when you were just 15 years old. You were a little bit awkward, you were unhappy, and just pretty dissatisfied with life until you realized this big aha moment in your life. So talk to us about this turning point when you were a teenager. Oh, thanks for queuing me up there. So I grew up in a decent, fairly stable, lower-middle-class environment in Southern California, no abuse, no trauma, nothing horrible, and still for a lot of complicated reasons, including being really young while going through school. I was really unhappy. I was a lot of
Starting point is 00:03:59 awkward, a lot of miserable, a lot of neurotic, and it just seemed pretty hopeless. And right there, right about age 15, and I know it was about age 15 because I was reading Doon at the time, and the main character, Paul Matheib, is also 15 when the bookstarts write about. And I suddenly basically realized that as bad as my past had been, and as much the present might suck,
Starting point is 00:04:25 the future was open to me in the sense that I could always learn a little, heal a little, and grow a little every day. I could learn how to be a little less, completely tongue tied around girls. I could learn how to be not so scared of these big aggro, you know, alpha male types in the locker room. I could learn how to manage my own mind, bit by bit. And in fact, I learned that learning itself, knowing how to help yourself develop, not just memorizing the multiplication table, but to develop as a person, was the strength of strengths. Learning is the superpower of superpowers because it's the one we tap into to grow the rest of them. It took me many years, including becoming a neuropsychologist, etc.,
Starting point is 00:05:11 to really understand the how of that, how we can actually heighten neuroplastic change inside our own brains, and gradually hardwire things like grit, gratitude, compassion, and happiness altogether into our own nervous system. And there are things we can do to do that, but the fundamental idea that I was in charge of who I was becoming has shaped the rest of my life. That's an incredible story, and I can't wait for us to dive deep on neuroplasticity and
Starting point is 00:05:41 all the ways that we can improve our brain and actually change our brain. But first, you've got some interesting things that I want to talk about in terms of your journey. So it turns out you started college when you were just 16 years old. So that's pretty incredible. How did you end up going to school so early and what was that like because at that age, two years difference in terms of college is a big deal. Oh, thanks for marking that. So I skipped a grade. It was second grade, not a big deal. And that was a bright little kid and all the rest of that. And that had some advantages.
Starting point is 00:06:12 But it also, plus my own kind of shy, anxious temperament, led me to feeling like the runt of the litter as my dad put it because he grew up in a ranch in North Dakota. So I felt really shy and awkward. Going off to college, though, on the other hand, breaking away from home and having a sense of being able to step into all kinds of new possibilities was wonderful for me.
Starting point is 00:06:35 And to locate it in our culture, I started UCLA in 1969. So just imagine the height of the political changes of the time, the counter-culture, all kinds of developments in psychology, the surge of Eastern wisdom coming into the West at the tail end of the 60s and early 70s. It was a wild time, it was a fertile time. It was a good time to be in school. Plus, there was a lot of great music as well. That's so cool. I mean, it's so great. See, I thought there was going to be something more to it, not that you just skimmed second grade, but that's, it's super interesting nonetheless and the fact that, you know, probably some of those feelings that you had is what
Starting point is 00:07:20 ultimately led you to becoming who you are and what you do and what you're passionate about today, which is just really interesting in itself. So a key part of your journey was wanting to understand why people feel unhappy and what sparks unhappiness. So how did this curiosity lead you to starting to study neuroscience and psychology? Maybe I'd like to kind of draw people to a level of, I don't know, a kind of tender intimacy with themselves, a little deeper, and ask people, what are some of the things you knew when you were really young?
Starting point is 00:07:57 Maybe you didn't have words for it, but you just had a knowing. You had a sense of what it was like for people around you or you had a sense of who you were, your fundamental capabilities. Maybe there was a dream for your life that really was starting to take form even when you were in kindergarten. And for me, in my earliest memories, and I have a lot of memory of my childhood
Starting point is 00:08:18 going all the way back, probably to late two years old, in all of them is this wistful poignant sense of the needless unhappiness, the needless strife, the needless bickering, nothing horrible, but the needless hassles, the needless stresses, the needless worries, the needless feeling less than other people or being uncertain about where we stand with other people. Just Ickck needless. And so, yeah, absolutely, I had this sense of it and this kind of movement, not just observing it, but a movement of compassion,
Starting point is 00:08:53 a movement of compassionate action to do what one can. And I'm far from unique. I think so many people, I suspect for you as well, Hall, right, in your own background, moving you to do what you do, there also was that sense that there's so much unnecessary and happiness and there's so much more well-being and harmony, even in a very real world, including in a competitive marketplace that we can forge together.
Starting point is 00:09:22 And there's a movement in you, a movement in me, and probably a movement in many other people as well, to try to be helpful in that way. Yeah, totally. I think you bring a really solid point across. The fact that so many of us, we live decently privileged lives, you know? And we all have food on the table.
Starting point is 00:09:40 Most of us are able to go to school and just, you know, we have roofs over our heads. And we take all this for granted and like the little things become such a big deal, even though we have so much to be thankful for. And so I think that's a really great point. So I want to talk about Buddhism because like we just mentioned, you grew up decently privileged, you know, you're from LA, like it's pretty unique that your religion is Buddhism. So talk to us about how you fell in love with that ancient Asian religion.
Starting point is 00:10:10 Oh, sweet. So I grew up a casual Methodist. Bella's got of the framework and tons of respect, certainly for Jesus as a teacher and realized being that said, the forms of all that just didn't somehow connect with me. The way I was communicated just felt kind of small and dogmatic and kind of bossy. So then I landed in college.
