Young and Profiting with Hala Taha - YAPLive: Influence and Negotiation Masterclass Live On Clubhouse with David Meltzer, Heather Monahan, Jayson Waller and Jennifer Cohen | Uncut Version

Episode Date: February 5, 2021

In today's episode Hala is hosting a live Clubhouse event, with some of the most prominent leaders in podcasting, business, and negotiation tactics!   Hala is talking with Jennifer Cohen, a fitness personality, author and body image consultant, Heather Monahan, CEO and founder of Boss in Heels, Jayson Waller, CEO and founder of Powerhome Solar, David Meltzer, the co-founder of Sports 1 marketing and former CEO of Leigh Steinburgh Sports & Entertainment Agency, and a special appearance by Alexandra Carter, author and clinical professor of law and director of the Meditation Clinic at Columbia Law School.   They discuss everything from who their biggest inspirations were, how to best launch your podcast, and so much more! You don't want to miss this masterclass in podcasting, negotiation and confidence!   Social Media:   Follow YAP on IG: www.instagram.com/youngandprofiting Reach out to Hala directly at [e-mail] Follow Hala on Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Follow Hala on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yapwithhala Check out our website to meet the team, view show notes and transcripts: www.youngandprofiting.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Welcome to the show. I'm your host, Halataha, and on Young and Profiting Podcast, we investigate a new topic each week and interview some of the brightest minds in the world. My goal is to turn their wisdom into actionable advice that you can use in your everyday life, no matter your age, profession, or industry. There's no fluff on this podcast, and that's on purpose. I'm here to uncover value from my guests

by doing the proper research and asking the right questions. If you're new to the show, we've chatted with the likes of XFBI agents, real estate moguls, self-made billionaires, CEOs, and bestselling authors. Our subject matter ranges from enhanced in productivity, had to gain influence, the art of entrepreneurship, and more. If you're smart and like to continually improve yourself, hit the subscribe button, because you'll love it here at Young and Profiting Podcast. So welcome everybody. This is Young and Profiting. We're doing a

YAP live on Clubhouse. This is going to be a master class on how to gain influence and win any negotiation. And so we've got some amazing speakers coming on today. Jason Waller, he's the CEO of Power Home Solar. He's a billionaire Jennifer Cohen, she is a huge fitness influencer, Heather Monahan here who is the confidence creator, best selling author, major speaker, keynote speaker, David Meltzer, he is the CEO of sports marketing one, and then also John Lee Doombas, he's one of the biggest podcasters out there. So super excited to have all of these folks with us.

It's gonna be a conversation slash Q&A. And so it will be a guided conversation by me, especially once more of the moderators come on. And then, you know, we're gonna be asking questions from the audience. So if you have any questions on Hat again, an influence or win a negotiation, please raise your hand. And you'll be one of the first

to answer your questions. So start raising your hand so I can get you guys up on stage. And while we're getting our few folks in, while people are getting in here, I'm gonna just kick off the conversation with Heather. So Heather, let's talk about influence. And I think this is something that you know a lot about. And really, a big part of it is just being likable.

A big part of it is first impressions, right? And I personally feel that a first impression can almost last a lifetime with someone. And if you make a great first impression, you've made a great influence on that person and they'll think of you in a high regard. So let me hear your thoughts about first impressions and then I'll share mine as well. Sure, you know, obviously first impressions are important, but the most important thing is really being yourself. You know, when you show up as

the most true real version of yourself, you're going to have the most connection with somebody else. Oftentimes I see people, if they're nervous or they're trying to dress a way that they typically wouldn't dress because they're trying to impress someone, if you're not somebody else, that always backfires. And I've seen it happen so many times versus when someone just shows up, you know, dress the way they like, the way they like to wear their hair and, you know, the colors they like. And when you show up as yourself, you really begin to connect with people and influence

all begins with that, you know, initial connection, whether it's the first time you meet or, you know, whenever you're spending time with somebody. Yeah. So I totally agree. They say that a first impression, it takes like 14 seconds for somebody to make a first impression on you. And then it will take years to break that initial first impression. And so one of my favorite authors, his name is Dr. Jack Shaffer. He was actually the first person to ever come on Young Improfiting podcast, he taught me something called an eyebrow flash head tilt

and a smile. And basically that, you know, when you see somebody for the first time, you want to walk straight up and then you want to tilt your head, flash your eyebrows, and give them a smile, and tilting your head and actually showing that part of your neck that, you know, is really, it's like basically showing, like in the animal world, it's like showing that part of your neck that is really, it's like basically showing,

like in the animal world, it's like showing that part of your neck means that you trust somebody so much that like they could basically like kill you because that artery in your neck is so important. And so when you tilt your head, your neck, it like, you know, people just trust you more.

So that's a tip, a head tilt, eyebrow flash and a smile. Well, what that's really based in vulnerability, right? And any time that you are vulnerable and you show up to a conversation, explaining, oh my gosh, I just had the worst morning, and here's what's going on, and sharing that, you know, honest, real transparent version of yourself, that's exposing your example of that, that portion of the the neck and there's so many ways to do that and that's one of the fastest ways to really connect with people. Yeah I love that so Jennifer Cohen has joined. Hi Jennifer do you want to just introduce yourself? Absolutely I'm interested in forming. I'm Jennifer nice to meet you guys. Heather I

heard a lot about you nice to meet you kind of nice to meet you. I just wanted to add a little piece to what you. I just wanted to add a little piece to what you guys were just saying. First impressions I think are important, but what I think is even more important are last impressions because when you meet somebody, the last thing that they're going to remember after they meet you is that last 20 seconds of how you made them feel. I think actually first impressions could actually be changed throughout that experience. If you're and your last impression is usually much more effective to how that person like I said for like remember you by. Yeah, I think I think that's a really, really amazing point. So awesome. Today if you guys are newly joining this room,

we had a little bit of tech difficulties. There was two rooms somehow open, but we've got the other one closed. And now we are recording a live session for Young & Profiting podcasts. It's on Hat again Influence and Win and Enegotiation. We're going to have amazing speakers coming in and out for the next hour and a half. David Meltzer, John Lee, Duma, Jason Waller. Everyone's going to be showing up. All right, so let's keep the conversation going. We talked about first impressions. Let's talk about how to gain influence when it comes to social media and an online brand. Both you, Jennifer and Heather, you guys have amazing

online brands. Heather, you are one of the biggest influencers on LinkedIn. Jennifer, you are crushing it on Instagram. So talk to us about gaining influence online. Is it different than real life? Influence. What do you guys think about that? So yeah, so basically I was going to say that number one,

I think that online offline, very, very different. I think like to what Heather was saying about first impression, I think it's very similar to even gaining a following on Instagram or anything as being authentic. People can sense and feel when you're just ingenuous, when it's fake. And the people who usually gain the most traction and really kind of grow organically is when they're just being real and showing their life as it is. Because I think a lot of times we, what happens a lot of times we go on social media, we post a very

small sliver of our life and the best version of it, which I think has a lot of other, you know, it can be very damaging a lot to other people who see that and then judge themselves and compare themselves to that. I think by just being true and being real and showing the ugly as well is what people are really gravitate to. I mean, LinkedIn is a whole different animal. You guys can share on that. I really haven't spent much time beyond just very superficially that, but that's how I feel anyway when it comes to Instagram. For giving them information, I should also say that is valuable. So not just vanity things, a picture,

selfies, things like that, but things that people can actually like gain any site and valuable information, be it in the health space, in the business space, whatever that is, give people something that they haven't maybe yet have heard or seen. Yeah, I love that Jennifer Heather, what are your thoughts? Hala, I wanted to say that I really rely on data when it comes to social media to see what's working. So one of the things I noticed was during the pandemic, the things that used to work on social really didn't work as much.

And it makes sense, right? Because as events occur and people's mindsets change and challenges change, we need to change with the times, right? People need more support right now, more encouragement, maybe more teachings and direction now, where before, you know, when I look at data from 2019, I would do a post about giving a big keynote and me being on a big stage.

And those posts would do amazing. Today, if I share wins, they do okay, but nowhere near as good as if I post about my struggles. And so, you know, relying on data, you've got to have some type of a tool, some type of insights so that you can understand what is adding value, resonating, and delivering for your audience.

Yeah, I think that's a really great point. People love to hear about struggles because it's relatable, right? They can, they'll feel for you, they'll feel connected with you, they'll also feel like you're being real and not just showing all your wins and bragging all the time.

