Young and Profiting with Hala Taha - YAPClassic: Sarah Centrella, Harnessing Manifestation To Step Into Your Dream Life
Episode Date: August 25, 2023Not long after she had to file for bankruptcy, Sarah Centrella saw a text from her husband’s mistress. She moved out immediately, despite having no place to go and no income of her own. To cope, she... started imagining what she wanted her life to look like, no matter how unrealistic that goal was. Little did she know that she was discovering the power of manifestation. Now, Sarah is a sought-after keynote speaker, bestselling author, and an expert in manifesting. In this episode of YAPClassic, you’ll learn about the power of mindset, the effect of words we speak, and how to stay committed to continuous self-improvement. We’ll also talk about how to envision your future using vision boards and future boards. Sarah Centrella is a bestselling author and the premier manifesting expert. As a sought-after keynote speaker, Sarah has shared the stage with Ed Mylett, Alex Rodriguez, Sheri Salata, Joan Lunden, Lori Harder, Bravo’s Dianne Valentine, the cast of WAGS on E!, and many others. Sarah has worked with professional athletes, celebrities, and thousands of people around the world, helping them create and manifest their dream life. In this episode, Hala and Sarah will discuss: - The most pivotal point in Sarah’s life - How Sarah noticed she was manifesting reality - The eight steps to the HBR method - The power of your dreams - How to envision your future - Vision Boards vs. Future Boards - The five categories of vision boards - The most incredible thing Sarah has manifested - How to break a cycle - And other topics… Sarah Centrella is a best-selling author and the premier manifesting expert. She is a three-time bestselling author of Hustle Believe Receive, #FutureBoards, and All the Things, and she's the creator of #FutureBoards, and the #HBRMethod. As a Master Life Coach, Sarah has worked with professional athletes, celebrities, and thousands of people around the world, helping them create and manifest their dream life. ​ As a sought-after keynote speaker, Sarah has shared the stage with; Ed Mylett, Alex Rodriguez, Sheri Salata, Joan Lunden, Lori Harder, Bravo’s Dianne Valentine, the cast of WAGS on E! and many others. Sarah has been featured by The Wall Street Journal, ABC News, Cosmopolitan, Girls Life Magazine, Women’s World, The New York Times, Inc. Magazine, OK! Good Morning America and many others. LinkedIn Secrets Masterclass, Have Job Security For Life: Use code ‘podcast’ for 30% off at yapmedia.io/course. Resources Mentioned: Sarah’s Website: https://www.sarahcentrella.com/ Sarah’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahcentrella/ Sarah’s Book: https://www.sarahcentrella.com/my-books Sponsored By: Shopify - Go to shopify.com/profiting to take your business to the next level today Indeed - Claim your $75 credit now at indeed.com/yap More About Young and Profiting Download Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com  Get Sponsorship Deals - youngandprofiting.com/sponsorships Leave a Review - ratethispodcast.com/yap Watch Videos - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting Follow Hala Taha LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/ TikTok - tiktok.com/@yapwithhala Twitter - twitter.com/yapwithhala Learn more about YAP Media Agency Services - yapmedia.io/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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In today's Yap Classic, we're replaying my interview with Sarah Centrella, a manifestation
expert and two-time best-selling author of Hustle Believe Receive and Future Boards.
As a master life coach, Sarah has worked with professional athletes, celebrities, and
thousands of people around the world helping them create and manifest their dream life.
In this episode, Sarah and I are discussing the power of mindset, the effects of the words
we speak, and how to stay committed to continue a self-improvement.
We'll also talk about how to envision your future using vision boards and future boards.
I know all of you young and profitors out there want to learn how to live your dream
life, and today's episode is all about that. So without further delay, enjoy my conversation with Sarah.
I am really looking forward to this hall. Thank you. Of course, me too. So let's start off from
your beginnings. Now you are a best-selling author. You've been on so many different TV shows,
podcasts. A lot of people may be familiar with you,
but they might not know your entire backstory.
So I would love to talk about one of the most pivotal points
in your life, which was the day that you found out
some really unfortunate news.
And you saw a text message on your husband's phone,
and it changed the trajectory of your life forever.
So I'd like to start off with that story because I feel like that was a huge pivotal moment in your life
that kind of sets the ground for the rest of the story.
Absolutely. It's, it was the day my world blew up. Literally like a bomb exploded in my life and
every piece of my life exploded at about 10 minutes. At the time I'd been married to my high school
sweetheart, we had been together since we were 16 years old. We had three kids. We had twins that were
just over a year and then our son was five and a half and you know I had become a stay at home mom
because I had the twins and all of that we just lost our house and the real estate bubble. So things were already, we were already kind of going through it
and the day that I read that text message just changed everything.
And it was obviously from his mistress
and I'll never forget what it said.
It said, I can't wait till you're all mine.
Finally free and no more sharing.
Wow.
And it was like, wow, thanks universe
for the perfect message that was like told me
as a woman pretty much everything I needed to know, right?
Like all the info was there.
You can really back out of that one.
And so yeah, he was in the shower.
I went in, turned the water off the shower,
and said get the, you know what, out.
And he did.
And within like 10 minutes,
it was just like this crazy explosion
for lack of better word.
And I just remember like that night was obviously
a very black, you know, time in my life.
And I'd been like crying.
I was like literally laying on the hardwood floor.
And I just kept on thinking like, oh my God,
like what do I do tomorrow? How do I get up? How do I feed my kids? You know, we didn't have the
social networks we have today. And I didn't know anyone who is divorced. I didn't
know any single moms and it seems insane. I know for all of us to think back that far,
but that's what life was like. You couldn't connect with your people online. It was just the people you knew in real life.