Starting point is 00:10:35 The doors are kicked wide open, right? We're talking at 1969, 1970 and all the rest of that. And toward the end of college, I just had an interest in seeing, oh, what's out there in the Eastern traditions, which I didn't know really anything about. And I encountered Buddhist teachings, which in the roots of them are arguably not even religious. They're psychological, essentially. Basically, the fundamental observation of the Buddha is that everything is connected to everything else and is continually changing. And if we flow with that river, if we ride that horse in the direction, it's going, we suffer less
Starting point is 00:11:12 and we harm less. On the other hand, if we fight the fact that things are changing, and if we try to cling to our experiences and try to make certain things happen inside our minds, and we try to push away various things, we create suffering and harm for ourselves and other people, pure and simple. And so that's kind of where it really began for me. And I guess I should add as well, that that's what's been the heart of the matter for me. These fundamental, very psychological teachings about the deep nature of the mind and what are the causes of our happiness and well-being and welfare and harmony in the way we live with others and then how can we embody those causes
Starting point is 00:11:52 through personal practice learning, right? Now we're coming back to that principle of learning personal development, cultivation of what's skillful and useful and good and enjoyable inside ourselves. How can we actually develop ourselves in that way? So that's my orientation to all this. And later on, I learned a lot about both clinical psychology and then certainly neuroscience. So if you think about the combination of hardcore brain science, clinical psychology,
Starting point is 00:12:22 and contemplative wisdom, that combination of those three things is just packed with power and full of skillful means for how we can help ourselves and other people. Yeah, 100% and honestly, I've interviewed a lot of neuroscientists and neuropsychologists and so far nobody has brought in this element of this wisdom that you're talking about, this Buddhism element. So, it's really unique and I'm excited for this conversation. in this element of this wisdom that you're talking about, this Buddhism element. So it's really unique,
Starting point is 00:12:45 and I'm excited for this conversation. So let's talk about neurodharma. Dharma is something that I didn't know what it meant. So just starting off, what does the name mean? Oh, great. It's a word from India originally. It means essentially the way it is, the truth of things. And it also can mean accounts of the way it is.
Starting point is 00:13:06 So like a body of wisdom, we could say, whether it's a body of wisdom in Western psychology or a body of wisdom in a particular tradition, such as the Buddhist tradition, which has many aspects to it, right? Tibetan Buddhism, Zan, Pure Land, other forms of it as well. And I put those two terms together because if you kind of think about it, I'm going to
Starting point is 00:13:29 get a little geeky here, we can know ourselves in two ways. First we can know ourselves subjectively from the inside out in terms of our experiences. And that was all that was available to the early teachers such as the Buddha. And certainly until very recently, that's the only way we could know ourselves. Right? But with modern biology and then neuroscience, and then especially in the last 10, 20 years or so, neuropsychology really coming together, we can know ourselves from the outside in, objectively. The combination of the two, these two ways of knowing ourselves,
Starting point is 00:14:06 is what I call neurodharma. And we can go back and forth, right? Here we are. We're upset about something. Somebody, our boss, frowned at us, you know, somebody else took credit for one of our good ideas. If you're, let's say a woman, as our daughter has reported to us many times, you're sitting in meetings and you say something, everybody ignores you, then some dude, down at the other end of the table, says the same thing five minutes later and everybody starts clapping.
Starting point is 00:14:33 Like what? Okay, this is happening. It's happening inside your mind. That's what you're experiencing. Meanwhile, if you want, you can also know, oh, I've got this amygdala that is very sensitized to negative experiences. And so it will routinely turbocharge something
Starting point is 00:14:52 that's kind of a one or a two on the object of yucky-ness scale, but make me feel like an eight or a nine in terms of being pissed off or wounded or hurt. Oh, I can know that about myself. And I can also know maybe objectively that my amygdala got sensitized when I grew up in a pretty critical family or in a culture that was pretty critical or shaming,
Starting point is 00:15:13 maybe body shaming or who knows what else it was doing, right? And by knowing that objectively about the hardware, you know, the three pounds of tofu-like tissue inside the coconut and how it's cooking away. Knowing that objectively, right, about ourselves can be matched together with the subjective internal experience, which then, let's say, might move you to going, hmmm, knowing, let's say, that the amygdala has oxytocin receptors on it. In other words, it has receptors for a neurochemical that's released with experiences of healthy connection, and the action that those receptor sites on the amygdala is calming
Starting point is 00:15:51 and inhibitory, like pumping the brakes in a car that's running away now down a mountain. Knowing that, aha, there I am, upset about, let's say this thing that happened at work, but I can now deliberately think about or draw in the feeling of being with people, real people, including maybe my dog or my cat, who actually care about me, and when I bring them to mind, I start feeling more connected, more warm-hearted, maybe my caring for them as well, and that is going to increase oxytocin activity in my brain and calm down my poor little amygdala that's bird flashing red right now. That's an example of neurodharma. It's super fascinating. Why is it important to be in this calm, steady state? Like, why
Starting point is 00:16:38 is that the best state to be in? I would say it like this. I'm a real person. I've done a lot of rock climbing, for example, and I can get excited and intense and so forth. I think what's really helpful is to be able to sustain a kind of steadiness of self-awareness, and I think that's what you're really talking about. Around that steadiness of self-awareness, sustained mindfulness of what's happening inside and outside, around that can be all the emotions in the world. There can be passions, some time, there can be great peacefulness and tranquility at other times. It's all okay, but meanwhile, there is this steadiness of mind. And that's why, as you know, unlike many people have interviewed me, you actually read my
Starting point is 00:17:25 book. Thank you to your credit. You know, as you know, the steadiness of mind is the first of these seven qualities of ultimately awakening and that we can certainly use to great benefit meanwhile. And we can train. And it's especially important to train in our hyper-distractable multi-tasking, flooded with stimuli, endlessly distracted time and culture. It's really important to be able to stabilize your own attention so you can plop it onto
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Starting point is 00:21:24 successful billionaires and CEOs, and they also just have gut feeling when I ask them everything from like a very scientific level, but I talk to experts and very successful billionaires and CEOs, and they also just have gut feeling when I ask them questions like, what is your secret to profiting in life? It's one of the last questions I ask on the show. And a lot of answers are being even killed. You know, don't be too high, don't be too low. If something really bad happens, you know, don't get into a rut. If something really good happens, you know, don't get too cocky. Everybody says that, you're taking it from a different perspective,
Starting point is 00:21:48 but I totally agree there. Can I build on what you just said there? Yes, sorry. So this is great. So I'm talking first, and I misunderstood you, I think a little bit about steadiness of mind. Additionally, you're talking about what could be called equanimity, being even