So I think that's really important, especially when gaining influence online. So before we get into the next topic, I do want to introduce Jason. Jason is one of my clients. He is also the CEO of PowerHome Solar. It's a very successful solar panel company. So Jason, do you want to just quickly introduce yourselves

to the audience here? Absolutely. And thank you. Sorry, I was late. The link wasn't working. Excited to be on here, how to gain influence. Also, negotiation class. That's kind of my deal. Super excited, check out our company Power Home Solar, getting ready to probably go public in a SPAC is what

we're looking at. So, super excited about that. And in the renewable energy business, got a podcast going right in a book. Heather's a mentor for me on the book writing. Hala manages the podcast and hopefully I can bring some sales, negotiation, and motivation to the table. So thanks for having me, Ella. Amazing. Jason has such amazing energy. I'm so happy that you're in this conversation. So since we've got two sales gurus right here,

and Jason are two of the best sellers that I've ever met in my life, let's talk about negotiation in sales. So Jason, let's start with you since you put yourself on the hot seat. What are your best tips when it comes to negotiating a deal? I think confidence is key. I think looking someone right into their face if it's in person, if it's going to be in zoom, you need to make sure you're not reading. But that you have a pitch ready, whether you've memorized it, your passionate passion has felt it's not said, it's not heard, they have to feel it.

People buy on emotion, so if they feel you're excited about something or they feel that you're passionate about something, then they're going to buy. And if you're negotiating, you never negotiate against yourself. You let other people bid against themselves. Don't go in there with the first price

of the first bid any time ever. Always let them come in first. That would be my tips. So you're saying never never tell your price first. You've got to wait until the person says they're price because... No, I'm talking to different aspects. So I'm saying if you're selling something, you need to be confidence and have your pitch and tell the price. If you're negotiating a deal between somebody like

we're going to buy your company or you know what do you think this is worth. It's something different like that you never want to, or you're buying a house, you never want it or selling a house, you don't want to negotiate against yourself. You want to make sure that they bring the first offer to the table so you know where their head is, where they're starting and then you can beat that up. You don't want to open your mouth first in a negotiation. Anytime you're selling something, there are two different things. You want to have confidence and you want to make sure that you're passionate about that and build value in the product, so therefore,

it doesn't matter what the price is. Gotcha. Heather, what do you think? Jason brings up some really good points. They're agree with everything that he said. I just started teaching a course at Harvard. It has crazy as that is. Two weeks ago, and yesterday was our second class,

and one of the students brought up an example of a negotiation that she was in, and hearing how she had hit, she was stuck. She didn't know how to get beyond an objection, and she really felt she had hit a stalemate. And I'll tell you, for me, in negotiations in business, I have found that I rely on story to get me out of difficult situations, right? So if you find yourself in a situation you're saying, they're not coming around to my

way of thinking they're just not getting it, share a story. And this is to Jason's point around emotion. When you can get people out of their head and out of the analytics of something and get them to relate to a story, you can take them on a journey in their mind, which can really change a conversation in a very emotional and very powerful way. The other thing that I would suggest is always always always, this is my number one goal in any meeting and there's there's two things that I would suggest you. Be an active listener

from the word go. There is science behind this. When you are actively asking curiosity-based questions about another person and allowing them to speak and nodding your head and parroting a little bit back to make sure you're hearing them correctly, their brain will begin to emit dopamine. And when that's something that happens when people do drugs, right? Like that's how powerful this tool is. Active listening is the biggest Jedi mind trick

movie can pull on someone because you begin a conversation about business, you open it up through great questions and curiosity and generally paying attention and wanting to hear a response and now you have begun, their brain is now emitting dopamine and that person is saying, wow, this person's amazing.

I love talking to them because you're actively listening to them, which happens very, very rarely throughout our day. So that's tip number one and tip two is the whole goal when you sit down with someone. If you're trying to sell something or negotiate something is to have them empty their glass. So my goal is I want to know every possible objection, every possible concern, and I want it all laid out on the table in front of me. So I know what roadblocks I'm up against, and then I start planning in my mind how I can overcome them. what roadblocks I'm up against and then I start planning my mind how I can overcome them. I love those pieces of advice. The thing that I like the most or like what really resonated

with me was when you were saying that you you asked them a lot of questions. So I think that goes back to getting people to like you. When you ask questions to people and you seem interested in their life, whether it's about work or their personal life, they start to like you because they feel like, oh, this person really cares about my life, and people just generally love talking about themselves. So if you get somebody to talk about themselves, they like you more, and then you have a little bit more power

and then negotiation because they like you more. And then secondly, listening and silence means that they have to do the talking and information is power and a negotiation. Information is your power. So totally think those are great tips. Jen, do you have anything to add here? I mean, I think you guys both said, everyone here said exactly what I would have said, which is the active listening is extremely important. And people do love to talk to themselves, which make them feel connected. So yeah, I just have to second everything that both of you said. And keeping them talking as much as possible, and the less that you speak has always been when I'm the most effective.

Like when I speak the least amount in that environment, always is like I said, the most effective. You know what, that's, I want to bring up one piece of advice that one of my clients shared with me. She had a problem doing what Jen just described, which is staying silent in the moment and not speaking. She used to get very uncomfortable. So she went and bought one of those, you know, squeeze stress balls.

And she disappointed herself to whenever she felt uncomfortable on a Zoom negotiation with someone, she put her hand underneath the table and just squeeze it as many times as she needed to until the other person spoke. And it was a great, you know, catch all for her so that now she had a way to stop herself from speaking. Yeah, that is so true, right? Because I think people get very uncomfortable and very awkward when they're silenced. People don't like that feeling of silence. And if you can do any kind of tip for trick like that to even remind yourself that it's

okay, that's a good one now. I like that. Let's rest of all. Yeah, I do think that's a good one. Okay, so just to remind anybody who is newly joined here, my name is Halataha, I'm the host of Young and Profiting podcast. This January, we were the number one trending education

podcast across all apps. I'm also on the cover of Podcast Magazine. So thank you all for joining us and thank shout out to Club Pod for hosting this event. We really appreciate Steve Olshar giving us this space. And as a reminder, this is a recorded session, it's going to be going on my podcast. So thousands of listeners are going to get to enjoy this conversation as well. So we're going to get to questions and I'm going to ask for your

consent for recording so that I can put you up on the podcast. The first person's question we're going to take is sex sham. If you can please keep your question to two minutes, make sure that it's concise so we can get to as much value as possible today. How can we help you? What's your question? Sac Sham, you're on mute. All right, let's skip to Naomi. How can we help you? Thank you so much, everyone. I'm about to start a podcast and I'm just so inspired listening on the room. And if there is one thing you could share with me as I begin this journey, what would it be?

Thank you. You're starting on podcast, you said? Yes, Heather. I'm launching my podcast in two weeks. OK, perfect. I have a podcast too, so I'll kick it off. So when it comes to podcasting, you have to understand that it's a long game, right? Unless you're Jason and you're a billionaire and you have me, you're not going to be top

five entrepreneurship podcasts in a few months like I was able to do for him, right? And so it's a long game. And you need to be prepared that your first couple of years is going to be a lot of work, a lot of reps, a lot of reps, a lot of investing your own money, your time, your smarts, your creativity into this project. And your first couple of episodes aren't gonna be the best, you're gonna have to get better and better,

and you're gonna have to learn how to market your podcast if you wanna be successful. And so I would just know that it's going to be a long game unless you've got a lot of money to invest in your podcast and unless you already have some sort of established community and to know that it's going to be that struggle. And for that reason, you really need to know your why. You really need to know why you want a podcast.

You need to have a mission bigger than just downloads because if you have the struggle of putting on this podcast for several years and you don't really know your why, it's gonna be easy to give up. Most podcasts, you know, if you go on the Apple app, you scroll through, most of them stop after episode seven and that's because they don't get a lot of listeners, they get discouraged and they just give up, right?

But I encourage everybody who has a podcast out there not to give up because there is room for everyone, but it is a long game in terms of acquiring those listeners and kind of making your mark in the space. And it takes a lot of work and effort. And like I said, marketing, you can't expect for your podcast to go up on the apps and for people to just find you like, that's not how it works anymore. The market is saturated. And the last thing I'll say is that it's not all about Apple anymore either. The industry hasn't really caught up with that. A lot of people still think that Apple's everything, but it's not. Most people are listening on YouTube, CastBox, Overcast, all these other apps. If I go pull my listeners mostly, they say they're not listening on Apple. And I think Apple's

less than 20% of my downloads now. And I think Apple's quickly fading. And so while it's important to kind of want to be new and not worthy on Apple, it's not the whole thing. And I would encourage you to open your eyes to the other things that are going on in this space. Heather, Jason, Jen, all of us have podcasts. What do you guys think? Well, I'm going to jump in since you brought me up and said that, you know, oh, Bill, you know,

spends all this money. Yeah, yeah, you have to advertise and you have to market. But you have to have the right team. Like, you know, I Bill, you know, spends all this money. Yeah, yeah, you have to advertise and you have to market. But you have to have the right team. Like, you know, I hired Hollis team. I was struggling the first four or five months doing it. I mean, I had fun doing it. I loved it. It was a release.

I run a corporation with almost 2,000 employees and, you know, we're in 11 states. And so I need an outlet. I need somewhere I can have a release and speak about motivation and talk, you know, we're in 11 states. And so I need an outlet. I need somewhere I can have a release and speak about motivation and talk, you know, be real and raw with people and give advice. And I needed that. So I started to do that.