So, it felt very terrifying and alone and kind of felt like I was the only person this
was happening to.
And so, you know, in that kind of blackness, I just remember thinking like, I can't do
this.
I really can't do this.
I was running all the scenarios in my head and I just didn't see a way. And there was kind of a moment
and you can call it whatever you want
into a Shin, God universe, whatever.
But there was this moment where it just was clear as day
that came back and just said like, what if you can?
And I have to say like those two words,
what if have been a pivotal transformational thing for me, I think, because they gave me hope
when I didn't have it. They gave me like the possibility that something could, you know, work out. It
didn't tell me how to do it, damn it. But, you know, at least gave me the option to start thinking
about like, if I could make this work, how would I do it? So that really started everything for me.
It's so important to have that like one little sliver of hope because that
could just multiply into a whole new life, which, which you saw.
I want to get into that statement one off in a bit, but first I want to dig
deeper in terms of your situation. So you were actually a stay at home mom
at the time. You weren't even working. I think you guys had just filed for bankrupt
see. So you guys were not even in a good financial situation.
And so you must have felt like,
what the hell am I gonna do?
I have three mouths to feed.
I don't have a place to live.
I'm not generating any income.
I feel alone, nobody else I know is going through this.
And I put all my eggs in one basket, and here I am.
Right?
And I think a lot of women get into that situation where they put all their eggs in one basket and here I am, right? And I think a lot of women get into that situation where they put
all their eggs in one basket. Yeah. And they're stuck. It's so true. And I think for me, I was almost
shocked to find out I was in that situation because I'm very type A, you know, I would say in our
relationship, I was probably the leader in the relationship, You know, I made most of the decisions.
And so to find myself in a position where it just so happened
that the bank accounts had gotten his name.
I mean, those were decisions I was part of.
So I can't blame it on him.
It was just for whatever reason, for the bankruptcy or whatever.
And the car was in his name.
And kind of as I was starting to run through like,
okay, what do I do now?
That's what I really realized like holy shit. This is not good. And you know, when you're married, you think it's a tell death to us part situation. You don't really think of a backup plan and
I think that was a shock to me. I really did not think that I was going to be ever in that
desperate of a situation. And like you said, we had just filed bankruptcy.
So imagine trying to get an apartment with no job, no income,
and a brand new bankruptcy.
Oh, and a foreclosure.
So who's going to rent to you?
So just things like that, it was terrifying to be quite honest.
I did not have any income coming in,
did not have access to his income.
You know, I remember the next day
like taking back hands to get formula.
It was not a cute look sold everything I owned,
you know, to get enough for,
to move into an apartment.
So, yeah, I mean, I think now I'm always reminding women,
you know, take care of your finances too.
It's fine if you want to merge them, but you should always have access to your money
or your finances as well.
You never know what life can throw you.
100%.
So, you left right away, which I think is really impressive, because I think a lot of people
who are in that situation, men or women, when they find out that their spouse is cheating on them, especially if they're not the ones who've cheated
and they didn't know it was coming, their first reaction is, how do I save this? How do I save this
marriage? You were with him for 16 years, eight of them married. So talk to us about how you
started to pick up the pieces. Like, what are the first steps that you started to do? You were at
ground zero. You had almost nothing and a lot of responsibility. So what did you do to kind of get yourself
back up on your feet?
Hitting rock bottom does free you,
whether it's rock bottom or whether it's something traumatic,
like losing something you really, really put your hopes in.
It frees you in a way.
Like, you're like, okay, well, the worst case scenario just happened.
Obviously, I can't hide that. People are going to see that.
So might as well just embrace what's going on in my life and move forward.
And I think for me, it really gave me total freedom because things were so dire and so dramatic.
Really that first year that I didn't have any space to handle anyone's opinion, you know,
like I didn't care at all anymore. I was like, if you have an issue with what's going on,
then you try and live this life because this is survival, right? And in so many ways that gave me
a ton of freedom because I started realizing, okay, I have to literally reinvent myself,
create a brand new life from total scratch.
So that got me thinking, it was kind of like, what did I imagine my life would be like
when I was a teenager or when I was a kid? All those dreams that I had that I kind of shelved,
through my marriage, I was like, you know, maybe I start dreaming again. And that was really kind
of the very first thing I did. I did it almost as I think a coping mechanism because kind of like the day to day was honestly
really bleak for a while. And so to kind of take my mind off it, I just started day dreaming about
what I wanted, about, you know, best case scenario. Maybe kind of feel good. It just helped me kind
of get through the day, started imagining like, well, if I'm
successful, what does that mean? And like, could I travel with my kids? And where would we
go? And what would our house look like? And all of those things. And I think a lot of people
are scared to do that, especially if they're not in a great position, because they think
it's going to make them feel worse, right? But everything is perspective. And for me, it did the opposite. It gave me
hope. It made me think like, Hey, if I can imagine it in my mind and that makes me feel better,
then maybe there's a 1% chance I could live it. And for me, a 1% chance was huge. You
know, I was all in on the 1% because I knew what the alternative was, right? Either I
could see here and continue living this at all,
or I could build and have a shot.
Have a shot at something different.
And that was the first thing I did.
The second thing I did that was really kind of pivotal
that I teach now is I started when I finally got a job.
I started translating, because I've been imagining
this life in my head for quite a while.
And we all do this. We all have the capability of doing this. When you're thinking been, you know, imagining this life in my head for quite a while. And we all do this.
We all have the capability of doing this.
When you're thinking about anything you want, it turns to visuals in your head, right?
Your head kind of needs to put some parameters around it.
And so it becomes what I call a movie in your head.
And so I started just going on Google and started looking for the pictures that matched the
movie in my head.