Starting point is 00:22:05 keeled, right? Because you can have steadiness of mind while being roaring upset about something and super rattled by it. But at least you're steadily aware, which is better than being swept away. Additionally, I totally agree. And I think a lot about what it feels like where in which we can be authentic. You know, I'm a long time therapist too. People are upset. Things happen. Other people are jerks. You're living in a time of COVID right now. We're tired. We're two plus years in. Come on. Right? We feel these things. We can authentically feel what we feel. Nothing and what you and I are talking about is about lying about how we really feel or suppressing it or joining with others
Starting point is 00:22:50 who are trying to suppress how we really feel or talk us out of it or blame us for how we feel based on how they treated us. We're not saying anything like this. What we are saying, as you all know, is that a person can maintain and grow a core. What feels like a core of being inside themselves that has resilient well-being in it, is calm and steady and even keeled, as he said, even when the world around us is flashing red, even when there's physical pain or sorrow or fear or anger flying around inside your mind, there can be that felt sense of a core of being. And what's really interesting is to build it out increasingly through positive neuroplasticity, we can gradually build up
Starting point is 00:23:40 this kind of resting state, this sort of underlying touchstone. It feels like home. You can get in touch with that, you can come home to it, and you can stay in touch with that. And over time, it can become more and more your resting place. And you look out at the world going, whoa, there's a lot of wild stuff flying around out there. Yeah, and I know it takes a lot of practice and it takes a lot of building to make it more of a habit and to actually change your brain, like the makeup of your brain, which we'll get into. So I do want to dig in on some more definitions because I think the concept of awakening is one that a lot of us have heard about, but we don't really know exactly what it means. And I know the foundation of your book is about cultivating seven ways
Starting point is 00:24:24 that are the essence of awakening. So what is awakening exactly? Okay, great. And I know the foundation of your book is about cultivating seven ways that are the essence of awakening. So what is awakening exactly? Okay, great. So I've like I said, dental out of rock climbing. And I've gone out with a friend of mine or several friends. And one of my friends, when we get out into wilderness, he just wants to plop in a camp chair with a cup of coffee, a cigar, and a good novel. Okay, I get it. I can relate. My other buddy is a little bit more like me, like after we kind of settle out and have breakfast, we look around, and then we will see some kind of mountain or hill or peak,
Starting point is 00:24:54 and we'll think, wow, it would just be super cool to get up there. Right? What's up there at the upper reaches? So there is something in us that is curious. After we work through a certain amount of just feeling bad about ourselves and bad in the world and you know we're upset a lot with other people and that kind of starts to stabilize some we're doing okay, we're doing okay. For many people there's a movement toward the upper reaches of human potential. How much stability of deep contentment, peacefulness and love is actually possible? And what in the world are people talking about who, in all the traditions of the world,
Starting point is 00:25:39 including those of the first people, the indigenous people, there are people who are like the Olympic athletes that said of personal development. And they seem radiant, some of them seem saintly, some of them function within a very specific religious tradition. Others seem to be outside of any particular religious tradition. And yet they have qualities about them that seem very admirable and desirable. And we think to ourselves, well, I like a little more of that myself, right? So one of the powerful principles, whether it's in business or athletics or just everyday life, we look to people who are a step farther along, or maybe ten steps farther along.
Starting point is 00:26:25 And we look at them and we do a kind of reverse engineering. What are the qualities that they have that we could internalize and live from increasingly in ourselves, which I think is one of the great services that you perform in your podcast, because in part yourself, and also those you talk with, you're giving the rest of us access to some of what it's like to be those people that we can actually, that's within reach for us to bring into ourselves. And so in that sense, I think of awakening very broadly as the gradual process of waking up and moving increasingly up the mountain of human potential.
Starting point is 00:27:06 Whatever route we take could be an entirely secular route, it could be a more religious route, it could be a more spiritual route, as we move up the mountain, those different routes start to converge. And we find as well that on each of those routes, the same seven steps again and again and again, which I'm sure we'll get into in a second, what the same seven steps, again and again and again, which I'm sure we'll get into in a second, what are those seven steps? But that's the fundamental process of awakening.
Starting point is 00:27:31 I think of it as the birthright of all of us, a person doesn't have to go all the way to the top to be inspired. I will never climb Mount Everest, but I'm inspired by what it is like at the top there and the fact that people actually get up to the very top and I can use that and my more, you know, humdrum, you know, local rock climbing kind of adventures. So that's the thing I would just say and the things that we're going to talk about are not just
Starting point is 00:27:59 for so-called spiritual practice. Man, oh, man, oh, man, they are so useful. I have a good background in business and they are so useful in the trenches of everyday life. Oh, 100%. I couldn't agree more there. I mean, it's really just kind of like emotional intelligence to be honest. When I was reading your stuff, I was like, oh, this is really just how to like control yourself and make sure that, you know, you don't, you know't go out either like mentally get into a rut or do something wrong with other people. Yeah, I also got what kind of, I mean, almost all of us have had an experience or more where everything just clicks.
Starting point is 00:28:40 You know, you're at the beach or the barbecue or your child is born or you're just hanging out or you walk outside, you see the stars, something and Kaboosh. All your cares and concerns fall away. You're still functioning. You're still aware of that email you need to write. The thing you need to do in the morning, but it just falls away and you feel just dropped in to a deep sense of well-being and all-rightness often with a sense of some kind of maybe mysterious connection to everything, extending beyond time and space even. And we've all had a sense of that. Most of us certainly have had a sense of that. Well, why not spend more time there? Why don't have that be more and more of your daily living?
Starting point is 00:29:32 And when people spend more time there, they don't become selfish, narcissistic, naval gaysers. They actually are moved increasingly to be helpful to other people, to cause less trouble, and to bring others along into their own stream of happiness. Yeah, why not go for it?
Starting point is 00:29:52 Why not develop ourselves in that way? And as you're talking about this, I can't help but think of the opposite of that, which is really monkey mind, right? So I'd love for you to explain what monkey mind is and how a lot of us really operate every single moment of our lives. Well it's a great term for this notion that the monkey, the internal subject, the eye, as it were, is looking out through multiple sense windows, sites, sound, smells, and then also looking out through the window of thoughts or images,
Starting point is 00:30:28 memories, emotions, and all the rest. Okay. And the monkey's bouncing around. And you know, we all have that sense that we're living inside a kind of popcorn machine. We're thinking about this. Then we dart to that that our mind goes here. It's the definition of no steadiness of mind, right? There's no control. And I think of attention as a combination spotlight and vacuum cleaner. What we're paying attention to is illuminated by attention and through neuroplasticity, we are drawing what we're paying attention to into ourselves with a negative bias, because the brain is like Bellcroft or Bad Experiences, but Teflon for positive ones.