And it started to take off a little bit, but then I was stumped. You know, I'm green and it's waters I'm not used to. I'm like, well, how do I really promote a podcast? I can promote on social. I can promote my business. How do I do that? And so when I met Hala, you find the right team

as you're starting to grow. And like she said, it's a long game. This isn't a short game. This is a long game. And I've been blessed spending a little money, advertising, marketing, having the right people on my show, talking about the right things, having the right partners like Hala's team.

And then a lot of people that you bring on the show that like Hollis team, and then, you know, a lot of people that you bring on the show that you go on their show and they hear it. That's kind of how you start to grow it, but I think if you have your why and you know what you want to talk about, it doesn't matter if it's big or small. As long as you're impacting somebody and you're having fun doing it, that's all that matters. Yeah, and I just want to clarify one thing. Jason has a lot of raw talent. So the other thing that you need to do

is have like a likable personality raw talent and the smarts to have a good conversation. Like I go on a lot of podcasts now, I get invited on a lot of podcasts. And some people just like don't have the confidence yet. They don't know how to guide a conversation. They don't have relevant things to say to the conversation. And that makes for a rather poor episode, like you're never going to stand out.

And so you've got to put in the reps, you've got to put in the practice, Jason had other practice just in life being a CEO, running a team, doing speaking events. And so once he had a podcast, he could command the Mike and people wanted to listen to him. So I would also say like get practice and it doesn't necessarily need to be on a podcast, but you need to have practice speaking and engaging with people. Sorry Jen, go ahead. No, I was just gonna say also talk about things

that you actually know about. I think that a lot of times, you're trying to fit like a circle into a square. Like I think I would at the beginning cover things that you are genuine interested in things that you are genuinely curious about because that curiosity feeds into the conversation and as Genuine and you ask better questions that way. And also, if you are knowledgeable about what they're talking about, it's another thing, right? To Hollis Point, if you are kind of new at this, say you don't

know how to guide a conversation, it can be very uncomfortable. The other thing I would say is, don't be going into podcasts if you want to make money. I think that money will hopefully eventually come if you're, if you know, down the road. But what is the reason behind it? Are you just wanting to share something with the community? Are you just trying to genuinely like get network and meet people, which is also a great way to, when you start a podcast, it's a great networking vehicle. Understanding those things make it much easier and better as you go. Totally agree. Heather, do you have anything to add? Sure, I've got a quick story to share on this, and it's really about, you know, we talk a lot about getting a big audience

and getting a lot of people to listen. But sometimes the most amazing things happen with, it doesn't even matter how many people listen, right? A lot of people develop really tight, small communities that they sell projects to or they invite people onto their show that open doors for them. And this is actually the story I wanted to share with you. I was interviewing Jesse Itzler and he wouldn't let me come to his home to interview him. He only wanted to do it on Zoom. My show was only a couple months old back then, but his internet kept going out. So he had his assistant text me, all right, forget it.

You can come to our house and interview me. I'm embarrassed that the internet's so poor here. So I flew to Atlanta, went to his house, interviewed him. We hit it off and became friends. And fast-forward a couple of months, and he and his wife, Sarah Blakely, were getting interviewed live on stage in Boston. And they were in a meeting with the speaker company

and they said, we're gonna throw 20 names in front of you. You guys decide who you want to interview you for this event. And my name was in the mix. And so when my name came up, he said, oh, that's Heather. I know Heather. Pick Heather. We know Heather. Let's go with Heather.

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Thank you so much for your question. Oh thank you everyone my notes are full I'm truly truly grateful for the time and all the wonderful wonderful insight thank you so much. Thank you Frances you're up next what's your question for us? Hi thanks my question is for Heather and Jennifer I wanted I'm going back to something y'all we're talking about earlier. You mentioned on your social media presence with balancing, showing the good and the bad. And how do you balance that?

And how do you decide in terms of what could be perceived as negative, not being too negative? Or too much information, how revealing you got in terms of sharing on social media? Okay, I guess I'll start. I think that's a very good question. And I think that's something that people think about and are curious and wonder about that all the time.

I don't think any of us have really figured it out, but I think what you have to do, it becomes a little bit of trial and error, right? That's why when I initially said the authenticity piece is so key because people pick up on that genuineness or that ingenuine feeling that it's phony. So I think that people like to know your daily struggles that are similar to what they're going through. And I think it's like feeling the climate that you're in, right? It's really hard to, there's certain things like politics, things like that are very,

are can be a very tricky topic. So to err on the side of caution when it comes to something that's, that could be something in the overall culture of what we're dealing with at the beginning is something I would try to steer away from. And like I said, I think showing your personal flaws of like, or how you're dealing with something or how you're dealing with something, I think that's the kind of the openness

or the flaws that I think that are okay. Personally, I mean, things like certain things like family Personally, I mean, there are things like certain things like family things. I mean, there are people who overshare, I think, but a lot of it becomes trial and error and then kind of guiding from what you do post and what kind of content you do have, how people are responding and reacting

is a really good gauge of where you should turn your attention to, right? And where people are not engaging is where maybe you should kind of take a step back and then recalibrate. Thank you, thank you. Let me jump into. I agree with everything Jennifer just said, but I also, I'm real and raw and I probably say too much a lot of the time, but, you know, I don't sell ice cream so I can't make everybody happy. I just have to try to be me.

So I'm that same way no matter what I do. Running a company, I'm not the most polished. I don't have the education. I didn't finish high school or go to college, but people know what they're getting with me. It's real. I carry my opinion and my thought and my heart on my shoulder. They know that, you know, I'm not going to talk about sides of my mouth, what I say, something I mean it. And, you know, so everyone knows where they stand with me, good and bad. And I think that that's important. And I share a lot of that and some of my personal life, because people want to be, you know, when they're listening to you and they're getting to know you, whether you're being an influencer or you're running a company, they want you to be humanized.

They want to feel relatable to you. They want to know that that you're a real person that has real problems and real family and real things going on. It is very important. And so politics is hard. I talk a little bit about it, you know, where I stand, I don't get too much into the weeds, but that's a tough subject. Politics, religion, or tough. But everything else, I think, is you just got to take it a case-by-case scenario and see, but you have to let some of the guard down so people can relate to you. Yeah, I think that's a really good point, Jason. So really quickly, I saw that David Meltzer joined the room. Thank you so much, David, for joining us. Do you want to just introduce yourself to everyone? Sure.

First of all, hello Jason and Jen. It's so good to see you guys. Hey, buddy. I'm excited to see you in March to film season two, baby. That's a lot of ready. And Heather, say you're two. You're one of your good friends too. Oh, she's right above me.

Then she's one of my faves as well. Hey, anyway, I'm Dave Meltzer, entrepreneur speaker, author, humanitarian, on a mission to empower over a billion people to be happy and just happy to be here to answer questions. I can leverage about $100 million of dummy tax. So that's what I bring to the table. I'm one of the biggest failures you'll ever meet and learn lessons from it. So you don't have to lose that money. And I'll teach you how to make money,

help people have fun all the same time. As David's one of the most kind people I've ever met also. I mean, he is so humble, so kind. You know, I lean on him as a mentor, such a good person, just so people know that. Oh, thank you. Yeah, same here. It's Katrina. Hi, David. Oh, Katrina,. Yeah, same here. It's Katrina. Hi, David. Oh,

Katrina, I can't see everyone. Hi, Katrina. Yeah, David's amazing. So whatever he says, I would definitely eat it up. All right. Well, let's get some questions. Yeah, let's go. Actually, I'm going to throw it back to the mods really quick, because I want to make sure this is the most action-packed value session possible. We were talking previously about tips when it comes to negotiating a deal in sales. And so since Jason and David joined late to the conversation, David, I'd love to hear your top tips for negotiating a sales deal. Yeah, so first of all, there's three rules in negotiation. Number one, never negotiate to the last penny, to always be fair and three, don't do business with Dix. And when I say Dix, I mean, someone with a closed mind,

it's gonna take you a thousand times the energy to negotiate with someone with a closed mind as it does to someone with an open mind. The key to negotiation is to come prepared with what value you can bring and what value that you're looking for and prioritize each of those lists of values so that you know where you can give up and what you can give up in the name of abundance. So going in with faith that there's more than enough in the deal for everyone and everything in the deal. But most importantly, I think it's energetic that, you know, it's one capability to articulate

value that exceeds the value you're asking for. That's a great component if you're capable of articulating a value that exceeds the value you're asking for. But I think there's an energetic component to it. I know this will resonate with my friend Jen over there in the corner, but I believe that I carry the same 120 energy in my deals that energetic. I'm certain in beyond my own conscious belief in the articulation of that value, but even subconsciously and unconsciously, I'm carrying that frequency, that authenticity, that hey, look, I'm here giving you more than I'm asking for. And can you see any reason you won't want to move forward? So I think if you follow those tips, you will exceed the expectations of you, your clients and others, by creating abundance, by truly believing there's more than enough in the

deal for everyone and everything. And that seems to resonate and come true in more deals than not for me today. Yeah, I love that. I love the fact that you brought up mindset and all of this because I think having that right mindset, having pure good intentions, being on that high frequency in terms of your vibration is super important. And David, I know that you're all about like a fast high frequency. So can you tell us more about that?