And that want to be my very first YouTube word and the start of just
everything changing.
Yeah, I love that story. So she got a job as an inside sales or a per first job.
And one of the first things she did was plaster photos and
pictures of her dreams and her cubicle. So that's what she
sat and looked at eight hours a day
and then some of those things started to manifest.
So she talked to us about when you first started realizing
that all this that you were doing thinking
about your dreams, you know, looking at your dreams,
talked us about when you first started noticing
that you were actually manifesting things into reality.
Yeah, I did. My entire cube was covered. I, you know, people used to come by and be like,
what's going on over here? And I was, to me, like I said, it made me happy. It made me more
motivated than kind of looking at, oh, hit this quota or whatever, because I was starting to translate.
What it would mean if I hit the quota. I was like, hey, if I hit that quota, I can take my
send a Hawaii, you know, for vacation. That would be amazing. We could quota, I was like, hey, if I hit that quota, I can take my send a Hawaii, you know, for vacation,
that would be amazing. We could swim with turtles, like, when
that'd be cool, right? So as soon as they started doing that, it
was like flipping a magic switch. It was really crazy. So it
did two things. One was it started creating naturally, because
there's looking at it and kind of imagining the moments
throughout the day, that started creating a natural
motivation in me, right?
It's almost like a fire that gets stoked all day long.
And so the more that fire was stoked,
the more I was like, oh my god, I have to get this.
I will find a way, right?
So that means I'm working extra hard.
That means I'm bringing in more deals.
That means I'm doing 1% more, 10% more than everybody else. I'm staying up late nights, you know, learning
the product or whatever. So I want to be clear that it's not about just like sitting
on a couch and, you know, wanting to win the lottery. This is very, very different.
This is very personal. So once you've kind of identified what it is that you want and
you start obsessing about it and you start kind of identified what it is that you want and you start
obsessing about it and you start thinking about it, it does this magical thing and it turns on your fire and it pulls you every
single day to your dreams. And about a year and a half after he left, so about a year after I made the board, my You put him out. He didn't leave. Let's speak exactly. Exactly. Let's be straight about that.
Yes, yes. My first big, big manifestation came to life, which was I had had in the center
of the board a picture of Times Square. And I'd written on the picture, New York City
baby, and about a year after that, I was in New York on a business trip. My first kind of all expense paid week long business trip for a conference in New York.
And I was having a stranger take my picture.
And all of a sudden it just felt very deja vu.
And I was like, wait a second.
What is happening?
And that was kind of the first moment that I was like, holy crap.
Like this started as a thought
back before I even had a job.
So it was kind of that moment where I knew it wasn't random.
I also knew other people could look at it
and be like, yeah, that's called a business trip.
Lots of people have them and I was like, hmm.
This is different.
I just knew that I had made it happen in whatever way.
And that got me on a quest to figure out how to do it more and more and more.
I love the story of your transformation.
It's so inspirational because now you're like a bestselling author.
Like I mentioned, like you've appeared on so many different television shows and podcasts, you know,
you've made such a name for yourself. I want to talk about your first book because you've got this HBR method hustle believe receive.
I'd love for you to help us understand like how you got to the point where you were ready to write a book.
Like how did that happen where you actually, because to write a book and get picked up, you need to have some sort of a following and people need to be interested in you unless you just did an appendant so i'd love to hear that.
So that first board this was like two thousand ten i
A bunch of stuff started coming to life right after the new york i mean we're talking in three months about.
15 things on my board came to life so So, you know, I went from completely having
nothing, being on food stamps to, I was box seats at Nix Games and like, you know, just
living this crazy, crazy alternative life that I was kind of felt a little bit like Cinderella
dropped into someone else's life, you know? And that's when I kind of started sharing it. I was like, oh, you should, like something
that I'm doing is working.
And this is, you know, when I put it out
and this is, and I started doing side-by-side pictures
because I never thought it would work.
I'm gonna be honest.
I never thought it would work.
I put the pictures up because they made me feel good.
So when it started working,
I was like, no one's gonna believe this. What are are you inside by side pictures? So I started taking pictures of myself living the moment
and then doing like a side by side of a picture of my board. And then so I call it like my reality,
my future board, my reality board. So on Pinterest, if anyone wants to go see
of tons of examples on my reality board on Pinterest,
because I just thought no one will ever believe this.
It will be too crazy.
So I kind of started doing it as a proof log,
almost turned into a blog.
And people around the world started reading it
and reaching out to me.
And so I kind of started, you mentioned side hustle
in the beginning of our conversation when we were off air.
And I, man, I did the side hustle for a long time.
I kind of did it.
The blog as just my own release.
I didn't think much of it.
I was working full-time in corporate,
taking care of my little kids, you know.
And the blog was kind of a release,
but it really took off.
And it had about four million views a year.
By the time I was like, okay, I've got to turn this into something.
That was huge back then.
Yeah, I was a big number back then.
And it came to this place where I wasn't a necessity
because I was responding to so many of the same type of questions, right?
And I was like, dude, I just need like,
animal length, like here's all the answers or whatever. And so on a treadmill one day, I was like, dude, I just need like handable length of like, here's all the answers or whatever.
And so on a treadmill one day, I was like, oh my God, it's the HBR method.
What are the steps I took? And I ran home and I worked out the eight steps.
And then I thought, who's going to, who's going to listen to me?
I'm a single mom from Oregon, like, and I started reaching out to my network.
And by then I had made some amazing connections
with some super successful people.
And so there's 50 stories of people
from professional athletes, touchers,
to entrepreneurs, to millionaires,
to people just starting out on their dreams.
And it turns out we've all done the same things.