Starting point is 00:31:11 So getting control of that spotlight and vacuum cleaner is critically important. And monkey mind is the definition of not having control. A certain key point here, you know, people can sometimes dismiss this as new AG or a fairy or yoga camp or something or other, but actually it's as hard-core as it gets, because if you don't have this kind of quality of both steadiness of mind and that internal even-killedness, you're not in charge of yourself. You're therefore not in charge of your life.
Starting point is 00:31:42 You're not autonomous. You're a puppet, frankly, being pulled by the strings of your environment and the reactions inside your body mind, you know, to your environment. And so if you want autonomy, if you really want to be in charge of yourself, the cultivation of steadiness of mind and, you know, that emotional balance, even keildness you talk about is deeply important. And also, there's the opportunity to be competent, to become more skillful at this kind of stuff.
Starting point is 00:32:13 I know so many people who've invested deeply in getting good at stuff that they know doesn't matter very much, that their job or their golf game or something like that. And yet, they'll hardly put five minutes a day into getting more competent at managing their own thoughts and feelings in their own inner world. Yeah, it is super important to do that because most of our thoughts are unconscious or subconscious. I think it's only 4% of our thoughts are actually things that we can control. And the rest is just good habits and really just redesigning our brain like you talk about.
Starting point is 00:32:46 So to help further drive this point, I'd love for you to explain how we actually react to things on a biological level. Like how does our brain influence the way that we react to our reality? Super deep question. Really great. So this is a major topic in science. Neuroscience is a baby science, especially if you compare it to astronomy, starting a couple thousand years ago.
Starting point is 00:33:12 The basic idea is that we are having thoughts and feelings, we're having reactions, sites are occurring, sounds, sensations, memories, images, plans, all the rest of that. All of that stuff correlates in some ways that are still not entirely clear with underlying neurobiological activity. So we have mind and matter, two aspects of reality that are correlating together. Okay.
Starting point is 00:33:40 The growing understanding is that our mental processes, our experiences, which are enlisting underlying physical activities, processes in our nervous system to proceed, are mental activities that are enlisting these neural activities can force a kind of lasting trace to be left behind for our own growing skillfulness, happiness, resilience, and well-being. We can actually use our minds to change our brains, to change our minds for the better through positive neuroplasticity. That's kind of the big picture. And there are so many examples of that. There's tons of research that shows, for example, that people who've had a lot of stressful or traumatic experiences have sensitized, as I was saying earlier, they're amygdala, so they react more readily and more loudly.
Starting point is 00:34:36 And chronic stress also, through cortisol release, weakens the nearby part of the brain, the hippocampus, which is supposed to put the brakes on the amygdala and also put things in context. And third, the hippocampus signals the hypothalamus, another underlying part of your brain, to stop calling for stress hormones. This might seem a little technical or mechanistic, but it has actually huge implications that being irritated, frustrated, driven, pressured, contracted, etc., etc., today, let alone being traumatized today, gradually makes us more vulnerable and reactive to stressors and pressures tomorrow. So it's really important, to engage in mindfulness which research also shows does various things inside your brain that acts like a circuit breaker so that we can be having
Starting point is 00:35:33 negative emotions like fear or anger flowing through awareness but if we're mindful of them there's a spaciousness there's a distance from that that stops the reinforcement of the negativity and the sensitization inside our own brain. And as just a very cool, quick hack, I'll tell people two things they can do that are grounded in really recent research that are super neat. One is, if you're upset about something or you're in a stressful situation or the oatmeal is really hitting the fan around you, tune into the internal sensations of breathing. You could even do it right now. Get a sense of the air flowing in and air flowing out.
Starting point is 00:36:15 It's not airy-fairy. It's as grounded as it gets. The internal sense of your chest or lungs or belly expanding as you inhale and kind of coming back in as you exhale. Just taking privately, no one needs to know you're doing that in the board meeting, right? Just doing it internally activates a part of your brain that's called the insula. The insulas, the region or two of them on the inside of the temporal lobes on either side. And the insula is very involved with with interoception, technical term for tuning
Starting point is 00:36:45 into yourself, including your gut feelings. So as you tune into yourself, the insulate gets more active, which immediately, quiance, like a circuit breaker, the so-called default mode network of your brain, I call it the ruminator, which is where we go when we're starting to spin out with our monkey mind resentments, regrets, self-criticism, what it could have showed a fantasy's of vengeance, and all the rest of that. Just tuning in to your internal sensations, and you can just kind of play with it immediately, quiets the internal monkey mind and relaxes the sense of being a beleaguered self. Just that. That's a quick hack. You know, half, five seconds, a few seconds, one breath, boom, you're starting
Starting point is 00:37:32 to feel the benefit. Second quick hack, lift your gaze to the horizon. Look out the window, look across the room, get a sense of the bigger picture, or just even imagine it. Neurologically, what that does is it moves you out of this kind of egocentric, self-referential, oh, what are they doing to me? Or I'm going to get them or my precious. Moves us out of that kind of tense, contracted place into a more objective view, a big picture view, which feels much less stressful, much more in the present moment, and much more effective. So just right there, two little hacks, tuning into the internal sensations of breathing, or lifting your gaze to the horizon somehow, can immediately, neurologically, this is evidence-based,
Starting point is 00:38:23 change the way your brain is functioning, which then in turn changes the way your mind is functioning, and therefore in turn changes the way your life functions as well. I love that. We love actionable advice on the podcast. So let's talk about this neuroplasticity in terms of the fact that it doesn't happen overnight. You need to practice with mindfulness, meditation, hours, days, months, years so that you can
Starting point is 00:38:47 actually change the biological format of your brain. And I'd love to kind of drive this point home by talking about how your brain changes depending on how experienced you are with meditation. So let's take a person who did like a three day meditation workshop Versus somebody who spent months meditating versus a Tibetan monk who spent their whole lifetime Meditating. How does their brain kind of change? This is great. So first off Neuroplasticity just basically means that the nervous system Changes or is changeable based on the information flowing through it And the information flowing through it is the basis for what we experience in terms of our own consciousness.