Like what makes a good frequency? Why is that important when we're meeting new people or influencing deals, making new friends? Like why does that matter? So frequency is exactly relative to vibration. And it's my philosophy or understanding that vibration allows us in a directly related to awareness and the fact that we can only be aware of that which vibrates equal to or less than us. Therefore, if we're enjoying the consistent, persistent pursuit of our potential, increasing our vibration or elevating it, plateauing and growing each day by understanding what our frequency is, by starting by looking within to see what we want outside of us, that we can be aware of more things. frequency is by starting by looking within to see what we want outside of us.

That we can be aware of more things and awareness is critical because we understand where people are coming from and makes us more gracious, more forgiving, more empathetic, more accountable. Accountability tells us when to buy or sell. It also reveals different deficiencies that exist in other people or interferences, voids and shortages that we may want to avoid. It allows us to trust people, but still be confident in vetting them. And for me, frequency not only is important in the negotiation side of things to raise awareness, because awareness is the most valuable thing we can have,

but it's also critical of building your brand. And so I know the other thing that I stepped into or walked into when Jason and Jen were talking, you look, your frequencies, your signal, and the greater your frequency, the stronger it is, the wider the spectrum you'll reach and the clearer the message. Remember, it's not what I say, it's what you hear and all the content that I provide,

I love when I'm not clear. And the reason I love it is I just cracked up that people aren't hearing me. I did a Robin Hood video about the stock market and I clearly indicated in my mind that I was giving my opinion about the stock market. And yet, you know, it was very popular video, but it pissed off a whole bunch of people

because it wasn't what I was saying. It was what they were hearing. That is all relative to your frequency, your vibration, and your awareness. And so I spend a majority of my time actually looking within. I meditate, I have a stop drop in role methodology to regulate what I call a baseline of my day. I believe everyone has ego-based interference all day long. It's those people that can spend minutes and moments in the ego-based interference all day long. It's those people that can spend minutes and moments in the ego-based consciousness

compared to those people that spend days, weeks, months, or years there that truly use their free will to clear the connection to that already exists, that abundant world of more than enough of everything for everyone. I think that's really powerful. Does anybody else have anything to add when it comes to mindset and things like that? I think just like David said, I mean meditation something I just started doing myself recently.

I love it because I'm such a high strong high energy person that I have to be able to calm it down because sometimes my passion or my excitement can come across as irritation or being allowed. And I think when you're negotiating or you're negotiating or you're trying to do deals, we're talking to private equity companies, Goldman Sachs and JP Morgan's and what we're gonna do next, right, for our business. So, I have to tone it down and know my audience. I need to know when I have to shine,

when to push, when to pull, when to kick. And I think it's important to have that mindset not only know who you're dealing with and know your customer, know your audience, but have the mindset of what your real goals are. And I feel like every deal, if it's a right deal for both parties, it's a little uncomfortable for both.

That's a fair deal. If somebody's really happy, then somebody's probably not as happy. It's got to feel a little uncomfortable to be a really fair deal for everyone involved. Yeah, I think that's a really great point. Hey, Hala. May I add to what David was saying? And thank you, David and Jason. I think this is the second room I've been in with you both. And you guys have been givers and David also spent some time with me after that.

And I just can't even tell you how appreciative I am of his support and those three tenets of negotiation really, you know, always being fair and making sure that it is, that you're really thinking ahead and thinking about it being a win-win and not negotiating with Dix. I thought that was brilliant, but I also, the energy, it's so refreshing to hear people talk about energy

and resonance. And as I've gotten more into my own path of energy and really understanding how to move it throughout my body. It's also helped me in order to mirror and be, you know, put my voice in the right resonance for the right room rather than being, you know, overly aggressive or outstanding as I, I typically am as well, Jason. So I've learned to be able to tone it down and be able to engage those mirror neurons of the people that I am engaging with and be more

effective. So I just wanted to echo that and reinforce the seeing the things that are unseen and seeing that we do live in a abundant world and coming from that place of abundance only brings more of it. Yeah, I totally agree. I think those were great pieces of value that you shared. So thank you for sharing that. And if I could just add to that, I think when it comes to putting your best self first

in any sort of meeting or in any sort of negotiation that you're with someone, if you truly believe that what you're saying is true and you have good intentions and that you did the work and that you're prepared and that you truly are the expert and you've done all the due diligence, you're not faking it till you make it, right? Like I hate that piece of advice, fake it till you make it. You're the real thing, right?

Then you feel that confidence and I feel like that's portrayed and people just trust what you say more're the real thing, right? Then you feel that confidence, and I feel like that's portrayed, and people just trust what you say more because it's real, right? I think people can smell a phony. What do you guys think about that? I agree. I love you, I agree.

Look, that's what Clubhouse, to me, my favorite thing about it is the truth vibrates the fastest, and the people standing in front of cars that they don't own and Bragging about houses that they rent It just exposes themself here. I love listening in here and I can feel the energy of people just going this guy's full of shit And you may not have realized it because you saw the best to eat seconds of that person for the last three years on video in a well-produced video and very entertaining and elevating because you saw the best to eat seconds of that person for the last three years on video, in a well-produced video,

and very entertaining and elevating. But clubhouse is real, it's raw. And if you're blowing smoke up people's asses, they're gonna find out really quick because the truth, especially on clubhouse vibrate, is the fastest. Diane, well said. Agreed, 100%.

I just wanted to add that, in competence is important right in any situation, especially when you're going in for a negotiation, feeling that you're prepared and competent, et cetera. However, sometimes when you can't push forward, you may have to draw some lines and risk walking away from a deal. Entirely, I'll never forget when I pitched myself for a BPS sales position that didn't exist at the time. I knew it was best for the company. I had seen the opportunity through my boss's eyes.

I had laid things out. There was no reason he should say no. And in the end, he kept saying no, not right now, not right now. So I went and got another job offer, came back to that meeting, back to that table with him with all of my confidence and with a lever I could pull, pitched him again and he said no again.

And I said, well, then I'm giving my resignation. It's been great working with you. And he said, hang on a second. He excused himself from that negotiation, made a phone call, came back and said, I'd like to offer you the VP of sales position. I said, where did you go? And he said, I had to call my father,

I can't make this decision on my own. And that taught me a really important lesson. It doesn't matter how confident you are. If you're not dealing with the ultimate decision-maker and a negotiation, you can't afford to take a no from someone who can't tell you, yes. I can jump in with that real quick. Hey, Heather's Jeff. Hi, Jeff. If I can't, I'll just make that same point. I'm sorry for jumping in, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to

say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just going to say, I'm just. Thanks Jeff, I think that's a really great point. Okay, so I'm going to reset the room really quick. My name is Halata. I'm the host of Young and Profiting Podcast. We have a live session right now that's going to go on my podcast. It's had a gain influence and master negotiation. And we're going to be doing a live Q&A. So everybody who I call up on stage to go next,

Juliet, you're going gonna ask your question next. If you can please be short and concise so we can get to as much value as possible. And please give your consent for recording as well. Juliet, you're up next. Thank you guys so much, Hala and Heather and Jason and David. This has been awesome. So I have a podcast called Next Stop Crazy Town.

And my question for you guys is to gain influence. How do you, what do you think about the video aspect of it and YouTube? Like I do, you know, I promote on all the social media, but I haven't jumped to the video aspect because where I'm recording is like in a closet. It has the, the best sound in my house, but I don't know if it's like important to kind of jump and figure that out. So I'm just curious to what you guys think. Thank you. I believe in testing things, Juliet.

There's some people, for me, I don't do very well with video, it's surprising, but it just doesn't seem to. It's definitely not my strongest content. However, you look at some people and all they do is video. So I think you need to test for yourself as well as different platforms are going to do better with different things. You might do better with video on Instagram, not on LinkedIn.

I just think keep going and you want to continually test. And here we are on an audio platform, right? Two years ago, everyone in the media was saying video is the only thing. And here we are on a platform that excludes video. So it's just keep moving forward, keep testing things as you go, keep innovating and see what works for you. Yeah, that's awesome. Okay, I'm sorry to cut you off.

Yeah, that's awesome. Because my next thing is, like, so when I am doing the videos, like I have people that will say, oh, wait, I'm on a video, I don't want to do that. So I probably would have to get, like, I don't mind that I'm in the closet because that's real, right? I'm starting a podcast as, you know, in my busy life, I'm doing it, I'm on a video, I don't want to do that. So I probably would have to get, I don't mind that I'm in the closet, because that's real, right? I'm starting a podcast as, in my busy life, I'm doing it, I'm loving it,

and I want to show people how I love it. Sorry, you can hear my dog. But I also, it's something that I probably would have to consent for, is that correct? No, I mean, all you do is when you reach out to invite someone to your podcast, typically they're gonna ask you, is this audio or is it audio and video

and I always let my guest lead. Whatever they're comfortable with makes me happy because they're going to add more value and be more comfortable on the show. So I totally, Heather, I love you but I disagree with you on this one. I think that video is the way to go and you should figure out how to do it as soon as possible. I personally started off with audio. I regret all the interviews I did first with just audio only. I just can't believe that I didn't capture the video because that video microcontent performs so much better than audio grams. Audio grams perform terribly.