Those eight steps showed up in every one of our stories.
So that's what I knew.
I was like, okay, we're on to something here
because it's pretty magical.
Yeah, would it be too hard for you to rattle off
those eight steps?
Do you know them by heart?
So yeah, we start out with a dream, just like I did, right?
You have to have a dream.
You have to know where you're going
before anything can happen.
So start visualizing whatever your outcome is.
And here's the cool part, the HBR method,
how I teach it mostly is for your whole life.
But the awesome thing is you can use it
for one specific thing.
So I use the whole method to run a marathon
as a non-runner.
So you can use it for both, right?
So dream it.
And then number two is think it.
You gotta watch your mindset.
And people talk a lot about mindset right now.
But very few people are teaching you how to permanently
change your mindset and to change your belief system.
And I feel honestly like I've kind of cracked the code
on that.
I use three very basic simple, simple tools
that work incredibly well, that help you align
your mindset with your dreams.
They're both going in the same direction.
And then number three is say it. So guys, girls, you gotta watch your words, man,
because your words are so predictive. They are so, so, so predictive.
And then we have write it. And I kind of break that down into a plan as well.
Like, okay, now what do I do? I have this big
huge dream, but there's a big gap between where I am today and where I want to go. So what are some
things I can start kind of moving the needle on? And then five is see it. So that's where our
future board comes in. We're really turning all of that work into visuals so that it's around us.
And then we have do it. Okay, what do I start doing today?
How do I start making this dream happen?
And then seven is believe it.
And really, and believe it, if you've done all these steps,
by the time you get there, you do believe that it's possible.
You are all in. So believe it is really about how we
manage the things that could destroy our
confidence or just destroy our belief and our ability to make it happen, which are like
our crew, the people around us, right? And how to get through a diversity, how to overcome
an obstacle. And then our last one is live it. So how do we continue to up our game all
the time, right? So that we understand this is not the destination,
it's not the achievement of the one thing.
It is a lifetime commitment to up leveling yourself.
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First of all, I love the fact that this is like so actionable.
A lot of people talk manifestation,
but they give no kind of guide to how to get there.
So you've made it really actionable in your first book,
hustle, believe, receive.
So you guys should all go check that out
and you've got tons of articles out there about this topic.
So I would encourage everybody to go check out those resources.
But I have a few questions in terms of some
of these specific steps.
First of all, there's a lot of people out there
who have trouble with step one, which is dreaming.
They're pessimistic.
They're realistic.
They've been taught that being unrealistic is bad and that they need to kind of stay in
their lane.
It's almost like they've been programmed since they were younger to believe that, you know,
the biggest goal you could have is like to be a lawyer or a doctor or something, you
know, and like anything outside of that is just so ambitious, it's wrong.
And they're afraid to dream because they're judging themselves
by these internal beliefs.
And then they're also afraid of other people judging themselves
for dreaming too big.
And truth be told, when you do have ambitious dreams,
when I first wanted to start a podcast,
everybody told me I was crazy.
Everybody told me it will never work.
You already tried this once before, you failed.
Everybody told me that I was ruining my career
and that how could you ruin,
people would die for your job that you have,
how could you be so selfish?
And I just ignored them.
And I'm so glad that I did
because otherwise I would not be following my passions
right now.
And so it does go against the green and bad.
So talk to us about how we start off with step one,
just the simplest step, which is
dream and being okay with dreaming.
Yeah, you're so right.
And I think that came up a lot for me in the second book, because by then I'd been doing
a ton of coaching and workshops.
And I remember distinctly I was in one workshop and I was having everybody do this exercise
that's meant to help you dream big, because like said lots of people can't right so you know by them answering these questions on on their big what ifs it kind of helps break the box out a little bit.
And I'm a natural dreamer I think if you are a natural dreamer you know you are right you've probably been told that your whole life. And so I was like, isn't this the best thing ever? And I got this total 50, 50 response,
where half the audience was like,
yes, I could have written forever.
The other half was that was horrible.
Like that was terrifying.
You know, I felt very uncomfortable, whatever.
And that was the moment I realized that for the most part,
people kind of fall into, you know, two groups.
One is a thinker, which is kind of more
the analytical, you know, loves to spreadsheet, loves to Google at that type. And then the other
can be any spectrum of the dreamer to the point where they have never achieved anything and they
only dream, or they hopefully can kind of meet in the middle. And so that became a very big deal.
Once I kind of realized that then I understood how to teach the skill set to each group,
because we have to have both.
You had to have both in order to get where you're at, right?
You had to have the vision, which was strong enough to get you through any obstacles or
negative, you know, feedback.
But you also had a thinker mindset in the way that you could execute on it.
Like you could figure it out, you could bring in people, whatever the case is.
But a lot of people kind of don't have those medium of skill sets.
So I think there's two things.
One, if you're a dreamer, you have to give yourself permission to dream the same way a person who doesn't dream.
Right? Because you probably have a lot of almost shame, like you said.
We really can carry a lot of those voices, like you said. We really can carry
a lot of those voices from even childhood who told us that was stupid or ridiculous. Stop sharing
your dreams, right? So I think giving yourself the permission to, like Obama says, have you
destiny to dream? Have the host to dream? Have the bravery to dream? Because that's what it is.
It takes bravery to imagine that you could be living
an experience that no one you know is living. And that is very scary. And if you're dreaming big
enough, that should be the case. You should kind of look around at everyone you know and no one's
there, right? Because if what you're going for is what everyone else is at, you're not pushing the
envelope big enough. So there's definitely some kind of tools.
I'm big on homework, so both my books have homework.
I have a workbook that helps ask those questions
because a lot of times people don't know how to get there.