Starting point is 00:39:30 All right. Those changes can happen within half a second actually as different neurons fire together, different neurochemicals flow. It's kind of extraordinary just to imagine how small things are. I mean, you could put the cell body of roughly five neurons, typical neurons, side-by-side, in the width of one of your hairs. The little connections between neurons, the synapses, you could put several thousand of them side-by-side in the width of a single hair. Okay, so it's really, things happen really fast. More structural, not just functional
Starting point is 00:40:06 changes typically take seconds or minutes or days. It's a longer process whereby new connections form between neurons, existing connections become sensitized or desensitized, neurochemical ebbs and flows kind of shift over time. Different larger regions of the brain can start coordinating more effectively with each other. Those kind of changes can take longer to stabilize, but the beginning of it is typically a breath at a time. And when we talk about how much it takes to actually change things for the better over time. Honestly, my kind of bedrock threshold is five minutes a day. Just five minutes a day. Most people will not put five minutes a day into some kind of personal practice,
Starting point is 00:40:58 but even if you give it that much, let alone more, like 20 minutes a day, 45 minutes a day, any kind of practice, gratitude practice, compassion practices, meditation, affirmations, focusing on your self-worth, building up kind of a lovingness in your own heart, whatever, or maybe even a religious practice, whatever it actually might be for you, it's the law of little things. It's usually lots of little bad things that moved us to a bad place, and it's going to be lots of little good things,
Starting point is 00:41:27 the move us to a better one. Which for me is extraordinarily hopeful. It's profoundly hopeful, because that's what's under our control. It's the little things in the most important minute of our life, which is the next one, minute after minute, continuously. That's where we actually have influence. And so it's up to us to use that influence. And no one can defeat us.
Starting point is 00:41:47 No one can stop us from doing that, which I just love fantastically. So all that said, I can tell you how your brain changes, because you seem like a meditator, and I can tell you how your brain has probably changed over time, and maybe others as well. And for key areas, I'll do this really fast, because it illustrates some larger points if that's okay. So first off, parts of your brain, typically behind the forehead,
Starting point is 00:42:10 that are involved in regulating attention. And also the top down or executive regulation of our emotions and our actions in general, those neural circuits literally build structure. New connections are forming, more blood is coming to those particular regions that are in effect kind of like the chair of the Internal Mental Committee. You know, the physical basis for that is located in prefrontal regions mainly right behind the forehead. Well, that's one major change that happens. Second major change that is found in in people have a kind of a semi-decent
Starting point is 00:42:45 mindfulness practice with meditation as well is that there's more regulation of emotions, the sub-cortical areas of the amygdala, the hippocampus, and so forth. Those get better regulated. They're happier. They're less freaked out. They're less angry. They don't fly off the handles so much. That's a second major change that's found structurally in people who are long-time meditators. Their major change is greater body awareness, people become more in touch with themselves. And being in touch with your body is the foundation of being in touch with your emotions and your deep, deep longings and important values and most heartfelt desires.
Starting point is 00:43:24 So that's a great third change as well, including through structural changes, particularly in the insula, which like I said is involved in body awareness. And then last, the sense of self. This is very interesting. People spend less and less time in the default mode network, the ruminator, which is very saturated with a sense of me, myself, and I, especially an a sense of me, myself, and I, especially
Starting point is 00:43:46 an unhappy sense of me, myself, and I, you know, I've been cheated and mistreated. Why don't I get loved, right? You know, country and western song lists. And instead, that activity decreases, and there's more activity in other parts of the brain, particularly on the sides of the brain, that are more associated with a broader, more open sense of who you are. You still know who you are. You still stop at red lights.
Starting point is 00:44:11 You still speak up for yourself. You don't tolerate mistreatment of yourself or those others you care about. But it's in a much less self-centered or beleaguered kind of way, which is, wow, an incredible relief. So those are four major changes, well documented in people's brains who have a regular practice of mindfulness and especially meditation. That's so incredible.
Starting point is 00:44:36 You know, as you're talking, all I can keep thinking is that people who meditate and who practice mindfulness, they're just happier, right? Their default state is naturally happier, and no matter what happens in their external, they know how to process those experiences to actually just be happy and content and grateful and not let it totally off-balance how they feel about themselves
Starting point is 00:44:58 and how they feel about the world. So it brings me to this other really fascinating point, and I think one of the most interesting things I found in your book was this concept of add on suffering because you basically brought in this this concept from Buddhism and and you know tied it together with everything. And it really just helped it all come together. So explain what add on suffering is to us. Inherently in life, there's just a certain amount of unavoidable discomfort, physical and emotional. You know, you care about other people and if you see injustice landing on them
Starting point is 00:45:32 or you just know, wow, it's really tough for them to be dealing with what they're dealing with. You're going to feel it. That's in the Buddhist metaphor, the first arrow or first dart in life. It's inherent, it's unavoidable. If we fight it, if we beat ourselves up about it, if we rage it, others about it, it just makes it worse. That's the add-on part. Much of our suffering, including subtle forms of uneasiness or a s-knowing sense of inadequacy, I always have to keep proving myself. I have to always keep impressing other people. That is what we add to the basic conditions of life, which in of themselves are often just conditions in life. They're basically neutral. They're not inherently negative. They're not inherently a first start, but then we get agitated
Starting point is 00:46:22 about them. And when you realize that, it's incredibly hopeful, because if we are the makers of the majority of our own suffering, not diminishing, or not minimizing, the actual first starts of life, but when we start to realize how much we add to them with our complaints about the world in ourselves, our criticism of ourselves, our nastiness toward other people, are obsessing repetitively in ways that have no added value. There's no learning.
Starting point is 00:46:54 We're not gaining anything from doing laps around the misery track. We're just digging that track deeper, actually, through sensitizing ourselves, in part driven by the negativity by the brain. When you start to realize, wow, I'm the source of that myself. Hey, you might be depressed for a day or two or three.
Starting point is 00:47:12 I have been when I realized, torn, I was a key factor in all those things I was blaming others for. But then you start to realize, wow, that is so hopeful, that is so fantastic, because if I can stop adding, you know, add on suffering through my reactivity, my resentments, my self-criticism, my meanness, my obsessiveness, if I stop doing that, I'm going to be so much happier and lighter and more able to be good for other people as well.
Starting point is 00:47:45 And more successful, I have to say that as I was reading this, I was thinking about all the, because I think everybody has a spectrum of their add-on suffering. There's some people who really do it a lot, and they hinder themselves from any type of growth, and then there's some people who do it a little bit, and they're more successful because they don't navigate the world, blaming everything but themselves in terms of where they're at in life.