So yes, the quality of the actual podcast that goes up on the apps, it's probably going to be the same with the exception of the fact that when you're on video with someone, just even seeing them has a better flow, better conversation. I found that my relationships are much stronger with the people that I did video interviews with than the people I did audio for. Like I can easily contact the people I did video interviews with and they remember me and they're nice to me. But a lot of the, you know, when I first started,

I was getting big guests from the start. Some of the people that I first interviewed, like don't even acknowledge me if I email them. And that's because I didn't make that relationship with them. And like we mentioned earlier, podcasting is also about building relationships. And so for that small piece, even if you don't use the video,

I would start doing video so that later on, you can do microcontent and so that you build that strong relationship. So I do, I record, I do have all the video recorded. I just don't use it as, because I, you know, then send the audio to my editor and he does any kind of editing. It's usually not a lot because it's like a conversation on them having, it's like two friends sitting down

or two people that just met having a conversation as I interview them, and I do, I 100% agree with you, because I always tell them like, we're gonna do it over Zoom, I'm gonna see you because it's the best way for us to feel the most comfortable. Like when you see someone, you feel more comfortable. So I do have it, I just don't use it.

So you're saying that I should really just figure out how to use it, is that correct? Yeah, I mean, I think on social media it's going to perform better than an audio gram would, but then again, promotional content just doesn't perform that great on social media anyway. So it's like you just, you need to play with it like how there was saying it's really up to you, but at least for the networking, I would have your video on what you say that you do. So you're good there. Jason, what were you going to say? I say you have to do everything. you say that you do. So you're good there. Jason, what were you going to say? I say you have to do everything.

So I'm a believer of if you're going to market on everything, that's the way you do it. It's scorched earth. You stick the biggest nut out. You catch all the shrimp you can. You market on LinkedIn, you market on YouTube, you market on Twitter, you market on Instagram, Facebook, you name it. You have to do it all day every day in order to start building a brand, whether it be your company or your podcast. I'm a big believer in that because each platform is a different pool of people that will

listen to your podcast, that will follow you, that will want that information. So whatever when you're not doing video and you're not doing that, you're missing, you know, think of it a fishing pole. Now you got a net when you do everything. So I'm a big believer of do everything that you can. Great. Thank you so much, guys. Can I really quickly add? I'm going to hop in with a question later. Really 30 seconds, how if you can allow me to Julia, this is not podcast, but one thing that I've done, I have a two-year-old at home and I hardly find time to or space, pretty space to do this, but one thing that I've done is even on Zoom calls, I bought this green screen, they're not very expensive and I put it up on my closet at the very back, pushed out and then I have a ringlight in front of me and I put it up on my closet. At the very back, I pushed out and then I have a ring

line in front of me. I put as much space as I can between me and the green line and I use that as a backdrop and I can play with that later and my video editor can play with that later and that can be another hack that you can use because for me I can't always use the great space that I may create out in the living room or whatnot. And sometimes I have to resort to closet as well. And even in my Zoom calls, I do that. And it can't turn out great. So just money to add that.

Thanks, Cree. Thanks, David. I think you were about to say something. Did you have something to add? Yeah, just for everyone taking a step back from what we're talking about. It's just a matter combining what everyone says of capturing the content in audio and video. I also suggest everyone transcribe all your content. So just using AI platform like rev, make sure that you get what you

have in word form because in the future, as you can see, things are searchable by words. And if you want people to, you know, search what you're doing video audio, the word backdrop is essential plus SEO and some other marketing tricks you can do by transcribing. But there's four things that you just have to concern yourself with. Capture everything that you do as much as you can in video audio and transcribe it, modify it the best that you can. However much, you know, I have one's rich like Jason,

you can't afford to do everything. Oh my goodness. But I believe in modifying everything I do to every platform, just like Jason, and then amplifying it through all of my channels, all of my great friends here from Heather and Jason and Katrina and just amplify it everywhere and use your partners by personalizing it.

So if I do a podcast with Heather, I'm going to make sure I create content of Heather on my podcast. And she does terrific on my videos. So I'd love to give you a little bit of coaching, Heather, because if you're doing terrific on my videos, I'm sure you'll do terrific on yours. And then after you amplify it, most importantly, why transcribe it

is to create a perpetual strategy. Luckily, I'm the oldest one on here. So I understand time better than anyone because I've lived the longest, meaning that it's not necessarily what people are watching today. It's when you get engaged with me and you become an ambassador with me, that you may go back in three and a half years ago. I posted something that's going to resonate and impact you. And so I have most importantly a perpetual strategy, which is why I think video is so powerful, audio combined, but transcribing it's even more.

I just recently actually have my own search engine so people can search any issue and find all the content that I have, and I won't be able to do that if I didn't transcribe it as well. So video, audio, and transcribe, capture, modify, amplify, and perpetuate. I love that. Thank you so much, Jason. Juliet, I hope that we helped you. Thank you so much for asking your question. This is Young and Profiting Podcast. I'm Halle Taha, the host of this show. I've got with me Heather Monahan, Jennifer Cohen, Jason

Waller and David Meltzer. If you guys are enjoying this conversation, please tap the plus sign on the bottom of your app, ping your friends into the room, let them know that this is a great event that we're having right now. And if you have a question, please raise your hand so that we can bring you up on stage. The topic of today is influence and negotiation. Shulia, what is your question? How can we help you? Hi, thank you so much for having me.

So my question honestly might have potentially already been answered with just the last information that was kind of dropped. But basically, I recently launched the podcast called Sad House of Well Serving, which is basically a podcast for active duty military people who are launching Sad House of Well Serving. And my question is like in an overly saturated market of podcasters, what are some other ways to build exposure? But I think like I said, a piece of it might have already been answered with these guys saying like, make sure that I'm on LinkedIn and Twitter and all these other places and capturing videos and word forms. But should I be reaching out to influencers or some other things as opposed to like my own platform? I would say that, you know, when you, if you reach out to an influencer and ask them to be a guest

on your show, you know, and you're featuring them and then they go ahead and share the content. When the show comes out, that is the most ideal situation. I had Gary B on my show as a guest. He shared that content 20 different times and it spiked my downloads. So for me, that was definitely one of the most positive impacts I had is finding someone with a large audience and listen They don't always share it. It's up to them if they're going to but when they do it has a huge impact on on your audience Cool. I think that's great advice

Thanks, Shilia Okay, so I'm gonna ask a question to the moderators I want to make sure that we've got very actionable advice on the topic of influence and negotiation Let's talk about body language, right? So body language is super important when it comes to gaining influence, when it comes to negotiation. What are your opinions in terms of the type of body language that you should portray? Let's say when you're going into a sales deal and you want to win the deal. Maybe Jason or David, do you want to kick it off? First of all, body language is an indicator of your energy

or your frequency. So number one valuable thing you have in a negotiation is your smile. It's amazing. We do not want to create more resistance than already exists in a negotiation, because fear is always present in a negotiation. Fear of loss, there's this feeling

as if if I get something that means you lose. And so what we want to do is through our body language and our energy and our frequency, we want to resolve that interference. We want to resolve that resistance. And so a smile is a key way of disarming people. And then secondly, eye contact. For me, smiling and continual eye contact are the two most important components of body language. And then more importantly, there's three types of listeners. There's in a negotiation, there's an interruptor, which they're not listening to one thing.

You're saying they're difficult to negotiate it. All they care about is interrupting you to the more difficult person to me, less of sequest, is the waiter. Is the person that pretends like they're listening to you, but they're just waiting to tell you what they think. And it makes it very difficult to negotiate with a waiter. And then there's a person who processes and then here's you and listens to you.