You know what I mean?
They don't know how to ask themselves the questions
that kind of peel back their own layers a little bit.
But you've got to get to a place where I'm never going to live
something that I haven't first identified. And to me, once I realized that, I was
like, listen, I don't want that, I don't even want a risk of not living it,
right? And if you think back to anything that you're proud of that you've
accomplished in your life, it started with that vision, it started with that dream.
And we never just step into living something
that we weren't brave enough to claim
and to put out into the world of whatever way.
So I think there's definitely blocks
that a lot of us have,
but you have to be brave enough to push past those
and say, you know what, I deserve it.
I want it.
I'm going for it.
And I love the fact that you're saying like there's a spectrum to all of this.
Like, you don't have to be like on the edge of the dream or spectrum where you get nothing
done.
Like, you actually want to be in the middle of both so that you can accomplish things.
I feel like it's so true.
There's so many people out there who dream and never get anything done who think
to the point of inaction and don't ever start anything.
But you need to figure out how to get better
at those specific skills, because they are life skills.
And I think they're honestly some of the most
important life skills that often don't get talked about.
So there's other parts to this eight steps
that I want to dig in.
So a couple of those steps are all about like saying it out loud, seeing it with the future
boards that you were talking about.
And we're kind of getting, we're going to start getting into your second book, Future
Boards, as we talk about all this stuff.
So what's the importance of actually saying it out loud, seeing what you're thinking about?
Why do we need to kind of make it real in that way?
Like what does that do to us mentally,
or like, how does that impact us?
Well, there's two really powerful parts to our words, right?
To say it.
The first part is most people are going
about their life speaking into their life,
all the outcomes they actually do not want.
So they're saying things like, you know, what if I fail?
What if, you know, no one shows up for me blah, blah, blah.
So they're actually giving voice to those fears sometimes over and over and over again,
or they're complaining or whatever.
So that whole piece of it, I'm going to call that the negative side, right?
We got to shut that down as equally as we need to then start proactively
speaking about outcomes we want. And that part can be scary again if, especially if you're a dreamer
and you've shared dreams with people in your life, honestly, they probably don't want to hear it
anymore. So that's great. Let's not tell them anymore. Let's show them. Let's make it happen. Let's let our
actions speak for themselves. And then let's find a couple like mine and people who I can kind of
verbalize my dreams with that can help give me ideas, right? But a couple amazing things happen
when we start talking about our dreams, especially in the right circles. It starts to open opportunities,
right? You never know if the person, you know,
you're talking to at the airport about what you do,
you know, has the connection that you've been kind of waiting for.
So that doesn't happen if you're keeping it all to yourself.
If you're afraid to kind of verbalize it.
Also, you do not get that accountability
if you're not willing to say it, right?
So for you, you know, back when you
started your podcast, you can have the idea, you can kind of work silently at a certain point,
you got to tell people you have a podcast, right? You got to put it out there, you got to really
like own it. And that can be a very scary step for a lot of people. So there's lots of ways to
quote unquote say it back in the day, I use social media because I didn't really have a crew.
But I knew that if I put something on social media
and said I was gonna do it, it was end of story.
Like, there was no way.
There was no way I was gonna like eat crow on that.
Like, it's accountability.
I did that with my podcast.
I remember in front of all my coworkers,
we were saying our New Year's resolution,
and I announced it, I was starting a podcast,
and then I wrote it on social media, and I announced it, and that was my account. I knew
I was doing that on purpose, because I knew that I would stick with it. So something that
I don't really do is vision boards. I've never done it. I've never actually, you inspired
me. I was thinking, I'm going to make a future board now after reading your material.
I love it. And I do a lot of speaking into existence.
I always say stuff like, oh, I'm going to be the female Tim Ferris.
And I always said that.
I'm going to be the next Gary Vee in terms of my agency.
Or people call me the next Oprah.
And I'll say that now.
And that's my way of envisioning the future.
I'm actually not very good at envisioning what I I'm gonna be when I'm, you know,
45 years old.
Like I don't, I have no idea because if you had asked me
last year, I would have been like, no way.
Like you know what I mean?
All this is not gonna have like, you know,
a lot of this podcast growth really happened in one year.
Like we're just blew up.
And so I guess how do you get better
at visioning far out in the future?
Like I can tell you what my goals are for this year and maybe the next three years,
but then further than that, it gets really foggy.
And I almost am worried about putting myself in a box.
I know manifestation is so powerful and I don't want to only manifest just something small.
I want it to be as big as possible.
So I almost feel scared to kind of manifest anything because I might be putting a limit on myself.
Because for example, if you asked me, last year,
do you think your podcast would be,
get X amount of downloads?
I would have been like, no way that's impossible.
I only get this amount right now.
So to 2,000X, it makes no sense not gonna happen.
Like, you know?
Yeah, yeah.
No, that's such a good point.
And I think, especially when you know. Yeah, yeah. No, that's such a good point. And I think especially when you have
exponential growth, right, growth that happens really quickly, which is very similar to that first
future board for me, right? It was all of a sudden, it was like a kind of woke up and I would say
about 70% of that board came to life within about a year. So and there was crazy stuff on there.
And now everything on that board has
manifested, except for O'Brush. So that original board, everything but one picture has come to life.
And so I think it's really important. That's why I teach people to do this work every single year.
If not every six months. Honestly, I think every six months and, you know, and tell you really get it down because you have to push yourself, right?
And if you sat down and did your first board,
your brain has certain limits to various things, right?
And in your career specifically,
that's probably the place you've pushed the limits the most
because you think about it the most, right?