Starting point is 00:48:08 So given everything we've learned about neuroplasticity, how can we counteract this? Oh, that's great. I think of people like you've described, including in business, particularly the top performers are kind of more this way. They don't have so much friction between themselves in the world. I mean, it is what it is. They work hard. They have goals.
Starting point is 00:48:29 You know, they have aims. There's a work ethic there. But you don't feel like they're having friction. It's like life I'm doing this gesture. It's a rope that moves through our hands. And as we kind of clench it, that's what creates friction and adds on all that heat,
Starting point is 00:48:44 that extra suffering. So how do we actually do that? I think of three keys, fundamentally, that are just kind of summarized as deal with the bad, turn to the good, take in the good. And that right there is really a roadmap, again and again and again, for dealing with life. So first off, deal with the bad. If you have real challenges, take action.
Starting point is 00:49:07 You know, it's a long time therapist, I've really learned, man, there's no replacement for doing what you can. Okay, you're knocked down by life. Have some compassion for yourself. Okay, got it, got it, totally sucks. And, huh, what can you do about it it inside your mind and out there in the world, right? Including how can you give yourself a little jumpstart, that little spark that then,
Starting point is 00:49:32 you know, can move you forward. So deal with the bad. And part of dealing with the bad is accepting it mindfully. It's there. You're upset in the moment. It's how you feel. It's how you feel maybe because of your own history. If you fight how you feel, you just make it worse. It sticks around, you know, right? Well, we resist process. No. So deal with the bad in this gulf away, including through mindful spaciousness. Second, when you can, and it may, you may not be able to do it in the first shock or the first intensity or the overwhelming pain, but as soon as you can, also turn to the good. What is also true? Out in the world and inside yourself.
Starting point is 00:50:16 Who are the people you can turn to? What are the strengths you can draw upon inside yourself? What is still working alongside what is just fallen apart? What are the flowers that are still blooming? What is the goodness in the heart of other people and inside yourself? What are the possibilities that still remain? Turn to the good, not as a bypass, not as a spiritual or other kind of bypass of what is the bad, the problematic, and the painful, but in part, as a way to resource yourself to deal even more effectively with what has gone so horribly wrong, turn to the good, and then especially learn from the good. Most people skip this step. They don't take in the good.
Starting point is 00:51:00 They're experiencing something useful. A moment of feeling gritty. A moment of determination. A moment of commitment to work to their exercise program. Or being more patient with their aging relatives. Or being more rested in their own sobriety. You know, or just simple happiness or well-being. They're having that feeling, but they don't marinate in it for a beat or two or three. Or a breath or two or three. They don't marinate them for a beat or two or three or a breath or two or three.
Starting point is 00:51:25 They don't marinate them, and so in the famous saying, the neurons that are firing together don't yet have time to wire together as well. Take in the good, slow it down. I talk a lot about the how of this. It usually takes a breath or two at a time. You can take longer if you really want, but slow it down to receive into yourself. You know, the hard one fruits of whatever you're practicing in the time. So to me, those are the big headlines, those three, and there's a lot of research that underlies the describes and documents, the neuro-psychology of this process. Hold tight, everyone.
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Starting point is 00:58:49 And I thought that was super catchy and something that we could just do any time throughout the day when we just hit any sort of obstacle. It's something that we can tell ourselves to kind of reset and focus on the good. Yeah, super. Thank you for calling that out. Of course. Okay. So let's talk about the seven ways of being, that studiness, lovingness, fullness, wholeness, nouness, allness, and timelessness.
Starting point is 00:59:12 And you say that they go together in clusters naturally. So let's start with the first three ways, studiness, lovingness, and fullness. What are these ways of being? So here's what I'm talking about. Like I said, let's look at those Olympic athletes of human happiness and well-being and then reverse engineer back to ourselves. What are qualities we see in them that we can develop in ourselves and even begin to see already inside ourselves. So the first three qualities are steadiness of mind, a lovingness of heart, and a fullness of being that makes us, helps us be even keeled, as you describe in your core.
Starting point is 00:59:53 Around the edges, you could be howling at the moon with good friends on a Saturday night, but in your core, the core of your being, there's a fundamental calm, steady clarity there. So those three definitely hang together and they're kind of psychological, they're probably very familiar to us. Interestingly, we can develop them
Starting point is 01:00:13 even to the point of perfection. I mean, people who are really at the top of the mountain, and I know people, I know some people who are very close to the summit, and I've accessed teachers who are hanging out there basically. They have tremendous steadiness of mind. The heart is warm even if they're being assertive and dealing with stuff and underneath it all,
Starting point is 01:00:36 you can tell. They're just rested in an underlying mood of peacefulness, contentment, and love. You could see that in them, and we can develop those in ourselves. Then there's that second cluster, which is a little more, maybe seemingly airy-fairy, and yet when you kind of hear me talk about it, or when you look at it inside yourself, you go, oh, yeah, I have a sense of that. I have a sense of that. So the next three are wholeness, nouness, and alness. So I'm making up some words here.
Starting point is 01:01:09 What do I mean by that? And the first wholeness is a sense of letting yourself be as a whole and accepting yourself as a whole without being divided internally and at war with yourself. Just that. Huh, doesn't that feel like a relief? Like, oh, there's utter self acceptance. You're still a work in progress.
Starting point is 01:01:30 You're still learning a few things, you're still healing a few things, you're still letting go of a few things. Inside a context in which you really accept yourself and you have a sense of abiding as who you are as a whole, okay? That's wholeness. Second noun-ness, that means basically you're in the present, you know? The power of now. Be here now. You're in the present. Rather than obsessing about the past or worrying about the future, you're
Starting point is 01:02:01 in the present. And one thing, for example, that you start to notice when you're truly in the present, kind of right at the front edge of now receiving what's arising as it occurs, is that most of the time, you're already basically okay. It may not be perfect in the present, but no shark is chewing on your leg, you're not devastated by terrible news. You're basically all right right now in the present, whatever the future may hold. And that recognition that you actually are basically all right right now and now and now is extremely grounding and strengthening, especially if like me, you have any inclinations or toward anxiety or you've acquired anxiety because of your nightmare boss or the guy down the hall over the years.