And all the other body language that I have beyond the smile and eye contact is indicative of being present and interested, not interesting. And so if you take those three components, your smile, your eyes, and the body language that says, I'm interested, I'm not an interruptor or waiter, you're gonna have an incredible success

by disarming and reducing the resistance that is natural occurrence and negotiation. I love that. I love the fact that you brought up eyes. I just want to share something really quickly that I learned from Chase Hughes. He's an FBI agent that I interviewed a few times. He taught me something about Blink rate. Essentially, when you're first meeting someone and it could be on a date, it doesn't have

to be like some professional setting. If you just take like notice how often they blink. And when they're blinking really fast, that means that they're unengaged, they're not interested in what you're saying. It's time to move the topic over. And so if you notice when people are blinking really fast, that's always a cue to like switch the topic or that you're not really performing as well as you could be. I'm going to have to steal and use that, okay, because I think when I talk to like my wife or my kids, I think they blink all the time. I don't think they listen to anything I say. So, David, that's great advice on the body language. I love that. I'm going to piggyback exactly what

David said. I'm also going to say that when you're sitting down there, you know, we teach our energy consultants and I've come from the home services field where we door knocked and that we tell a marketer to now we do digital marketing and we send someone into the home to do a home presentation and we tell them like David mentioned you want to disarm that customer you want them you know that you're walking and even if they raise their hand and said I want to learn information about this product I want to do this I want to do that I'm interested in solar come show me what it's like right when you walking in even if they raise their hand and said, I want to learn information about this product. I want to do this. I want to do that. I'm interested in solar. Come show me what it's like. Right when you walk in the door, their fence is up their guard is up. And you have to find a way to bring that down. You have to engage them, talk to them about things that they like listening to them, asking them questions. Don't seem to salesy. You know, when you start to bring that guard down and making a friend

and build trust, it really becomes a lot easier to walk them down the lane of, you know, being interested in your product. But if you come in and you're too pushy and you're just too much that those days are old. Like those, you know, let me come into the house and those hard clothes sales, those don't exist anymore. That, you know, this isn't the old car dealerships, this isn't the old way of selling. People have information on their phones. They can download and do reviews and do research and check everything that they need to check. So you need to find a way to have, you know, be credible, be honest, look them in the eyes, be confident, keep your shoulders back, keep your back up, and be able to engage in real conversation. I always say passion or like Jennifer mentioned earlier, storytelling, people by any motion.

So when you're able to relate a story to what you're offering, that guard continues to come down and they listen. They're engaged because it's like a movie or a commercial. It's not somebody just, you know, talking to them about something that they're nervous of getting into that they don't want to deal with. Yeah, I think that's really great. Heather, you are the confidence creator. You've got to have some advice in terms of body language. Yeah, one of the things that I think we need to call out is that everyone's doing negotiations on Zoom now, right, which is entirely different than in person. So a few things that I found really helpful is to have great lighting, you know, when people, you want to appear bright and like David said, you want to be smiling, you want to be really mindful of how you come across on Zoom and also be mindful that the people you're negotiating with,

they might have just come off of the eight back-to-back Zoom meetings and they're over it, right? So how are you going to get their attention? How are you going to snap them out of that rut? Maybe there are kids in the next room on Zoom School, aka my life. So, you know, you want to be empathetic to them and you want to have done your research and be aware of their situation. One of the things that I found really powerful during this time is standing for me. When I do a call or a negotiation standing, I'm going to have more energy. I'm going to be more likely to smile. I'm going to be more likely to be really engaged and also use my body to illustrate my words

and tell the story not only with my words, but with my body. And that envelopes people. That really pulls people in. And it has a really positive impact. I love that Heather. Thank you guys so much. For everybody who newly joined the room, you're listening to Young and Profiting Podcast.

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please raise your hand. We'll pull you up on stage. The topic of today is influence and negotiation. I'm going to kick off the next question is from Tiffany. How can we help you? When it comes to influence, one question that I have is what tips do you have to use any influence you have wisely? And then I just wanted to give my flowers to David because we've worked with him previously because I am a publicist or press pass that way. Thanks. I think that's a great

question. She's saying like, if you have influence already, like what is your question exactly? Can you elaborate? If you have influence already, how can you use your influence wisely? Wow. Well, first of all, thank you. Everyone has influence and the segmentation of that influence is so important to realize that, for me, everyone I started to build my brand and had

the great help of Jen and Heather, I know you two were involved very early, it was those types of people that assisted me because I kept a focus of who I truly was influencing what my purpose was. And that was to empower Heather and Jen to empower other people and for them to help me empower other people.

And so I think whether you see yourself as an influencer, it's not, whether or not you're an influencer, it's how am I going to influence in what frequency or what message you're missioned. Do I have, for me, it's simple now in this stage of my life, it's happiness. So, you know, I'm very clear on utilizing and empowering other people, one person at a time,

but making sure that I give it the consideration and energy. And it's not easy, as it grows and grows, to make sure that you personally are responding to the emails and the DMs and the comments and figuring out, you know, systematic ways to be cryptic or cut and paste certain responses and identify what people are asking or have the right introductions.

But everybody in here is an influencer and you just don't know how impactful you are to one person with one statement. I can't tell you is your audience grows, you'll see people will tell you, oh my gosh, four years ago you told me to say thank you before I went to bed and when I woke up. And here's what's happened in my life.

Thank you so much for reminding me to do that or some other really simple things. Dennis Waitley, who's an old school sales trainer of mine, pretty world famous, probably in the 70s or 80s now, he had a great statement that said, I'm planning seeds under trees I may never sit under. And so whether or not you consider yourself an influencer, my biggest suggestion would be not whether you are an influencer, who do you want to influence and how? That's the bigger question to ask. And when you get clarity, balance, and focus on that, you can have an extraordinary influence

that will have a great impact far beyond what you'll ever even imagine. Thanks, Tiffany. I think that was a great question. I hope that we helped you. If you guys are gaining value in this room, please tap the plus sign at the bottom of your app, ping your friends into the room. We're going to get to the next question. The next one is from CEO, lawyer, Ali Awad. How can we help you? You're on mute. Okay, I'm going to hop to Cree. How can we help you? your own mute. Okay, I'm going to hop to Cree. How can we help you? Hi, oh my God, I'm a big fan of Hala and Heather, but so glad to be hearing from Jason and David and Jennifer and everyone else

in the room. Hala, you always put together such a powerful room that is chock full of insights, so kudos. So first of all, I give consent to record. My question for now is, do you think a podcast can perform just as well when done solo versus with a guest? I'm starting a podcast. It's called the career curve ball with Kri and it's all about helping corporate females to pivot into entrepreneurship and my problem with inviting guests right now is that I have commitment for the year because my time is so fluid with a baby around me. So instead of postponing until a cut knows when, I'm starting to record all solo episodes and I'm about six episodes in. So should I keep going or can it perform well despite the lack of guests amplifying the

reach? Can I want to jump in first? Can I jump in first? Of course. I do both. I have a Thursday show that comes out where I interview. And then Monday, I have what they call an underdog under bites where most of the time I'm solo, sometimes I'll bring

a co-guess that interviews me or we just chat. And believe it or not, the individual ones perform better than the guest ones for me. So I think that there is a platform for that as long as you have content and you don't get weirded out talking to yourself. Like you're talking to the camera, you're doing your thing.

I don't get weirded out doing that, but as long as you can talk about something, give influence, give information, give tips, solo, like you're doing a live, I think it's fine. I think there's room tips, solo, like you're doing alive. I think it's fine. I think there's room for it and I think you'll be okay. That's my opinion. I mean, I love live.

I love videos and I love camera and I love all that and I can talk to myself because it's a topic that I really am passionate about. But every, almost every podcast I listen to, there's always a guest on, and that's probably just me. I just haven't found many solo monologues, I guess. I'm just really, really curious. Yeah, there's definitely solo podcasts out there. And I think right now, like my advice to new podcasts is always like disrupt everything.

Like everyone's doing an interview show. There's not that much more room left for another entrepreneurship interview show, you know? So I would get creative. I have a friend, his name is Brian Ford. He's got self-improvement daily. It's daily two minute tips in the morning. And he crushes.

He gets millions of downloads. He has no social following. And it's because he disrupted everything. And he did a two minute daily episode. He's got consistent content. It's just him. And he came up with a unique idea and did it differently and he got a lot of attention for it. So I would recommend that you just do whatever you want. There's no rules to podcasting.

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Hi, everyone. How are you today? Good, thank you. Good. So, my question is, you guys have been talking about just, you know, clients and just going into like customers and doing with that. My question is totally different because I'm listening

and I'm like, okay, so these are all well. I have a question about like speaking to referral partners. If any of you can like, you know, have an idea of how to approach a referral partner and not having them saying right away that, oh, I want to be partners, you know, with you and your business. And that's how I'm going to give you my business or what's in it for me. And when I explain to them like the value that I bring and like, you know, how I'm going to give you my business. Or what's in it for me? And when I explain to them the value that I bring, and how I'm going to make them look good in front of their clients,

how their clients are going to love them, because of the process, how I'm going to ease their process, and the insurance is not going to hold back their closing, and they're going to have more closing, and all that stuff, I still always get, I want to be partners with you. So how do I overcome that? I tell people, I mean, I've had many times for people

like I wanna be partners and do things and they did, I just say I'm not looking for a partner right now, but I can definitely work out a referral program, anybody you send me, but, you know, I always, especially if you're building a new business, I was never making money, I'm always reinvesting. You know, you pay your people first, you pay your vendor second,

you reinvest back into your brand or your business third. Any small extra lift, you get to take a portion of that, maybe, right? So I wouldn't let them know, like I'm struggling. I'm reinvesting the business. There's no room for me to bring a partner. I want to forge, I can't afford you, but I can pay you for a sales fee or referral. I mean, I just be blunt and honest.