And so you're starting to kind of imagine,
oh, you know, what if this became a send-in kit a talk show, what if I had books, what, you know, so you're starting to
kind of see some, some possibility of where it can go. So if you can identify
those, the ones that are the most unrealistic is what I want you to go with.
Like go with the ones that you're like, I see no path to that shit.
I have no idea how that's happening, right? So because that's perfect, because
that means that you've stretched the limit.
It's like a balloon, right?
You hit the limit.
But if you're around that picture and thinking about,
oh, what would it be like?
The first day I'm filming my show
and, you know, like I'm in the makeup chair
and the lights go on and the audience is out there
and you're starting to live these moments, right?
That creates desire, that creates fire,
that creates, I'm gonna start thinking about it,
I'm gonna start talking about it,
the opportunities are gonna start coming, right?
Yeah, wait, I wanna pause there because
what you're saying, this is a big important part.
You wanna actually have a story.
You wanna pretend you are the movie director
of your own movie and actually think about
being in the situation.
Just not the end goal, like I want to be on the Oprah show.
What's that lead up to being on the Oprah show?
Like you said, getting ready, getting your makeup done, making it feel more real.
Why is that so powerful having that story?
Oh my God.
Thank you so much for catching that because it is everything.
So what I teach is moments and experiences over things.
So old school vision boards would have, you know,
a picture of a mansion, a picture of a sports car,
or whatever, right, random stuff.
I don't care about that.
I want you to build the whole life out, right?
Because as soon as you start imagining a moment,
our natural brain begins to get a motion
attached to it, right, and begins to get desire and want and all of all the emotions you need
to get this whole thing moving, right? And if you just have a random picture or something,
it does not do that at all. Or even if you just have the written goal, I want a talk show,
let's say. And I have no idea if this is your goal.
I'm just going to kind of make you an app, right?
But let's say that is, and you've written it down,
that's a very different and it's very static, right?
It's a sentence, basically, right?
But as soon as you start walking through moments
and taking the time to create moments
and really thinking about, okay,
if I just signed a deal for a talk show,
what would be happening in my life today?
My phone would be ringing off the hook.
I'd be working with Wardrobe.
I'd be working with producers to figure out what guests are going to be on, what shows
would I be going on to talk about that.
So literally your life changes.
People don't think about any of this stuff, right?
They just say, I want this goal.
I want to check this goal.
You have to really start building it
as a day in the life, almost.
As soon as you start to do that,
you'll know immediately if that dreams for you or not, right?
Because if you can walk through what it would be like
to be the host of a nationally syndicated talk show,
let's say, in your head,
and by the time you walk through the whole day,
you're on fire, and you're like, oh my God, cannot wait.
I see the whole thing of the super excited,
or you're like, man, that just is not gonna be my jam.
I wanna go a different way.
Maybe I wanna write a book, right?
So there's a beautiful thing that happens
when you can construct any dream
into a moment, into a visual,
it helps you from day one custom build it, truly.
Yeah, so let's stick on building the perfect future board
and kind of the do's and don'ts.
And first of all, why don't you talk about the difference
between a traditional vision board?
Cause I think everybody has heard of that
and a future board, What's the difference there?
Yeah, so there's so many.
But one of the biggest, biggest ones is vision boards,
the way that they've been done for 40 years,
hasn't really changed that much, right?
Until future boards.
You just cut out some magazine pictures
and put it on my husband's magic.
So if you think about that from a logical perspective,
and you know what you want in your head, right?
You have some dreams identified in your head.
And let's say you went to Barnes and Ability,
bought out every single magazine on the stand
and you spent 500 bucks on magazines.
What is the chance that your dreams,
your life that you've created in your head
is gonna show up on those pages for you to cut out?
Like zero, right? You know, that's basically like turning our dreams your life that you've created in your head is going to show up on those pages for you to cut out like zero
Right, you know that's basically like turning our dreams over to editors and magazines. That's insane
So how we teach future boards is Pinterest is the largest
photography
search engine
Library on the planet and what I love about Pinterest pictures is that for the most part,
they, or you can definitely find them anyway, they convey a moment. They convey an emotion.
They convey an action. And so let's say I want to manifest the love of my life, and
I want to get married or something, right? Again, rather than just writing those words down where it stays very static,
I wanna start thinking, what does love look like to me?
What are some visuals that I think of
when I think of actually being in the relationship?
And how love is expressed on a day to day basis.
So I go on Pinterest that I'm like,
couple holding hands, photography,
which is the big trick right there.
And you start to see all of these images
that are starting to click with your brain, right?
Because your brain had it first.
And so what your brain is looking for on the screen
is its match.
It's almost like memory match, right?
And you'll know it when you see it.
And when you do, you're like, ah, that's my moment.
That's the one I'd take a picture of
if I was living it, right?
It expresses the feeling. And so it changes everything. I mean, that right there alone is
so vastly different than anything we were doing 40 years ago with vision boards. So if every picture
on there conveys a moment you want to live that is authentic to who you are, that you know is aligned with your
happiness, and that is the biggest version of your dream. Then you wind up with a visual that
might have just behind me as you can see here that you're surrounded with all day long,
that has a constant reminder of what you're working towards. This is the life you're building.
This is why it matters.
And it just changes everything.
It custom creates your life.
And it brings these moments and these experiences
into your life in the most magical and surprising ways
as you're working towards your dreams.
And so I know that you also divide everything up
into like five categories, right?
And you've got other dusing notes, like don't use quotes and things like that. So talk to us about some of those
things.
Yeah. So the five categories are really important. This is kind of how I know when people are
tagging me on social, if it's actually a future board, if they're following the rules
or not, because I believe that we actually can live a balanced life. I believe that we can have it all
and I believe that we should.
But it doesn't just happen.