Starting point is 01:02:54 You're basically all right right now. So coming into the present and for each one of these in the book, I talk about very current cutting edge plausible neuroscience that underlies each one of these qualities. What's happening in the brain? When you have the sense of present moment awareness, you're really in the present, and therefore how can we cultivate that? So that more and more you can be stably there.
Starting point is 01:03:15 And then the third is allness, fancy way of talking about, relaxing the contracted sense of self, put upon by others, maybe frankly kind of narcissistic, relaxing that, relaxing self preoccupations, relaxing that urgency to keep impressing other people is if you haven't already done enough, relaxing that while opening into everything, feeling connected, you know, you're connected, right? You realize that you're a you, like Hala is different from Rick, right?
Starting point is 01:03:50 We're like two separate waves in the ocean, different causes and conditions are manifesting as you and I right now, and still we're part of the larger sea. And our deep nature is water, which you can really go a long way with. So here we have that third cluster of wholeness, nouness, and allness. And this is a cultivation for a lot of people. You know, this is more of a personal development if you have a particular interest in it. And still, wow, in everyday life, the more that the chips are down and things are happening, the more useful it is to be able to bring your whole
Starting point is 01:04:33 self to bear without fighting with parts of yourself while staying in the present, not obsessing about the past or freaking out about the future, while being very aware of how many factors are in play, and we're connected to many factors, and therefore there are many things out there that might be useful, or certainly are important to take into account. That's extremely helpful, even in the middle of the worst day of your business or your marriage or your life. Then last, timelessness is really the ultimate. For some people, that sense of timelessness is merely an extraordinary experience.
Starting point is 01:05:11 And that's how they understand it. That's cool. I'm fine with that. That's where they want us to stop. For many, many, many people, they have had, maybe they have, in an ongoing way, a sense that there's more to everything than what we see. There's mysteriously more. In the Buddhist tradition, that more is talked about in a pretty stripped down way as what is eternal, unconditioned, not subject to arising and passing away period. Other traditions bring more of a sense of consciousness, even lovingness, even a personality to that ultimate capital G ground.
Starting point is 01:05:54 I'm not preaching here. I'm just naming things that people talk about and feel and maybe your possibilities myself. I'm in the I think there's more to it, you know, than what we see school, both in my experience and my kind of rational informed view of things. And that's what timelessness is about. And again, here too, we don't have to relate to that in a religious way. We can relate to it as simply an openness to mystery, an openness to possibility, a sense of possibly a kind of underlying love, even, that's woven into the ongoing wellspring of emergence of reality continuously, and with a kind of attitude of, don't know so much, not so sure, could be. Just that alone is an invitation into timelessness.
Starting point is 01:06:54 Mm. Super, super interesting stuff. If anybody wants to pick up your book, NeuroDharma, where can they find it? Well, thank you. It's everywhere. You know, the usual places, you know, in all the rest of it. And it's been extremely well reviewed. It's a really, I have to say, you know,
Starting point is 01:07:13 it was my sixth book. And as a parent, you know, in a sense, I'm the parent of all my books. I love all my children, but I like neurodarm of the best. It's a culminating book. I'm very personal in it. It the best. It's a culminating book. I'm very personal in it. It's intimate. It's super practical. It's very heartfelt. And it's very well referenced. So if you want the evidence, you want the goods, our son who played poker,
Starting point is 01:07:37 partly through college, to put himself through college, talked about having the nuts, you know, in his hand, you know, having the goodies in his hand. I got the nuts in that book that support as evidence when I'm saying in it. I really encourage people to chuck it out. I agree, it was a really easy read, even though I'm not a neuroscientist, and it was filled with actionable ways to actually get started and to learn how to meditate
Starting point is 01:07:59 and you gave practices, so I really enjoyed it. I had your advice. I have to use this in everyday life, not just in your meditation. And if you want, I'll even leave you with the five minute challenge. Sure. You want it? Okay. So like I said, most people won't give five minutes a day to their practice,
Starting point is 01:08:14 but you could do this if you want to. And this supports what I wrote about in the book, not just in formalities of meditation, but in everyday life, which is where mostly we're going to heal and grow in everyday life. First, as you flow through your day, a handful of times every day, slow down for a breath to take in the good. Like right now, I'm having a nice interaction with you. You're a solid person, we don't know each other well. It's not more than what it is, but it's not less than what it is. We can take in the good of those feelings that we have with each other and how much enjoyment I've gotten out of this, certainly for myself.
Starting point is 01:08:52 So slow it down, take in the good. That'll take you maybe a minute a day. Second, no one thing in particular you are developing inside yourself these days. What's one thing in particular you're trying to grow? What's the superpower you're working on these days? It could be something very specific, like training yourself to be a little more patient when things happen around you, so you don't just say the first thing that pops into your head.
Starting point is 01:09:18 Or maybe you're working on being less scared of public speaking, or asserting yourself in a meeting, or being less vulnerable to just speaking or asserting yourself in a meeting or being less vulnerable to just brooding about a word someone used or a little bit of a dismissiveness you encountered and feeling really bad for days afterward. You're working on that. So whatever it is you're trying to develop more inside yourself as a strength, focus on opportunities A to experience that, or some factor of it each day, and B, taking the good, slow it down. Once you get that good song playing in the interi pod, turn on the inter recorder, so increasingly it becomes a part of you.