You know, the people, you know, they leverage relationships, family, friends all the time. Sometimes they feel entitled or they want to kind of force their way into stuff. And I've learned the last few years to really stand ground and say, I can't do it. Sorry, but I don't mind helping out with this. then moving on. They're not going to argue with that. It's just, and you're not rude for saying that, but you got to be blunt. Right, but Jason, here's the thing, like I have, like, you know,

said no to all of them. And every person that I said no to that has approached me this way would not like refer me any other business. So I'm just getting stuck here. That's all. Can I'm just getting stuck here, that's all. Okay. Okay. Can I jump in real quick? So one other approach is to ask first,

when someone wants to partner with you, ask what that looks like, and then ask what they have done in the past or are doing today that is aligned with what that looks like and what success they have, what they like about it, what they don't like about it. And if you can get them to explain those things to you, what you'll be able to do is to create and re-engineer their vision of that partnership, to align with what's best for you by utilizing transition statements like,

would it help you if I did this? Would did help you if I did that? And in construct, instead of looking at the definition of referral partner and full blown partner, utilizing a compromise and understanding and appreciating what superpowers those people have and how you can align, utilize them synergistically or supplementary to what you're doing, that you may find that supplementary to what you're doing, that you may find that in some respects, you're cutting off opportunity by having such a black and white vision of a partnership that doesn't really exist.

So the suggestion I would have is be a little bit more interested than interesting on what that looks like. See what's working for them today, what's not working for them today. See where your capabilities, your skills, your knowledge of who and what and your desire are aligned with synergistically or supplementary to what their aspiration is. And see if you can't utilize abundance and reengineering to actually transform what they want into more of a malgalgamation of your referral program

without using definitive terms, black and white terms, separating terms, and closing off the business as you have. And you always have the backup offer. If there is no alignment, there's no synergy, no supplementary interest or skills, capabilities or desire, you can always give an offer after

learning about what they do. You'll see their mind and their energy open up to you. You then have a better statistical success in suggesting, well maybe we could walk before, I mean sorry, maybe we could crawl before we walk before we run. I can see how this may work, but I'd love to see how we work together, see how our values are aligned, does that sound fair? And I think you'll have much more statistical success and at least leave the doors open when somebody doesn't get what they want from you. But I have a feeling that you're leaving a lot of opportunity on the table with so many people that want to partner with you.

Thank you. Thank you so much, guys. Thanks, Wes and for your question. If you guys have a question for us, raise your hand. I am getting notes from my team that hand raising is glitching for people. So sorry if that's happening to you. Keep trying because we are able to sometimes see people

raise our hand. So I believe Caroline, you're up next. How can we help you? Hi, guys. Thank you so much for adding great value. I love hearing Heather, Jason and David and how to speak. I just have a very simple question. Who is your biggest influence? You're saying just like, who do we look up to?

Yes, so who would you consider a great mentor of yours? Maybe a share who has really shaped maybe share who has really shaped your professional career essentially. I would say probably my son, right, being a mother, especially now that we're working from home and he hears all of my calls and my meetings and sees what I'm doing. You know, for a long time, I wasn't pushing myself out of my familiar zone. And that was easier to do when I was away at work and not around him. But it really challenges me and pushes me more now that if I want to preach to him, you've got to go for more, you've got more potential within you. Don't leave it on the table. You've got to go all out and take risks. Then I need to be living that every single day. And that's the biggest motivator and influence

for me that I have. Awesome. I love that Heather that totally resonates with me because I'm a mom too. Thank you for that. Thank you, Caroline. OK, I'm going to post. I'll go ahead, Jason.

I love what Heather says. I mean, my kids motivate me. My wife motivates me. But I mean, I have in different aspects. You know, I have the president that works for me someone I brought on two years ago, got more wisdom than I do. He's built billion dollar companies

and power on solar's my baby. So I brought him on to really help build corporate structure and really build a foundation on the accounting team and to really mold me and mentor me and be there to keep me between the buoys because I can be a little reckless. And you know, I lean on people like David and people, you know, when it comes to, you know, gratitude and how he speaks and how he's so loving and he's so humbled from getting

to the top, going back to the bottom, getting back to the top and knowing his story and how he appreciates life. And I got to knowing his story and how he appreciates life. And I got to meet his family and how he loves his family. And I'll follow on the podcast side. I mean, I think it's important to have a lot of mentors and coaches. You know, Heather has coached me on, I need to get out and do speaking engagements. I need to work on my sizzle reel. I need to do a book.

And so I hope I have that influence on some people too. But I love to be coached. And then I love to coach where I can. I just think it's so crucial to surround yourself with people who are different and yet better than you in different aspects so you can learn from them and really be your best self. Oh, oh, oh, and my CEO coach down there, Brian Elias. I just noticed he was in here too, so he gave him some love.

He's my CEO coach that we used to do breakfast every other Wednesday on, but we haven't since COVID. But that's someone else who can really, you know, when I'm trying to run a company and I'm going through some struggles, he's built a great organization and sold it. He can really get me back to the basics and bring me back down to the ground and say, hey, look, you've got to do these things. It's like, oh, yeah, you're right. And I can vent things off in and be real with them, where sometimes I can't with people

in my organization. Yeah, I think Heather and Jason, you guys nailed it. It's, you know, which people have the most influence in our lives or those who are most relative to us. And whether it's our spouses or our children or our parents, obviously those types of people have extraordinary influence or our parents. Obviously those types of people have extraordinary influence in our life. And I think Jason, what you indicated was extremely valuable that, look, we should have multiple mentors, people who sit in the situation that we want to be in.

I always say the fastest way to get somewhere is to find someone that's already there and ask him for directions. And so for me, I have multiple, multiple mentors for specifically. My mom's my mentor on how to be a parent. Napoleon Hill is my mentor to blend the two currencies of money and faith together. I read the course in miracles, which is also every single day a mentor to me to understand forgiveness

and the certainty and peace that comes from forgiveness. So I probably have 1, thousand mentors now in my life, but I'm very specific by taking inventory of my values of what I want and then finding the who that's there or has it and then being brave enough and humble enough to ask them for help. In other words, to give me directions, you know, whether it's hollow with my podcast or Heather, of course, with the extraordinary. She gave me some great tips.

And just I have to say this because Heather shocked me when I met her the first time because she just said it like it was. And I love the fact that she cared so much about it. I'm going to embarrass myself and tell you one of the things that she said with me. She looked down and I was doing the interview, talk about doing videos, and she's like, your fingernails are disgusting, you need to cut those. And I absolutely loved her because literally, I've been going all day, and the reason I lost

on my money is I took yes from everyone as an answer, and nobody would tell me the truth. Meanwhile, my fingernails were long enough to climb a tree like a bear and nobody told me and here's someone that loved me enough when she first met me to tell me the truth and I've learned so much and I'm not joking. My videos with Heather kill it. I'm like dying for it to come back and do some more content with me for whatever reason. I was like dumbfounded once you said video doesn't work for her because I was thinking, hey, like get on clubhouse can I ask Heather to do another video with me for Super Bowl? Anyways, I think you should

have multiple mentors for a variety of reasons. Even to get your fingernails cut, you got to find the right people. Heather, you have to have a response to that. Oh my gosh. What's so funny? Well, it's so sad that that's back when I used to come visit you in California. And then super bowl. We were all together here in my army last year at that radio row and what an amazing. Oh my gosh, so many amazing events. And I totally forgot that story. But thank you for the shout out.

And I would do video with you anytime, my friend. Awesome, I'll call you to it. OK, I love it. I love it. I love it. It's so cool. Another thing about Influence that is related to this event is the importance of not

hoarding your network and expanding your network. So I really like Clubhouse for the fact that I can kind of connect all these people that I know that now a lot of you guys know each other and probably know each other before me, also many other because of me. And then now we're all here talking together and that's how you expand your network and improve your relationships. Well, I shocked you guys into silence, so that's great. So let's move on with the questions. You guys are listening to young and profiting podcasts.

If you do have a question, raise your hands so we can bring you up on stage. Dominic, you're up next. What's your question? Hi, my name's Dominic. I'm from Philadelphia. So I'm just now at a place. David, you said everyone is an influencer.

And I'm just now at a place at 34, recognizing, yes, I am an influencer. And I keep just now at a place at 34, recognizing, yes, I am an influencer. And I keep finding myself in places where I am a leader to run about people that I consider to be more smarter than me. My question will be, is there any tips that can use the enhanced the natural ability of being an influencer to make it a well developed skill of mine. Oh, yeah, I know. I love that because yes, you are an influencer. And what you want to do is put yourself in the situation where you're in these clubhouses, where you're being interviewed, where you're leading in your groups, organizations, in person on the phone via email, even traditional social media,

you can influence people by sharing who you are. You obviously have gotten to an age where you recognize that you are able to inspire people. And that's what an influence is. You're impacting and inspiring people. And also some influencers just motivate, which is getting people up, getting them back up, getting them started, getting them back started.