It's like everything else.
It has to be intentional
and we have to first decide what it is we want.
So one of the categories is mind and body.
What are my goals and aspirations around
how I physically look and take care of myself.
Also, how am I feeding my brain?
How am I relaxing my brain?
Those things are equally as important.
They hold the same weight as our career category, which is where you can put all of your ambitions.
So that's a great place to put cover a magazine or whatever some of your goals are. And then our wealth and abundance is much more about
when money is absolutely no object.
How do I spend that money?
So I'm looking at it top down versus,
I want, I want, I want.
So we're looking at it from a abundance mindset
and saying, how does that abundance show up for me,
which is different for every single person, right?
And see, we have passions and joys,
which is one that most people don't spend any time
really focusing on, but is super important
for stress relief, for practicing happiness.
And that's all about doing the little things that,
you know, a lot of times we wouldn't put weight behind.
For me, it's photography or cooking or writing a horse or whatever.
So it's kind of what we used to maybe call hobbies in the old days.
But these are the things that you actually enjoy
that serve a really important purpose in our life.
So yeah, you'll want to define best-case scenario
and every one of those categories on your board.
What's really interesting to me when talking to you about manifestation is that
like you haven't said like the word universe one time.
Yeah.
And you don't really talk about it in spiritual terms.
Like it's really about inspiring yourself.
Yeah. In fact, I have to say like after that first board came to life,
then I started kind of looking around and seeing what was out there,
and I did not resonate with any of the stuff out there.
I was like, what the?
I'm not a new AG person, I'm not into all that stuff.
And I didn't see anybody breaking it down in real terms.
How does a real person do this?
And so for me, it's always been really important
because I don't think it's mystical, honestly. I think it's a formula for success that's been
around since the dawn of time that every successful person I've ever met does these things.
They've figured out how to do these things and they do them naturally. But guess what? If you've
never done any of them, you can get the formula, follow it step by step, and you do them naturally. But guess what? If you've never done any of them, you
can get the formula, follow it step by step, and you'll get those same results. So that
was really important to me to be able to like break it down in a normal way that like
a five year old could get it. And you just start applying it, and it freaking works. Like
it works crazy. So yeah.
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I'd love to hear like what's the craziest thing that you've manifested so far that like you can't believe that like you thought of it you put it on your future board and it came true. What's an example of like a crazy thing that happened.
true. What's an example of like a crazy thing that happened?
Oh my god. So, so, so many. I'll give you just a couple of the highlights and then I'll finish with a very special one right now. So, I would say most far-fetched one, if you will, was flying
on a private jet. I put that on my second or third board because at that point, I'd run out of things,
you know, however, it's hard to have dreaming big. I had pushed the, like I'd popped the balloon.
I didn't know where else to go.
I was like, man, I literally can't think of anything else
because so much manifested,
manifested three boards in about two and a half years.
So like my life was dramatically different.
So I was like, okay, I'm gonna put the one thing
that I truly think will never happen on my board.
And if this happens, then I know I'm kind of a matter of work.
And that happened probably less than a year.
I want to say like eight or nine months after I put it on there.
Yeah, I had my first flight on a private jet.
But I mean, everything from getting two traditional book deals.
I mean, my latest book was in Target's nationwide
and was published by Simon and Schuster.
Those are all things that I was a girl
who taught myself to read at 15 years old
and had this blog that was full of misspellings
and all kinds of stuff.
So something as crazy as that,
that everyone said there's no way you're gonna get that.
That was a big one. But one that's
really, really special to me is my son manifesting his ultimate dream. I started taking him to Oregon
Duck games. We live in Oregon when he was six years old and he has had his room covered in organ duck stuff since Tito's six years old.
And on Saturday, I moved him down to Eugene, and he is playing football for the organ ducks.
Wow.
And yesterday, he was sharing all the pictures of the first time he walked through the tunnel,
and onto this, yes.
And I have a video of him at seven years old,
you know, standing by the tunnel, watching the players walk through and there's a locker in the
Yovo-Duk locker room with his name on it. So, I mean, that's honestly the one that means the most,
because you know, it's amazing to manifest your own stuff, but to watch your kid manifest their
ultimate dream is there's not that amazing.
That makes me feel like crying. I don't know why it's a beautiful story. I've been crying for three days just
me. I don't know why. Why, that means I'm so emotional with it. It's so great. I think the real lesson
in here is that there's nothing called luck. It's like luck is just like you create your
own luck. And I think the whole talk about manifestation and saying things out loud and
looking at it, it's just getting yourself a little bit more clear to the things that
you ultimately want. And then when the opportunities come your way or obstacles come your way,
you see the opportunities that you otherwise
would be blind to.
That's how I always like amount to how I got successful.
It's because I started to really believe it was possible.
And every time I've honestly believed that life is limitless and that my dreams are possible,
that's when I've always been successful.
I've definitely had like stagnant periods in my life where I thought that all I could
be is a corporate worker,
and that's all I did. There was definitely years like that. But then as soon as I remembered
who I really was and what I really wanted and started to believe in myself, then all of a sudden,
all these opportunities started to pop up. It takes a lot of hustle, hard work, long hours. It's
not going to happen by accident, but it's not luck.
It's not the universe bringing it to you.
You're going out and getting it, right?
So I think that's the difference
that people need to understand.
Absolutely.
And I would say that everything that I've ever
manifested that was meaningful,
that was those big highlights.
My son included, you have gone through a ton of disappointment to get there.
So, I mean, he had a complete ACL reconstruction surgery
his sophomore year of high school.
He broke his ankle, his freshman year.
He was out his, you know, so he had every possible obstacle.