Starting point is 01:09:58 That might take another minute or so a day. And then third, make sure that every day, often just before you go to bed, that's a good time to do it. Do what I call marinating in deep green. In other words, instead of the red zone or the pink zone of feeling stressed and pressured and irritated and resentful and hurt over the course of a day, we deliberately rest. We find an authentic sense in the present of peacefulness, contentment, and love. Whatever way you can, and I offer a lot of ways into this in the book, itself, whatever way you can, slow it down for a minute or two or three. If it's the last thing
Starting point is 01:10:36 you do before your head hits the pillow, the pillow, to just kind of reset and come home to this resting place inside yourself of a basic calm, a sense of enoughness and contentment and a basic warmheartedness. As you rest there, you will be changing your brain. You will be changing your nervous system in your body and gradually hardwiring that sense of peacefulness, contentment, and love into the core of your being so that you can take it with you increasingly wherever you go. That's the five-minute challenge. I love that. So I was just going to ask you and you answered it for me. What is one actionable thing we can do every day to become more young and
Starting point is 01:11:16 profiting tomorrow? So thank you for that. And the last question we ask all of our guests is what is your secret to profiting in life? It's a fantastic question because the way I'm going to slightly translate it, including from my own business experience, is durable gain, lasting gain, the good that lasts. All right, so much of what we experience is nice in the moment, but it runs right through our fingers. Right? There's no return on investment. There's no ROI. So what is it that leads to lasting gain, which might be translated, I have a business myself. I'm interested in financial profit in addition to personal profit, if you will. In terms of personal profit, lasting gain inside yourself. I think the thing that has really helped me is a kind of humility that makes me value learning. A kind of sense that, wow, we're vulnerable, we're frail. We don't know
Starting point is 01:12:20 everything. Life is challenging. We depend on things. And that's not shame. It's humility that says, I need to value growing. I need to look for ways every day to become a little unburdened from my childhood and my life to become a little clearer, a little more skillful with other people, a little kinder, you know, a little wiser, a little happier. And I have the power to do that every day. And it really does come for me, this kind of intimacy of humility and a sense that says, ah, I don't know everything already. I really need to help myself grow
Starting point is 01:13:05 and heal and learn every day. It's so true. And it's like, it never stops. There's always room to improve and to continually better yourself and your mind and the way that you operate in the world. So I totally agree there. Where can our listeners go find more about you and everything that you do? Oh, very kind, Hala. I think my website is the best place. Rick Hansen, SON, RickHansen.net. And it's chock full of freely offered resources, tons of quick little video snippets, audios, practices, things people can do,
Starting point is 01:13:37 access to all kinds of other tools that are grounded in brain science and contemplative wisdom and practical psychology. So Rick Hansen.net, that's where I would encourage people to go. You might also like the podcast I do. Like you do a podcast. I do a podcast with our son Forest, the Being Well podcast, which is really rising in the charts. Thanks to him, especially. And we also have lots of great guests there, too. So people might want to check that out as well, being well. That's so cute that you do it with your son. I love that. You don't hear that every day. Thank you so much, Rick. This was such an excellent conversation.
Starting point is 01:14:13 Thank you, Hall. And there you have it. My conversation with Dr. Rick is unlike any other I've had on YAP. And I hope you all enjoyed this discussion as much as I did. Something you can hear and rick is that he's always so calm. When he explains these dense, complicated theories like neuroplasticity, he brings in almost meditative quality that makes learning so much easier. Finding a level head and calmness is what so much of his work is based on, and that's the core theme of his newest book, NeuroDrama. Having
Starting point is 01:14:45 a clear head is something that I think everyone should be working towards. Right now, there are so many stressful things in the world. We're going on year three of COVID-19. And I know so many people have become burnt out, stressed, and even lost in their lives. So being able to develop the ability to calm yourself can help you make more logical and thoughtful decisions, as well as just making these stressful situations much easier to manage. Over the years, I've interviewed several neuroscientists and psychologists, and so far nobody I've spoken with has used any type of spiritual practice in combination with their scientific research, let alone Buddhism.
Starting point is 01:15:21 As I was reading your Dharma, I was surprised at how well these things actually go together, and that's something Rick briefly explained. The psychological aspects of both Buddhism and neuroscience can feed into each other. The calmness and search for peace that Buddhism is based on can lead to more positive neuroplasticity and a better, more healthy development of the brain. Both practices at their core are about
Starting point is 01:15:44 positive, personal, and psychological development, and neuroplasticity is the brain's ability to change and adapt as a result of experiences, or using positive and negative experiences to rewire our brains. Rick has written so much about this topic and has found that our brains are hardwired to take in negative experiences easier than positive ones.
Starting point is 01:16:06 I love his quote, the brain is like Velcro for bad experiences, but Teflon for positive ones. If you take anything from this conversation, I hope you take on Dr. Rick's 5 Minute Challenge. This includes three steps to help with positive neuroplasticity and finding inner peace. First, as you go throughout your day, make sure you slow down and breathe in the good things around you a handful times every day. These can be small things like having a lunch you really enjoyed or even just enjoying
Starting point is 01:16:35 a nice text message from your friend. Take in these good feelings, take a moment to pause. The more you do this, the more you'll learn to appreciate the little wins in your life. Second, Rick advises to look at something that you're trying to do better in life, trying to become more patient, for example, or speaking up more in meetings, or maybe managing your fear of public speaking. Whatever you're attempting to do, when you're attempting to do those things, try to zoom out and notice the progress you're making and take note that you're even
Starting point is 01:17:05 trying it all. When you do this and you slow down and you notice and you feel proud of yourself for even trying and feeling proud of yourself to just even attempt and be physically able to do the things that you're trying to do, you're being more positive and you're helping your brain change the neural pathways of taking in the good experiences more often and practicing a form of gratitude as well. And lastly, make sure that every day, just before you go to bed, do what Rick calls marinating in deep green. In other words, proactively ensure that you don't go to bed with any of the negative emotions
Starting point is 01:17:41 you've carried throughout the day, and instead take a few minutes to soak in the experience of your body calming down and winding down. When you feel rested, safe, and content, hang out there as long as you can before you go to sleep. When we feel that our basic needs for safety, satisfaction, and connection are sufficiently met in the moment, our whole body moves out of what Rick calls the red or pink zone, which is full of irritation, stress, hurt, and other bad negative emotions.
Starting point is 01:18:10 Your fight, flight, and free system starts to calm down, your stress hormones fade away, and so remember, every night before you sleep, try to spend a few minutes marinating in deep green, breathing, calming, settling, and helping your body return to your home base. I think this may be the hardest step in the challenge, but with practice, it will get easier. When you're able to make these three steps a daily habit, you will learn to slowly grow an appreciation for the present moment, and you will be changing your brain through positive neuroplasticity.
Starting point is 01:18:42 For more of these methods to finding self-peace, check out Rick's book, Noro Dharma, or his podcast, Being Well. Thanks for listening to Young and Profiting Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, do take a moment to drop us a five-star review on your favorite podcast platform. And I'd love to connect with all of you on social media. I adore hearing from my new listeners. If you like the show, reach out to me on DM. I'm on Instagram at Yapathala or LinkedIn. Just search for my name. It's Hala Taha. Big thanks to the app team as always. This is Hala, signing off. Are you looking for ways to be happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative?
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