But I believe an influencer has far greater reach in the inspirational side of things to get them there. And I would look for and seek different opportunities with the group of people, the spectrum that most resonates with you, that you want to influence. So if it's kids, second graders, if it's older people, if it's a certain genre of interest, like music or art or whatever it may be, there's so many opportunities

in person on the phone via email and both traditional and social media to practice being an influencer by picking and choosing and seeking who and what you want to influence. Yeah, I think that's great advice. Thank you so much for your question. I appreciate it because basically your thing show up because I use a show up. But thank you. You got it. Brian, you're up next. How can we help you? I'm actually more listening. I'm a friend of Jason, Simpson on the sideline. I found Dominique's question interesting.

Dominique, I just want you to realize that whatever you choose that is your path, that you can make a difference in someone else's life, that's where you need a focus. Is how can you better their life? People happily want to guide it, and they want direction. And it sounds like you have it together. Okay, it's the idea of getting that message across where other people are going to want

to follow you. You've got a lot to offer and I think that really you can make a difference in the world. You have to isolate what you can do for them and make that very clear because you can't be everything for everybody. And I thought that david you're a very very very sharp guy listening to you and blown away uh... and i'm glad you're nails are all fixed so thank you

how they're you did a great job i have the honor to work with jason as well as other people i'm not you know i find my interest in helping high-net worth people, people that people don't listen to, or they don't listen to others, that's the kind of people that I like to be around. So I'm listening to a bunch of very successful people, so I'm blown away and I'm glad I'm part of this group, that's all I have to say. Brian, I'm interested to know, were you able to recruit the dolly llama to get Jason to start meditating because it might must have taken some serious force to get that to happen. I push Jason and Jason

needs to be pushed and he knows that and I push him to different ways of thinking but I have to tell you he's one of the brightest guys I know not school wise but he understands how to move the needle and how to move others and for that I have enormous respect for him and he knows that and it's being able to make a difference in people like that that I find joy in. I mean if there's nothing better Jason makes more money than I do that's great. I'm thrilled for him. Jason makes more money than I do. That's great. I'm thrilled for him. Jason makes more money than all of us do. Probably all of this clubhouse combined.

But I will tell you one thing. This man never forgets his roots. And if I could give people advice, there's a website to go to, and I want everybody who's on this call to go to 21suggestions.com. And take a look at there's 21 things you should read. And I read that at least three to four times a week to remind myself the type of person I want to be. I will never let money interfere with the type of person that I want to be. I will never let money interfere with the type of person that I want to be. You only live one, she can only spend so much money. After that, it's about being a better

person and what can you give back to others. So I want everybody to think about that. Take a look at that 21suggestions.com. Feel free to, I think I put my phone number and my email on there that it won't want to reach out but it's an honor listening to all of you. Thank you Brian for such kind words dude and like I said Brian's my CEO coach I get to bounce things off and when I'm struggling or need some some kick or push or pull so he helps me out appreciate it be. Thanks. Thanks for sharing some valuable nuggets to everyone. Everybody tuning in. You're listening to young and profiting podcasts for just about to wrap up this session on

influence and negotiation. We're answering some questions from the audience right now. So, friends, is how can we help you? Hi, I wanted to ask David if you could recommend a few podcasts that exemplify some of the principles that you've talked about. You know on the podcast side there's still I mean some of them are here like Jason and Heather Paula you know it varies I'm more a person that utilizes audio books so I'll study Napoleon Hill I listen to Dr. Wayne Dyer. I study the course of miracles. James Clear, atomic habits. You know, I love listening to my friends like Tom Billio at my lead,

Gary Vee. Those are great podcasts. In all their respects, I think there's also the sport of religion, which I really like with Deepak and his son Gotham, but I think I get more out of, than the podcast side, because of the interview aspect of it, and that's what I do all day long. I get more out of old school, Napoleon Hill, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Corson Miracles,

the strong philosophies that I have are historically based in understanding your values, and really is where I came up with the components of gratitude, which gives me a perspective, forgiveness with peace and certainty, accountability gives me control. And then the understanding of inspiration, meaning that I'm connected to this great source of light love and lessons that comes through me to others.

Now, all the podcasts that I listened to, in some way, in some variants, with their own frequency are intertwined with the same philosophy that generally says, be gracious, be forgiving, be accountable, and be inspired, be the best that you can be, desire to be the best that you can be. I always say, enjoy the consistent everyday persistent without quit pursuit of your own potential. And each of those podcasters, I think, indicate very nicely the potential they have in the message that they give to help others. So any of them are good, but I'm more personal to reading and audio books.

That's even beautiful. Thank you. I need to jump in here and hold you accountable as my friend. You did apologize to Francis because you couldn't hear her. You know our mantra, which is we should gratitude. We never apologize. Damn it. That's the second great way. No, I got to tell people that's the second best lesson that I learned and I did know who told me that Heather because I use it all the time. You say thank you for your patience. Don't apologize. And I've used that a hundred times. And I'm like, yes, some woman gave me that. I forget who it was. Now I know publicly, this is David Meltzer,

heaven and man of hands, a genius. Thank you. She is, she is the best. So I'm gonna wrap this up with one last question. We have Alexandra Carter, who just joined. She's the world's number one female negotiation expert. We have Heather here, the number one female confidence expert. And then we have Jason and David here

who are two very powerful, successful men. So I wanna ask you guys, does negotiation and influence vary between men and women? And maybe Alexandra probably has a lot to say, and maybe she can kick it off? Yeah, and maybe she can kick it off. Yeah, I think she should kick it off. Females first. Oh, man. Okay. Well, toss a softball to me. Oh, to get it started. So, hi, everyone. I'm so happy to be here. Please call me Alex.

I teach negotiation at Columbia Law School and that a variety of places around the world, all from my home office in New Jersey now, sitting in front of the computer. So I like to really engage with the question and to ask, what do we consider to be power and influence? You know, the thing that I like to remind people is that when you show up at the negotiation table and most of the times these days it's a virtual table, did you bring all of who you are to that table?

And so your gender certainly would be one piece of that. And there have been certain observed differences between men and women and the way they negotiate, but that's not the only identity that people bring to the table. They bring a variety of different identities, right? Cultural and religious and educational and the way your family viewed conflict or negotiation. And so the advice that I give people is to bring your fullest self to the table. There is research to show that when you're negotiating authentically, like when you're not putting on a persona, that you're going to be at your most effective. And then beyond that, I think there are things that both men and women can learn from each other. I will say that I have coaches and mentors

and the ones who are men sometimes encourage me to be bold, especially with my price and with monetary terms. And I think that some of my coaches who are women are experts at gaining trust. And so there's always something for us to learn. Learning is great negotiation. I think that's awesome. Now, just Jason or David have anything to say about. I'll go take a look at the machine. And Jason, can I just squeeze in because I can get a jump and I love everybody. But my only perspective is I have tried and learned to look at feminine energy and masculine energy.

I think I've damaged myself by looking at men separate from women. And when I started to look introspectively on, where's my feminine energy? And where's my masculine energy? It's really helped me in negotiation. It's also helped me to illuminate who I am. It's probably why I cry so easily.

And I have different aspects to my personality that I never thought I would in my 30s and now that I'm in my 50s, I'm very comfortable with it. And so I think it's important if people in negotiation, in influence, can identify that we all have these energies within us. And it actually, I think, brings us closer together and allows us to have better relationships with ourselves and with other people of different sexes and religions and understandings and socioeconomic bias, whatever it may be.

When we really understand our own energies, then we can, I think, align better in all circumstances. So I have to jump. I just wanna say thank you to Halla Heather, Jason, Alexandra, Jen, who's not here anymore. And every single person that joined me, please reach out to me anytime if you need anything, be kind to your future self and do good deeds.

I'll see you guys next week. Thanks David. Thanks David. Thank you. That's hard to follow, but I'm going to try. Alexandra and David's answers were pretty tough. I'm going to say based on hiring and firing thousands of sales reps and the three companies I've built, female male,

I always feel like females do a little better on a percentage basis. And I think a lot of it is a trust factor. They're not too pushy. I talked about it earlier in today's world. You don't need to be such an aggressive salesperson anymore. It's not that with all the information, edge of fingertips, with people reviewing and looking up information, they wanna be educated and they just wanna feel they can trust people. And I think that depending on the situation, I think that most women, when they come into a home

and in-home type sales, I think that they do a little better than men. So I mean, that's just my opinion based on the results. I think they do that just because of the trust factor, most men get too aggressive, get too desperate to try to get the deal, try to talk too fast, where most women are better listeners in my opinion. So they're able to listen and then negotiate the deal. Got it.

So what I'm hearing is that women are better than men, right? I'm just kidding. All right. Well, thank you guys so much for tuning in to this live episode of Young and Profiting Podcast. I want to thank everybody who joined me from the moderators today. We had David Meltzer. Jennifer Cohen was here earlier, Heather Monahan, Jason Waller, Alex Carter just joined last minute and we got to squeeze a question in with her. So that was great. Sorry about any of the app glitches. Hopefully this app, you know, will perform better over time because I think we all love it here, but experiencing these glitches are tough sometimes, but thank you all for tuning in to Young & Profiting Podcast. And I hope you found this session valuable and you can check out the recording next week on Young & Profiting.

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