He wound up recruiting himself, you know, like he put in
insane amount of hassle, he transformed his own himself, you know, like he put in insane amount of hustle he transformed his own body, you know, so like
Yeah, you do not get from the place of like, oh, I wish that could happen to you know
Now I'm an organ back. There's a lot that goes into it
Just like there was you know to writing a book just like there was for you to do your podcast, right?
But I think the difference is, is when you have that dream
and you accept it, right?
And you have passed the place where there's turning back.
And you're in, and you want it more than you want
anything else.
Like, you are in.
It's called relentless pursuit.
And it kind of almost doesn't matter what the world throws
at you.
You're like, bitch, I'm not going down.
Like, it's just a matter of time.
Like, I'm sorry.
I'm not going down, you know, like, I will get to it.
When you start hitting some of those goals, it becomes addictive to just feel
and then the adversity start to become less of an issue because you're like, well, this has happened before
and I've gotten through this.
And so I also think it's like the experience
and the momentum that you get from everything.
And the confidence builds in the journey,
absolutely, just 10%.
All of those things are your best teacher.
I mean, they're what make you more committed,
they're what make your goal and your dream clearer. So you have to have it. I mean, people get well frustrated
and they quit in those, but it's getting through them that gets you to the place where you
could handle the success, where you could actually shine in the success. And without kind of
all those lessons along the way, you know, lots of people face plant when they get their moment.
And so it helps you kind of accept the journey a little bit more.
100%.
I always talk about how every single failure is your little stepping stone to becoming
successful on all the experience that you learned is preparing you for who you're
supposed to be in the end or at some point in your journey, all these things that you learned, even if they were fails, like failures, you learn these
skills and then you bring them on later on and kind of use them and do something wonderful.
So last question I have for you before we kind of close out the show is there's definitely
people out there, especially people who listen to this podcast, who are manifesting their
careers, but they're having are manifesting their careers.
But they're having trouble manifesting things like their love life.
And so they're really successful in one area of their life, whatever that is, maybe it's
relationships, maybe it's money, maybe like they're thriving in one part of their lives.
And then one part of their lives just seems to always be the same story.
Maybe their partners change, but it's always picking a bad partner, for example,
or like maybe they wanna get married,
but they never end up getting married,
even though they're in relationships, whatever it may be.
I would love to hear your thought on like how to break a cycle
that just keeps happening.
Yeah, oh my gosh, there's so much that I couldn't pack on that,
but the first thing that I wanna say is
that is one of the reasons why I want everybody
to really focus on those five categories
because there's gonna be two categories in there
that you probably never thought of.
So everybody has their career one
kind of fleshed out a little bit.
They might have their relationship one,
whether it's family or whatever.
And then maybe have some goals around finance,
but maybe they're not
taking care of themselves, or maybe they're super stressed out, and they actually hate the
life they're building.
And so it is really important to kind of look at and say, hey, I want a full life.
I want every day between now and the upload to be an enjoyable journey.
Like I want to love it from here to there, right?
I'm not waiting for anything to love it.
And that's a big piece of it.
But I think the first piece to breaking any cycle
is to get real with yourself
and to start looking at your past, right?
I call this inventory, take inventory.
Like what is it that you're doing?
If you don't know what you're doing,
maybe incorrectly or repetitively in a way that isn't
serving you, how can you change it?
You can't, right?
You're automatically going to manifest the same outcome over and over again.
So sit down and be quiet with yourself, get a journal, get a piece of paper, and start
writing it down.
And let's say if it's in the relationship thing, say,
let me do quick inventory on my last three relationships.
Like, what were the dynamics?
What was their initial attraction?
Where were my first red flags?
Did I listen to those red flags or not?
Was I paying attention to my intuition?
Or was I arguing with it and just moving forward anyway?
And if you can kind of do that, even just
bullets, right? You're going to start to see the pattern emerge and the pieces that can
and should be changed, right? And a lot of times it can come down to, hey, I saw some
pretty big red flags and I intentionally ignored them. I intentionally pushed through
them. And so that teaches you, man,
I'm not listening to my intuition.
I better start figuring that out.
I better start getting quiet and paying attention to it
and acting on it because it's engineered
and every single one of us humans for a reason.
And it's magical.
It is our internal life coach. If we'd listen to it, we're
going to be so much happier and make such better decisions. But yeah, I think the first
step is just being really, really honest and kind of looking for those patterns. And once
you find them, then you can start to put a plan together to change them.
I love that advice. And I think it's it's so true. I think also if you're doing really
well in one part of your life, it's probably because you're thinking and you're obsessed with it.
You know what I mean? Exactly. You're just obsessed with that one part of your life. So that's
keeps thriving. And then other parts of your life are in decline because you're not thinking about it.
You're not reflecting on that stuff. You're not thinking about that stuff, spending time on that stuff.
So I think that totally makes sense. And I think it does make sense to kind of evaluate
those five pillars that you said and really spend time on becoming a more full person.
Absolutely. Absolutely.
Okay, this is such a great conversation. I could talk about manifestation forever. So the
last question that we ask all of our guests,
and this is your opportunity to throw in any sort of last gem
that maybe we didn't get to talk about,
is what is your secret to profiting in life?
Whew.
Ah, gosh.
I would say two things.
One, identifying that you do want whatever it is. Something better, more money, the career,
the job, whatever the thing is. So getting to a place where you allow yourself to want it is really
big. And then the second piece that has been really pivotable for me, especially when it comes to
financial manifestations and abundance manifestations is removing some of those limiting beliefs, like identifying what they are and changing them.
And instead of kind of putting those into the world or me has just changed everything when it comes to
you know, profiting and becoming more abundant in general in all areas of my life.
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